The Care It Out Sleep Show – Détails, épisodes et analyse

Tiffany Belanger from Cosleepy returns to The Sleep Show for this episode and I’m so excited to talk to her again! 

In this episode, she shares how you can make bed-sharing safer when away from home.

If you bed share and are about to stay away from home in a hotel, apartment or holiday home this episode is for you.

We talk through how to pack the crack, bed boards, mattresses and so much more! 

Tiffany Belanger attended UCLA and adventured in the film and television industry prior to parenthood. In 2020 she founded Cosleepy, a cosleeping one-stop shop to help modern parents keep their babies safe and close at night.

Tiffany is a frequent guest on podcasts and blogs, and she was recently interviewed in New York Magazine's viral article Are We All Secretly Co-sleeping?

She and her husband are currently bedsharing with their two little boys in Sacramento, California.

 Further resources:

 Safety packet: cosleepy.com/safe-bedsharing-guidelines

Tiffany’s first episode on The Sleep Show: careitout.com/podcast/episode-45-all-about-bed-sharing-with-tiffany-belanger-aka-cosleepy

On this episode of The Sleep Show, Zoe Ayre AKA The Respectful Mum joins us to talk about weaning respectfully and share her weaning story. 

And it’s FULL of wonderful nuggets of wisdom!

Zoe is a children’s author, mum and respectful parenting advocate. She shares her respectful and honest parenting journey along with advice on Instagram as The Respectful Mum.  

She loves sharing her respectful parenting journey as a toddler mum and her account shares the honest highs and lows of parenthood!

Her book, ‘I Will Always Help You Sleep’ was born of a desire for parents and children to be able to see themselves in the pages of a children’s book, in a world where being responsive to our children at nighttime can sometimes feel a lonely path. The book is as much for parents as it is for children, and hopes to bring reassurance that it’s okay to support our little ones to sleep. It’s truly unique in the way it represents normal infant sleep, co-sleeping and post-partum reality. 

 During this episode we talk through together:

Why she’s an advocate of respectful parenting

What does respectful mean to her?

Is it possible to night wean respectfully?

Her experience of night weaning her 20 month old daughter 

Why being calm and confident is crucial when night weaning?

When is the best time to night wean?

Is it possible to night wean without tears?

Tips for when/if you’re ready to night wean 

And SO much more!

I really hope you enjoy listening to this episode as we had so much fun recording it together! 

You can find Zoe’s Instagram page at instagram.com/therespectfulmum

And you can buy her amazing book at www.therespectfulmum.com

Use RESPECT10 for 10% off the book, free bookmark and free signing/dedications (free P&P included).                                                                                                   

Further links:

My weaning workshop:

www.careitout.com/courses/night-weaning-workshop

www.tiktok.com/@therespectfulmum

www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100083393322318

www.facebook.com/TheBookYouWish/

www.janetlansbury.com

Is your baby about to reach the four-month mark?

Or perhaps you’re already in the middle of the four-month progression?

If that’s a yes then this podcast is for YOU!

There’s often a lot of fear around the four-month regression.

Plus a fair bit of sleep scaremongering is being bandied about.

And I’m going to be honest, sleep at this stage can get a little (or A LOT) trickier and erratic.

That’s because your baby’s sleep is developing and it’s a huge time of change for them. And if you’ve been following me for a while you’ll know I often say ‘change is strange!’

But you really don’t need to:

Sleep train

Leave your baby to cry

Push them to fall asleep solo or stich their sleep cycles together.

To get through the four month progression.

I know it doesn’t always feel like it but this phase is temporary and IS likely to settle all by itself in time.

IF something does need a change or reset, chances are these changes will be easier once your baby is 5/5.5 months old.

And in the meantime, there’s lots of reassurance, advice and practical sleep suggestions waiting for you in this podcast episode!

Join me and 6 other parents for this panel podcast and together we’ll talk you through:

🌟 Sleep at the four month mark

🎙Why sleep changes at this stage

🌟 Their experience of this stage

🎙Four month food FOMO

🌟 Why the transfer can get super tricky

🎙 Why you don’t need to sleep train to get through the four month progression 

 🌟What you can do to support their sleep at this stage

🎙 The four month fear 

And much MUCH more!

We all had a great time talking together and I really hope you find this episode useful and reassuring too!

When it comes to your Small’s naps there’s a lot of myths and misconceptions out there isn’t there?!

That naps need to happen at a set time, in the same place AND in a certain way to be considered or count as a nap.

But I do like to keep sleep real around here and normalise infant sleep for you.

And like most things on the Care It Out approach the only thing naps need to do is work for you and your Small. 

Join me for this nap recap episode and I’ll you through why naps don’t need to:

be in a cot to count

 happen in the same space as night-time

 be taken independently from you

 happen in the same way every day

be a certain length to count

happen at exactly the same time

I’ll also answer the questions you asked me about naps:

What can I do when my Small refuses their only nap?

What can I do when my baby is refusing their cat nap but it’s having a huge impact on their night sleep?

What age to toddlers stop their nap?

 How can I encourage my baby to nap at nursery, in the car or in the pram 

Is it ok to use a dummy for naps but not at night?

Why is my Small taking short naps?

How will my baby nap at nursery?

What are age appropriate nap gaps at 11 months old?

Other podcast episodes I mention:

Napping at nursery: careitout.com/podcast/episode-25-napping-at-nursery

Short naps: careitout.com/podcast/ep-6

Skipped naps: careitout.com/podcast/35-short-and-skipped-naps

A sleep crisis is not only tough and tiring for everyone, it can also have a huge impact on our mental health.

Join me and Dr Fiona Jeffries in this episode and we’ll talk you through:

What is parental mental health?

The relationship between sleep and mental health

Looking after your needs whilst responding to your baby’s sleep needs

Why self-care is important and is much more than taking a solo shower or trip to the toilet?

How to cope in a sleep crisis?

We really hope you enjoy listening to this episode as much as we did recording it!

Dr Fiona Jeffries is an experienced Clinical Psychologist with over 10 years' experience of working with children and families in a variety of settings. She’s passionate about her work and feels very lucky to have a career which she enjoys so much.

Since qualifying in 2012, she’s specialised in working with children and families. Much of her work has been with families who are dealing with the challenges of medical illness or disability.

She works using a variety of therapeutic models, including systemic, narrative and compassion-focussed approaches. She tailors her approach to each individual child and family and has a special interest in infant psychology. She’s very recently established ‘Baby Psychology Basics’, antenatal and postnatal workshops for parents and professionals.

Do you want to find out about Fiona?

www.drfionajeffries.co.uk/baby-psychology-basics

www.instagram.com/baby_psychology_basics

Free workshops coming up:

Wednesday 20th October 2021 12-1.30pm Prenatal Baby Psychology Basics: Understanding Your Baby

Wednesday 24th November 2021 12.30-2pm Postnatal Baby Psychology Basics: Understanding Your Baby

Please see website for more information and how to book

Listener offer:

20% off a 1:1 Baby Psychology Basics session for listeners (contact Fiona directly to book and mention you listened to the podcast)

Mindfulness and relaxation resources:

https://self-compassion.org

https://buddhify.com/

https://www.calm.com/

If you need some further support:

www.home-start.org.uk

www.mind.org.uk

www.pandasfoundation.org.uk

Bed-sharing isn’t going to work for every family.

Bed-sharing isn’t for every family

And it might not be the best sleep set up for you.

This podcast isn’t about convincing or pushing you to bed-share!

But there’s often a lot of sleep shame and stigma around bed-sharing so this podcast is for you if you’re:

 currently bed-sharing and would love some reassurance

 considering bed-sharing and would love some reassurance

 looking for safer sleep pointers whilst bed-sharing

 Join me and Tiffany Belanger in this episode and we’ll talk you through:

 -What is bed-sharing?

 -Who is bed-sharing for?

 -Why bed-sharing isn’t a bad bed habit

 -What are the benefits of bed-sharing for both babies and parents?

 -How can you make bed-sharing safer?

 -Tiffany’s personal experience of bed-sharing

 I hope you enjoy listening to this episode as much as we did recording it!

Tiffany Belanger spends her days wrangling two little boys, works on the Cosleepy blog for a few hours in the evening, and at night. And she sleeps soundly on a giant bed between her favourite people in the world!

Tiffany created Cosleepy to offer modern parents practical, scientifically-backed advice on how to safely co-sleep with their baby. It’s a hub for like-minded folks to find each other and a safe space for them to dive deep into the beauty, challenges, and intricacies of co-sleeping.

Tiffany works to empower every parent to trust the science and follow their intuition when it comes to keeping their baby safe and close at night. To find a way to love co-sleeping, and to do it with confidence.

Sign up for Tiffany’s mailing list at cosleepy.com for co-sleeping support, encouragement, and motivation straight to your inbox. You’ll have access to her favourite resources, giveaways, and personal updates on her family’s co-sleeping journey that she doesn’t share anywhere else.

You can find more information about Tiffany and Cosleepy here:

 cosleepy.com

instagram.com/cosleepy

https://cosleepy.com/welcome

Recommended reading for safer sleep whilst bed-sharing:

 llli.org/the-safe-sleep-seven

 kellymom.com/parenting/nighttime/cosleeping

 cosleeping.nd.edu/safe-co-sleeping-guidelines

Floor beds aren’t going to work for every family.

And they might not be the best bed for you.

But sometimes I do suggest using (or just considering!) a floor bed, because there are lots of benefits, for both you and your Small!

Join me and Sian Aldis in this podcast episode, and we’ll talk you through: 

What is a floor bed?

Who are floor beds for?

What age can you use a floor bed from?

 What are the benefits of using a floor bed?

How can we make it a safer sleep space?

I hope you enjoy listening to this episode as much as we did recording it!  

Sian Aldis is an IBCLC and gentle sleep consultant. You can find more information about Sian and No Milk Like Mamas Here:

Website: nomilklikemamas.co.uk

Email: support@nomilklikemamas.co.uk

Recommended reading for safer sleep whilst bed-sharing: 

www.llli.org/the-safe-sleep-seven

If you worry (a little or a lot!) you most certainly aren’t alone and I hope it reassures you to hear that it’s normal. Telling a parent not to worry is neither helpful or healthy. Worrying is a part of life for most of us at some point and what we try to resist just persists.

I will always listen to you and hold space for your worries to validate them. But I’m also here to reassure you too!

Tune into this episode to hear Kimberly Thomas AKA The New Mum Coach and myself discuss:

The worry Hour

Mindfulness

Self-Compassion and care

4 top tips to help you when you worry

When does worrying become a problem

And so much more!

You can find out more about Kimberly here:

thenewmumcoach.com

instagram.com/thenewmumcoach

Second time parents -

tickettailor.com/events/thenewmumcoach/503983/

Back to work -

tickettailor.com/events/thenewmumcoach/500940/

instagram.com/thenewmumcoach

Further resources:

Headspace

 headspace.com

 Calm

 calm.com

 Peanut

peanut-app.io

Panic pad

etsy.com/uk/listing/821942030/panic-pad-a4?ref=shop_home_active_4&crt=1

Myles has just turned 2 years old and is a little firecracker who has FOMO (fear of missing out) when it comes to sleep!

He’s really resisting going to sleep at bedtime and wakes frequently during the night. And often won’t settle until he’s in Mum’s bed which isn’t working for anyone now.

This is understandably causing everyone a sleepless night!

I’m never going to stop sharing the message that toddler’s find sleep tricky too.

And I want to reassure you that your toddler isn’t broken and you aren’t doing anything wrong if your toddler:

Isn’t sleeping through the night

 Is resisting going to sleep at bedtime

 Needs you or support to fall asleep

 Wakes up during the night  

 Won’t settle at night unless co-sleeping

However, if their sleep or wake ups are unsustainable or simply not working for you chances are there’s some small and caring changes that could make a big difference.

 Join me and Myles’s Mum, Beckey for this live consultation podcast and together we’ll talk you through:

Normal infant sleep at 2 years old

 The best bedtime for your toddler

 What do to if their bedtime is super late

 The 7 pm pressure

 Supporting them to settle to sleep independently

 Moving away from co-sleeping if they wake at night

 Myles’s sleep story at 2 years old

 Myles’s sleep suggestions to support him to a more settled night sleep. The caring way.

Beckey and I had a great talk together and I really hope you find this episode useful and reassuring too!

Further resources:

 Biological best blog

 careitout.com/blog/baby-biological-best

Bedtime boundaries Ecourse

 careitout.com/courses/bedtime-boundaries-ecourse

Want to work together to improve your sleep the caring way?

You can find my current sleep services here:

careitout.com/sleep-service-prices

Baby Remi is 12 months old and going through big changes with his sleep. 

He slept through from around 7 months old until he recently started nursery and his sleep changed. 

He’s now finding it hard to settle to sleep at bedtime and frequently has a split night AKA parent party. This is understandably causing everyone a sleepless night!

I’m never going to stop sharing the message that infant sleep isn’t a straight line process because it’s a constant work in progress!

So I want to reassure you that your baby isn’t broken and you aren’t doing anything wrong if your baby’s:

Sleep changes or hits the skids suddenly

Finding it harder to settle to sleep or needs more support to fall asleep

Having a parent party at night!

However, if their sleep or wake ups are unsustainable or simply not working for you chances are there’s some small and caring changes that could make a big difference. 

Join me and Remi’s Mum, Amy for this live consultation podcast and together we’ll talk you through:

Normal infant sleep at 12 months old

Napping at nursery 

Different routine in different places

How an early bedtime can impact night sleep

Supporting them to settle to sleep independently 

Split nights AKA parent party

Remi’s sleep story at 12 months old

Remi’s sleep suggestions to support him to a more settled night sleep. The caring way. 

Amy and I had a great talk together and I really hope you find this episode useful and reassuring too!

Further resources:

Parent party episode

www.careitout.com/podcast/ep-13-the-parent-party

Biological best blog

www.careitout.com/blog/baby-biological-best

Bedtime boundaries Ecourse

www.careitout.com/courses/bedtime-boundaries-ecourse

Want to work together to improve your sleep? You can find my current sleep services here:

www.careitout.com/sleep-service-prices