Welcome to Season 3 of The Steadfast Podcast — a Christian counseling podcast designed to meet you with clarity, compassion, and encouragement in the middle of everyday life. Presented by Steadfast Christian Counseling in Charleston, SC.

Whether you’re folding laundry, driving to work, or catching a quiet moment between parenting tasks, these 30-minute weekly episodes are here to give you space to reflect, learn, and grow.

• Conversations about anxiety, trauma, marriage, parenting, and faith

• Practical insights from licensed counselors to help you better understand yourself and your relationships

• Honest discussions about spiritual wounds, church hurt, and emotional well-being

• Guest interviews with trusted voices in mental health and Christian living

• Becky Castle Miller – Researcher exploring the emotions of Jesus in Luke and how Christians can build healthier emotional lives.

• Sheila Wray Gregoire – Bestselling author tackling harmful marriage messages and offering healthier, biblical alternatives.

• Adam Young – Therapist and podcast host, helping us reflect on how our stories shape us and how we can grow through them.

• Kimberly Miller – Co-author of Boundaries for Your Soul, blending Internal Family Systems therapy with faith.

• Dr. Andrew J. Bauman – Author addressing shame, church safety, and emotional well-being with courage and compassion.

You’ll also hear from the Steadfast Christian Counseling team in Charleston, SC, sharing insights from their trauma-informed counseling work rooted in faith.

• Episodes are short, approachable, and practical

• Rooted in faith, but always real and relatable

• Centered on growth, resilience, and connection

• Warm, invitational, never clinical or stuffy

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In this episode of The Steadfast Podcast, Jessie Evans, founder of Steadfast Christian Counseling, dives into a common but unspoken pressure many ministry leaders, therapists, and helpers face: the myth of omnicompetence — the belief that we should be able to meet every need, solve every problem, and never need help ourselves.You’ll learn:What the myth of omnicompetence is and why it shows up in faith spacesHow unprocessed trauma can fuel over-functioning in leadershipWhen to refer someone to a therapist — and why it’s a loving actWho’s who in the mental health world (LPCs, LMFTs, Psychologists, and more)How boundaries protect both leaders and those they serveWhy trauma-informed care and faith-based ministry are not in conflictJessie also shares a gentle critique of the recent book Lies My Therapist Told Me and invites you into a deeper, more collaborative model of care.Mentioned in this episode:Join our Trauma-Informed Church Collaborative on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1KyJ6Z8iwv/Learn more at www.steadfastchristiancounseling.comBlog about Biblical Counseling https://steadfastchristiancounseling.com/clinical-christian-counseling-vs-nouthetic-counseling-why-clinical-counseling-is-the-better-choice-for-christians/

In this episode of the Steadfast podcast, Jessie Evans shares exciting announcements about the launch of Charleston Integrative Counseling and a women's retreat. She emphasizes the importance of therapy frequency, explaining how consistent sessions can lead to better mental health outcomes. Jessie discusses the two phases of therapy: the working phase, where clients build emotional strength through regular sessions, and the maintenance phase, where they focus on sustaining their progress. The episode highlights the significance of commitment in the therapeutic process and encourages listeners to embrace their journey towards emotional well-being.

In this conversation, Benton Campbell shares his experiences navigating the challenges of sobriety during the holiday season. He discusses the importance of setting boundaries, finding support, and creating an escape plan to maintain sobriety while being around family and friends. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-care and the realization that others may not be as concerned about one's sobriety as one might think.

In this conversation, Benton Campbell shares his personal journey of overcoming alcoholism, detailing the struggles he faced and the pivotal moments that led him to seek help. He emphasizes the importance of community support, the role of faith in his recovery, and the transformative power of vulnerability and connection with others. Benton encourages those struggling with addiction to reach out for help and highlights the hope and healing that can be found in recovery programs. www.steadfastchristiancounseling.com

In this episode of the Steadfast Podcast, trauma therapist Jessica Howell discusses the concept of trauma triggers, particularly in the context of the holiday season. She explains how trauma triggers can manifest in everyday situations and emphasizes the importance of recognizing physical signs of being triggered. Jessica also shares coping strategies, including grounding techniques and setting boundaries, to help listeners manage their emotional responses during potentially triggering times. The episode concludes with key takeaways and encouragement to seek support when needed. Visit www.steadfastchristiancounseling.com for more information or to schedule an Appointment.

In this episode of the Steadfast Podcast, Tiff Holgate discusses the emotional challenges many face during the holiday season, particularly those with trauma histories. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing trauma responses, setting boundaries, and managing emotional wellness. Tiff provides practical tips for navigating family dynamics, ensuring self-care, and creating a peaceful holiday experience. The conversation highlights the significance of internal boundaries and the need to trust oneself while maintaining healthy relationships during this often stressful time. For more information about Steadfast Counseling, please visit www.steadfastchristiancounseling.com

In this episode of the Steadfast Podcast, Jessie Evans discusses the importance of staying present and connected with family during the holiday season. She emphasizes the need for mindfulness, setting intentions, and establishing healthy boundaries to navigate social pressures and emotional challenges that arise during this time. The conversation also touches on the significance of attachment theory and the role of gratitude in fostering emotional wellbeing.

takeaways

• Setting intention for the holiday season is crucial.
• Mindfulness practices help in staying present with family.
• Social pressures can lead to cognitive distortions like 'shoulds'.
• Boundaries are essential for protecting family wellbeing.
• It's important to communicate boundaries with clarity and compassion.
• Creating rituals of comfort can enhance family connection.
• Gratitude practices can ground us during busy times.
• Presence over perfection should be the holiday mantra.
• Every holiday season does not have to look the same.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Steadfast Podcast and November Plans

07:09 Staying Present and Connected During the Holidays

19:01 Navigating Social Pressures and Cognitive Distortions

21:49 Setting Healthy Boundaries for Family Wellbeing

In this conversation, Coach Stephanie Yelton shares her profound journey through grief and the impact these experiences had on her life and career. She discusses the ongoing nature of grief, the importance of counseling, and the process of creating a new normal after loss.

The conversation emphasizes vulnerability, acceptance, and the need for safe spaces to navigate the complexities of grief.

In this conversation, Stephanie Yelton shares her journey through grief and healing after the loss of her husband. She discusses the importance of building adult friendships, the necessity of self-compassion, and the tools she learned to navigate her emotional landscape.

The dialogue emphasizes recognizing grief in others, communicating needs during difficult times, and the generational shift in understanding emotional health.

Stephanie also reflects on the spiritual aspect of human experiences, highlighting the growth that comes from navigating life's challenges.

takeaways

• Experiencing multiple losses can complicate the grieving process.
• Counseling can provide essential tools for coping with grief.
• Creating a new normal is crucial after significant loss.
• Physical symptoms of grief can manifest in various ways.
• It's important to allow oneself to feel and express grief.
• Support from others can be limited; finding safe spaces is vital.
• Acceptance of the new reality is a key part of healing.
• Grief can resurface with new losses, but understanding helps.

• Healing is a journey that requires self-compassion.
• We must give ourselves permission to feel and grieve.
• Recognizing grief in others can foster connection.
• Communicating our needs is crucial in the grieving process.
• Children learn from our emotional responses to loss.
• Grief can manifest in various forms, not just through death.
• Understanding that we are spiritual beings can shift our perspective.
• Life's challenges are opportunities for spiritual growth.
• We can find grace and space in our healing journey.

Chapters

00:00Introduction to Grief and Vulnerability

01:19The Journey of Grief: Personal Experiences

04:33Navigating Life Changes and Job Loss

05:32The Sudden Loss of a Spouse

07:49Coping with Multiple Losses

12:05The Role of Counseling in Healing

14:33Creating a New Normal

18:46The Importance of Safe Spaces in Grief

21:59Moving Forward: Dating After Loss

24:55Navigating Life's Transitions

27:23The Journey of Healing and Self-Compassion

30:05Tools for Grief and Emotional Resilience

32:35Recognizing Grief in Others

34:57Communicating Needs in Grief

38:12Generational Change in Understanding Grief

43:20Spiritual Perspective on Human Experience

In this episode of the Steadfast podcast, host Megan Cannon discusses the critical importance of brain health and introduces the Bright Minds model developed by Dr. Daniel Amen. The conversation covers various risk factors that can affect brain function, including blood flow, mental engagement, inflammation, genetics, head trauma, toxins, mental health, immunity, hormonal issues, diabetes, and sleep. Megan emphasizes that many of these risk factors are preventable or treatable through lifestyle changes, encouraging listeners to take proactive steps to improve their brain health. Takeaways

• Your brain is involved in everything we do.
• Healthy brains are generally happier and healthier.
• Almost all risk factors are preventable or treatable.
• Exercise increases blood flow to the brain.
• Stay mentally active to keep your brain sharp.
• Chronic inflammation is linked to brain issues.
• Your genes are not your destiny.
• Head trauma can have lasting effects on memory.
• Reduce exposure to environmental toxins.
• Sleep is essential for everything.

• The Bright Minds Model Explained
• How to Boost Your Brain Function

• "Your brain is involved in everything we do."
• "Healthy brains are generally happier and healthier."
• "Almost all risk factors are preventable or treatable."

Chapters

00:00 Understanding the Importance of Brain Health

02:20 The Bright Minds Model: An Overview

05:56 Retirement and Mental Engagement

08:31 Genetics: Your Brain's Blueprint

10:28 Head Trauma: Recognizing the Risks

12:22 Toxins: Environmental and Lifestyle Impacts

14:09 Mental Health: The Core of Brain Function

16:15 Immunity and Infections: Protecting Your Brain

18:55 Diabetes and Obesity: The Brain Connection

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In this episode of the Steadfast Podcast, Tiff Holdgate, one of our trauma therapists at Steadfast Christian Counseling, discusses the complexities of PTSD, its symptoms, and the importance of seeking help. She explains how PTSD can affect individuals differently and emphasizes that it is a treatable condition. The conversation also highlights the significance of finding the right therapist and the resources available for those struggling with PTSD.

Takeaways

• PTSD stands for post-traumatic stress disorder and is treatable.
• 6% of the total population is reported to have PTSD.
• Symptoms can be delayed and may not appear immediately after a traumatic event.
• Flashbacks and hypervigilance are common symptoms of PTSD.
• Avoidance of reminders of the traumatic event is a key criterion for PTSD.
• 20% of individuals who experience trauma will develop PTSD.
• Symptoms can manifest at any age, even years after the event.
• It's important to seek help even if symptoms seem minor.
• Finding a therapist with experience in trauma is crucial.
• Resources are available for those struggling with PTSD.

Chapters

00:00Understanding PTSD: An Overview

04:24The Impact of Trauma and Delayed Symptoms

08:13Seeking Help: The Importance of Therapy

12:53Resources and Support for PTSD Awareness

In this episode of the Steadfast Podcast, host Jessie Evans discusses the importance of building strong connections with teenagers through understanding attachment theory and practical strategies. She emphasizes the evolving nature of the parent-teen relationship, the significance of emotional safety, and the need for parents to model emotional regulation. Jessie provides actionable tips for fostering connections, including showing up consistently, active listening, and setting empathetic boundaries. The conversation highlights the balance between encouraging autonomy and maintaining emotional closeness, ultimately aiming to help teens thrive.

Takeaways

• The teenage years can be challenging for both parents and teens.
• Attachment theory is crucial for understanding teen relationships.
• A secure attachment allows teens to explore their independence.
• Showing up consistently is vital for building connections.
• Proactive active listening helps teens feel validated.
• Setting boundaries with empathy is essential for guidance.
• Teen brains are still developing, affecting their decision-making.
• Modeling emotional regulation teaches teens important skills.
• Encouraging autonomy fosters confidence in teenagers.
• Connection with teens is about creating a safe foundation.

"Emotional safety produces individual freedom." - Jessie Evans

Chapters

00:00 Building Connections with Teenagers

04:51 Understanding Attachment Theory

11:48 Practical Strategies for Connection

17:26 Fostering Autonomy and Emotional Closeness Steadfast Christian Counseling Website

In this episode, founder of Steadfast Christian Counseling shares the story behind the practice and the values that drive everything they do. You’ll hear about the personal roots of Steadfast, the need for trauma-informed care in the church, and what makes this counseling center in Charleston, SC so different. From growing up in a pastor’s home to working on church staff, this is a heartfelt look at how faith, ethics, and emotional safety come together to create something truly healing.
Stay tuned until the end to hear reflections from some of the Steadfast team about what this work means to them.

Topics include:

• The origin story of Steadfast

• Why faith-integrated therapy matters

• Church hurt and emotional healing

• The difference between licensed therapy and ministry

• Creating a culture of humility, safety, and warmth

• Attachment theory as the foundation of healing

• What makes Steadfast feel like home

Learn more at: https://www.steadfastchristiancounseling.com

In this episode, Jessie Evans discusses the importance of emotional attunement in parenting and how it relates to recognizing and managing anxiety in children. She explains that emotional attunement involves being aware of your child's feelings and responding in a way that shows understanding and care. By providing a safe and secure environment, parents can help their children develop resilience and self-confidence. Jessie also highlights the different ways anxiety can manifest in children, such as physical symptoms, behavioral signs, and emotional symptoms. She emphasizes the importance of being attuned to these signs and providing support and regulation for children experiencing anxiety. In this conversation, Jessie Evans discusses the importance of emotional attunement in parenting and provides practical strategies for becoming more attuned to your child. She emphasizes the need for parents to be aware of their own reactions and do their own emotional work. Jessie also suggests tools such as mindful observation and active listening to better understand and connect with your child. She highlights the significance of consistency and predictability in reducing anxiety and shares the importance of modeling emotional attunement. Jessie concludes by discussing when to seek professional help and introducing the services offered at Steadfast Christian Counseling. Emotional attunement is crucial in parenting as it allows parents to notice when their child is struggling and provide support and understanding. Recognizing the signs of anxiety in children, such as physical symptoms, behavioral signs, and emotional symptoms, is important for early intervention and management. Being emotionally attuned and providing a safe and secure environment helps children develop resilience and self-confidence. Parents can help children manage anxiety by being interested in their interests, providing emotional regulation, and offering support and understanding. Anxiety can manifest differently in children depending on their age, and it's important for parents to be attuned to these differences and provide appropriate support. Emotional attunement is crucial in parenting and involves being aware of and responsive to your child's emotions and needs. Parents should be mindful of their own reactions and do their own emotional work to better support their child. Practical strategies for emotional attunement include mindful observation, active listening, and modeling emotional expression. Consistency and predictability in routines can help reduce anxiety in children. Seeking professional help is recommended if anxiety becomes overwhelming or persists for an extended period of time. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Appreciation for Feedback 02:51 Overview of Topics: Emotional Attunement, Recognizing Anxiety in Children, and Emotional Regulation 07:37 Personal Reflection on West Virginia Trip 08:06 The Importance of Emotional Attunement in Parenting 11:00 Recognizing and Managing Anxiety in Children 18:19 Building Resilience and Self-Confidence through Emotional Attunement 20:39 Supporting Children's Emotional Regulation 25:55 Understanding the Different Manifestations of Anxiety in Children 28:18 Introduction and the Importance of Emotional Attunement 29:08 Practical Strategies for Emotional Attunement 36:39 Creating a Safe and Predictable Environment 38:05 Modeling Emotional Attunement 48:48 Knowing When to Seek Professional Help

Welcome to The Steadfast Podcast, where we dive deep into the intersection of mental health, faith, and well-being. In this episode, we're continuing our exploration of anxiety, focusing on how hormonal changes related to premenstrual syndrome (PMS) can significantly impact your mood and anxiety levels. Building on last week's discussion about the neurobiology of anxiety, we now turn our attention to the unique challenges women face during the luteal phase of their menstrual cycle. Discover how fluctuations in estrogen and progesterone can create a "perfect storm" of emotional and physical symptoms, leading to mood swings, irritability, and heightened anxiety. Join us as we unpack the science behind these hormonal changes, explore their effects on neurotransmitters like serotonin and GABA, and offer practical strategies for managing PMS-related mood disruptions. Whether you’re seeking to better understand your body, manage your anxiety, or integrate your faith into your mental health journey, this episode is packed with valuable insights and support. At Steadfast, we believe in the power of what God has revealed through science about how our brains, bodies, and emotions interact. Our mission is to help you care for yourself and your loved ones in healthier, more holistic ways. Tune in, and let's navigate this journey together. visit www.steadfastchristiancounseling.com for more information or to schedule an appointment

In this episode, therapist Jessie Evans discusses anxiety and its impact on the brain, body, and emotions. She explains that anxiety is a natural response that has evolved to protect us, but when it becomes chronic or triggered by non-threatening situations, it can lead to anxiety disorders. Evans explores the role of the amygdala, neurotransmitters, and stress hormones in anxiety. She also highlights the physical and emotional symptoms of anxiety and emphasizes the importance of understanding anxiety as a response, not a reality. The episode concludes with a reminder that knowledge is key to managing anxiety and reclaiming peace of mind. #anxiety #mentalhealth #understandinganxiety takeaways - Anxiety is a natural response that has evolved to protect us, but it can become chronic or triggered by non-threatening situations, leading to anxiety disorders. - The amygdala, neurotransmitters, and stress hormones play a role in anxiety. - Anxiety can have physical symptoms such as increased heart rate, rapid breathing, and the release of stress hormones. - Emotionally, anxiety can cause irritability, restlessness, a constant sense of dread, and difficulty enjoying things. - Understanding anxiety as a response, not a reality, is crucial in managing it. - Knowledge about anxiety and its impact on the brain, body, and emotions is key to taking control and finding peace of mind. titles Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Overview 03:45 The Science Behind Anxiety 09:06 Chronic Anxiety and Physical Impact 13:33 Emotional Impact of Anxiety 15:56 Understanding and Managing Anxiety 17:10 Conclusion and Encouragement

Jessie and Tiff discuss their Trauma Informed Church Training, which consists of two parts: a psychoeducational section and a practical section. They emphasize the importance of creating safe church policies and gaining self-awareness as church leaders. They also discuss the concept of trauma and how it can lead to strength and growth. They caution against spiritual bypassing and encourage sitting with discomfort and listening to others' stories. Overall, they feel empowered and believe that this training is an important part of their work.

keywords: trauma, church, training, safe church policies, self-awareness, strength, growth, spiritual bypassing, discomfort, listening

takeaways

• Creating safe church policies and gaining self-awareness are crucial for church leaders in addressing trauma.
• Trauma can lead to strength and growth, but it is important to acknowledge and work through the pain and grief.
• Avoid spiritual bypassing and instead sit with discomfort and listen to others' stories.
• Recognize the role of autonomy and take responsibility for contributing to a culture that may need improvement.

Chapters

00:00Introduction to Trauma Informed Church Training

01:20Ruffling Feathers and Speaking Truth

03:08Finding Strength and Growth in Trauma

06:26Building Emotional Resilience and Security

12:55Avoiding Spiritual Bypassing

16:06Recognizing Autonomy and Taking Responsibility

18:23Conclusion and Importance of Trauma Informed Church Training Visit Steadfast Christian Counseling for more information

Join Annalise and Jessie for Part 3 of The Steadfast Family as thy explore the concept of family connections through the lens of attachment theory, discussing the various attachment styles and their impact on family dynamics. Practical tools for fostering emotional security and responding to children's emotional needs are also discussed.

- Visit Steadfast Christian Counseling to download this training in its entirety or to schedule a member of our team to provide this course live to your church or school community

-To watch our podcasts, visit our YouTube Channel

Listen in on this fun conversation and grab talking points to bring up with your family after you watch Inside Out!

Timestamped summary of this episode:
00:01:10 - Discussion of Inside Out Movie
The team discusses their experience watching "Inside Out" and the in-depth conversations they had afterward. They highlight the depth of the movie's themes and how it resonated with their work as therapists.
00:02:46 - Representation of Emotions
Emily discusses how the different emotions in the movie represent internal family systems, particularly focusing on Joy as a protector and the interplay with anxiety. Sharon emphasizes how emotions contribute to the formation of core identity and beliefs.
00:08:06 - Cognitive Behavioral Themes
Emily delves into the cognitive behavioral aspects of the movie, highlighting the portrayal of core beliefs and the process of cognitive restructuring. They discuss how the movie depicted the balance between positive and negative emotions in shaping one's sense of self.
00:16:52 - Embracing the Multifaceted Self
Sharon and Emily discuss the beauty of learning and embracing the different parts of ourselves as we grow older. They emphasize the importance of knowing and being open to new parts of ourselves.
00:17:32 - Playing in Tune in the Orchestra
The discussion touches on the importance of helping our internal parts find their place, similar to playing in tune in an orchestra. They also highlight the significance of getting to know the wise part of ourselves, which is the conductor of our internal orchestra.
00:19:38 - Secure Attachments and Emotional Growth
The conversation delves into the impact of secure relationships on navigating internal family systems. They note how secure attachments with parents and friends contribute to emotional growth and self-awareness, as seen in the movie's portrayal of Riley's relationships.
00:21:20 - Trauma and Secure Attachments
Emily reflects on the effects of trauma on attachments, emphasizing the importance of secure relationships in managing anxiety and panic attacks. The discussion explores the potential outcomes if Riley didn't have secure relationships and the impact on her emotional well-being.
00:33:41 - Understanding the Internal Experience of Panic Attacks
Sharon and Emily discuss the accurate portrayal of the internal experience of a panic attack in a movie, highlighting the merging of frozen and tornado-like feelings, and the emotions trying to pull and free the individual.
00:34:17 - Incorporating Emotional Learning in Schools
Sharon expresses how she would incorporate the movie in emotional learning for school counselors and students, emphasizing the value of the film in teaching emotional intelligence and understanding different emotions.
00:35:21 - The Impact of the Movie on Children
Sharon discusses her children's reactions to the movie, highlighting how it helped them understand and express their emotions, and emphasizes how language from the movie can be beneficial for teachers, school counselors, and families.
00:36:21 - Cultural Shift in Embracing Emotional Well-Being
The conversation delves into the societal shift towards celebrating emotional health and well-being, and the diminishing stigma around seeking help for emotional issues, emphasizing the importance of addressing emotional well-being proactively.
00:37:54 - Closing Thoughts and Gratitude
The hosts wrap up the conversation with gratitude for the discussion, emphasizing the value of spending time with the audience and encouraging them to check out their resources for leaders and counseling services.

The resources mentioned in this episode are:

• Steadfast Christian Counseling - Visit the Steadfast Christian Counseling website for more information about their services, workshops, monthly virtual groups, and yearly summit

If you're feeling overwhelmed by the constant struggle to connect with your kids and build a secure attachment, then you are not alone! Maybe you've tried various parenting techniques, but you're still finding it challenging to create a strong emotional bond with your children. Instead of feeling the warmth of a secure attachment, you might be experiencing frustration and a sense of disconnection. It's time to explore practical tips that can truly make a difference in fostering secure attachments with your kids. Let's dive into some effective strategies that can transform your family relationships for the better.

This is the second part of the Steadfast Family Series. Our full training presentation will be available for download on our website soon! Also, reach out to connect@steadfastcc.com to book a member of our team to host a parenting workshop live in person or online with your church or school community. Annalise and Jessie bring a wealth of knowledge to this discussion, offering insights and strategies for fostering emotional security within families. Their expertise and relatable approach make them a valuable resource for parents and caregivers looking to strengthen their relationships with their children, no matter the age.

If you're watching this and you have adult kids, it is not too late to go back and repair. Maybe you are like, man, I made some mistakes. I really messed up. You know, there is nothing more beautiful than for an adult child to hear, "I'm sorry and I want our relationship to get stronger." from their parents. How healing could that be? It would be beautiful. - Annalise Lind

In this episode, you will learn to:

• Master secure attachment parenting techniques for stronger family bonds.

• Explore effective strategies for repairing and strengthening family relationships.

• Unlock the secrets to building emotional security within your family.

• Embrace mindful parenting practices for improved emotional regulation within your family.

The resources mentioned in this episode are:

• Visit Steadfast Christian Counseling's website for more resources, workshops, monthly virtual groups, and the yearly summit.

• Connect with Steadfast Christian Counseling on Facebook and Instagram for more content and updates.

• If you're in South Carolina and looking for a therapist, visit Steadfast Christian Counseling to get connected.

This is Part One of our Three Part Series on building an emotionally steadfast family. Discover the surprising truth about how attachment styles shape our family connections. Uncover the unexpected impact of early interactions on emotional resilience and relationship outcomes. Stay tuned to learn how understanding your attachment style can transform your family dynamics and create hope for a healthier future.

Our guest for today's episode on the Steadfast Podcast is Annalise Lind, a highly experienced family therapist specializing in attachment theory. With a focus on building secure family attachments and enhancing emotional resilience, Annalise brings a wealth of expertise to the discussion. Annalise's extensive experience and practical insights make her a credible resource for our audience seeking to gain a deeper understanding of attachment theory and its implications for family relationships.

"Attachment can kind of be broken down into four styles. But what I always want to caution people on is like, you know, when people come into my office and they're like, I'm this personality style, or I'm this attachment style, I'm always like, okay, slow down, because this is a moment on your timeline."

In this episode, you will be able to:

• Build secure family attachments for stronger, more resilient relationships.

• Discover how attachment theory enhances emotional resilience and connection within families.

• Overcome anxious attachment patterns to foster healthier, more secure relationships.

• Create emotionally healthy environments that support strong family bonds and communication.

• Understand disorganized attachment and trauma to promote healing and healthier family dynamics.

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The resources mentioned in this episode are:

• Visit the Steadfast Christian Counseling YouTube channel to access the entire Steadfast Family series at the end of the month.

• Explore the resources for leaders, including workshops, monthly virtual groups, and the yearly summit, at steadfastchristiancounseling.com/leader.

• Connect with Steadfast Christian Counseling on Facebook and Instagram for more updates and information.

• If you're in South Carolina and looking for a therapist, visit steadfastchristiancounseling.com to get connected.

• email us at connect@steadfastcc.com to book a live training session for your organization

Discover the unexpected truth about how domestic abuse impacts everyone, regardless of background or location. Click to find out how you can be a part of the solution and support those in need. Stay tuned for more eye-opening insights.

My special guest is Sydney Conrad

Sydney Conrad, a seasoned advocate and educator, brings over a decade of experience in providing education and training on abuse recognition, healthy relationship behaviors, and support resources for victims. As the former director of education and training at My Sister's House, a tri-county service agency for individuals who have experienced abuse in their relationships, Sydney honed her expertise in addressing domestic violence and its impact on individuals and communities. In her current role as the assistant director of student engagement with the Honors College at the College of Charleston, she leads comprehensive courses on civic engagement and social justice, empowering students to become catalysts for change. Sydney's unwavering commitment to advocacy and her deep understanding of abuse dynamics make her an invaluable resource in raising awareness and addressing the critical issue of domestic violence.

Every single person on this planet is worthy of being loved and safe, both emotionally and physically and respected. - Sydney Conrad

In this episode, you will learn to:

• Identify signs of an abusive relationship and protect your loved ones.

• Discover support resources for domestic violence victims and be a lifeline for someone in need.

• Understand the crucial role of faith leaders in addressing domestic abuse and creating safe spaces.

• Prioritize self-care to effectively support friends of abuse victims and maintain your well-being.

• Educate yourself on domestic violence and abuse to become an informed advocate for change.

The resources mentioned in this episode are:

Does it feel like you're constantly struggling to cope with the ongoing trauma of your child's medical journey? You've probably been told to just stay calm and remain stable, right? But let's be real, that advice doesn't address the deep pain and struggle you're feeling. It's time to break free from the ineffective coping strategies and find real support. Let's explore how you can truly function well, move out of survival mode, and find the resilience you need to navigate your unique journey.

My special guest is Dr. Elizabeth Wofford

Dr. Elizabeth Wofford is a licensed professional counselor and supervisor based in South Carolina. With a master's degree in clinical mental health counseling and a PhD in counselor education and supervision, she brings over ten years of experience in various clinical settings, including community mental health, private practice, and faith-based counseling. Dr. Wofford's personal experience as a parent to a medically complex child has steered her focus towards supporting parents navigating the complexities of the medical system while caring for children with unique medical journeys. Her current research centers on ongoing trauma, medical trauma, and resilience-building, offering invaluable insights for parents of medically complex children. Dr. Wofford's emphasis on integrating faith in trauma recovery and her commitment to enhancing coping skills and resilience add significant depth to our discussion.

In this episode, you will learn to:

• Discover effective coping strategies for parenting medically complex children.

• Learn about trauma-informed care to better support your child and yourself.

• Explore the impact of integrating faith in trauma recovery for parents.

• Gain insights into managing ongoing medical trauma with resilience.

• Build resilience in challenging situations to navigate the journey of parenting a medically complex child

The resources mentioned

• Visit the Facebook and Instagram pages for Empowering Hope to connect with Dr. Elizabeth Wofford and access trauma-informed care resources.

• Stay tuned for the launch of the Parents: The Forgotten Patients podcast, where you can find valuable insights and support for parents navigating medical complexities.

• Explore Steadfast Christian Counseling's Facebook and Instagram pages for more information on their services and resources for leaders, including workshops, virtual groups, and the yearly summit.

• If you're in South Carolina and looking for a therapist, visit Steadfast Christian Counseling to get connected with their team of professionals.

• Keep an eye out for Dr. Elizabeth Wofford's upcoming books, including The Medical Parent Survival Guide, designed to provide support and guidance for parents facing similar challenges.

• Check out the short video mentioned by Jessie and Dr. Wofford about empathy here.

The word deconstruction has stirred up a lot of fear and controversy in Christian spaces—but what if it’s not a threat to faith, but a part of it?

In this episode, Jessie and Tiff unpack the meaning of deconstruction and trace its roots—not just in modern culture, but in the pages of Scripture. From Jesus challenging legalism, to Job questioning suffering, to Peter unlearning religious boundaries, the Bible is full of faithful people who wrestled with what they were taught—and encountered God in the process.

Whether you're in the middle of your own spiritual questions or walking with someone who is, this episode offers hope, insight, and permission to explore what it means to hold a faith that’s both rooted and real.

visit www.steadfastchristiancousneling.com for more resources and a full transcript of this episode.

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If you're feeling lost and overwhelmed by your internal emotions, longing for a deeper connection with yourself and others, but not sure where to start, then you are not alone!

My special guest is Kimberly Miller, LMFT

Kimberly Miller, co-author of Boundaries for Your Soul, is a licensed marriage and family therapist, speaker, and retreat leader. Known for her passion in guiding individuals, couples, and leaders to discern God's loving guidance, Kimberly's expertise lies in avoiding burnout and learning to lead inner thoughts and feelings guided by God's spirit. Joining Jessie Evans on the Steadfast Podcast, Kimberly's wealth of knowledge and experience brings an insightful perspective to the discussion on internal family systems therapy. This episode promises to be an enriching conversation, offering valuable insights into understanding one's internal family and the intricacies of emotional interaction.

Understand the healing potential
Understanding the healing potential of internal emotional work involves recognizing how past traumas and experiences influence current behavior. By addressing these wounds and working through them, individuals can experience profound healing and emotional liberation. This process allows for greater self-compassion, forgiveness, and the ability to move forward with resilience and strength.

The resources mentioned in this episode are:

• Visit Kimberly Miller's website at www.kimberlyjunemiller.com to access her wealth of resources, including blog posts, podcasts, and more.

• Grab your copy of Boundaries for Your Soul here!

• Follow Kimberly Miller on Instagram and Facebook for regular updates, inspirational content, and valuable insights into self-kindness and internal resilience.

• If you're in South Carolina and looking for a therapist, visit Steadfast Christian Counseling to get connected with their services.

• For more information about resources for leaders, visit Steadfast Christian Counseling Leader to find information about workshops, monthly virtual groups, and their yearly summit.

Do you want to help your young athlete build mental resilience and confidence on and off the field? Let's dive in and discover the tools to support your young athlete's mental well-being and success.

My special guest is Megan Cannon

Megan Cannon, a former college soccer player and seasoned school counselor, is now the driving force behind Megan Cannon Counseling, where she specializes in helping teens and adults manage anxiety, life transitions, and relationship stressors. With her background as a coach and active involvement in youth sports as a parent, Megan is deeply passionate about addressing the mental health challenges within the athletic community. Her personal experiences and professional expertise uniquely position her to support athletes in achieving holistic well-being, both on and off the field, and to advocate for positive change within the athletic culture for the benefit of current and future generations of young athletes.

In this episode, you will be able to:

• Learn how to support young athletes through sports anxiety for improved performance and mental well-being.

• Gain valuable parental guidance to help navigate the challenges and opportunities of youth sports.

• Discover effective strategies for addressing mental health challenges within the athletic community.

• Harness the power of visualizing success to enhance sports performance and mental resilience.

• Explore the crucial role coaches play in nurturing and supporting the mental health of young athletes.

The resources mentioned in this episode are:

• Visit Megan Cannon's website at www.megancannoncounseling.com to learn more about her counseling services for teens and adults, including athletes.

• Follow Steadfast Christian Counseling on Facebook and Instagram for more resources.

• If you're in South Carolina and looking for a therapist, visit Steadfast Christian Counseling to get connected with their services.

• For more resources for leaders, visit Steadfast Christian Counseling Leader to find information about their workshops, monthly virtual groups, and yearly summit.

Leadership is not a one-person job.

My special guest is Coach Stephanie Lawrence Yelton

Coach Yelton is a seasoned leader with 28 years of experience in the coaching world, having coached at various esteemed institutions such as Wingate, Wake Forest, Ohio University, Boston College, Charleston Southern University and now at The University of West Florida. Her accolades as a coach, emphasizing on nurturing champions rather than just winning titles, highlight her commitment to effective leadership. As a former all-American player in high school and a national champion at The University of North Carolina, her journey exemplifies a deep understanding of the dynamics of leadership. With her extensive background in coaching and playing, Stephanie brings a wealth of wisdom and practical insights to our discussion.

In this episode, you will learn to:

• Enhance Team Cohesion with Effective Leadership

• Build Resilience Through Adversity

• Implement Strategies for Overcoming Failure

• Embrace the Importance of Self-Care for Leaders

The resources mentioned in this episode are:

• Visit Steadfast Christian Counseling for more resources and information about their services.

  Check out steadfastchristiancounseling.com/leader for information about workshops, monthly virtual groups, and the yearly summit for leaders

My special guest is Uriah Gilford, MFT

Meet Uriah Gilford, MFT, a licensed marriage and family therapist and the mastermind behind Productive Therapist, a virtual assistant company dedicated to supporting therapists in private practice. Uriah's expertise extends beyond traditional therapy, as he seamlessly weaves his tech-savvy, minimalist lifestyle and business development enthusiasm into his work. His book, "The Productive Practice," stands as a testament to his practical insights on growing and streamlining practices, making him a go-to figure for entrepreneurs and small business owners seeking to enhance productivity and achieve work-life balance. With an unexpected career trajectory and a natural talent for creative problem-solving, Uriah's unique perspective on delegation and automation is sure to offer valuable guidance for therapists, small business owners, and ministry leaders alike.

Focus on your strengths, work hard, and don't quit. That's all you gotta do. - Uriah Gilford

In this episode, you will be able to:

• Boost your therapy practice productivity

• Master the art of effective delegation

• Achieve work-life balance as an entrepreneur

• Discover the power of automation

• Learn the secrets to setting and achieving goals

The resources mentioned in this episode are:

• Todoist - Task management app used by Uriah Gilford to prioritize tasks and set colored flags for different priorities. Available for download on app stores.

• Auto Note - AI software used by Jessie Evans for automated progress notes. The software allows users to dictate notes and generates clinically written SOAP notes. Available for purchase or subscription.

• Productive Therapist - Uriah Gilford's virtual assistant company that serves therapists in private practice. Offers services such as intake coordination and responding to new client inquiries. Visit the Productive Therapist website for more information and to inquire about services.

  Productive Therapist website

  The Productive Practice book

  Productive Therapist Podcast

• Steadfast Christian Counseling - Jessie Evans' counseling practice in South Carolina.

  Steadfast Christian Counseling Leader - Resource for leaders interested in workshops, monthly virtual groups, and the yearly summit offered by Steadfast Christian Counseling. Visit the Steadfast Christian Counseling Leader website for more information and to access resources.

  The Music for this podcast was provided by freebeats.io

Have you heard the myths about self-care and community service? Myth 1: Self-care means taking time away from others. Myth 2: Self-care is all about indulgence and relaxation. Myth 3: Self-care is a solitary activity. But what if I told you that serving the community is the ultimate form of self-care? I'll share the truth in a compelling hook. Stay tuned!

My special guest is Lindsay Mapp

Lindsay Mapp, a resident of Charleston and a stay-at-home mom, brings a wealth of experience and insight to the discussion. With a strong family background rooted in Long Island, New York, Lindsay's commitment to fostering a sense of belonging and helping individuals recognize the importance of their own stories and paths provides a unique perspective on finding joy in daily life. Her genuine dedication to serving the community and her role as a mother of four position her as a true leader, offering valuable insights into the profound impact of community service as a form of self-care.

"You have to just sit back and register and be like, Yes, this is awesome because this is a gift. Living in the present is self care. " - Lindsay Mapp

In this episode, you will be able to:

• Discover the benefits of self-care and community service to enhance your well-being and make a positive impact.

• Develop leadership qualities and experience personal growth by learning from inspiring stories and practical tips.

• Understand the importance of family and community in personal development, and how it can lead to a more fulfilling and balanced life.

• Learn effective strategies for self-care and relaxation to bring more joy and peace into your daily routine.

Transformative self-care for fulfillment

Transformative self-care focuses on finding joy and fulfillment in everyday moments, rather than seeking perfection or ideal relaxation. It encourages individuals to appreciate the small moments of tranquility and joy that exist in daily life. This perspective shifts the focus from external sources of relaxation to internal contentment and self-awareness.

The resources mentioned in this episode are:

• Visit www.steadfastchristiancounseling.com to connect with a therapist if you are within the state of South Carolina.

• Like and share the podcast with your friends to help others find it and benefit from the content.

• Give the podcast a review to help increase its visibility and reach more people.

• Check out DJ Whitehot for music production and freebeats IO for great beats if you're looking for music.

My special guest today is Whitney Owens

Whitney Owens is a counselor and group practice owner in Savannah, Georgia. With over a decade of experience, she has established herself as a prominent figure in faith-based counseling. Managing a private pay group practice with 15 clinicians, Whitney's expertise extends to providing business coaching services to practice owners nationwide. Additionally, she hosts a weekly podcast and a membership community for faith-based practice owners. Whitney's commitment to empowering others in the field of counseling is evident through her consulting work and speaking engagements at various professional conferences. Her practical insights and hands-on experience make her a valuable resource for understanding the dynamics of generosity in leadership within the context of ministry and counseling.

Resources from this episode:

Connect with Steadfast

Steadfast Leadership Conference

Where to connect with Whitney

Wise Practice Consulting

Wise Practice Summit

Wise Practice Podcast

Instagram: @WhitneyOwensConsulting

Facebook: Whitney Owens

Free Facebook Membership Community for Faith-based Practice Owners

Water's Edge Counseling in Savannah, GA

This is part two of my conversation with Tana.

If you're feeling overwhelmed by the challenges of parenting, and you find yourself constantly struggling to understand and connect with those you care for, then you are not alone! The traditional approaches to parenting and caregiving may not be yielding the results you desire, leaving you feeling lost and unsure of how to provide the support these children truly need.

Joining me on the podcast today is my friend Tana Dukes. Tana is a Christian, a mom, a wife, a social worker, and a small business owner. Tana holds an LMSW in the state of South Carolina and is a TBRI practitioner. With over a decade of experience in child services, she brings a wealth of knowledge and passion for creating emotional safety for children. Tana's expertise and dedication to her work make her an invaluable resource in our conversation about attachment, parenting, and the importance of understanding and addressing trauma in children (and in ourselves). Her insights and experience will provide valuable guidance for caregivers and foster parents looking to support children who have experienced trauma.

In this episode, you will be able to:

• Understand Attachment Styles: Learn how to connect with your children on a deeper level and build strong, trusting relationships.

• Gain insights into effective strategies for handling challenging behaviors and creating a more harmonious environment.

• Address Your Triggers: Discover ways to recognize and manage your own triggers, promoting a more stable and supportive environment for children.

• Cultivate Patience and Compassion: Explore techniques for developing patience and compassion, essential for providing nurturing care for others.

• Create Emotional Safety: Learn how to create a safe and secure emotional environment for children, helping them grow and thrive.

The resources mentioned in this episode are:

• ⁠www.steadfastchristiancounseling.com/leader⁠

• ⁠Home - Connie Maxwell Children's Ministries⁠

• ⁠Created: The Podcast⁠

• ⁠Genuineranch.com⁠

• Check out DJ Whitehat for music production and Freebeat IO for great music if you're in need of music services.

Hey there, social workers and mental health professionals! Have you heard the myths about attachment styles and their impact on relationships? Myth 1: Attachment styles are fixed and unchangeable. Myth 2: Only insecure attachment styles have negative effects on relationships. Myth 3: Attachment styles only develop in childhood and cannot be influenced in adulthood. Curious to know the truth? I've got the inside scoop for you, but you'll have to tune in to find out!

My special guest is Tana Dukes

Tana Dukes is an experienced social worker, holding both a bachelor's and master's degree in social work from Florida State University. With over a decade of dedicated service in child welfare, she currently serves as the LowCountry Director of Foster Care for Connie Maxwell Children's Ministries in Charleston, South Carolina. Tana's professional background, coupled with her role as a mother and wife, provides a unique and informed perspective on the topic of attachment styles and their impact on relationships. Her expertise and passion for purpose are evident in her work, making her a credible and valuable contributor to discussions on attachment, parenting, and community dynamics.

In this episode, you will hear how:

• Understanding attachment styles is the key to unlocking healthier, more fulfilling relationships with the individuals and families you are a part of and connected to.

• Breaking free from unhealthy attachment patterns and empowering yourself to guide others toward more secure and positive connections is the key to right relationships.

• Cultivating presence in relationships is essential for creating a safe and supportive environment for the individuals and families in your care.

• Embracing freedom in personal identity can lead to greater empathy and understanding in your interactions with others.

Attachment Style Understanding
Tana's insights offer a fascinating exploration into understanding various attachment styles like secure, avoidant, anxious, and disorganized, and the influence they exert over relationships. Through examples from daily life, Tana reveals how these attachment styles shape an individual's perceptions about themselves and others, often becoming deeply ingrained patterns. Knowledge about attachment styles, therefore, may equip listeners with a beneficial lens to recognize, empathize and respond effectively to differing perspectives, subsequently promoting healthier attachments in relationships.

The resources mentioned in this episode are:

• www.steadfastchristiancounseling.com/leader

• Home - Connie Maxwell Children's Ministries

• Created: The Podcast

• Genuineranch.com

• Check out DJ Whitehat for music production and Freebeat IO for great music if you're in need of music services.

Want to create a cohesive team with unwavering trust in your leadership? Yearn for authentic connections and resilience in your workplace? I've got the solution for you to achieve just that.

My special guest, Kelly Wells, is a seasoned coach and leader with over two decades of experience, has an impressive track record, including leading teams to state and national championships. Kelly's leadership approach is marked by a rare blend of vulnerability and kindness, fostering genuine connections. From coaching high school and collegiate basketball to his current role as the director of athletics at Morehead State University, Kelly's leadership journey is underpinned by a deep-rooted commitment to community and family values. His unique perspective on leadership, rooted in service, humility, and the transformative power of coaching, provides valuable insights for leaders seeking to cultivate secure attachment and authentic connections within their teams.

In this episode, you will be learn to:

• Discover the pivotal role of leadership in shaping a powerful coaching philosophy.

• Explore the art of building meaningful relationships to garner robust community support.

• Conquer imposter syndrome and thrive in leadership roles with proven strategies.

• Master effective communication techniques for impactful leadership.

• Uncover the transformative impact of servant leadership on team morale.

  
  

  Resources from this episode.

• Check out the book The One Thing mentioned by Kelly Wells for insights into effective leadership and prioritization.

• Consider incorporating the practice of intentional communication and investing in relationships as a key leadership strategy.

• Explore the concept of servant leadership and how it can positively impact your leadership style and organizational culture.

• Reflect on the importance of self-care and maintaining a work-life balance, and consider how you can implement these practices in your own life.

• Look into resources for mental health support, like Steadfast Christian Counseling

If you're feeling trapped by the weight of unexplainable sadness and experiencing a sense of hopelessness in your battle with depression, then you are not alone!
The struggle to step out of your comfort zone, like the feeling of being unable to step out of a screen door, can be paralyzing. It may seem like there's no way out, and you may even feel like you're losing the battle against your own thoughts.
But what if I told you there's a way to find renewed hope and strength, just like the speaker in the podcast found a way to step out of her own screen door and take back control of her life?
Let's explore strategies to overcome negative thoughts and find the freedom you've been longing for.

This is part two with my special guest is Christie Michaud

As a therapist, author, and integral member of the Steadfast Christian Counseling team, Christie Michaud brings a wealth of experience and empathy to the conversation on overcoming depression. Her personal journey and professional expertise offer a unique and relatable perspective on battling negative thoughts and finding renewed hope. Through her candid approach and focus on cognitive-behavioral tools, Christie's insights provide a comforting and empowering voice for those navigating the challenges of depression, offering a beacon of strength and resilience.

In this episode, you will be able to:

• Discover the power of self-care for mental health.

• Overcome negative thoughts and find renewed hope.

• Embrace the benefits of stepping outside your comfort zone.

• Prioritize time with God for inner strength and peace.

Overcoming negative thoughts
Negative thinking not only impacts one's mental health, but it can also create a barrier in one's relationship with God. Christy champions the power of challenging and replacing these harmful thoughts, referring to this as a crucial element of the cognitive component of cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT). By directing one's thoughts towards healthier alternatives, Christy argues that it is possible to regain control over mental health and live a life of freedom.

The resources mentioned in this episode are:

• Visit steadfastchristiancounseling.com to connect with a therapist if you are within the state of South Carolina.

• Check out the book The Believer's Battle Strategy by Christie Michaud for a deep dive into vulnerability and growth.

• Like and share the podcast with your friends and give a review to help others find it.

• If you are outside of South Carolina and need help getting connected with a therapist, reach out to Steadfast Christian Counseling for assistance.

• Explore Freebeats IO for great music, as the music for this podcast was produced by DJ Whitehat and the beat was provided by Freebeats IO.

In this episode of The Steadfast Podcast, Jessie Evans unpacks what Christian counseling really is—and what it’s not. If you’ve ever wondered whether therapy can align with your faith, or if it’s okay to ask for help, this conversation is for you. Learn how faith and clinical care can work together to bring healing, hope, and deeper connection to both God and yourself.

Whether you’re new to counseling or just exploring your options, this short episode offers clarity, encouragement, and a simple next step.

For more information and for a full transcript, visit www.steadfastchristiancounseling.com

To watch this episode, visit our Youtube Channel

Episode mentioned with Dr Wofford

Have you heard these myths about vulnerability in self-care?

1) Vulnerability is a weakness.

2) Being vulnerable means oversharing.

3) Vulnerability makes you a burden.

In this episode, we debunk these myths and reveal the truth about the power of vulnerability in self-care. Discover how vulnerability can actually be a strength and a catalyst for growth.

In this episode, you will learn how:

• Embracing vulnerability fosters self-care and growth.

• Sharing personal stories empowers and connects individuals.

• Surrendering emotions leads to inner peace and resilience.

• Choosing safe people for our inner circle is one of the main responsibilities we have as adults

My special guest is Christie Michaud

Christie Michaud, a valued member of the Steadfast Christian Counseling team in Charleston, is not only a skilled therapist but also an author who brings a unique perspective to the discussion on vulnerability and self-care. Her personal journey of embracing vulnerability during a medical mission trip to West Africa serves as a powerful example of the transformative impact of openness and honesty. With her expertise and real-life experiences, Christie offers valuable insights into the importance of vulnerability in building healthy relationships and setting boundaries for personal growth. Join host Jessie Evans as she engages in a thought-provoking conversation with Christie, unraveling the significance of vulnerability in self-care and emotional well-being.

The key moments in this episode are:
00:00:10 - Introduction to the Steadfast Podcast
00:01:56 - Trauma-Informed Church Workshop
00:03:03 - Introduction to Guest Christy Michaud
00:07:59 - Stepping Into Vulnerability
00:10:47 - Writing "The Believer's Battle Strategy"
00:17:33 - The Importance of Acknowledging Emotions
00:20:10 - Technique for Acknowledging Emotions
00:22:27 - The Value of Transparency and Vulnerability
00:25:01 - Breaking Cultural Norms of Vulnerability
00:30:15 - Transparency as a Reflection of the Gospel
00:35:11 - Characteristics of a Safe Person
00:36:35 - Fruit of the Spirit and Truth Tellers
00:39:25 - Embracing Vulnerability and Humility
00:43:07 - Teasing Out Conviction vs. Condemnation
00:45:04 - Trauma-Informed Boundaries and Humility in Churches

• Find a copy of The Believer's Battle Strategy here

  - Explore more of Christie's work here

• Visit Steadfast Christian Counseling's website to connect with a therapist if you are within the state of South Carolina or to get help finding a therapist if you are outside of South Carolina.

• Like and share the podcast with your friends to help others find it and benefit from the content.

• Give the podcast a review to help increase its visibility and reach more people.

• Check out Freebeat IO for great music if you're looking for music production services.

• email us at resources@steadfastcc.com to find out more about bringing workshop to your church!

Curious Conversations, Not Hasty Conclusions: Leadership Lessons on Influence and Identity

Does this sound familiar? You've been told that to be an effective leader, you need to focus on making decisions and setting boundaries. But deep down, you know you want to have a more meaningful impact and connect with others in a more authentic way. The pressure to constantly have all the answers and maintain a facade of strength is leaving you feeling isolated and overwhelmed. It's time to break free from this cycle and discover the true power of intentional influence in leadership.

My special guest is Amie York

Amie York, an accomplished leader with a master's degree in leadership, has held significant roles both globally within a nonprofit organization and locally within church staff positions. Her extensive experience spans cross-cultural settings and reflects a remarkable blend of ambition, vision, and a genuine commitment to others. Amie's journey underscores the importance of intentional influence and empathetic leadership, offering valuable insights for leaders seeking to enhance their impact and effectiveness.

Leadership is simply influencing another person or a group of people. And so when I think about that, you influence them, whether it's if you're in the corporate area and you're trying to influence them towards the goals that are set for that quarter, or you're a leader in a church and you're trying to influence them towards a certain type of maturity, or you're just in your home or just a friend. I want to influence my friends towards wholeness in life. - Amie York

In this episode, you will be able to:

• Unlock the secrets of effective leadership through real-life experiences and valuable insights.

• Discover the pivotal role of influence in leadership and how it shapes successful outcomes.

• Cultivate a safe and secure environment for your team, fostering trust and collaboration.

Mastering the Art of Influence
Influence is at the core of effective leadership. The conversation between Jesse and Amy highlights the significance of impactful influence, going beyond decision-making to inspire and guide others towards positive outcomes. Leaders must operate with intentionality, embodying and acting upon their core values to authentically influence and inspire those around them.

The resources mentioned in this episode are:

• Visit steadfastchristiancounseling.com to connect with a therapist if you are within the state of South Carolina.

• If you are outside of South Carolina and need help finding a therapist, contact Steadfast Christian Counseling for assistance.

• Like and share the podcast with your friends to help others find it and benefit from the content.

• Leave a review for the podcast to support its visibility and help others discover it.

• Check out Freebeats IO for great music if you're looking for music production services.

Passionate therapist Emily Coomer challenges the status quo by advocating for early intervention in therapy for children and trauma populations, striving to break the cycle of generational trauma and create a brighter future for families.

In this episode, you will be able to:

• Understand the power of early intervention in therapy for children.

• Transform your approach by shifting perceptions of mental health in children.

• Embrace the vital impact of empathetic therapists in healing childhood trauma.

• Uncover how personal backgrounds shape a therapist's passion for helping children.

• Take action to reduce stigma and increase access to mental health services for children.

My special guest is Emily Coomer

Emily Coomer, a licensed professional counselor at Steadfast, brings a wealth of experience and expertise in working with children and trauma populations. With a background in psychology from the University of Minnesota and a master's in counseling psychology from the Chicago School of Professional Psychology, Emily has honed her skills in various therapeutic modalities, including cognitive behavioral therapy, play therapy, trauma-focused CBT, and mindfulness-based approaches. Her commitment to creating a safe and supportive environment for her clients to explore their thoughts, feelings, and experiences shines through in her work. Emily values the participation of parents and guardians in the treatment process and prioritizes building strong therapeutic relationships to help her clients lead fulfilling and healthy lives. Her extensive experience in working with children and adolescents with mental health challenges, including trauma, anxiety, depression, OCD, and behavioral issues, makes her a highly valued member of the Steadfast team.

The key moments in this episode are:
00:00:04 - Introduction to the Podcast and Guest
00:00:49 - Emily's Therapeutic Journey
00:02:23 - Impact of Therapy on Generations
00:13:31 - Shifting Perspectives on Mental Health
00:15:33 - Evolving Understanding of Trauma
00:20:05 - Flexibility in Counseling Sessions
00:22:03 - Embracing the Unknown
00:27:26 - Self-care for Caregivers
00:29:40 - Impact of Caregiving
00:32:52 - Recommended Read

• Visit steadfastchristiancounseling.com to connect with a therapist if you are within the state of South Carolina.

• If you are outside of South Carolina and need help getting connected with a therapist, reach out to Steadfast Christian Counseling for assistance.

• Like and share the podcast with your friends to help others find it and benefit from the content.

• Give the podcast a review to help increase its visibility and reach more people.

• Remember that the podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be a substitute for therapy. If you are looking for a therapist, consider reaching out to Steadfast Christian Counseling for assistance.

• The music for this episode is produced by DJ White hot. Visit freebeats.io to find an amazing beat that fits your style

• https://a.co/d/ff9Mhea Link for Body Keeps the Score

If you're feeling overwhelmed and exhausted from trying to pour into others without taking care of yourself first, then you are not alone! Despite your efforts to stay strong and keep pushing forward, you may be experiencing burnout and a lack of joy in your work. You may already be trying to find time for self-care, but finding it difficult to prioritize yourself amidst the demands of your leadership role. Instead of feeling fulfilled and energized by your work, you may be feeling drained and disconnected from your purpose.

In this episode, you will be able to:

• Prioritize self-care to enhance leadership effectiveness.

• Overcome barriers to achieve better self-care practices.

• Understand attachment wounds for personal healing and growth.

• Set boundaries to improve personal well-being and fulfillment.

• Use therapy as a tool for deep personal growth.

My special guest is Annalise Lind

Annalise Lind, a valued member of the counseling team at Steadfast Christian Counseling, possesses a wealth of experience, backed by a master's in counseling from Dallas Theological Seminary. Annalise's transition from her involvement in college ministry to her current role as a therapist underscores her personal journey in realizing the criticality of self-care for leaders. Her profound understanding of emotional well-being while ministering to others positions her as a knowledgeable and relatable guide for leaders seeking to prioritize self-compassion and establish healthy boundaries. Through her own therapy journey, Annalise brings a unique blend of empathy and insight, fostering a safe space for individuals to embark on their own paths to self-awareness and self-care.

The key moments in this episode are:
00:00:07 - Introduction to the Podcast
00:03:15 - Annalise's Career Journey
00:08:13 - Confronting Protectors
00:11:36 - The Bravery of Self-Compassion
00:15:19 - Forming as a Leader
00:18:25 - Overcoming the Inner Critic
00:19:01 - God's Unconditional Love
00:21:11 - Healing Attachment Wounds
00:23:14 - Barriers to Self-Care
00:31:37 - Personal Growth in Leadership
00:35:39 - Importance of Therapy
00:36:04 - Accessing Therapy
00:36:35 - Music Credits
00:35:39 - Disclaimer about the Podcast
00:36:04 - Accessing Therapy

• Boundaries for Your Soul by Alison Cook and Kimberly Miller - Recommended book mentioned in the podcast.

• Steadfast Christian Counseling Leadership Conference - Save the date for the event held at Charleston Southern University on April 12th and 13th.

• The Place We Find Ourselves Podcast - Recommended podcast for insights on mental health and self-care.

• Steadfast Christian Counseling - For therapy services within the state of South Carolina, visit their website at steadfastchristiancounseling.com.

• Freebeats IO - Source for great music, as mentioned in the podcast.

In a world of unexpected twists, Tiff Holdgate's journey into emotional maturity took a dramatic turn. It all began with a call to advocate for a vulnerable teenager, propelling her into a harrowing reality she never saw coming. But what unfolds next will leave you inspired and eager to discover how this challenging experience transformed Tiff's life forever.

My special guest is Tiff Holdgate

Tiff Holdgate, a licensed professional counselor specializing in trauma, joins the podcast with a wealth of knowledge and a compassionate approach. With expertise in modalities like internal family systems, cognitive behavioral therapy, EMDR, brain spotting, and mindfulness, Tiff offers valuable insights into navigating anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress, and complex trauma. Her personal journey, from answering a call to advocate for a teenage girl to her own healing process and decision to pursue counseling, underscores her profound understanding of trauma and resilience. Tiff's dedication to helping others, combined with her firsthand experiences, positions her as a trusted voice in the exploration of emotional maturity and the effective processing of emotions.

We're not supposed to be afraid of what's on the inside of us. We're supposed to look at it ourselves, be curious about it, and share it with other people. - Tiff Holdgate

In this episode, you will be able to:

• Explore transformative trauma therapy and personal experiences to gain new perspectives.

• Enhance emotional maturity and processing emotions for a more balanced life.

• Learn to hold space and create a safe environment for deep emotional conversations.

• Navigate your faith journey and therapeutic process for personal growth.

• Understand the profound impact of trauma on individuals and their healing journey.

Enhancing emotional maturity
Emotional maturity refers to the ability to handle situations without unnecessarily escalating them. Instead of reacting, emotionally mature individuals respond thoughtfully, considering long-term consequences of their actions. Enhancing emotional maturity means learning to sit with our emotions, recognizing them, and understanding why we're feeling the way we feel, which in turn aids us to make sound decisions, resulting in healthier relationships.

The resources mentioned in this episode are:

• Visit steadfastchristiancounseling.com to connect with a therapist if you are within the state of South Carolina.

• If you are outside of South Carolina and need help getting connected with a therapist, reach out to Steadfast Christian Counseling for assistance. www.steadfastchristiancounseling.com

• Like and share the podcast with your friends to spread the message and provide a review to help others find the podcast.

• Check out DJ Whitehot and Freebeats.io for great music production and beats.

In this episode of the Steadfast Podcast, host Jessie Evans opens up about her personal journey towards embracing vulnerability and doing the inner work required for effective leadership. She shares her struggles with perfectionism, the balancing act of motherhood and entrepreneurship, and the importance of sitting with discomfort rather than avoiding it. Evans emphasizes the value of authenticity and vulnerability in leadership, aiming to create a space where leaders can openly share their challenges and growth. Through her own experiences, she highlights the impact of a leader's emotional state on those around them and the necessity of inner growth for positive change. The upcoming season promises a diverse range of guests sharing their stories, from teachers and therapists to community leaders, providing encouragement and connection to the listeners. Ultimately, this episode sets the stage for a season focused on inner work for leaders, offering valuable insights and inspiration to embrace leadership with authenticity and inner growth.

The essence of leadership is a desire to achieve purpose and affect change in the area that you've been planted. If that doesn't apply to everyone, I don't know what does.

The key moments in this episode are:
00:00:00 - Extended Preview of Podcast
00:02:29 - Embracing Vulnerability
00:04:11 - Growth in Embracing Emotions
00:09:29 - Who is a Leader?
00:13:18 - Call to Action

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In this short but powerful episode, Jessie is joined by Tiff, Annalise, and Christie to offer support for parents navigating the aftermath of a traumatic event. Whether your family has experienced a loss, crisis, or unexpected disruption, this conversation provides gentle guidance, practical tools, and trauma-informed insight. Learn how trauma impacts both kids and adults, how to recognize common responses, and what steps you can take to create emotional safety and support healing in your home. If you’re feeling unsure of what to do next, this episode is here to remind you: you're not alone—and there is a way forward.

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In this episode of The Steadfast Podcast, Jessie is joined by Steadfast therapists Annalise Lind, Emily Coomer, and Tiff Holdgate to explore one of the most healing—and often overlooked—parts of building secure relationships: repair.

Rooted in attachment theory and rich with both clinical insight and personal stories, this conversation covers:

• ​What repair actually looks like in real-life parenting
• ​Why modeling imperfection builds emotional safety
• ​How to widen your window of tolerance
• ​The difference between discomfort and dis-ease
• ​How to be a safe presence in both parent-child and peer-to-peer relationships

Whether you're raising toddlers or teens—or working through repair in adult relationships—this episode will encourage and equip you to show up with grace, presence, and courage.

✨ Don’t miss our upcoming Summer Parenting Program!This 8-week online course is designed to help parents build secure bonds with their kids through therapeutic play, emotional regulation, and faith-based tools.

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This episode is a dual drop between Pastor Chips podcast and ours! Find more about Pastor Chip Judd here Podcast — Chip JuddFor more resources, blog posts, and information about counseling services, visit us at www.steadfastchristiancounseling.com. Whether you're looking for therapy, support for your church or school, or helpful tools for emotional and spiritual growth, Steadfast is here to walk with you.

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