This is an episode for writers, aspiring authors, readers, and anyone who likes a peek behind-the-scenes. We're going to talk about the publishing industry as it stands, how it's changed in the last few years, the rise of self-publishing, conquering self-doubt, money, and so much more. I'm sharing 4 lessons I learned after achieving my lifelong dream of becoming an author. My first book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. published in 2021, and my second book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs published in 2023. RELATED Episodes: Ep. 73 I wrote a book! (Agents, publishing, writing, and editing) Ep. 111 Behind-The-Scenes of Publishing, Launching, and Marketing a Book Ep. 166 How to Write a Book (in 10 steps) BONUS: 5 Things About Writing Your Own Story (with author, ghostwriter, and book coach Allison Fallon) Ep. 205: 10 Things All Podcast Fans Should Know FULL SHOW NOTES HERE JOIN SECRET STUFF FOR BONUS CONTENT MENTIONED in this episode: The Martian by Andy Weir Fifty Shades of Grey by E.L. James The Shadow Work Journal by Keila Shaheen How A Self-Published Book Broke All The Rules And Became A Best Seller (NYT)   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is the best thing you read this summer? My guest Carmel Phillips and I are sharing the books that made the greatest impression over the last few months, including backlist titles and the buzziest books of the season. (And yes, of course we mention the NYT Best Books of the 21st century list that dropped in July.) Carmel Phillips is a design and style blogger who regularly shares bold interiors, budget-friendly fashion, and a splash of book talk! I've wanted to have her on the show forever and this felt like the perfect time to chat. Follow Carmel on IG Follow Carmel on TikTok Follow her book club @4ReadingWomen FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Carmel’s picks: Bastard Out of Carolina by Dorothy Allison The Island of Sea Women by Lisa See The Women by Kristen Hannah Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow by Gabrielle Zevin Laura’s picks: The God of the Woods by Liz Moore All the Colors of the Dark by Chris Whitaker Unreasonable Hospitality by Will Guidara You Like It Darker by Stephen King Sandwich by Catherine Newman ALSO MENTIONED: Into the Drowning Deep by Mira Grant The Humans by Matt Haig The Midnight Library by Matt Haig James by Percival Everett Salvage the Bones by Jesmyn Ward Long Bright River by Liz Moore The Nightingale by Kristen Hannah The Four Winds by Kristen Hannah The Storied Life of A.J. Fikry by Gabrielle Zevin We All Want Impossible Things by Catherine Newman Ep. 224: Best Books of the Year (So Far) JOIN SECRET STUFF for regular book content and to hear the Stephen King Summer discussions SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a story about growing up feeling like an outsider and finding a book that made you feel less alone. And then growing up to create an adaptation of that book for the screen, in a dream project that took years to complete. This is a story about my friend Jill Killington and her work on the tv adaptation of Stephen King's THE STAND. You don't have to like horror or Hollywood to appreciate this conversation. Jill gives us a behind-the-scenes Hollywood perspective that was new and fascinating to me even after knowing her for 20+ years and sharing a longtime love of Stephen King. I think you are going to love the insight and insider stories she shares in this episode. NOTE: There are spoilers for THE STAND in this episode. Learn more about Jill Killington at JillKill.com Follow @JillKillsMe on IG JOIN STEPHEN KING SUMMER FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to another episode in my Friendship Stories series.  Over the last few months, we’ve heard a number of uplifting stories about unique and transformative friendships in this series. But today’s episode is about an aspect of friendship that is painful and rarely discussed: the friendship break up. My guest, JeriLynne, shares that when her marriage ended, there was collateral damage in the form of friendship loss as well. That friendship breakup left her without real closure and she continues to struggle to be vulnerable in friendships. While it’s certainly easier to talk about all the positive aspects of friendship, I think it’s also important to discuss these harder, more painful parts of these formative relationships. JeriLynne’s experience is significant and unfortunately a very real part of these friendship. I write about friendship breakups and friendship loss in The Life Council in a chapter called The Empty Chair.   BUY THE LIFE COUNCIL NOW   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I write about how the "old friend" doesn't necessarily mean than you've known one another for decades. All that is required to hold that Life Council seat is to have a friend who has known you from one version of yourself into another. That actual timeline might vary.  But Shauna Niequist is one of my oldest friends however you measure it. We met in the late 90's working at summer camp, where (as I wrote about in my first book Share Your Stuff), I learned from Shauna a different way to walk in the world than I had previously been exposed to.  For twenty-five years, Shauna has been a friend, role model, mentor, and, yes, even a fellow obsessive as we discuss in this episode.  Shauna Niequist is the New York Times bestselling author of Cold Tangerines, Bittersweet, Bread & Wine, Savor, Present Over Perfect, and I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet. She is married to Aaron, and they live in New York City with their two sons.  To listen to the full reading tangent Shauna and I take in this conversation, you'll have to join my Secret Stuff community.  LEARN MORE ABOUT SECRET STUFF You can learn more about Shauna here Follow Shauna on IG Follow Shauna on FB Subscribe to Shauna's Substack Reading & Eating   FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   MENTIONED: Episode 112: Who was there? (a conversation with Shauna Niequist) Pineapple Street by Jenny Jackson   SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine     Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to another episode in my Friendship Stories series. The childhood that my guest Kammy is going to describe in this conversation is unlike any I've ever heard. She grew up on a remote island just two square miles in size, without much contact with the rest of the world. Looking back, Kammy can see that the friendships from this time in her life shaped her relationships to come, and the bond she shares with other children from the island is unrivaled.  This is a fascinating conversation so different from the rest of our Friendship Stories.  * The Friendship Stories series came from the dozens of interviews I conducted while writing my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs. BUY THE LIFE COUNCIL NOW * SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In the framework of my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, the duo behind the Pantsuit Politics podcast could be considered Business Besties or Old Friends, but I see them primarily as BATTLE BUDDIES. Beth Silvers and Sarah Stewart Holland have spent nearly ten years publicly discussing the American political landscape on the podcast Pantsuit Politics, and, well, you can imagine why I see them as having walked through a battle together.  Somehow, though, these two women have navigated these conversations with integrity, grace, and - especially - nuance.  I've been a fan of Beth & Sarah for years now, and respect their work so much. It was honor to have them on the show to talk about their friendship and partnership.    FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   Listen to Pantsuit Politics Follow Pantsuit Politics on IG Follow Beth on IG Follow Sarah on IG Buy their book I Think You're Wrong (But I'm Listening) Buy their book Now What?   MENTIONED in this episode: The Pantsuit Politics Premium Episodes on Patreon   SPONSORS: LUME // Go to LumeDeodorant.com and use code YOU for 40% your starter pack ZocDoc // Go to Zocdoc.com/YOU to download the Zocdoc app for free   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Secret Tapes and all other ORDER BONUSES for my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs are back for a limited time! BUY THE LIFE COUNCIL NOW Purchase The Life Council in any format from any retailer and take your receipt number to TheLifeCouncilBookBonuses.com to fill out the form and get all of the order bonuses including the exclusive book club, the printable discussion guide with journal prompts, and the Secret Tapes private podcast series.  CLAIM YOUR BONUSES NOW The Secret Tapes are 10 episodes of conversations with some of the friends I write about in The Life Council. These are not just idle chats, these are insightful and meaningful conversations.  You do NOT want to miss out on these bonuses. You have until midnight Sunday, April 9 to go to TheLifeCouncilBookBonuses.com to fill out the form and claim your bonuses.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have 10 things to tell you about my new book The Life Council, which launches TODAY April 4, 2023 in every format: paperback, hard cover, ebook, and audiobook (read by me).  BUY THE LIFE COUNCIL This is my second book in two years, and the process and mindset behind writing and marketing The Life Council has been so different from launching my first book in 2021.  In this episode, I wanted to share with you ten thoughts about the book, the creative process, why I felt like a fraud writing it, and why I believe in its message so deeply.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: The Life Council PREORDER BONUSES (which expire at midnight on 4/4) Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. (my first book) Ep 167: Five Friendship Philosophies (an audiobook excerpt of The Life Council)   SPONSORS: Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month by going to BetterHelp.com/YOU   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs launches in ONE WEEK! BUY THE LIFE COUNCIL NOW This episode is an excerpt from the audiobook version of The Life Council, read by me. The sections I'm sharing here are called A Friendship Reckoning and Five Friendship Philosophies.  If you like what you hear, and want more on this topic, THE LIFE COUNCIL is available in hard cover, ebook, audiobook, and paperback on April 4! And if you PREORDER one of those versions before midnight eastern standard time on release day (April 4), then you're eligible for all of my preorder bonuses, including my private podcast series called The Secret Tapes, created especially for those who preorder The Life Council.  CLAIM YOUR PREORDER BONUSES HERE Just one short week until The Life Council is out in the world and I can't wait! The Five Friendship Philosophies: Friendship is a To Do Believe the Best Just Go Like Every Selfie Your Spouse Is Not Your Best Friend FULL SHOW NOTES HERE * SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to another episode in my FRIENDSHIP STORIES series!  Can men and women be "just friends"? Kerith & Lee are here to answer that OF COURSE they can. Their unique friendship story starts with a surgery that results in hours-long phone marathons and a friendship that stretches across time and gender roles.  In this conversation you’ll hear what Kerith’s husband thinks of their friendship, how it’s impacted Lee’s dating life, and how others have reacted to their unusual friendship. * Preorder THE LIFE COUNCIL: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs  * SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My second book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs comes out in just two weeks, and so I have writing on my mind.  PREORDER THE LIFE COUNCIL NOW Becoming an author has been my life's biggest dream since I was in elementary school, but I was in my 40's and had been writing professionally for over a decade before it finally happened. And, truthfully, my first two books are not what I ever pictured myself writing!  I created this episode because I really wish someone had broken down the process of writing a book for me years ago. And because I think a lot of people want to write a book, but have no idea where to start.  Although the 10 steps I walk through here follow my own process of writing nonfiction, a lot of what I'm sharing here could apply to any sort of creative endeavor. I'm talking about preparation, mindset, rituals, and radical honesty.  How To Write A Book (in 10 Steps): Be honest about the WHY (and if a book is the best format to tell your story) Decide what you’re really trying to say Outline, outline, outline Give yourself a deadline Find your rituals Measure something Write for yourself, rewrite for your audience Use an editor and don’t take the edits personally Let the book become what it’s supposed to be Call it done   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Ep 73: I wrote a book! Ep 111: Behind the scenes of publishing, marketing, and launching a book   SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My favorite thing in the world to talk about is BOOKS and two of my very favorite people to talk books with are Meredith Monday Schwartz and Kaytee Cobb of the Currently Reading podcast.  I've been such a fan of these two women and their podcast since it launched and it is always fun to chat with them about the best books we've read lately. PREORDER my new book THE LIFE COUNCIL GET THE PREORDER BONUSES HERE Meredith and Kaytee fall into both the Business Bestie and Fellow Obsessive seats in my framework for my new book The Life Council, and we talk more about their relationship and business origin story over on my Secret Stuff patreon. But for this episode, we wanted to go straight to the reading recommendations! FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Make sure to follow @meredith.reads, @notesonbookmarks, and @currentlyreadingpodcast   MENTIONED in this episode: Kaytee’s books: Black Cake by Charmaine Wilkerson Emily Wilde's Encyclopaedia of Faeries by Heather Fawcett The Light We Carry by Michelle Obama   Meredith’s books: The Rook by Daniel O’Malley The Drift by C.J. Tudor Daphne by Josh Malerman   Laura’s books: How To Sell A Haunted House by Grady Hendrix Leaving the Saints by Martha Beck   Also Mentioned: Kindle Oasis Casebot Kindle Case Hench by Natalie Zina Walschots The Windsor Knot by SJ Bennett The Southern Book Club’s Guide to Slaying Vampires by Grady Hendrix Into the Drowning Deep by Mira Grant The Chalk Man by C.J. Tudor The Way of Integrity by Martha Beck Birdbox by Josh Malerman   SPONSORS: Zocdoc // Go to Zocdoc.com/YOU to download their FREE app Prose // Go to Prose.com/YOU for your free in-depth hair consultation quiz and 15% off your first order    SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Since I write and talk about friendship so much, a frequent question comes up around supporting a friend when they are going through something difficult. I think the answer on this can vary, depending on the particular hardship, but my guest today is someone who knows what friends need when their difficult life circumstance is ongoing. Jessica Patay is the founder of We Are Brave Together, a nonprofit organization that provides respite, community, and resources for mothers caring for children of any age with disabilities, unique needs, or other medical or mental health challenges. She is is passionate about serving caregiving moms and creating authentic communities, and brings 10 tips to the conversation that will help us better support our friends who are caregiving mothers, daughters, partners, and more. Jessica has also created an anthology for caregiving moms sharing their stories titled Becoming Brave Together: Heroic, Extraordinary Caregiving Stories From Mothers Hidden in Plain Sight Learn more about Jessica Patay and follow her on Instagram Learn more about We Are Brave Together and follow them on Instagram Listen to the Brave Together podcast FULL SHOW NOTES HERE SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! JOIN US FOR STEPHEN KING SUMMER FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to another episode in my Friendship Stories series.  When I was young, I always dreamed of having a pen pal. It seemed like something straight out of a movie! Well wait until you hear Sarah's story...it really is like some magical fiction.  In the years before the internet connected us all, Sarah and her childhood pen pal exchanged hundreds of letters. But when they went to college, they naturally lost touch. A very serendipitous mutual aquaintance reconnected Sarah and her long lost letter writing friend and THEN....well, you just have to listen to find out.  I just loved this story of friendship evolving through pen and paper across the decades.  * The Friendship Stories series came from the dozens of interviews I conducted while writing my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs.  PREORDER The Life Council now!  If you preorder the book in any format from any retailer before April 4, you're also eligible for my preorder BONUSES.  CLAIM YOUR PREORDER BONUSES HERE. * SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Back In 2019, I infamously said on this podcast that the women in my business Mastermind were not my friends. Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi are back to refute that claim and also take their offical seats on my Life Council as my "Business Besties," as I write about them in my book. PREORDER THE LIFE COUNCIL NOW In this conversation we tell our Mastermind origin story, share the biggest mistake we've ever made as a group, talk through our occasional professional jealousies, and dissect what makes an actual Business Bestie.  This conversation is part of my private podcast series called The Secret Tapes, a free bonus available ONLY to people who preorder my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs. Preorder The Life Council in any format from any retailer and take your order confirmation to TheLifeCouncilBookBonuses.com and fill out the form to get your bonuses within 24 hours - including the FULL episodes of The Secret Tapes.  CLAIM YOUR PREORDER BONUSES HERE Follow @jamiebgolden  Follow @thelazygenius Follow @brimckoy   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 51: Masterminds: How To Create and Structure A Business Peer Group (with guests Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi) The Popcast with Knox & Jamie The Lazy Genius podcast Bri McKoy's recipes and more    SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs will come out on April and starting TODAY you can get all three of my PREORDER BONUSES with your proof of purchase.  CLICK HERE TO CLAIM YOUR PREORDER BONUSES Preorder The Life Council in any format (hard cover, paperback, ebook, or audio) and take your order/confirmation number to this page and fill out the form to get these bonuses: Discussion Guide & Journal Prompts  Entry into The Life Council Book Club with live zoom meets and an exclusive FB group dedicated to all things friendship for the next two months Access to my private podcast series called THE SECRET TAPES - 10+ episodes with friends I write about in The Life Council.  Trust me, you do not want to miss these FREE bonuses and they will go away once the book is released - they're for preorders only!  Purchase The Life Council by going to your favorite bookseller like amazon, bookshop, barnes & noble, or your local indie and make sure and save your order confirmation number.  THEN CLAIM YOUR PREORDER BONUSES HERE After we confirm your purchase, you'll get an email within 24 hours delivering all the bonuses to you! Thank you for cheering me on as I launch another book into the world. I truly think these bonuses will enhance your reading experience and can't wait for you to read The Life Council! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You're not crazy - Episode 163 has been removed from the feed.  This is a short explanation for why.  In the meantime, make sure you don't miss: BONUS: 5 Tips for Morning Routines (with Emily Ley) Ep 162: 10 Ways to Handle Overwhelm Ep 159: Reading Roundup   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You'll have to excuse my fangirling on this episode, but it's a full conversation about something I love to talk about (routines - especially morning routines) with someone I've long admired (Simplified founder Emily Ley) and I just couldn't contain my excitement.  In this conversation you'll hear Emily Ley talk about her 5 of her best tips for a successful morning routine and she's full of grace about the whole deal. As in: do what works for you! But also here are some fresh ways to think about it.  Learn more about Emily  Buy Emily's new book Sure As the Sunrise  Follow Emily on Instagram  Follow Emily on Facebook   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Loftie Alarm Clock It's One of Use by J.T. Ellison Essentialism by Greg McKeown Atomic Habits by James Clear Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all have seasons of overwhelm, whether it's a packed schedule, an insane To Do list, or events that require a lot of emotional processing. I've been navigating my own overwhelm in the last few months while juggling a larger-than-normal workload with travel and family obligations. So I sat down to make a list of the things that are helping me handle it.  Circumstances are often largely out of our control, but we can still find pockets of peace that keep us in the present and help us maintain a clear mind.  I made this episode for me, but I hope it helps you, too. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Burnout by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski   SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this busy season I’m so aware of how neglectful I can get about my own self care. When life feels crazy, the first thing to fall to the bottom of my priority list is ME. And I’m becoming increasingly aware of what I’m teaching my own children in this realm. So when Toye Penny reached out to share 4 ways to “Model Well-Being for Generations to Come” I knew I needed to hear what she had to say. Toye shares helpful, thoughtful and practical ways to love the next generation by loving ourselves well first.  Toye Penny is a Luxury Well-Being Strategist, Author of Love “Them”, Love You More, and creator of The Love You More Method℠. She specializes in helping High Performing CEO Moms put their oxygen mask on first so they can save everyone around them. Toye is a wife, mother to 3 daughters, and she seeks to intervene in women’s lives so children won't have to be the result of generational trauma passed down from their mothers. You can learn more about her work by going to ToyePenny.com. I loved chatting with Toye and hope you take as much from this conversation as I did.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of my core friendship philosophies is that my spouse is not my best friend.  When I talk about this, people raise their eyebrows. Some assume our marriage is in trouble or that we're ill matched. It has become so common in romantic relationship culture to claim that you're married to your best friend that anything else seems unhealthy.  But while my husband Jeff is the most important person in my life, he is NOT my best friend. He's my partner. My co parent. My lover. I have best friends, and those relationships are different. Early in our marriage, when I tried to make Jeff be my best friend, the pressure for him (and me) to be all things to one another was too much.  We both needed and wanted lots of different types of relationships in our lives. Our marriage was stronger when we were closely connected to our friends. I write more about this in my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, but I wanted you to hear Jeff and I talk about it with each other. We don't have the exact same take on this topic, and our perspectives shift with age and in various seasons, as almost everything does. My hope is that this conversation will give you something to think about that counters the current cultural ideal that our partners have to be our best friends. Maybe it will become a talking point with YOUR partner or with your best friends.   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   SPONSORS: Prose // Go to Prose.com/YOU to take your free in-depth hair consultation quiz and get 15% off your first order HelloFresh // Go to HelloFresh.com/YOU65 and use code YOU65 for 65% off your first box plus free shipping   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a conversation about infidelity.  Welcome to another installment of the FRIENDSHIP STORIES: a new series where guests share their experiences of the friendships that have shaped their lives.  In this episode, Melissa tells us about her best friend "Lauren." This story has several jaw dropping moments, but this isn’t a perspective only about scandal. There are also so many details here about those friends - or sometimes even acquaintances - who met Melissa in the moment, just when she needed it most.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Preorder The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   SPONSORS: Zocdoc // Zocdoc.com/YOU to download the Zocdoc app for free Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My favorite thing in the world to talk about is books and while I will always have occasional reading episodes here as part of 10 Things To Tell You, did you know that I do a reading roundup every single month as part of my Secret Stuff membership?  Every month on Secret Stuff I share what I've been reading lately (the good, the bad, and the unfinished), and I wanted you to have a sneak peek to what one of those episodes sounds like.    FULL SHOW NOTES FOR THIS EPISODE ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Kindle Paperwhite vs. Kindle Oasis   What Laura Read: Now Is Not the Time to Panic by Kevin Wilson The Anatomy of Anxiety: Understanding and Overcoming the Body’s Fear Response by Ellen Vora, M.D. We All Want Impossible Things by Catherine Newman Our Missing Hearts by Celeste Ng Spare by Prince Harry   Also mentioned: Nothing to See Here by Kevin Wilson  Perfect Little World by Kevin Wilson  Little Fires Everywhere by Celeste Ng  Geek Love by Katherine Dunn  The Only Good Indians by Stephen Graham Jones  The Great Believers by Rebecca Makkai  Friday Black by Nana Kwame Adjei-Brenyah The Passage by Justin Cronin   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's my birthday week! I'm turning 45. And every year around this time, I do a birthday episode looking back and looking ahead. This year's theme is about the quiet changes that happen when you're distracted, or busy, or not paying attention. Last year on my birthday I was convinced that something HUGE was going to happen in my 44th year. I thought I had an intuition about it. I journaled my heart out about what was coming for me. And then...when I approached the end of 2023 and then eventually the end of my 44th year, I was disappointed that what I thought was a premonition hadn't come true. Instead, what I found was that I fundamentally changed in the last year. Through a series of events, heart aches, conversations, and maturity, I find myself at a really different place than I was last June. And while it might not be the seismic event I was anticipating, it has been earth shifting all the same. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Join us for Stephen King Summer! Ep 201: 10 Things I Learned in 2023 Ep 180: 4 Metaphors for Turning 44 June Journal Parties on IG Secret Stuff patreon has personal episodes like this every month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This conversation is for anyone who will go through menopause, is currently going through menopause, or who has already gone through menopause.  Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz is my personal gynecologist and I trust her completely with the information she shares in this episode about the changes that women go through biologically, hormonally, physically, and emotionally. She's recently published Menopause Bootcamp: Optimize Your Health, Empower Your Self, and Flourish As You Age.  In this conversation we talk about her path to this work that combines holistic and modern medicine and her compassion and mission to help other women find the answers they need for this next stage of life.  Don't be scared by the "m" word. This conversation (and this information) is helpful, thoughtful, practical, and important.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   Learn more about Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz on her website Follow Dr. Gilberg-Lenz on facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Buy Menopause Bootcamp by Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz   SPONSORS: Apostrophe. Go to Apostrophe.com/YOU and use code YOU to get your initial visit for just $5. Betterhelp. Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is an important topic. Since the explosion in popularity of the true crime genre over the last decade, I've questioned the ethics of crime as entertainment. Many of us have become obsessed with grisley stories of murder.  But have you ever actually talked to someone whose loved one was murdered? Would it change your opinion on the true crime entertainment genre?  This episode is a conversation with author, award-winning blogger, and actress Amy B. Chesler. Amy's mother was murdered in 2007 and her book Working for Justice: One Family's Tale of Murder, Betrayal, and Healing is about the events before and after this tragic event.  Amy surprised me with her take on the popularity of the true crime genre and it definitely affected how I consume these stories.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Amy B. Chesler's website Working for Justice: One Family’s Tale of Murder, Betrayal, and Healing by Amy B. Chesler Evil Lives Here episode with Amy Chesler "Making a Murderer" Documentary on Netflix "The Real Bling Ring: Hollywood Heist" Documentary on Netflix "Keep Sweet: Pray and Obey" Documentary in Netflix I Know What You Did Last Summer by Lois Duncan Killing Mr. Griffin by Lois Duncan Who killed My Daughter by Lois Duncan Something Was Wrong podcast Unsilenced Voices podcast "A Murder in Mansfield" documentary on Amazon Prime Dirty Money podcast Dirty John podcast   SPONSORS: Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month Apostrophe.com/YOU and use code YOU to get your initial visit for just $5     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Introducing FRIENDSHIP STORIES: a new series where we explore different aspects of one of the most important relationships of our lives. We're going to talk about friendships that work and friendships that end. We're going to hear about soul mates, infidelity, friendship breakups, rogue bridesmaids, and more. Last year when I was researching for my book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I did dozens of interviews with women about their friendships. We talked about the best parts and the worst pain of adult friendship and these stories were fascinating. I am excited to share some of them with you over the next few months leading up to the release of The Life Council. PREORDER The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs We're kicking off the series with soul mates Christi and Cindy, friends who met at work over twenty years ago when they both had toddler daughters. Though they met when their circumstances were similar, things soon changed when Christi's husband joined the military after 9/11, and their family began a life adventure that took them away from their home in Louisiana indefinitely.  In our conversation, Christi and Cindy share why their friendship works and how their opposite personalities have shaped them into better people. We talk about their first big fight, the fact that they're jealous of each other's spouses, and how their friendship has survived the long distances. They also give excellent advice for making new friends.  I wanted to kick off the Friendship Stories series with a beautiful story, and Christi and Cindy are such an excellent example of what it takes to find and maintain a friendship soul mate.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   SPONSORS: This episode is sponsored by PROSE. Take your free in-depth hair consultation quiz and get 15% off your first order today!    SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm hosting a class this month called Journaling for Grownups!  SIGN UP HERE I'm going to teach you: WHY journaling can change your life MYTHS of what journaling is (and is not) FOUR ways to journal that can be effective in any season We're going to talk through: ETHICS of journaling when you're writing sensitive information about yourself and others SECRECY of having a journal with deeply personal thoughts that could potentially be read by others And together we're going to: Journal together with my guided prompts using the four journaling styles  Have a Journaling for Grownups community where you can post your questions and progress Journaling for Grownups starts SUNDAY, JANUARY 8 @ 4pm PT / 7pm ET with a 90 minutes zoom gathering The second zoom gathering will be SUNDAY, JANUARY 22 @ 4pm PT / 7pm ET for 90 minutes **Replays will be available if you can't attend LIVE** SIGN UP HERE  Journaling for Grownups is FREE for annual members of my Secret Stuff Community  Not part of Secret Stuff? No problem - you can buy Journaling for Grownups as a stand alone class for $30 www.JournalingForGrownups.com Hope to see you there!      Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy 2023!  As we kick off a new year, it's natural to think about what we want to do differently going forward. For me, I want to return to some habits that promote work/life balance and I'm activitely working to shift some of my mindsets by using affirmations.  Somewhere along the way I got out of the affirmation habit (I really stopped doing my whole morning routine in general) and while it was fine for awhile, I'm definitely noticing it now. The simple repetitions that you write in a journal or put on a sticky note on your mirror really do make a difference to your self-talk.  So I'm sharing the 3 affirmations and 3 habits that I'm working on in the early days of this new year, and I hope these help you as you think about the changes you want for 2023.    FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod Episode 79: 10+ Mantras and Affirmations for RIGHT NOW Episode 145: Time Anxiety Sign up for JOURNALING for GROWNUPS   SPONSORS: Journaling for Grownups by Laura Tremaine Zocdoc.com/YOU to download the Zocdoc app for free   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The week between Christmas and New Years is one of my favorite parts of the year. I love the reflection, the final Best Of lists, the hope and excitement for the year ahead.  In the past, I've called this final episode of the year "10 TAKEAWAYS from 20__" but as I was journaling through all that had happened in 2022, I realized that (for me) it was all about the lessons learned.  From Covid wreaking havoc to writing my second book to welcoming two new members to our household, 2022 became a season of learning how to change.  I hope that listening back to the lessons I took from the year inspires you to think about the biggest takeaways of YOUR 2022.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: jackass forever Max the Dog Trainer The Life Council (preorder!)    SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's the FIFTH annual Best Books of the Year episode with my real life book club friends Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith.  This is one of my very favorite conversations every single December and I do not apologize that it is super sized! Yasmin, Stephanie, and I share 3-4 of our favorite books of 2022 across all genres.  As usual, there are some suprises, some curveballs, and LOTS of opinions.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   Laura’s Picks: I’m Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy The Measure by Nikki Erlick The Only Good Indians by Stephen Graham Jones   Yasmin’s Picks: Small Things Like These by Claire Keegan Mercury Pictures Presents by Anthony Marra Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want To Be by Becky Kennedy Stolen Focus: Why You Can't Pay Attention-- And How to Think Deeply Again by Johann Hari   Steph’s Picks: Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow by Gabrielle Zevin People Love Dead Jews: Reports From a Haunted Present by Dara Horn Ghosts by Dolly Alderton Sirens & Muses by Antonia Angress   Also Mentioned: The Line that Held Us by Dave Joy Foster by Claire Keegan The Storyteller: Tales of Life and Music by Dave Grohl Selena Gomez: My Mind & Me documentary from Apple TV+ The Leftovers by Tom Perrotta Good Inside with Dr. Becky Podcast My Heart is a Chainsaw by Stephen Graham Jones The Nothing Man by Catherine Ryan Howard Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro We Are All Completely Besides Ourselves by Karen Joy Fowler Booth by Karen Joy Fowler Detransition, Baby by Torrey Peters Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology and Less from Each Other by Sherry Turkle Reclaiming Conversation: The Power of Talk in a Digital Age by Sherry Turkle   SPONSORS: PREODER The Life Council by Laura Tremaine NOW Join SECRET STUFF by Laura Tremaine   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm sharing my Favorite Things of 2022 including my favorite style choices, kitchen items, apps, and gadgets and more.  At the end of the episode, a few listeners share their favorites, too!  We share Favorite Things on this show because it's fun and as an act of gratitude. If you share your stuff on social media, make sure to tag @10ThingsToTellYou.    Sign up for the SECRET POSTS newsletter by 12/31/22 and get the annual Not A Gift Guide  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode:   Kindle Paperwhite Kindle Oasis Sunday Riley Power Couple Share Your Stuff, I’ll Go First Secret Stuff patreon community Not A Gift Guide CEO Glow by Sunday Riley V-Line Lifting HydroGel and Collagen Mask Clarins V-Facial Intensive Wrap Chrysler Pacifica Minivan  Life 360 app Stubbs Brand Citrus and Onion Marinade Blue’s Hogg Smokey Mountain BBQ sauce MZ Wallace bags Think Royln bags Accupuncture Canvas Lamp Jennifer Zeuner gold Margaux hoops LISTENER Favorite Things: New Babies! NPR Podcast “Up First” Waterproof Trash Can for car Currently Reading podcast Caroline Winkler YouTube Channel Calm App Google Translate App   SPONSORS: Sign up for the SECRET POSTS newsletter by 12/31/22 and get the annual Not A Gift Guide  PREORDER The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and shownotes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all have to start over sometimes. A project, a job, a relationship, a new year.  And for me, this podcast! 10 Things To Tell You is BACK and this week I'm sharing 10 (oops, actually 9!) prompts that will help you think through anything you're starting over. Take these prompts to your journal, to a business partner, to significant other, or anyone who is walking alongside you in your fresh start.  NOTE: Your ears are not deceiving you - one prompt is missing from this episode. I accidentally skipped prompt #7. The question was meant to be "What are your top two priorities?" so add that one in as you're journaling.     MENTIONED in this episode: Sorta Awesome podcast  Smartest Person in the Room podcast Atomic Habits by James Clear   SPONSORS: Secret Stuff by Laura Tremaine   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and shownotes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 Things To Tell You is returning to weekly Tuesday episodes starting December 6! At the beginning of 2022, I took a step back from weekly podcasting in order to focus on my family, my health, and more importantly to write my second book.  And I did that!  (Preorder The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs in all formats now.) I always knew I wanted to return to podcasting, but I wasn't sure if it would be 10 Things To Tell You or if I would be ready for a new project. After I turned in The Life Council this fall, I realized I still have LOTS of things to tell. And I just love what we've created together on the 10 Things To Tell You podcast. So I'm bringing it back! I've already recorded dozens of conversations for you for 2023, including a series on friendship that is fascinating. I can't wait for you to hear it. But I wanted to go ahead and relaunch in December because I love end-of-the-year episodes designed to make us think about how to end the year strong.  10 Things To Tell You will have a fresh look, new music, and renewed energy, but the concept will stay the same: sharing ourselves is the key to connection. Each episode will continue to give you a prompt that you can take to your journal or use as a conversation starter. Because sharing yourself will make you less lonely. Sometimes we just need a little nudge.  SUBSCRIBE to the show so you don't miss a thing! SIGN UP for episode emails so that the show notes, links, and advertiser discount codes come straight to your inbox. FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group   It's good to be back!       Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're halfway through 2024, which means it's time to take an inventory of the best books we've read in the last six months. My real life book club joins me for a mid-year look at the literary landscape for the second year in a row. Regular guests Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith are always a delight to have on the show. Apologies to your TBR after listening to this one. IT'S NOT TOO LATE TO JOIN US FOR STEPHEN KING SUMMER! Yasmin’s books: You Like it Darker by Stephen King James by Percival Everett Knife by Salman Rushdie Steph’s books: Long Island by Colm Toibin Neighbors and Other Stories by Diane Oliver Slow Horses by Mick Heron Laura’s books (on this episode): Listen for the Lie by Amy Tintera Sociopath by Patric Gagne Somehow by Anne Lamott Laura’s Best Books of the Year (So Far): The Bee Sting by Paul Murray The Book of Love by Kelly Link How to Walk Into a Room by Emily P. Freeman FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Mentioned in this episode: Stephen King Summer E. Shaver Bookstore in Savannah, GA on Instagram The Stacks Bookstore on Instagram Ep 209: Best Books Lately with Sara Hildreth Ep 218: Best Books Lately with R.Eric Thomas Ep 212: 10 Questions for Every Room You’re In with Emily P. Freeman Slow Horses on Apple+ Other Books Mentioned: Hello Beautiful by Ann Napolitano Dear Edward by Ann Napolitano Silver Sparrow by Tayari Jones An American Marriage by Tayari Jones Holly by Stephen King Cujo by Stephen King How to Sell a Haunted House by Grady Hendrix Brooklyn by Colm Toibin Anne of Green Gables by L.M. Montgomery Bright Young Women by Jessica Knoll Erasure by Percival Everett Wide Sargasso Sea by Jean Rhys  A Million Little Pieces by James Frey The Satanic Verses by Salman Rushdie Find Yasmin on IG @yasminheartsbooks SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This final episode of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast contains the the 10 most important things I have to tell you: READ SHARE NOTICE MOVE DECORATE ARMOR UP DOCUMENT PRACTICE LISTEN THANK Thank you for being on the ride with me - for listening and sharing and also showing up on Tuesdays, ready to reflect or learn something or simply to chat. It has been such an honor to make these episodes for you, and I will never forget our time here together. Laura Find me on IG: @laura.tremaine Find me on FB: @mslauratremaine www.lauratremaine.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

After the final episode of 10 Things To Tell You airs, you will still be able to find me talking about books and reading (my favorite topic) in these places: On my personal Instagram account: @laura.tremaine In my free email newsletter the Secret Posts In regular episodes of my SECRET STUFF Patreon This episode is an excerpt from the SECRET STUFF Patreon podcast where I share my top books of the year (10 fiction and 10 nonfiction).  If the book episodes will be the biggest thing you'll miss about the regular 10 Things To Tell You show coming to a close, consider joining the SECRET STUFF Patreon to get your monthly reading fix. We have a book club meeting and personal reading episodes every month.  I'll be sharing this "Best Of" list to the Secret Post email subscribers this week (it's free!) and also to social media. But this shared episode is the only place I talk through why each book made the list.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm sharing my 10 Most Important Takeaways of 2021, a year that was personally hard and full of change and life lessons.  On this solo episode, I talk about everything from my word of the year to moving houses to confusing health problems to spiritual insight. And at the end I'm telling you about a big decision I made regarding the future of the show.  Thanks for listening, friends. I am honored and grateful that you would spend so many hours with me in your ears every week for the last three years.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 Prompts for self-reflection or great conversation at the end of the year (any year). My third annual 10 Questions for the End of the Year episode is here and while some of it may be a little familiar, there's a lot of new thoughts in this one.  Take these 10 questions to your journal, the holiday table, or to start any great conversation with friends, family, co-workers, neighbors, or anyone at all.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsors: Olive & June. Go to OliveandJune.com and enter promo code YOU at checkout for 20% off your first mani system Honey. Go to JoinHoney.com/10Things to get Honey for free Skillshare. Go to SkillShare.com/YOU for one month free premium membership * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My real life book club is BACK with our annual conversation about the Best Books of the Year! Please welcome my friends Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith back to the show for our fourth annual Best Books of the Year episode. We talk about what our reading life looked like in 2021, and then we each share a few of the best books that we read in the last twelve months.  CLICK HERE FOR THE FULL LIST OF BOOKS FROM THIS EPISODE **Please note that my OFFICIAL and FINAL Best Books of the Year 2021 list won't be posted until the very end of December. I'll share that list online and on social media. SPONSORS Betterhelp. Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month. Rothys. Go to Rothys.com/YOU for $20 off your first purchase. Ana Luisa. Go to Shop.AnaLuisa.com/YOU for 20% off your order. * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm working on my next book, and while I can't give you too many details yet, I would love your help on one particular aspect:  I want your unique friendship stories! This next project is all about friendship, and I'm collecting unique friendship stories that could potentially be used in the book or part of a podcast series on the same topic.  Here's what I'm looking for: Stories about a surprise in a friendship  The heartbreak of a friendship breakup Something very unusual about a friendship (a wide age gap, for example, or a workplace friendship, etc) Something dramatic that happened within a friendship (someone saved a life, a cult infiltrated a friendship, a friend married another friend's ex, etc.) If you think you have a unique friendship story that fits this description (or anything along these lines), I would love to hear from you.  Please fill out the form HERE: https://www.10thingstotellyou.com/friendshipstories And of course feel free to share this call out with anyone who might be interested.  I can't wait to hear from you!   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I’m sharing four mistakes I don’t regret in my: Education Marriage Business & Body As we come to the end of another calendar year, I’m (as always) nostalgic and reflective. Here are some of the biggest choices in my life that were the “wrong” choices, but I don’t regret them. (Okay, one of them I do regret.) At the end of the episode, we hear listener voices chiming in with some of their biggest life lessons over the last few years. (Listener voices are always my favorite part of the episode.) SPONSORS: Acorn.TV. Go to Acorn.TV and use promo code you (all lowercase) Storyworth. Go to Storyworth.com/YOU for $10 off your first order Olive & June. Go to OliveandJune.com and use code YOU for 20% off your first mani system * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever had the thoughts: I don’t have enough time Time is passing me by I’m wasting too much time If this is something that really affects your mood, your schedule, and you're full of frazzle, overwhelm, or a continuing existential crisis, then you may have Time Anxiety. (Not an official thing - just a name I gave to something that affects me regularly.) In this episode, I’m sharing about my own Time Anxiety and how it hurts my productivity and my parenting. I’m also talking about how to notice ALL the messages we get in our culture about TIME, and why those messages are giving us constant low-level hums of anxiety. I’m also sharing a few concrete methods I use to combat Time Anxiety. I hope you find this episode helpful or at the very least like you’re not the only one obsessed with the passage and managing of time. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsors: Ritual vitamins. Go to Ritual.com/10Things for 10% off your first 3 months Noom. Go to Noom.com/10Things for your trial Ana Luisa jewelry. Go to Shop.AnaLuisa.com/YOU for 20% off your order * * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I hope that you hear exactly what you need to in this episode.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE My book: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. Join the Secret Stuff Patreon If your book club read Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First., sign up here to request a zoom drop-in appearance SPONSORS: Skillshare. Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for one month of free premium membership. Prose. Go to Prose.com/YOU for 15% off your order. Honey. Go to JoinHoney.com/10Things to download the browser extension  * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're in the home stretch of 2021 and plans for 2022 are starting to take shape. So I am so excited to welcome Sarah Hart-Unger to the show to talk about planning (rituals, philosophies, and more) and planning tools (paper planners, apps, and books).  Planning and productivity is a side hobby of mine, but Sarah Hart-Unger is much more of an expert. She's a doctor, a mom, a blogger, and has not one but TWO podcasts on these topics. You can find her blogging daily at TheShuBox.com and on her podcast Best Laid Plans (all about planning tools) and as a cohost with Laura Vanderkam on Best of Both Worlds (all about time management and work/life balance).  We had a great conversation about ALL of these things, which left me excited for the year ahead in both work and family life.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Read more about Sarah Hart-Unger Follow Sarah Hart-Unger on IG   SPONSORS Betterhelp. Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month. Olive & June. Go to OliveandJune.com and enter promo code YOU for 20% off your first mani system. Ana Luisa. Go to ShopAnaLuisa.com/YOU to get 20% off your order. * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jodi Wellman is focused on death. And she wants you to think about it more, too. Death is (clearly) not a popular topic, and something most of us avoid thinking about at all costs. But Jodi believes that knowing you have something to lose can help you live like you mean it. Her new book You Only Die Once: How To Make It To The End With No Regrets can walk you through making the most of your time on this earth. In this episode, author and speaker Jodi Wellman shares 5 ways to live like you're dying: Count your Mondays (quantifying your time can be remarkably clarifying) Diagnose the dead zones (areas in life that feel dead inside) Identify your deathbed pre-grets (regrets-in-the-making that can still be course-corrected) Live wider (with vitality) and deeper (with meaning): identify a list of enlivening endeavors  Pick one small thing to take action on at a time Learn more about Jodi Wellman Buy You Only Die Once: How To Make It To the End With No Regrets Follow Jodi Wellman on IG FULL SHOW NOTES HERE JOIN STEPHEN KING SUMMER HERE SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Well this episode is a bit of a departure.  One of the strangest things about our life in Hollywood (and there are many, many strange things) is our enormous fish tank. Every time I share a little bit about our fish tank on social media, I get flooded with questions that I mostly can't answer.  So I finally recorded a conversation with someone who could! Nic Tiemens is the co-founder of Infinity Aquariums and not only does he take care of the Tremaine Tank for us every week, he has installed and maintained tanks for some of the biggest celebrities and most beautiful homes in the world.  In this episode, Nic shares how he stumbled into this line of work, why you shouldn't ever get a fish tank on a whim, and the insane new project he's been working on for two years in Bel Air.  My husband Jeff also joins us for part of the conversation, because he's the real reason we have a 1,500 gallon fish tank in our dining room.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Learn more about Nic and Infinity Aquariums Follow @infinityaquariums on IG SPONSORS Rothys. Go to Rothys.com/YOU for $20 off your first purchase Green Chef. Go to GreenChef.com/YOU125 for $125 off your first order.  Storyworth. Go to Storyworth.com/YOU for $10 off your first purchase. * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My annual social media challenge #OneDayHH will take place on Tuesday, November 9th 2021.  This short, informative episode will explain a little more about what #OneDayHH is, how it works, and why it's so meaningful.  #OneDayHH stands for One Day Hour by Hour, and that's what we do: document ONE DAY in our life, hour by hour. Sharing the things that don't usually get shared, like routines and spaces and outfits and all that other minutia.  We do it because it's fun, and that's reason enough. But this minisode might give you a little more inspiration to jump in.  Follow me on IG @laura.tremaine to see MY day.  For more information go to: 10ThingsToTellYou.com/OneDayHH Can't wait for you to join in with this day-in-the-life challenge this year!    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for anyone who misses being a student.  I have a running list of classic novels that I want to re-read as an adult or read for the first time because I missed them in high school English class.  And so once a year or so, I force myself to pick up those novels that end up on All Time Best lists like this one. Or this one. Or even this one.  If you have the same literary burden, this episode is meant to help you choose a classic that won't be a total bore.  I'm joined by my friend and Patreon producer Colleen Powell, a former teacher and current audio editor outside of Chicago.  Colleen helps me with the Secret Stuff Book Club, and this winter we're reading a few classic novels starting this November with Little Women by Louisa May Alcott.  Join the Secret Stuff Book Club HERE.  In our conversations, Colleen and I are sharing both the best contemporary books we've read lately AND the best classic novels we'd recommend to anyone.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE  Best Books We've Read Lately: The Guncle by Stephen Rowley A Swim in a Pond in the Rain by George Saunders The House in the Cerulean Sea by TJ Klune Oh William! by Elizabeth Strout   6 Classics You Should Read:   Frankenstein by Mary Shelley Catcher in the Rye by J.D.Salinger The Thorn Birds by Colleen McCullough Native Son by Richard Wright Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte Little Women by Louisa May Alcott SPONSORS: Noom. Go to Noom.com/10Things to sign up for your trial AcornTV. Go to Acorn.tv and use promo code you (all lowercase) to try it free for 30 days. Ritual. Go to Ritual.com/10things for 10% off your first 3 months Other books mentioned: Mrs. Dalloway by Virgina Woolf Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy Confederacy of Dunces by John Kennedy Toole In Cold Blood by Truman Capote Franny and Zooey by J.D. Salinger Nine Stories by J.D. Salinger My Name is Lucy Barton by Elizabeth Strout Olive Kitteridge by Elizabeth Strout Olive, Again by Elizabeth Strout This spoiler-free (well, except for Jane Eyre) reading conversation has a ton of information and opinions. Enjoy! * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices