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| Unraveling the Layers of Childhood Trauma with Ron Jenkins - Ep 176 | 23 Dec 2024 | 00:43:38 | |
"I didn't realize how strong I was until, you know, I got into therapy and started to understand all the things that I've overcome." - Ron Jenkins Read the transcript of this episode here: https://app.swellai.com/t/tp_01JFJJKB7XP00HAV5P6H6ETQGJ EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the privilege of speaking with Ron Jenkins, a remarkable individual whose journey through the complexities of foster care and adoption is both harrowing and inspiring. Ron's story begins with the tragic loss of his mother as a young child, leading him and his siblings into the foster care system. He was eventually adopted by a woman who, rather than providing a safe haven, exploited the system for drug money, resulting in a chaotic and violent environment. Ron candidly shares the trauma he experienced, including the loss of several brothers to violence and the pervasive fear that defined his childhood. Despite these challenges, he made a conscious decision to steer clear of gangs and drugs, ultimately finding a mentor who changed the trajectory of his life. This mentor not only provided guidance but also became a father figure, helping Ron navigate his way to a football scholarship at Fresno State University. Throughout our conversation, Ron emphasizes the importance of self-advocacy, therapy, and the need to break the cycle of trauma. He encourages listeners, especially men, to seek help and recognize that they deserve the same opportunities as anyone else. Ron's journey of healing and his commitment to helping at-risk youth through mentorship and advocacy work is truly inspiring. We also touched on the impact of sexual abuse in Ron's life and how it shaped his relationships. He highlights the importance of addressing these issues through therapy, which has been instrumental in his healing process. As we wrapped up, Ron shared exciting news about a movie being made about his life, and he invited anyone interested in supporting this project to reach out. This episode is a powerful reminder of resilience, the importance of community, and the potential for transformation, even in the face of overwhelming adversity. I hope Ron's story resonates with you and inspires you to seek help, advocate for yourself, and support others in their journeys. =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: amazon.com/Adoption-Suicidality-Healthcare-Professionals-Unraveling/dp/B0DCBCTSLL 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Ron’s information:
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Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS: 00:00:00 - Introduction 00:01:43 - Ron’s Adoption Story 00:02:21 - Foster Care Challenges 00:03:57 - Violence and Trauma 00:06:36 - Avoiding Gangs 00:10:07 - Loss of a Brother 00:12:39 - Self-Advocacy 00:14:23 - Mentorship 00:16:30 - Impact of Sports 00:20:08 - Helping Youth 00:22:43 - Trust and Self-Advocacy 00:25:04 - Value of Therapy 00:28:05 - Sexual Abuse Experiences 00:33:16 - Relationship Patterns 00:36:10 - Breaking the Cycle 00:38:49 - Healing and Strength 00:39:39 - Book Recommendation 00:40:52 - Movie Project 00:42:17 - Closing Remarks | |||
| Abortion and Adoption: Insights from Sociological Research with Gretchen Sisson - Ep 175 | 16 Dec 2024 | 00:33:37 | |
"I use the language of supply and demand because this is a market-based system and it's uncomfortable for a lot of people, right? Because you're talking about a supply and demand of human beings." -- Gretchen Sisson Read the transcript here: https://app.swellai.com/t/tp_01JESZ6VPKJMRTMRHX6ZMBHDB7
EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the pleasure of speaking with Gretchen Sisson, the author of the acclaimed book Relinquished: The Politics of Adoption and the Privilege of American Motherhood. Gretchen's work stems from a decade-long qualitative sociological study that delves into the experiences of relinquishing mothers and critiques the American adoption system. We discussed her journey into this research, which began while she was working with pregnant and parenting young people in Boston. Gretchen highlighted the stigmatization of young motherhood and the disconnect between societal narratives and the lived experiences of these women. Her research emphasizes the complexities of adoption, particularly how it intersects with issues of reproductive health and justice. Gretchen shared insights from her book, revealing that the majority of women who are denied access to abortion end up parenting their children, with only a small percentage choosing adoption. This led to a discussion about the implications of the recent Dobbs decision and its potential impact on adoption rates, as well as the troubling commodification of children within the adoption system. Throughout our conversation, we explored the reactions to her book from both the adoption community and the broader public. While many adoptees have resonated with her work, some adoptive parents have expressed defensiveness. We emphasized the importance of listening to adoptees and understanding the systemic issues surrounding adoption. Gretchen also touched on the need for better support systems for both adoptive parents and adoptees, advocating for a more nuanced understanding of family structures and the complexities of parenting. We concluded with a call to action for listeners to engage with the voices of adoptees and to consider the broader implications of adoption in our society. I encourage everyone to check out Gretchen's book, available in various formats, and to connect with her on social media. Thank you for joining us in this important conversation about adoption and its many layers. =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: amazon.com/Adoption-Suicidality-Healthcare-Professionals-Unraveling/dp/B0DCBCTSLL 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Gretchen’s information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS: 00:00:00 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption | |||
| The Realities of Open Adoption with a Mother-Daughter Duo with Linda and Belle Sexton - Ep 166 | 07 Oct 2024 | 00:30:56 | |
"I think my mom does a great job addressing this in the book, but open adoption is not without its challenges." - Belle Sexton Episode Summary:In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the honor of speaking with Linda R. Sexton, an adoptive mom and author, and her 25-year-old daughter, Belle. This marks our first mother-daughter duo on the podcast, offering a unique perspective on open adoption. Linda R. Sexton is an author, speaker and blogger. She is an adoptive mom of two children, both in open arrangements, and is the author of the award-winning book, The Branches We Cherish: An Open Adoption Memoir. The story is told with frank honesty about the grief and joys of open adoption. Linda includes the voices of all four birth parents, birth grandmothers and her adopted children. She has seen first hand how an adopted child can benefit greatly by knowing and connecting with birth parents and other members of their biological family. Visit her website lindarsexton.com to learn more. In our episode, Belle shared her adoption story, highlighting her early life in Texas and the open adoption plan created by her young birth parents. She emphasized the importance of knowing her birth family, which helped her navigate her identity as an adoptee. Linda reflected on the emotional journey of waiting for Belle's birth and the profound moment when Belle's birth mother handed her over in a hospital ceremony. We discussed the complexities of open adoption, including Belle's feelings of adoptee's guilt and the importance of maintaining connections with birth families. Both emphasized that while open adoption can be challenging, it is a better option when compared to closed adoptions. For those of you who enjoyed this podcast and wish to know more, The Branches We Cherish: An Open Adoption Memoir is available on Amazon or can be purchased from your favorite bookseller. There are several families involved in the story and most of the names have been changed to protect privacy. (Since you now know Belle, she is Sofie in the book.) This episode beautifully illustrates the complexities and joys of adoption, and I hope it resonates with those on similar journeys. =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: amazon.com/Adoption-Suicidality-Healthcare-Professionals-Unraveling/dp/B0DCBCTSLL 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Linda & Belle’s information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== TIME STAMPS 00:00:00 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption 00:01:26 - Belle's Adoption Story 00:03:15 - Terminology in Adoption 00:04:16 - Linda's Perspective on the Adoption Process 00:06:06 - The Ceremony of Relinquishment 00:08:09 - Memories and Keepsakes 00:10:12 - Challenges in Open Adoption 00:12:25 - Understanding Birth Parents' Choices 00:15:46 - Adoptee's Guilt 00:19:03 - Navigating Relationships with Birth Parents 00:20:52 - The Impact of Writing the Memoir 00:26:02 - Final Thoughts on Open Adoption 00:28:49 - Connecting with the Audience
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| What's the Big Deal About Birth Certificates? with Ann Weaver-Melendy - Ep 77 | 23 Jan 2023 | 00:37:22 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Ann Weaver Melendy from Oregon, a baby scoop era adoptee who was taught by her adoptive family to not speak about her adoption and to not ask questions. Well that backfired big time, because not only is she now sharing her story on this public podcast and elsewhere, but she is also an adoptee rights advocate. Ann is particularly bothered that adoptees’ vital records often don’t include the true data about their birthdate, birth parents, and more. She has fought for her own birth certificate to list the correct information - and she won! Her ingenious approach to adoptees’ rights will inspire other adoptees to fight for their own corrected documents. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Ann’s information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:30 Ann’s childhood and basic adoption story 2:46 When’s her birthday? A complicated question! 5:55 Why her birth certificate lists the wrong birth date 9:07 Meeting her birth father 14:14 Synchronicities of genetics 15:25 Original Birth Certificate (OBC) and other types of birth certificates 19:24 Birth certificate as receipt 22:56 How the LGBTQ+ community benefited Ann and other adoptees in Oregon with the tri-party adoption bill 29:13 How Ann’s new bill differs from the tri-party adoption law 31:14 Why is it so important for adoptees to have the correct information on their birth certificate? 33:00 Is Ann available to help other adoptees navigate vital records? | |||
| A Complicated Adoption Reunion Story with Alex Baquero - Ep 76 | 16 Jan 2023 | 00:44:06 | |
In this week’s Unraveling Adoption podcast (formerly Safe Home Podcast), Beth talks with Alex Baquero, a 31yo from Philadelphia who was adopted at 6 months old from Colombia. His adoptive parents are white, and he started reuniting with his birth family 12 years ago. He shares his adoption story and his complicated reunion story, plus he lets us know what tools have helped him along the way. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption's email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Alex’s information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:33 Alex’s adoption story as a child 5:15 Both extremes are invalidating to adoptees 6:46 Growing up Colombian in a white family and white suburbia 8:02 Alex’s initial search for his birth family 10:30 How adoptive parents often get in the way of adoptees’ healing and reunion 16:10 Reuniting with his Scandinavian sisters 19:24 How Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) has helped Alex 21:30 How Alex got connected with his birth mother in Colombia 24:22 The complexities of traveling in Colombia 25:35 How Covid added to the complexity of reunion with his mother 28:25 Meeting Alex’s father’s side of the family, unexpectedly 31:10 How Alex managed his emotions and thinking during his time in Colombia 33:35 Aftermath back at home 37:55 Telling his adoptive parents about his reunion 39:03 Going forward…what are Alex’s future plans? | |||
| A Birth Mother's Perspective with Leslie Pate Mackinnon - Ep 75 | 09 Jan 2023 | 00:48:09 | |
We are just switching our name from Safe Home Podcast to Unraveling Adoption, and this is the first full episode under our new name. In this week’s episode, Beth Syverson chats with Leslie Pate Mackinnon, a licensed clinical social worker and an adoption activist for the past 30 years. Leslie is a seasoned and well-respected therapist in the adoption community. She is a nationally known trainer who travels across the country training therapists, agencies and child welfare workers about the psychological issues inherent in adoption and third-party reproduction. Following four decades of successful practice in Atlanta, Leslie and her husband relocated to Asheville, NC. Leslie comes to this work by way of being a birthmother in the 1960s, the Baby Scoop Era. She understands adoption trauma deeply, both as a lived experience and as a therapist for all members in the adoption constellation - adoptees, birthparents, and adoptive parents. On Safe Home Podcast, we’ve had 8 episodes so far with adoptees, and 1 episode with another adoptive parent, but this is our first episode from the birth mom’s perspective, which is a super-critical piece of this puzzle. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Leslie’s information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption =============== TIME STAMPS: 2:00 All voices in adoption matter, and adoptees’ voices come first 3:16 Positive adoption language and listening to adult adoptees 6:35 Birth parents’ stories are often suppressed 8:16 Leslie’s birth parent experience #1 16:08 Adoptees and birth parents both get stuck in culture’s judgements about adoption 17:03 Coping with trauma with substances, the intersection between adoption and addiction 25:30 Adoptive parents talking openly with their children about their adoption 28:35 Leslie’s birth parent experience #2 33:25 Birth parents’ difficulties, then and now 39:00 The importance of family preservation, and Follow the Money 44:10 How Leslie & Beth are dealing with their past regrets | |||
| Transitioning from Safe Home Podcast to Unraveling Adoption - Ep 74 | 02 Jan 2023 | 00:21:25 | |
In this very special episode, Beth Syverson, host of Safe Home Podcast, explains her pivot to Unraveling Adoption. This is the last episode of Safe Home, and the first episode of Unraveling Adoption. She explains what the new title means, what the future plans are, and she provides ways for everyone to help get the new podcast launched. =============== 💌 Sign up for our email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Beth’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome Unraveling Adoption is created by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Amanda Mullins Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:22 Thanks to all those who’ve helped make Safe Home Podcast happen, and some stats 9:17 Why are we making the pivot to Unraveling Adoption? 10:50 What does Unraveling Adoption mean? 13:05 What are our plans for the future? 16:26 Ways you can help --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Partnership Parenting with Lainie Liberti & Her Son Miro Siegel - Ep 73 | 26 Dec 2022 | 00:45:44 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Lainie Liberti and her 23yo son Miro Siegel. Lainie Liberti is a best selling author, international speaker, teen mentor, worldschooler, partnership parenting paradigm advocate and mother. In 2012 Lainie co-founded Project World School with her son and has lived in community with over a 100 teens in over 20 international locations. Lainie founded Transformative Mentoring for Teens in 2020 in response to the growing need to support teen's mental health. Lainie just released her first book, Seen, Heard & Understood, Parenting and Partnering with Teens for Greater Mental Health, the number 1 best seller on Amazon in the Parenting New Releases. Her book is right in line with what we’ve been advocating here at Safe Home - that parents do their own work and partner with their kids instead of being an authoritarian figure over them. Beth talks with Lainie and Miro about unschooling and worldschooling because they lead a fascinating alternative life. But over the top of everything is the partnership that they’ve nurtured which allows them to both live as their fully authentic selves. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Lainie’s & Miro’s information:
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| Neurodiverse Family Adventures with Carolyn Balagot - Ep 72 | 19 Dec 2022 | 00:40:34 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Carolyn Balagot, an advocate for neurodiverse people. In her family, she, her husband, and her 3 kids are all neurodiverse in one way or another - primarily with ADHD or Autism Spectrum Disorder. She has worked at her children’s school as a 504 case carrier, advocating for students’ needs. Her kids all went to school at Orange County School of the Arts, where I used to teach and which I highly respect and admire. Especially in an arts school, all kinds of diversity are celebrated, including neurodiversity. Carolyn will talk to us about her family’s challenges and triumphs, and help us know how to better advocate for our neurodivergent loved ones or community members. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Carolyn’s information:
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=============== Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:52 Carolyn’s family’s background and diagnoses 8:20 High-functioning and low-functioning are outdated. What vocabulary is correct nowadays? 9:50 Autistic people? Or people with autism? 12:35 504 v IEP accommodations 13:55 Is anxiety a neurodivergence? Is a student with anxiety eligible for accommodations? 15:48 Cum. files and labeling in school 18:33 What is ableism? What are some examples of ableist policies in school and work? 21:20 Did Carolyn’s child’s diagnosis make things better or worse? 22:30 Carolyn and her husband are waiting to get their own diagnosis of autism confirmed 25:40 How job interviews are challenging for autistic people and how to make them better 27:30 The powerful concept of universal design 28:43 Carolyn’s advice for parents who think their child might be neurodiverse 30:10 Why to steer clear of ABA - listen to adult autistic people 35:15 Why Autism Speaks is problematic 37:40 Carolyn’s advocacy for the LGBTQ community too --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Destigmatizing Mental Illness with Amanda Lipp - Ep 71 | 12 Dec 2022 | 00:39:48 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Amanda Lipp, a documentary filmmaker and social entrepreneur working at the intersection of mental health, storytelling, and technology. Amanda has produced over 80 short documentaries about mental health and social impact - covering topics such as youth psychosis, schizophrenia, art therapy, cyberbullying prevention, and housing relief from wildfires. A passionate mental health advocate, she has given over 150 speeches around the U.S. since age 18 sharing her journey navigating the mental health system. Amanda is passionate about mental health leadership, policy change, and tying films to mental health research studies. She serves on the Mental Health Advisory Panel at Google, and the Interdepartmental Serious Mental Illness Committee (ISMICC) created by Congress to advise on federal mental health policy. Amanda formerly served on the board of the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI), the largest grassroots mental health nonprofit in the U.S. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX SafeHomeFamilies.com =============== RESOURCES: Amanda’s information:
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=============== TIME STAMPS: 2:09 Amanda’s lived experience with mental illness 6:05 Sports injuries and Amanda’s depression 9:50 Using drugs like an emotional credit card 11:05 Amanda’s support system and challenges of parenting a “problem child” 12:55 Amanda’s major mental breakdown as a college freshman - The Truman Show Delusion 15:08 Psychiatrist ICU and outpatient services from induced psychosis 17:50 Amanda’s daily regimen to maintain her mental health 22:40 Behind the scenes in mental health organizations 24:00 Amanda’s reprise of The Truman Show Delusion and how her parents handled it 26:37 The danger of cops responding to mental health crises, and the hope of the new 988 lifeline 28:50 The importance of compassion and curiosity in responding to psychiatric emergencies 31:50 Advice for how to be supportive to your loved one struggling with mental illness 33:46 How Amanda’s sexual identity intersected with her mental health 35:50 Seek out access points for professional help before a crisis occurs 36:43 Befriending all parts of ourselves with grace, and lean on community
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| An Unforgettable Adoption Reunion Story with Doris Blumenthal - Ep 70 | 05 Dec 2022 | 01:00:14 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Doris Blumenthal, an adopted person who lives in Northern California. Her adoption story is one of the adoptee narratives in the documentary Reckoning with the Primal Wound, which you’ve probably heard me talking about before. The filmmaker Rebecca Autumn Sansom was on this podcast in Episode 30. If you haven’t seen Reckoning with the Primal Wound yet, I highly recommend it, and I also want to let you know that this episode contains spoilers. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Resources mentioned in this episode:
=============== Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 2:00 Doris’ adoption story, crossing paths with birth mother in the early days 6:40 The overwhelming need to know one’s biological roots 9:16 Doris’ adoptive parents’ attitude about adoption 11:54 The mysterious photograph and the broken relationship with Doris’ bio brother 13:35 Complex emotions with Doris’ paternal sisters 14:36 Starting the pre-internet search process 18:50 First attempt at finding birth mother 20:15 How DNA searches help 21:11 A common problem for adopted people: lack of health history 21:56 Minnesota sisters and other maternal relatives 22:54 How Arizona’s open records laws enabled Doris to find her birth mother 25:05 Finding Doris’ birth mother’s home - and SPOILER ALERT if you haven’t seen the Reckoning film yet 28:00 Doris’ brother’s attitude toward Doris, privacy v. right to know 31:35 Another amazing coincidence 33:40 More details about the reunion day 38:45 Did she find the mysterious photograph or any other mementos? 40:35 How Doris handles her complicated grief 43:45 Most adopted people have a deep desire to meet their natural parents 45:05 Doris’ dream of ideal records for adopted people 47:33 Backlash from sharing her story in the Reckoning with the Primal Wound documentary 51:34 Doris’ advice for adopted people who are contemplating reunion, and book recommendation 53:30 Doris’ book recommendation - The Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier 56:37 Doris’ advice for adoptive parents regarding reunion --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Connective Parenting with Bonnie Harris - Ep 69 | 28 Nov 2022 | 00:46:15 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Bonnie Harris, a New Hampshire-area director of Connective Parenting, where she is a parent educator, counselor, coach, and speaker. She wrote two parenting books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons and Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With. AND she has her own podcast Tell Me About Your Kids where anyone can listen in on her parent coaching sessions. Bonnie has a master’s degree in Early Childhood Education And is the proud mother of two adult children raised with her connective approach. In today’s episode, Bonnie will help us answer the question: HOW CAN WE BE MORE CONNECTED WITH the KIDS in our lives? =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Bonnie’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:26 How Bonnie parented her own (now grown) children 6:08 How Bonnie developed her connective parenting model by learning about herself 9:25 The Dandelion Child and the Orchid Child 13:00 Bonnie’s own terms: The Harmony Child and The Integrity Child 13:50 Characteristics of The Harmony Child - compliant but harbors shame 16:40 How Connective Parenting focuses on the parents, not the child 22:56 Connecting with your child’s emotional state instead of their behavior 28:17 Connective parenting as an investment for your child’s self-confidence 31:04 Characteristics of The Integrity Child - demanding but knows what they want 36:07 How to turn the parenting ship around 40:26 How did Bonnie’s orchid daughter turn out? 44:10 “My child is having a problem, not being a problem.” --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Coping with OCD's Intrusive Thoughts with Katherine Osborne - Ep 68 | 21 Nov 2022 | 00:32:02 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with a family friend of hers from church - Katherine Osborne. Katherine shared with the church that she was recently diagnosed with OCD - Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. I thought it might be good for our audience to learn from an eloquent teen how OCD feels. Nowadays people joke that they have OCD when they’re bothered when something doesn’t quite line up, or if one tile is a different color. You see memes about OCD all the time. But that’s a very simplistic view of OCD that doesn’t honor the lived experience of people who struggle with this disorder every day of their lives. In this episode, Katherine explains her own lived experience of OCD, and she mentions things she’s learned so far. But of course neither of us are OCD experts or healthcare professionals. We recommend getting professional help if you or someone you know might be struggling with OCD or any mental health issues. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== Resources about OCD that Katherine recommends:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS 1:12 Katherine’s hobbies & college activities 2:25 When did Katherine’s OCD symptoms start? (Thank you, COVID. ☹️) 3:46 How Katherine experiences OCD in cycles - obsessions and compulsions 6:30 What are intrusive thoughts? 8:54 How does Katherine manage her OCD? 10:22 How Katherine was diagnosed with OCD. Did her diagnosis make things better or worse? 14:00 How OCD has affected Katherine’s social life 15:45 How do Katherine’s family and friends support her when she’s having a bad OCD day? 18:11 Is OCD more common for adults and teens? Is it growing? 19:40 Katherine’s advice to parents of teens? 24:13 Can someone pull an OCD sufferer out of an OCD cycle? 27:20 First steps if you’re curious if you might have OCD --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| The Intersection of Politics and Adoption with Mark H. - Ep 165 | 30 Sep 2024 | 00:36:29 | |
"The way that fascism triumphs is if everyone goes silent and becomes quiescent." - Mark H. EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I, Beth Syverson, welcome Mark, a transracial adoptee from Korea and a passionate advocate for adoption-related issues. Together, we delve into the often-overlooked intersection of politics and adoption, particularly in the context of the upcoming U.S. presidential election. As an adoptive mom of a 20-year-old son, Joey, who is navigating his own path, I feel a deep responsibility to address the complexities surrounding adoption and how they relate to broader societal issues. This election is particularly significant, as it touches on critical topics such as racial justice, women's reproductive rights, LGBTQ+ rights, and the preservation of our democratic systems. With Joey preparing to vote for the first time, I am acutely aware of the stakes involved and the long-term impact our choices will have on future generations. Mark shares his unique perspective as a transracial adoptee and a gay man, highlighting the challenges he faced growing up in a predominantly white environment. He reflects on the societal norms of his youth, where discussing politics was often taboo, and emphasizes the importance of speaking out in today's climate. Mark articulates the existential nature of this election, particularly for marginalized communities, and the need for individuals to engage in political discourse. Throughout our conversation, we explore the implications of having a woman of color, Kamala Harris, as a presidential candidate. While Mark expresses excitement about her candidacy, he also addresses the racism and misogyny she faces, which resonates deeply with his own experiences of being “other”ed. We discuss how the political landscape has shifted, particularly within the Republican Party, and the urgent need for individuals to recognize and confront systemic racism. Mark and I emphasize the importance of activism, not just in the traditional sense of protests and demonstrations, but in everyday conversations with friends, family, and neighbors. We encourage listeners to engage with those around them, especially in swing states, to ensure that their voices are heard and that they participate in the electoral process. As we wrap up the episode, I invite listeners to reflect on their own roles in advocating for change and to consider how their political choices impact the lives of those in the adoption community and beyond. We urge everyone to vote, to educate themselves, and to have open discussions about the critical issues at stake in this election. This episode serves as a call to action for all of us to be brave, to stand up for what we believe in, and to work towards a more equitable society for everyone, especially those affected by adoption. Thank you for joining us in this important conversation. =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: amazon.com/Adoption-Suicidality-Healthcare-Professionals-Unraveling/dp/B0DCBCTSLL 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: If you’d like to connect with Mark H., send him an email through me at Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com. He’s staying anonymous in this episode in order to not jeopardize his job. Respond to this episode on Unraveling Adoption’s page on Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, or LinkedIn. Other resource mentioned in this episode:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS 00:01:00 - The Importance of Voting 00:02:30 - Introducing Mark 00:03:00 - Mark's Background and Perspective 00:06:00 - The Fog of Whiteness 00:08:30 - Representation in Politics 00:10:30 - Racism and Misogyny in Politics 00:12:30 - Understanding Systemic Racism 00:14:30 - The Role of White Allies 00:16:00 - The Stakes of the Election 00:18:00 - Mobilizing for Change 00:20:00 - The Importance of Conversations 00:22:00 - Adoption and Political Interests 00:24:00 - Activism in Everyday Life 00:26:00 - The Power of Individual Votes 00:28:00 - Conclusion and Call to Action | |||
| Grandparents Raising Grandkids with Catherine Becker - Ep 67 | 14 Nov 2022 | 00:52:09 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Catherine Becker, founder of the support group called Joys and Challenges of Relative Caregivers. She’s a grandma who is raising her three young grandkids while her daughter struggles with addiction. When she tried to find a tribe of other relatives in her same situation, she didn’t find a group that went deep enough or that was small enough to create personal connections. So she made her own group. Her organization is raising money to provide financial assistance to grandparents and other relatives who are caring for or who have adopted their family members’ children. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Catherine’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS 1:26 Catherine’s daughter Katie’s journey with addiction and incarceration 6:07 How Catherine plans to keep her young children away from drugs 8:50 How Catherine gained custody of her children 13:03 The boundaries Catherine has drawn with her daughter while incarcerated 16:45 How Catherine manages her emotions and gets support 19:11 How Catherine avoids feeling resentful toward her daughter 22:13 What kind of support do relative caregivers need? 24:26 Struggles Catherine has with her other adult children 26:40 Katie’s relationship with her kids 29:25 Family preservation, open adoption, and relinquishment trauma 33:23 How common is relative caregiving? 36:44 How can allies help relative caregivers? 41:08 Catherine’s advice for parents with teens 43:33 Katie’s mental health challenges 46:03 Catherine’s advice for relative caregivers --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Chronic Suicidality with Frank King - Ep 66 | 07 Nov 2022 | 00:40:37 | |
**TRIGGER WARNING** This episode will be talking directly about suicide, so this might not be for everyone to listen to right now. But we at Safe Home believe this is a very important topic so we hope you’ll listen when it’s safe for you to do so. In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Frank King, a comedian who wrote for The Tonight Show for over 20 years and who performs standup worldwide. Along the way, he focused his creative attention on the topic of mental health, and specifically suicidality. Now known as the Mental Health Comedian, he talks openly about his own suicidality and, using humor as a tool to open up the conversation, he informs people about suicide prevention, destigmatizes mental illness, and helps people feel seen and heard. He has a few wonderful TED Talks: including A Matter of Laugh or Death, Mental with Benefits, and Born To Be Funny. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Frank’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:30 Frank explains creating a career from comedy about suicide 7:48 Vulnerability is Frank’s superpower 9:58 Dentists, veterinarians, and construction workers have the highest incidence of suicide deaths 11:17 Frank’s mental illnesses - Major Depressive Disorder and Chronic Suicidality 15:35 Mental with Benefits - what if mental illness is a desirable disadvantage? 17:30 Frank’s self-care plan - 5 daily requirements to maintain his mental health 20:40 Suicide prevention tips 22:20 Does talking about suicide make it more likely someone would attempt suicide? 23:48 We’re not saying “commit suicide” anymore - what do we call it now? 25:08 The new 988 suicide prevention lifeline 28:02 **TRIGGER WARNING** Frank’s intergenerational depression and suicide stories 32:09 Sugar addiction as a long-term death sentence 33:15 Ambivalence about suicide means most people can be saved from suicide; what are the warning signs? 36:33 Lock up your medications, parents!! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| A Recovery Journey with Veronica Silva | 31 Oct 2022 | 00:33:59 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Rev. Veronica Silva, a New Thought minister and a nurse who has struggled with alcoholism since she was young, but who has been in recovery for 26 years. Veronica has been on a spiritual journey since June 24th, 1996, when she got sober from alcohol and drugs. She has had a passion for spirituality as a result of attending AA meetings and finding a God of her understanding. She is SO passionate about God that she recently became a Minister in 2020 - right in the middle of the pandemic. She is a true believer in going right into the discomfort of life to free ourselves from our suffering. She is a registered nurse and works at a cardiac procedures unit and loves helping others during their times of fear and anxiety. Here at Safe Home, one of our biggest priorities is to destigmatize addiction and mental health, so by hearing stories from people like Veronica, we are able to humanize addiction, find commonalities, and discover the way others have found their healing path. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Veronica’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:40 Veronica’s childhood and early introduction to alcohol 3:16 Spinning all the plates during high school, self-medicating for anxiety 4:38 Unconscious intergenerational rage and machismo 7:30 How spirituality helped Veronica 9:50 Being a young mom in recovery and later supporting her son in recovery 13:22 Tools that helped Veronica with the initial stages of recovery 16:30 Stay-at-home drunk 17:33 Going back to school to become a nurse 19:12 Another new career as a minister 20:20 Veronica’s advice for family or friends of addicted people, setting boundaries with love 22:19 High-functioning alcoholics 24:25 Alcohol’s prevalence in our culture 25:34 Meditation as a recovery tool 27:25 Learning how to set boundaries, resentment as a boundary indicator 29:05 Each personal growth journey looks different for everyone, just take a step any direction --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| More Than Sex Ed with Emmalinda MacLean - Ep 64 | 25 Oct 2022 | 00:49:07 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Emmalinda MacLean, co-founder of More Than Sex-Ed, a Los Angeles-based non-profit whose mission is to nourish healthy development through honest conversation about sex. She is the Director of Curriculum & Instruction at More Than Sex-Ed plus she wrote a children’s book around the topic of consent called “Everybody, Every Body!” =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Emmalinda’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:42 How Emmalinda landed a career in sex ed 4:24 Gender diversity is NOT a new thing 7:21 Parental backlash? 8:22 Beth’s sex ed experience at church 10:33 Teaching consent 12:00 Questions about “gay sex” 14:00 What is sex? 15:52 Can parents rely on school or church to teach about sex? 17:53 Don’t Freak Out! 19:33 Acknowledging pleasure reduces victimization 20:25 At what age can kids start learning about sex? 22:30 The topic of menstruation and Turning Red 25:23 How does gaming and social media affect our kids? 27:30 What’s the deal about furries? 30:18 Anonymous question box and porn 33:31 What about sexting? 35:19 What should parents do regarding phones? 36:03 How the fall of Roe will affect our teens 39:19 Emmalinda’s best piece of advice for parent 42:10 LGBTQ+ identities 44:00 What services does More Than Sex-Ed provide? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| BEST OF: Cough Medicine and Other OTC Drugs - Ep 2 REPLAY | 17 Oct 2022 | 00:36:18 | |
Safe Home is on vacation this week, so we're replaying one of our favorite episodes. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Open-Hearted Adoption with Lori Holden, AKA Lavender Luz - Ep 63 | 10 Oct 2022 | 00:47:17 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Lori Holden, an adoptive mom of 2 teens, author of the book The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption: Helping Your Child Grow Up Whole, written with her daughter’s birth mom and featured on required reading lists with adoption agencies across the country. She’s also a blogger at LavenderLuz.com, and host of the podcast Adoption: The Long View. Lori is an influential voice in the adoption world, advocating for openness in all kinds of adoption relationships. She often keynotes at adoption conferences and speaks to new and prospective adoptive families, helping them realize the benefits to EVERYONE of maintaining transparency in the adoption process. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Lori’s information:
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Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome
TIME STAMPS: 1:50 Parents doing their own work 3:39 How Lori learned adoption wasn’t all unicorns and butterflies 5:05 Getting curious about adoption 6:40 A new child can’t cure infertility grief 9:35 Lori’s family’s adoption story 13:45 The importance of the biological bond 16:52 “You are mom” 19:38 Both-And 20:58 Adoptive parents that are closed off completely 22:37 What should adoptive parents say when their child misses their birthparent? 27:10 Open adoption’s trajectory 30:35 What if… 34:18 Listening to birth parents more 35:55 Seven Core Issues in Adoption and Permanency 36:26 Constellation v Triad 38:35 Adoptive parents as the “bad guys” 41:38 Is Lori anti-adoption? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Fentanyl Harm Reduction for Families with Nicole Miller - Ep 62 | 03 Oct 2022 | 00:44:30 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Nicole Miller, a certified drug and alcohol counselor and coach from Oregon who teaches addiction pharmacology at Portland Community College. Even though she’s very knowledgeable about all kinds of drugs, I brought her onto Safe Home Podcast to help us focus on fentanyl. It’s such a dangerous drug, and deaths from fentanyl poisoning have skyrocketed in just the last 2 or 3 years. Our family really wants to raise awareness about fentanyl, so Nicole will help us all understand the risks and what we can all do to prevent deaths caused by fentanyl. This episode is dedicated to the memory of Helanna Johnson, our life coach Heather Ross’s daughter who died in December 2021 from fentanyl poisoning. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Nicole’s information:
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| Writing Poetry to Process Depression with Colin Parrott - Ep 61 | 26 Sep 2022 | 00:26:29 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Colin Parrott, a 16-year-old from Huntington Beach who has been struggling with depression. He has gotten help with his mental illness from his awesome mom Debbi and from modern medicine. But perhaps the best tool he’s found has been poetry. He’s written a whole book of poetry about his depression called Shards. The process of writing poetry has not only helped him make sense of his mental health, but his poems help others understand what he and others with depression go through. Near the end of the episode, Colin will be sharing a poem or two from his new book, so stick around until the end! Joey and Beth both also struggle with depression, which you can hear about in Episode 11. It is something that our family is very open about, because you know what - depression kills! We’re very glad that Colin was willing to come on Safe Home Podcast to share his story. We believe that the more people talk about things like depression and other mental health issues, the more we’ll be able to help each other, and the more lives we’ll save - quite literally. =============== RESOURCES: Colin’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:36 Colin’s poetry-writing and other writing experience before his depression 3:32 How Colin’s depression and self-harm started and what it looked like 6:26 What Colin’s parents did to cause Colin to feel safe to tell them when he was self-harming 8:14 How meds worked for Colin’s depression 10:36 Colin’s poetry-writing in NYC 14:48 Colin’s advice for kids who are struggling with depression symptoms 17:30 Colin’s advice for parents of struggling kids 19:52 Colin reads his poem “Sunrise Relapse” --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| A Transracial Adoption Story with Darcy Mittelstaedt - Ep 60 | 19 Sep 2022 | 00:48:47 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Darcy Mittelstaedt, an adult adoptee originally from Korea, and adopted into a dysfunctional family in Nebraska at age 2. Once she came out of the fog, as they say in adoption-land, and came to terms with her relinquishment trauma and chaotic adoptive family life, she turned toward her adoption agency. She now helps inform the adoption agency’s families about relinquishment trauma and the struggles that interculturally adopted people have. Hers is a story of resilience and hope that I’m sure everyone, whether or not you are affected by adoption personally, will appreciate hearing. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Darcy’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:50 Darcy’s difficult childhood story 5:00 Darcy’s parent’s controlling style 7:49 Food control 10:33 The impact of Darcy’s parents’ divorce 12:14 The end of the road for Darcy 15:45 The family that rescued Darcy 18:05 Darcy’s compliant temperament and the role of the church 24:58 Darcy’s job at Boys Town 27:01 How Darcy collaborates with her adoption agency 32:15 Growing up as an Asian in a Nebraska farmtown 39:58 The importance of mirroring for adoptees 44:58 Hope for anyone who grew up in a dysfunctional family --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Being on the Receiving End of the CRAFT Method with Joey and Heather Ross - Ep 59 | 12 Sep 2022 | 00:49:13 | |
This week’s episode is very special because #1 Joey is with us for this one. And #2: It’s going to be a 3-way conversation with me, Joey, and our life coach Heather Ross. If you’ve listened to any of our episodes, you’ve probably heard me mention her, or you might have heard one of her 2 episodes we’ve already published - #10 and #34. In this Safe Home episode, we will be talking about how the CRAFT method has helped our family, and you’ll hear from both sides - the parents’ side and the teen’s side. CRAFT is an acronym that stands for Community Reinforcement and Family Training. This is the approach that is scientifically proven to get more people into recovery than the old-fashioned approaches like tough love and interventions. The basis of CRAFT is the positive rewards that the loved one heaps on the addicted person when they are doing favorable behaviors. A key concept in CRAFT is that the relationship is more important than their sobriety. This method shifted our family so much that I credit it to keeping our son alive for these past few years. I’m very excited to share some details of the CRAFT approach with you. =============== RESOURCES: Heather’s information:
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Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson TIME STAMPS: 3:30 Overview of Joey’s struggles 6:40 Joey’s new job has helped stabilize him 7:40 Alternative healing we’ve found to be helpful 11:32 How Heather and CRAFT helped save our family 16:24 Putting our kids under the microscope 19:29 Addiction causes hiding and masking 21:20 Changing the conversation with our addicted loved one 23:28 What Joey and Helanna received from substances 27:04 The goal is CONNECTION, not sobriety 33:25 Why some parents have trouble with the CRAFT Method 36:30 Sliding through life pre-crisis, asleep at the wheel 39:08 What our kids want from us 41:16 Enabling, Narcan, “rock bottom,” and stigma | |||
| Unpacking Adoption Trauma: Insights from an Adoptive Parent with Stacey Uhrig - Ep 164 | 23 Sep 2024 | 00:36:35 | |
“They [our kids] can't be more regulated than you are. They can only be as regulated as the least regulated person in the house.” - Stacey Uhrig EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, I had the pleasure of speaking with Stacey Uhrig, an adoptive parent and certified trauma recovery coach. Stacey shared her journey into adoption, which began after her own struggles with infertility. She emphasized the emotional complexities and challenges that come with adoption, particularly the trauma that both adoptees and adoptive parents may face. Stacey discussed her experiences raising two boys adopted from Korea and the significant insights she gained about trauma, attachment, and the impact of early disruptions in a child's life. We explored the importance of understanding the emotional wounds that children may carry from their past experiences, even before they come into our homes. Throughout our conversation, we highlighted the need for adoptive parents to do their own emotional work in order to better support their children. Stacey shared valuable resources, including her own ebook, What is Trauma Really?, and her podcast, Flip Your Mindset, both of which aim to educate and empower those affected by adoption. We also touched on the misconceptions surrounding trauma and the importance of approaching parenting with empathy and an open mind. This episode serves as a reminder that understanding adoption trauma is crucial for creating a nurturing environment for our children. I hope this conversation resonates with adoptive parents and encourages them to seek knowledge and support in their parenting journey. =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: amazon.com/Adoption-Suicidality-Healthcare-Professionals-Unraveling/dp/B0DCBCTSLL 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Stacey’s contact information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS: 00:00:00 - Introduction 00:01:00 - Stacey's Adoption Journey 00:03:30 - Challenges in Adoption 00:06:00 - Understanding Adoption Trauma 00:08:30 - Lack of Resources 00:10:30 - Importance of Education 00:12:30 - Personal Growth 00:15:00 - Impact of Early Experiences 00:18:00 - Parental Responsibility 00:21:00 - Coaching Approach 00:24:00 - Nature of Trauma 00:27:00 - Self-Reflection for Parents 00:30:00 - Work with Adoptees 00:33:00 - Conclusion and Resources
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| Framework to Improve Mental Health with Renee Knapp - Ep 58 | 05 Sep 2022 | 00:50:32 | |
Movies & Conversations with Alex Kaplan from Of Substance Saturday, September 10, 2022, 10am PST OfSubstance.Eventbrite.com =============== In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Renee Knapp, a vice principal at a high school - or she would call it a deputy principal at a district high school where she lives in SW of Western Australia. But on top of that, she’s an independent consultant at Think Effective Consultancy, where she works with schools, communities, and passionate individuals to improve mental health and wellbeing outcomes through a proven process and framework for change. She is the Chair and co-founder of a Community Based Mental Health Action Team and she’s an Ambassador for the Australian & New Zealand Mental Health Association. RESOURCES: Renee’s information: Think Effective Consultancy website: https://thinkeffective.com.au/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/www.thinkeffective.com.au Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thinkeffectiveconsultancy/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCn8qrZZ0hmktyC7Ot0QIXuw
Other resources mentioned in this episode: Mind Matters (Australia): https://www.positiveschools.com.au/2012%20Mind%20Matters.html GoZen videos for kids: https://gozen.com/ Reach Out for teens and young adults: https://au.reachout.com/ New 988 mental health crisis line: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/988
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TIME STAMPS 1:50 The Big Picture work that Renee is doing to help kids’ mental health 2:20 Renee’s background and interest in mental health 7:30 Behaviors are not the problem 11:05 Common mental health problems in high school 15:00 Advocating for a CULTURE of well-being at school and Beth’s horrible experience with Joey’s high school’s culture 20:23 Examples of Renee’s framework in action 27:10 Finding passionate individuals who can hop on board 29:50 Framework instead of programs 32:40 Suicide as leading cause of death 37:35 Creating a plan for well-being in the school and community 39:13 Belonging and connection is the cure --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Marriage Under the Influence of Alcohol with Dayna Del Val and Mazz Marry - Ep 57 | 29 Aug 2022 | 00:44:40 | |
Movies & Conversations with Alex Kaplan from Of Substance Saturday, September 10, 2022, 10am PST OfSubstance.Eventbrite.com =============== In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Dayna Del Val and Mazz Marry, a married couple from North Dakota who are bringing alcoholism out into the light with their podcast, Daily Dose of Dr Marry & DD. They are here on Safe Home Podcast to talk about how addiction affects everyone, not just the person struggling with addiction. They, like our family, believe that the opposite of addiction is connection, and they are aiming to destigmatize addiction so we can all heal. =============== MOVIES & CONVERSATIONS about addiction and shame event With Alex Kaplan from Of Substance Saturday, September 10, 10-11:30am PST $15 (Half off for Patreon members, Open House attendees come free) Get your ticket here: https://ofsubstance.eventbrite.com =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Dayna & Mazz’s information: Daily Dose of Dr. Marry and DD: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCF3myrebU1m8PhVe1HutQ2w Website: https://daynadelval.com/category/dr-marry-and-me/ Other resource mentioned in this episode: IGNTD Recovery: https://www.igntd.com/ Other Resources: Other Parents Like Me - https://www.facebook.com/other.parents.like.me Heather Ross - Life Coaching for Parents of Addicted Teens: https://heatherrosscoaching.com/ Find a Tele-Therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/online-counseling =============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome www.SafeHomeFamilies.com =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:16 Why Dayna & Mazz decided to share their story on their podcast 4:03 How Dayna & Mazz met and their early years together 6:27 Early signs of alcohol derailing Mazz and their marriage, “married to a newborn” 10:11 Dayna’s reaction to the negative aspects of alcohol on their marriage 12:06 How Mazz’s body made him rethink his relationship to alcohol 15:15 The overwhelming worry about cost of treatment 20:46 What Mazz’s rehab was like 23:45 The benefits of having a late-onset addiction 25:20 Dayna’s quirky addiction 26:54 The culture around alcohol 31:46 What was underneath Mazz’s alcohol misuse? 32:34 Redefining marriage after Mazz’s recovery and getting support for the spouse of the addicted person 41:28 Getting rid of shame --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Disordered Eating with Sue Bowles - Ep 56 | 22 Aug 2022 | 00:43:39 | |
Movies & Conversations with Alex Kaplan from Of Substance Saturday, September 10, 2022, 10am PST OfSubstance.Eventbrite.com =============== In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Sue Bowles, an Ohio-based master certified life coach, memoirist, and public speaker focusing on the topics of disordered eating, anxiety, depression, and sexual assault survival and recovery. Her company is called My Step Ahead, whose motto is “you only have to be a step ahead to help the person behind you.” That is certainly how we operate at Safe Home, too. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Sue’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:22 Sue’s childhood 4:45 Sue’s sexual assault at 7yo, “Don’t tell anyone!” 7:33 Ways Sue acted out in high school 9:08 How Sue’s eating disorder began, atypical anorexia 13:01 Physical and mental effects of her disordered eating 17:16 Sue’s opinion about BMI 19:29 What prompted Sue to get help for her disordered eating? 21:25 Sue’s advice to parents of a teen with disordered eating 28:55 Where do people go to get help for eating disorders? 29:55 Sue’s role as a life coach 35:00 Eating disorders resources 38:11 A sliver of hope can be cultivated --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Families in Recovery with Pam Lanhart - Ep 55 | 15 Aug 2022 | 00:54:32 | |
OfSubstance.EventBrite.com - 9/10 In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Pam Lanhart. She’s the Director of the Minnesota based non-profit organization “Thrive Family Recovery Resources” that she started in 2016 to help families with addicted loved ones. She’s a certified recovery coach, peer specialist, speaker, author, and advocate for those dealing with substance use disorder - and their families.. She has a book and a FB page called “Praying Our Loved One Home” that our Christian audience members will especially love. She recently lost her young adult son Jake to the disease of addiction, but like our dear friend Heather Ross, she is forging ahead, more determined than ever to help families so they can help their struggling teens and young adults who are battling with addiction. Pam subscribes, as I do, to the CRAFT approach of treating our addicted loved ones with unconditional love and positive regard, no matter where they are in their sobriety. RESOURCES: Pam’s information:
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| Mindset Shifting with Tiffany Gay - Ep 54 | 08 Aug 2022 | 00:31:24 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Tiffany Gay, a Philadelphia entrepreneur, mindset coach, and public speaker. Several years ago she experienced severe depression and anxiety, but through prayer, a shift in her mindset, and identifying her "Why" she was able to survive through her mental health breakdown. She regained everything back that she lost, including her mind, and now she helps others shift their mindset and find the root cause of their struggles. Her mission is to serve, support, coach, and mentor individuals with shifting their self-defeating, unfulfilling, unproductive, and unhealthy patterns of thinking. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Tiffany’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:13 Tiffany’s childhood, one of 8 kids 2:44 How Tiffany’s father’s PTSD affected her family 5:20 Unfamiliar simultaneous lack - in full survival mode 8:48 How Tiffany managed her economic struggles 12:05 Tiffany lost hope for 2 years 14:15 TIffany’s turning point 16:00 The 5 steps Tiffany took - Identify her WHY, shift her mindset, reactive her faith, incorporate prayer, identify a support system 17:18 Why Tiffany found her healing path outside the healthcare system 18:25 How Tiffany got back on track 20:00 Tiffany is the CEO of her own life 24:11 How has Tiffany’s experience affected her parenting of her 12yo daughter 27:27 Breaking generational patterns --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Self-Care for Moms with Yvette Harpootian - Ep 53 | 01 Aug 2022 | 00:38:31 | |
Movies & Conversations with Alex Kaplan from Of Substance Saturday, September 10, 10am PST OfSubstance.Eventbrite.com =============== In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Yvette Harpootian, a certified life coach from Rhode Island who is passionate about helping women get out of overwhelm, get more done, and release anxiety and self-sacrifice in order to feel better. I thought her message would be welcome here on Safe Home Podcast since many in our audience are parents of adolescents. I know when Joey was in crisis mode, I almost completely lost myself for a while there, before I got connected with Heather Ross, OUR life coach, who BTW went to the same coaching school as Yvette. In this episode, you will receive practical tools from Yvette that you can put into practice right away. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Yvette’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:18 Why Yvette focuses on moms in her life coaching business 2:08 Key areas that moms can focus on to improve their relationship with their kids 4:52 Women’s invisible workload 6:58 Keeping up with the “perfect” class mom + toxic comparing 8:02 “I don’t have time for self-care!” 12:30 What does self-care encompass? 15:28 How does Yvette convince moms to engage in self-care? 18:40 Avoiding getting “hangry” (hungry + angry) and prioritizing sleep 20:30 Scheduling self-care in the calendar 21:31 What does life coaching look like? 22:41 The Model that Yvette uses in her coaching - how to control your thoughts 32:18 What’s the difference between coaching and therapy? 34:06 “My son got better when I got better” and “Nurturing and Love are the keys to healing” --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Creating Wellness with Leela Davis - Ep 52 | 25 Jul 2022 | 00:39:26 | |
OfSubstance.Eventbrite.com In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Leela Davis. She is a neurodivergent who combines her lived experience self-healing her Bipolar 1 and CPTSD symptoms and managing ADHD symptoms with training in the healing modalities that she found the most powerful in her own healing journey. She is certified: as a Holistic Health Coach, in Somatic Attachment Therapy, as a Yoga of Sound and Vinyasa Instructor, in Astrology and Human Design, and has spent decades as a multi-passionate creative finding healing in the process of art-making-performing. Her mission is to mentor and support folks with emotional and mental health challenges or diagnoses and live a meaningful and beautiful life beyond the limitations ascribed to certain diagnoses. Her vision is a world where all medical and healing practitioners will learn to heal by addressing the roots of symptoms rather than covering up the symptoms. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Leela’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS: 2:34 What is the difference between Bipolar I, Bipolar II, and depression? 5:35 Leela’s diagnosis at age 37 7:44 Childhood trauma and genetic predisposition to mental illness 10:41 Did Leela’s Bipolar diagnosis help or make things worse? 12:40 Leela’s Bipolar medication hijacked her body and mind 21:21 How Leela found healing without meds 24:55 Meditation and yoga are key tools, incl. Yoga of sound 28:55 How Leela evaluates medication and substances now 31:15 What does Creative Wellness coaching look like? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Transformation and Healing with Jude Gorini - Ep 51 | 18 Jul 2022 | 00:43:17 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Jude Gorini, a Brazilian who lives in Northern Italy. He identifies as gender queer, and works as an author, podcaster, intuitive coach, and creative artist. He has struggled with Bipolar, addiction, and gender identity issues and shares his life story openly in order to help others. I met Jude recently when I recorded on the podcast that he co-hosts with Leela Davis, What I Didn’t Tell My Therapist. He really resonated with our family’s story, which intersects in many ways with his own. You will love his warmth and honesty, not to mention his sexy accent. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Jude’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:26 Around the world with Jude - Brazil, Italy, UK, Italy 2:39 What’s wrong with Italy? 5:50 Jude’s LGBTQ+ status and coming out story 11:33 Jude’s career path 13:19 How and when did addiction come into Jude’s life? 18:56 What was the catalyst for his addiction recovery? 22:35 Start of holistic healing and coaching to help others 24:54 How Jude has managed his Bipolar I 26:20 Bipolar and addiction 28:55 What is Jude’s favorite tool for balancing his life? 30:20 Jude reads his poem “Today” 32:25 Nature as a tool for healing 33:54 Jude’s advice for parents of LGBTQ+ teens --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Yoga for Healing Trauma with Lorah Gerald - Ep 50 | 11 Jul 2022 | 00:49:21 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Lorah Gerald, an adoptee, an intuitive, a Kundalini Yoga Instructor, and writer. Lorah hopes to help others heal their trauma, adopted or not, by sharing her lived experiences as an adoptee as well as her education in breath work, energy healing and natural intuitive abilities. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Lorah’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:33 Holding feelings about adoption trauma inside v. healing in community 2:49 Lorah’s adoption story as a Baby Scoop Era domestic adoptee 4:40 A better life or just a different life? 6:40 What Beth was told about adoption trauma when she adopted Joey 8:32 What Lorah’s adoptive parents knew about adoption trauma 9:20 How Lorah acted out as a teen and how she avoided addiction 10:38 Lorah’s reunion story 15:34 Lorah’s mother’s forced hysterectomy 16:46 Lorah’s reaction to her adoption story as told by her parents 20:28 Lorah’s reunion story, continued 26:40 Lorah’s healing path - yoga, reiki, reading, etc. 28:35 Kundalini yoga & processing trauma through our bodies 34:55 Other physical trauma-healing tools that Lorah uses 39:03 Adoptee-only yoga sessions 41:43 How yoga has helped Lorah with trauma and well-being --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| A Courageous Spiritual Journey with Bobbi Becker - Ep 49 | 04 Jul 2022 | 00:49:26 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Rev. Bobbi Becker, the Senior Minister and Spiritual Director at Namasté Center for Spiritual Living in Long Beach, California. In this episode, Bobbi tells her story of being a gay New Thought minister who grew up in the Mormon church and whose whole family was touched by addiction and mental health issues. You will be inspired by her commitment to her own spiritual growth which included the acceptance of her sexual orientation. She is not afraid to speak out and take action within social structures about women’s rights and LGBTQ+ rights. You will find out what saved her from the addiction route that many of her family members took. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Bobbi’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:18 Bobbi’s unique childhood 2:44 Being raised in the Mormon church 5:00 Bobbi’s excommunication 10:36 Coming out as gay and getting involved in diversity training 13:46 Bobbi’s mother’s mental health trifecta and family secrets 20:01 How Bobbi escaped her family’s dysfunction 22:36 Where Bobbi found support as a young adult 25:30 What are you giving power to? 26:25 Bobbi lost 2 brothers to addiction and mental illness 30:18 How Bobbi’s 2 surviving siblings are doing 33:54 How Bobbi avoided addiction to substances 37:25 Bobbi’s transition from corporate executive to minister 39:05 How Bobbi’s life has affected her parenting 44:59 Dealing with family trauma 47:06 The best thing parents of struggling teens can do --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Personal Trust Communities in Adoption with Mike Thorne - Ep 163 | 16 Sep 2024 | 00:33:53 | |
"When I was nine years old,...my parents just looked at each other and looked back at me and said, Michael, we just want to tell you that we love you very much and that you're adopted." -- Mike Thorne =============== 📘Get our new book Adoption and Suicidality: amazon.com/Adoption-Suicidality-Healthcare-Professionals-Unraveling/dp/B0DCBCTSLL 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX ============== EPISODE SUMMARY:
Mike also reflected on his time as a board member of the National Council for Adoption (NCFA), emphasizing the need for diverse perspectives in adoption discussions. He encouraged listeners to seek out their own support systems and focus on their dreams rather than being held back by past experiences. This episode serves as a powerful reminder of the importance of connection and understanding within the adoption community. I hope you find inspiration in Mike's insights and encourage you to explore his TEDx Talk and memoir for further understanding. Thank you for joining us, and I look forward to continuing this important conversation in future episodes.
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== TIME STAMPS: 00:00:00 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption 00:01:00 - Mike Thorne's Adoption Story 00:02:30 - Navigating Adoption Conversations 00:03:55 - Understanding Late Discovery Adoptees 00:05:00 - Age-Appropriate Communication in Adoption 00:06:00 - Adoptee Perspectives in Education 00:07:00 - Mike's Leadership in Adoption Advocacy 00:08:30 - Adoptee Panel at NCFA Conference 00:10:00 - The Need for Male Voices in Adoption 00:11:00 - Evolution of NCFA 00:12:00 - Mike's Future Goals in Maine 00:13:00 - Corporate Leadership Background 00:15:00 - The Importance of Personal Trust Communities 00:18:00 - Overcoming Perfectionism in Adoptees 00:20:00 - Building Supportive Networks 00:22:00 - Adoptee Spaces and Support 00:24:00 - Challenges for Adoptive Parents 00:26:00 - Collaboration Among Organizations 00:28:00 - Mike's Vision for the Future 00:30:00 - Encouragement for Listeners 00:32:00 - Conclusion and Resources | |||
| Trauma and Resilience with Cheyanne Alsop - Ep 48 | 27 Jun 2022 | 00:50:45 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with one of Joey’s friends, 19yo Cheyanne Alsop. Like Joey, Cheyanne was adopted, her adoptive parents later got divorced, and she struggled with mental health issues throughout her adolescence. Cheyanne’s harrowing childhood would leave most people completely paralyzed emotionally. But because of her willingness to get help and to work on her own emotional toolbox, Cheyanne has graduated high school, she’s got a job, and she’s on her healing path. Her story gives us all hope for our struggling kids, and she and Joey give some great advice to teens and parents at the end of the episode. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Cheyanne's contact info: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cheyanne_autumn1618 Other Episodes mentioned during this episode:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 0:30 A little update with Joey 3:17 Cheyanne’s infancy and first relinquishment at age 3 4:42 Cheyanne’s childhood trauma with her grandparents 11:15 Moving to her aunt’s in foster care system 13:45 Getting matched with Cheyanne’s adoptive parents 16:55 Cheyanne and Joey talk about adoption trauma 22:20 Adoptive parents’ divorce created more pain and caused first hospitalization 25:00 Cutting and self-harm, Cheyanne’s rock bottom 27:58 Cheyanne and Joey’s advice to teens considering going to residential treatment programs 29:25 DBT - Dialectial Behavior Therapy, working hard in treatment 34:37 Things that have helped Cheyanne survive 36:38 How Cheyanne’s steered clear of the addiction route 41:23 Cheyanne’s plans for the future 44:13 Cheyanne’s advice for adoptive & foster parents 46:25 Cheyanne’s advice for teens 47:30 What Joey admires about Cheyanne --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Anxiety Toolbox with Jeanette Matthew - Ep 47 | 20 Jun 2022 | 00:55:46 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Jeanette Matthew. She lives in North Yorkshire in the UK, and she is a coaching psychologist who helps individuals and organizations transform their uncertainty, overwhelm, and lack of clarity into goals, action plans, and confidence. Her specialty is helping people deal with anxiety. Jeanette has delivered workshops around the world offering psychological hacks to managing and preventing anxiety, and teaching people the mindset tools we can adopt preventatively to see every day triggers through a different lens. In this episode, Jeanette gives plenty of practical tools to help our teens - and ourselves - manage anxiety. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Jeanette’s information: Other Resources:
=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon Website: SafeHomeFamililes.com =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:37 Jeanette’s career background 8:00 Coaching v therapy 13:40 What is causing anxiety for our teens? 17:31 Learning to release outcomes 18:35 Sense of permanency of one’s life choices 25:30 Jeanette’s favorite tool for anxiety - a simple question to ground you in the present moment 34:45 Mindfulness tools 44:25 Choices over one’s own behavior gives us autonomy 49:02 Getting active and getting outside for anxiety relief --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Recovery Coaching with Tracy Struckman - Ep 46 | 13 Jun 2022 | 00:39:51 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Tracy Struckman, an Indiana-based recovery coach who has 8 years of recovery from a destructive heroin addiction. She now helps others who are struggling with addiction to find long-term recovery. She is just completing her licensure to become a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and she does online consulting and workshops for people who struggle with addiction as well as their families. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Tracy’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:35 Tracy’s childhood and adolescence and background of her heroin addiction 3:35 The addiction process - alcohol→marijuana→then heroin 5:41 Fentanyl’s dangers and access to Narcan to prevent overdose deaths 10:19 Addiction as a symptom of an underlying problem 13:32 Tracy’s rock bottom 14:57 A chance of rehabilitation in the criminal justice system? 16:23 What happened to cause Tracy to become sober 19:00 Tracy’s parenting and Tracy’s parents 25:10 What Tracy wishes would have happened differently when she was a teen 27:30 What is a Recovery Coach? 31:23 How parents can shift their focus off their kids and onto themselves 33:27 How is Recovery Coaching structured logistically? 36:22 Parents, don’t blame yourself! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Holding Space with Tamara Gabbard - Ep 45 | 06 Jun 2022 | 00:45:11 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Tamara Gabbard. She lives in the jungles of Costa Rica with her toddler Rubi-Jean. Tamara is a Copywriter and Content Marketing Strategist, and she also identifies as a Soul Consultant and Clairvoyant. She combines her skills in both the practical and spiritual realms to help people who are struggling to break through the overwhelm that life can bring when trying to make an impact on the world. Like our son Joey, Tamara has done extensive personal research with psychedelics and other substances. She’s 5 years sober now, but she uses some of the things she learned through her psychedelic trips to inform her work, especially finding the root causes of whatever obstacle people get stuck on. Tamara’s story is pretty extraordinary. Even if you can’t relate to her exact experience, I know you will be inspired by her talk to dig a little deeper to help yourself and your struggling teen. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Tamara’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon Website: http://SafeHomeFamilies.com =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:37 Tamara’s chaotic childhood 5:08 Teenage experimenting (and then deep dive) with substances 7:33 Tamara’s clairvoyance 13:50 Psychedelics and trauma 20:08 Holding space for people 21:55 How Beth has been holding space for Joey and Tamara’s advice for parents 28:41 Teens using psychedelics (including vaping DMT) 34:07 Safer use of psychedelics 36:40 The planetary shift 39:15 Tamara’s role as a Soul Consoultant to overcome trauma and blocks --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| The Tough Post-High School Transition with Taylor Cox - Ep 44 | 30 May 2022 | 00:44:35 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with her long-time piano student, 19-year-old Taylor Cox. Taylor graduated from high school in 2021, and has had a year of pivoting, personal growth, and some common teenage challenges since then. She talks openly about her struggles in the hopes that her story will help other families with struggling teens at this tricky post-high school juncture. Listen through to the end and you’ll be rewarded with an original song performed by Taylor. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS 2:05 Taylor’s musical experience 4:18 Taylor’s other interested besides music 6:52 Taylor’s experience as a blind person 12:05 How to help blind people feel accepted and included 13:06 Taylor’s performing arts high school successes 16:51 Pivoting college plans 19:44 Independent living school 22:36 Bonehead teenage choices 23:40 Introduction of depression and anxiety 26:10 Therapy for everyone! 28:43 Tools Taylor learned through therapy 30:57 Taylor’s future plans 32:56 Taylor’s advice for parents of high school grads 38:33 Taylor’s performance of her song “Best of Me” --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Cannabis Science and Side Effects with Jason Wilson - Ep 43 | 23 May 2022 | 00:57:49 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Joey joins Beth to talk with Jason Wilson about the science and side effects of cannabis. Jason is a botanist, educator, author, and podcaster whose primary interest right now is cannabis. He studies the chemistry and microbiology of cannabis, and has unique expertise in quality management systems and regulatory compliance in the burgeoning cannabis growing industry. He published a science textbook “Curious About Cannabis” and has a podcast with the same name. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Jason’s information:
Anonymous testing of substances: https://www.drugsdata.org/ CHS Genetic Testing: https://shop.endodna.com/products/chs-dna-susceptibility-test =============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson; Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao; Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson; Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com; Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube; Support Safe Home on Patreon: Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 0:57 Jason Wilson’s intro and expertise 2:51 How today’s cannabis compares to the cannabis parents used back in the day 6:09 Jason’s concerns about modern synthetic products like Delta 8 THC 9:50 Different types of testing - qualitative and quantitative 14:32 How can consumers know if their product is good quality 17:28 How clean are dispensary products? 18:50 The dangers of street drugs from the black market 24:00 Vape industry marketing to kids 24:36 Is it “just” cannabis? 24:50 Can you get addicted to cannabis? 28:25 Cannabinoid Hyperemesis Syndrome (CHS) and stigma 31:12 Communicating with your kids about cannabis 32:42 The unique chemistry of edible cannabis, which packs a powerful punch 35:55 How much cannabis does Joey use? 37:28 Bi-phasic effect of cannabis - high dose v. low dose 39:50 Remedies for cannabis overdoses or overwhelm 43:00 High doses of cannabis can make psychiatric problems worse 43:35 Fentanyl in weed and how to test for it 36:35 Safest ways to use cannabis 49:48 Jason’s advice to parents about how to communicate with our kids about cannabis --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Safe Home Families Update with Jan & Beth - Ep 42 | 16 May 2022 | 00:43:20 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth and Jan, Joey’s moms, give a State of the Family update. They talk about what’s been happening with all 3 family members, and share their vision for Safe Home Families as well. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Safe Home Families information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon - https://Patreon.com/SafeHome =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:30 Family updates - Beth, Jan, and Joey 6:03 How Beth and Jan work together to maintain boundaries 13:48 Changing the things we can, which often prompts change in the family system 14:53 Adolescence and wanting more independence 23:50 Changing geography to try to solve problems 25:25 How our boundaries bring us peace and sanity 27:00 Safe Home Podcast expands to Safe Home Families 28:12 New support system for adoptive parents is coming 32:09 A boost in hope for Joey’s future 33:48 Our Patreon account - thanks to our current Patreon members - Camille, Susan, Nina, Rica, Mara, and Steve & Barbara 37:42 Huge gratitude for our first sponsor - Beth & Laurie Hansen --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Creating Short Films to Conquer Shame with Alex Kaplan - Ep 41 | 09 May 2022 | 00:59:54 | |
THIS PODCAST EPISODE CAN BE SEEN IN VIDEO FORMAT ON YOUTUBE AT: https://youtu.be/cQeNVrW0v2U In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Alex Kaplan, co-founding Executive Director & Chief Vision Officer of “Of Substance,” an innovative nonprofit that makes premium, entertaining short films to help us all overcome the shame, blame, and stigma we experience in our struggles. Having overcome his own challenges with substances, Alex has been through the wringer, but he has turned his life around and is now helping other struggling people to find connection, a sense of belonging, and hope. =============== 📬 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Alex’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at Hello@SafeHomeFamilies.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:55 - Alex’s trauma, shame, and addiction story 5:48 - Alex’s recovery story 12:38 - Beth’s story about how our healthcare system has NOT helped Joey 14:02 - How addicted people deserve more credit than they are given 17:00 - Curiosity about the positive things people are getting from substances 19:00 - Getting to the core issues 22:44 - What kind of movies is Of Substance making? 26:13 - How Alex’s relationship with his mom was transformed by his film “Trapped” 30:05 - Alex’s vision for Of Substance 37:04 - The topic of shame in media 39:44 - How non-industry people can support Of Substance 43:31 - “Bandaids,” one of Of Substance’s short films 51:35 - How we all can help get Of Substance’s message out 54:25 - “Hide Your Crazy” monster film and MTV’s Mental Health Action Day, May 20-22, 2022 --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Never Give Up Hope! with Erik, Beth, & Laurie - Ep 40 | 02 May 2022 | 01:02:45 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Erik, who spent three decades living under the dark cloud of active addiction, but who is now whole and walking on the recovery path. It’s a dramatic transformation story that testifies to the power of love and hope in our addicted loved one’s recovery. Erik misused meth for over 30 years, and he alternated between living under a bridge, in jail, prison, rehabs, and halfway houses during that time. Joining in the conversation in the second half of the episode are his sister Beth and their 89-year-old mom Laurie, who realized they were helpless to “fix” Erik. But they never gave up hope that he would find recovery. And he did! Find out what it was that turned Erik’s life around, and hear from all three family members, who are dear friends of Beth, Jan, and Joey, as they recall the traumatic experiences and triumphs of their family. =============== RESOURCES: Resource mentioned in this episode:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS: 1:28 Erik’s adolescence and the start of his addictive behavior 5:17 Finding a sense of community on the streets 6:34 Introduction of meth and life got way worse 10:59 The revolving door of incarceration 20:30 What ended up turning Erik around? 30:04 Erik reflects on his parents and his own parenting 34:47 Erik’s sister Beth and mom Laurie join the conversation 48:27 Erik’s miraculous transformation through the responsibility of work --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| The Belonging Blueprint with Ross Leppala - Ep 39 | 25 Apr 2022 | 00:48:58 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Ross Leppala, professional powerlifter, coach, host of the Project UnchainED podcast, and creator of The Belonging Blueprint course. He suffered from bullying and suicidal ideation when he was young, but sports, especially football, turned his life around. He became a powerlifter and powerlifting coach, and he has expanded his skills to help his athletes and others with their personal growth as well. He helps his clients create a sense of belonging within themselves. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Ross’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS: 2:43 Ross’s childhood struggles with bullying 8:18 Ross found sports which helped with his self-worth issues 15:19 Personal growth and discipline gained through powerlifting 17:00 Ross’s life coaching process and tools 23:20 Ross’s advice for parents of struggling teens 37:21 The Belonging Blueprint course 44:16 The choice to create change --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| The Importance of Adoptee-Led Initiatives with Jessica M. Luciere - Ep 162 | 09 Sep 2024 | 00:23:06 | |
"I tell every adopted person that I meet that their story changes my own story. And it's the truth. It is the absolute truth." - Jessica M. Luciere
In this episode of Unraveling Adoption, host Beth Syverson interviews Jessica M. Luciere, an inter-country, interracial adoptee from Colombia who works at Spence Chapin, a nonprofit adoption agency. Jessica shares her personal adoption story and highlights the importance of adoptee-led initiatives in the adoption community. She discusses the programming she has created at Spence Chapin, including Voices of Adoption for adoptees over 18 and Teen Voices of Adoption for younger adoptees. Jessica emphasizes the significance of community and support for adoptees and adoptive parents, encouraging them to be open, vulnerable, and willing to learn. She also shares her experience of reuniting with her birth family in Colombia and offers advice for adoptees seeking connection with others. Beth and Jessica stress the importance of listening to adoptees' voices and elevating their perspectives in the adoption conversation. Overall, the episode highlights the value of community, support, and understanding in the adoption journey. =============== 📘Pick up our new book Adoption and Suicidality: https://www.amazon.com/Adoption-Suicidality-Healthcare-Professionals-Unraveling/dp/B0DCBCTSLL 📆 Community Calendar: UnravelingAdoption.com/Calendar ✨Healing the Adoption Constellation database: UnravelingAdoption.com/Healing 💌Sign up for our Unraveling Adoption email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Jessica’s information:
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=============== Unraveling Adoption is produced and hosted by Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Email questions or comments to Beth@UnravelingAdoption.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Support Unraveling Adoption on Patreon: http://Patreon.com/UnravelingAdoption Check out our website: http://UnravelingAdoption.com Create your own podcast through Libsyn: https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=ADOPTION =============== Please rate (*****) and/or review Unraveling Adoption in Apple Podcasts and Spotify (even if you listen to it on another app). Your feedback will help more listeners find our episodes. Thank you! =============== TIME STAMPS 00:00:00 - Introduction to Unraveling Adoption and Jessica | |||
| EMDR for Healing Trauma with Emma Stevens - Ep 38 | 18 Apr 2022 | 00:35:03 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Emma Stevens, whose new memoir The Gathering Place: An Adoptee’s Story was written during her treatment with EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing). EMDR has helped her deal with her adoption trauma and other developmental trauma from her troubled childhood. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Emma’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS 3:56 Emma’s adoption story 6:38 Alcohol was part of her family’s routine…and later her routine 11:23 Exploited by a therapist, then found EMDR 12:45 Starting EMDR and her memoir 15:10 Implicit memories stored in our bodies 16:16 Adoption’s primal wound 20:08 EMDR today 24:43 In utero and infant trauma 27:44 Personal growth for struggling teens + for parents of struggling teens 29:22 Dealing with infertility loss 33:23 Reckoning with the Primal Wound with Emma’s cameo --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Non-Binary Musician Spencer LaJoye - Ep 37 | 11 Apr 2022 | 00:52:10 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with Boston musician Spencer LaJoye, who identifies their gender as non-binary. They came out as bisexual in college and years later came out as non-binary, all within Christian communities. Beth became aware of Spencer when she heard their song “Plowshare Prayer,” a unique prayer for all those against whom prayer has been used as a sword. The song has gone viral around the world, and you will hear Spencer’s back story plus the entire song toward the end of the episode. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Spencer LaJoye’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS 1:47 Spencer’s childhood and religious background 6:26 Spencer found community as an evangelical youth 8:48 Spencer’s college years and coming out as bi 14:16 Parents letting go of dreams for their child 19:46 Coming out as non-binary in 2018 21:49 Spencer’s gender journey 24:10 What our non-binary kids need 28:49 Being a friendly observer of your own body 30:25 Defining trans & non-binary 35:36 Background of “Plowshare Prayer” song 42:50 Performance of “Plowshare Prayer” --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||
| Sound Healing with Ellen Newhouse - Ep 36 | 04 Apr 2022 | 00:54:13 | |
In this week’s Safe Home Podcast, Beth talks with transformational healer Ellen Newhouse, who uses Acupuncture, Sound Healing, and Energy Medicine in her private practice. This episode focuses on sound healing as a way to transform negative emotions, open up the heart, connect with our loved ones, and create more compassion in the world. Ellen leads Beth in several sound healing exercises in the episode and also shares about her personal journey of healing and growth. =============== 💌 Sign up for our Safe Home Families email list: http://eepurl.com/hVIAVX =============== RESOURCES: Ellen’s information:
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=============== Safe Home is created by Joseph Nakao and Beth Syverson Music written and performed by Joseph Nakao Cover art by Joseph Nakao, photo by Beth Syverson Email questions or comments to Safe Home at SafeHomePodcast@gmail.com Find us on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and YouTube Support Safe Home on Patreon =============== TIME STAMPS: 2:10 Ellen’s background info 6:57 Ellen’s calling to become a healer 9:25 Healing chronic pain 12:30 Using sound to manage negative feelings 19:19 The benefits of using a healing guide 20:33 Using sound to release constriction 24:46 Conquering the feeling of isolation 27:20 A sound healing connecting Beth with Joey 35:27 How does sound healing work? 39:52 Are music and sound healing the same thing? 41:51 Are sound baths similar to what we did in this episode? 43:50 A sound healing with a singing bowl to create more compassion 49:45 Ellen’s website, memoir, and one-woman show --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast/message | |||