Explorez tous les épisodes du podcast Queer Talker
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| Queer Talker Trailer | 07 Feb 2025 | 00:00:54 | |
Queer Talker is a podcast celebrating the stories and journeys of LGBTQ+ individuals from all walks of life, from business leaders to celebrities and influencers. Through open and authentic conversations, we explore themes of identity, authenticity, and the power of living boldly. Follow me: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Chris McAllister: Laughing Through Labels, Trans Joy on Stage & Living Out Loud | 15 Jul 2025 | 00:39:27 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with Chris McAllister—comedian, writer, actor, and self-described “person-next-door funny”—to explore how humor, identity, and visibility can work together to spark real social change. Chris shares how growing up as a tomboy in Northern England shaped their early sense of self, why they came out as a lesbian before later identifying as transmasc, and how their wife helped unlock their fullest, most authentic self. They reflect on the healing power of sobriety, the complexity of pregnancy as a trans person, and the joy of helping others understand trans identity—one joke at a time. They also unpack what it’s like to be visibly trans in today’s political climate, why curiosity should be met with compassion, and how laughter can soften hearts, shift narratives, and open minds. From viral Instagram videos to starring in the web series Kit, Chris proves that trans joy isn’t just powerful—it’s disarming. This episode is a must-listen for anyone passionate about trans visibility, using your voice for change, and finding joy in being unapologetically you. Chapters 00:00 The Power of Humor in Social Change 01:31 Childhood and Identity Formation 05:45 First Encounters with LGBTQ+ Representation 09:51 Navigating Authenticity and Relationships 11:40 Comparing Trans Rights: UK vs Australia 16:31 The Impact of Social Media on Trans Visibility 19:42 The Role of Comedy in Education 25:32 Balancing Visibility and Safety 29:38 Advice for Younger Generations 33:40 Rapid Fire Questions and Personal Favorites Follow Ben Cicchetti: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Ali Najjar: Finding Light After Darkness, Intersectional Pride & Rebuilding Love | 02 Jul 2025 | 00:55:37 | |
In this powerful episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with Ali Najjar, Pride Award winner, proud gay Muslim man, and fierce advocate for hope, to explore a life marked by resilience, reinvention, and radical authenticity. Ali opens up about growing up gay in a Muslim household, surviving relentless bullying at school, facing trauma in the workplace, and living two lives before finally embracing his truth. He reflects on the journey to self-acceptance, the heartbreak of losing his father, and the years-long rift with his mother, until their relationship was joyfully restored at his wedding to his husband, Adam. They also unpack the beauty and complexity of intersectional identity, the need for inclusive queer representation in media and faith spaces, and the lasting impact of being seen and celebrated. Plus, Ali shares the moment he realized he had to speak up, how he turned pain into power, and why he’s never looking back. This episode is a must-listen for anyone passionate about queer liberation, cultural identity, and the lifelong process of healing, belonging, and living out loud. Chapters: 00:00 Understanding LGBTQ+ Identity Through Childhood Experiences 04:09 The Journey to Authenticity and Self-Acceptance 18:42 Navigating Intersectionality as a Queer Muslim 21:19 Growing Up in the 80s: Challenges and Bullying 26:01 Workplace Challenges and Sexual Assault Experiences 33:19 The Importance of Safe Spaces in the LGBTQ Community 38:32 Celebrating Love: Marriage and Acceptance 47:43 Cultural Icons and Their Influence Follow Ben Cicchetti: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Helen Scott: Owning Your Story, The Joy of Being Queer & Building Real-Life Community | 18 Jun 2025 | 00:46:07 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with Helen Scott — author of Live, Laugh, Lesbian, radio DJ, stand-up comedian, and content creator — to explore her vibrant queer journey and the power of showing up authentically online and offline. Helen opens up about navigating bullying as a child, discovering her sexuality in an era with little representation, and the moment queer nightlife gave her that first true sense of belonging. She also shares how her online community inspired her bestselling book, why we must embrace fluidity in identity, and how the queer community can come together to fight division in the face of rising hostility. They dive into the double-edged sword of social media, the importance of offline queer spaces, and practical advice for anyone — from teens to those coming out later in life — looking to build community and live joyfully as their true self. This episode is a must-listen for anyone passionate about queer joy, authentic representation, and building a stronger, more connected LGBTQ+ community. Chapters 00:00 Understanding Childhood Influences on Identity 01:45 First Awareness of LGBTQ+ Community 04:42 The Journey to Authenticity 07:53 The Impact of Community and Belonging 10:40 The Birth of 'Live, Laugh, Lesbian' 13:42 Navigating Stereotypes and Expectations 16:54 The Role of Social Media in Representation 20:02 The Power of Authenticity in Visibility 24:04 Embracing Authenticity and Self-Acceptance 27:08 Building Community in Real Life 31:04 Advice for the Younger Self and the Queer Community 34:39 Celebrating Queer Icons and Representation 38:12 The Impact of Writing and Legacy Follow Ben Cicchetti: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Zander Murray: Breaking Barriers, Owning His Truth & the Future of LGBTQ+ Inclusion in Football | 04 Jun 2025 | 00:54:29 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with Zander Murray, who made history as Scotland’s first openly gay senior footballer. From the weight of secrecy to the freedom of coming out, Zander shares his deeply personal journey—one shaped by resilience and the hope of creating lasting change in the world of sport. Zander opens up about the moment he knew he had to come out, the unexpected support that followed, and the mental toll of staying closeted in a hyper-masculine environment. He reflects on football culture, the barriers that still exist for LGBTQ+ players, and why true representation matters both on and off the pitch. They also explore what it means to live authentically, the pressure of being seen as a role model, and how Zander’s work today continues to champion inclusion and visibility for the next generation of athletes. This episode is a must-listen for anyone passionate about football, queer visibility in sport, and the transformative power of living your truth. Chapters 00:00 Understanding Zander's Early Life 04:20 The Journey of Self-Discovery 07:07 The Impact of Role Models 10:01 Coming Out: A Personal Journey 13:03 Navigating Media and Public Perception 16:03 The Role of Football in LGBTQ+ Inclusion 19:15 Challenges of Being a Role Model 22:05 The Future of LGBTQ+ Representation in Football 32:22 The Impact of Coming Out in Sports 34:50 Transitioning from Player to Advocate 39:50 Empowering the Next Generation of LGBTQ+ Athletes 44:53 Overcoming Internalized Homophobia 48:36 Celebrating Authenticity and Team Support 54:16 New Chapter Follow Ben Cicchetti: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Robby Weber: Queer Joy, Flawed Characters & the Power of LGBTQ+ Storytelling | 21 May 2025 | 00:40:59 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with author Robby Weber, whose joyful and heartfelt queer love stories have helped thousands of readers see themselves on the page—and escape into something beautiful. Robby shares how a lifelong love of stories turned into a career, the surprising power of writing flawed queer characters, and why authenticity is an ongoing journey—not a destination. He opens up about navigating social media, the emotional messages he receives from readers, and how growing up in Florida fuels his passion to fight for queer visibility, especially in the face of book bans. They also discuss the joy of queer romance, how Robby finds inspiration in real friendships, and what we lose when LGBTQ+ stories are always rooted in trauma. This episode is a must-listen for anyone who loves YA fiction, queer joy, and the power of books to change lives. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Robby Weber 04:19 The Journey of Authenticity 07:25 Navigating Negativity and Social Media 10:23 The Importance of Representation in Literature 13:12 The Evolution of Writing Career 15:47 Inspiration and Creative Process 18:22 Connecting with Readers through Social Media 21:36 Reflections on Young Love and Personal Experiences 24:18 Celebrating Queer Joy in Literature 27:36 Advice for Young LGBTQ+ Individuals 29:06 Legacy and Impact of LGBTQ+ Stories 32:55 The Importance of Flawed Characters 37:10 Dream Collaborations and Future Projects More from Robby Weber: Website: https://www.robbyweber.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/robbyreads/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@robby.reads Preorder Everything About You: https://www.robbyweber.com/everything-about-you/ Follow Ben Cicchetti: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Rebecca Minor: Becoming Ourselves, Affirming Others & Guiding Families with Pride | 07 May 2025 | 00:34:37 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with Rebecca Minor, gender specialist, author, educator, and clinician, to explore her powerful work supporting trans and gender-diverse youth on their journey of becoming—and helping their families affirm them every step of the way. Rebecca opens up about her own queer journey, growing up in creative spaces, navigating compulsory heterosexuality, and the moment she decided to publicly live her truth. She shares what inspired her to become a gender specialist, and how she uses “possibility modelling” to show young queer people that their futures can be bright, joyful, and expansive. They also unpack the disinformation crisis surrounding trans identities, the political weaponization of gender, and the misconceptions parents and the public still hold. Plus, Rebecca offers heartfelt advice for families, educators, and allies alike—and teases her upcoming book Raising Trans Kids: What to Expect When You Weren’t Expecting This. This episode is a must-listen for anyone passionate about affirming queer youth, breaking down harmful narratives, and building a world where everyone is free to live authentically. 00:00 Understanding the Role of a Gender Specialist 04:18 Exploring Personal Identity and Childhood Experiences 07:22 The Impact of Representation in Media 10:16 Authenticity and Professional Identity 13:20 The Political Landscape of Gender Issues 16:24 Misinformation and Disinformation in Gender Discussions 19:31 Supporting Trans and Non-Binary Youth 22:20 Advice for Parents of LGBTQ+ Children 25:21 Navigating Family Dynamics and Acceptance 28:18 Messages of Hope for LGBTQ+ Youth 31:15 Rapid Fire Questions and Personal Insights More from Rebecca: Website: https://www.genderspecialist.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gender.specialist/ Preorder Raising Trans Kids (UK): https://tinyurl.com/yxdpjr2a Preorder Raising Trans Kids (US): https://tinyurl.com/32jxv5uy Follow Ben Cicchetti: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Zac Haniff: The Power of Pop Culture, Queer Joy & Building a Platform That Celebrates Us All | 23 Apr 2025 | 00:54:53 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with Zac Haniff—Senior Social Video Journalist at Metro UK, content creator, and proud pop culture obsessive—to explore his journey from camcorder kid to one of the UK’s most vibrant queer voices in media. Zac opens up about growing up in a very “non-queer” household with two brothers, discovering his passion for video editing and Disney Channel dreams, and how moving to London unlocked his sense of self. He shares how he launched Charlotte Tilbury’s TikTok, built Metro’s entertainment channel, and the importance of using social media to spotlight joy and escape the doomscroll. Zac dives into why queer content is essential in dark times, how Metro is rewriting what inclusion looks like in media, and the queer icons who’ve shaped Zac’s world—including JoJo Siwa, Rebecca Black, and RuPaul. Zac also reflects on authenticity in the digital age, the art of the celebrity interview, and why he’s manifesting a moment with Ariana and Cynthia for Wicked: For Good. This episode is a must-listen for anyone passionate about queer joy, pop culture, and building platforms that make us feel seen, safe, and celebrated. 00:00 Introduction 02:08 Metro Pride Awards Experience 04:46 Childhood Influences and Early Interests 08:01 Authenticity and Self-Discovery 09:57 Journey into Social Media 14:53 Memorable Interviews and Impactful Moments 19:57 The Importance of Queer Representation in Pop Culture 25:02 Looking Ahead: Excitement for 2025 29:54 The Power of Voice in the LGBTQ+ Community 34:45 The Power of Representation in Media 38:59 Advice to Younger Generations 48:08 Starstruck Moments and Celebrity Encounters 50:59 Favorite Queer Icons and Cultural Impact Follow Ben Cicchetti: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Blair Imani: Proud, Powerful & Intersectional — Reclaiming Identity, Fighting Disinformation & Thriving Authentically | 09 Apr 2025 | 01:01:36 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with Blair Imani—historian, educator, author, and creator of Smarter in Seconds—to explore her remarkable journey as a Black, queer, Muslim woman navigating identity, visibility, and activism in today’s world. Blair shares how her early experiences shaped her deep sense of purpose, how discovering intersectionality changed everything, and why authenticity—online and offline—is the key to her voice and platform. She reflects on moments of erasure, finding community, and the personal cost of being visible in a time of increasing political hostility. She also dives into the evolution of Smarter in Seconds, the power of reclaiming terms like “woke” and “DEI,” and how education, storytelling, and joy can be acts of resistance. This episode is a must-listen for anyone passionate about intersectionality, representation, and the ongoing fight to ensure every queer person is seen, celebrated, and safe. Follow Ben Cicchetti: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti Follow Blair: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/blairimani/ TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@blairimani | |||
| Olly Pike: Fighting LGBTQ+ Prejudice Before It Starts, The Power of Inclusive Education & Changing Young Lives | 26 Mar 2025 | 00:57:01 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with Olly Pike, author, educator, and founder of Pop’n’Olly, to explore his incredible journey—from aspiring performer to leading the charge for LGBTQ+ inclusive education in schools. Olly shares how his early experiences shaped his passion for storytelling, why representation in children’s education is more important than ever, and how teaching kids about diversity at a young age can break the cycle of prejudice before it even begins. He also dives into the realities of LGBTQ+ education in schools today, the backlash against inclusive teaching, and what still needs to change to ensure every child grows up knowing that being LGBTQ+ is normal, accepted, and celebrated. This episode is a must-listen for anyone passionate about education, LGBTQ+ representation, and shaping a future where every child sees themselves reflected in the stories they grow up with. Follow Ben Cicchetti: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti Bluesky - https://bsky.app/profile/bencicchetti.com Follow Pop’n’Olly: Website: https://www.popnolly.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/popnollyuk/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/popnolly TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@popnolly | |||
| Christopher Kenna: From Foster Care to CEO, The Future of Inclusive Media & Fighting for Representation | 12 Mar 2025 | 00:44:12 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with Christopher Kenna, founder and CEO of BA Diversity Inc., to explore his extraordinary journey—from a challenging childhood and military service to leading a media company focused on true representation. Christopher opens up about how his early experiences shaped his relentless drive, why authenticity is key to success, and the lessons he’s carried from the military into the business world. He also dives into the fight for genuine inclusion in media, the backlash against DEI, and what still needs to change for LGBTQ+ and minority communities to be truly represented. This episode is a must-listen for anyone passionate about representation, resilience, and rewriting the narrative of who gets a seat at the table. Follow me: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti Bluesky - https://bsky.app/profile/bencicchetti.com Download GenB TV App: iOS: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/genb-tv/id6742052218 Android: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.generationblack | |||
| Andrew Flewitt: Life After Loss, The Power of Storytelling and Showing Up for Yourself | 22 Jul 2025 | 01:01:11 | |
In this heartfelt episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with writer, podcaster, and creative force Andrew Flewitt to explore his powerful journey, from growing up queer in a conservative town to building an unapologetically authentic life grounded in creativity, connection, and self-discovery. Andrew opens up about what inspired his moving book Do You Believe In Life After Loss, why Brighton became a turning point in embracing his queerness, and how losing and rebuilding family, love, and identity helped him discover a deeper version of himself. He shares how queerness has become his superpower, why community is vital, and how amplifying diverse queer voices became his creative mission. They also talk about the losses we don’t always name, of safety, identity, opportunity, and why queer storytelling is essential in an era of rising hate. This is a raw, hopeful conversation about finding joy through pain, creating space for grief, and learning to love the version of yourself that emerges on the other side. This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating loss, craving connection, or ready to embrace the radical, resilient joy of being queer. Chapters 00:00 Understanding Andrew's Early Years 02:57 The Impact of LGBTQ Representation 05:57 Finding Authenticity and Community 08:52 Embracing Queerness and Creativity 11:53 The Importance of Diverse Voices 14:49 Navigating Loss and Resilience 17:43 The Journey of Writing a Book 20:43 The Power of Podcasting 24:05 Exploring Different Types of Loss 26:58 Cultural Reflections and Queer Experiences 29:58 The Role of Music in Identity 32:47 Hope and Grief Coexisting 35:53 Life After Loss 39:02 The Importance of Community 41:52 Supporting Independent Creatives 44:46 Rapid Fire Questions and Personal Insights Learn More About Andrew Flewitt: LinkTree - https://linktr.ee/fleweyactually Follow Ben Cicchetti: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Love Bailey: Savage Beauty, Trans Liberation and Creating Queer Utopia | 29 Jul 2025 | 00:23:49 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with the electrifying Love Bailey, artist, musician, activist, and founder of the Savage Ranch, for a powerful and unapologetically fierce conversation about art, identity, rebellion, and queer survival. Love shares her early experiences with homophobia and performance, her journey through fashion and celebrity styling, and her path to living fully as the woman she is today. From dancing with pigs at the Savage Ranch to releasing her music video Tranz Panic, she reveals how glamour, satire, and protest come together in her vision of queer utopia. They discuss the making of her film The Battle for TransMecula, the ongoing fight against anti-trans legislation in the US, and the importance of community, visibility, and refusing to dim your light. Love speaks openly about being shadowbanned, navigating misogyny even within queer spaces, and why fantasy is her fiercest form of resistance. This episode is a must-listen for anyone passionate about trans joy, radical queer art, and creating a world where we can all exist louder and prouder. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Love Bailey 02:40 Queer Panic 05:31 The Journey to Authenticity 08:25 Creating the Savage Ranch 11:19 The Inspiration Behind Transpanic 13:59 The Battle for TransMecula 17:00 Visibility and Representation in Queer Spaces 20:07 Advice for the Younger Generation Learn More About Love Bailey: Website - https://www.lovebailey.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/loveisbailey Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Rico Jacob Chace: Trans Activism, Intersectionality & Finding Queer Joy | 26 Aug 2025 | 01:00:35 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with Rico Jacob Chace, one of the UK’s most visible trans voices, award-nominated activist, and filmmaker, for a powerful conversation about trans rights, intersectionality, and the importance of joy in queer life. Rico shares how his early life shaped his stubborn self-belief, why embracing his authentic identity at 25 changed everything, and the journey from a trading floor career to the front lines of activism. He opens up about navigating the world as a Black trans man, the impact of recent UK legal rulings, and the daily realities of public advocacy. From creating safe spaces and building community to finding laughter in friendship and hope in the next generation of activists, this episode is both unflinchingly honest and deeply uplifting. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Rico Jacob Chase 04:15 Queer Panic 07:13 Influential Queer Media and Its Impact 10:08 Childhood Experiences and Identity Formation 13:05 Navigating Queerness and Authenticity 16:12 Activism and Community Engagement 19:05 Intersectionality: Being Black and Trans 22:12 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Acceptance 30:12 Navigating Identity and Privilege 34:00 The Impact of Recent Legal Changes 39:09 Political Tactics and Community Response 43:27 Understanding the Trans Experience 47:58 Finding Joy and Community 53:42 Advice for the Younger Generation Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti Resources Mentioned: We Create Space - https://www.wecreatespace.co Non-Binary Barrister - https://www.instagram.com/nonbinarybarrister/ Trans Legal Clinic - https://www.translegalclinic.com Not a Phase - https://notaphase.org Gay’s The Word - https://www.gaystheword.co.uk Trans+ Solidarity Alliance - https://www.transsolidarityalliance.com | |||
| Ella Vaday: West End Roots, Drag Race Realness and Queer Joy at Every Age | 12 Aug 2025 | 00:53:29 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with Ella Vaday, the multi-talented drag queen and performer who went from West End shows to making it all the way to the final of RuPaul’s Drag Race UK Season 3. Ella, also known as Nick Collier, shares stories from a complicated childhood in rural Suffolk, a life shaped by performance and pressure, and the moment drag became an unexpected lifeline during lockdown. From surviving isolation on Drag Race to reclaiming confidence in her thirties, Ella talks candidly about coming out later in life, learning to stop hiding, and why you should never feel rushed to figure it all out. They also dive into the highs and lows of fame, the backstage reality of reality TV, and the joy of finding your place, whether that’s in a glittery gown or a sweaty gym. Plus, Ella opens up about navigating queer identity in a social media age, why she still doesn’t feel like she fits in, and the advice she’d give to young queer people feeling lost or unseen. This episode is a must-listen for anyone who’s still figuring it out, still finding their voice, or still waiting for their spotlight. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Ella and Queer Panic 04:24 Childhood Memories and Celebrity Crushes 07:34 Fashion and Drag Race Highlights 10:16 Influential Queer Media and Icons 13:20 Navigating Queerness and Family Dynamics 16:17 Advice for Young Queer Individuals 19:30 Social Media and Its Impact on Queerness 26:03 Embracing Authenticity and Self-Acceptance 28:35 Navigating the Performing Arts Journey 33:11 The Evolution of a Drag Queen 37:45 The Rollercoaster of Drag Race Experience 42:17 Adjusting to Fame and Public Scrutiny 47:53 Lessons Learned and Advice for the Future Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Jordan Gray: Trans Visibility, Music, Comedy & Living Authentically | 07 Oct 2025 | 00:43:53 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with Jordan Gray — award-winning comedian, musician, writer, and the first trans woman to headline the London Palladium. Jordan reflects on her journey from pop singer to stand-up comedian, and how coming out unlocked the freedom to share her authentic self on stage. She talks about creating her hit ITV show Transaction, her Channel 4 special Is It A Bird?, and her 2025 Edinburgh Fringe show Is That a Cock in Your Pocket or Are You Just Here to Kill Me? From blending music and comedy to disarm prejudice, to navigating social media while “staying soft,” Jordan shares the highs, lows, and laughter that define her story. She also offers heartfelt advice to young queer people about choosing joy over other people’s discomfort and living unapologetically. This is a conversation about authenticity, resilience, and why comedy is one of the most powerful tools we have for connection. Chapters 00:00 Queer Panic Rapid Fire 04:28 Exploring Queer Media and Representation 07:26 Authenticity and Personal Journey 10:21 First Awareness of Queerness 13:21 Transitioning from Music to Comedy 16:27 The Art of Blending Music and Comedy 20:51 The Journey to ITV: From Concept to Screen 23:58 Writing for TV vs. Stand-Up Comedy 25:59 Navigating Public Perception and Social Media 30:24 The Power of Comedy in Challenging Conversations 33:26 The Fine Line of Humor: Intent vs. Impact 37:26 Experiencing the Edinburgh Fringe Festival 38:30 Advice for the Younger Generation 41:10 What's Next for Jordan Gray? Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Seth Insua: Queer Storytelling, Human Animal & Rethinking Masculinity | 23 Sep 2025 | 00:45:40 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with Seth Insua, debut author of Human, Animal and talented artist, for a thoughtful conversation about queerness, creativity, and finding belonging. Seth shares how a childhood obsession with Pinocchio shaped his creative spirit, how growing up queer in a homophobic all-boys school influenced his search for authenticity, and the inspiration behind his acclaimed novel. He reflects on themes of masculinity, non-belonging, and the power of perspective that run through his writing, as well as the influence of queer icons like Russell T Davies. From exploring why queerness and horror are so intertwined, to the importance of finding your people and embracing mistakes, this episode offers both intimate insight into the mind of a writer and universal lessons on living authentically. Chapters 00:00 Queer Panic Game: Rapid Fire Questions 04:13 Influential Queer Media: Movies, TV Shows, and Books 07:20 Childhood Reflections: Growing Up Queer 10:05 Writing Process: Obsession and Creativity 13:25 Authenticity: Discovering and Embracing Queer Identity 16:14 Inspiration Behind 'Human, Animal': A Multifaceted Story 20:16 Exploring Family Dynamics in Dairy Farming 23:44 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Belonging 26:24 Researching Perspectives: Understanding Different Narratives 30:04 Challenging Traditional Masculinity 33:09 Finding Common Ground in Divisive Times 36:36 The Intersection of Art and Writing 41:51 Advice for the Younger Generation Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti Connect with Seth Insua Website - https://www.sethinsua.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sethinsua Buy Human, Animal - https://linktr.ee/seth.insua | |||
| Brandon Wolf: Pulse Survivor, Activist, and the Promise to Never Stop Fighting | 09 Sep 2025 | 01:00:24 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with Brandon Wolf — survivor of the Pulse nightclub shooting, national press secretary for the Human Rights Campaign, and one of the most powerful voices for LGBTQ+ equality in the United States. Brandon shares his journey from growing up in a small conservative town, to finding chosen family and queer spaces that gave him the courage to be unapologetically himself. He opens up about his best friend Drew, the night of the Pulse tragedy, and the promise he made to keep fighting for a world Drew would be proud of. From the desecration of sacred memorials to the resilience of a community that refuses to be erased, Brandon speaks candidly about grief, advocacy, and the work still to be done. He also reminds us of the joy, hope, and humanity at the heart of queer liberation — and why giving up is never an option. This is a conversation about loss, resilience, and the fight for a future where everyone can live unapologetically and authentically. Chapters 00:00 Queer Panic: A Fun Introduction 04:27 Exploring Identity and Safe Spaces 07:33 The Impact of Community and Chosen Family 10:31 Reflections on Family and Early Influences 13:34 Awakening to Queerness: Media and Real Life Experiences 16:16 Finding Authenticity and Belonging 19:26 Life Before Pulse: Dreams and Aspirations 22:34 The Significance of Pulse Nightclub 25:12 Community Resilience After Tragedy 30:07 Refusing to be Erased: The Resilience of the Queer Community 31:44 Historical Context: Lessons from the Past 34:25 Building a Movement: The Power of Persistence 35:27 Remembering Drew and Juan: Stories of Friendship 39:58 A Promise to Fight: Creating a World of Pride 43:51 Finding Balance: Self-Care in Advocacy 48:42 Community Engagement: The Power of Connection 52:29 Gun Safety: Progress and Challenges 56:59 Political Aspirations: Impact Over Title 58:53 Advice for the Younger Generation: Be Unapologetically You Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Jaxon Feeley: From Prison Officer to Trans Advocate and Doing it Scared | 04 Nov 2025 | 01:06:33 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with Jaxon Feeley, former prison officer, public speaker, and trans advocate, for a powerful and deeply human conversation about courage, visibility, and doing it scared. Jaxon opens up about his life before and after transition, from working in the prison service to walking back through the gates as “Mr Feeley.” He shares how he found the strength to come out publicly, the moment he told his family they could have “a dead daughter or a living son,” and why he believes fear and bravery can exist in the same breath. From battling stigma to embracing authenticity, Jaxon’s story is one of resilience, vulnerability, and relentless hope. His mantra, “do it scared,” is a reminder that courage does not mean being fearless; it means showing up anyway. Chapters 00:00 Queer Panic Rapid Fire 03:35 Childhood and Early Identity 08:42 Transitioning and Authenticity 13:21 Family Dynamics and Support 18:32 Working in a Prison Environment 23:22 Reality TV Experiences 28:38 Living Authentically in the World 34:10 The Intensity of Reality TV 34:56 Balancing Multiple Roles 37:08 Finding Daily Happiness 39:11 Navigating Loneliness in the Spotlight 41:39 The Importance of Social Media Breaks 43:27 The Thrill of Hunted: A Unique Experience 56:06 The Impact of Representation in Media 59:17 Introducing 'Fear Proof': A New Book 01:03:38 Advice for the Younger Self Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti Connect from Jaxon Feeley: Website - https://jaxonfeeley.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jaxryderfeeley | |||
| Alex Thomas-Smith: From West End to Netflix, Authenticity On and Off Stage | 21 Oct 2025 | 00:48:47 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with Alex Thomas-Smith — actor and performer whose credits span the West End, TV, and Netflix, including & Juliet, What It Feels Like For A Girl, and Lena Dunham’s Too Much. Alex reflects on their journey from childhood to the stage, sharing early memories of queer representation from Big Brother’s Nadia and Coronation Street’s Hayley Cropper, and why those moments of visibility mattered. They open up about growing up in challenging circumstances, finding strength with their sisters, and embracing authenticity without ever feeling the need for a formal “coming out.” From the thrill of starring in & Juliet to balancing intimacy and spectacle on their wedding day, Alex speaks candidly about love, representation, and how neurodiversity shapes their creativity and career. They also discuss the importance of refusing roles that erase identity, and the joy of telling queer stories unapologetically. This is a conversation about representation, resilience, and what it means to be brave enough to live without limits. Chapters 00:00 Queer Panic Rapid Fire 07:20 Childhood and Early Influences 13:12 Awareness of Queerness 19:09 Authenticity and Self-Expression 25:07 Marriage and Personal Milestones 25:13 The Reality of Performing Eight Shows a Week 28:41 Navigating Relationships in the Theatre World 31:16 Stage vs. Screen: A Performer’s Perspective 33:19 Experiences on What It Feels Like For A Girl and Too Much 38:51 Choosing Projects: Aligning with Authenticity 40:36 The Shift in Queer Representation 42:25 Neurodiversity and Performance 44:47 Advice to Young Queer Individuals Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Lord Chris Smith: Britain’s First Openly Gay MP, Section 28 & Fighting for Equality | 18 Nov 2025 | 00:50:59 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with Lord Chris Smith — Britain’s first openly gay male MP, the world’s first openly gay cabinet minister, and a pioneering voice for LGBTQ+ equality in politics. Chris reflects on the moment in 1984 when he stood on stage in Rugby and came out publicly, becoming the first openly gay MP in British history, and the courage it took to do so in a hostile climate. He shares his perspective on Section 28, the chilling effect it had on young LGBTQ+ people, and the long fight to overturn it. We also discuss his achievements as Secretary of State, from making national museums free for all to helping pass landmark LGBTQ+ legislation under Tony Blair’s government, as well as his later decision to speak publicly about living with HIV and the extraordinary phone call he received from Nelson Mandela afterwards. From his student days in Edinburgh and Cambridge, to becoming Chancellor of the University of Cambridge, Chris has consistently broken barriers and left a lasting legacy. His story is one of courage, resilience, and hope — a reminder of how far we’ve come and the work still to be done for true equality. This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in LGBTQ+ history, politics, and the power of visibility. Chapters 00:00 Queer Panic Rapid Fire Questions 03:21 Proud Moments in Politics 05:52 Understanding Childhood and Identity 09:38 Journey into Politics 11:00 Coming Out as the First Openly Gay MP 18:09 Reactions in Parliament 20:07 The Impact of Section 28 26:02 Becoming the First Openly Gay Cabinet Member 27:41 Legislative Changes for LGBTQ Rights 32:18 The Importance of Diversity in Leadership 34:29 Going Public with HIV Status 41:48 Role as Chancellor of Cambridge University 45:32 Reflections on the Current Trans Community Climate 47:43 Advice to Younger Self and LGBTQ Youth Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Charlie Craggs: Joy, Authenticity & Fighting Back | 14 Jul 2026 | 00:51:31 | |
Charlie Craggs is an award-winning author, activist and the creator of Nail Transphobia, the campaign that used free manicures to start conversations about trans lives. In this episode of Queer Talker, Charlie joins Ben Cicchetti for one of the most honest and uplifting conversations yet. Together they discuss growing up, bullying, finding authenticity, the importance of representation, why Nadia Almada changed Charlie’s life, and why humour can be one of the most powerful forms of activism. Charlie also reveals exclusively that Nail Transphobia is returning, shares details of her next book, and explains why she refuses to let anyone take away her joy. They also discuss:
A funny, emotional and incredibly empowering conversation. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Queer Panic 00:26 First album and music memories 01:21 Lip sync song choice and queer media favorites 01:59 Favorite queer icons and representation 03:06 Meeting Nadia Almada and her impact 08:27 Nadia Almada’s victory and representation 09:07 Young Charlie’s understanding of gender and identity 11:01 Media treatment of trans people over decades 13:28 Trans rights and societal progress 16:48 Trans men in society and bathroom debates 21:23 Authenticity and self-acceptance journey 23:36 The Nail Transphobia campaign’s origins and impact 35:32 Upcoming book and advocacy plans 45:31 Advice to younger self and resilience 48:18 Protecting joy and handling negativity 50:30 Closing remarks and gratitude Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Simon Blake OBE: Stonewall, Thriving & Backing Yourself | 30 Jun 2026 | 00:51:15 | |
Simon Blake OBE has dedicated much of his life to making the world a safer, fairer place for LGBTQ+ people. As CEO of Stonewall, one of the world’s most influential LGBTQ+ organisations, Simon joins Ben Cicchetti for a thoughtful and deeply personal conversation about authenticity, activism, hope and why our goal should never simply be to survive, but to thrive. Simon reflects on growing up in Cornwall in the 1970s, the first time he saw himself represented on screen, coming out to his parents, and the powerful words his father shared years later: “I’m so glad that you gave us the chance to love you in all of you.” We also discuss:
This is a conversation full of warmth, wisdom and hope from one of the most important voices in the LGBTQ+ community. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Simon Blake and Queer Panic Questions 03:55 Childhood and Early Influences 08:11 Realizing Difference and LGBTQ+ Awareness 11:46 Authenticity and Coming Out Journey 15:58 Career Path and Leadership Insights 20:10 The Role of Stonewall and Personal Connection 23:40 Navigating the Culture War for LGBTQ+ Rights 26:42 Stonewall's Vision and Strategy for 2026 30:22 Balancing Urgency and Strategy in Advocacy 35:36 The Role of Businesses in Promoting Inclusion 39:46 The Impact of Politicization on LGBTQ+ Lives 47:56 Advice for the Younger LGBTQ+ Generation Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Linus Karp: Princess Diana, Gwyneth Paltrow & Creating Queer Joy On Stage | 24 Feb 2026 | 00:50:34 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, Ben Cicchetti sits down with writer, performer and Awkward Productions co-founder Linus Karp. From viral fringe shows to West End transfers, Linus has built a reputation for bold, chaotic and wildly intelligent queer theatre. But beneath the comedy is a deep understanding of identity, satire and what it really means to take up space as a queer creative. Linus shares the journey from a leaky shipping container at the Edinburgh Fringe to sold-out runs and five-star reviews. He talks about creating work like Diana: The Untold and Untrue Story and Gwyneth Goes Skiing, and why parody can sometimes say more about culture than seriousness ever could. We explore queer visibility in comedy, the difference between poking fun and punching down, and how working creatively with his husband has shaped both his art and his life. This is a conversation about ambition, irreverence, collaboration and building a body of work that refuses to behave. Chapters 00:00 Queer Panic 03:01 Childhood and Early Influences 05:43 Passion for Pop Culture 08:37 First Awareness of Queerness 11:36 Navigating Queerness and Authenticity 14:32 Theater Journey and Awkward Productions 17:50 Creative Process and Show Development 20:42 Marriage and Collaboration with Joseph 23:35 The Edinburgh Fringe Experience 26:31 Queer Culture and Political Context 29:40 Pressure of Success and Future Projects 32:38 Humor and Audience Connection 35:33 Performing in the U.S. and Cultural Differences 38:44 Advice to Younger Self and LGBTQ+ Youth 41:32 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti Credits: Photo Credit: Dax Smith - https://www.instagram.com/the.photosmith/ | |||
| Miss Tess Tickle: From Small-Town Survival to Drag, Visibility & Changing Minds | 10 Feb 2026 | 00:55:37 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, Ben Cicchetti sits down with drag artist, educator, and community force Miss Tess Tickle. Growing up queer in a small mining village in County Durham, Tess shares what it was like to survive bullying, Section 28, and a total lack of representation. From hiding parts of herself to finding joy, confidence, and purpose through drag, this is a powerful story about staying when it would have been easier to leave. Tess opens up about coming out to her parents, the moment that changed everything, and why visibility in small towns matters just as much as visibility on television. She also talks candidly about drag beyond Drag Race, working in tough straight venues, and using comedy, education, and compassion to change minds. We also explore Tess’s incredible community work through The Angel Trust, how drag became a tool for education and safeguarding, and why she believes we should not have to come out at all. This is a conversation about resilience, representation, chosen family, and being the person you needed when you were younger. Chapters 00:00 Queer Panic 04:30 Growing Up LGBTQ+: Challenges and Realizations 07:25 The Impact of Representation in Media 10:23 Coming Out: Personal Stories and Family Reactions 13:24 Finding Acceptance and Love 16:28 The Journey into Drag: A New Identity 19:16 Visibility and Community Engagement 26:05 The Journey into Drag 27:18 Life as a Drag Queen in the UK 31:59 Education Through Performance 37:08 Inspiration from Icons 43:03 Fighting for Acceptance in the Community 51:10 Empowering the Next Generation Learn more about the Angle Trust Website - https://www.angeltrust.co.uk Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Jude Guaitamacchi: Non-Binary Visibility, Recovery, and Rebuilding a Life with Purpose | 27 Jan 2026 | 01:00:24 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with Jude Guaitamacchi, non-binary activist, writer, and co-founder of Trans Solidarity Alliance. Jude opens up about growing up without the language to understand their identity, navigating trauma and addiction, and the long road to recovery and self-acceptance. They reflect on homelessness, survival, and what it means to rebuild a life when everything falls apart. The conversation also explores non-binary visibility, the emotional toll of activism, and why community care matters just as much as resistance. Jude shares powerful insights on leadership, allyship, and how queer people can protect themselves while still fighting for change. This is an honest and deeply human conversation about identity, resilience, and learning to stay when everything tells you to disappear. Chapters 00:00 Queer Panic 04:33 The Impact of Music and Media on Identity 07:25 Celebrating Unsung Heroes in the Queer Community 10:27 Childhood Challenges and the Search for Identity 13:12 Understanding Queerness and Representation 16:09 Authenticity and the Journey of Self-Discovery 19:10 The Role of Trauma in Shaping Activism 22:26 Prioritizing Self-Care in Activism 28:58 Embodying Love and Self-Care 31:03 The Birth of the Trans Solidarity Alliance 33:16 Navigating Political Activism 38:51 Visibility and Representation in Media 45:56 Brands and Allyship in the Current Climate 51:46 Coping with Scrutiny and Online Trolls 57:07 Advice to Younger Generations Learn more about the Trans+ Solidarity Alliance: Website - https://www.transsolidarityalliance.com/ Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Michael Gunning: Coming Out in Sport, Representation, and Finding Your Olympic Moment | 13 Jan 2026 | 00:35:30 | |
Michael Gunning is a former elite swimmer, LGBTQ+ advocate, and one of the most important voices at the intersection of sport, race, and identity. In the first Queer Talker episode of 2026, Michael joins Ben Cicchetti for a powerful and deeply honest conversation about growing up feeling different, navigating elite sport as a queer mixed-race athlete, and the long journey toward living authentically. Michael reflects on overcompensating to fit in, the damaging stereotypes he faced in swimming, and how being told “Black people can’t swim” became fuel rather than a barrier. He opens up about suppression, resilience, and the mental toll of hiding parts of yourself in highly competitive environments. The conversation explores the importance of representation, the impact of seeing figures like Tom Daley come out in sport, and why visibility still matters in 2026. Michael also shares what it meant to come out publicly, the overwhelming mix of support and hate, and how that moment reshaped his life and sense of purpose. We also talk about retirement from elite sport, identity beyond the pool, body image, pressure, and what it means to redefine success after stepping away from a career that once defined you. This is a thoughtful, hopeful episode about resilience, self-acceptance, and learning that being different is not a weakness but a superpower. Chapters 00:00 Hopes and Dreams for 2026 04:18 Queer Panic 07:24 Childhood and Identity 10:19 Coming Out and Its Impact 13:20 Pride and Community 16:17 The Role of Swimming in Resilience 19:18 Representation in Sports 20:01 Embracing Authenticity in the Entertainment Industry 20:46 The Importance of Being Your True Self 21:50 Isolation and Connection in Elite Sports 23:05 Coming Out: A Transformative Experience 24:50 Navigating Public Perception and Personal Identity 26:25 The Transition from Elite Athlete to Everyday Life 28:06 The Reality of Retirement: Adjusting to Life After Sports 30:10 Maintaining Competitive Spirit Beyond the Pool 32:34 Advice to Younger Self and LGBTQ+ Youth Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Lewis Oakley: Bisexual Visibility, Identity, and Owning the In-Between | 30 Dec 2025 | 00:50:42 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with Lewis Oakley, one of the UK’s most visible bisexual voices and a passionate advocate for representation, visibility, and belonging. Lewis opens up about growing up bisexual in a world that often struggles with nuance, where identities are pushed into boxes and the “in-between” is misunderstood or erased altogether. He reflects on the challenges of being openly bisexual, from stereotypes and disbelief to the pressure to constantly justify your identity. Together, Ben and Lewis explore why bisexual visibility matters, how language shapes acceptance, and what it means to show up authentically in spaces that are not always designed for complexity. Lewis also speaks candidly about confidence, self-acceptance, and the responsibility that comes with being visible for others who are still finding their voice. This is a conversation about bisexuality, visibility, and the power of being seen exactly as you are. Chapters 00:00 Queer Panic Rapid Fire Questions 04:22 Childhood Insights and Early Realizations 07:34 First Experiences in LGBTQ Spaces 10:34 Coming Out and Self-Discovery 13:47 The Complexity of Bisexual Identity 16:32 Navigating Bisexuality in Relationships 19:22 The Impact of Celebrity Influence on Bisexuality 22:40 Visibility and Representation of Bisexuals 25:27 The Reality of Love and Relationships 27:39 The Struggles of Bisexual Identity 29:36 Creating a Resource: The Book Journey 33:38 Navigating Loneliness in Bisexuality 36:41 Parenting and Advocacy: A Personal Perspective 42:17 Media Representation and Its Impact 47:20 Advice for the Younger Generation Connect with Lewis Oakley: Linktree - https://linktr.ee/lewyoaks Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Jessica L’Whor: Drag, Visibility, and Building Safe Spaces for Queer Youth | 16 Dec 2025 | 00:41:13 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with drag performer, community builder, and cultural force Jessica L’Whor, also known as Miss Jessica, to explore drag as identity, resistance, and care. Jessica reflects on growing up in a deeply sheltered Catholic household, navigating queerness through religious guilt, and the long journey toward self acceptance. She speaks openly about coming out later in life, unlearning shame, and what it took to finally embrace who she is today. From her beginnings in the Denver drag scene to becoming a full time performer for over a decade, Jessica shares the realities of sustaining a creative career without television backing, the business discipline behind longevity, and why consistency matters more than viral moments. The conversation also dives into the creation of Miss Jessica, her all ages and family friendly drag persona. Jessica explains why visibility for queer youth is vital, how drag story times and school visits became part of her mission, and what it means to create safe, affirming spaces for children and families in a climate where drag is increasingly politicised. Ben and Jessica discuss chosen family, queer elders, touring across the United States, and the responsibility that comes with having a large platform. Jessica is candid about balancing joy and escapism with activism, and why being a soft, visible presence can be just as powerful as outrage. This is a conversation about drag as art, drag as care, and the importance of being the person you needed when you were younger. Chapters 00:00 Queer Panic Rapid Fire Questions 06:36 Childhood and Early Influences 11:42 Understanding Queerness and Family Dynamics 16:25 The State of Drag and LGBTQ+ Community 20:49 Jessica's Journey into Drag 21:31 Longevity in Drag Performance and Community Support 23:19 Empowering the Next Generation of Drag Artists 25:55 Creating Family-Friendly Drag Experiences 28:24 The Role of Visibility and Representation 30:55 Building an Authentic Online Presence 34:10 The Intersection of Art and Activism 37:21 Advice for the Younger Generation Connect with Jessica L’Whor: Website - https://www.jessicalwhor.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/jessicalwhor/ TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@jessicalwhor Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Mark Bittlestone: Comedy, Grief, Queer Identity and Finding His Voice | 02 Dec 2025 | 00:41:33 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with comedian Mark Bittlestone whose sharp wit, queer storytelling and emotional honesty have made him one of the most exciting voices in British comedy. Mark opens up about growing up in 1990s Southwest London where homophobia was woven into the everyday language around him, even in an otherwise loving home. He reflects on spending a decade in the closet, the fear of being gay that shaped his early years and the moment he finally allowed himself to come out and breathe. He also shares how devastating loss shaped him. Mark lost his mum shortly before his A levels and his dad shortly before his university finals. He talks about how grief transformed his understanding of life and how comedy became both a coping mechanism and a calling. Ben and Mark dive into authenticity, dating, Grindr mishaps, the power of teasing straight men in comedy clubs, and the complicated pressure queer comedians feel to stop talking about their identity even when it is central to their story. Mark also reflects on falling into comedy, getting fired from teaching, building confidence through social media, touring his show I Need a Straight Guy, and figuring out what comes next as he enters the next phase of his career. Chapters 00:00 Queer Panic Rapid Fire Questions 04:16 Embarrassing Dating Stories 07:16 Proudest Career Moments 10:13 Childhood Influences on Identity 13:15 Awareness of Queerness and Family Dynamics 17:21 Coming Out and Authenticity 20:22 Navigating Loss and Grief 25:33 The Role of Comedy in Coping 27:47 Journey into Comedy 31:02 Queerness and Performance 32:29 Touring Experience and Audience Interaction 36:22 Using Platform for Advocacy 38:14 Future Aspirations and Reflection 39:11 Advice to Younger Self and LGBTQ+ Youth Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Joe McElderry: Love Me Out Loud, X Factor & Living Authentically | 16 Jun 2026 | 00:52:25 | |
Joe McElderry first captured the hearts of the nation when he won The X Factor in 2009. But behind the headlines, chart success and sold-out tours was a young man still figuring out who he was. In this episode of Queer Talker, Joe joins Ben Cicchetti to reflect on the extraordinary journey from winning one of the UK’s biggest television shows to finding comfort in his own identity and creative voice. Joe opens up about navigating fame at just 18 years old, realising he was gay while living life in the public eye, and the surreal experience of seeing his coming out story splashed across the front page of every national newspaper. We also discuss his incredible career since The X Factor, performing with George Michael, the lessons he’s learned from nearly two decades in the music industry, and why turning 30 changed his perspective on success, authenticity and happiness. Plus, Joe shares the story behind his brilliant new single Love Me Out Loud, a heartbreak disco anthem inspired by artists like Robyn, Jessie Ware and Dua Lipa, and explains why now felt like the right time to return to pop music. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Joe McElderry 03:00 The Creative Process Behind New Music 06:01 Memorable Moments from X Factor 08:57 The Impact of George Michael 12:04 Navigating Fame and Personal Identity 15:03 Coming Out Journey 17:53 Life After Winning X Factor 25:14 The Journey of a Music Career 26:14 Reflecting on 'Wide Awake' Album 29:20 Exploring Musical Versatility 31:52 Finding Authenticity in Performance 34:53 The Joy of New Music: 'Love Me Out Loud' 38:10 The Creative Process Behind 'Love Me Out Loud' 40:45 Queer Joy and Community Spirit 46:06 The Impact of 'That's Ridiculous' Podcast 50:11 Advice to Younger Self Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Matt Terry: X Factor, Coming Out & Finally Feeling Free | 02 Jun 2026 | 00:48:49 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, host Ben Cicchetti sits down with X Factor winner and pop artist Matt Terry for his most open and honest conversation yet. Matt reflects on growing up feeling like he had to hide who he was, the pressure of trying to present as “straight enough,” and what it was really like being thrust into the spotlight on one of the biggest TV shows in the world at just 23 years old. He opens up about the rumours surrounding his sexuality during X Factor, feeling unprotected by the industry, and the emotional toll of trying to play a version of himself that never truly fit. Matt also shares the deeply personal story behind His Car, why Heartstopper meant so much to him, and how his new music including Skittles and Party In My Room represents freedom, joy, and finally feeling comfortable in his own skin. This episode is funny, emotional, nostalgic, and incredibly honest. A conversation about fame, identity, pressure, healing, and what happens when you stop performing for everyone else and finally become yourself. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Matt Terry 02:18 Musical Inspirations and Collaborations 03:58 Queer Icons and Representation 04:40 X Factor Journey and Performances 05:49 The Meaning Behind 'Party in My Room' 06:18 Finding Identity and Self-Discovery 08:18 Musical Journey and Early Influences 10:26 Awareness of LGBTQ Figures 12:29 Experience on X Factor 17:10 Navigating Fame and Personal Struggles 20:06 Confidence on Stage 23:30 Performing 'Secret Love Song' and Its Impact 25:49 Winning X Factor and Its Aftermath 26:20 The Highs and Lows of Fame 30:04 Navigating the X Factor Experience 33:58 Finding My Voice: The Journey to Authenticity 38:17 His Car: A Personal Revelation 45:20 Being a Voice for the LGBTQIA+ Community 47:03 Advice to My Younger Self Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Karl Schmid: Living with HIV, U=U, and Why Stories Matter | 19 May 2026 | 00:59:07 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, Ben Cicchetti sits down with Emmy and GLAAD Award-winning creator, HIV activist, and Plus Life Media founder Karl Schmid for a deeply honest conversation about identity, stigma, survival, and hope. Karl opens up about growing up between Australia, Fiji, New Zealand and the UK, his early experiences in the entertainment world through his brother’s fame on Neighbours, and how those experiences shaped the person he is today. The conversation then turns deeply personal as Karl reflects on discovering his sexuality, internalised shame growing up during the AIDS crisis, and the lasting impact of being diagnosed HIV positive at 27 years old. He shares the fear, stigma, and silence he carried for years, including why he kept his diagnosis private for nearly a decade. Karl also explains the life-changing impact of the U=U message (Undetectable = Untransmittable), why HIV stigma still exists in 2026, and how creating Plus Life Media became part of his healing journey. The episode also explores: * Why storytelling matters in LGBTQ+ communities * The importance of HIV education and visibility * Internalised stigma and rebuilding self-worth * HIV Unwrapped and bringing HIV conversations to New York Fashion Week * Why hope is essential for survival This is a powerful, vulnerable, and deeply human conversation about survival, visibility, and creating spaces where people feel seen. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Carl Schmid and His Work 02:57 Exploring Carl's International Upbringing 05:56 The Impact of Celebrity and Family on Carl's Career 08:55 Navigating Early Awareness of LGBTQ+ Identity 12:07 Personal Journey of Self-Discovery and Authenticity 18:13 Coming Out as HIV Positive and Its Impact 24:05 The Importance of Storytelling in HIV Awareness 27:02 Understanding the 'You Equals You' Message 28:58 Trust Issues in the Medical System 29:53 The Impact of U=U on Personal Health 31:21 Overcoming Internalized Stigma 35:38 Building Healthy Relationships 36:45 The Mission of Plus Life Media 39:31 Changing the Narrative Around HIV 42:20 The Importance of Education and Visibility 46:03 HIV Unwrapped: Fashion Meets Science 50:12 Reflecting on Personal and Professional Growth 54:54 Advice for the Younger Self and the Newly Diagnosed Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Yasmin Benoit: Asexuality, Representation, and Challenging What People Expect | 05 May 2026 | 00:39:00 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, Ben Cicchetti sits down with model, writer and asexuality advocate Yasmin Benoit for a powerful conversation about identity, visibility, and challenging assumptions. Yasmin shares what it really means to be asexual, breaking down common misconceptions and explaining the difference between sexual attraction, libido, and how people experience identity. She opens up about growing up feeling different, being labelled by others before she had the language to define herself, and how discovering the term “asexual” both resonated and created new challenges due to a lack of representation. The conversation explores the reality of representation, from the stereotypes often associated with asexuality to why the community is still in its “early stages” compared to broader LGBTQ+ visibility. Yasmin also shares how her work as a model has challenged people’s expectations of what asexuality “looks like”, and why that contrast has made her both visible and controversial. They also discuss intersectionality, the unique experience of being a Black asexual woman, and the barriers that still exist both within and outside LGBTQ+ spaces. This is an honest, insightful and often eye-opening conversation that challenges assumptions and expands understanding. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Queer Panic Round 04:26 Nostalgia and Childhood Reflections 07:31 Understanding Asexuality 10:33 Personal Journey to Asexuality 13:39 Navigating Identity and Representation 16:45 Challenging Stereotypes of Asexuality 18:57 Asexuality in Mainstream Media 23:40 Controversial Representation and Identity 30:43 Intersectionality and Asexuality 33:46 Navigating Online Hate and Advocacy 36:46 Advice to Younger Self and LGBTQIA+ Youth Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Zelah Glasson: Big Brother, Identity, and the Reality of Being Trans on TV | 21 Apr 2026 | 00:43:30 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, Ben Cicchetti sits down with Zelah Glasson, known to many from Big Brother, for a raw and honest conversation about identity, visibility, and what it really means to live authentically. Zelah opens up about a chaotic childhood, being nearly kicked out of multiple schools, and the early signs of identity that showed up long before he had the language to understand them. From shouting “I’m a boy” on the playground to navigating years of confusion, suppression, and self-discovery, his journey is anything but straightforward. They explore Zelah’s experience of realising he was trans later in life, and why his transition felt gradual rather than a single defining moment. He shares what it was like to finally feel at home in his body, and the impact that journey has had on how he sees himself today. The conversation also dives into Big Brother, including the unexpected way Zelah ended up on the show, the pressure of being a trans person on national television, and the responsibility that comes with representing a marginalised community. He reflects on viral moments from the show, including being misgendered, and how he processed those experiences both in the house and afterwards. They also discuss the role of politics in LGBTQ+ lives, why being “apolitical” isn’t always an option, and the importance of better, more everyday representation in media. This is a powerful, thoughtful and often surprising conversation about identity, resilience, and the reality of being visible in today’s world. Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Lee Knight: A Friend of Dorothy, The Oscars Journey and Queer Storytelling | 07 Apr 2026 | 01:01:20 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, Ben Cicchetti sits down with writer and director Lee Knight, the creator behind A Friend of Dorothy, to explore storytelling, identity, and what it means to grow up queer in a very different world. Lee opens up about his childhood under Section 28, growing up in an environment shaped by fear, shame, and silence, and how that experience shaped both his identity and his creativity. He shares powerful memories of navigating school life, hiding who he was, and the lasting impact of growing up in a time where being gay was framed as something dangerous.  The conversation dives into his journey from actor to writer and director, including the challenges of rejection, self-doubt, and finding the confidence to trust his own voice. Lee shares the story behind A Friend of Dorothy, from writing the script in lockdown to working with icons like Miriam Margolyes and Stephen Fry, and ultimately taking the film all the way to the Oscars.  They also explore the importance of queer storytelling, representation, and the emotional weight of seeing younger generations grow up with visibility that simply didn’t exist before. This is an honest, emotional and inspiring conversation about resilience, creativity, and learning to trust yourself in a world that often tells you not to. Chapters 00:00 Introduction 01:42 Queer Panic: Rapid Fire Questions 03:54 Childhood Reflections: The Eclectic Journey 06:59 Resilience and the Quest for Authenticity 11:58 The Impact of Media on Queer Identity 17:12 Discovering and Accepting My Queer Self 22:10 The Bumpy Road to A Friend of Dorothy 27:07 Trusting Your Inner Voice 28:53 The Journey of Creation 32:13 Working with Icons 36:57 Capturing Authentic Moments 41:40 The Oscar Experience 53:50 Looking Ahead: Future Projects 56:11 Advice to the Younger Self
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| Joseph Harwood: Gender, Makeup, Identity and the Reality of Social Media | 24 Mar 2026 | 00:42:56 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, Ben Cicchetti sits down with Joseph Harwood, one of the original beauty creators and a true pioneer in online content, to explore identity, creativity, and the evolution of social media. Joseph shares his extraordinary journey, from growing up in a strict church environment and navigating life as an androgynous young person, to becoming one of the first creators to build a career through makeup and digital platforms. He opens up about being scouted as a model, working internationally at a young age, and how discovering makeup became a powerful tool for expression, transformation, and storytelling. They dive deep into the early days of YouTube, when creativity came before algorithms, and unpack how social media has shifted from a space of individuality to one driven by conformity, performance, and debate. Joseph offers a rare behind-the-scenes perspective on how platforms, algorithms, and monetisation have shaped both visibility and the experience of LGBTQ+ creators online.  The conversation also explores Joseph’s unique relationship with gender and identity, why he resists labels, and how his experiences have shaped a more fluid, human-first perspective on self-expression. He reflects on how differently people treat you based on appearance, and why authenticity matters more than ever in a world obsessed with categorisation.  They also discuss mental health, resilience, and the importance of building a life beyond social media metrics, alongside practical advice for young LGBTQ+ people navigating identity, creativity, and career. This is a raw, insightful and at times provocative conversation about individuality, creativity, and what it really means to live authentically. Chapters 00:00 Queer Panic Game: Getting to Know Joe 03:55 Childhood and Upbringing: Shaping Identity 07:01 Understanding LGBTQ+ Awareness and Expression 09:59 Modeling Journey: From Scouting to Experiences 12:55 Makeup as Art: Creative Expression and Identity 16:03 Building a Career in Makeup: Community and Innovation 21:07 Navigating Gender Identity in the Beauty Industry 25:35 The Importance of Legal Protections for the LGBTQ+ Community 28:19 The Evolution of Social Media and Its Impact 35:01 Mental Health in the Age of Social Media 39:28 Advice for the Younger Generation and LGBTQ+ Youth Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Lee Peart: Comedy, Identity, and Finding Yourself Through Humour | 10 Mar 2026 | 00:48:02 | |
In this episode of Queer Talker, Ben Cicchetti sits down with comedian, writer, and podcaster Lee Peart. Lee shares the journey that led him from navigating multiple identities at school to finding confidence and connection through stand-up comedy. Growing up balancing different versions of himself, Lee talks openly about humour becoming both a shield and a way to explore who he really was. From discovering comedy to embracing life on stage, Lee reflects on how performing helped him step into his identity as a gay man and build the confidence he once struggled to find. The conversation also explores the role of queer mentorship, the importance of seeing people further along the journey, and the impact figures like Matthew Shepard had on shaping queer history and visibility. This is a conversation about identity, humour, resilience, and the power of finding the space where you can finally be yourself. Chapters 00:00 Queer Panic Rapid Fire Questions 09:39 Exploring Childhood and Identity 16:14 First Awareness of LGBTQ+ Representation 21:22 The Role of Humor in Identity 27:59 Journey into Comedy 37:00 Navigating Different Spaces 40:11 Podcasting and Wine Demystification 45:06 Advice for Younger LGBTQ+ Individuals Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Amanda Collier: The Traitors, Finding Her Tribe & Living Authentically | 28 Jul 2026 | 00:53:24 | |
Amanda Collier became one of the breakout stars of The Traitors after delivering one of the season’s most memorable lines: “I can’t be Hugo’s wife. Don’t be so ridiculous. I’m a lesbian.” But behind that joyful moment is a much bigger story of resilience, public service, representation and finding your purpose. In this episode of Queer Talker, Amanda joins Ben Cicchetti to reflect on growing up in a working-class family, being bullied at school, and spending three decades in the Metropolitan Police, where she eventually became a Detective Chief Inspector. Amanda opens up about navigating homophobia within the police in the early 1990s, finding the mentor who helped her keep going, and eventually becoming a leader to some of the people who had once bullied her. She also takes us inside The Traitors, from nearly joining an earlier series to immediately suspecting Stephen, almost saving herself from elimination, and watching her spontaneous declaration of being a lesbian become a powerful moment of visibility for LGBTQ+ viewers. Amanda also discusses the heart condition discovered during the casting process, why she now approaches fitness and life differently, and how the platform she gained from the show has helped her support charities, speak to young people and encourage others to find their tribe. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Amanda's early life 01:58 Amanda's childhood and discovering her identity 08:57 Her police career and navigating being LGBTQ+ in law enforcement 17:58 Joining The Traitors and iconic moments 35:05 Amanda's impact as a role model and advocate 49:49 Her diagnosis with hereditary heart disease and future plans 54:09 Final advice and closing thoughts Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||
| Alexander Hayden: I Kissed A Boy, Growing Up Gay Where It Was Illegal & Finding Himself | 11 Aug 2026 | 00:39:20 | |
Growing up in St Kitts & Nevis, Alexander Hayden never questioned whether he was gay because, as he explains, “I didn’t know the closet existed.” In this episode of Queer Talker, Alexander shares what it was like growing up in the Caribbean, where same-sex relationships were illegal, moving to boarding school in the UK, and slowly discovering who he really was. We talk about code-switching between two versions of himself, the emotional moment he returned home after the law changed, living with a visible difference, and why representation matters for LGBTQ+ people growing up in countries where acceptance is still a work in progress. Alexander also takes us behind the scenes of I Kissed A Boy, reveals what it was really like arriving as the final bombshell, reflects on the show’s cancellation, and explains how the experience changed his life. This is an honest conversation about identity, confidence, belonging and learning that you don’t have to hide who you are. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Queer Panic 04:58 Growing up in the Caribbean and cultural identity 07:02 Discovering the queer community and first experiences 10:11 Coming out and self-acceptance journey 14:55 Decriminalization in Nevis and returning home 16:59 Using platform to support Caribbean LGBTQ+ communities 20:46 Dealing with visible differences and confidence 24:56 Joining 'I Kissed a Boy' and show experience 29:51 Lessons learned from the show and personal growth 36:00 Advice to younger self and LGBTQ+ community Connect with Ben Cicchetti: Website - https://www.queertalker.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bencicchetti/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/@BenCicchetti TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@bencicchetti | |||