Is it possible to absolutely love being a mum... and still feel like something is missing?
For so many women, motherhood brings immense joy—but it can also bring an unexpected sense of loss. The loss of confidence, identity, ambition or simply remembering who you were before everyone needed a piece of you. In this deeply honest conversation, I sit down with author, speaker and coach Benita Bensch to talk about the parts of motherhood we don't often say out loud.
Benita shares her journey through raising four boys on the land, experiencing two significant periods of burnout she describes as "the black hole," and the long road back to reconnecting with herself. Together, we explore why so many mothers feel invisible, how our inner stories can keep us stuck, and why asking for what you need isn't selfish—it's essential. If you've ever wondered, "Who am I outside of being Mum?" this episode is for you.
In this episode we discuss:
- Why it's possible to love motherhood and still crave more for yourself
- Feeling invisible after becoming a mum
- The identity shift that comes with motherhood
- Benita's experience of burnout, anxiety and finding herself again
- Why reconnecting with your creativity matters
- Letting go of guilt around wanting something for yourself
- The power of boundaries, self-awareness and asking for help
- Practical ways to reconnect with yourself when life feels overwhelming
If this conversation resonated with you, I'd love for you to share it with another mum who needs to hear that she's not alone.
Do you feel like you have to choose between being a good mum and having a meaningful career?
Carina speaks with clinical psychologist and executive coach Dr. Anne Welsh, a mum of four who specialises in maternal mental health and works with women in leadership and working mothers navigating exactly this tension.
We talk about why the "escalation of modern motherhood" means today's mums are being asked to do more, emotionally, logistically, and professionally, than any generation before them, and why that's not a personal failing, it's a systemic shift.