I once heard a quote which is self sabotage is simply self care misguided. So let's unpack this together. 

I am in Bali this week with Margaret Hays organising our Bariatric Babes Luxe Bali Retreat in August 2024. Please check it out here. Spots are filling.

 https://www.bariatricdietitian.com.au/bali-retreat

This is the last episode of season 2. I will be back in season 3. 

Thank you so much for listening. 

Please stay in touch:

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I truly appreciate you x

Let me share the hack, but it’s probably not what you think. It’s not about control it’s not about food itself but it’s more about shifting your identity towards V2.0, it’s not what you’re doing it’s more about the person you are BE-ING. 

It's something that I have personally been working on, and that's gratitude and appreciation. 

In this episode I share 3 simple hacks that I recommend trying out and let me know how you go!

If you want more strategies, next month in the Club we are working on the distractor saboteur. This is the part of us that is overly focussed on everyone else needs.  Come out as people pleasing or even control - controlling your food, exercise, household or others. 

It’s where your energy is directed externally - and nothing is directed internally. This leads us to get our needs met from food.  

If you are not priortising yourself - I invite to join the club before Oct 1st and come and work on this eating saboteur together.  The club is a lot less that what you are spending on your go to foods over a 6 month period.

Click to get the discounted price!

 

Today’s episode is something that’s been on my mind and something that I have bene working on personally and I thought it’s always good to share it and we can work on this together!

It's about what your story or internal narrative iis? Where is your focus? Does it really support where you truly want to go (your v2.0 path). 

What I’ve found is that our story, our attention is often on what we don’t want (our V1 selves) rather than what we want (our V2.0 self).

Our brain is wired to problem solve, to focus more on the negatives than the positives. 

So we need to train our brain to focus on what we want, 

If we leave our brain running on auto pilot, it can continue to run in V1.0 mode. This is like working with a a very old, outdated computer system. It will slow us down and won’t support us in reaching our goals. 

We need change the computer program ourselves. 

Let me share how to get started today. 

Announcements - I have created a customised cravings control reset.  This for you if you just need to press the reset button on your eating.

It involves receiving the best of my cravings re-wiring tools, plus a zoom session where we jump on and I help you identify your subconscious sabotage blocks. It’s one of my super powers.

It’s powerful to explore WHY you keep turning to the food, even though you don’t want to.  It’s at a really affordable price right now.  Spots are filling…if you wanting to try out this work with me, it’s a great opportunity to do just that.

https://georgiebeames.clickfunnels.com/cravings-control-reset

Have you heard the saying, your identity is your destiny?

In this 2 part episode, my guest Mary Lou Rodriguez unpack your subconscious identity and what this means for you after weight loss surgery. 

In this episode we are diving deeper around why change is so hard!

Enjoy!!

Mary Lou is a Brain Training & High Performance Mindset Expert, podcaster of The Unstoppable Mind, a Millionaire Money Mentor and soon to be author of Unstoppable YOU. She is an international speaker and teacher with students from all over the world.  She is  passionate about working with people to change their mindsets and train their brains to have massive success in every part of their lives. She has worked with thousands of clients worldwide, from multi-millionaire entrepreneurs, celebrities, to professional organizations.  She  uses hypnosis, neuroscience, and brain training tools to help people eliminate disempowering habits, fears, and self-doubt.  
links:  https://www.marylourodriguez.com/unstoppableyounow https://www.instagram.com/marylouhypnotizesyou/

 

Have you heard the saying, your identity is your destiny?

What is our subsconscious identity? 

How was it formed and how does it impact how we feel, our food choices and our weight?

In this 2 part episode, my guest Mary Lou Rodriguez unpack your subconscious identity and what this means for you after weight loss surgery. 

Enjoy!!

Mary Lou is a Brain Training & High Performance Mindset Expert, podcaster of The Unstoppable Mind, a Millionaire Money Mentor and soon to be author of Unstoppable YOU. She is an international speaker and teacher with students from all over the world.  She is  passionate about working with people to change their mindsets and train their brains to have massive success in every part of their lives. She has worked with thousands of clients worldwide, from multi-millionaire entrepreneurs, celebrities, to professional organizations.  She  uses hypnosis, neuroscience, and brain training tools to help people eliminate disempowering habits, fears, and self-doubt.  
links:  https://www.marylourodriguez.com/unstoppableyounow https://www.instagram.com/marylouhypnotizesyou/

 

I'm so exctied to announce that Bariatric Dietitian Margaret Hays, and myself are hosting a WLS Retreat in Thailand from July 9th - 16th. 

This unique experience will give you all of the benefits from an overseas retreat, plus the knowledge, expertise and insights from 2 WLS professionals to help get you back on track. 

If you have experience weight regain after WLS, or even if you are considering WLS, doing this important work with a Psychologist and Dietitian who are very experienced with WLS patients, will be critical to your success. 

There are limited places and bookings are already coming in. 

You can check it all out here.

We'd love to have you and hang out for a week!

https://www.bariatricdietitian.com.au/WLS-Retreat

Do you tell yourself this narrative "I just need to FIX my eating".

I did. 

I used to be so consumed about "fixing' my eating and weight. 

It became a personal quest. 

I didn't realise that it was a trap as we can't THINK our way out of this. 

I believe we need to feel our way out of it and focus on the cause, not just the symptom. 

Learn about what I recommend to focus on instead to start to get to the core of the issue.

If you want some extra support and help, you can work with me here. 

https://georgiebeames.clickfunnels.com/empowered

I've heard so many client stories and sabotage themes over the years. 

Partner's:

• Bringing in V1.0 snacks when specifically asked not to.
• Ordering the favourite take away, even though they can't eat it.
• Pilling up the plates, after being told that it's too much and they can't eat it all. 

The thing is, often it isn't just partners, it could be other family members or even friends. 

We unpack it all in this episode. 

 

Announcement - I'm launching a brand new 4 week live intensive with myself. 

I don’t work with clients individually anymore, it’s a great opportunity to work with me in a small group. We are capping the numbers. 

We are using EMDR, my signature tool and we are working on your worst eating habit that’s sabotaging your success. 

Night time eating, chocolate, snacking all day.  We need a pattern of eating, and a pattern that’s getting in the way of you stepping into your V2.0 self. 

I want to collect data from the 4 week intensive, we do this for science! It will be launched at the lowest investment and you can also receive private health rebates too. 

I anticipate it will prob sell out, jump on the waitlist and learn more.  Once we open the doors, you’ll be the first to know and jump on board if you feel like it’s going to be a good fit for you.

Sign up to the waitling list here >

https://breakup.georgiebeames.com/empowered-waitlist

I'm doing Febfast right now, where you do not consume any alcoholic beverage for the month of February. 

In this episode I share my personal strategies that I am using, which are a mix of practical, conscious mind strategies as well as subconscious strategies to support me to break the habit, reduce or eliminate cravings and thrive!!

Check it out here and you can also play along with my Food Cravings App. 

It's only AUD$9/month and let these evidence based tools support you with your cravings quickly and easily!

I have a special guest, Dr Marion Chan, who is a plastic and reconstructive surgeon. 

In this episode Marion provides a very real account of everything you need to know about getting plastic surgery after WLS. 

We cover off questions such as:

• What drives people to get plastics after surgery?
• When do people typically get plastics after WLS?
• Weight maintenance/loss after WLS before plastics?  What do people need to be aware of?
• What  areas do they get done?  
• Infection rate
• Expectations vs reality?
• What should people weigh up when considering plastics after surgery?

Come and follow Marion here and let her know what really resonated with you from this episode. 

https://www.instagram.com/drmarionchan/

You can follow Georgie here:

https://www.instagram.com/georgiebeamespsychologist/

www.georgiebeames.com

 

 

Happy new year!! I'm SO excited for 2023. 

I'm so grateful that you are here. 

What's your word for 2023? 

Having a word can really help set an intention for 2023 and to help form your identity around who are you being?

Listen to this episode and hear my word and what it means to me. 

Come and share your word with me in the socials as well :)

 

 

It's that time of year!!  

It can be a challenging time of year as well as a triggering time of year. 

We have a lot on, we are out of our routine and structure plus we all have the new year, new you messages heading our way!

Bariatric Dietitian, Jane Stoltz shares her top tips to help keep you on track with your eating over the holidays. 

If you want more strategies and to try my EMDR processing, I recently ran a Holiday Eating Workshop. You can grab the limited time replay here. 

You can find Jane on IG here > https://www.instagram.com/bariatricnutritioncoach/

I've seen a theme of WLS patient's not priortising themselves after surgery. 

This might be staying up too late and not getting enough sleep, not doing all the things they know will help them such as meal planning, prepping. Or continuing with their V1.0 old eating habits.  

They're caught up in a rut.  Making easy and fast eating choices.

They maybe eating their way through the day or night.

Weight regain sneaks up and up, and this negatively affects our mental health negatively.

If this resonates, listen to my 3 steps on where to start. 

I do have an opportunity for women to priortise themselves and priortise their WLS journey.  The WLS journey isn’t a side gig - it’s the main gig.

Bariatric Dietitian Margaret Hays and myself have a Luxe Bariatric Retreat in August 2024. There is plenty of time to book and save. 

It will be a combination of learning new skills and new tools on your WLS journey as well as rest and rejuvenation. 

Click here for more. 

 

Do you connect deeply with your feelings?

Might this send you to the fridge? 

This is what we talk about in today's episode. 

If you are a sensitive soul and are looking for a way to navigate this without heading to the food every time, take a listen. 

It's our feelings that lead us to the food.

I've found that many women are either numbed out from their feelings, or they feel their feelings very deeply. 

Both of these situations can lead to more eating. 

Today we explore what to do when you are numbed out from your feelings. 

I include some tips on where to get started. 

 

So many people think it’s so easy and simple.  Just eat less and exercise more. 

But I’m unsure if you know this or not, but we all have a part of us that DOESN'T want to change.

I used to think that there was something wrong with me. It was my fault and it was a control issue and everyone had control except me. 

The more I felt like a failure, the more that I felt bad about myself, beat myself up and then I would turn to food again. I would get into a loop.  It was a real rut. I'd gain weight in this rut and it would reinforce this narrative I was telling myself. 

This is what I wished I had known back in the day….that I want you to know today. Listen for more...

If this resonates, come and watch my Free Training (limited time only) where we explore the part of you that DOESN'T want to change.   You will get a taste of how I use EMDR processing with your V1.0 parts which I typically do with my paid clients.

Click here to watch the replay today. 
https://parts.georgiebeames.com/free-workshop-registration

If you are struggling with your eating habits, I have a new way to think about it. 

I have started to explore the area of working with our different parts.

I have a free workshop about this next week that I wanted to invite you to if this resonates. 

We are the sum of many parts. 

We have a part of us that wants us to change, and wants the best for us, and we all have a part that sabotages us.   I’ve been exploring this in every coaching call in my NBT program, because if we aren’t showing V2.0 behaviors  -there’s often a part of us that is blocking it. 

This is why the area of eating is just so complex!

There are many layers to work through.

Come and join me live if you can as it’s very interactive and I’d love to hear from you.  Otherwise I will be sharing a replay…

 

It’s Tuesday 18th October at 12noon Melb time.

Register here > 

https://parts.georgiebeames.com/

In this episdoe, we talk about what to do when you notice any changes or backslides with your eating. 

This could happen after the honey moon wears off after WLS, or it could be when all was going well, you were eating well, feeling good, and then it feels like out of the blue, your eating changed.

You're eating everything and everything in site (so it feels like) or those old V1,0 habits have started to creep back in.

In this episode I share my 4 steps to get started. 

If you want to get my re-wiring process that you can use for your specific habit to gain more natual control, I invite you to join us for our next 3 day challenge here >

https://breakup.georgiebeames.com/

In this eposide we talk through some tips on how to meal plan after weight loss surgery, without getting back into counting and control!

Listen for some really helpful tips and resources to help you. 

Want to help re-wire your brain around your #1 problematic eating habit? 

Join my next 3 day challenge here >
https://breakup.georgiebeames.com/

We all have a part of us that wants to change - the part of you that decided to get WLS, the part of you that exercises, the part of you that’s here listening to this podcast. 

And then we have  a part of us that doesn’t want to change.  It’s the part of us that eats in the moment, is consumed by food.

Let's dig deeper and understand the part of that is eating, how she might be trying to help you.

Want to dig deeper?

Check out my workshop here >

https://workshop.georgiebeames.com/join

My guest, Bariatric Dietitian Margaret Hayes and I get asked this question  a lot.  Should you try Intermittent Fasting after WLS?

Listen as Margaret provides a response from her dietitic perspective, and I provide a response from a psychological perspective. 

Enjoy!!

If you want to start to re-wire your brain around your #1 problematic eating habit, I invite you to join my workshop here >

https://workshop.georgiebeames.com/join

The last night that we were in Tasmania for school holidays, I started to have this bingey feeling.  I just wanted to get food in.  I had about 5 chocolates, 2 glasses of wine that I guzzled and half an icecream over a short period of time.  

I recognised that old feeling of just wanting to shovell anything into my mouth.

During it, I didn’t use any of my tools. Afterwards, I didn’t use any of my tools.

I basically went to bed feeling pretty crappy and beating myself up - I know better etc.

Listen for more and a framework to help you with your eating.

I invite you to join my next 3 day challenge to start to re-wire your brain around your #1 problematic eating habit. You can find more information here >

https://breakup.georgiebeames.com/

You can't hate your way skinny! Trust me, I tried it and gained more and more weight. 

How can I accept something that I hate?

If I accept my body now, does it mean I've resigned myself to being like this forever?

Here's where to start and a powerful exercise to stop using your body as a scapegoat and start to treat it like you're on the same team. 

Listen for more. 

I invite you to join my next 3 day challenge to start to re-wire your brain around your #1 problematic eating habit. You can find more information here >

https://breakup.georgiebeames.com/july

We all have an Inner Mean Girl. It’s the part of us that is judgemental, critical harsh. 

Nothing is every good enough.

She might come out when you see your reflection in the mirror. 

Or when you are getting dressed each morning. 

Or maybe comes out in a work meeting or a parenting moment, or maybe she comes out after you eat half the block of chocolate. 

She might tell you - you’re a failure, you're not good enough, you’re undeserving. 

And then can you guess what might happen next -  you eat.

If you have a strong Inner Mean Girl that you want to soften, I invite you to a $7 trial (2 weeks) where we will do a deep dive on your Inner Mean Girl. 

Grab Your $7 Trial Here. 

 

 

When things are predictable you feel like you have some control right?

This is where it got me thinking, this perhaps might just be more of a control issue than a fear issue.  I used to think this block was more about the fear of the unknown.

Rather than the issue being fear…..I feel like this issue could be about a loss of control….

Listen to learn more...

PS

I have a new workshop if you'd like to check it out > https://workshop.georgiebeames.com/join

HOW TO REWIRE YOUR BRAIN AROUND YOUR #1 MOST PROBLEMATIC EATING HABIT

Are you stuck in a comfort cycle that is preventing you from stepping into your V2.0 self. 

 

Let’s talk about comfort levels. 

 

Women say _ I want to change. I want peace, I want freedom. I want to trust myself around food, I want to thrive. 

But they get stuck in a comfort cycle. 

Maybe this might be where you are stuck as well.

Listen to learn more. 

Psychology 101 tells us our thoughts leads to our feelings, our feelings lead to our behaviour. 

We have a thought that we are a failure with our eating/weight > this leads to a feeling of feeling helpless, ashamed or disappointed > behav - lead to more eating.

We get stuck in a v1.0 cycle.  Same thinking gets the same results. 

V2.0 thinking can get v2.0 outcomes, because when we choose an empowering thought we feel more empowered and we typically make empowered choices with our eating.

Listen to learn more...

Ella like most of the women I work with, struggled with her eating since a young age. She had WLS approx 4 years ago, released weight, regained weight and identified a reoccuring trigger for weight gain which was the  feeling of loss of control.     The main difference with this guest today is that she is actually a dietitan!   You are going to hear the journey of a dietitan who has gone through all of the ups and downs after WLS...showing that that all of the knowledge in the world, doesn't fix the problem.    She shares the inner work that she did to clear the emotional baggage that she had been carrying around for years.    This is a long episode so I have divided this up into 2 parts.   This is part 2.   Trigger Warning: Mention of sexual abuse.

Ella like most of the women I work with, struggled with her eating since a young age. She had WLS approx 4 years ago, released weight, regained weight and identified a reoccuring trigger for weight gain which was the  feeling of loss of control.     The main difference with this guest today is that she is actually a dietitan!   You are going to hear the journey of a dietitan who has gone through all of the ups and downs after WLS...showing that that all of the knowledge in the world, doesn't fix the problem.    She shares the inner work that she did to clear the emotional baggage that she had been carrying around for years.    This is a long episode so I have divided this up into 2 parts.   This is part 1.    Enjoy!

Join Bariatric Margaret Hays and myself as we unpack this big question from a dietetic perspective, and I answer the question from a Psychological perspective - because nothing is in isolation!

Learn some new strategies and ideas in this insightful episode. 

Have you asked yourself this question?

Often, we are prepared to put in work in other areas of our life, but we secretly want the area of eating and weight to be easy (and to not work at it).

This is a perfectionsim block. 

Listen to learn more and what to start doing each day to shift it. 

Most of us have a default mode of doing. We are very proficient at doing.  Doing mode is about being busy, to do lists, the strategy is to control.  We know we are doing when our awareness is in our head.   

We are either doing, or being. They are mutually exclusive. 

We can not be and do at the same time.

When we experience cravings, our awareness is in our head.  When we are ‘doing’ we are also in our head - we are more susceptible to sabotaging ourselves, giving into our cravings - that happens when we are in the doing energy.

Listen to learn more.

Want to dig deeper? Come and join our free 5 day challenge  >Click to join challenge
 

I see so many WLS patients who still have the old, pre-surgery self worth - the surgery itself does not upgrade your self worth.  Then many WLS patients have their self worth tied up in their weight and appearance.  "If I get to goal weight, then I’ll feel good about myself.  If I am not losing weight or I’ve gained weight then I don’t feel good about myself." This is like being on a roller coaster - ups and downs. Stressful way to live your life and disempowering.

Find out the #1 question to ask yourself everyday that can start to shift your self worth.

I have teamed up with Bariatric Dietitian Margaret Hays as she unpacks this question from a dietitic perspective, and I unpack this question from a Psychological perspective - because nothing is in isolation!

I hope you enjoy listening to our different but complementary slants on this question. 

https://challenge.georgiebeames.com/february

You can find Margaret at: https://www.instagram.com/bariatricdietitian.margaret/

Have you noticed EVERYONE is talking about weight loss medications?

This prompted Bariatric Dietitian Margaret Hays and myself to unpack this and provide some food for thought (pardon the pun). 

In this episode we unpack what you might wish to consider before meds and if you are currently on weight loss meds, what you might consider as you come off them.

Free Food Cravings Challenge >

https://challenge.georgiebeames.com/food-cravings-challengehtqsj06k

Follow Margaret Hays here > 

https://www.instagram.com/bariatricdietitian.margaret/

I was involved in a bad car accident recently that almost wrote off my car and left me with concussion and a week in bed. 

In this very personal episode, I share my refections, learnings and commitments moving forward to continue to really embed my Version 2.0 self. 

Would it serve you to release some V1.0 clutter?

In this episode I encourage you to perform an internal and external audit.

To what extent is your environment, social media and interactions serving you at the V2.0 level?

What internal stories and old feelings might you be holding onto that would serve you to release?

Let's do this x

Are you waiting for your circumstances to change before you change?

Have you ever said to yourself that you'll start again tomorrow?

This is a version 1.0 strategy.

Change really comes from commitments, not circumstances. 

Listen to learn more....

It’s that time of year!!!

You will probably be bombarded with ALL of the messages around New Year, New You, such as get this bikini body in 4 weeks, and all of the promises that this will be the next thing.

Here’s the thing to remind you of.

Anytime you need to outsource your control externally - it’s a big red flag.

Learn more around what to focus on instead. 

Join my free challenge to learn how to get back in control, in a balanced, positive and longer term way.

We start January 17th

challenge.georgiebeames.com

 

Have you ever committed to something that you know would really help you, and then you’ve taken no action?

It got me thinking about procrastination as a form of sabotage and I thought it would be great to explore this on the podcast as I think this can be a common block for many listeners. 

We know that Sabotage is sneaky. It happens at the subconscious level.   

Sabotage looks like resistance. We can’t seem to get started, or we get started and we stop.

Listen to learn more!

How do we know what sabotage block we are sitting with that’s affecting our eating and weight?

If you are not where you want to be with your eating and weight, it's more than likely that there's a sabotage block (or a combination of blocks) that are in control of your eating and weight. Such as all or nothing thinking, perfectionism, eating to numb out etc.

In this episode I share with you how to identify what's going on with eating and weight with these 4 simple questions. 

This last weekend I was at a professional development course and was paired up with a buddy who wanted to work on her weight regain. 

She lost 60kg a few years ago and started to receive male attention, and whilst part of her enjoyed it, another part of her felt overwhelmed and she didn't know what to do with this new attention. 

This was an identity issue.  

She still had her old fat identity that didn't support her new body, and her body downgraded  (she regained all the weight). 

Listen to this episode if you want to change your eating and weight, but you're repeating the same eating patterns each day. 

Julie had struggled most of her life with her eating and weight and described food as being her friend and it meant everything to her. Like most WLS patients she tried everything to lose weight and then had WLS surgery a few years ago. All was going well until a traumatic event at work which set off the weight gain spiral. 

Hear Julie's inspiring story as she has stepped into her V2.0 self and the power of upgrading her mind. 

Want to get on your V2.0 path? Join the free sabotage challenge here >

https://www.foodbrainrewired.com/sabotagechallenge

 

Today is a question that has come up a lot recently in the WLS clinic that I thought would be helpful to share.  This is a quick, easy and helpful tip for you to use that’s in the moment when deciding what to eat, whilst not going out of control with food.   I used it actually on Sat night when I was out to dinner!!!

 

Last week my almost 2 year had another seizure, and I was surprised at how I responded. 

Do you think of worst case scenarios of how you will respond to future events? "I'll fail" "I can't do it" "I'll be a mess" 

That's exactly what was happening for me, until I was in that exact same situation...and my response surprised me!

Want more?  Join my free sabotage challenge here>

https://www.foodbrainrewired.com/sabotagechallenge

So many women tell themselves the narrative that they are relaxing and eating…maybe the whole day has been about everyone else.

Then it;s night time, the tv on and the chocolate or chips come out.

You tell yourself you’re relaxing but you are really numbing out.

The main difference is that relaxation is when our awareness is in our body.

When you are truly relaxed, you are often you aren’t thinking about food at all. 

Numbing out is quite different. Our awareness is in our head.  Disconnecting, unplugging, not thinking not feeling…food goes hand in hand with their saboteur. 

The numbing Part that disconnects.

It doesn’t want to feel or think…do anything to feel nothing.

If this resonates, we have a FLASH SALE for 48 hours only to work on this Numbing Saboteur together in the Reverse the Relapse Club. This is such an affordable way to do this powerful work. 

Check it out here > https://georgiebeames.clickfunnels.com/flash-sale-clubdlsot11x

 

No one intends to sabotage their Weight Loss Surgery Success, and yet it happens... A LOT.  

WHY?  Why do people pay thousands or dollars, risk invasive surgery and put all that hard work in to go back to their old ways?

I share the reason why this happens and 3 simple steps to use in the moment to stop the sabotage. 

Want more?  Join my free sabotage challenge here>

https://www.foodbrainrewired.com/sabotagechallenge

I get a little ranty in this episode, as I am seeing some big issues with certain posts in some WLS communities.   I talk about this a lot with my clients because it can be very triggering!

First of all, I think overall communities offer a great sense of support, connection, encouragement.  They bring like minded people together and a sense of understanding and the feeling that you’re not alone  - which is so incredibly important. 

However, when there aren’t strict boundaries around posts - it can become a bit of a free for all and some of these types of posts may lead you to take a step back on your own path and lead to sabotage. 

Listen to find out more about what to look out for and what to avoid.

This week we hear from an NBT participant Susette. She had always struggled with her weight and tried everything to lose weight over the years. She decided to have WLS a few years ago and was going really well. In fact she was only 5 kg off her goal weight until she faced a stressful life event that sabotaged her success and her old ways started to sneak back in. 

Listen to how she is back on track and has released 7kg naturally from this work on the program as she is back on her path. 

Many women who I work with hold themselves at a much higher standard than they do others. 

This is a subconscious Block around how you treat others vs how you treat yourself, which is underpinned by self worth.

The block is that if I hold myself to the same standard as I do to others, then I’m a selfish person, because if I relax how I treat myself and talk to myself.  If I relax this high standard that I have for myself, then I will let myself off the hook and perhaps lose motivation to change. I might just give up and resign myself to where I’m at (which is what I don’t want).

This is what we explore in this episode.