Today, I’m sitting with Debbie O'Connell to discuss the profound impact of state of mind on your golf game.

To Debbie, maintaining a positive mind is just as critical as a well-executed swing. She illustrates the power of mental fortitude through Amy Bockerstette's inspiring performance, explains how you can use positive self-talk and body language to boost your confidence on the course, and shares personal experiences around the transformative effects of gratitude and mindset on your golf game.

We also talk about the role of meditation, visualization, and self-hypnosis techniques in achieving peak performance. Reflecting on the wisdom of legends like Tiger Woods, we look at how taking responsibility for our game, rather than succumbing to external pressures, can empower us to excel under any condition.

About Debbie O’Connell:

Debbie is a seasoned media professional, successful entrepreneur, and accomplished business leader. She is the host of Audible’s series “Golf Positive.” She has also had multiple appearances on the Golf Channel and has hosted numerous golf-oriented radio shows as well as the television show “Par Fore the Course.” Debbie is the author of the bestselling book, “Golf Positive! Live Positive!” which offers insight and practical solutions to help one achieve their goals both on and off the golf course.

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We’re joined by returning guest Donna Taylor, a veteran of the golf world and a yoga instructor who specializes in helping women enhance their skills on the golf course.

With her unique approach, Donna has managed to make golf lessons more accessible and fun. She shares how her dad, a pioneer in the sport, inspired her and her childhood friend Julianne—who’s also joining us on the podcast today—to start their golf journey in third grade.

Listen in as Donna shares her thoughts on officially transitioning from competitive golfer to teaching professional and why she doesn’t miss the former. She also teases upcoming retreats with her thriving Golf Party Live, a fast-growing community for women just starting to get into golf.

The bulk of our conversation covers Donna’s thoughts on Jon Sherman’s “9 brutal golf truths”. Tune in and get a female golf veteran’s take on golf principles such as…

- There is always a better golfer

- You can make better decisions and have poor results

- Learning more about the golf swing can make you worse

- and more!

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I’m talking with the legend Lisa Longball, live from the California Crush Invitational! Lisa opens up about her inspiring journey, tenacity, and her passion for empowering women in sports!

From bouncing back from a rotator cuff injury to diving into another world championship, there are few women who can pump us up to chase our own golf dreams like Lisa. Even though we’re keeping things casual this time around, her dedication to the sport and her position as a role model to female athletes everywhere take center stage in our conversation!

We’re also exploring the dynamics between family life and sports, with a small peek into Lisa’s history with hockey–along with an inspiring story that illustrates the power of mentorship in helping the youth find their purpose in life.

Finally, we’re putting a spotlight on that particular type of empowering energy that you can only ever find in collaborative environments–something that every golfer needs if they want to make it far in the sport!

About the Guest:

Lisa Longball is an 8-time Canadian long drive national champion and has finished as high as 2nd in the world. She is an LDA Tour champion and Callaway Golf sponsored athlete. In addition to her competitive career, Lisa is a Golf Journalist for several publications including Inside Golf Magazine and has had her own column in Golf Digest Canada. Lisa uses her vast experience as a World Class athlete to be a successful keynote Peak Performance Speaker at conferences and conventions, is a Golf Entertainer for many corporate/charity golf tournaments across North America including PGA Tour and Champions Tour events and runs her own Golf School for Women both in Canada and the United States.

Listen to Our Other Episode with Lisa Here:

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I sat down with Sam Engel, one of the best golfers in Arizona. Listen in as Sam unpacks the five factors that have revolutionized his golf game over the past year.

Key Highlights:

?   Sam shares his post-tournament takeaways from both the recent Phoenix City and Arizona Mid-Am.

?   We discuss how best to read the green and communicate with your caddy.

?   Sam lists the five things which have transformed his golf game significantly over the past year.

?   Sam enlightens us on the software-based “Stack System” he adopted to improve his golf swing speed and driving distance.

?   “I don’t care about being good at the range,” Sam says. “I’m trying to be good at playing golf.” This is the reason he’s focusing on improving his short game.

?   This being his first Mid-Am, Sam tells us how he’s been managing his expectations out on the course. “I don’t expect to win,” he says, “but I don’t go out there expecting not to!”

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Shannon Mercer is back! Listen in as we chat about everything from attire to travel to leveling up our game.

Key Highlights: 

?      I discuss how I’m working with a coach to instill new swing thoughts and drills to hopefully improve my performance over the next few weeks.

?      We talk about the challenges of shedding ingrained habits in our swing and overall golf game.

?      We relive moments from the White Mountain Club Championship, and provide a firsthand account of the nail-biting final round.

?      We share our dream to play golf in as many countries as possible. Shannon talks about her recent experiences in Iceland, the Netherlands, and on a golf cruise.

?      We reflect on the roller coaster of emotions every competitive golfer goes through at multiple points in their career.

?      We round off with a look into the future, discussing our plans for the Desert Classic tournament and the upcoming Creek Cup in 2024.

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Earlier this summer I did an interview with Michael Bernoff, host of the Average Sucks podcast. We went into depth on how and why this business was started and what our goals are for the future. If you ever wondered what we are up to at Compete Confidence Golf and how this all started… this is the episode that answers all the questions!

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Andrew Hannon and I sit down with Neal Valera, a San Jose-based health, strength, and mobility coach and the Co-Founder of Stick Mobility.

Neal shares how their training sticks serve as a unique tool for athletes of all stripes to improve range of motion, muscle activation, coordination, and body awareness to build a strong foundation for better movement. It also allows athletes to gradually increase their strength in different positions, aiding in injury prevention and rehabilitation.

The Mobility Stick is likewise a powerful tool that golfers can use to enhance performance through the improvement of their balance, grip, and strength. It helps in achieving a controlled range of motion that maximizes swing power, and in easing golfers into certain positions that they might initially find challenging. It also does wonders for joint mobility, making it easier for golfers to manage their wrist, elbow, and shoulder movements.

In the latter half of our conversation, Neal and Andrew discuss the importance of strength and cardio training for those looking to up their golf game. They offer guidance around setting achievable weight loss goals, and debunks common misconceptions, especially among women, about weight training.

About the Guest:

Neal Valera has been coaching strength, mobility, and movement since 2007. His love for sports, martial arts, and outdoor activities have contributed to his lifelong interest in various movement disciplines. Having trained a wide range of body types and fitness levels, Neal believes the common denominator for health, longevity, and performance is improving movement quality. Neal co-founded Stick Mobility in 2015 and is dedicated to helping people discover their physical potential and improve their ability to move well.

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Neal Valera: Instagram

Andrew Hannon: Instagram

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Justin Klemballa and I sit down with 8-time Canadian long drive champion Lisa Longball. Together, we unpack the three primary mistakes stopping women from gaining more distance in their golf swing and how to fix them!

We also discuss Lisa's personal training schedule, why muscle memory is way more important than muscular strength, and the vital role of rest in achieving peak performance. We also explore the significance of tempo and having a mental routine alongside a physical one.

Lisa shares her insightful personal experiences as a world-class athlete, including her triumph of hitting the longest drive in women's golf history, and what she did to gain the highest swing speed she's ever achieved.

3 Reasons You Lack Distance in Your Swing (and What to Do Instead)
(06:47) Reason 1: You’re an arms lifter. Because women are naturally more flexible than men, it’s easy to think you’re turning when you’re really just lifting your arms. Lisa recommends looking at your body in two parts: the upper body and the lower body. During the backswing, start with your lead shoulder, forcing you to turn your chest turning away from the ball. On the other hand, during the downswing, maximize the coil and torque you’ve built up by leading with your lower body.

(09:25) Reason 2: Your golf swing sequence is flawed or lacking. “Turn the shirt” on the backswing, freeze, then “turn the skirt” on the downswing. The best way to make this sequence second nature is by practicing dissociation drills, as well as training to move your weight to the instep of the back foot when transitioning from the backswing to the downswing.

(18:43) Reason 3: You don’t finish the golf swing. Most golfers put all their focus on hitting the ball, so that once they make contact, they begin to decelerate and fail to maximize distance as a result. Your clubhead should be at its fastest not on the ball, but three feet past the ball. Always keep this in mind: Hit through the ball, not to the ball.

About the Guest:

Lisa Longball is an 8-time Canadian long drive national champion and has finished as high as 2nd in the world. She is an LDA Tour champion and Callaway Golf sponsored athlete. In addition to her competitive career, Lisa is a Golf Journalist for several publications including Inside Golf Magazine and has had her own column in Golf Digest Canada. Lisa uses her vast experience as a World Class athlete to be a successful keynote Peak Performance Speaker at conferences and conventions, is a Golf Entertainer for many corporate/charity golf tournaments across North America including PGA Tour and Champions Tour events and runs her own Golf School for Women both in Canada and the United States.

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We are continuing our distance series with the Andrew Hannon, THE Golf Fitness Professional as he gives us an inside look as to what gaining distance and speed really looks like at a fitness level. Listen in as he goes through his 8 steps to gaining distance and explains exactly what it takes to do so!

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One of the fundamental principles to leveling up your golf game is to improve your distance. Regardless of skill level, body type, or gender, lower-handicap golfers tend to be longer golfers, while higher-handicap golfers tend to be shorter golfers. 

Listen in as Lou Stagner, Arccos Golf Data Insights Lead, breaks down distance as a skill that any golfer can train efficiently and effectively by incorporating a little strategy and a lot of data—600 shots worth of data from the Arcos database, to be precise!

We explore how to maximize distance while carefully considering potential penalties and hazards, as well as factoring in tempo and strike into our swing. We debunk the common fear of losing accuracy when increasing speed.

Lou shares valuable insights from the programs offered by golf fitness gurus Mike Carroll and Jamie Greaves. He explains how, with dedication, one can gain up to 6% clubhead speed and 10 extra yards in a matter of weeks, which can lead to a two-shot handicap reduction.

Wrapping up, we take a look at optimizing long shots and club lengths, and explore how knowing your dispersion can help you minimize penalty situations.

About the Guest:

Lou Stagner is an Arccos Golf Data Insights Lead, Co-Host of the “Hack It Out Golf” podcast and one of the leading data research analysts on The PGA TOUR. A self-proclaimed “golf nut and data nerd”, Lou has become an influential figure in the golf data space by combining a lifelong passion for the game with his background as a business intelligence and analytics executive. Through the Hack It Out Golf podcast, and through the popular Twitter feed, @LouStagner, he has become a highly respected voice in the world of golf.

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Key Takeaways

?      (19:00) It’s all about the short game. It’s true: Nobody started playing golf because they like to putt and chip. But working on your short game builds a strong foundation, over time, for your full swing.

?      (25:57) Most people aren’t that good. As with starting anything new, it’s easy to be intimidated by those who have more experience than you. At the beginning, everyone looks like a PGA Tour player. On the other hand, in Tori’s words, “I can verify that balls are not going far and they’re going cock-eyed. You’re not the only one!” Justin concurs, saying, “No matter what level you are, there is some really bad golf to be played out there, even on the highest level.”

?      (30:57) When in doubt, ask. No question is stupid in this game. Ask about the rules. Ask about etiquette. Ask about the dress code on certain courses. Ask where the range balls are. Ask where the first tee is. These are all normal questions, and everyone from your foursome to the pro shop staff to the bag room staff will be more than happy to answer any of them.

?      (38:02) Nobody cares about your game. Rather, pace of play is number one. This is easier said than done, of course. But simply being aware about pace of play will help speed up your game. Avoid getting lost in conversation and focus on keeping up with the group in front of you.

?      (44:41) Just pick it up. Nobody has been banned from the game for making a single mistake. Failing to adhere to the dress code the first time around is a lesson to keep in mind for next time. Be open to learning and making mistakes, and you will improve as a golfer.

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Justin Klemballa: Instagram | Paradise Valley Country Club | Forest Highlands Golf Club

Alex Andersen: Instagram | Babes Golf

Tameka Fox Hartman: Twitter | Arizona Women's Golf Association

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Kim Eaton and I sit down with Michael Leonard, host of the Wicked Smart Golf Podcast, to get his take on tournament prep best practices. Kim kicks off the conversation filling us in on her own recent tournament experiences, including her win at the Colorado Senior Women’s Match Play Championship.

Asked how they prioritize their tournament schedule, Kim says that she always schedules her lineup, plane tickets, and hotel stays a year in advance, while Michael simply signs up for everything as soon as the application is open and has found his groove to the point where he plays around 65 tournament days a year. His top secret to energy management? “I try to get plenty of sleep!”

Practice-wise, Michael tries to limit swing changes a month out, focusing on practice rounds and “geeking out over Google Earth” to familiarize himself as best as he can with the course.

When prepping for a tournament, it’s important to figure out what yardages to play. Michael came prepared with his yardage book for Desert Highlands, which we poured over to create a tee box strategy for hole number six, including planning approach shots, getting an overview of the green, and preparing practice rounds based on the numbers gathered.

Finally, we talk pre-game routines. Kim’s rules are simple yet tried-and-true: get to the course an hour ahead with a bottle of Diet Coke and Slim Jims packed and ready. She does her practice shots, but doesn’t stick to any particular regiment. Michael, on the other hand, has a full pre-shot routine and doesn’t skimp on nutrition before a tournament, always bringing a cooler for protein supplements, water, and energy drinks to the course.

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Michael Leonard: Instagram | Podcast | Website

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Adam is back and we give the lowdown on what to expect at the 2024 Desert Classic, followed by a reflection of the tough lessons learned at the 2023 Arizona Four-Ball, Arizona Mid-AM, and Arizona Women’s AM.

Key Highlights

• Progress isn’t linear. Especially in the beginning, we tend to assume that our skills only get better with time. More often than not, they don’t. Accept that setbacks and distractions are just part of the journey, and aim for consistency over results!
• The personal stuff matters. Have realistic expectations. Life happens. Priorities shift. A year ago, You could become a plus handicapper after an intense, dedicated season of training, then lose that edge in a month just because of a life change that put golf lower on your list of priorities. After getting married, Ricky Fowler went from the top five down to the top 500. It happens to the best of the best.
• Follow the plan. The absolute best way to keep nerves at bay during a championship is to employ a steady stream of patience and stick to your plan. The more you familiarize yourself with your strategy and the course you’re applying it to—the more objectively you view the experience—the less intimidating the game becomes.
• The tournament isn’t over yet. Stay in the present. No matter how much you believe there’s no recovering, even if you think you’re stuck in last place, if the tournament isn’t over, there’s always an opportunity to recover. It doesn’t feel that way in the middle of the chaos on the golf course, but the second you decide to let it go and just play, you might be surprised where you end up on the leaderboard.
• Your most important shot is the one right in front of you. You can’t undo what you’ve already done. You can’t do your next three shots in advance. The most important shot in your golf career is the one you’re standing over right now. 

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When my mom accepted the invitation to join us for the 2024 California Crush Invitational, I knew it would be an unforgettable experience. My sister Alix joins me today to reflect on Mom’s first-ever golf tournament experience and the lessons women golfers can take to heart through her example!

From Napa to Tampa, Mom’s unique challenges as a first-timer speak to the women out there who are thinking about taking the leap into their first tournament, but for one reason or another, they are holding back–whether due to a higher handicap index or otherwise.

With Mom being a casual golfer by nature, Alix and I never felt prouder witnessing her achieve her first birdie! She adapted beautifully to the formalities of an 18-hole match, thanks in no small part to the supportive environment we were immersed in throughout those two amazing days!

Of course, it wouldn’t be a conversation with Alix without a diversion into the latest golf fashion trends (can you say “wide-leg pants”?). After a quick discussion on said trends, Alix and I wrap things up by talking about the power of connecting with like-minded individuals who share our passion for women empowering women out on the course!

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Listen in as Justin Klemballa and I discuss tendencies golfers fall into when they get nervous, and strategies for nipping those tendencies in the bud!

Key Highlights

·      Tendency #1: Tension. When adrenaline is pumping through your veins out on the course, you tend to grip your club a little too tightly. To counter tension, apply the “so theory”: Embrace the negative thought, but immediately follow-up with a solution to direct your fear into strategy. It’s always better to commit to action than to get paralyzed by tension.

·      Tendency #2: Not following through. It’s easy to get overly focused on the ball that you end your swing at the ball itself, as if the ball is your “finish line”. In fact, the ball is only “halftime”. Focus instead on sticking to the finish, where your body ends up facing your target, and your right toe is perfectly pointed.

·      Tendency #3: Transferring weight. At the end of a swing, notice whether you’re transferring your weight too far from the right to the left.

·      Tendency #4: ”Decelerating” during putts or chips. Deceleration tends to happen when you realize that you started with too much of a backswing, and try to slow yourself down throughout the rest of the swing to counteract that initial power. Instead, go with a shorter backswing and allow the acceleration to hit the golf ball.

·      Tendency #5: Speeding up your swing. If you tend to speed up at the backswing or the transition, try to keep your feet together and focus on redirecting the majority of that speed down to the bottom of the swing.

·      Tendency #6: The chicken wing. This is when your right elbow points up while going into the backswing, or when your left elbow points up on the follow-through. Focus on keeping your elbows down all the way through.

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I’m sitting down with Mike Booker, author of The Tournament Golfer’s Playbook, to discuss the differences between the “golfer-who-plays-tournaments” and the “tournament golfer”.

Compared to recreational rounds, tournaments can get lonely, not to mention become a pressure cooker of expectations for the tournament player.

However, Mike says that playing tournaments is a vital step to improving your golf game, no matter your level. While too much pressure can become debilitating, the right amount of it can reveal your strengths and weaknesses in ways recreational golf never can.

When it comes to separating the true tournament golfer from the golfer who happens to play tournaments, Mike explains that the tournament professional is decisive, process-oriented, and looks at the big picture; while the dabbler is dithering, results-oriented, and agonizes over every shot and putt.

As he wonderfully puts it: “The tournament golfer doesn’t live in a world of good breaks and bad breaks. They don’t have any excuses. They take responsibility for every shot they hit, no matter what the outcome is. They know what they can control and what they can’t control.

About the Guest:

Mike Booker is the author of The Tournament Golfer’s Playbook. Well-known in the world of Texas amateur golf, Mike has won a record number of Texas Golf Association events and multiple Texas Player of the Year distinctions. For over 50 years, he has competed against and alongside some of the most accomplished Tournament Golfers including Jack Nicklaus, Fred Couples, and Arnold Palmer. In 2019, he was inducted into the Texas Golf Hall of Fame, joining the likes of Jackie Burke and Ben Hogan.

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I’m sitting down with superstar golf instructor, Trillium Rose, to discuss the evolution of women's golf, how to get better faster AND how to overcome a plateau in your golf game!

When I asked Trillium how to overcome a plateau, she recommended keeping stats by paying attention to patterns in your golf game. Can’t hit your 3-wood correctly? Blading or chinking your chips? “Let’s take a really honest look in the mirror,” says Trillium, “and figure out where you can improve.”

She also warns against “the illusion of confidence” that golfers tend to fall into at the driving range, thinking that they’re improving simply because they’re getting in some good shots. Instead, “I may want to be working on shots I suck at because those are the shots that are going to cost me strokes!”

To new players looking to establish a strong foundation, Trillium says that it’s important to understand where the club hits the ground and create “a consistent bottoming out”. She also encourages a lot of block practice as a warmup before moving onto the golf course to build the skill of environmental adaptation as fast as possible.

About the Guest:

Trillium Rose is a teaching professional and Director of Instruction at Woodmont Country Club in Rockville, Maryland. She is an expert in diagnosing swings, designing appropriate practice drills, and developing clear and concise practice plans. With nearly two decades of experience teaching golf, she has trained thousands of students. Her research-based training approach combines three critical areas of competency: mechanics, productive practice, and performance.

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I’m sitting down with Christine Fraser, an Ontario-based golf course architect, to discuss the world of golf course design from the perspective of one of the very few women in the industry.

We kick things off by discussing trends in golf course architecture over the decades, as well as what goes into “strategic design”, including fairway length, bunker placement, approach width, and environmental impact—especially water consumption.

The bulk of our conversation revolves around her advice on designing golf courses with women in mind.

About the Guest:

Christine Fraser is a golf course architect based in Ontario, Canada. Having grown up learning to play golf on her family’s golf course and later competing in the NCAA Division One Varsity Golf circuit in Florida, golf has always been a prominent feature in Christine’s journey. In 2014, Christine completed her master’s degree in landscape architecture and subsequently spent five years in England, practicing golf course design under world-renowned architect Dr. Martin Hawtree. Christine has recently made Canadian golf history when hired as the first female architect to undertake a comprehensive Master Plan at the Toronto Hunt Club. 

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Tori and Kim sit down with Shelly Haywood, who discusses how she has been able to successfully balance business ownership with high level amateur golf and became one of the most elite amateur players in the country.

Shelly discusses the highest highs in her storied career, which include winning two national titles, as well as her biggest loss in the form of the 2019 Southern California Senior Women’s Tournament and the priceless lessons that followed.

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The Babes Golf crew and I sit down with Justin Klemballa, who breaks down the 14 most common misconceptions about the golf swing.

“You need to keep your left arm straight on the backswing.”

“Always keep your head down after impact.”

“The club face should point at the target and swing across your body.”

“You have to improve your technique to improve your score.”

We’ve all come across these “rules” at some point or another. Listen in as Justin passionately and expertly debunks these newbie mistakes and more, all while highlighting best practices on the green that you can tailor to your individual strengths as a golfer, setting you apart from all the rest!

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I sit down with Kim Eaton and our special guest Sue O'Connor, a master club fitter from Cool Clubs. We kick off discussing Sue's accidental journey into club fitting, and Kimberly's anticipation for the LNGA Senior Championship and the Dallas Shootout.

From there we get into the meat of today’s conversation: the world of club fitting. Sue walks us through the data-driven process of determining the best club for each individual.

We look at the different club types available, the importance of the look and feel of the club, shaft classifications, and fitting costs. We also delve into the evolution of golf clubs, and the impact of club fitting on a beginner golfer's game.

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Being a part of the right club is about more than just the game, it's about community, convenience, and cost too. As someone who's been a member of three country clubs in the past, I walk you through the seven key factors to consider such as the club's location, initial fees, monthly costs, and those sneaky food and beverage minimums.

I explain how you can ensure the golf course you choose keeps you challenged and engrossed. I also talk dress codes, guest rules, and how you can become part of golf communities like the Women's Golf Association. Then there's also the question of what to actually look for in a golf club. From practice facilities to lesson options, member pricing to kid restrictions, I break it all down!

Finally, I give my thoughts on playing golf as a parent. Being a golf enthusiast while raising kids comes with its own challenges. We delve into what to consider when joining a country club with kids, from age-appropriate activities and location conveniences, to dining restrictions and daycare costs.

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I sit down with Raymond Prior, author of "Golf Beneath the Surface: The New Science of Golf Psychology", with the aim of understanding the mechanics of our mind and how emotions can transform our approach to the game and our performance on the course.

Through the breakdown of six myths around performance on the golf course, we deconstruct the common misinterpretations surrounding growth, stress, anxiety, and nerves, and discuss the role of mindfulness, willpower, and survival instincts in our decision-making process.

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I sit down with Joanne Cloak, CEO and founder of the golfwear brand JoFit. With her unique perspective as a former model, phys ed teacher, and lifelong athlete, Joanne takes us through her journey from grappling with ill-fitting clothes to starting her own brand that champions comfort, fit, and style.

Joanne unveils the backstory of JoFit, recounting how she drove up and down the East and West Coast, trying to sell her brand to pro shops. She shares how she maneuvered through the challenges of scaling her business, managing cash flow, and pre-booking orders.

We also deep dive into Joanne's design ethos, emphasizing the importance of details, patterns, and sizing strategies. She shares why long-sleeve sun shirts are her go-to and how she ensures styles to fit all body types. We explore her wide waistband design aimed at comfort and inclusivity. Lastly, we provide a sneak peek at the exciting JoFit designs planned for Fall 2024.

Key Highlights

·      Joanne took matters into her own hands when she realized the lack of good-fitting clothes available for women, especially in the golf apparel industry. Her brand prioritizes comfort, fit, and style, with a keen eye for details like pocket size and armhole fit.

·      Selling to pro shops wasn't easy. Joanne had to rely on her samples and the feedback of women in the shop to get her brand off the ground. She soon realized that the key to success was pre-booking orders so she could afford the production. With 26 reps and booming orders, Joanne found herself in a promising yet tricky cash flow situation.

·      She realized that as sizes increase, the grading needs to be adjusted differently for areas like the bust and belly. This feedback led to alterations in the grading process to accommodate these changes.

·      Joanne's story also highlights the importance of inclusivity in the fashion industry, particularly in sports apparel. Her focus on creating clothes that cater to all body types and her dedication to improving the fit and comfort of her clothes based on customer feedback demonstrate a commitment to creating a brand that truly serves its customers.

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I’m sitting down with the amazing Blair O’Neal. A TV personality, golfer, and model, Blair shares how she’s able to seamlessly balance a thriving career, motherhood, and her passion for golf! 

Blair talks to us about raising two young boys while managing the demanding travel schedule that comes with a dual career in media and sports. She shares stories from her formative years at Arizona State University, her professional experiences on the LPGA Symetra Tour (then known as the LPGA Futures Tour), and her current work with Golf Channel and Golf Pass. 

We’re also diving into the exclusive world of celebrity golf tournaments, and draw from our experiences regarding sharing personal life on social media. We weigh the balance between transparency and privacy as “influencers”, and how our choices as content creators affect audience engagement. 

We also talk about the thrill of participating in events like the Hilton Grand VacationsTournament of Champions in Orlando, where celebrities and LPGA Tour players alike get to bond within a unique and pressure-free setting. Blair then shares her experiences playing alongside top athletes like Nelly Korda and Brooke Henderson. 

Finally, Blair touches on her goals in the golf media industry, as well as practical tips on maintaining a healthy lifestyle as a high performer.

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I sit down with VISION54 co-founders Lynn Marriott and Pia Nilsson. They are internationally recognized and are the two highest ranked female instructors in America. The pair co-authored four bestselling books, including Every Shot Must Have a Purpose, which we dive into today.

Listen in as Lynn and Marriott discuss the philosophy behind VISION54 before diving into four powerful principles for playing better golf: 1) Think small, play big. 2) Anger makes us stupid. 3) Make practice real. 4) Make pressure your friend.

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To celebrate our first 50 episodes, we will be taking a look back at some of our most-listened to episodes but condensing them into a “Quick-9” series. So even if you have listened to these episodes in the past, this will be a great way to revisit some of our favorite content from field experts and fellow players.

 In today’s episode, we revisit episode 3 with Angela Hurt, as well as Jon Sherman, owner of Practical Golf and author of Amazon bestseller The Four Foundations of Golf. Angela and John fill us in on their golf game and goals for 2023 before breaking down the seven habits guaranteed to make you a better golfer!

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Happy 50th T-Time episode!! To celebrate our first 50 episodes, we will be taking a look back at some of our most-listened to episodes but condensing them into a “Quick-9” series. So even if you have listened to these episodes in the past, this will be a great way to revisit some of our favorite content from field experts and fellow players.

 In today’s episode, we revisit episode 7 with Lou Stagner, an Arccos Golf Data Insights Lead, Co-Host of the “Hack It Out Golf” podcast and one of the leading data research analysts on The PGA TOUR.

 Listen in as Lou explains what good golf looks like, not just on the expert level but also for those with a handicap inching towards average, whether 10 or 20.

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Tara and I sit down with Michael Leonard, host of the Wicked Smart Golf Podcast, to discuss his journey from novice golfer to competitor in US Open qualifiers and how he rekindled his love for the sport. Michael's enthusiasm is infectious, and it was a joy to reminisce about our own experiences playing college golf and how it shaped us both on and off the green.

 During our conversation, we shared stories about unforgettable golf vacations, like Michael's family trip to Pebble Beach where he played three times a day and managed to shoot an impressive 79 at Pebble and 73 at Spyglass. We also delved into the impact of the new NIL (Name, Image, and Likeness) rules on college athletes and offered advice for younger players looking to pursue a career in college golf.

 Fear is a hurdle all golfers have to overcome more than once in their career. Through the example of one of the worst rounds Michael has ever played, we explored how to navigate the emotional roller coaster that comes along with playing competitively. We discussed the importance of a solid pre-shot routine, positive self-talk, and remaining present on the course to improve our mental game.

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Today, I’m sitting down with Dr. Audra Lance, a leading sports and non-surgical injury specialist, who gives her best strategies on reducing the risk of injury or recovering from one.

 Listen in as Dr. Audra shares her valuable insights into understanding the root cause of common sports injuries such as tennis elbow, rather than simply stifling the pain with a temporary band-aid solution.

 We cover the fundamental role of breathing and thoracic spine mobility for golfers, as well as how loading the joints can prevent bone and muscle deterioration, and how modifying yoga poses can aid in injury prevention and recovery.

 Key Highlights

·      Recovering from an inflamed elbow from repeated golf swings, without taking time away from playing the sport, is possible with a little planning. For example, instead of playing 18 holes, go to the driving range and do 15 minutes of swing practice. Holistic, deliberate movement, combined with purposeful breathing, can serve as your “tylenol”, helping you heal from your injury faster.

·      The importance of breathing when it comes to preventing and treating lower back pain is essential. Nasal breathing can help access your diaphragm and pelvic floor, not only to help release tension almost immediately, but to help you perform better out on the golf course!

·      We explore how strength training and yoga can help prevent and treat neck pain, headaches, jaw pain, and shoulder blade pain. We emphasize the importance of loading the joints to prevent bone and muscle deterioration, and how modifications to yoga poses can help with injury prevention and recovery.

·      We look at how examining the feet can help diagnose and treat an injury, and how adding different components of movement to your routine can help maintain health and prevent pain.

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If you are considering a trip to Pebble Beach – this is the episode for you! Alix, Ashley and Everardo join me for this episode as we share our best insights on Pebble Beach while we reminisce about our recent retreat at Pebble Beach for the 2023 Creek Cup.

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Could yoga improve your golf game? Today’s guest, Donna Taylor, can tell you from experience that it does! She’s a 45-year veteran of the golf world, and brings her expertise as a yoga instructor in helping women enhance their skills on the golf course.

From learning the sport at just seven years old with her PGA Tour player dad to hitting the greens with the boys in high school, Donna's journey in the sport is filled with a special sort of passion and determination.

Discover how Donna's love for golf has evolved over the years, leading her to create successful beginner ladies golf clinics. She offers her insights on how yoga can help golfers with their breathing and staying present, making it a fantastic addition to a well-rounded workout regimen. She shares her inspiring story as a student who overcame fear of other people's opinions to excel in her game.

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Today, I’m joined by Jon Sherman, author of The Four Foundations of Golf, and creator of the Four Foundations Masterclass based on the book.

 Jon shares a powerful story about playing golf with his father in Florida, which served as the catalyst for the four foundations concept and emphasizes the importance of aligning expectations with the reality of our abilities in the game.

 The concept of managing expectations on the golf course is something that resonated deeply with both of us. Through our conversation, Jon and I explored the delicate balance between competition and enjoyment in golf, and how adjusting expectations can lead to a more satisfying experience on the course.

 Jon and I delve into the crucial role that practice and feedback play in improving golf performance. Drawing from his own experiences and insights, Jon shared tips on how to strike the right balance between practice and play, and how to manage expectations with the two thirds rule and the PGA Tour Fallacy.

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 Key Highlights

• Many players approach golf with an all-or-nothing mentality, basing their skill level on the success or failure they experience directly in front of them. Throw away this mindset. One of the greatest indicators of growth in the game of golf is incremental progress.
• Golf shots can be divided into three phases: tee shots, approach shots, and finesse shots. Virtually no golfer can nail all three shots above average in one game. Focus on getting at least one of these three shots right to take the pressure off of yourself and build your resolve.
• The PGA Tour Fallacy is when a golfer overestimates the ability of a PGA Tour player based on the highlight reel they see on TV. Temper your expectations for yourself by realizing that the best golfers in the world are nowhere near as flawless as the media makes them out to be.
• Find the right balance between practice and play for you. Think of playing as a form of practice, and that you can learn from the experience.
• Sometimes shooting your best score ever can be bittersweet. No matter how good you get at this game, there's a Jekyll and Hyde side to you, and the low-mid single-digit handicap is one of the most tortured golfers.

Today, I’m sitting down with Kim and Pat to share some exciting news, including our upcoming Dallas Shootout (head over to www.dallasshootout.com to sign up!) and retreats in Ireland and Scotland.

 We also have one more single occupancy spot at the five-star Ireland 2023 Retreat, so grab it while you can. Plus, we'll give you a sneak peek at our plans for the Desert Classic in 2024.

 Ever had a rough start in a golf tournament and wondered how to bounce back? Listen in as Kim shares her story of playing at the North River Yacht and Golf Club in Tuscaloosa, Alabama. Despite a challenging course and an underperforming driver, she managed to recover and even shoot par on the front nine.

 Finally, we wrap up with some golf talk and a listener question about Kim's waggle and how to develop your own pre-shot routine. Plus, join us for a trip down memory lane as Kim reflects on her time as a police officer in the 80s and her transition back into the golf business.

 You can also watch the episode on YouTube HERE.

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Today I sit down with Abby Liebenthal, Founder and President of Fore the Ladies, a nonprofit on a mission to introduce more women to the game of golf.

 Abby shares her experience hosting 70 clinics and other events under the Fore the Ladies banner every year, particularly the third annual The Lily Golf Getaway held at Pinehurst Resort.

 She also discusses her Intro to Golf series, breaking down what participants can expect out of the event from start to finish. Finally, Abby explains how players at different levels of skill can choose the right event they need to take their golf game to the next stage.

 Key Highlights

·      The lineup of golf events to be hosted in 2023 by Fore the Ladies total 70 so far! These range from golf clinics to Happy Hour events.

·      Abby shares why she’s recently decided to host more events on actual golf courses rather than in indoor facilities, explaining that playing the game out on the course makes newer players more likely to play for the long haul.

·      Fore the Ladies is planning international events, starting with Scotland. Abby shares whats in the pipeline for 2024, including their itinerary for Ireland!

·      Every opportunity that comes our way is exciting, but with each new opportunity we take on, we need to dedicate a chunk of our day to it. Abby reminds us to never forget that self-care is just as important to our success as the time and energy we put in to achieve that success.

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I’m sitting down with Nicole Butler and Amber Knecht, the viral sensation and dynamic duo that is "My Fairway Ladies”!

Listen in as Nicole and Amber share how their authentic humor and raw passion for the game have garnered the pair well over half a million fans on both Instagram and TikTok. Nicole talks about how her journey to the golf course started with a simple search for new friends, while Amber shares her generation-spanning connection to the sport.

Nicole and Amber are also encouraging more women to embrace golf, and hope that posting about their hilarious friendship dynamics out on the course will do just that! Through their example, they’re hoping to highlight the value of finding your “cartners for life” and building a community of like-minded besties to make your golf journey last.

Finally, they discuss what motivated them to kickstart the "My Fairway Ladies” brand and offer a tiny behind-the-scenes look at the business of golf apparel!

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Tori sits down with social media influencer Haley Bookholdt.

 She began her golf journey at nine years old during the 2008 recession. Her father, an avid golfer himself, encouraged Haley to pursue their shared passion. In 2017, she had the opportunity to attend Elon University on a golf scholarship.

 Listen in as Haley talks about the mental and emotional challenges that came with her role as a college athlete, as well as the frustrating experience of transitioning to recreational golf later on.

 Haley shares her experience as an influencer on Instagram and TikTok, and how she overcame the pressures of pleasing her male followers to display her authentic self on social media, which is to be a model for fellow female golfers.

 Finally, Haley talks about the future of women’s golf in our male-dominated space, and why she believes that true representation can only be achieved when more women “claim the game as their own”.

 Key Highlights

• As golf rounds become longer and longer, it’s become more important to find a purpose in every game to maintain your enjoyment in the sport, whether it’s for competition or simply a mode of relaxation.
• Haley shares her social media journey, how she built a brand on her own terms (and not based on what others, especially men, thought of her), and her future plans.
• The male-dominated golf world will only become more inclusive when women claim the game as their own.
• If you want to progress as a golfer, embrace humility; otherwise, your athletic development will only slow down.

You can also watch the episode on YouTube HERE.

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 Tracy sits down with Tracy O'Malley, world-renowned Master Performance, Business consultant, and Expert Enneagram Coach.

 Listen in as she discusses the nine Enneagram types and how to use knowledge of your “soul blueprint” as a compass for making sense of the gaps in your golf game.

 According to Tracy, getting in the reps is a foundational principle for all golfers, but that has to be complemented by breaking down the mental and emotional barriers that get in the way of growth. By knowing your Enneagram type, you’ll know how to do just that!

 Key Highlights

·      Type 1s, the perfectionists, need to avoid making absolute statements (ex. I’m good/bad) and consider the gray areas. We miss the miracles when we fall back on black-and-white thinking.

·      Type 2s, the helpers, have to learn to ask for what they want and need. By putting your own oxygen mask first, you can offer much more help afterwards.

·      Type 3s, the hustlers, easily experience burnout. Being “the best” doesn’t necessarily trace back to something measurable, so slow down and enjoy the journey, the experience.

·      Type 4s, the romantics, could do with more structure. Creativity and expressiveness is great, but having a plan of action is the way to take your game to the next level.

·      Type 5s, the introverts, can get a little too obsessed with the accumulation of knowledge; but, there has to be a moment where you step away from the “how to” YouTube videos and take action.

·      Type 6s, the overthinkers, can get paralyzed by an outcome that has not even transpired yet. They have to learn to let go and have more faith in their game.

·      Type 7s, the master networkers, can end up seeking out fun in order to avoid the hard feelings. They need to visit the “solitude cave” every once in a while to find moments of quiet and create a strategy.

·      Type 8s, the cholerics, can be headstrong and domineering to the point of intimidating others. Consider making the journey from active controller to considerate helper.

·      Type 9s, who always prefer going with the flow, eventually have to take a stand in spite of a constant fear of conflict. Don’t be afraid of using your voice.

 Learn more about Tracy O’Malley at www.tracyomalley.com

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What a fun episode we have today with Evan Singer and Matt Cermak from The Par Train podcast joining us. We are filling you in on 5 ways you can be miserable on the golf course – this is a must listen!

Key Hightlights:

• Expecting what you do on the range to happen on the course. A warm-up is just that: a warm-up. Your best swing or putt is an outlier, not an average.
• Trying to shoot your best score. When was the last time you actually shot your best score when you “tried” to shoot your best score? Don’t reinvent a past victory. Instead, recommit to earn a new victory. That is, don’t look at the finish line. Focus instead on the process—the journey—that will result in a win.
• Trying to impress others. Since we’re only human, we can’t help but care what others think; but, when we let the opinions of others influence our performance on the golf course, we end up doing worse than if we just put aside that insecurity.
• Assume you won’t make mistakes. Just because your last round was perfect doesn’t mean this round will be perfect. Golf is a game of recovery.
• Don’t get too high, and don’t get too low. Take care not to rest on your laurels after every good shot and beat yourself up after every bad shot. If you get too high, you create unnecessary pressure on yourself come the next swing; and if you get too low, you gradually lose the confidence and motivation to go on.

You can also watch the episode on YouTube HERE.

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It’s been 38 episodes, but I finally gathered the original group from EPISODE 1 of T-Time, our favorite teaching professional - Justin Klemballa, Babes Golf Icon – Alex Anderson, and a golfing buddy that always brings a smile to my face, Tameka Hartman.

 Today we are going over three ways to improve your practice sessions. We also get an update on everyone’s game and fill you in on what’s to come! If you are feeling uninspired on the golf course lately, this is the episode for you – this group will get you HYPED!

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Tori sits down with Kim and Tara to talk about what they expect going into the upcoming Arizona Four-Ball and the Arizona Senior Open. Kim and Tara, who are partnering up for the Four-Ball championship, discuss their game plan and pre-round routine.

 Tara then shares her experience going through the P.J. Boatwright Internship Program as a college sophomore and how it affected her golf career going forward. She also talks about her recent drive to once again qualify for the Arizona Mid-Amateur Championship.

 Finally, Tori, Kim, and Tara talk about the challenge of getting the 2022 Women’s Mid-Amateur to push through, followed by their goals for the summer.

 Key Highlights

• When playing with a partner, don’t put pressure on yourself. There are no “sorrys” in partner golf. If one partner makes a mistake at a hole, the other partner is there to close that gap and provide support.
• Tara explains that caddies don’t necessarily need to know a lot about golf. A newcomer can learn a lot just by spending enough time on the green and staying observant. When scouting out a club, don’t be afraid to ask if anyone’s in need of a caddie, because more often than not, someone’s looking.
• Golf is an emotional game, and like with any sport, no one likes to lose. Tori reminds us that it’s actually after the greatest losses that the most valuable lessons are learned.
• It’s okay to be competitive, even among friends. But it’s definitely tough (and often awkward) to compete against friends. That discomfort goes away over time as long as everyone remembers that competition ends when the game ends.

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 On today’s episode, we are catching up with Bailey Chamblee, my sister Alix and Echo Hause as we talk about our own golf style, how its evolved and where we think the golf apparel business is headed!

 You can also watch the episode on YouTube HERE.

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Alix Chesno: Instagram

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 Justin Klemballa does a deep dive into making better contact with the ground, explaining how to avoid fat shots and train yourself to take a divot in front of the golf ball.

 He breaks down the four steps to improving your swing, covering how to shorten your backswing, stay on plane all the way through the swing, and create a mental plan to stay consistent with each and every shot.

 Key Highlights

·      The biggest technical problem golfers struggle with, if they have bad contact, is not realizing where the divot is supposed to be. Your club bottoms out and hits the ground with every golf club in your bag except your driver and your putter. Every other club should hit the ground slightly in front of the ball. Hitting the ground before the ball is called a “fat shot”, and it saps energy that would have otherwise gone into the ball.

·      What causes the ground to be struck behind the ball is when the golfer’s weight is distributed evenly (50/50 on each leg) or their weight is too much on the back foot. Get your weight (around 70-80%) into your left side prior to the moment of impact.

·      The four areas golfers must work on to improve their swing, in order of priority, are: to hit the ball more consistently, to hit the ball straight, and to hit the ball farther.

·      To help shorten your backswing, your body and arms should stop turning at the same time. Eliminate the tendency to continue swinging your arms after your body stops swinging.

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Welcome to the Breaking 90, Breaking 100 Workshop! This workshop will discuss improving your golf game and achieving the milestones of breaking 90 or 100. Tori, who vividly remembers her experience of breaking 90 for the first time, will host this workshop alongside Justin, a full-time golf coach. While some may view setting such goals as trivial, the feeling of achieving them can be incredibly satisfying for golf enthusiasts.

 During this workshop, Justin will cover various topics, including the importance of knowing your golf stats, the role of mental health in golf, and much more. We are excited to have you all here, and we hope you enjoy this amazing sport as much as we do.

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Tori sits down with Tiffany Carter, a female empowerment speaker, money-making mentor, and marketing expert.

 She’s the founder of ProjectME, a program which taps into the power of manifestation to turn your deepest desires—whether in wealth, love, career, self-worth, travel, or relationships—into reality.

 Listen in as Tiffany shares how to apply manifestation to your golf game in three steps. Whether your goal is to break score barriers or get your handicap index down to single digits, you can’t physically train yourself to overcome self-limiting beliefs.

 She explains the process of envisioning the end result as regularly and as powerfully as you can until it comes to fruition, as well as how to prevent nervousness and creeping insecurities from sabotaging the process.

 Finally, Tiffany, talks about the importance of actually taking action on the things you envision. By showing up for yourself every day, and having a community to uplift you during those inevitable low moments, the Universe will always come through with the things you desire.

 Powerful Quotes by Tiffany

“Manifestation is when the power of visualization meets action meets energy.”

 “You can’t out-practice or outplay a broken mindset.”

 Key Highlights

·      Manifestation is all about visualizing a desired outcome and having that desire come into existence. This is a process which starts with the dream. When you combine that dream with the feelings attached to it, igniting all of that with action, you can manifest anything into your life.

·      Almost every top performer in every sport, including golf, works with a mindset coach. They didn’t become the elite of the elite through sheer physical talent and honed skill. They did it by focusing just as equally on the mental game. “The edge,” Tiffany reminds us, “is yourself.”

·      Manifestation isn’t about lying to yourself, saying, “I’m a good putter,” when you know it’s not true. Instead, it’s about expressing the type of golfer you want to be: “My putting is improving.” Make the vision as detailed as possible, down to what you’re wearing.

·      Release your attachments from the past and the future and stick to the present moment. All of your anxieties, fears, and insecurities, which impede manifestation, stem from being unable to focus on the now.

·      Half-measures beget half results. By deliberately taking aligned actions, doing them consistently, and having a support group to cheer you on, the Universe can’t help but make real what you’re putting all of your energies into manifesting day after day.

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Tori sits down with Shannon Mercer, Ashley Ibañez, and, all the way from the UK, Oli Bell.

 Oli is a sports broadcaster who specializes in horse racing, while occasionally dabbling in soccer as well as niche sports like snooker and darts. He’s also passionate about golf.

 Shannon and Ashley reflect on their 2022 trip to Scotland, where they intended to visit Dumbarnie Links as the first of their lineup of golf courses in the country, and how the Queen’s funeral forced them to postpone that visit.

 They went to North Berwick Golf Club and St Andrews Links, finishing at Kingsbarns Golf Links where they met Oli.

 Oli also discusses the planning process behind his annual golf trip for his group of twelve, the Bear Fight Invitational. He shares why he thinks the game of golf is not only great for building authentic relationships with like-minded folks, but also for broadening your horizons by traveling to amazing places in different countries.

 Key Highlights

·        Oli’s Bear Fight golf trips have allowed him to maintain genuine friendships amid the glitz and glamor of the world of media he’s constantly immersed in. Tori agrees, saying that golf has been a great way to meet new people and strengthen existing relationships, not to mention travel and discover beautiful new spots around the world.

·        As female golfers, Tori, Shannon, and Ashley probably felt more welcome in the Scottish golf community than in America. There, they didn’t feel like “women golfers” as much as they were simply “golfers”.

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 Today's show with Tori is set to be a treat for the audience as Bob and Christie Austin join her - both rules’ experts in the world of golf. Christie has an impressive background, having been the first female chair and governing board member of the USGA, where she chaired amateur status for two years. She also made history as the first woman chairman of the Rules of Golf Committee, a powerful committee responsible for writing the rules for the USGA and Royal and Ancient. Christie and Bob are members of the USGA rules committee and will discuss the biggest rules stories in golf and what we can learn from them.

 If you're a stickler for the rules, you won't want to miss out, so grab your clubs and tune in for an enlightening discussion on golf's biggest rules and stories.

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Tori and Kim sit down with Shelly Haywood, who discusses how she has been able to successfully balance business ownership with high level amateur golf and became one of the most elite amateur players in the country.

 Shelly discusses the highest highs in her storied career, which include winning two national titles, as well as her biggest loss in the form of the 2019 Southern California Senior Women’s Tournament and the priceless lessons that followed.

 Key Moments

?      (15:37) If time is a real issue, focus on quality practice. “I’m lucky if I can play once a week,” says Shelly. She prioritizes her short game over all else.

?      (33:00) Shelly’s first major tournament, the 2019 Southern California Senior Women, was also her first major loss. Being only a year into her pro career, Shelly knew that she simply didn’t have the experience nor the tools to be able to evaluate what went wrong in the moment. She’s since realized that the primary challenge she faced during that tournament was all a mental game, particularly around her self-worth. Her biggest lesson learned? “I am not defined as a person by the score that I shoot.” That the only thing she, as a player, can control is the shot in front of you. “Once that ball leaves the club face, it’s out of your control.”

?      (48:01) When men play good golf, they’re happy. When women are happy, they play good golf.

?      (51:17) Stop obsessing over “winning” the tournament you’re planning to play. We all want to win; otherwise, we wouldn’t go! Stay focused on the things you can control and let go of the things that you can’t. Take care of the little things and the big things will always follow. In golf, take care of your short game, your wedge game, and your bunker play, and commit to every shot 100%. Beyond that, stay grateful and in shape.

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Kim Eaton: Instagram

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Tori sits down with Alex, Sally, and Amanda of Babes Golf to talk about what sets their exclusive community apart from all other golf communities.

 They then show off the most unique items they keep in their golf bags, all the while giving their best tips for newbies on golf bag essentials!

 Key Moments

?      (14:37) “We may not get a hole-in-one, but we have a whole lot of fun.” This is what Babes Golf is all about: to steer as far as possible from your usual competitive golf club and be a community that prioritizes fun, without any of the pressure of outcompeting your fellow golfer!

?      (27:36) Opening a Babes Golf chapter in Arizona came with a fair share of surprises. The first was how much higher the costs are in running a golf club in Arizona even compared to California. Another is having to figure out a way to fill the summer schedule, considering very few people want to play golf around this time.

?      (32:17) Sally and Amanda show off the most unique items in their golf bags! Listen to the stories behind a custom-made JAWS wedge, a Birdie Supply towel with a magnet, a handy club-cleaning brush, a special-edition ball and a matching club head cover, and wedges passed down from father to daughter!

?      (41:34) It’s important to change your wedges every 80 rounds. Likewise, players should get their grips changed every 40 rounds. This is a very easy process: Head to the PGA superstore, or any golf store, and ask the representative to install the grips for you for a fee. They’ll be ready in a couple days. Note that if you belong to a club, you can ask to get new grips installed in the bag room.

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Babes Golf: Instagram | Website

Alex Andersen: Instagram

Sally Touw: Instagram

Amanda Pigos: Instagra ...