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In this episode, I’m reflecting on the stories I used to tell myself as a mother and as a Projector. The stories about not having enough time, enough energy, or enough of myself left over to create. And I’m sharing what’s shifted as I’ve slowly realized that the thing I thought was taking energy from my life is actually the thing giving it back to me.

This episode is a reminder that you are not inherently limited. You are not meant to disappear inside motherhood, partnership, or responsibility. That maybe the thing you’ve been afraid to ask for; the time, the space, the creativity, the bigger life, isn’t taking away from the people you love. Maybe it’s the very thing that allows you to show up for them more fully than ever before.

Highlights:

• Why I used to use my Human Design as permission to stay small and why I don’t anymore
• The surprising difference between being busy and being energized
• How creativity and self-expression became a non-negotiable part of my well-being
• The stories mothers tell themselves about time, sacrifice, and putting everyone else first
• Why asking for more isn’t selfish, it’s often the thing that allows the whole family to thrive

You’re Invited is produced by Six-Two Studio.

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A few months ago, I recorded an episode called What Happens When You Can No Longer Lie to Yourself? At the time, I almost didn’t share it. It felt too raw, too vulnerable, too honest. But something inside me knew it needed to be heard. In this episode, I’m reflecting on what’s happened since I finally listened to that inner voice, started creating again, and gave myself permission to take my own needs seriously. What I’ve discovered is that the thing I thought was missing from my life wasn’t a new setup, a different circumstance, or a bigger change; it was me.

This episode is for the woman who feels disconnected from herself, even though everything on paper looks good. The one who keeps wondering why she isn’t happier, why she feels restless, or why the life she worked so hard to build doesn’t feel quite as fulfilling as she thought it would. It’s a reminder that sometimes the thing we’re searching for isn’t outside of us at all. Sometimes the missing piece is simply giving ourselves permission to become more of who we already are.

Highlights:

• What shifted when I finally stopped ignoring the part of me that needed to create
• Why speaking, writing, and sharing became the most important form of self-care in my life
• The surprising connection between self-expression, anxiety, and feeling fulfilled
• How Human Design helped me identify what I specifically need to stay connected to myself
• Why taking care of yourself isn’t selfish—it’s one of the healthiest things you can do for your family

You’re Invited is produced by Six-Two Studio.

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Not feeling as productive and energetic as the rest of the world? I feel you. Here's a little boost to support you in understanding how you are designed to show up in a way entirely different than those around you. 

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I meant to record a solo episode reflecting onNovember but instead I told the entire story of my business since 2018! Enjoy :)

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In this episode I use my relationship with my Generator partner as an example to explore the burning question, "should Projectors wait for invitations?"

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This episode is a little bit different than usual! I'm sharing about my confusing relationship with food and the past life experiences I've tripped through as a young athlete.

I share how my Cold Thirst determination was dangerous to experiment with at first, and how I eventually trial and error'd my way to a healthy relationship with food and my body.

If you're struggling to understand how to approach eating according to your determination, this episode may help!

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Walking around as an adult Projector can be an intimidating topic. How do you meet people? How do you put yourself out there? It's time to share my dating history and all the messy mistakes I've made to look for patterns.

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Did you know there are 3 Sub-Types and 5 Projector Breeds under the umbrella of the Projector Aura? 

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A vulnerable share about some relationship patterns I've noticed in my personal life.

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Let's be honest, being able to see like a Projector sees can feel like a double-edged sword. 

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Sit down with me as I break down the energetics around the longevity of invitations.

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In this episode, I offer my take on creating and attracting invitations.

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One of the most valuable things Human Design has given me as a parent is understanding how I’m designed to interact with my children, not just in theory, but in the reality of everyday family life. In this episode, I’m sharing why one-on-one time has become such an important part of my parenting practice as a Projector, and how stepping out of the group dynamic allows me to truly see my children in a way that feels nourishing, regulating, and deeply aligned for all of us.

This episode is for the Projector parent who feels touched out, overwhelmed, or like they disappear in the chaos of family life. It’s a reminder that your ability to see deeply is one of your greatest gifts, and that sometimes the most powerful thing you can do for your child is slow down long enough to truly notice them. Because when we create space to see our children clearly, we also create space to trust ourselves, our intuition, and the wisdom we bring to our families.

Highlights:

• Why one-on-one time feels so different for me as a Projector parent
• The hidden cost of constantly splitting my attention between multiple children
• How spending focused time with my kids helps me see what they really need
• Why Projectors are uniquely gifted at recognizing patterns and guiding family dynamics
• Learning to trust my observations, share what I see, and take up space as a parent

You’re Invited is produced by Six-Two Studio.

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Welcome to You’re Invited! A Human Design-inspired podcast for projectors and those who love them. Hosted by your fellow self-projected friend, Alex Cantone, here to guide you through the ins and outs of navigating projector energetics in real life.

In this episode I discuss my personal approach to understanding conditioning on an energetic level, how it affects us projectors the most, and the keys to maintaining a healthy aura and alignment wherever we are.

No matter where you are on your Human Design journey, there is so much value in revisiting the basics to realign! Let's dive into the magic of waiting.

This episode covers:

• What it means to be a “correct” projector out in the world
• How to manage your energy without changing everything about your life
• A new approach to conditioning and how to process and integrate the energy you’re taking on
• My #1 trick to maintaining a healthy aura
• Why you need to take extra special care of your aura as a projector
• Understanding your wisdom centers and how to become aware of what you’re taking on through your environment  

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Welcome to You’re Invited! A Human Design-inspired podcast for projectors and those who love them. Hosted by your fellow self-projected friend, Alex Cantone, here to guide you through the ins and outs of navigating projector energetics in real life.

In this episode I discuss my lifestyle choices before discovering Human Design and how it led me to experiencing major burnout. Further I discuss the challenges of living in a sacral world as a non-sacral being and how we, especially as projectors, can easily burnout doing what we love.

No matter where you are on your Human Design journey, there is so much value in revisiting the basics to realign! Let's dive into the magic of waiting.

This episode covers:

• My personal journey with sacral burnout and adrenal fatigue
• Abusing drugs to fit in with the left-brained world
• The process of leaving my career as a teacher and transitioning into the current role I play in my business
• The importance of reframing your approach to Human Design to finally create the life you desire
• Why energy management is the key to your energetic success as a projector
• The reality of experiencing and managing burnout even in your dream job
• My go-to exercise for deconditioning my sacral center

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To go deeper, check out the Sacral Deconditioning Crash Course

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Questions about the projector invitation? Submit your curiosities to youreinvited@alexcantone.com and we might feature your question on the next episode!

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Welcome to You’re Invited! A Human Design-inspired podcast for projectors and those who love them. Hosted by your fellow self-projected friend, Alex Cantone, here to guide you through the ins and outs of navigating projector energetics in real life.

In this episode I discuss the importance of reframing the concept of recognition for ultimate projector success. Too often we projectors get caught up in receiving recognition for what we’re doing rather than who we are. In this episode I ask you to look at where you’re pushing in life that is holding you back from relaxing into all that you are meant to be seen and recognized for.

No matter where you are on your Human Design journey, there is so much value in revisiting the basics to realign! Let's dive into the magic of waiting.

This episode covers:

• A major reframe on projector recognition
• The reasons why you’re not feeling seen
• The importance of being recognized for who you are, not what you do
•  Questions to ask yourself when you’re feeling unappreciated
•  How to start receiving the recognition you’re designed for
•  Your profile lines and how they play a key role in your strategy as a projector
•  Getting to the core of your desires for ultimate projector success

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Questions about the projector invitation? Submit your curiosities to youreinvited@alexcantone.com and we might feature your question on the next episode!

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Welcome to You’re Invited! A Human Design-inspired podcast for projectors and those who love them. Hosted by your fellow self-projected friend, Alex Cantone, here to guide you through the ins and outs of navigating projector energetics in real life.

In this episode I discuss why more recognition is not always better, and the importance of surrounding yourself with people see you for who who are rather than for what you do.  In this episode you'll learn that it's all about quality over quantity when it comes to the Projector recognition.  

No matter where you are on your Human Design journey, there is so much value in revisiting the basics to realign! Let's dive into the truth behind recognition.

This episode covers:

• Why more is not better when it comes to Projector recognition
• Redefining the Projector signature: Success!
• The importance of surrounding yourself with people who see you for who you are, not what you do
• The evolution of my relationship with Instagram and my creative process

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Explore Projector resources in The Shop

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Welcome to You’re Invited! A Human Design-inspired podcast for projectors and those who love them. Hosted by your fellow self-projected friend, Alex Cantone, here to guide you through the ins and outs of navigating projector energetics in real life.

In this episode I discuss the thing that trips us projectors up the most, what is waiting, why do we wait, and what do we do while we're waiting to be invited? I dive into the importance of developing confidence in your unique lens, and how understanding and recognizing yourself allow you to "window shop" your way around the world as you happen upon new invitations and learn to discern what is an aligned energetic investment for you.

No matter where you are on your Human Design journey, there is so much value in revisiting the basics to realign! Let's dive into the magic of waiting.

This episode covers:

• An exercise to break down the word "waiting" and the charge it holds in your body
• What to do while you're "in between" invitations
• How to make waiting into empowering practice 
• The trick to becoming a master "window shopper" of invitations
• Developing confidence in who you are and what you uniquely offer
• Who to hang out with while you're waiting for the world to catch on to your magic

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Questions about the projector invitation? Submit your curiosities to youreinvited@alexcantone.com and we might feature your question on the next episode!

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Welcome to You’re Invited! A Human Design-inspired podcast for projectors and those who love them. Hosted by your fellow self-projected friend, Alex Cantone, here to guide you through the ins and outs of navigating projector energetics in real life.

In this episode I debunk the projector invitation by sharing when you do and don't need an invitation and further, offer reframes for how to redefine the word itself.  My intention is to leave you empowered by this wisdom so that you can feel confident in being your truest self in daily life.

No matter where you are on your Human Design journey, there is so much value in revisiting the basics to realign!

This episode covers:

• When you DO and DON'T need an invitation
• The dangers of putting parameters around an energetic experience 
• Assessing if you're using Human Design to limit you
• Revisiting the importance of being in the correct environment
• Shifting and up-leveling as a projector
• How to get clarity on what the invitation feels like for you
• Redefining the word 'invitation'

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Questions about the projector invitation? Submit your curiosities to youreinvited@alexcantone.com and we might feature your question on the next episode!

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Welcome to You’re Invited! A Human Design-inspired podcast for projectors and those who love them. Hosted by your fellow self-projected friend, Alex Cantone, here to guide you through the ins and outs of navigating projector energetics in real life. In this episode I offer my unique insight into what it means to be a projector and how the ‘wait for the invitation’ strategy can be wildly misunderstood. My intention is to always leave you empowered by this wisdom so that you can feel confident in being your truest self in daily life. No matter where you are on your Human Design journey, there is so much value in revisiting the basics to realign.

This episode covers:

• The nature of being a projector
• The #1 thing projectors miss while out in the world
• My personal definition of an invitation
• The truth behind ‘waiting for the invitation’
• How to co-create invitations with others
• Two things I want to get tattooed on my body
• Your greatest projector gift
• My best tips for protecting your energy
• The reframe you need to feel empowered in your design

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Explore Projector resources in The Shop

Questions about the projector invitation? Submit your curiosities to youreinvited@alexcantone.com and we might feature your question on the next episode!

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Lately, I’ve been noticing that everywhere I go parents are trying so hard to do it differently. I was sitting at the gym watching mothers crouch down to meet their children in the middle of huge emotions, watching them pause instead of punish, regulate instead of react, and it hit me how deeply this generation of parents is reparenting themselves in real time through the way we care for our children.

In this episode, I’m talking about emotional regulation, reparenting, and the moment I realized that tending to my child’s emotions was also teaching me how to finally tend to my own. I’m talking to the parent who feels overwhelmed by their child’s emotions, who worries they’re getting it wrong, or who is realizing that parenting is bringing their own unresolved wounds to the surface. It’s a reminder that our children don’t need perfection from us. They need presence. And sometimes the most healing thing we can do, for them and for ourselves, is to pause, soften, and choose to respond differently than what was modelled to us.

Highlights:

• Why so many of us freeze when our children have big emotions
• The difference between reacting to our children vs. regulating with them
• How parenting is revealing the emotional support we may not have received ourselves
• A real-life moment with my son that reminded me it’s never actually “about the trash”
• Why Human Design can be such a powerful tool for both parenting and reparenting yourself

You’re Invited is produced by Six-Two Studio.

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I didn’t grow up with examples of healthy conflict. I learned to avoid it, to keep the peace, to let things go even when they didn’t feel good. And now, in my 30s, I’m learning something completely new; how to have hard conversations, how to tell the truth, and how to risk the relationship in order to actually have one that’s real.

In this episode, I’m sharing what’s been unfolding for me as I move through friendship shifts, breakups, and deeper levels of honesty in my relationships, especially in this season of motherhood where my capacity has changed and I can’t keep pretending anymore.

This episode is for anyone who struggles to speak up, who fears that honesty might cost them the relationship, or who is quietly holding onto things that don’t feel right.

Highlights:

• Why avoiding hard conversations can take a bigger toll than having them
• What it actually means to “risk the relationship” and tell the truth
• The grief and reality of friendship breakups (and why we don’t talk about them enough)
• Why expecting others to read our needs sets everyone up for failure
• Recognizing when a relationship can evolve… and when it’s time to let it go

You’re Invited is produced by Six-Two Studio.

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I’ve been struggling with self-care since becoming a mom, and not just finding the time for it, but actually knowing what to do with the time when I have it.

In this episode, I’m sharing what’s been coming up for me as I navigate this new season where I technically have space for myself — two full days a week — and still find myself feeling lost, overwhelmed, and honestly; busy doing nothing.

This is a real-time reflection on what it looks like to relearn myself, to stop defaulting to what self-care should look like, and to finally ask a much more honest question: what actually nourishes me?

This episode is for the mom who finally gets a moment to herself; and freezes. The one who feels like she should know how to take care of herself, but doesn’t anymore. And it’s a reminder that maybe nothing has gone wrong — you’re just being asked to meet yourself in a completely new way.

Highlights:

• The unexpected struggle of having time for yourself and not knowing how to use it
• The pattern of being “busy doing nothing” and what’s actually underneath it
• Why typical self-care (gym, yoga, errands) wasn’t truly filling me up
• The difference between self-care and real, system-specific nourishment
• How using my voice became the most energizing and regulating practice for me

You’re Invited is produced by Six-Two Studio.

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I’m recording this sitting on the floor of a half-finished room. My house is a mess, laundry everywhere, dishes in the sink, toys scattered across every surface, and everything in me is telling me I should go clean it up before I let myself do this.

But I didn’t. I pressed record anyway.

This episode is really about that moment, the one where you choose to tend to yourself even when everything else feels like it’s asking for you first.

In this episode, I talk about what it’s actually like to move through motherhood as a Projector in a life that constantly requires you to respond.

I share the tension between wanting to slow down and feeling like I’m always being pulled into doing, fixing, managing, and tending. I unpack a concept that used to trigger me deeply: “Projectors aren’t designed to be parents.”

Now that I am a Projector Parent, how do I feel about that concept?

If you’re a Projector mom who feels stretched thin, overstimulated by the mess, and quietly guilty for not having endless energy to give, this episode is for you. When we stop forcing and start listening, our kids will show us exactly where we’re meant to meet them.

Highlights:

• Why motherhood can feel especially draining for Projector energy
• How I’m learning to do less with my kids (and why that actually works better)
• Creating independence in the home to reduce constant demands
• What it looks like to wait for my children to invite me into their world
• How my kids are showing me, in real time, the kind of mother they need me to be
• Letting go of the idea that everything needs to be “in order” before I can show up

You’re Invited is produced by Six-Two Studio.

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In my first episode back after a three-year hiatus giving birth and raising my babies, I open up about what it actually feels like to come out of the postpartum fog. After two back-to-back pregnancies, suddenly I don’t fully recognize my life, or myself, anymore.

There’s a moment in life no one really prepares you for. The moment where everything you ever wanted is finally here. The love, the partner, the babies, the home, the life you spent years dreaming about, and yet, somewhere inside of it, you feel like you’ve disappeared.

This is a conversation about identity. About nervous system truth. About the difference between a life that looks good and one that actually feels good.

If you’re a mother who feels stretched between who you used to be and who you are now, if you’ve built a life that “should” make you happy but something feels off, if you’re craving a way back to yourself, your voice, your energy — this episode is for you.

Highlights:

• The disorienting “waking up” after survival mode
• Losing yourself in love, motherhood, and the life you thought you wanted
• The pressure to be grateful when something doesn’t feel right
• The quiet resentment that builds when you ignore your body’s cues
• And the truth so many women are afraid to say out loud: just because you’re good at something… doesn’t mean it’s meant for you

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This one's for you if you've found yourself in a space where you're seeking recognition beyond follower counts and likes. Or if you've stumbled upon Human Design and come to the realization that maybe the people you surround yourself with don't actually see you in the way you desire them to. Wherever you're at on your journey, allow these words to support you in finding the recognition you're designed for.

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Let's face it - as Projectors, we LOOOOOVE to feel helpful. But how do we have boundaries when it comes to offering what we *know* to those around us? As a guide I believe I am here to direct people back to their own inner awareness. And not just anyone, but those who invite me to do so. Here's my take on the difference between being a guide and offering unsolicited advice.

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