In today’s episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I’m thrilled to sit down with marketing guru and best-selling author Seth Godin. Seth shares his near-death experience off the coast of San Clemente—a moment that became a powerful reminder of his mission to teach and contribute. We explore his philosophy of “strategy as a philosophy of becoming” and discuss practical ways to craft personal life strategies that align with our values, whether in creativity, mental resilience, or personal growth.

In our conversation, Seth and I cover a range of ideas, from recognizing societal systems that impact our lives to overcoming societal pressures and finding meaning in service to others. Seth’s “lifeguard analogy” emphasizes the importance of focusing on helping others, and his insights are full of actionable takeaways for anyone looking to lead a more purpose-driven life.

Tune in for an episode packed with practical strategies and reflections that can help you shape a life you’re proud of.

Topics Covered:

• Breaking Down Writer’s Block and Building Creative Confidence
• The Lifeguard Analogy: Why Starting with Generosity Can Change Your Life
• Recognizing the Systems That Influence Our Daily Lives
• How Strategy and Mental Health Intersect in Our Modern World
• Building Powerful Daily Creative Habits
• Avoiding the Trap of Playing Games We’re Meant to Lose
• Developing Authentic Networks and Finding Your Community

Timestamps:

00:15 — Introduction: Meet Seth Godin
02:05 — Breaking Down Writer’s Block and Building Creative Confidence
06:00 — Learning Through the Lifeguard Analogy: How to Start Contributing Now
12:15 — Recognizing the Systems Shaping Our Lives
18:30 — Personal Strategy and Mental Health: How They Intersect
24:00 — The Power of Daily Creative Habits
30:40 — Real-Life Applications: Who's It For, What's It For?
36:25 — Avoiding the Trap of Playing Games We’re Meant to Lose
41:50 — How Strategy Can Help Us Cope with Modern Mental Health Challenges
47:05 — Building Authentic Networks and Finding Community

About the Podcast
I’m Dr. Robert Duff, a clinical psychologist dedicated to breaking down complex mental health topics into relatable, actionable advice. On the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, we dive deep into mental health, personal development, and practical strategies to help you thrive. Each episode features expert interviews, useful tips, and answers to listener questions, all to support your journey toward a healthier, more fulfilling life.

Guest Links:

• Seth’s Latest Book: This is Strategy
• Seth Godin’s Blog: Seth's Blog
• Seth’s Podcast: Akimbo Podcast

Connect With Me:

• Website: duffthepsych.com
• Instagram: @duffthepsych
• YouTube: Dr. Duff’s Channel

In this episode, I sit down with Anna Runkle, better known as the Crappy Childhood Fairy, to explore her journey of healing from childhood PTSD and the unique methods she has developed to help others do the same. Anna has helped hundreds of thousands of people worldwide re-regulate their nervous systems and recover from deep emotional wounds using simple but powerful techniques. We dive deep into what childhood PTSD really is, how it differs from complex PTSD, and what doctors often get wrong about trauma. Anna also shares her personal story of growing up in a chaotic commune, the lasting effects of emotional neglect and abandonment, and the practical steps she used to reclaim her life and happiness.

Whether you're personally affected by trauma or seeking to support someone who is, Anna’s wisdom, tools, and personal insights provide valuable takeaways for anyone on a healing journey.

Links:

• Order Anna's book Re-Regulated here: https://bit.ly/44Eo1ma

• Get Instant Access to Anna's free online course, The Daily Practice here:http://bit.ly/Cf CF_DailyPractice

• YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/CrappyChildhoodFairy

• Website: https://crappychildhoodfairy.com

• CCF Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/crappychildhoodfairy/

Timestamps:

• 0:00 – Introduction

  • Introduction to Anna Runkle, aka the Crappy Childhood Fairy, and her mission to help people heal from childhood PTSD.
  • Overview of the topics to be covered: childhood trauma, PTSD, healing methods, and Anna’s personal story.

• 2:30 – Anna’s Early Life and Growing Up in a Commune

  • Anna describes her chaotic upbringing in a Berkeley commune, surrounded by addiction, neglect, and violence.
  • The impact of family addiction and how it shaped her view of the world.

• 7:15 – Understanding Childhood PTSD vs. Complex PTSD

  • Anna explains the difference between childhood PTSD and complex PTSD, and why she uses a more accessible term for the general public.
  • How childhood trauma can stay latent and resurface in adulthood after new traumatic events.

• 12:45 – Coping Mechanisms and the Breaking Point

  • Anna shares how being the "good girl" helped her survive but eventually led to deep depression.
  • Her experience of hitting rock bottom and the overwhelming effects of what she calls a "trauma storm."

• 16:30 – The Effects of Gaslighting and Emotional Neglect

  • Anna discusses the emotional invalidation she faced growing up and the gaslighting that made her doubt her own reality.
  • The lasting impact of growing up in an environment of denial.

• 21:00 – The Role of Attachment Wounds and Limerence

  • How unresolved emotional neglect led to dysfunctional relationships in Anna’s life, especially through a phenomenon called "limerence"—an obsessive, addictive form of love.
  • The cycle of seeking validation in unhealthy ways due to an insecure attachment style.

• 27:30 – Trauma Healing and Nervous System Regulation

  • Anna explains the concept of nervous system dysregulation and how trauma impacts not only emotions but also physical health.
  • Her personal health struggles with autoimmune diseases and chronic fatigue, and how regulating her nervous system led to profound healing.

• 33:00 – The Power of Simple Healing Techniques

  • Anna shares the simple yet powerful technique of writing down fears and resentments daily, a method she learned from a friend in AA.
  • How this practice gave her the emotional relief she had been seeking for years.

• 38:45 – Generational Trauma and Breaking the Cycle

  • Anna reflects on the generational trauma in her family and the importance of breaking the cycle of emotional neglect and dysfunction.
  • How her own healing journey has allowed her to parent with more stability and emotional availability.

• 43:00 – The Myth of ‘What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger’

  • Anna challenges the common belief that trauma automatically leads to growth, explaining that for many people, trauma can be devastating without proper support.
  • The dangers of spiritual bypassing and toxic positivity.

• 48:15 – Finding True Healing and Becoming Your Full Self

  • Anna talks about the ultimate goal of trauma healing: becoming your full, real self and creating space to hear your own inner guidance.
  • The importance of personal freedom, acceptance, and helping others on their healing journey.

• 53:00 – Practical Takeaways and Final Thoughts

  • Anna offers actionable advice for anyone struggling with childhood trauma, focusing on simple daily practices that help re-regulate the nervous system and foster healing.
  • How to connect with Anna and learn more about her work with the Crappy Childhood Fairy.

Key Takeaways:

• Childhood PTSD often goes unrecognized or is misunderstood, even within the medical community.
• Emotional neglect and trauma can deeply impact adult relationships, leading to patterns of insecurity and attachment wounds.
• Healing from trauma involves re-regulating the nervous system, a process that can lead to profound physical, emotional, and mental recovery.
• Simple daily practices, like writing down fears and resentments, can provide powerful emotional relief and open the door to deeper healing.
• Breaking the cycle of generational trauma is possible, and it begins with self-awareness, acceptance, and practical steps toward recovery.

 

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In this episode, Dr. Duff shares personal experiences and discusses the concept of being afraid of breathing. He highlights how anxiety and overthinking can lead to the sensation of not breathing properly. Dr. Duff explains how exposure therapy can be applied using breathing exercises to help alleviate these fears. He provides detailed instructions on different challenging breathing exercises like alternate nostril breathing, resonance breathing, and techniques inspired by the Wim Hof method and the Cradle series. The episode aims to help listeners gain comfort with discomfort and regain confidence in their breathing.

00:00 Introduction: Are You Afraid of Breathing?
00:02 A Personal Story of Breathing Anxiety
00:57 The Cycle of Anxiety and Breathing
01:50 Common Experiences and Avoidance
03:37 Using Breathing Exercises for Exposure
04:12 Understanding Exposure Therapy
07:38 Challenging Breathing Exercises
07:59 Alternate Nostril Breathing
10:40 Resonance Breathing
13:38 The Heaven and Earth Purification Wheel
15:16 Practicing in a Safe Space
16:22 Conclusion and Call to Action

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Hello, all! In this episode I tackle the following topics from listeners like you:

• My friend is a pilot and is worried about getting therapy because of medical clearance issues. What can they do?
• I have phobia of medications and injections. How can I use exposure therapy in a situation like this?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode319

 

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Hello, all! This is a short and sweet episode. It's been busy week and it is positively hot as BAWLS right now. So, I take one question. I also ramble a bit about some of my frustrations with neurology at the beginning. Here's the question I cover:

• Is it normal to have feelings for someone else when I'm married? What should I do?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes to this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode318

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp.

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Hello, all! Short and sweet episode this week featuring the following questions:

• Is it possible to overshare about your trauma in therapy?
• How can I stop losing friends when I'm in a romantic relationship?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode317

 

Hello, friends! Great episode for you today featuring questions that are follow-ups on previous questions. Here's what I cover:

• My therapist seems to get frustrated and angry when I'm suicidal. What can I do about this?
• How can I maintain my self-concept in relationships?

As always, you can send me questions for future episodes to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode316

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Magic Mind and BetterHelp.

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Hello, friends. I hope you're taking good care of yourselves. Here are the questions that I cover in this episode:

• I can't feel emotions. How can I start feeling things?
• I keep in touch with my old therapist still. Is that holding me back?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode315

 

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Hello, friends! What a week. I'm alive and well, but unfortunately things have been a bit heavy over here. I start off with a little personal update and then into the following great questions:

• My partner is autistic and talks constantly about her trauma. It's too much for me. What can I do?
• I am a woman with ADHD and have shame and anxiety because of it. How can I rebuild my self-concept?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode314

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and Organifi.

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Hello, friends! This is a simpler check-in episode. I update you on what has been going on in my life - particularly this wild week. I also revisit my goals that I outlined for the year and reflect on what has stuck, what has faded, and what I'm okay moving on from. Hope you enjoy! 

As always, you can send me questions for a future episode to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode313

Sponsor:

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Hello, everyone! I hope you've had a great week. Back at you with an awesome Q&A featuring the following questions:

• My ex-wife was emotionally abusive and controlling to me. We share children and she is constantly belittling me when we interact. What can I do?
• My psychologist does not seem to be trying very hard in sessions. How can I fix things?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode312

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Hello, friends! I hope you are staying cool and hydrated if you are in one of the major heatwave areas! In this episode, I answer the following awesome listener questions:

• How can I stop procrastinating on household tasks, homework, and my job? 
• My partner said he can't fulfill my love language. What can I do?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode311

 

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible.

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Hello, all! This is a really interesting mix of questions. So stick around until the second one to hear me dish out some tough love.

Here are the questions covered:

• Are we able to do genetic testing to tell which antidepressants will work for an individual?
• I hate having sex with my husband. What can I do?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode310

 

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In episode 408 of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I'm joined by grief educator and author Christina Rasmussen.

We delve deep into the concept of invisible loss, a unique form of grief that stems from unacknowledged experiences. Christina opens up about her personal grief journey, introduces the Life Reentry Process, and shares insights from her book, 'Invisible Loss.' We also explore how early childhood experiences shape adult decision-making, the transformative power of authenticity, and Christina’s venture into using art for healing. Christina discusses her creation of a digital library of invisible losses and reflects on the significance of Andrew Wyeth's painting 'Christina's World.' Join us for actionable tips and profound reflections on navigating and reclaiming life after hidden struggles.

Links:

Books - https://www.amazon.com/stores/Christina-Rasmussen/author/B0057K44UU

https://lifereentry.com/

https://www.invisiblelosses.com/

https://springshow.academyart.edu/schools/fine-art/students/christina-rasmussen/

 Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Invisible Loss 
00:45 Meet Christina Rasmussen
01:17 Christina's Personal Journey with Grief
03:30 Early Life and Education
08:13 Navigating Life After Loss
11:08 The Birth of Life Reentry Process
32:12 Invisible Loss Defined
43:39 Starting the Program and Writing Invisible Loss
44:01 Challenges of Writing About Invisible Loss
44:24 The Concept of Invisible Loss
46:48 Men and Invisible Loss
47:59 The Importance of Self-Expression
49:01 The Role of Therapy and Support Groups
52:38 Time Dilation and Seeking Help
53:32 Ambitious Work and Personal Transformation
56:33 Balancing Art and Professional Life
01:03:00 The Journey of Writing and Sharing Vulnerable Moments
01:13:34 The Impact of Panic Attacks and Authenticity
01:19:46 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Hello, friends. In this episode, I answer two questions that encompass difficulties within family relationships. Here are the questions:

• My wife belittles me and makes me feel terrible constantly. What should I do?
• I'm thinking of cutting off contact with my mother, but I also have a lot of empathy for her. How should I proceed?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode309

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Hello, all. A big content warning for this episode, the first question deals with suicide and has a bit more detail than other questions I've answered on the show. It's a very worthwhile question and a great topic to discuss, but I just want to make you aware of that.

Here are the topics covered in this Q&A episode:

• I saw my elderly father kill himself and I am so angry at him. What can I do?
• My friend stopped medication for anxiety and depression, but she is thinking about starting again. What else can she do to help herself out?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes to this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode308. 

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by MUD\WTR and BetterHelp.

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Hello, all! In this episode, I take on two really good listener questions. The second one mentions sexual abuse of a child, but there are no details shared. Here are the questions covered:

• How can I start to set boundaries with loved ones when it feels so hard?
• How can I improve my sexual relationship with me husband after I have experienced childhood abuse?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode307

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible.

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Hello, all! This is a great Q&A episode featuring the following questions from awesome listeners like yourself:

• My partner left due to me not pursuing her enough. Does it make sense to try to get back together after some time?
• I had to leave college due to bipolar. Should I go back to the same school after stabilizing? 

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode306

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Hello, friends! I hope you have had a great week. We are back to the Q&A format this week with the following questions:

• How can I overcome my tendency to overthink constantly?
• Why do I get extremely embarrassed so often in social situations? What can I do about it?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode305

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by MUD\WTR.

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Hello, everyone! In this epidode, my beautiful wife, Joelle, comes back on the show for a quick chat about life. We sat on the couch and had a cozy talk about all sorts of topics. I hope you enjoy!

As always, you can send me questions to future episodes to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode304

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Policygenius.

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Hello, all! Straight forward Q&A this week with the following awesome listener questions:

• I used to be able to have sex numerous times consecutively, but ever since a panic attack, I havet been unable to. What is going on?
• I am having trouble doing my therapist's exposure activities due to panic attacks. How can I do better?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode303

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp.

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Hello, friends! I hope you're doing well. After a very gross story at the top of the episode, I get into the following questions:

• What can I do about decreased intimacy in my marriage?
• I am too depressed to do anything what can I do?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode302

 

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible and MUD\WTR.

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Hello, everyone! I hope you're having a great week. Just a nice straightfoward Q&A for you today featuring the following questions:

• After 12 years of a great marriage, my husband had a sudden realization that he wants to leave. What can I do?
• My mother was in a terrible car crash and is afraid of remembering what happened. Is that a possibility?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode301

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp.

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Hello, everyone! 

Episode 300!! Holy moly. Thank you so much for sticking with me on this ride. I appreciate your trust and attention so very much. This episode is much like any other. A solid question and answer featuring the following:

• How can I ask for help as an 18-year-old guy?
• My relationship failed due to my inability to communicate my feelings. How can I improve?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and you can find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode300

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Navigating Intense Anxiety and Career Changes

Hello, friends! In today’s episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you:

Managing Severe Anxiety: A listener is struggling with intense daily anxiety and dissociation, impacting their ability to function in daily tasks like going to work or shopping. We discuss immediate tips, potential medical checks, and therapy approaches to manage anxiety effectively.

Considering a Career Shift: Another listener is contemplating a career change from music education to educational psychology. They seek advice on the feasibility, job prospects, and resources to pursue this new career path.

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode407

00:00 Introduction to Anxiety
00:17 Episode Overview and Listener Questions
00:56 Engaging with the Community
01:45 Addressing Severe Anxiety
05:15 Exploring Medical and Therapeutic Options
11:24 Understanding Anxiety and Fear
20:43 Career Change Considerations
28:10 Conclusion and Farewell

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Links mentioned:

• http://duffthepsych.com/episode195
• http://duffthepsych.com/episode395
• http://duffthepsych.com/findatherapist
• http://kickanxietycourse.com
• http://facebook.com/groups/hardcoreselfhelp
• https://www.amazon.com/Hardcore-Self-Help-Robert-Ph-D/dp/1514866005

Hello, friends! I hope you've had a really good week. My week here has been pretty good. As I mention in the episode, I didn't really plan anything good for the 300th episode of the show, BUT I wanted to open things up to you all. If you have written in a question or heard a question from the show that caused you to make a change in your life or there is a follow up story to your original question, I'd love to hear it. Shoot me an email to duffthepsych@gmail.com!

Anyways, here are the questions that I cover in this episode:

• Why did nobody tell me that there is mind-based and body-based anxiety?
• I have experienced a lot of mistreatment and discrimination in my life. This has led to a victim mentality. How do I get myself out of the victim mentality and start taking ownership of my life?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and you can find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode299

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Hello, friends! I hope you have had a wonderful week. For today's episode, I answer the following awesome listener questions:

• I am thinking of going into clinical psychology, but as a sensitive person, I am afraid of emotionally burning out. What can I do to avoid this?
• I have lost someone every year since 2015. How can I get back to a normal life with so much loss?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode298

 

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Hello, everyone! Thank you for your patience on this one. Had to take a couple extra days so that I didn't lose my mind with work. This episode features the following questions:

• After college, I don't know what to do with my life and find myself depressed. How can I move forward?
• My family expects me to be the peacekeeper and therapist. How can I set better boundaries?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode297

 

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and MasterClass

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.

Hello, all! This before I get into the questions this week, I talk a bit about my personal situation. Unfortunately, I had a breakup with a partner of mine and I share some of the realizations that I had in the process as well as my protocol for making it through this sort of hardship. After that, I jump into the following awesome listener questions:

• I have had bipolar I for a long time, but started getting a new symptom of paranoid thoughts over the past few years. Why might this be happening?
• My workplace and coworkers are toxic, but I am a non-confrontational person. What can I do about it?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode296

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Hello, friends! I hope that you are caring well for your hearts this week. It's wild out there. Here are the questions I cover in this week's episode:

• My history of sexual abuse makes dating complicated. How can I move forward?
• My husband cheated on me but doesn't want to do couples therapy. How can I stop resenting him?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode295

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Athletic Greens and Betterhelp.

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If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Hey, everyone. I hope you're taking great care of yourselves. In this episode, I start with a moment of vulnerability about my life lately. That is followed by these two great questions sent in by listeners like yourself:

• My wife has had anxiety for years but does not want to get help for it. What can I do?
• I have a perfect life, but I remain depressed about the world. How can I cope?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode294

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible and Acorn TV.

Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.

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Hey, friends! I hope you're having a great week. This is a very interesting episode with the following questions:

• I am attracted to my therapist and saw her on a non-traditional dating app. When I brought this up, she refused to talk about it. What should I do?
• How should cannabis use disorders be handled when there are also mental health issues?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode293

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and MasterClass

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.

Hello, friends! This is a short and sweet episode where I answer the following question:

• I recently learned of my partner's previous threesome. I can't stop feeling disgust and anxiety from it, even though I know that's not fair. How can I deal with this?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode292

 

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Hello, everyone! Pretty heavy episode this time. Nothing graphic, as usual, but I decided to tackle some tricky questions. Before hopping into the questions, I share a quick tip about managing the news cycle during this really intense time. Here are the questions covered:

• My kid's school had two people die by suicide this year. How can I talk to them about it and should we switch schools?
• I was abused as a child and have trouble remembering it without dissociating. What can I do?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode291

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If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Hello, friends! I hope you are all doing well. In this episode, I start off with a quick update about my experience so far on Lexapro (escitalopram), an SSRI medication for anxiety. After that, I jump straight into the following super interesting questions:

• I have OCD with intrusive thoughts about harming my loved ones. What can I do about this?
• I ruminate about therapy constantly, having imaginary conversations in my head. Is that bad?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode290

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This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Acorn TV and Audible.

Acorn TV is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat and try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to acorn.tv and using the promo code duff when you sign up!

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In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Patrick McGrath, Chief Clinical Officer at NOCD and a leading expert in OCD treatment. We dive deep into understanding OCD, debunking common misconceptions, and exploring the most effective treatment approaches. Dr. McGrath shares practical advice for managing OCD and introduces an amazing new tool that’s helping people across the country manage OCD from the comfort of their own homes. Whether you're personally affected by OCD, know someone who is, or just want to learn more about mental health, this episode is packed with valuable insights and actionable tips.

Key Takeaways:

• Misconceptions About OCD:

  • Discover what OCD really is and debunk common myths.
  • Understand the difference between media portrayals and reality.

• Effective Treatment Approaches:

  • Learn about Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) therapy.
  • Find out what works and what doesn’t in OCD treatment.
  • Explore Dr. McGrath's innovative approach to virtual ERP therapy.

• Practical Advice for Managing OCD:

  • Get strategies for handling intrusive thoughts and compulsions.
  • Tips for avoiding reassurance-seeking, distraction, and substance use.

• Introducing NOCD:

  • Learn about NOCD, an online platform offering accessible OCD therapy.
  • Understand how NOCD works and its benefits for people across the country.
  • Find out how NOCD is making treatment more affordable and effective.

Personal Insights:

• Hear Dr. McGrath's personal journey with anxiety and how it shaped his career.
• Gain inspiration from his transformation from a bullied child to a leading mental health expert.

Be sure to check out NOCD at http://treatmyocd.com and send me a question or topic for a future episode of the show at http://duffthepsych.com/contact 

Hey, all! Nice Q&A episode for you here. The second questions talks a bit about suicidality, but nothing too graphic. Very interesting stuff. Here's what I cover:

• How do you feel about therapists self-disclosing in therapy?
• Should I be concerned about my passive suicidal thoughts or are they just intrusive thoughts?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode289

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and MasterClass

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.

Hey, everyone. Short and sweet episode today featuring the following questions:

• I am a minor in therapy. What can my therapist share with my parents about self-harm?
• How can I tell the difference between a physical issue like hypothyroidism and a mental health issue like depression?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode288

 

No sponsor this week, so please check out my recent book, 500 Journal Prompts! 

Hello, friends! This episode features two questions related to trauma. There is nothing violent or explicit described, but both questions do involve childhood abuse. Just be aware. Here is what is covered in this episode:

• I sometimes doubt that my trauma ever happened and use self-harm as a way to remind myself that it did. What can I do?
• I have several psychiatric disorders and my psychiatrist wants me to be evaluated for ADHD. How can I tell the difference between ADHD and symptoms caused by my other issues?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode287

 

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Acorn TV.

Acorn TV is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat and try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to acorn.tv and using the promo code duff when you sign up!

Hey, friends! I hope that your week has been great. I want to give you a big thanks for listening to the show. I really appreciate you. This is a question and answer episode where I tackle the following:

• How can I get over my anxiety about having unstructured time off from work?
• I have erectile dysfunction with my new partner and my doctor thinks it is psychological. What can I do?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode286

 

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Chomper Labs and BetterHelp.

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If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Hello, all! I hope that you are having a fantastic week. Unfortunately, omicron has found its way into the Duff household, but alas... the show must go on!

I have a great Q&A episode with the following questions submitted by listeners like you:

• My wife died two years ago, and I am still completely closed off to romantic connections. What can I do?
• Is it possible to be traumatized by hearing about something bad happening to someone else?

As always, you can send questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode285

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This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible and Chomper Labs.

Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.

Chomper Labs believe that everyone has a right to quality affordable oral care and specialize in custom made night guards for teeth grinding. Right now, listeners of the podcast can get $15 off their first night guard plus Free 3 way shipping with code DUFF. Just visit chomperlabs.com/DUFF.

Hello, friends! Haven't talked in a little while. I hope you have been enjoying yourself. I am back this week with a new episode. This time instead of a Q&A, I am going to be talking about how I am approaching the year. I go through a LOT in this episode, come hang for about an hour and listen to me ramble. 

Show notes are available at http://duffthepsych.com/episode284

And if you want to send me a question for a future episode, shoot me an email at duffthepsych@gmail.com

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This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and MasterClass

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.

Hello, all! Great episode here for you today thanks to a couple awesome listener questions. If you haven't yet gotten a copy of my 500 Journal Prompts book, it makes a perfect little stocking stuffer. Check it out!

Here are the questions from this episode:

• My sister is depressed, even though nothing is wrong with her life and I'm frustrated by it. What can I do?
• Due to my addiction to methamphetamine and heroin, I feel like I don't deserve to get better. Should I feel this way?

As always, you can send me questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode283

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This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and Acorn TV.

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Acorn TV is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat and try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to acorn.tv and using the promo code duff when you sign up!

Hello, all! Hope your week has been phenomenal. I appreciate you all! In this episode, I tackle the following questions:

• I was recently ghosted after talking to someone I met on a dating app for a few weeks. Why is it affecting me so much and what can I do about it?
• How can I get over my exercise-induced anxiety and heart palpatations?

As always you can find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode282 and send your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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Sponsor:

This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by MasterClass and BetterHelp.

MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Hello, friends! Thank you to all of you that have been sharing the podcast as part of your Spotify Wrapped posts. Amazing to think that I've been a significant part of your year. I appreciate you so much!

In this episode, I tackle the following questions:

• I've worked through most of my trauma, but issues still arise in my relationship from time to time. How can I avoid passing these issues down to my young child?
• I work with severe populations in a healthcare setting. I feel like I could be experiencing caregiver burnout. Is this possible and what can I do about it?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and get the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode281

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Hello, all! If you spent some time off from work and/or with loved ones over the "holiday", I hope you have really enjoyed yourself. I'm incredibly grateful for you all. In this episode, I tackle the following awesome listener questions:

• I have a much lower sexual drive than my spouse and she thinks I don't find her attractive because of it. What can I do?
• Every time I'm in a relationship, my mental health crumbles. Why?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes to this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode280

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This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by MasterClass and Skylight Calendar.

MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.

With a mission to connect loved ones, Skylight Calendar displays your family events on a simple, touchscreen device. Now, as a special offer, you can get $10 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to skylightframe.com/calendar and enter code HARDCORE at checkout.

Does Joe Biden Have Dementia? A Neuropsychologist's Perspective   In this episode, I discuss the current political climate in the United States and my concerns as a neuropsychologist regarding the cognitive abilities of President Joe Biden. I explain the difference between normal aging, mild cognitive impairment, and dementia, and provide analysis of Biden's speech abilities from various clips over the years. While I emphasize that it's challenging to diagnose cognitive decline without comprehensive testing, I provide insights into what a professional evaluation would entail and discuss why it's critical to consider cognitive health for a role as demanding as the presidency.   This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Visit http://betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month of online therapy.   As always, you can send me questions or topic suggestions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the full show notes at http://duffthepsych.com 

Hello, all! Apologies in advance for my croaky voice. My voice is totally shot from the week, but I do my best to give you responses to the following awesome questions:

• I have brought about my own problems and don't feel that I deserve to get better. How do I approach this seemingly insurmountable problem?
• My partner and I are on a break to work on ourselves after suffering a number of losses and a terrible year overall. How can I make this work?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode279

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This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp.

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Hello, friends! After a quick update about the whole Thanksgiving situation at my kid's school, I dive into the following amazing questions:

• My previous therapist was sexually inappropriate. How can I trust therapists again?
• My depression doesn't go away no matter what I do and I'm not making progress in therapy. What can I do?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and show notes are available at http://duffthepsych.com/episode278

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This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Acorn TV.

Acorn TV is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat and try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to acorn.tv and using the promo code duff when you sign up!

Hello, friends! In this episode, I start with some concerns from my personal life that tie into some social psychology concepts before jumping into the following questions:

• Co-parenting with my ex is difficult given our difference in opinion about discipline. How do I stop our interactions from driving me crazy?
• My partner retreats and can't feel anything when he is in a depressive state. What can I do to make him know that I'm here for him?

As always, you can send me your questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com and show notes are available at http://duffthepsych.com/episode277

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This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and Ritual.

If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.

Ritual’s Essential for Women 18+ Multivitamin was formulated by exhaustive research to help fill nutrient gaps in the diets of women ages 18+. Right now Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off their first three months. Visit ritual.com/DUFF and turn healthy habits into a Ritual.