Sitting in a Car – Détails, épisodes et analyse

The school’s version of sex-ed vs what you’ve been teaching is very different.

So, what now?

Send him in to learn about sex-ed from this point of view or keep him home so that your point of view remains unchallenged?

It can be a tough decision, yet it can also be simple.

Are we trying to create clones of ourselves or raise kids that are free to be exactly who they are and can come and talk to us about anything under the sun?

The latter, right?

So maybe, we can ask him how he feels about it and also weigh up the pros and cons of being part of the lesson so together you and he can make a collaborative decision.

This in itself is a great life skill.

I’m sharing a few nuggets in today’s episode (if I do say so myself) and I look forward to hearing how you get on with them.

In today’s episode we cover:

1. The two sentence starters you can use to help you have a convo with your kid about how we all have different ways of thinking and/or seeing things.
2. What non-binary thinking is and how to explain it to your kid.
3. How to set a culture of collaboration with your kid so they can be involved in making decisions that affect them.

If you’d like to join us in the Evolve School where I teach the whole Evolved Family Method let me know here.

Until next episode,

x Sarah

Our job is to be there for our kids, no matter what.

And their job is to ask for help, no matter what.

And so if there is something that they need to talk about, they need to know they must ask for help.

As many times as possible, until they get it.

People being hurt by sex (this can happen for many reasons) is a difficult topic to speak about.

But having these kinds of chats with our kids is important.

For their growth and awareness.

So have a listen to this week’s episode to learn how to have this kind of talk with your kid.

Building the courage to speak openly with our kids about all kinds of topics is important for our own connection with them and ourselves.

If you need more support with this, feel free to reach out here and leave me your details. I’ll get back to you.

For now, have a listen to how we use courage to have complex conversations about difficult topics.

x Sarah

Do you have the skills and abilities to sit with really complex emotions?

Complex emotions like fear, worry, embarrassment, tension, or anger.

Whether they show up in you or others?

This is what you can learn if you join my community to learn The Evolved Family Method.

Your friend, who you love, is constantly making negative and toxic comments about her body and the body of others, around your kids.

You want her to stop but need some help in what to say.

In today’s episode I’m sharing how you can discuss this with your kids and also how you can best approach your friend.

Connection is at the heart of Sitting In a Car and for the relationship you want to build with your kids and the adults in your life.

Remember to grab a pen and paper so you can get the suggested wording to use and adapt for your own convos going forward.

You can also grab the free resource I mentioned via the link in my bio. (KELI CAN YOU MAKE SURE THIS LINK IS IN THE INSTAGRAM BIO PLEASE - You can edit the bio in searchie - thanks)

If you would love more support with your emotions, talking about sensitive things and plucking up the courage to do so, then The Evolved Family Method may be for you.

Drop me a DM to have a chat or head to the link in my bio to join The Evolve School waitlist.

x Sarah

I love this week’s question.

Because yes, it’s about consent, my favourite subject –

and consent isn’t always about sex so that makes it an easy topic to talk about with smaller kids.

You see, consent is actually about respecting yourself and others.

And we all want to raise kids who respect themselves and the people around them :)

So, YES!

We certainly can talk about consent with very young kids.

And the great thing about wanting to talk about consent is

childhood is FULL of everyday opportunities that help our kids see why consent is so important.

I have a story for you this week

about something I overheard, during one of my kids’ playdates,

where a really gross, funny game was happening,

and how I intervened, to let everyone know

that nobody has to eat anything they don’t want to eat (don’t ask!).

Enjoy this week's episode. It’s a good one

x Sarah

This question is a great one.

Because it’s about how we parent in a broken world.

I have a story for you this week. It’s about my child saying ‘too much’ to a kid whose parents weren’t ready for their kid to learn about sex.

Boy, was it awkward.

It had real repercussions.

(You can hear about it by listening to the whole episode.)

The fact is, kids talk.

And the reality also is, some grown-ups don’t think it’s right for kids to know facts about sex, puberty and bodies.

Or, maybe these parents want to talk, but they don’t know how.

So they just say nothing.

The difficulty is this. We know that it’s really important for our kids to have accurate information about sex from trusted grown-ups.

It gives kids a feeling of comfort and normality around the subject.

It means that far, far into the future, when they’re adults, they’re better able to keep themselves happy and safe, and the people around them too.

And it helps that our kids know that if ever they have questions,

or if something goes a bit wrong,

they can come to us.

Those are great reasons!

To hear more about this tricky but super-important subject,

and to hear my story about how awkward it can be (I’ve been there!),

have a look at this week's Sitting in a Car.

‘How do you teach your kid not to touch their vulva or bum in public

without body shaming them?’

What a great question!

It’s so useful for all of us who want to raise a child who is not ashamed of their body.

Lots of us know from personal experience that when we feel shame about our body,

it disempowers us.

It makes it harder to speak up for what we need.

It makes it harder to ask for help if something doesn't feel right.

It even makes it harder to ask for medical attention when we need it.

So there are so many great reasons why we want to avoid body shame for our kids.

How can we help our kids understand that there are rules about how and when we touch our own bodies,

without body shaming them?

To hear more about how to have these conversations about bodies,

and about how to raise kids without shame,

have a look at Sitting in a Car this week

x Sarah

This week, a parent asks,

‘‘If I don’t have boys, should I talk to my daughter about porn?’

This is such a great question.

Because it’s about so much more than porn.

It’s about all the media we might see

that has an impact on our ability to accept ourselves,

accept other people,

understand there are different types of bodies,

and there are all kinds of s=e=x=.

So it’s a big question!

And the short answer is… YES.

We should chat with all of our kids, of all genders, about porn.

To hear more of my answer to this great question, about how us adults can help our kids build these skills,

Listen to this week's video 👆

‘Is discharge from my vagina normal?’

This week’s question is such a great one.

It came from an 11-year-old.

If you’re a vagina owner, you may have had this question yourself, at some time in your life.

I call this kind of question an ‘am I normal?’ kind of question.

I get ‘am I normal’ questions a lot from kids.

Part of why I get these questions a lot

might be because sometimes when kids are growing up,

they don’t have a person they can ask

if they have questions about bodies, babies, puberty, and all the things.

(I’ve got a story for you about that in this week’s episode, from my own childhood.)

To learn more about how to empower the vagina-owning young people in your life,

and ways to let your kids know you’re a person they can ask about this stuff,

have a look at this week’s video.

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How do I respond if a child who isn’t mine (nieces and nephews) asks me questions about sensitive stuff like bodies and sex

This is such an important question.

This week in Sitting in a Car, I tell a story about a grandmother who answered a question when her granddaughter asked about sex and what happened next.

(There are BLOOPERS and spelling mistakes in this week's episode FYI so if you want to find those, make sure you watch to the very end! #facepalm)

Let’s be clear. If a child ever asks you a question about something sensitive, it’s a wonderful thing. It shows that you are approachable and they trust you. You should be honoured that you are in this awkward situation.

To hear more about what to say to other people’s children,

have a look at this week’s episode.

“Is it ok to tell a 4-year-old they came out of the vagina?”

What an awesome question this week.

It’s important for all adults to think about this, even if your kids are older or younger.

I think the answer starts with how we can get comfortable doing the parts of parenting that feel extra difficult.

(In this weeks episode, I tell a personal story about how my anxiety stopped me being able to show up for  my kids in an everyday situation.)

So what can parents and other adults who care for children say to young kids about how babies are born?

To hear more about how to chat about birth,

Listen to this week's episode.