Seen with Pandora Morris is a podcast about mental health, physical health, relationships and the experiences that shape us.
Each week, Pandora speaks to guests about their own experiences, alongside leading experts in psychology, health and wellbeing. From anxiety and relationships to self-worth, identity and the harder parts of life, Seen explores what we go through, why we feel the way we do and what can actually help.
Formerly Hurt to Healing.
How can you tell the difference between a tough boss and a narcissistic one?In this clip, I'm joined by Kathleen Saxton to talk about narcissistic bosses, both men and women. We explore the one question that separates a tough boss from a toxic one, why female narcissists can be harder to spot at work, the exact phrases to use when your boss criticizes you, how to rebuild trust in your own judgment after being gaslit, and how to help a colleague who is struggling.
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Hosted by Pandora Morris, Seen is a podcast featuring bold, brave, and honest conversations about mental health, wellbeing, relationships, and the experiences that shape our lives. Through personal stories and expert insights, Seen creates space for understanding, connection, and healing.
How to Attract a Healthy Relationship When Dating Feels Impossible | Toni Tone
What if the independent, ambitious life you've built is the very thing you've started to blame for keeping love at arm's length?
On this episode of Seen, I'm joined by Toni Tone, the writer, podcaster and big-sister voice so many women turn to when love, work and self-worth get tangled. She is the Sunday Times bestselling author of I Wish I Knew This Earlier and her new book, Soft Life: 10 Steps to a Gentle, Abundant and Easeful Life. We talk about why dating feels so much harder than it used to, why choosing a partner matters as much as being chosen, and how to build a softer life without shrinking your ambition. At a time when so many of us are tired, over-scrolled and measuring ourselves against everyone else's highlights, it's a conversation about deciding what enough actually looks like.
So many of us have wondered, after another quiet stretch, whether we should soften our edges to be easier to love, and we have chased the next milestone believing it would finally make us feel settled. This conversation suggests neither is true. You're allowed to want more, and you're allowed to stop proving you deserve it.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- Why the illusion of choice on social media makes it harder to build something real
- The one question to ask yourself before you stay with someone
- How to say no kindly, and why you should practise on the small things first
- What to stop doing, rather than start, when your life feels anything but soft
About Toni Tone:
Toni Tone is a Sunday Times bestselling author, award-winning podcast host of Toni Told Me and one of the UK's most trusted voices on relationships and self-worth. Often called the internet's big sister, she writes about love, ambition and softness with the candour of someone who has lived every lesson herself.Her new book, Soft Life: 10 Steps to a Gentle, Abundant and Easeful Life, is out now from Bloomsbury Tonic.
The Signs Youâve Disconnected From Your Body Without Realizing | Emma Louise Boynton
In this Seen Session, Iâm joined by Emma Louise Boynton to explore why we can feel disconnected from our bodies, how shame and self-criticism get in the way of pleasure, and the small everyday shifts that can help us feel more like ourselves again.
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Hosted by Pandora Morris, Seen is a podcast featuring bold, brave, and honest conversations about mental health, wellbeing, relationships, and the experiences that shape our lives. Through personal stories and expert insights, Seen creates space for understanding, connection, and healing.
Is Your Boss Destroying Your Confidence? How to Recognize Narcissistic Leadership with Kathleen Saxton
On this episode of Seen, I sit down with psychotherapist and corporate mediator Kathleen Saxton, author of Sly & Mighty. Kathleen came on the show before to talk about narcissistic parents in My Parent the Peacock, and this time we turn to the person many of us spend even more hours with. She explains what narcissistic leadership actually means clinically, how to spot the types, and why the first few weeks under one feel like everything you ever wanted. We talk about why it is so hard to see any of it while you are still inside, which Kathleen calls the dirty fish tank, and then get practical: the swing from golden child to scapegoat, why silence makes bystanders complicit, and stay, play or slay, the three honest choices you have.Â
Key Takeaways:
-The early red flags of a narcissistic boss, and why the first few weeks feel so good
- What the dirty fish tank is, and how a toxic culture quietly changes the way you behave
- Why intermittent reinforcement keeps you trying to please a boss who will never be pleased
- Stay, play or slay, and how to take back your agency at work
Chapters:
What A Narcissistic Boss Really Looks Like (00:00)
The Dark Triad: Why Psychopaths Get Promoted (07:13)
The Dirty Fish Tank: How Toxic Cultures Spread (13:27)
5 Masks Toxic Bosses Hide Behind (20:46)
Why Nobody Speaks Up Until It's Too Late (27:56)
How A Toxic Boss Follows You Home (35:00)
Should You Confront Your Narcissistic Boss? (42:32)
This Selfie Test Reveals How You Really See Yourself | Seen Session: Sarah Ann Macklin
Is self-compassion just being soft on yourself? Not at all. In this conversation, psychologist Sarah Ann Macklin explains what self-compassion really is, why self-esteem is a poor measure of your worth, and how self-pity keeps you stuck. She also shares simple tools you can start using today, including the selfie test and the friend filter.
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Hosted by Pandora Morris, Seen is a podcast featuring bold, brave, and honest conversations about mental health, wellbeing, relationships, and the experiences that shape our lives. Through personal stories and expert insights, Seen creates space for understanding, connection, and healing.
You Canât Enjoy Sex When Youâre At War With Your Body | Emma Louise Boynton
Why is it so hard to enjoy sex when you have spent years at war with your body?
On this episode of Seen, I sit down with writer Emma Louise Boynton, founder of Sex Talks and author of Pleasure. I devoured her book and couldn't wait for this conversation.
Emma opens up about developing an eating disorder as a young teenager and what it took from her. She explains how it worked as a coping mechanism, why understanding what it gave her mattered more than finding its cause, and what a later ADHD diagnosis helped her make sense of.
We talk about how disconnecting from your body makes intimacy feel impossible, why sex education that never mentions pleasure teaches us to perform rather than feel, and the contentification of sex online. Emma also shares how sex therapy at 28 changed everything, starting with one line from her therapist: for as long as she was at war with her body, she would struggle to enjoy pleasure.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- Why disconnecting from your body makes intimacy so much harder, and how that can be relearned
- What a pleasure journal is, and why Emma's therapist started there rather than with sex
- Why good sex education has to include pleasure and bodily boundaries, not just risk
- How to start with body neutrality when loving your body feels completely out of reach
Thank you Emma for being so honest. If you take one thing from this, let it be what she says to every woman who tells her she is broken: you are not alone, and you are not broken.
Chapters:
The Darkness Behind The Confidence (00:00)
You Don't Need a Diagnosis to Look After Your Mental Health | Seen Session: Gemma Styles
Where do you start when you realise you're struggling with your mental health?
In this bonus episode of Seen, author Gemma Styles joins me again for a few more questions after our main conversation.
Gemma's advice for a first step is simple: speak to someone. It doesn't have to be the perfect person, or the perfect way. If saying it out loud feels too hard, write it down or send a text. She also shares who she first opened up to.
We talk about the difference between feeling sad and being depressed, and why casual phrases like "I'm so ADHD" or "I'm a bit OCD" don't help anyone. Gemma also explains why she pushes back on the idea that ADHD is overdiagnosed.
Then we get practical. Gemma shares the small, everyday things that help her, from feeding herself properly and getting outside to being honest when she has nothing left in the tank, as an introvert and a mum.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- How to take a first step when you're struggling, even if it's just a text
- Why you don't have to wait until things get worse to look after your mental health
- Small daily habits that help Gemma look after herself
- Why mental health and neurodivergence don't look the same in everyone
I hope this one reminds you that we're all different, and that's what makes life so beautiful and rich.
Chapters:
Where to Start When You're Struggling With Your Mental Health (00:00)
Who Gemma First Opened Up To (02:13)
Is ADHD Overdiagnosed? Why Language and Labels Matter (03:09 )
Sad or Depressed? Situational vs Clinical Depression (06:34)
Mental Health Maintenance: Gemma's Daily Non-Negotiables (09:56)
Why Is Being Healthy So Hard? Nutritionist Sarah Ann Macklin Explains
Why does being healthy feel so hard, when we have more health information than ever?Â
On this episode of Seen, I sit down with nutritionist Sarah Ann Macklin, author of the bestselling book Healthy Shouldn't Be This Hard. I devoured her book, and I loved this conversation. Sarah has worked in wellbeing for over a decade. She says we don't have an information problem. We've lost ourselves in the middle of the health conversation. So we talk about the part most of us skip: the way we speak to ourselves.Â
We get into how constant self-criticism keeps your body in stress mode. We talk about why sleep tracking can turn into an obsession, and why self-compassion can boost your motivation instead of making you lazy. Sarah also opens up about her two burnouts, and why reaching a big goal can still leave you feeling empty.Â
We also talk about the new GLP-1 weight loss pill. Sarah shares why she's worried about people taking it when it isn't meant for them, including the effects on muscle and bone health. This topic is very close to my heart.Â
In this episode, you'll learn:
 - Why being hard on yourself can make healthy habits harder to stick to
 - What self-compassion really is, and why it isn't letting yourself off the hook
 - How to be your own parent, from your morning routine to your phone
 - How a one-day thought journal can show you what your inner critic is sayingÂ
I hope this one helps you be a little kinder to yourself.Â
Chapters:
Why Is Being Healthy So Hard? (00:00)
Why Drastic Health Changes Often Fail (05:17)
SOLO EP: There's Something I've Been Waiting to Tell You...
In this personal solo episode, Pandora looks back on four years of Hurt to Healing and the extraordinary journey that has brought her here. She shares how learning to trust herself, embrace uncertainty and choose the things that make life bigger has transformed her recovery, before revealing the exciting new name and vision for the podcast as it enters its next chapter.
Today I'm joined by OCD advocate and content creator Zachary Tucker for a conversation about one of the most misunderstood aspects of OCD: intrusive thoughts.
We explore what intrusive thoughts really are, why reassurance can actually keep OCD going, some of the lesser-known forms of the condition, and where to find support if you think you might be struggling yourself.
What Women Ask Toni Most, And What Lies Beneath It (00:00)
How Social Media And The Illusion Of Choice Changed Dating (02:13)
Who Succeeds On Dating Apps, And Why The Real Work Is (Offline (05:20)
How To Meet People In Real Life, And Why You Should Choose Too (09:31)
Feeling Enough, And What You Start To Attract (12:31)
Am I Too Much? Why You Have Priced People Out (16:08)
What Six Years In The Wrong Relationship Taught Her (18:55)
Why You Should Never Date Someone For Their Potential (20:06)
Learning To Make Yourself Your Own Priority (21:18) Do You Have To Love Yourself Before You Can Be Loved? (22:17)
Ambition And Fulfilment: How Much Is Actually Enough? (27:08)
Why Real Wealth Is Freedom And Health, Not Millions (29:14)
How To Set Boundaries And Say No Kindly As A People Pleaser (35:26)
Soft Life In A Hard World: Who Gets Access To Softness (42:34)
One Small Step If Your Life Feels Anything But Soft (46:52)
When Toni Feels Most Seen, And A Quick True Or False (48:32)
This one is close to my heart. I hope it leaves you feeling like you are already enough.
Kathleen Saxton is an accredited psychotherapist and a registered member of both the UKCP and the BACP. Before retraining she spent twenty-five years in media as an entrepreneur, Global CMO and talent agent to the C-suite, on the boards of companies ranging from Sky to Omnicom. She trained at Regents University and the CCPE in London, now practises in London and New York, consults to businesses on executive psychology, writes a column for Stylist on leadership and psychology, and runs the psycho-education channel ClinicwithK.
Her new book, Sly and Mighty: How to Recognise, Resist and Rise Above Toxic Power, is out on 24 September with Sheldon Press.Her first book, My Parent the Peacock, is out now.
One of the clearest conversations I have had about power, and about the relief of finding out that what you took to be your own failure to cope is a pattern with a name.
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Hosted by Pandora Morris, Seen is a podcast featuring bold, brave, and honest conversations about mental health, wellbeing, relationships, and the experiences that shape our lives. Through personal stories and expert insights, Seen creates space for understanding, connection, and healing.
How An Eating Disorder Takes Hold So Young (02:19)
Why Someone With An Eating Disorder Is So Hard To Reach (05:21)
The Turning Point That Made Her Want To Get Better (09:52)
What Your Eating Disorder Is Giving You, And The ADHD Link (14:03)
Early Sex And Living In A Body You Cannot Feel (18:18)
Why Sex Education Never Mentions Pleasure (21:21)
The Case For Lifelong Sex Education And Porn Literacy (28:46)
Bonnie Blue And The Contentification Of Everything (34:01)
Rock Bottom At 28 And The Dinner Party That Changed Everything (36:15)
At War With Your Body, And Why Your Body Is Your Home (41:39)
Why Recovery Is A Dance, Not A Finish Line (46:54)
What Sex Therapy Actually Looks Like, And The Pleasure Journal (48:36)
The Shame Around Bulimia, And Finding Good Company (53:03)
Why We Still Cannot Talk About Sex Openly (56:14)
Where To Begin If You Feel Disconnected From Your Body (1:00:49)
This episode is for education only and isn't medical advice. If you are struggling with your relationship with food or your body, please speak to your GP, or reach out to an eating disorder charity such as Beat.
How Gemma Protects Her Social Energy as an Introvert (12:30)
Why Mental Health Doesn't Look the Same in Everyone (13:40)
This episode is for education only and isn't medical advice. If you're struggling, please speak to your GP or someone you trust.
Connect with Pandora Morris
đ Substack: Subscribe to Pandora's newsletter for honest reflections and thoughtful conversations about mental health, wellbeing, and life.
Hosted by Pandora Morris, Seen is a podcast featuring bold, brave, and honest conversations about mental health, wellbeing, relationships, and the experiences that shape our lives. Through personal stories and expert insights, Seen creates space for understanding, connection, and healing.
Orthosomnia: When Sleep Tracking Becomes an Obsession (06:35)
Are You Living in a Dysregulated Nervous System? (09:37)
What Is Self-Compassion? And Why It Makes Us Cringe (14:46)
How to Talk to Yourself Like a Good Friend (18:37)
Does Self-Compassion Make You Lazy? (24:12)
Be Your Own Parent: Simple Daily Habits (28:51)
The Arrival Fallacy: Why Success Can Feel Empty (31:49)
Burnout: What Happens When You Ignore Your Body (36:43)
How to Use a Thought Journal (38:36)
Loneliness, Relationships and Longevity (41:27)
GLP-1 Weight Loss Pills: Muscle and Bone Health Concerns (42:47)
Why Nobody Has It All Figured Out (52:24)
Dyslexia, Self-Belief and Feeling Truly Seen (56:35)
This episode is for education only and isn't medical advice. Please speak to your GP before starting any medication.Â
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đ Substack: Subscribe to Pandora's newsletter for honest reflections and thoughtful conversations about mental health, wellbeing, and life.
Hosted by Pandora Morris, Seen is a podcast featuring bold, brave, and honest conversations about mental health, wellbeing, relationships, and the experiences that shape our lives. Through personal stories and expert insights, Seen creates space for understanding, connection, and healing.
