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Why treating dating as a “journey” quietly destroys love, authenticity and real connection with women—and what to do instead.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN
- Why “getting good with women” often leads you away from what you actually want (love, not just sex)
- The subtle harm—to yourself and others—of treating women as steps on a personal growth journey
- Why neediness, manipulation and ego often disguise themselves as “progress”
- How opening the heart changes everything—and how to navigate that messy, incremental and human process

TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Highlights
06:30 Zan on hiding his fire when he was younger, and how it hurt
12:55 Why men try to babysit women (and why women hate it)
19:30 Self-imposed pain, comparison, and missed opportunities
23:57 How short relationships with beautiful women started Zan’s healing
31:30 Jordan’s early years: heartbreak → power → being the heartbreaker → bitter pills
47:30 Reframe: There is no journey—only you and the woman in front of you
50:45 Why heart matters more than energy or technique
1:01:20 The value of sitting with uncertainty and confusion
1:04:20 Live weekend intensive announcement
1:06:40 The end of this series—and what’s next

*Do you see the women you meet as stepping stones to some future destination… or are you fully with the woman who’s in front of you right now?*

If this conversation resonates, share your reflections in the comments.

ABOUT THIS VIDEO:
Many men in our circle approach dating as a journey. A path. A process of improvement that will one day deliver them to love, confidence, or mastery with women.

But when women sense they’re being treated ‘merely’ as part of that journey—as a lesson, a test, or a stepping stone—something essential disappears.

This episode explores the quiet damage caused by turning intimacy into a project. Zan and Jordan speak candidly about the confusion, ego, missteps, heartbreak, and slow reckonings that shaped their understanding of love. From hiding one’s fire, to misusing power, to losing the heart entirely and finding it again.

What emerges is a simple truth: there is no journey. There is only the woman in front of you, and the quality of presence, honesty, and heart you bring to that moment.

#zanperrion #fearofintimacy #dating #mendating #flirting #datingadviceformen #flirttips #relationship #jealousy 
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ARS AMORATA is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure.

Ars Amorata is a philosophy of beauty. It is a way of life. It is not a religion. It is a belief system, similar to the way one might call Stoicism a belief system or a way of life. It is a layer that exists (or not) below all religion and all social structures. And it belongs to all of you.

Philosophers throughout the ages have argued whether beauty is objective or subjective, but in my view, beauty is neither. It is neither inherent as a property of the object (the objecti

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Why women test, and how to pass.
(Hint: it has nothing to do with tactics—and everything to do with truth.)

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:
- The single quality that women ultimately probe for when they meet a man
- The behavioral nuances most men miss—but women never do
- What Zan wouldn’t do—why the spirit of invitation makes all the difference

TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Highlights
02:15 Today’s question
06:55 The quality that sets certain men apart from all others
20:08 Be honest, but not crude – the art of being gentlemanly 
22:00 What Would Zan Not Do? 
42:15 How truth releases tension and creates openness in a woman
49:45 Women light up when you own your desire and express it
52:00 Another flavor of approach

What part of yourself are you most tempted to hide from a new woman you meet? Share your experience with us. 

ABOUT THIS VIDEO:
When a woman tests you, she isn’t asking you to perform.

What she wants to know is: are you genuine? Or is there more going on beneath the surface that she can’t see? 

Women love to have fun—but trying to figure out whether your interest in her is real, or whether you’re just engaging her for a quick ego boost before disappearing, is not a game she wants to play.

It often surprises men how accepting women are of desires the men themselves have difficulty accepting. It’s not what you want that turns her off. It’s the fact that it scares you. 

Today’s episode explores what it means to be trustworthy—and the different flavors desire can take when it’s honestly expressed.

#zanperrion #fearofintimacy #dating #mendating #flirting #datingadviceformen #flirttips #relationship #jealousy 
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ARS AMORATA is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure.

Ars Amorata is a philosophy of beauty. It is a way of life. It is not a religion. It is a belief system, similar to the way one might call Stoicism a belief system or a way of life. It is a layer that exists (or not) below all religion and all social structures. And it belongs to all of you.

Philosophers throughout the ages have argued whether beauty is objective or subjective, but in my view, beauty is neither. It is neither inherent as a property of the object (the objective view) nor is it in the eye of the beholder (the subjective view). Beauty is a third thing altogether.

Beauty is prime. It stands alone. It is a thing apart, in Kant's words: a Thing-In-Itself (Ding an sich). Beauty emanates from what Aristotle called the Unmoved Mover, what Plotinus called The One, what scientists call the Big Bang, and what John in the New Testament called the Word or Logos.

Ars Amorata is an attempt to lift Beauty to its rightful place as the primary guiding principle in our hearts and in the world.
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Why being mysterious is so attractive to women, and the body language and texting that keeps women interested. 
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Episode 40 — What Makes a Man Mysterious — And Why Women Melt in His Presence
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80% of communication between men and women is nonverbal. 

“It’s not what you say, but how you say it”.  

Most of the time, you’re just ‘another guy’ to her. And you have opportunities to show her that you aren’t, but what do you do… say… in those situations? 

Being mysterious is a fine art that’s far too daunting for most men to practice, and those who do attempt it often end up in some extreme caricature of themselves, out of alignment and frustrated. 

In today’s episode, Jordan and Zan explore what a truly mysterious presence looks like in a man. 

With live demonstrations on ways to stand and gesture to women in person, to how to text them later on, watch and see how you, too, can start moving through the world with more mystique and intrigue. 

What thoughts come up for you after watching? Let us know in the comments below.
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THE AMORATI is a close-knit fraternity of men from all over the world who have devoted their lives to the philosophy of The Ars Amorata.

The Amorati are lovers of women. The Amorati are lovers of life. The Amorati are treasure hunters and raconteurs. The Amorati are on a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure.

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ARS AMORATA is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure.

Ars Amorata is a philosophy of beauty. It is a way of life. It is not a religion. It is a belief system, similar to the way one might call Stoicism a belief system or a way of life. It is a layer that exists (or not) below all religion and all social structures. And it belongs to all of you.

Philosophers throughout the ages have argued whether beauty is objective or subjective, but in my view, beauty is neither. It is neither inherent as a property of the object (the objective view) nor is it in the eye of the beholder (the subjective view). Beauty is a third thing altogether.

Beauty is prime. It stands alone. It is a thing apart, in Kant's words: a Thing-In-Itself (Ding an sich). Beauty emanates from what Aristotle called the Unmoved Mover, what Plotinus called The One, what scientists call the Big Bang, and what John in the New Testament called the Word or Logos.

Ars Amorata is an attempt to lift Beauty to its rightful place as the primary guiding principle in our hearts and in the world.
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The Zan and Jordan Show - Episode 9
with Zan Perrion and Jordan Luke Collier
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Our podcast seems to coalesce into an analysis, a hobby: to examine culture over the long arc of time, and explore how our own drops in the ocean might return but an ounce of satisfaction.

We are, of course, not exactly the first men ever to do this. The contemplation of depth, of the artist’s response, probably date back to the cave.

There is something in human mastery that intrinsically compels us. We are astounded by the few wild creatures who not only dazzle us with their words, but delight us in their telling. When content and form fuse together, we feel it. A work of art, one’s self-expression, is embodied.

If I am to merely cobble together one book, one passage, one sentence that sings… will this artist’s disquiet be redeemed?!


Mislaid Quotes:

“Go placidly amidst the noise and haste”
— Max Ehrmann, from Desiderata

“The youth gets together his materials to build a bridge to the moon, or, perchance, a palace or temple on the earth, and, at length, the middle-aged man concludes to build a woodshed with them.”
— Henry David Thoreau


In this episode:

Current History & Culture:
On Poetry & The Artistic Pursuit:
Tying It All Together:

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The Zan and Jordan Show - Episode 8
A Technological Renaissance
with Zan Perrion and Jordan Luke Collier

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Technology! Accelerating, growing, and flying past our consciousness faster and faster every year.

Are we witnessing the birth of a new era in art and culture? A digital Renaissance?

And what are we to make of the concept of decentralization? No more cultural hierarchy, no more gate-keepers, no more arbiters of taste?

Listen in as Zan and Jordan discuss the implications of this quantum leap in our collective digital consciousness.

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The Zan and Jordan Show - Episode 7
Writing, Longevity, Lineage, Home
with Zan Perrion and Jordan Luke Collier

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What is your relationship to home and belonging? What is it that you seek at the core, in all your adventures?

Fresh from a New Year’s Eve break, Zan and Jordan inquire into the core of that which we seek — whether in women, spirituality, or lifestyle design.

Starting with the theme “living like champions”, we discuss the stories of our ancestors, looking for clues and inspiration. We discover how the trials of one’s individual life can be redeemed when looked at from a broader, more historical perspective.

As well as a deep dive into the ideas of home and belonging, we explore our divergent creative writing processes, and Zan gives his longevity secrets for a long and happy life!

Kipling’s poem: http://somethinghidden.com/
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with Zan Perrion and Jordan Luke Collier

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The hunger to express oneself. The sublime as goosebumps across a whole body. The life-affirming joy of knowing oneself through creativity.

How should the silent lover-of-beauty reveal what their heart knows to the world? Is there a road-map for such a woman or man?

In this episode, we take a leisurely stroll through the history of literature and art, taunt the benevolent and life-giving daemon, and pour fire onto what’s emerging next. But what will that be in these weird and wacky times?

Silent aesthetes of the world... may the breadcrumb trail unfold!

Share your comments with us and the others, please.

“The only noble pursuit is trying to tap into that voice calling in the wilderness. The prophet is speaking but the people don’t listen” - ZP

“No wonder we struggle in flirting and playfulness, when so few of us are ever trained in sharing our souls through art”.  — JLC

Kipling’s poem: http://somethinghidden.com/
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Ars Amorata is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure.

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The Zan and Jordan Show - Episode 5:
Activism, Taking A Stand, & Finding Your "Life Purpose"
with Zan Perrion and Jordan Luke Collier
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“Be joyful, though you’ve considered all the facts.”  - Wendell Berry

You can turn away from the news and flee the ugly, political nature of the world, but at some point these issues catch up to you. Even the peaceful South Pacific got drawn into the war. One cannot avoid today’s issues forever.

This is not a bad thing, though. There comes a point when, after so much seeking beauty for personal curiosity and gain, man needs a sense of purpose, something to fight for, someone to serve. Through struggle and service so often come meaning.

In light of the crazy things occurring throughout our civilization — and holding in mind the notion that our civilization might collapse — Zan and Jordan explore what it means to take a stand, how to create a positive form of “activism”, and the process by which man slowly grows into his “purpose”.

Make sure you let us know what you get from listening in.

Ars Amorata is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure.

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The Zan and Jordan Show - Episode 4
Restoring Beauty, 4th Turnings, & Finding Purpose in Societal Collapse

with Zan Perrion and Jordan Luke Collier
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If a beautiful girl was lost in the woods and no-one was around to see her, would she still be beautiful?

Today, Zan and Jordan get right to the heart of the matter. What is beauty, how does it operate, and how does any imperative to restore it to the world actually work? Are we here to save, restore, or reclaim her?

Is all this beauty-seeking a luxurious affair for the few? What is the role of beauty if our civilization collapses? Will we have to give up the armchair philosophizing, plant seeds in the garden, and dig for victory? And how can a man strengthen his purpose in the face of both transcendence and collapse?

Throughout the first hour of the show, we get Zan’s clearest exegesis yet on his philosophy of beauty. During the second hour, Jordan shares some disturbing visions of our short and medium-term future. Not to scare or alarm you, but by asking the question: if we practice imagining the worst-case scenario for our culture, can we actually fire up our sense of purpose - and restore beauty - even more powerfully today?

This episode goes right into the broadest aspects of the Ars Amorata message, and paints a picture of the grandest picture we can live as men.

We’re tremendously excited to release this episode, so come and join us for the discussion! What is the role of beauty if the world unravels into collapse? And is there reason for optimism, or jubilee?

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Resources

Leonard Cohen - You Want It Darker?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v0nmH...

Neil Howe - Introduction to the 4th Turning:
https://bit.ly/2NUd5ua

The Stendhal Effect -
https://bit.ly/3dVOVd9

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The Zan and Jordan Show - Episode 3

With Zan Perrion and Jordan Luke Collier
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“There’s no reason to exist if you’re not seeking the presence of beauty.” ~ Zan Perrion

“Every bird in the sky, every last decision made in some Mongol wars 800 years ago, had to happen as it did, for this perfection to be as it is right now.” ~ Jordan Luke Collier
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In this episode, we sit in more questions than answers…

-- What is motivation and where does it come from?

-- Are beauty and a ‘heart-cracked-open sense of belonging’ peak experiences? Or lower-level human needs?

-- Are our heroes journeys undertaken to bring solace to our younger selves… or for some other reason entirely?

Zan and I finish the episode without full consensus, without total clarity, and asking you to help us answer the questions!

Reflecting on this episode and everything else happening in the world, a new manifesto for today’s man in the upcoming ‘chaotic decade’ is on its way.
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Resources mentioned in this episode:

‘Stealing Fire’, by Jamie Wheal & Steven Kotler
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Ars Amorata is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure.

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