Quiet Messenger: Redefining leadership & messaging for introverts & sensitive souls – Détails, épisodes et analyse

What do we do when the way everyone else leads doesn’t match how our brain works? Do we keep trying to force ourselves into their mold, or do we find our own way?

Sometimes to “do it right” you actually have to do it ‘wrong’. Especially when doing it right just means “how closely do you sound to the models we’ve been taught?”

In this episode:

• Why my client’s “flaws” made her clients feel comfortable and seen (while “perfect” technique just left her disconnected)

• Discerning between feedback that helps you grow and feedback that’s just mainstream or neurotypical expectations 

• How I stopped trying to correct my neurodivergent quirks and started getting high demand for my services

• Why so many quiet leaders are actually neurodivergent (and what that means)

• The birth of AuDHD Sparks and what’s next here

• AuDHD Sparks Podcast

• @audhdsparks

• AuDHD Coaching 

We have a tendency to underestimate quiet leaders. Or we assume anyone successful ISN’T a quiet leader. This hit home for me when my friend Ashley Looker said she wanted to come to my Gathering of Quiet Leaders. As an Empowerment Coach, Mindfulness Teacher and Journaling Expert for ambitious over-achieving humans, Ashley’s got 11,000+ followers for each of her biz and podcast accounts on IG. Her voice is definitely getting heard, and she’s no beginner. 

Listen to our co-hosted convo to reorient and peel away layers of internalized bias. AND if you’ve got a more mature business and want to be in the company of other established quiet leaders!

In this episode, Ashley and I talk about… 

• How our relationships with our voices have evolved over the past several years
• Who we’re taught to be as business owners & disrupting the expectation to be loud and showy
• How we are each doing things differently than we were taught 
• Why she hadn’t thought of herself as a quiet leader until now and what shifted

Mentioned in the Episode:

• Ashley’s Website: http://uniqueholistichappiness.com 
• Ashley’s Instagram 
• Rest is Resistance Book
• Adrienne Maree Brown
• Rachel Cargle

Connect with Adria: 

• Uncover your Messenger Archetype & more at AdriaSophia.com.
• Adria's Instagram @iamadriasophia

This is for you if you’re neurodivergent, suspect you are, love someone who is, or are simply ADHD-curious.

For years, I suspected I was neurodivergent, that my brain worked differently than others. BUT I thought of ADHDers as bold, rash, outspoken and disorganized risk takers with overflowing energy. I, on the other hand, was a careful, shy, sensitive overthinker who ran out of steam by the afternoon. 

It didn’t seem possible to match up the view I had of ADHD with how I saw myself as an HSP (highly sensitive person). Until I read about masking. 

Kat and I talk about:

• Busting the ADHD stereotype with quiet, sensitive women
• Our own ADHD & HSP stories 
• The impact of being undiagnosed for decades
• Unconsciously masking, being highly sensitive & our voices 

Uncover your Messenger Archetype & more at AdriaSophia.com.

Connect with Adria.
Connect with Kat.

Links from the episode: 

• The Inflow app 
• “A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD” by Sari Solden 
• “The Highly Sensitive Person” by Elaine Aron
• Jacqueline Sinfield 
• Kat’s ADHD Resources Page

Finding your message to call in your people is more than simply saying the “right” words or choosing a “good” niche.

And, if you’re anything like me, it seems like every week there’s a new challenge to being in your power. Your own clients are often that challenge.

That’s the question I answer in this episode. With lots of real-world examples. Because this hasn’t come easy for me.

And when you can stay in your power with clients, you feel more confident unapologetically sharing more of yourself online.

• I have 1 spot open in January for 1-1 Coaching + Messaging. I’ll help you get clear on what you really do, communicate it, and weave it into marketing that lights you up. In between sessions, I’ll personally shape & hone your copy.

• Follow me on Instagram for behind-the-scenes and deeper stories around this conversation.

Warmth,
Adria

One of the things I noticed wrapping up the past round of Get Clear, Get Clients in December was each woman’s feedback included the unexpected power of being in a group of women - the feedback they got from the other ladies, the support, the encouragement. The sisterhood.

Entrepreneurship can not be done in isolation. That’s why in 2019 I’m setting an intention towards sisterhood.

I’ve invested in a high level mastermind for myself, and I will be running more rounds of my own group programs this year.

• I have 1 spot open in January for 1-1 Coaching + Messaging. I’ll help you get clear on what you really do, communicate it, and weave it into marketing that lights you up. In between sessions, I’ll personally shape & hone your copy.

• Follow me on Instagram for behind-the-scenes and deeper stories around this conversation.

Warmth,
Adria

We’re in an age when people are starting to lose trust with business coaches who are too polished and not sharing the real, messy side of themselves.

Becky does a great job modeling what it looks like to continue showing up for business despite setbacks, gremlins, or life circumstances.

And consequently, she gets repeat clients who buy everything she sells, referrals that bring new people into her community, and she has an incredibly active, engaged facebook group who share REAL things, not just promoting things they’re doing in their business. Listen in!

• The Call In Clients Accelerator doors close Thursday, December 13! It’s for you if you’re a woman coach who’s ready to kick off 2019 by amplifying your message online to call in your people.

• I have 1 January spot for 1-1 Coaching + Messaging. I’ll help you get clear on what you really do, communicate it, and weave it into marketing that lights you up. In between sessions, I’ll personally shape & hone your copy.

• Follow me on Instagram for behind-the-scenes and deeper stories around this conversation.

• How Becky went live in her fb group during a dark, emotional moment and why that made her people trust her more

• How she created an engaged fb group without a formula, instead based on modeling how she wanted them to show up

• Why she still sells a course that’s not part of what she does today, and why that’s okay

• How to put on the training wheels when starting to share honestly with your people

• Why the first question she asks herself when deciding what to share on Instagram and Facebook is: “Does this align with my values?”

• Becky’s website
• Becky’s Instagram
• Lightbulb Moment Podcast Instagram

Warmth,
Adria

Are you all over the place, not quite sure what you’re talking about? Or maybe you post when you feel like it which means there are huge gaps where you seem to disappear on your audience.

Six years ago when I was creating content for my old brand Healthy Vegas Vegan, one week I’d talk about meal plans... the next I was sharing my fitness regimen... then the next week I was sharing my DIY shampoo recipe... then came my go-to meditation practice…

And this would have been fine, but there was no thread that tied it all together. Then later on in my business, I’d often be stuck on what to write about so I would miss weeks.

Which meant that despite all the effort, I was definitely not calling in clients. I needed to meet someone in person at an event and have a deep conversation. That was fine until consistently going to networking events became draining as an introvert.

And to be honest, in the back of my head was a nagging voice that reminded me that I got into this coaching thing with the dream of creating a business that attracted clients online. Which I wasn’t doing.

Consistency both in:

• Showing up regularly so you build trust and relationship with your people over time

• Having a consistent thread through all your content that gets you known for one thing

Which is why I wanted to have a heart to heart with you about this on Unforgettable and share how to set yourself up to be more consistent in your marketing.

• Announcing the new Call In Clients Accelerator! It’s for you if you’re a woman coach who’s ready to step into 2019 being consistently more visible online, sharing your message, and calling in your people. Limited spots. Deadline is Thursday, January 13.

• I have 2 openings for VIP Coaching + Messaging. This is where we partner for 3 months for clarity & messaging that calls in your people. I’ll help you get clear on what you really do, communicate it, and weave it into marketing that lights you up. In between sessions, I’ll personally shape & hone your copy.

• Follow me on Instagram for behind-the-scenes and deeper stories around this conversation.

Warmth,
Adria

A lot of my clients struggle with what parts of their life to share -- and what not to share -- in blog posts, videos, their Instagram or Facebook biz page.

Do you ever struggle with what to share when you’re showing up as your brand online?

Too much and you have no privacy. Too little and there’s a barrier to trust because you don’t seem human.

But when people are getting to know you, it’s these little things that break the ice and create a sense of comfort and initial connection so people can engage on a deeper level.

• I have only 2 VIP Coaching + Messaging spots left in 2018. This is where we partner to craft clarity & messaging that calls in your people. I’ll help you get clear on what you really do, communicate it, and weave it into marketing that lights you up. In between sessions, I’ll personally shape & hone your copy.

• Get Clear, Get Clients is my signature course to help you build the foundation that lets you call in clients instead of constantly chasing them. Once you complete it, you’ll be so clear on what you do that talking about it will feel easy, exciting, and impactful.

• Follow me on Instagram for behind-the-scenes and deeper stories around this conversation.

• The personal details I regularly share and where I weave them in

• Lots of examples to generate ideas and sparks for what to share yourself

• How to make sharing your personal things feel authentic rather than contrived

• Small ways you can get started immediately sharing more about yourself

Warmth,
Adria

Do you sometimes wonder how much to share? Or stop sharing when shit hits the fan in your life?

My guest Maggie Patterson is pretty comfortable speaking her mind - she’s the friend who will tell you not to get those jeans. And yet, that’s not always synonymous with being able to show up real and honest with your audience.

Maggie is host of Small Business Boss podcast, has been on stage at events such as New Media Expo, Podcast Movement, and the Conquer Summit, and her work has been featured in leading publications such as Entrepreneur.com, Fast Company and Virgin.com.

We’re also talking about how to position your work as premium once you’ve got clear messaging in place… and we have a deep conversation around female entrepreneurs earning more. (HUGELY important topics here!)

• I have only 2 VIP Coaching + Messaging spots left in 2018. This is where we partner to craft clarity & messaging that calls in your people. I’ll help you get clear on what you really do, communicate it, and weave it into marketing that lights you up. In between sessions, I’ll personally shape & hone your copy.

• Get Clear, Get Clients is my signature course to help you build the foundation that lets you call in clients instead of constantly chasing them. Once you complete it, you’ll be so clear on what you do that talking about it will feel easy, exciting, and impactful.

• Follow me on Instagram for behind-the-scenes and deeper stories around this conversation.

• How she shared openly with her followers on Instagram while she went through dark times during the death of her father and then her mom getting sick

• Understanding what motivates you so you can build your business not based on someone else’s dream --- because not everyone really wants to build a million dollar business!

• Where she finds the balance in being blunt but not negative -- when she’s used to telling it like it is

• How she’s shown up online as “Maggie” through the different evolutions of her brand - from agency model to personal brand to partnership

• The gap between what women business owners make and what men biz owners do -- and her mission to help close it

• How to create a signature service from what’s working to position your work as premium and create more ease in your business

• The great debate over niche -- do you really need one or has Maggie found a way around it?

• Maggie’s free workbook to create your Signature Service
• Scoop Studios Website
• Small Business Boss Website
• Instagram
• Scoop Studios Business Facebook Page
• Small Business Boss Facebook Page

Warmth,
Adria

Naomi Mdudu is a former fashion journalist who worked as a business strategist for some of the leading names in the fashion and lifestyle industry and now helps entrepreneurs scale their businesses with intention with The Lifestyle Edit podcast and platform.

Coming from a traditional newspaper background, Naomi used to be more comfortable hiding behind her brand. The ONE place she felt safe and at home communicating about herself was her newsletter - and (surprise!) that’s where her early clients came from.

Though her business has evolved, her mission has stayed the same - to help others scale with intention, with a clear vision of the life we want our businesses to support.

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• 2 spots left for 2018! VIP Coaching + Messaging is where we partner for 3 months for clarity & messaging that calls in your people. I’ll help you get clear on what you really do, communicate it, and weave it into marketing that lights you up. In between sessions, I’ll personally shape & hone your copy.

• Get Clear, Get Clients is my signature course to help you build the foundation that lets you call in clients instead of constantly chasing them. Once you complete it, you’ll be so clear on what you do that talking about it will feel easy, exciting, and impactful.

• Follow me on Instagram for behind-the-scenes and deeper stories around this conversation.

• How she sets up her workdays and biz to operate on a high vibration where everything on her calendar is a “hell yes”

• The shift she makes to get into the brains of her ideal clients + use the language they use (when leading with words like email marketing and funnels might feel too techy and unrelatable)

• How to create a new offering that best meets your people’s needs even if you don’t have a tribe to poll

• The “pillars” that she pulls from to create brand content -- and how she infuses personal interests into her messaging

• How to make the client acquisition process less about “convincing” and more about communicating your values to naturally attract the people you’re destined to work with

• http://www.thelifestyleedit.com/
• The Lifestyle Edit Instagram
• The Lifestyle Edit Facebook

Warmth,
Adria