Maybe you have that one difficult client who is so resistant, and no matter what work you do with them, they just don't seem to "get it."  

You're not alone, and there are reasons for it! And within those reasons lie the answers. 

Traits of difficult clients: 

1. Resistant

2. Doesn't want to go deeper

3. Frustrated

4. Stuck in the same cycles

Remember that many factors come into play when working with clients on behavior changes, mindset work, or transformations involving emotional components. Their current state is a reflection of conditioning, experiences, and behaviors that have been programmed into the nervous system to automate them. 

Changing behavior patterns, re-programming thought patterns, and processing emotions takes time. It also takes skill and nuance with those skills as a coach. The best way to help your clients, even those who seem "difficult," is to understand the full picture of why they are behaving/thinking/feeling the way they do with a "whole person" approach. 

Often, when you are working with "difficult" clients, what you're experiencing is the stress response in the nervous system. It's not that they are difficult at all, it's just that they have a body, brain, and nervous system that is working. As a coach, this is an opportunity for you to fill in the skill or knowledge gap for your client.

What makes this worse… is if you think of them as " difficult," which is most likely not helping the situation. Anticipating difficulty will put you in a tighter and closed emotional space, making it more likely that you will push them in ways that aren't helpful or be closed off from the wisdom of what they really need. 

When it comes to "resistance" with clients, while this can be one of the most frustrating things for many of my coaches, it's also the most magical thing to work through! Anytime there is resistance, there is something really important underneath it. When we can be willing to lean into the resistance and learn (with the skills to do so safely with our client), that's when we can unlock some of the things that our client needs to pay the most attention to. 

Before I share a story, I'll preface this by saying that a client isn't always ready (or even emotionally equipped to) lean into it. This is why the skills to understand your client and all that's coming into play for them are vital as a coach.  

I had one client years ago who was particularly resistant, that could have been percieved as a difficult client. Together, we could see this pattern over and over again in our sessions. Even worse than the resistance - she was criticizing herself for it. We decided to make space for the resistance. We decided to acknowledge it in the "room" with us, and we allowed it to be okay. This was just the starting point, but as we looked at what was underneath it, this client experienced a softening of her resistance. The topics in our sessions became more relevant to what was really going on for her. And the best part was that we started to release some of the shame that kept her shut down and feeling fearful far too often. 

This is just one example, but remember that resistance is real and has a reason. When resistance is present, we can be grateful that we know where to lean. There is fear associated with it, and as skilled coaches, we can treat that fear with care. 

Okay, all of you "let's take a deeper dive" coaches - I know how frustrating it can be when you're trying to help a...

This week on the podcast, I'm diving deep into a topic that's close to my heart—how a thought-work only approach to coaching can be not just limiting but downright detrimental. Trust me, I don't use the word "detrimental" lightly. It's a strong term, and I'm here to unpack why I believe it's crucial to broaden our understanding of transformation beyond mere thought management.

Typically, I like to keep my energy positive, but today's message carries a weight that I can't ignore. Too many mindset coaches are feeling frustrated with their thoughts, emotionally activated, or caught in a cycle of self-criticism that no amount of "mind management" seems to alleviate. If you've ever sensed that something is missing in a thought-work-only approach—whether for yourself or your clients—you are sensing something important. 

I've been in that dark place personally and coached dozens of people who found themselves there too. I've witnessed firsthand how an overly simplistic focus on thoughts can lead to critical self-judgment and emotional distress. While it's always been a priority for me to help my clients soften that harsh internal dialogue and create safe practices, I'm speaking out now more than ever about what every coach must know.

While I've touched on elements of this topic in the past, this week, I'm taking a stand. If you believe that thoughts are everything when it comes to transformation, it's time to reconsider. Yes, changing your thoughts is powerful. But when we use thought work in isolation, it can also be damaging. This thought work only perspective neglects vital scientific insights about how our thoughts, emotions, and nervous systems interact.

If you're feeling a bit of resistance to what I'm saying, that's okay. I understand. I once fully embraced the notion that all problems stemmed from thoughts. While I saw incredible transformations during my early coaching years, it wasn't long before I began noticing adverse effects among my clients. At first, I attributed these to a "misuse" of thought work. But the reality was more complex.

The key takeaway here is simple yet profound: not all feelings arise from thoughts. Emotions have their own narratives and are often stored within our bodies, carrying important messages. The nervous system plays a crucial role in this interplay, and a "thoughts create feelings" perspective ignores that. In fact, 80% of messages travel from our bodies to our brains, not the other way around.

For example, a sympathetic nervous system response can hijack your thinking, shutting down your prefrontal cortex—the part of your brain responsible for rational thought. This is why relying solely on thought work can backfire. Ignoring the emotional and physiological aspects of our experiences can heighten trauma responses and create a cycle of cognitive bypassing.

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Parenting isn't a one-size-fits-all journey. Each child is unique, and often, parents find themselves navigating the challenge of parenting a child who is nothing like them. Coaching for moms to navigate this territory and address these differences is an invaluable option.

Meg is one of Molly's coaching clients and is so grateful for the supportive community Molly has created. Meg brings this community, which provides a "soft landing" where individuals can grow without external pressures, into her coaching for moms. It is important to create a safe space where clients feel relaxed and confident so that they can have true growth.

There are specific challenges moms face when their children are very different from them. There are common worries among moms, such as maintaining a good relationship and having enough skills to support their children effectively. Moms care so much for their kids and want the best for them, often making them feel pressured to "fix" their kids in the interest of their well-being.

Meg advocates for a gentle approach, encouraging moms to accept their feelings and gain a better understanding of why they feel certain ways about certain behaviors from their children. When moms can accept how they are feeling and create space to reflect on the situation, it can significantly reduce the impulse to control or change their children's actions.

When Moms are able to slow down and reflect on their more challenging interactions with their children, they may realize different pressures or expectations they are putting on their children to fit a certain mold. By stepping back and allowing their children to be themselves, moms can foster a more supportive and encouraging environment, leading to a stronger parent-child relationship.

In her coaching practice, Meg offers free weekly tapping sessions for moms. These 15-minute sessions aim to help moms relax and take the edge off, especially during the summer when parenting can be particularly challenging. Sign up for this wonderful opportunity here.

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Meg is a mom of 3 kids within 4 years, wife, certified life coach, fitness enthusiast, and is passionate about helping other moms show up as the parent & woman they want to be. She focuses on helping moms navigate the unique journeys of all children, no matter their abilities or needs.

Meg invites listeners to a one-on-one starting point session, where she helps moms better understand their situation and develop a plan for improving their relationship with their children. She emphasizes the value of coaching and the profound impact it can have not just on the moms but on their entire family.

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Writing persuasive sales copy that remains authentic and ethical can be really difficult. How do you move people emotionally to say yes to your offer? How do you do that while maintaining integrity and remaining true to you? If you’ve sat staring at a blank page, wondering how to effectively convey your offer without being too vague or too pushy, knowing some frameworks and strategies of the trade can help!

In this episode, I am excited to have Professional Copywriter, Kim Kiel with me to share how she constructs ethical sales copy that works. Along with numerous tips and insights, Kim shares three specific ways to make your copy more readable. We also discuss avoiding sales-speak, offering genuine limited-time promotions, being aware of stereotypes, and why asking for the sale is actually an act of love.

“When you can start to think of sales being of service and being an act of love and being an act of joy and an act of exchange… Then it gives us more permission to show up and sell in a way that actually feels authentic and true to our values and our purpose.” – Kim Kiel

• Committing to ethical copywriting
  • Avoid sales-speak and false scarcity
  • Ethical and effective deadline setting
  • Be mindful of digital blackface – beware of overlooking stereotypes
  
  
• Sales as an act of love and service
• How to make your copy more readable
• • Write to your bestie
  • Go outside your bubble
  • The rule of you
  
  
• Give appropriate time for a decision
• Ask for feedback

Kim is a direct response strategist and founder of the boutique copywriting agency Kim Kiel Copy. With 15+ years of writing multi-6-figure campaigns for small businesses and nonprofits, Kim helps brainy brands and experts share their gifts and positive impact with the world. She has a knack for instantly capturing a client’s voice and writing elegantly persuasive copy. When she's not nerding out on sales psychology in her home of Edmonton, Alberta, you can find her tromping through the Canadian wilderness with her kids or continuing her quest to find her favourite whisky. 

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Similar or even identical tools and skills are used by countless coaches throughout the world. So how do you make your coaching stand out? How can you be unique and impactful? I submit that it’s about progressing beyond just understanding concepts into internalizing them for yourself. This is how you both identify what your niche is and identify with your niche. 

When you identify with your niche, you’ll naturally have clients gravitate toward you. Others who will not, and that’s okay. Just notice and own what makes you different and sets you apart. Embrace the skill mastery of defining you as a coach. Focus on who you connect with and help those individuals. Allow someone else to be the right coach for clients you’re not a good fit for. It’s how you’ll stay out of the compare and despair trap and by truly successful in your coaching business. 

“Even if there are fifty other women with the exact same niche as you, you are going to be unique. You are not going to be everyone’s flavor of coaching… Own who you are and what’s different about you. Because that’s what will set you apart.” – Molly Claire

• First learn tools and strategies as intended
• Lean into your strengths
• Make choices about perceived weaknesses
• Be specific in defining you (what you do and don’t do)
• Leave room for growth

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To our bodies, the past, present and future are all the same. Emotions that arise from situations or memories of instances manifest in the body, regardless of when they occurred in time. This phenomena allows the method of tapping to be used to help release negative emotions, such as anxiety, and to calm the body in the present. How exactly does this work?

In today’s episode, I talk with Tapping Coach, Melanie Fay, about what tapping is, how it works and how it can be used to help clients. Tapping is very connected to and complementary to personal development. We discuss reconditioning the brain, working with memories, making sense of emotions and more. Through this method, Melanie has helped me personally get clear of some of the emotions and memories that held me back. I hope you will try the guided tapping experience Melanie gives us, and go on to look into tapping further.

“Even though I’m feeling this tension, right here and right now, it’s okay to relax. Even though I feel this stress, right here and right now, it’s okay to relax. Even though I feel this tension, right here and right now, I’m okay.” – Melanie Fay

• What is tapping?
• Emotional extremes take our frontal cortex “offline”
• Relief without cognitive work
• Actualization of yourself
• Acknowledging you’re enough and you’re doing enough
• Powerful shifts through tapping
• A guided tapping experience and meditation

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Melanie is a certified EFT practitioner and professional artist based in New York. She is known for her caring, authentic, and gentle approach to releasing long held stresses, emotions and beliefs. When you work with Melanie, you will feel her enthusiasm and dedication to her clients achieving their personal goals and feeling the peace, passion and aliveness they crave. While passionate about approaching a large variety of issues with EFT, she specializes in confidence, self esteem, anxiety, blocks to self expression and creative expression, performance fears, and shame. Melanie works with clients world wide though Zoom.

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Summer fun and relaxation is stiff competition for getting things done in your business. Vacations, kids out of school, opportunities for time with friends and family… How will you balance it all? 

Because you will not escape that inevitable tug-of-war between enjoying summer and accomplishing meaningful work, it’s wise to plan for it. To help, I put together a list of 5 short, sweet principles for a successful summer. These are ones that I’ve employed myself and I hope they work for you as well. 

“Finding the perfect balance for you and your life and your family is not going to come overnight. And you’re going to put plans in place and then they won’t work out, and you’ll still feel some guilt and you’ll still feel some conflict. And all of this will happen. But I promise as you stay committed to bringing in these principles and these practices, over time, you will become more intentional of creating your experience of life that you want and of finding the perfect balance for you.” – Molly Claire

• Principle #1: You get to decide your priorities in your life and your business
• Principle #2: Clear decisions eliminate confusion, conflict, guilt and frustration
• Principle #3: Consider what you want to create
• Principle #4: Decide what you’ll accomplish and not accomplish
• Principle #5: Check in with yourself for success

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By greater abundance, I’m talking about stepping into greater belief. That greater belief that opens up your mind to what is possible in your life and your business. And, from there, how that paves the way for you to help your clients into greater belief, ultimately changing their lives.

“Saying no with abundance means you’re clear on your abundant life and you honor your priorities and the gifts you have to give in this world. Your abundant you shows that someone else will be available and perfect for that thing you said no to. And that you’ll have the abundance to say yes to the things that are right for you and the ways you contribute.” – Molly Claire

• #1: Establish proper value
  • Detrimental self-sacrifice
  • Balance
  
  
• #2: The power of No
  • Prioritizing
  • Abundant yeses
  
  
• #3: Letting go
• Narrow your focus to expand your capacity
• The illusion of security

Relationship Coaches (especially), follow Aimée C. Gianni, M.S.:

Aimée in her own words…

I’m a Therapeutic Marriage Coach. That’s what happens when you combine a Marriage & Family Therapist with a Master Certified Coach.

I use evidence based practices from Developmental Psychology, Positive Psychology and Marriage & Family Therapy, and apply them in a practical, solution-focused way. In other words, I use the Art & Science of Love & Intimacy to help you create a strong, loving, joyful relationship and a meaningful life that you love. One that is full of authenticity, connection, passion, physical well-being and fulfillment.

It’s my favorite thing to do.

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Beyond having great tools and procedures or modes, there are some fundamentals that make coaching truly effective. There is nothing more important than having solid basics. In this episode, I want to share 3 of these fundamentals. Specifically, the 3 coaching mastery essentials I believe to be the most impactful.

These foundations cover everything from examining yourself and how you show up to bolstering your clients’ self-worth and intentionality, including teaching them to create space to simply be with themselves. These powerful basics are not just basic. They are bases. They are the pillars upon which the success of your clients – not to mention the success of your coaching business – rest.

“Keep in mind that the self-worth that you do as a coach is the foundation for absolutely everything your client will do.” – Molly Claire

• #1: The ability to be with your client
  • Preparing
  • Connecting
  • Carving
  
  
• #2: The ability to teach your client to be with themselves
  • Relating
  • Redirecting
  • Recognizing
  
  
• #3: Teaching your client how to be with the people and the things and activities in their lives that serves them and the greater whole
  • Connecting
  • Choosing
  • Visualizing
  
  

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We are naturally storytellers and listeners. We connect through stories that deliver an emotional punch. For your current coaching clients, they can deepen your relationships, increasing success. For your potential clients, they can increase your memorability and attraction. Videos that incorporate storytelling work incredibly well for this. But what if you’re camera shy? Uncomfortable with being vulnerable? What if you feel you're no good or don’t have any stories worth telling?

In this episode, I talk with Aaron Jacobs, CEO at Storied Coaching and OMH Creative about the power of stories in coaching. We discuss how stories are all around us, you just need to recognize and apply them. One of the best applications is by creating videos. It’s really not as scary as it sounds, I promise. Aaron shares the uplifting fact that making stories more impactful and memorable can be learned. He even has a free guide to help you choose the right video equipment. I urge you to give it a try. You truly can uplevel your coaching through engaging storytelling, both on camera and off.

“It’s not a talent to get good being on camera, it’s actually just a set of skills that anyone can learn.” – Aaron Jacobs

• You already have a story
• Building confidence on camera
• Jarring your sense of self
• Marketing through vulnerable connection
• Directing your brain to recognize stories
• Moving from default stories
• 3 ways to up your camera game
• The “Wonderbra” of production

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About Aaron (in his own words)…

No Risk, No New Story. No New Story, No Change.

I have completely re-written my story, stepped into a new version of my life, and now I know exactly how to help others do it as well.

I can help you create a new story for your life too. I have helped hundreds of professionals learn how to identify current stories in their life that are holding them back from reaching their full personal and professional potential. People just like you who felt burned out and stuck.

I lead an amazing team that helps businesses sell more by learning how to tell compelling stories and differentiate themselves by using the camera.

Because you should be inviting your audience to engage with you. Encouraging them to laugh. Helping them feel a connection with their own personal identity that makes their world better than before they started watching you and hearing about what you offer.

Then they become your evangelists. They help you achieve your business goals.

You can learn to tell your audience a story worth listening to. Do it. Do it now. I am happy to help.

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• The value in an email list is incalculable. Unlike a feed in social media that people may miss, an email remains in their view. Recipients may not open every email you send but they are at least seeing your name, and that has an impact. But how do you build a list of potential clients?

  Marketing Strategist, Brittni Schroeder, joins me to discuss building your email list through lead magnets. She encourages us all to take the time it needs but not take too long. I have long believed that most people put off creating their lead magnet because they overthink it. But it really is just something that offers value. You probably already have something such as a piece of wisdom or help you could be offering. So, listen to this episode for inspiration, and then set to work building your list!

  “Marketing is becoming memorable.” – Brittni Schroeder

  What You’ll Learn
  • Having multiple reaches
  • The ease of a valuable lead magnet
  • Ideas to grow your email list
  • Leverage social media differently
  • Craft coordinated pop-ups
  • Pick 2 to start
  • Don’t forget to promote your freebie
  
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  Brittni is a business coach, marketing strategist, social media expert, life coach, educator, digital marketer, networker and mama. Through her business, Brittni helps entrepreneurs automate their business, create systems, convert funnels, and scale to 6-figures and beyond!

  Brittni in her own words…

  I was a late bloomer and my beanpole frame couldn’t hang with most girls my age. Many a days drowning my tears in Diet Coke and Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups.  At the time I didn’t appreciate it, but now I look back and understand I was being taught the importance of personal development.

  I learned early that I had the ability to connect with people. I began a career as a photographer and was the Editor-In-Chief of a Photography Magazine.  I established a successful photography business. My work was featured in the Wall Street Journal, Good Morning America and I was named one of The Most Influential Photographers​ in 2016.

  When I hit my 30’s I was gifted with the 5lbs that never goes away and a mid-life crisis. I was ready and eager for a new challenge and more purpose.  I knew I needed to use my gifts and my story to teach entrepreneurs what they are capable of. I refined my skills and became certified as a life coach specializing in business coaching  and confidence. I not only give you the tools to run a successful business, but I help you manage your mind so you can maximize those tools.  I teach you how to go from good to great in your business in your life.

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There are two basic types of entrepreneurs: those who have no lack of action and those who feel they cannot act until everything is in place. With either approach, there are problems. The first style can result in a lot of frantic action but little measurable growth. The second style can result in little action and a lot of indecision. So regardless of which you are, this episode is for you! 

We all know that increasing your business necessitates taking specific, appropriate actions. Knowing precisely what those actions are can be tricky but I’m here to give you some guidance. Before we begin, I want to encourage you as strongly as I can to take effective action today. Each day you should be doing the things to move your business forward, whether it is something big or something small.

• Appropriate amounts of visualization time
• Some days choose the easy button
• Find and do 3 things
• Let people in
• Step into the personae you want to be

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In us all, there lies a craving to have some certainty, some measure of stability. We know, going into building a business, that there will be ups and downs. Yet, we still long for security. So when uncertainty invades our thoughts, and it will, it culminates in an overwhelming feeling of instability.

But even if you work a regular job for someone else, security is often an illusion. At least when you work for yourself, you tackle that uncertainty straight on. You can choose to embrace the “what ifs?”. And when you do, it can become a strength, rather than a weakness. How? By believing in yourself and keeping your energy high in your coaching business. To that goal, I have 5 tips for you.

• What does it mean to keep energy high?
• Tip #1: Build a 911 kit
• Tip #2: Cultivate good little habits
• Tip #3: Tune into people who think how you want to think
• Tip #4: Give attention to the wins and positives
• Tip #5: Allot space for revitalization

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To advance your coaching skills and truly excel as a coach, you must view and understand your clients as whole people. Integrating cognitive, emotional, and nervous system awareness methods allows you to adjust your approach fluidly based on your clients' needs. This adaptability ensures smoother sessions and enables you to guide clients intuitively and effectively.

As coaches, we are passionate about providing exceptional experiences for our clients. For those dedicated to transformational change, safety, and ethics, enhancing your coaching skills is paramount. This workshop series is designed for you.

My foundational training was through the Life Coach School, where I mastered the cognitive coaching model. Cognitive approaches are incredibly effective yet not holistic. My experience with cognitive coaching showed that it could only go so far. Cognitive coaching is excellent for mindset work, but the emotional and physical aspects that also affect our clients need to be addressed.

Emotions and past traumas are stored in the body, affecting our clients deeply. Solely relying on cognitive approaches might not only be ineffective but detrimental. Embracing emotion-focused modalities ensures that we address these emotional blocks. Combining cognitive strategies with emotion-focused ones can supercharge your ability to help clients create lasting change.

Nervous system awareness is critical for advancing your coaching skills. Your clients might experience fight-or-flight responses in coaching sessions or in their daily lives. Knowing how to help your clients understand and manage their nervous systems can vastly improve the effectiveness of your coaching. If a client continually has a stress response in specific situations, your interventions must address this underlying activation to facilitate true change.

Finally, many coaching programs emphasize action plans. While structured actions are beneficial, they often fail when clients have underlying emotional blocks or conflicting beliefs. A comprehensive understanding of your client's emotional states and beliefs allows you to tailor action plans that align with their unique situation, removing friction and fostering real progress.

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Take advantage of this opportunity to revolutionize your coaching and make an even bigger impact on your clients' lives.

This is very exciting. Each of us has equal opportunity to rise up, to stand out, to count ourselves among the best of the best. So let’s talk for a few minutes about how to achieve success in your coaching business.

• Provide relevant value
• • 3 areas of relevance
  
  
• Uphold a foundation of ethics
• • 3 areas of ethics and integrity
  
  
• Operate with a high level of professionalism
• • 2 areas of professionalism
  
  
• Set a standard

For more on ethics and integrity in your business, I invite you to listen to these previous episodes of The Masterful Coach:

• Ethics and Coaching: Integrity in your business
• Unacceptable Coaching Practices
• Business Autopilot

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Business building is an ebb and flow. But it can be all too easy to fall into the thinking trap of “all or nothing” when it comes to ourselves, our success, and our business growth. In reality, growing your business is largely about your internal evolution, becoming more of who you’re meant to be, and who you want to be. That is how we each fulfill our purpose and mission.

As we work with clients, it may be apparent when they struggle with this all or nothing thinking trap. However, it can be more difficult to spot within ourselves. In this episode, I want to provide you some space, to take a look at where it’s coming up for you and how it’s impacting you. I hope with this different perspective you’ll be able to embrace new experiences in your business and not be as impacted by up and down thinking.

• Defining all or nothing thinking
  • The extremes
  • Contrasts in money thoughts
  • Perfect balance vs ditch it all
  
  
• Why it’s a problem
  • Emotional upheaval
  • The power of middle space
  • Temptation to quit
  
  
• What to do about it
  • Take note
  • Detangle your dreams from others’
  • Mitigate fear
  
  

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One of the most frustrating times in business is desiring an incredible launch of a new offering but not knowing how to make it amazing. You might struggle with thoughts of “this will never work” or “I’m not where I want to be”. Those are normal discouragements… but no way are we going to hang out in “normal”. Instead, let’s use the power of acknowledgement to enjoy what is coming together and what is working for you. That will give you fuel and fire to keep pressing toward your sales goal.

In this episode, I wanted to share the recent experiences my team had with our launch of the next session of The Coaching Collective. We had huge success and I noted five key things, in particular, that made it so. As I go over them, you’ll notice that they weren’t isolated things. Everything (and everyone) working together and combining our skills, energy and momentum made our launch unparalleled. Now, you may be a solopreneur and not have a team. That’s okay. These principles still apply. So whether you’re going it alone, you have a large team, or you're somewhere in between, here are 5 tips for your best sales launch ever.

• #1: Preparing Your Audience
  • Value and connection
  • The lead-up
  • Nurturing safety
  
  
• #2: Roles and Goals
  • Clarity and quality
  • Integration
  • Defined outcomes
  
  
• #3: Accountability and Check Ins
  • Specifics in leadership and follow-through
  • Curiosity around unmet goals
  • Facilitating upleveling
  
  
• #4: Energy and Vibe
  • Core values and mission
  • Intentionality
  • Recognizing individual values
  
  
• #5: Your Relationship with Your Number
  • Frequent emotional alignment
  
  

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Books full of advice to help kids through divorce, and everything that comes after it, abound by the hundreds. But they are typically written from an adult perspective, not necessarily a kid’s. Daisy Freestone is changing that with her new book, A Kid’s Guide to Divorce and Life After It: Tips, Tricks and More. 

Daisy Freestone is my daughter and she’s written and illustrated a book full of tips, tricks, thoughts and feelings regarding divorce, all from her own perspective. It’s set to launch very soon and we’d love the support of everyone listening to help make the book a bestseller on Day #1. You can sign up to purchase at launch, help us spread the word, and even to interview Daisy. 

In the meantime, I thought Daisy could provide some valuable insight for us coaches. As we coach, we deal with emotions and thoughts and feelings on a daily basis. So I asked Daisy to share some of her experiences and thoughts for helping people and changing lives, no matter your age.

“What if I sound weird? What if people can’t relate to this?… Do I even know what I’m doing here?... And I think that might be something coaches experience a lot building their business... I don’t know what I’m doing. I don’t trust myself to do this… I can’t do this. I’m going to sound weird to my clients. And I don’t think that’s true. Everybody is just working hard and trying to do our best. And it will always turn out great.” – Daisy Freestone

• What inspired you to write the book?

• • Some parts of divorce are easy and bonuses, some are not
  • Personal growth, depth and meaning
  • Passionate about sharing her experiences and connecting with other kids of divorce
  
  

• What impact do you hope it has?

• • The reaction to Daisy’s book and sharing her story
  • Sage advice voice that motivates
  • Help with hypotheticals and realities
  
  

• What was your biggest challenge and how did you move past that?

• • Doubts, concerns, uncertainty
  • Love and support, get rid of negative voice in her head
  • Finding motivation to complete it
  
  

• Most fun part?

• • The cover contest
  • Connecting with other kids
  
  

• How has it been sharing your own experience and story?

• • A special and healing experience
  
  

• What advice would you give for someone nervous to do something big?

• • Trust the process, trust yourself
  • You’re never alone
  
  

“Hi, I’m Daisy and I can’t wait to share my book with you!  It’s a Kid’s Guide to Divorce (and what comes after) and I’ve written it from my perspective. Will you help me spread the word?”

For me, my 2022 is going to be all about more openness, flow, allowing, receiving, and expanding the people that I’m able to reach. I hope you plan something similar for your new year. Together, we can increase the  change for good and positive impact we have in this world.

To that end, in this episode, I touch on the topic of visualization to achieve your goals. I offer you some guidance and, hopefully, some inspiration. No matter whether you consider yourself practical and scientific or more “woo-woo” (in the realm of the spiritual), visualization can change your life and your business. It can be like having multiple amazing team members!

• The science of visualization
  • The Success Principles by Jack Canfield (mainly Chapter 11)
    • Visualization greatly accelerates achievement
      • Activates power of subconscious
      • Programs your RAS
      • Magnitizes people and resources you need
      
      
    
    
  • Also applies to learning anything new
  
  
• The story of Major James Nesmeth
  • POW for 7 Years
  • Played golf in his mind in minute detail
  
  
• Bringing visualization into your life
  • Be precise
  • Be consistent
  • Be excited
  
  

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As we dive into the New Year, it’s important to look at our money in a serious, yet easygoing, way. Easygoing? When taxes and budgets and forecasts and cash flow and all the “can I afford to…” questions can be overwhelming and massively stress-inducing? Yes, with the right help and guidance. After all, as coaches, we have some specific expenditures and numerous online expenses. We can’t have just anyone help us and we certainly can’t do things only part way. This is where having excellent bookkeeping (and possibly hiring a bookkeeper) comes in. 

Mark Butler is my go-to guy when it comes to financials. I originally met Mark when he was the CFO for The Life Coach School. Since then, we’ve gotten to know one another quite well through working together on various efforts, coaching, bookkeeping and financial questions. Mark’s genius superpower is that he has the ability to view money in a neutral way. Peeling away the emotions wrapped around money is key to succeeding not only financially but also in wisely appropriating energy to build one’s business.

“A lot of people struggle to view money as a fact. They give it a lot of meaning and it carries a lot of hope, shame, anger… and a lot of emotion tied up in money.” – Mark Butler

• Mark’s superpower 

• • Emotions and money
  • Mark’s emotional history that drew him to be a money guy
  • Journey to money neutrality
  • Is there really a connection between “happy and fulfilled” and money?
  
  

• The de-weaponizing of terms like abundance, money, wealth

• • Proper balance with limiting and non-limiting beliefs
  • Transitioning away from fear and shame into curiosity
  
  

• Common money challenges for coaches 

• • Vote of confidence: Having a dedicated checking account and credit cards
  • Failing to celebrate
  • Inadequate tax preparations
  • Building a team: wage questions, building relationships, and beyond
  • Viewing people as brains, not just hands
  
  

• Not really about “Figuring out the money piece” 

• • Marketing issues
  • Making decisions from fear
  • Not the only meaningful signal
  • Money is exponential, not linear
  • Create a meaningful mark list
  
  

• Most successful coaching businesses 

• • Marketing rhythm
  • Generate enthusiasm to repeatedly say things that resonate
  • Enjoy the work you’re doing
  
  

Mark Butler started Let’s Do The Books to meet the need and desire of business owners to have a bookkeeper...

Sometimes we know we’re in a rut, and sometimes we may be in one and not even recognize it. Exactly what might ruts look like to identify them? As we move into the new year, it’s the perfect time to evaluate: Evaluate your processes and where you’re going, are there places you’re stuck? Give yourself time and space to just be. Put some distance between yourself and your business to shift your view. This clears your mind and allows you to see things you might be overlooking.

In this episode, I discuss what a business rut might look like and how to get out of it. A few big flags are things like avoidance, drudging through, or procrastination. Although those can be just a normal part of dealing with the necessities of business, if you find yourself struggling with the same thing over and over, you might be in a rut.

• Check in with yourself, your alignment with your values and your mission 

• • Misalignment of priorities resulting in self-sabotage
  
  

• • Are you trying to live someone else’s life?
  
  

• Check on any lingering insecurities regarding what you’re offering in your business

• • Identify thoughts that reveal insecurities
  • Direct addressing them
    • Question whether they are truth
    • Make some changes
    
    
  
  

• Shake things up 

• • If you were starting over, what would you do differently?
  
  

• Do something you’re excited about, even if it makes no sense 

• • Deal with the arguments that crop up
  
  

• Give yourself the gift of a belief detox

• • Carve time and space to foster curiosity and gain perspective
  
  

• • Bring in new, healthy beliefs to overwrite beliefs that aren’t serving you
  
  

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A voice coach is not just so you can sing more beautifully or speak more eloquently. There is an entire psychology behind how you speak and the underlying signals you’re giving off. Professional voice coach, Tracy Goodwin, has developed Psychology of the Voice® – she can tell you the subconscious signals you are broadcasting with your voice. It flows from the reality that we get impressions about people, regardless of the words they are using.

In this episode, Tracy and I dive into how this works and how you can retrain your voice to be the truly valuable asset it is. You can correct impressions that give others the wrong vibe of who you are and mend misinterpretations of your intentions. To demonstrate how this all works, I put myself into a vulnerable position during this episode. Tracy graciously agreed to evaluate my voice on the fly and share the insights she sees. You won’t want to miss a moment!

• Psychology of the Voice®  

• • The tiniest sound can make all the difference
  • Being truly understood
  • Unlayering yourself
  
  

• Impact of having a voice coach
  • Leveling up
  • Increase genuine connections
  
  

• The why  
• • Dealing with imposter syndrome
  • The reluctant voice coach
  
  

• Evaluating Molly’s voice  

• • Vulnerability of voice
  • Analyzing nerves: the peacekeeper; the remnant of muscle memory
  • Sound that splits; subconscious withholding
  • The psychology of “it’s okay to have what I want”
  • Voice patterns: exploring the core driver and who it’s serving
  • Inside and outside work
  • Are you hiding behind a mask or is that really you?
  
  

• Revealing Authenticity  

• • Rolling in all the shades of you
  • Identifying and removing voice masks
  
  

• What does it take to Captivate the Room?

• • Create unpredictability
  • Show me the true you
  • Connect with, understand and serve and others
  
  

Meet Tracy:

I was raised in a family where children were to be seen and not heard. I started winning speaking awards when I was 12 years old. It was the one platform to use my voice and I thrived in that space. I went on to be an award-winning actor and director. In my freshman year of college as I was studying acting, I had a horrific event happen on stage and in an instant, my voice changed. It was that moment that set the real stage for the work I do today, Psychology of the Voice®.

Over the last 30 years, I’ve had the honor of transforming the lives of hundreds of executives,...

But the reality is, your business is important to you and it needs attention. But how do you strike a balance between creating the life you want, and not spending enough time on your business? The answer is to be intentional. Driven by purpose, the time and space you set aside to work on your business will generate a successful, meaningful business. You’ll give proper attention to your business while creating the life you want.

• Taking a bird’s eye view of your life
  • How well have you set yourself up in your life to build your business? Think about your…
    • Time
    • Energy
    • Commitment
    • Focus
    • Relationships
    • Financial investment in your business
    
    
  
  
• Relationships: Are yours supportive or hindering?
  • Categorize the types of relationships you have
    • Standing behind
    • Standing beside
    • Standing in front
    
    
  
  
• Time and energy: Do you have enough?
  • Shifting and designating
  • Making small changes
  
  
• Commitment: Do you have clarity?
  • Overcoming fear
  • Minimizing frustration and vagueness
  
  
• Investing in your business: Where are you?
  • Making healthy investments
  • Utilizing what you’ve already paid for
  • Being realistic about proper investing
  
  

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With the new year only weeks away, it’s time to look back over this year. But not just to reflect -- to acknowledge. As you acknowledge how you’ve shifted and aligned your business over the past year, you energize yourself for the year to come. You capture and release stored momentum you’ve already created. And with this as your fuel, you can make a more comprehensive and meaningful plan for your business for the new year. 

To begin, I encourage you to take the time to immunerate all your accomplishments, big or small, from this year. How you’ve leaned more deeply into your own values and purpose, unveiled a better version of yourself, and became more true to yourself than just one year ago. As you rightfully recognize and celebrate, allow me to offer you some tips and guidance to help your planning for the coming year. These are techniques and ideas we teach in our Coaching Collective, and I use them myself.

• Increase your business and ideal life alignment

• Remember your values and purpose

• • Bring into your planning
  • Consider how your business supports your relationships
  • Shape your daily life experience
  
  

• Set a measurable goal, a tangible result

• Select projects that advance you toward your goal

• • Break down projects into manageable tasks
  
  

• Identify a new skill to learn or one to sharpen

• Lean into it to uplevel

• • Choose one that would increase and improve your business
  • Listen to, read, and learn from the best
  • Practice, practice, practice
  
  

• Plan energy and excitement creation

• • Generate and perpetuate energy to compel you through the mundane
  • Lean into what you love
  • Connect with your purpose and your people
  • Allow creativity while remaining focused
  
  

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A common misconception is that businesses must be active on social media to succeed. Robyn shared that many multi-million dollar businesses thrive without a robust social media presence, focusing instead on building a strong foundation. Building a solid foundation is invaluable to your business success.

A solid business foundation begins with a personal brand. By being distinct and clear about who you are and the results you can deliver, you set yourself up for sustainable business success.

A business foundation needs

1. an optimized website
2. an engaged email list

Unlike what you post on social media platforms, you have complete control over these elements, which are up to the platform's discretion.

When you want to attract your ideal or soulmate clients, you must be extremely clear on what you provide and who you are there to help. Robyn describes these as soulmate clients - clients with whom you share a deep and meaningful connection, leading to better results and long-term relationships. Unlike the superficial connections often formed on social media, soulmate clients are those who truly understand your value and are aligned with your mission.

Being on social media can often lead to comparison and even trying to mimic others' successful strategies. You must avoid mimicking others to be authentic and connect with your soulmate clients. Your authenticity will attract your soulmate clients and differentiate you from others in your field. It also helps eliminate the feelings of doubt and imposter syndrome that often come from comparing oneself to others on social media.

In discussing client relationships, Robyn emphasized the significance of mutual trust and respect. It's not enough for clients to trust you; you must also trust them to take your advice and implement your strategies. This mutual respect fosters a collaborative environment where you and your clients can thrive.

Ensure that you have a photograph of yourself on your homepage, on your About page, and sprinkled throughout your website. On those images, include alt text. Alt text is for nonsighted people to understand what is on an image, and it is search engine optimized. You can include your name, title, and whoever is in your niche. Add those keywords and key phrases for your images because that will help Google see who you are, what you do, and how you do it, and then show you to more people.

Dr. Robyn Graham is the founder and owner of Robyn Graham, LLC, and the creator of the Purpose to Results™- Success without Social Method. With an emphasis on mindset, strategy, and action, she helps small business owners and entrepreneurs, especially those in the health and wellness industry, health coaches, life coaches, and creatives, start and grow sustainable businesses and have a meaningful impact without being chained to social media.

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Does this sound familiar?

“Before succumbing to chronic fatigue, doubt and my inner critic encouraged my overthinking of everything. Overwhelm invited indulging in busyness, over-researching, and shopping sprees for needless things. Striving for perfection and making everyone happy nearly sucked the life out of me by forgetting to think about me. Black clouds hovered above me as I questioned everything I did. I couldn’t figure out how to get out of my funk and then fatigue dropped me to my knees.”

Those are the raw and honest words of Sharon Wirant, MA, chronic fatigue coach, and best-selling author of the book, Tired Yet Wired: Breaking Your Chronic Fatigue Cycle.

In this episode, I interview this beautiful soul. Sharon shares her insights, her personal journey, her CALMR Process and coaching style, and a bit about the unique population she helps. In addition to all this, Sharon reveals what has been the most impactful for her as she builds her business. I loved every moment of our conversation and hope you get as much out of it as I did.

• Who tends toward chronic fatigue
• Sharon’s book and journey
  • Battling chronic fatigue and illnesses
  • Quieting the inner critic
  • Her STOP moment
  • Identifying thought patterns for healing
  • Finding life coaching and the complex healing experience
  
  
• Exploring within this niche 
  • Voicing thoughts and feelings: being a client’s soundboard
  • Grounding within the body
  • Molly shares her chronic fatigue experience
  • Not minimizing the reality
  
  
• Structure of Sharon’s unique coaching and business
  • Tell all, then sift and process
  • Giving adequate time to the F Line
  • I’m where I’m supposed to be
  • Stepping into belief
  
  
• Sharon’s CALMR Process
  • C - check in
  • A - awareness
  • L - lean into thoughts and feelings
  • M - mindful choices
  • R - reflect
  
  
• Business flow, biggest lessons learned, and best advice
  • Blocks, not rigidity
  • Liberating her authentic voice
  • Don’t compare and despair but be inspired
  • Coming home to self; opening up to new tools and approaches
  • Create little stepping stones
  
  

Sharon Wirant, MA is a chronic fatigue coach, and best-selling author of the book, Tired Yet Wired: Breaking Your Chronic Fatigue Cycle. After battling ongoing burnout and overwhelm, one day courage grew within her to redesign her life. She now helps others do the same. She relates:

“Life coaching changed everything and offered me something the medical community doesn’t. I hired a coach, trained to be a coach, and applied coaching tools daily.

Confusion, doubt, and self criticism weakened as my mindset shifted. As my thinking changed and I befriended my emotions, energy began to rise. Tending to my mind and heart calmed my nervous system, along with my medical treatment plan. 

Courage grew within to redesign a life that supports my chronic fatigue by changing how I think and not by reciting daily positive affirmations I don’t believe in. My results fueled desire to expand my toolbox with the Institute of Integrative Nutrition, The Life...

Everett O’Keefe is an International #1 Bestselling Author and the founder of Ignite Press. He’s helped bring to the market over 45 bestselling books, including my own. I wanted to have him on because publishing a book is one of the most powerful and durable ways to spread your message. And coaches who want to author a book no longer have to choose either print or digital, doing both is available and recommended. 

I especially encourage you to have your book actually printed and distributed for sale. In the age of all things digital, there is something anchoring and authoritative about a tangible book one can hold. In this podcast episode, Everett and I discuss how to help you to do just that, along with the power of publishing a book. People need the message you have to share, so don’t delay any longer. Get it written and get out there!

• Why did Everett get started in publishing?

• • Business exposure
  • Credibility and success with first attempt
  
  

• What impact and power does publishing a book have?

• • The Silver Bullet
  • Whispers wisdom
  • Co-creates with your clients as they read your book
  • Opens doors
  • Non-threatening and intimate
  • Makes your help available to those with tighter finances
  
  

• What is the process of publishing with Everett?

• • If message isn’t right for Everett’s company, he directs to another
  • Hybrid publishing style: combines traditional publishing and self-publishing
  • Timeline, cover art contest, manuscript editing, layout, online publication
  • Print on demand affordability and flexibility
  • Bestseller Amazon pipeline method
  • You retain the rights
  
  

• What help is available for writing a manuscript?

• • Pro Tip to get started: Write down your most frequently asked questions and record yourself answering them
  • Don’t be intimidated
  • Capture the backbone of the program you’ve already created
  • Also available: Rapid writing, book coaches, ghost writers 
  
  

• Am I ready to publish a book?

• • You don’t have to have all the answers
  • Just go for it
  • Process deepens your message, creates authority and expertise
  • Increases your business
  
  

Everett O’Keefe is an International #1 Bestselling Author, having authored five Amazon #1 bestselling books. He has also helped create and launch more than 45 bestselling books for his clients....

Questions are powerful and one of the greatest gifts we give our clients. Asking questions. Answering questions. Staying curious. As we connect with our values, and create the businesses and lives we want, frequently asking ourselves questions can be extremely insightful.

In this episode, I ask several questions surrounding key decisions for your business growth. They revolve around what you spend your time on, who you spend your time with, and how you stay focused in your time. Spending some uninterrupted time answering these questions for yourself can help bring clarity to your vision for your business and the life you want.

• What do you spend your time on?
  • Do some things slow your flow?
  • What actually meets your goals?
  • Which tasks do you really need to do?
  • What has the biggest impact?
  
  

• Who do you spend your time with?
  • Who do you connect and associate with?
  • Recommended additional listening: mollyclaire.com/2021/09/29/how-community-impacts-your-biz
  • Which creative collaborations align with your mission?
  • Do you have the right people on your team?
  
  

• How do you stay focused?
  • Are you prioritizing?
  • Do you utilize deadlines and set proper boundaries?
  • How do you hold yourself accountable?
  
  

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• Self-trust is absolutely essential in creating an authentic business for your clients. Through the employment of deep self-trust, you master decision-making; you sustain a business that will succeed long term. It is vital in becoming a truly masterful coach and in meeting the needs of your clients. Self-trust is equally as foundational in crafting and nurturing an intentional life of peace and alignment. With it, you will flourish in your purpose while thriving in building the life you want for your family and yourself.

  Because self-trust is so integral to your business and life, this topic is near and dear to my heart. I talk about it often and have even discussed it in previous episodes. I invite and encourage you to listen to each of these as my guests and I expound on the topic of self-trust.

  Suggested additional episodes on self-trust:
  • Business Mastery: Self-Belief As Fuel
  
  
  • Interview with Andrea Giles: Self-Trust for Business Mastery
  
  
  • Meet The Coaches: A Mentor Coach’s Journey
  
  What You’ll Learn
  • What does self-trust mean to you?
    • At home; a settled feeling
    • Listen to, monitor your feelings; give yourself permission
    • Create and maintain alignment
    
    
  • Why is self-trust sometimes a challenge?
    • Analyze “mistakes”
    • Recognize Invalidated or ignored feelings
    • Book recommendation: Dr. Jonice Webb, Running On Empty
    
    
  • Self-trust in life
    • Honor your desires and feelings; own your wants, instead of justifying
    • Make your own decision filters
    
    
  • Self-trust in business
    • Honor your desires and own your decisions, instead of abdicating responsibility
    • Follow your instinctive responses to the needs of your client
    • Make peace with who you are as a practitioner
    
    
  • Self-trust in coaching skills
    • Lean into, listen to your inner voice, follow your unique approach
    • Stay flexible and tune in
    • Allow space to trust your client and grow their own self-trust
    
    
  
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Speaking and coaching boldly, especially about topics that can be uncomfortable or are typically avoided, is somewhat unique in the coaching world. But even if you don’t coach on specialty topics, boldness is occasionally needed in any coaching business.

In this episode, I chat with three coaches who specialize in unique niches. I wanted to bring them on the podcast to share their experiences. I hope you gain some inspiration to be both bold and purposeful in your coaching business, no matter your specialty.

• Has it ever felt uncomfortable or scary to lean into your niche or to be bold? What did you learn working through that?
  • Overcome fear of what others will think
  • Tiptoe in
  • Follow your passion and fulfill your purpose
  • Push through the uncertainty and challenges
  • Know it eventually gets easier
  • Focus on those who need you
  
  
• What are some challenges you’ve faced in your business?
  • Finding connection to bring on new clients
  • Adapting to the different business structure needed in niche coaching
  • Constraining information into consumable installments
  
  
• What is your vision for your business? What’s next?
  • Move forward, compelled by the motivator of staying true to my purpose
  • Continue the structure that cultivates the life I want for my business and family
  • Keep the discussion going and help more women thrive
  • Tip: Work with all that is you
  
  

I help Christian (LDS) women who are never in the mood for sex learn to embrace their sexuality and love their sex life. Website: amandalouder.com Instagram: instagram.com/amandaloudercoaching | @amandaloudercoaching

Leverage your hormones so you can powerfully create a life you love. Instagram: instagram.com/ashleesorensencoaching | @ashleesorensencoaching

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Thinking ahead of coaching sessions can make them more impactful, naturally increasing your effectiveness with your clients. In this episode, I share four simple coaching principles that enhance powerful coaching. With these to guide you, you can be a more intuitive coach, one who is connected on a deeper level with your clients. This deeper connection will, in turn, nurture a level of service to your clients that is better than ever before.

• Principle #1 - Belief in your client
  • Model and teach bigger belief than your client currently holds
  • Anchor yourself in higher energy and belief on their behalf
  • Treat them as capable
  
  
• Principle #2 - The needs of your client
  • Tune into their needs and teach them to do the same
  • Adjust your tools and sessions
  • Create a pattern of meeting needs
  
  
• Principle #3 - Trust your client as the expert in their life
  • Remember you are the guide but they set the pace
  • Help them discover what they want and their workable plan to attain it
  • Guard against your own discomfort coming through
  • Train them to trust themselves
  
  
• Principle #4 - Be there in service of your client
  • Clear your energy and focus only on your client
  • Avoid the validation trap (Additional help: Listen to my episode on this specific topic: mollyclaire.com/2021/06/23/the-validation-trap-and-how-to-get-out-of-it)
  
  

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Having a measure of autopilot in your business can be a good thing when it helps you automate some processes and prevents things from falling through the cracks. But it can also take a very bad turn and become extremely detrimental to your business if the wrong type of business autopilot sets in.

In this episode, I tackle some dangerous kinds of business autopilots that you want to avoid. This goes hand-in-hand with another topic we’ve discussed recently: business ethics, and upholding both a high level of care for our clients and a high level of integrity. In the coaching world, due to the limited amount of regulation, it is imperative that we, as coaches, craft and maintain impeccable methods and procedures. In doing so, we can help dispel the uncertainty that (unfortunately) naturally clouds the field of coaching. It also goes a long way to avoiding the trap of bad business autopilot practices.

• Encouragement to reduce uncertainty and a reminder of the value you bring
• Automatic patterns that don’t serve us well
  • Always going, always doing but not getting traction
  
  
• Autopilot Trap #1: Not questioning or evaluating your plan regularly
  • Solutions:
    • Identify and frequently revisit your ideal life and business vision
    • Stop and dream
    
    
  
  
• Autopilot Trap #2: Running a mental “should do” checklist without action
  • Solutions:
    • Employ prioritization categories
    • Analyze if what you’re spending the most time and effort on is worth it
    
    
  
  
• Autopilot Trap #3: Taking action on feelings without examining them
  • Solutions:
    • Create a questioning process
    • Suggested questions from Molly to help you stay on track
    
    
  
  

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A few episodes ago, we discussed integrity in our coaching businesses. I believe it is of the utmost importance to uphold a high level of integrity and trustworthiness in our coaching practices, not only for ourselves and for our clients, but for the industry as a whole. Upholding acceptable practices includes not only avoiding unacceptable practices but also being intentional to choose and implement good, quality procedures and policies.

In this episode, I pitch a few solutions to unacceptable coaching practices. I help you understand the problems these solutions avoid, as well as a bit on how the problems can creep in unaware in the first place. When we are conscientious of potential unacceptable practices, we can take steps to not only avoid them but intentionally replace them with excellent practices and approaches to helping our clients.

• Dismissing clients’ thoughts and feelings
• Self-gaslighting encouragement
• Bait and switch (over-promising, under-delivering)
• Abdicating responsibility
• Missing the mark

• Handle dissatisfaction appropriately
• Make space to see clearly
• Protect safety
• Hold yourself accountable
• Ask permission for further discussion

• Delineate when offering opinions versus offering expert advice

• Strike a proper, healthy balance between neutrality, thoughts, and feelings
• An example when processing grief

• Identify when you may not be the best person to work with a client (example: certain traumas)
• Help in your most powerful ways but refer out as needed
• Define the type of work you do: set expectations and perimeters from the beginning

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Oftentimes, thoughts creep in that we don’t realize are affecting us in a negative way. One common example is the myth, “I ought to be able to figure all this out on my own”. Thoughts like that not only place massive amounts of pressure on us, they can hinder us from growth. But the reality is that there is a lot to learn. We are all expanding our knowledge, our skill sets, our mindsets. Allow yourself to embrace that process and learn from everyone you can.

It’s ideas like that one that birthed this episode. I was reflecting on how I regularly hear thoughts from my clients that are poisonous. As our brains are trying to keep us safe, tricky thoughts can sneak in and cause chaos. So if you’ve had some of these, rest assured you are not alone. They are very common. Let’s isolate and deal with some of them -- then move forward and make a difference in our businesses. 

• Remove the power of poisonous thoughts
• • Adjust perspective
  
  

• “I should be further along.” 

• • Identify how you feel when you think this
  • The trickiness of frantic action
  • What powerful and focused action looks like
  • Acknowledge and be good with where you are on your journey
  
  

• “I’m too late to the game. There are too many already in my niche. I can’t stand out.”

• • Loss of belief in abundance
  • Make room for individuality
  • You be you -- don’t emulate others
  
  

• “I don’t know enough. Maybe after I learn more.”

• • Confidence doesn’t automatically come from learning more
  • People care that you can help and that you believe in them
  • Find evidence to the contrary
  
  

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To build self-trust as we build our businesses, we need to take a look at ourselves, where we are in our personal lives, and how circumstances can bring challenges. However, taking care of ourselves and carving out time to focus on our goals can be nearly impossible at times. But when you know yourself more deeply, when you hang in there and don’t give up, when you show up and do the work -- you cannot fail. You may need to go slowly but you will succeed.

Life Coach Andrea Giles has lived this truth. She speaks and coaches from the perspective of having a large blended family and having gone through the pain of marital infidelity and divorce from her first husband. In addition to her coaching business, Andrea is remarried and has 11 children (with one more on the way). She definitely knows a thing or two about building a business while being a present and amazing mother! I’m excited to have her with me for this episode to discuss how personal challenges can be turned into strength and reliable self-trust. 

• Defining self-trust
• • Being okay with not always getting it right
  • Giving yourself the freedom to seek help
  
  

• How self-trust permeates your entire business

• • Honoring what you want
  • Elevating through self-trust
  • Building consistency and alignment
  
  

• Dumping guilt

• • Developing and having peace with your solutions for how to “have both”
  
  

• Overcoming self-doubt

• • Identifying painful stories from your past and making peace
  • Getting your own head unstuck
  
  

• Best business decisions to move forward

• • Jumping into what you know is right for you
  • Grounding yourself in self-trust
  
  

• Shifting self-trust as your identity changes

• • Owning the truth that you have what someone else needs
  • Being good with going slowly
  
  

“I help my clients discover for themselves what is best for them from a place of love and self-confidence.” -- Andrea Giles

Andrea Giles is a professional, certified Life Coach with a coaching program designed for women in the church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints who have experienced marital infidelity. She mainly coaches using online video conferencing, which allows her to work with anyone, anywhere in the world. Her coaching is one-on-one and for any woman who wants to take full ownership of her life and move forward towards a life she will love, regardless of her spouse’s actions. 

Andrea coaches from a place of personal experience, building a strong, trusting relationship with each woman she coaches. Using both reprogrammed thinking and the tools that personally worked for her, she helps women move on from past events and learn to trust themselves and others again. Just as Andrea was able

If you are a coach committed to helping your clients, you must also be committed to personal growth. As you continue to grow, you learn new skills and modalities to add to your coaching toolbox, which will benefit you and your clients.

Building trust with your clients and adding your uniqueness to their coaching experience is why they came to see you. Don't overlook your personal gifts and how impactful those are to your soulmate clients.

Part of adding to your coaching toolbox and being an impactful coach is being in tune with your client's needs. Checking in with your clients and looking for what needs to be addressed so you can bridge that gap and meet their needs is invaluable to your effectiveness as a coach. You are in this field because you believe in what you do, and you not only care about your clients but are devoted to their success.

Remember to stay in tune with your clients, look for what is needed, and then find a way to bridge that gap, whether that means searching for a new modality or shifting your perspective and adding to what is already in place.

One of the things Brenda deeply believes in is to teach what you know. When working with clients, she looks at them and her own journey and growth and asks herself, How can I learn and grow to find the right tool if I do not have the tools to support this particular client?

Part of delivering the best service for your clients is your investment in their personal growth and being committed to growing so that you can help find the right tools to support them along their journey.

Most entrepreneurs have learned to work hard and hustle to get their businesses off the ground. However, it is just as important to learn self-care habits to prevent overexhaustion or burnout. Working hard is wonderful, but not when you do it at your own expense.

Learning to listen to your body and when you need rest and honoring that is an invaluable skill. There is always a list of one million things that need to be done—that list never ends—but it does not all need to be fixed today. Honor when you need to rest, and you, too, just might find that you are able to have your best thinking and coaching once you are rested.

Instead of asking, have I worked hard enough to rest? Ask, have I rested enough to work hard? Apply the tools you offer to clients to yourself first, and make sure you take time to rest.

Brenda Lomeli is a Master Life Coach. Creator of The Last 10 Method and very proud Latina-preneur. Her career as a life-coach has been focused on helping equip women to be DONE struggling with weight and food.

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In this episode, I answer your questions about Life Mastery!

What do you consider to be life mastery? When you think about the concept, do you envision a big house? Owning a specific car? Enjoying perfect relationships? Or is life mastery something very different in your eyes? Through this Q & A, I hope to help you crystalize what it is for you as an individual.

Listen in as I share what I personally believe life mastery is and tips for defining it for yourself. As we begin, remember: No matter your place in your journey, life is still life. It throws curveballs. Learning to take them in stride, and avoiding the self-defeating “compare and despair” trap are integral to success. True life mastery needs clarity, confidence, and inward focus to create what you want. It takes constantly realigning your business to support the life you want.

• Rely on resources and have a plan

• There isn’t just one “right” way to start
• Create a certainty and competency list
• Compile a thought list

• Become clear about your big picture
• Align your actions
• Order your top 5 priorities

• Clarify the purpose of your business
• When you lose sight of what you really want, return to purpose

• Give yourself permission to live your priorities
• Expect discomfort in any shift

• Accept that life is life
• Calculate and allot flex time

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Ethics and integrity are paramount to a reputable coaching business and quality coaching. Due to very limited regulations, we technically have the freedom to adapt our style and the tools we use as we see fit. Unfortunately this freedom can be abused and give our industry a bad name. Coaches can get sloppy, dive into areas they aren’t qualified to help, not uphold confidentiality, or not respect materials they are using. This means that as professional coaches, we all have the responsibility to uphold high standards for our industry and build a trust.

I discuss this important topic in this episode because we want to conduct our coaching with integrity. We want to build a positive reputation, be excellent examples within our industry, and uplevel the professionalism of both ourselves and our industry as a whole. After all, we are being entrusted with people’s lives and their businesses and that is not to be taken lightly.

• Ethically use materials or information you’ve been given
• Give correct credit

• The danger of sharing only in part

• Build your own materials

• Share testimonials appropriately, use anonymity in outside interactions
• Be sensitive

• Collaborate with fairness

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As you grow your business, my sincere hope for you is that you are loving it and your clients; that you are riding more highs than lows. And through it all, I hope that you’re continually upping your coaching mastery. I hope this for you because I know it is an integral part of succeeding in your coaching business and loving it even more. To help, I’ve compiled for you 10 tips focused on master-level coaching. In this episode, I give you these 10 tips and expound a bit on each one.

• Be where you are, practice the basics
• Embrace the idea of being where you are, be present
• Always be learning, but don’t get stuck
• Make connections
• Meet your client where they are
• Let go of rigidity
• Give yourself permission to have your own style
• Don’t be afraid let go and collaborate
• See value in others, don’t get caught in scarcity
• Do your own work

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Uncertainty creates a vague, dark cloud of confusion. It may be uncertainty in your coaching program or the direction you should take. It may show up as doubt that you can properly scale your business or succeed long term. It may manifest as feeling overwhelmed, lacking confidence, and even feeling fear. No matter how it crops up, uncertainty is completely normal. You should expect to experience it at some point in your coaching business, if you haven’t already.

Because uncertainty is normal, it’s wise to have awareness and know some action steps. Employing these will help move you from uncertainty to certainty, reduce worries, and boost your confidence. In this episode, I share three areas of uncertainty and offer ideas for converting to clarity. As you listen, remember that others often see you much more confident and capable than you see yourself. Despite your feelings of uncertainty, you have the skills and the tools to be positively impactful and help others at a high level. You are completely capable, Coach!

• Incorrect valuation; correctly valuing the outcome, not the “how”
• Lack of clarity in your program structure; it’s not about perfection, it’s about connection
• Overdelivering: creating a high-level experience, not just more things
• You have to be sold on it yourself first

• Handling the voice of “I’m not sure this will work”; What does self-doubt feel and look like for you?
• Answer the “what if” questions; How will you experience and handle them?
• Recognize that fear is totally normal. Fear and creativity come together on the journey
• Are you willing to fail by default or succeed on purpose? Inaction technically is action

• Typically stirred up by fear, know your overwhelm indicators
• Get task steps specific; replace the unknown with the known
• Make space for your thoughts and feelings

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In this episode, Jen Taylor, a licenced trauma therapist with numerous credentials and training in multiple techniques, shares her insights and tips. As Jen and I spoke, one important point stuck out to me that Jen really felt to be most important as well. That is: the relationship a client develops with you is paramount to success. This is true whether a client is dealing with trauma or not. But since trauma is usually experienced within relationship, so can healing be experienced within relationship. So the more you can positively connect with a client, the more you can help them heal and improve their life, which is the goal of all coaching.

• An unintegrated response to a physical or emotional stressor
• The nervous system’s overwhelm that marks trauma
• Belief whether or not we had agency over what happened
• Survival brain hijacking
• Emotional and physical symptoms to watch for, tracking body movements

• How quickly does the person recover from an upset?
• Does the person feel overwhelmed and powerless or do they feel they have agency?
• Is it impacting their daily life?

• Help clients develop the ability to be a witness of their own cognitive, emotional and somatic experiences (often referred to as decoupling)
• Increase curiosity to put distance between circumstance and response
• Encourage regulation and staying connected with self during disregulation

• The brain creates thoughts and feelings and sends those down to the body; but the body also creates feelings and sends them up to the brain (how it is all interconnected)
• Using the body as an ally instead of an enemy
• Staying with the emotions that are coming up, creating space
• How to settle into, and make use of, a sensorial response

Jen is a somatic trauma therapist, specializing in EMDR Therapy, Sensorimotor Therapy, and Assisted Psychotherapy. She is also a certified Synergetic Play Therapist (SPT), a Certified Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapist, and is trained in multiple techniques. She works with individuals of all ages, from children as young as two to adults in their 70s. She focuses on a mind-body approach that assists in relief from anxiety, depression, grief, disordered eating, chronic illness, and other impacts on the nervous system from trauma and stress. Jen is also a Life Coach and a graduate of The Life Coach School.

Somatic Psychotherapy uses Sensorimotor Therapy that combines cognitive and body based interventions. EMDR Therapy is Eye-Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing that involves an 8-step phrase process. Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP) uses the only legal psychedelic medicine available for use by mental health providers. Learn more about these techniques and Jen’s services at jentaylorpsychotherapy.com/therapy-services.

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As a coach, you’re typically your own boss. Completely self-guided and self-managed, you’re without someone charting out your day. You may also have the added layer of your business being located in your home. That’s why focus of your time, focus of your energy, how productive you are, and how you manage the day-to-day are crucial. It can be too easy to lose focus and lose sight of our goals. Maybe even occasionally use home as an excuse to escape making a tough decision or dealing with doubt at work, or vice versa.

I want to offer a few tips and some ways to harness focus, move consistently toward your goals, and to especially focus on the things that are most important. The positive habits and mindshifts I share with you take practice and time to come more naturally. Believe me, I’m still working on them myself. I encourage you to work consistently on them as well, because they do make a world of difference.

• Harness the positive focus and creativity of procrastination without the normally accompanying negatives
• Look ahead; prepare your brain; start the juices flowing
• Commit to the end result: have a self-imposed deadline, set expectations, and fulfill them

• Move toward what you dread and take purposeful action
• Use the positive emotional experience of accomplishment as fuel

• It’s not about having more time, it’s about managing your thoughts and energy
• Note negative tasks and thoughts that deplete your energy; Note positive tasks and thoughts that energize you
• Personalize your time of day, task methods, and task order to maximize your focus, energy and productivity

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As a coach, you want to use your gifting to help others create their ideal life and business. Naturally, you also desire this for yourself. But how do you build a committed business that nurtures your ideal life? How do you stay true to your own path and not someone else’s? How do you avoid building someone else’s business or building a business that doesn’t support the life you want?

In this episode, I chat with certified Life Coach, Heather Rackham, about these very questions. Heather shares lessons she’s learned and truths she’s embraced along her business-building journey. She shares about knowing your own values, following your own instincts, and sticking with your priorities. In this, you find clarity. And in clarity, you find joy, definitive action, and freedom. Freedom to pour into others while still building the coaching business and life your heart longs for.

• Recognize self-sabotage
• End the frustration loop
• Commit and recommit to your ideal life

• Discern between what you value and what others think you should value
• Acknowledge internal and external judgment
• Reject ambition shame and surround yourself with a community of support

• The value of why
• The value of progression
• The value of uniqueness
• The value of challenge

• The power of alignment
• The power of understanding yourself
• The power of coming home
• The power of leaning in

• The lesson of not building someone else’s business
• The lesson of being true to your own alignment
• The lesson of embracing personal coaching for your life and your navigation

Heather runs the Latter-Day Saints (LDS) Life Coach Directory, which lists coaches that are members of the LDS church and are also certified through the Life Coaching School. Coaches in this directory work with people both inside and outside of the church. She is also the host of the coaching podcast, Latter-Day Life Coaches, which features a variety of LDS coaches and their niches.

In her own coaching, Heather is a certified Life Coach and works with women who are in a second marriage or considering one. It is her desire to teach women to have peace, safety, love and respect both in their marriage and for themselves. In addition to her own business, Heather serves as a mentor within The Coaching Collective with Molly Claire and Aimée Gianni.

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Seeking validation from clients can sabotage your coaching. It puts you in an up and down cycle of highs and lows and can affect your coaching. How can we identify this validation trap and thus avoid it? How can we keep our coaching free from needing personal validation and remain focused on our clients?

Before we tackle this subject, it’s important to acknowledge that wanting validation is completely normal. As coaches, we naturally tend to seek validation because we need to know we’re truly helping others. It’s part of our helper personalities. It’s only when validation becomes too self-focused that we want to avoid. So don’t judge yourself too harshly.

• How to Recognize the Trap of Validation
• The client is in a pleaser role
• You’re hyper-focused on yourself
• The safe, sacred space for the client is interrupted
• A positive response, rather than what is actually best for the client, is sought
• Honesty from the client is inhibited
• Empowerment is not supported

• Asking if something is helpful
• Getting overly lit up from praise
• Feeling unsettled when the focus isn’t on you
• Seeking validation that’s unnecessary

• Never take credit
• Hold space for curiosity regarding success
• Define your success, separate from your clients
• Stay in your space, give your client theirs

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There is a direct link between the comfort and confidence a client has in a coach and that client’s progress. This means the connection you’re able to create can be the best indicator of their success. I love how Brené Brown describes connection. She says, “I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”

As coaches, we’re in a unique position. We love, we support, we value. We listen, we provide judgement-free space, and we offer guidance -- all without expecting nor needing anything back. This gives us the core to nurture a connection in which we can offer something truly amazing to our clients.

• Listen, identify, and reflect without unintentionally removing hope
• Relate personal experience without projecting into the situation
• Empathizing without adding or taking away

• Identifying and understanding pain points
• Understanding gaps between where they are now and where they want to be.
  • (Bonus: This is also how you sell them on working with you.)
  
  
• Clarifying the why behind what they want, and the feelings they hope to have when they get it

• Believing in a better future for them before they can see it
• Opening up imagination and new perspective
• Helping bridge gaps by drawing out correlations and watering seeds of hope

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I love the old saying, “Life by the yard is hard, life by the inch is a cinch!” I don’t know who first said it but it is definitely true. And it is especially powerful when it comes to self-belief as fuel.

To begin, you need to take time to envision what you’re capable of creating. What is your income? Your reach? Now, what do those beliefs stir in you? What emotions come to the surface? To answer these questions and to begin inching your self-fuel forward, you need to envision what you’re capable of creating. What is your income? Your reach? What do you believe is possible?

As you consider these things, additional questions naturally arise like: How do I stay in belief? How do I stay aligned with myself? How do I pivot? In this episode, I help you address those questions. I teach these concepts in my coaching course and they’ve worked for me and countless others. I believe they will work for you as well.

• Deciding that Endpoint Belief to Gain Clarity
  • Measuring results
  • Assessing your relationship with yourself
  • Identifying how you feel and what you believe is possible
  • Molly’s personal example of working through these concepts
  
  

• Addressing the Beliefs in Your Way of Getting There
  • Acknowledging fears and doubts fueled by thoughts and beliefs
  • Creating space to pinpoint unruly and limiting thoughts
  
  

• Defining What Stepping into Belief Means for You
  • It doesn’t mean what you probably think it does
  • Creating a plan of commitment
  • U-turning brain patterns
  • Creating emotions to get crystal clear and to bring up powerful positivity
  • Stairsteping beliefs to stem doubt and discouragement
  
  

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Welcome to the latest episode of "The Masterful Coach" podcast, where Molly Claire, an experienced life coach, delves into key insights to help female coaches enhance their coaching prowess and create a thriving coaching business. In this episode, Molly and her guest, Sarah Walton, explore the concept of over-functioning and codependence among women, discussing societal expectations, the invisible emotional load carried by women, and the need for recognition and support. Stay tuned to gain valuable perspectives on how to navigate these challenges and uplift women in coaching and beyond.

For the full show notes, go to: https://www.mollyclaire.com/blog/what-female-biz-owners-need-the-care-gap-solution-with-sarah-walton

00:00 Interview with Sarah Walton about women's care gap.

06:22 Teen sacrifices dream to support struggling family.

10:13 Embracing wealth leads to positive action and impact.

15:27 Society's expectations of gender roles and emotions.

16:57 Supporting women, breaking expectations, and lifting each other.

24:32 Reflection on societal expectations for women discussed.

27:08 Importance of checking on "strong" friends

29:41 Women don't have to choose between work and family.

32:05 Practice managing household as training for business.

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To have Life Mastery, sometimes you need to slow down to go fast. You need room to breathe. You need to possess comprehensive knowledge -- that is, a completeness -- of yourself. But knowing yourself and implementing change doesn’t happen all at once. There is a learning curve, a progression, a continuation of growth toward what you want.

In today’s episode, I pose three questions designed to help you connect with yourself. This will bring you more clarity. Then, when more clarity is achieved, your mind is ready for positive progression in your life and business. And when you better understand yourself, your business, your clients, and your personal life can all thrive.

• Describe yourself: in relation to others; what you do; what you love
• How you shine through the characteristics that are you
• Pro tip: Find what you love and do more of that

• Don’t beat yourself up -- offer yourself a place of positive non-judgment
• How to avoid extremes: steps to implement small changes to support yourself better
• How to establish a new habit and check in with yourself

• Connect with your future self to bring her into existence
• Be okay with inevitable learning curves
• Revel in those magical moments of Life Mastery

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If you struggle with confidence or competence as a coach, it can feel like your dream business won’t succeed. But it’s really not a problem to have some feelings of uncertainty. Your self-assurance can always be improved. Just the act of engaging in bettering yourself and your business proves you have some level of confidence. You need only to build on that. When it comes to competence, it’s no different. You can build your knowledge. You can improve your skills. 

But how do you know if you’ve got too much of one and not enough of the other? Somewhere in the midst of mixing confidence and competence, lies the ‘magic sauce’ of coaching everyone wants. In this episode, I discuss this necessary -- and achievable -- balance. 

• Self-worth: Recognizing what you believe your inherent value is (and where it comes from)
• Self-esteem: Admitting what you believe others think about you (and how much you’re relying on that)
• Self-confidence: Identifying your assurance in your abilities and capabilities (and where you feel less sure)
• How to take stock and use your stronger areas to both improve your weaker ones and grow your business

• Driven by confidence, determination and commitment
• Approach 1: Fake it ‘til you make it -- jumps right in, relying on confidence
• Approach 2: Perfection delay -- holding back indefinitely
• Approach 3: Building and working where you are -- while increasing your skills
• Identify specific areas you need to master and areas you’ve already mastered

• How each propels you forward in boldness toward the other
• How to improve each quality using specific actions
• How to step into belief

Aimee Gianni, M.S. -- Master Coach and Co-Founder with me of The Coaching Collective.

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As you sort through what you’re learning and you build your coaching business, it can be overwhelming. But learning the Three Pillars of Mastery brings immense clarity. You can lean on the strength of knowing and applying them to help eliminate self-doubt and frustration.

In this episode, I touch on each of the pillars (aka buckets) to help you start properly separating issues. This aids in stemming what I call “bleed over”. That’s when a difficulty in one area of your business seeps over into another area. This bleed over fuels insecurities and stifles you -- both in business and in your personal life. But knowing the three pillars empowers you to drop issues into the correct bucket, keeping them where they belong.

• Your skill set and competence; avoiding the limits of perfectionism
• Confidence in your skills and ability; avoiding the limits of insecurities
• Demonstrating excellence in already learned skills and in being open to new skills
• How to have a referral-based business

• Knowing how grounded you are in the life you want
• Getting clarity on how your business fits into your life
• How to avoid becoming a slave to your business
• Putting values and priorities in place to strengthen your staying power

• Honing your skills and navigating the sometimes bumpy learning process
• Grounding in integrity and congruence; aligning with you, your values, and your desired contribution to the world
• Acknowledging that even experts don’t always know the best path for your business -- you do

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