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TOP SELF | Tips on Jealousy and Insecurity in Relationships

Shanenn Bryant

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Struggling with jealousy, insecurity, or self-doubt? You're not alone. Join Pattern Transformation Expert Shanenn Bryant as she combines humor, hard-won wisdom, and practical strategies to help you break free from the patterns keeping you stuck. From 2 AM social media stalking sessions to second-guessing yourself at work, each episode tackles the real struggles women face with jealousy, insecurity and confidence.

Shanenn draws from her experience and expertise in attachment theory to help women transform from overwhelming insecurity to unshakeable confidence in both relationships and career. Whether you're battling relationship jealousy or letting imposter syndrome hold you back in the workplace, you'll discover how to recognize your patterns, regulate your emotions, and transform your story.

Ready to stop letting insecurity and jealousy run your life? Subscribe now to start writing a new story - one that isn't controlled by old patterns or endless overthinking.

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Why Your Anxious Attachment Picks Terrible Partners EP 126

mardi 2 décembre 2025 • Durée 40:08

If you've ever thought "I'm too much," felt shame around your jealousy, or struggled with feeling "needy" in relationships, this episode will be a relief and a revelation. Shanenn sits down with Trevor Hansen, coach and founder of The Art of Healing, to dismantle the shame loop of anxious attachment and show how it can be transformed into self-trust and secure connection.

Trevor shares his raw personal story—from toxic relationships and a broken jaw to leaving a high-powered career at Tesla—and the powerful tools he discovered to move from fear to security. This is a must-listen for anyone stuck in the cycle of over-functioning, people pleasing, or "proving" their worth in love.

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU'LL LEARN:

Why awareness alone won't heal your insecure attachment
How childhood experiences can create a "love gap" that fuels jealousy
What emotional reprogramming looks like in practice
Why inner child work isn't woo-woo—it's essential
A powerful shift from controlling to compassionately curious in relationships

GOLDEN NUGGETS:

You’re not too much. It’s the behavior that needs support, not your worth.
Anxious attachment is just a part of you—not all of you.
You can turn your jealousy into a catalyst for deeper connection.
Emotional healing > intellectual awareness.
When you stop outsourcing your worth, you stop fearing abandonment.

GUEST BIO: Trevor Hansen is a relationship coach and the founder of The Art of Healing. After navigating his own journey through anxious attachment and emotional wounding, he now helps individuals break the cycle of fear-based relationships and build secure emotional foundations. His Secure Self Club is transforming lives by helping clients go from insecure to grounded in just months.

QUOTE OF THE EPISODE: "You're no longer a problem to be solved, but a person to be loved."

PERFECT FOR LISTENERS WHO...

Feel shame around their jealousy or emotional needs
Struggle with anxious or insecure attachment styles
Want to stop overthinking and start feeling secure in love
Are tired of outsourcing their peace and self-worth
Crave emotional safety, clarity, and confidence in their relationships

Loved this episode? Be sure to leave a review and share how you're starting to show up for your inner child.

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You're Not a Jerk, You're a Genius EP 125

mardi 18 novembre 2025 • Durée 29:36

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In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn flips the script on what it means to be “the jealous one” in a relationship—and trust us, you’ll never see your spirals the same again.

Ever swear you’re not going to snoop, spiral, or snap... and then do it anyway? That doesn’t mean you’re some controlling jerk. It means you’ve got a genius-level nervous system doing exactly what it was wired to do: keep you safe.

This solo episode unpacks the psychology behind jealousy, why it’s not sabotage but stabilization, and how to trade unhealthy patterns for new, empowering ones—without shaming the old you who just wanted to feel safe.

Oh, and there’s a German shepherd, a deer, some stargazing, and one mood-ruining poop. You’ve been warned.

💎 Golden Episode Nuggets:

Jealousy isn’t sabotage—it’s a stabilizer your nervous system picked to survive pain
You don’t need to feel ashamed of your coping strategies—they were genius solutions for impossible circumstances
You can teach your body new patterns—because you’ve done it before
The most powerful shift isn’t “How do I stop this?” but “What was my system trying to protect me from?”
New stabilizers aren’t about perfection—they’re about choosing different

🗝️ Key Moments:

1:10 – Why repeating patterns doesn’t mean you’re failing—it means your body is succeeding at survival
3:40 – What stabilizers are and how they show up as jealousy, control, or overeating
6:20 – Why we don’t pick yoga or the gym as coping tools (hint: your nervous system doesn’t give a damn about kale)
13:20 – How the jealousy loop works and why it feels so hard to break
17:30 – You’re not controlling—you’re a genius at creating predictability
25:00 – The dog poop that ruined a magical moment (and why it matters)
27:00 – What it looks like to pick new, healthy stabilizers and stop suffering silently
28:50 – Introducing: , the transformative new experience to rewire your relationship patterns from the inside out

When Safety Feels Scary EP 116

mardi 1 juillet 2025 • Durée 17:05

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Ever started pulling away just when things got good? If calm, consistent love feels boring—or even threatening—you’re not broken. You’re human.

In this episode, Shanenn explores why “safe” love can trigger your nervous system, especially if you grew up in chaos or experienced emotionally unpredictable relationships. You’ll learn:

Why peace can feel like a red flag to a dysregulated nervous system
The hidden link between chaos and connection
Subtle ways we sabotage healthy love without realizing it
A powerful affirmation to ground yourself when you’re spiraling
How to begin rewiring your system to trust calm instead of rejecting it

If you’re ready to stop pushing away the love you crave, this episode is for you.

💎 Golden Nugget: “Peace isn’t the problem. My pattern is.”

Timestamps:

1:15 – Why calm triggers fear in a chaos-wired nervous system
3:00 – How your past relationships shaped your patterns
6:30 – A real-life story (with a German Shepherd!) that explains stored trauma
10:40 – Signs of self-sabotage when things feel “too good”
12:50 – Tools to rewire your nervous system for trust
15:40 – The mantra that can change everything

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📄 Free Download: 5 Signs You’re Subconsciously Sabotaging

26: Retroactive Jealousy w/ Zachary Stockill

mardi 28 février 2023 • Durée 45:20

Have you ever been more curious than you should be about your partner’s past lovers? Where one question about their past turned into five, which turned into ten, then felt that very uncomfortable pang of jealousy? This type of jealousy is called retroactive jealousy. One of the more insidious types of jealousy because it is referring to the past, which no one can undo.

Retroactive jealousy can not only ruin an otherwise healthy relationship, it can also be detrimental to your mental health going forward. So on today’s episode, we have invited retroactive jealousy expert Zachary Stockill to fill us in on everything we need to know about this type of jealousy.

Zachary Stockill is the author of Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy, The Overcoming Jealousy Workbook and The Breakup Recovery Workbook. He is also a podcaster and educator creating programs around raising awareness and educating people about retroactive jealousy, and has founded www.retroactivejealousy.com. Needless to say, he is the ultimate expert in this field and he wants to share his knowledge with all of you.

In this episode you will learn about what retroactive jealousy is, how to identify if you are suffering from retroactive jealousy, actionable tips on how to remedy retroactive jealousy, and practical tools to help create a healthy dynamic in your relationship when feeling retroactive jealousy, and much more!

This episode is packed with juicy knowledge and advice, so you don’t want to miss this one!

Topics discussed in this episode:

What is retroactive jealousy?
How Zachary discovered retroactive jealousy
Why retroactive jealousy isn’t reserved for straight white men
The shame around retroactive jealousy
How retroactive jealousy can come off as normal
The myth around jealousy
When is walking away the right choice?
Honoring your higher self vs. your ego
Advice for those who are aroused by a partner’s sexual past
The Madonna-Whore Complex in Freudian psychology

25: Why Cant You Absorb a Compliment

mardi 21 février 2023 • Durée 19:14

Did you know you're being rude when you shrug off a compliment? After blowing off a compliment my husband gave me, he asked "Why can't you just absorb a compliment"?

That made me wonder... why can't I? What's behind that?

What I learned was much more than I expected and realized we're actually being rude when we don't respond appropriately to a compliment.

I also have a challenge for you and give you some science behind why it's hard to give compliments and why you should practice absorbing and believing the compliment you're being given.

Schedule your FREE Discovery Call to see how I can help.

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24: Lessons Learned From My Costa Rican Jealous Meltdown

mardi 14 février 2023 • Durée 21:41

Recently, my husband and I traveled to Costa Rica for a conference. We stayed in a beautiful hotel overlooking the beach and had a ton of fun experiences BUT day 4 would send me into a tailspin I haven't been in for a very, very long time.

In today's episode, I'm sharing lessons learned and why my mini meltdown is important to you.

Schedule your FREE Discovery Call to see how I can help.

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23: Why Dysfunctional Can Feel Comfortable

mardi 17 janvier 2023 • Durée 30:07

You learn so much in childhood. How to walk, how to talk, how to do multiplication and division.

Unfortuantely, for some though, you also learn to be fearful, to not trust. We learn not to get too happy because any minute, the other shoe will fall.

Today's guest, Reneau Peurifoy, author of 4 different books on anxiety, anger, and emotions, shares his knowledge from over 20 years as an MFT working with anxiety and other related disorders, shares why although not healthy, dysfunction can feel really comfortable to you.

In this episode, we discussed:

Why you unconsciously seek unhealthy partners
How jealous people have a lot of should/must rules that keeps reality foggy
4 questions to ask yourself to start to tame your jealous
What the treatment of EMDR is all about and how it works to begin desensitizing childhood trauma
Tips for how to move to a place of feeling comfortable without all the drama

Connect with Reneau at whyemotions

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22: The Chemical Mark of Trauma w/ Dr. Galit Atlas

mardi 3 janvier 2023 • Durée 42:38

Trauma leaves a chemical mark on a persons genes that is passed down to the next generation according to today's guest Dr. Galit Atlas. It's about family secrets and the secrets we keep from ourselves that also keep us from living to our full potential.

Dr. Atlas is a psychoanalyst exploring the unconscious of her patients and shares how the emotional inheritance and the legacy of trauma is passed down from generation to generation in her book titled Emotional Inheritance: A Therapist, Her Patients, and the Legacy of Trauma.

In this episode, we discuss how therapy is like detective work and it comes down to uncovering the gap between what people want to have and what they can toleration having.

She shares that the trauma healing process starts with the decision to search and to be curious.

• What do I not know about myself?

• What can I not emotionally handle?

• Why does the gap between what I want and what I can tolerate exist?

It is also important to treat defenses with respect and if you are not ready to do the healing work that is ok. It is also acceptable to feel upset that we have to do the work of the past traumatized (our parents or our grandparents) because they were perhaps not strong enough.

Dr. Atlas says if we are only aware of what we want to have (a relationship, a career, money etc.) but we're not fully aware of what it is that doesn't allow us to have what we want... that is more powerful than what we want".

The book, Emotional Inheritance is a must read but give yourself some recovery time and know it can be triggering.

Schedule your FREE Discovery Call to see how I can help.

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21: Five Statements You Should Stop Making To Your Partner

mardi 20 décembre 2022 • Durée 13:21

In today's quick dump episode, I share 5 statements I decided to stop making to my partner that changed the dynamic of our relationship.

Most of the time, you don't even realize how the words you choose can come across. Even when you feel like you're being really clear or you mean what you're saying in the moment, these 5 statements are usually a signal to disaster.

Schedule your FREE Discovery Call to see how I can help.

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20: Trauma: A Normal Response To An Abnormal Situation w/ Candace Alley

mardi 6 décembre 2022 • Durée 25:35

Did you know that toxic stress decreases the size and impairs the function of different regions of the brain that are actually responsible for our learning, our executive functioning, our memory ?

Candace Alley, a five time internationally certified coach and the founder and CEO of Trauma Resource Network shares that:

trauma is not a particular event, but rather how the brain processes that event
every persons healing journey is as individual and unique as your fingerprints
trauma doesn't mean that you're broken or that you've done anything wrong. rather, it's a very normal response to an abnormal situation
those who score a 4 or higher on the ACES test stand a far greater chance of struggling with mental health issues and or some form of addiction in their lifetime
consistent practice and dedication is key to healing

Available resources:
988 - for those dealing with mental health crisis (In the United States)
211 - provides local resources
Take the ACEs Test
Connect with Candace via her website, on Facebook, or Instagram

Schedule your FREE Discovery Call to see how I can help.

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