Explorez tous les épisodes du podcast Marriage Lab
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| Don't ask triggered people BIG questions | 03 Apr 2026 | 00:21:27 | |
Ever ask gradually big relationship question in the middle of an argument… and then regretted the answer? In this episode, we break down a common (but damaging) pattern: What it often looks like 👇 →“Do you even like me?” 😬 See how fast it escalates? We unpack: And most importantly— If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation more hurt than helped, this episode will give you a better path: A week left: Click here for more info ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| How calls with your spouse go sideways (& how to fix it) | 17 Mar 2026 | 00:35:40 | |
Phone calls with your spouse should be simple… so why do they so often go sideways? In this episode, we unpack the subtle dynamics that quietly derail connection: ...and the hurt that builds when your spouse can’t show up the way you needed—especially in the middle of a workday What starts as a quick call can quickly spiral into misunderstanding, frustration, or even conflict that leaks into the rest of your day. The good news? Most of this is preventable. We walk you through a simple 3-step framework to help you: So your phone calls stop feeling like landmines… and start becoming small, consistent moments of connection (or pure logistics exchange) again. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Can you put sex on the calendar? | 03 Oct 2025 | 00:37:12 | |
Please don't listen with your kids. Our case for scheduling sex. When life gets full—kids, work, ministry, and the endless to-do list—intimacy is often the first thing to slip through the cracks. We’re told sex should always be spontaneous, but in real marriages that can leave couples disconnected and frustrated. In this episode, we talk honestly about scheduling sex—why it isn’t cold or unromantic, but actually a powerful way to prioritize each other. We’ll unpack the myths around spontaneity, share how intentional rhythms can actually increase desire and connection, and give you practical tools for creating space for intimacy without guilt, pressure, or shame. If you’ve ever felt like the busyness of life is crowding out closeness, this conversation will help you reframe intimacy as something worth planning for—because a thriving marriage doesn’t happen by accident. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Freedom to Choose w/ Aaron & Jenna | 27 Sep 2022 | 00:27:41 | |
In this short but sweet episode, Aaron & Jenna talk about the small moment between stimulus and response (as Steven Covey puts it) when you have the ability to choose. This comes into play especially when we feel defensive in conflict with our spouse. Between feeling defensive and our reaction to it, we have the ability to choose to listen without defending ourselves, regardless of what we feel. This takes time and practice but it essential to creating a marriage in which it is safe to share your heart. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| From Rescuer/Victim to Powerful/Powerful with Angelo & McKenzie | 20 Sep 2022 | 01:24:16 | |
In this episode we interview our friends Angelo & McKenzie who vulnerably share with us the roles they played in their marriage for a number of years in which Angelo was the victim and McKenzie was the Rescuer (synonymous in this episode with "hero"). They share how these roles created some sense of comfort and yet kept them both stuck, Angelo without learning how to be powerful and show up in strength and McKenzie without learning that she had any needs at all. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Questioning Our Normals As Absolute Truth w/ Aaron & Jenna | 13 Sep 2022 | 00:46:22 | |
In this episode we talk about how our personality and culture have shaped our normals and how those normals feel like absolute truths. The problem with viewing our normals as absolute truths is that it's a recipe for judgment and disconnection. We take this time to confess our own normals and how we've had a tendency to see the other's actions as value statements. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Habits of Connection: Debunking All-or-Nothing with Aaron & Jenna | 06 Sep 2022 | 00:50:20 | |
We're back for Season 3! In this episode we talk about the small habits we've implemented to feed into our connection with each other. The smallness of our habits pushes directly against the natural all-or-nothing mentality that we've traditionally approached every area of our lives with. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Season 2 Finale: Keys to Start Healing Your Triggers and Your Marriage w/ Aaron & Jenna | 31 May 2022 | 00:58:22 | |
We end this season still in the woods on our anniversary backpacking trip. Aaron shares a story about how he realized he wanted Jenna to feel like a failure and why he didn't want that to change. The key to opening the door to healing for them was in each of their willingness to engage Kindness and Curiosity instead of contempt. Jenna shares how she was able to locate her triggers with eating and never being satisfied with her current experience. Her journey into contentment required the same Kindness and Curiosity and led to incredible breakthrough as she declared each day, "I am Enough, They are Enough, He is Enough and Now is Enough." A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Engaging the Scientist Instead of the Judge: how curiosity leads to real change and shame doesn't w/ Aaron & Jenna | 24 May 2022 | 00:48:23 | |
We're coming to you from up in the woods in this episode! We went backpacking for our anniversary and brought our podcasting equipment with us. It was worth the few extra pounds. We dive into our own journeys with engaging our inner scientist instead of the judge. The job of the judge is to pass judgment. You are either good or bad, right or wrong, guilty or not. The job of the scientist is to get curious, "Interesting, I wonder what's happening or what happened?" Real change cannot happen with shame and self-contempt (which comes from your inner judge). It is a short-lived motivator. Real change happens when we get curious about what led to a specific behavior or event. Why is this true? Because curiosity engages our brain in such a way that we are willing to see things we've never seen before. Judgment (shame and self-contempt) cannot accomplish this. Romans 2:4 says that it's God's kindness that leads us to repentance, i.e. real and lasting change. If we are to be like him then we must engage ourselves with kindness as well. Curiosity invites kindness and vice versa. We want curiosity over contempt. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Comfortable with Discomfort (I can be in pain & be okay) with Dave & Jules Hill | 17 May 2022 | 01:29:46 | |
In this episode we talk with Dave and Jules Hill. They are the creators of HeartSmart (https://www.heartsmart.family/ and https://www.heartsmartv.com/browse) a curriculum for social and emotional learning used in over 500 schools around the world. We felt incredibly grateful for their vulnerability in sharing what Jules calls her unwinding that started about a decade ago. It was a painful season of her recognizing unprocessed pain and trauma and the ups and downs that go along with that. Dave shared how he was able to walk alongside Jules and discover how much growth was available for him in that season as well. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Thriving Life After the Death of a Spouse with Michael & Lisa Kunz | 03 May 2022 | 01:18:36 | |
Michael and Lisa Kunz of KunzCoaching.com and TheDatingDiscovery.com join us this week. They talk about their marriage which is fairly young compared the 20+ year marriages they each had before their spouses died. They talk through their stories which had incredible parallels as they walked through grieving and trusting God after such a devastating experience. Their intentionality in pursuing an intimate connection with each other is inspiring and full of practical ideas on how to do it in our own lives. Their awkward sex story is more of an entirely awkward honeymoon where they both thought their previous 20 years of experience would translate easily into this new one. It was a beautiful look into the reality of learning a person more than "learning sex." A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Sugar is my Porn: Addiction, Comfort and Kindness with Aaron & Jenna | 26 Apr 2022 | 01:06:33 | |
In this episode, Jenna shares how her own journey towards health has paralleled Aaron's journey out of porn addiction. She vulnerably shares how her relationship to sugar was more than just a "sweet tooth" but a solution to the real problems that started in adolescence and continued into adulthood. She speaks to using sugar as a tool for comfort, reward and boredom and the core emotions lie behind them. Together they speak to the incredible power of kindness in experiencing sustainable life-change and what real freedom looks like. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Let's Be on the Same Team with Aaron & Casey Tesauro | 19 Apr 2022 | 01:21:34 | |
Our friends, Aaron and Casey Tesauro, share their journey in marriage of learning to be on the same team. For half of their marriage they would attack each other instead of the problem. Through counseling and a lot of intentional conversation they began to discover the pain behind problem and more specifically where that pain originated. They were both able to see the memories in each other's childhoods that contributed towards their marital dysfunction and they not only stoked compassion for each other but then learned to point their efforts at the issue and not each other. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| When teasing turns toxic: scoffs & sarcasm- the slow drip of contempt | 26 Sep 2025 | 00:28:18 | |
We all scoff. We all slip into sarcasm. But what if those “little” habits aren’t as harmless as they seem? Research from the Gottman Institute shows that contempt — often disguised as casual teasing — is the single strongest predictor of death to connection (aka: divorce) Scoffing, sarcasm, and eye-rolling may feel small in the moment, but they send powerful messages of superiority, dismissal, and disrespect. In this episode, we unpack how these micro-habits of contempt impact the brain, erode safety, and poison connection in marriage. You’ll hear real-life examples of how scoffing and sarcasm sneak into everyday conversations, what’s really hiding underneath those jabs (hint: it’s often unspoken pain), and practical ways to replace contempt with curiosity and vulnerability. If you’ve ever said, “Oh, we’re just teasing,” this episode will help you see why even a few “drops of poison” can contaminate the well of your relationship — and how to choose a healthier, more life-giving way forward. We are giving you a 30 day Challenge: Weed out scoffing & sarcasm from your dialogue. See what a difference it makes. (Remember: don't use this challenge to start tallying how often your partner uses them- mind your half of the yard only :) A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Connection Codes: Sexual Friendship and Q&A with Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill | 12 Apr 2022 | 01:26:43 | |
We're excited to have Dr Glenn and Phyllis Hill back on the podcast to answer some of our burning questions around the connection codes protocols but also to discuss the idea of creating a sexual friendship with your spouse. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Balancing Work and Rest w/ Shaun & Jessie Boyd | 05 Apr 2022 | 01:03:05 | |
Our friends Shaun and Jessie Boyd share how these two very different people find connection and spot disconnection. They also share their practicing the Sabbath and the benefits of the rest it provides. We enjoyed our common bond of having lived with parents as a married couple and the various relational dynamics that can play out there. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Sharing Needs with Matthew & Katie Hale | 29 Mar 2022 | 01:21:47 | |
Our Georgia friends, Matthew and Katie Hale, share about how very different they are and how that shows up in the way they either easily or difficultly share their needs and emotions with each other. They talk about the growth journey and realizations they've come to as they've walked this out together. We also get a glimpse into the kind of bridal shower gifts that Jenna gives and while the bride can love the hilarity, the groom, especially on the wedding night is not so happy. Poor Matthew. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Grieving and Trust in Marriage with Peter & Clare Mattis | 22 Mar 2022 | 01:31:22 | |
We interview our friends and neighbors Peter and Clare Mattis in this episode. They share about how they navigated their budding relationship during and after Clare's mom tragically passed away from cancer. They also dive into what Trust looks like in their relationship in a segment we'll affectionately call "This is Clare thing." Clare talks about working through her trust issues that she is aware doesn't actually have anything to do with Peter whose actions have never warranted distrust. Peter shares how he stays tender and not defensive when this comes up. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Divorce and Blending a Family w/ Jason & Lauren Vallotton | 15 Mar 2022 | 01:30:07 | |
Our friends Jason and Lauren Vallotton join us to talk about their unique journey in marriage. When they met, Jason was a divorced pastor with three kids. Lauren on the other hand was single and had only dated a few times in the previous 6 years. Their story of growing in relationship and then eventually marrying, her becoming and insta-mom to three kids is an incredible look into the difficulty that divorce brings but the redemption that God can bring out of it still. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Chaos and Connection in a Busy Season with a Sick Kid w/ Aaron & Jenna | 08 Mar 2022 | 00:42:52 | |
Jenna and Aaron catch up on the last few months of chaos with a changing business, travel, creating and Airbnb and the ups and downs of managing their daughter's diabetes. They dive into what their connection has looked like as a result of all of this and how they are approaching this next season. The tears start to flow in this episode which was a unique and vulnerability-hangover inducing experience. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| In the Middle of the Process with Doug & Katrina | 30 Nov 2021 | 01:13:23 | |
Our good friends Doug & Katrina Bryant join us to talk about issues in their marriage that they are in the very middle of. Meaning, they are actively working on themselves and their relationship and they don't know what it will look like when they get on the other side of it. However, they are pursuing connection in the midst of it and have hope they will continue to get better. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Not Being a Victim to Your Spouse with Dave and Katelyn | 16 Nov 2021 | 01:14:16 | |
For this episode we flew across the country to interview our friends Dave and Katelyn Waite. We talk about the difference between complaining about your spouse and processing pain about your spouse. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Intimacy That Leads to Sex with Pete & Esther | 09 Nov 2021 | 01:02:43 | |
Our good friends Pete and Esther Hsu join us to talk about how their sex life went from a place of pain to a place of real connection and intimacy. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Dear Young Married Couple with Adam & Karissa King | 02 Nov 2021 | 01:13:01 | |
Adam and Karissa King from Dear Young Married Couple join us to talk about their own journey into personal and relational health. Check out their podcast "Dear Young Married Couple" and their website dearyoungmarriedcouple.com. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Steps to Move From Rumination > to > Processing | 19 Sep 2025 | 00:45:27 | |
Last time we talked about ruminating vs. processing. This week, I’m walking you through the how—practical steps to move through pain even if the other person doesn’t respond well. Here’s the framework:
Looping keeps you stuck, but processing sets you free. Podcasts Referenced in this episode: A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Questions Your Spouse Isn't Meant to Answer with Emily & Sam | 26 Oct 2021 | 01:17:02 | |
My sister and brother in law, Emily & Sam Baker, join us to talk about a rough time in their marriage and how they came through it. We dive into the questions that we all have inside of us that we attempt to get answered by our spouses, but can only really be settled with God. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Adoption Heartache & Hope with Jaclyn & Micheal | 19 Oct 2021 | 01:18:33 | |
Jaclyn & Micheal Miller join us to talk about their journey that involves Mexican prison, a failed adoption and the joy to be found in it. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| When Our Energies Don't Match with Aaron & Jenna | 12 Oct 2021 | 00:34:29 | |
We're back and we're diving headfirst into our own issues. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Season Finale: Communication & Conflict with Aaron & Jenna Zint | 08 Jun 2021 | 01:06:59 | |
In our season finale, we get into a topic that we are extra passionate about: communication and conflict resolution. We talk about the necessity of understanding your own story in navigating conflict and how listening is not about simply shutting your mouth. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Hurt People Hurt People with Jordan & Elise | 01 Jun 2021 | 01:41:05 | |
We talked with Jordan and Elise Hawkins about the massive shift their marriage has made from discussing an annulment on their honeymoon to having hope in every conflict. They talk about their pasts triggering their present, hurting each other in the process and ultimately learning to connect with compassion in order to forgive. They walked through deep hurt and have come out on the other side with so much hope. They also share how a fear of sharks can make you last longer and how attempting to gain leverage can squish your spouse. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| What's the Goal of Your Marriage with Ben & Brittney Serpell | 25 May 2021 | 01:09:57 | |
We talk with Ben and Brittney Serpell who do marriage and family coaching through Loving on Purpose ministries. Brittney also co-hosts the KYLO Show podcast with her dad, Danny Silk. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Connection Codes with Dr. Glenn & Phyllis Hill | 18 May 2021 | 01:34:55 | |
We got to talk with Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, the creators of the Connections Codes. Dr. Glen is a marriage and family therapist, clinical sexologist and the co-author of The Connection Codes, their new book out on amazon. Click here for their book. Find them on Instagram at @connectioncodes, @drglennhill & @echohillvetter. You can check out their website and sign up for webinars at connectioncodes.co. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Empathetic Listening with Ben & Sheena | 11 May 2021 | 01:08:37 | |
We talk with our friends Ben and Sheena about the simple adjustment in sharing and listening to emotion, how it changed their marriage in an instant and when gag reflexes make your honeymoon memorable. They share about the years they lived in Nicaragua running their ice cream business and what it was like during the revolution. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Sex and Porn with Emily & Aaron | 04 May 2021 | 01:19:40 | |
We chat with Emily and Aaron Brown about sex in a camper with three kids and a giant dog, sex as a numbing agent, sex for 45 days straight, porn and its effect on your brain and sex life, and why it might be best to stop instead of finishing when you hear your mom approaching. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Pain Behind the Problem with Mollie & Peter | 27 Apr 2021 | 01:09:44 | |
We talk with our friends Mollie & Peter Rodgers about the importance of addressing the pain propping up the conflict we're having, expressing our needs and why driving 10 more minutes to reach the hotel room might be a good idea. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Ruminating vs Processing | 11 Sep 2025 | 00:29:55 | |
Can you tell the difference between when your emotions are hijacking you & when they're helping you? Noticing and expressing our emotions is a good thing. In fact, it’s vital for a healthy marriage. But there’s a thin line between naming our emotions and over-identifying with them. That’s where we slip into rumination—looping on the hurt, replaying the offense, and assigning meaning that keeps us stuck. In this episode, we explore the difference between processing your emotions and looping on them. We’ll look at how the brain responds when you over-identify with a painful feeling, why that keeps you in the spin cycle of stress, and how to shift toward processing in a way that actually heals and moves you forward. You’ll learn:
This episode is all about reclaiming the gift of emotion—without letting it hijack your peace. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| There's Always Hope with Charity & Geo | 13 Apr 2021 | 01:09:54 | |
Aaron and Jenna interview their friends Charity and Geo Osorio. They talk about the difficulties of a cross-cultural marriage, getting counseling like it's going out of style and why Jiu Jitsu doesn't work in the bedroom. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Being Honest with Eric & Candace Johnson | 06 Apr 2021 | 01:20:38 | |
Aaron and Jenna interview Eric and Candace Johnson, the former pastors at Bethel Church for the last decade. They talk about understanding what they are feeling and sharing that honestly with each other, connecting in the midst of running a global church and why it's important to lock your bedroom door. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Prioritizing Connection with Eric & Sadie | 30 Mar 2021 | 00:56:41 | |
Aaron and Jenna interview the co-owners of Compass (Aaron's bosses), Eric and Sadie Hess. They talk about fighting in front of their kids, why getting away from their kids for their own connection is so vital and why sound proofing your room can save your kids from sleepless nights. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| When Opposites Attract with Jenna & Aaron | 20 Mar 2021 | 00:47:05 | |
Aaron and Jenna answer the questions they'll be asking other couples. They talk about what it's like being married to someone totally different from you in personality and interests. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Prequel: This is Us | 20 Mar 2021 | 00:16:11 | |
Aaron and Jenna talk about themselves and the purpose of the podcast A week left: Click here for more info ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Asking Hard Questions with Jess & Andrew | 18 Mar 2021 | 01:08:08 | |
We interview our friends Jess & Andrew Liem. They talk about learning to ask each other questions rather than assuming they know what the other is thinking; how to communicate effectively and what it's like when you are newly married and have no idea what the missionary position is. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| The Do's & Don'ts of Processing w/ Your Spouse | 29 Aug 2025 | 00:43:25 | |
In this episode of Marriage Lab, Erin and Jenna dive into the do’s and don’ts of processing with your spouse—how to share what’s on your heart in a way that invites care instead of conflict. From everyday recaps to high-stakes conversations, they unpack why intentionality matters, how to check for capacity, and why leading with emotions creates connection. Along the way, they share practical “dos” like focusing on feelings, clarifying expectations, and processing elsewhere first—and the “don’ts” that can derail intimacy, like dumping endless details, seeking commiseration, or winging it in painful moments. They also illustrate how hope, grace, and the Holy Spirit are essential for real transformation in communication and marriage. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Are you forgiving wrong? | 06 Aug 2025 | 00:42:49 | |
Think you’ve forgiven… but still feel stuck? You’re not alone. This episode will shift your view of forgiveness from a moment to a movement—one that actually sets you free. 👇 We’ll cover: This isn’t about excusing anyone. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| When Pain Feels Like an Identity Attack | 14 Jul 2025 | 00:31:13 | |
Some pain cuts deeper than others—not because it hurts more, but because it feels true. In this episode, we unpack the kind of pain that doesn’t just bruise your feelings, it hits your identity. We explore three subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways this happens: And then the spiral begins: 🔍 We’ll challenge the dangerous trap of letting broken people vote on your value. “Your identity is untouchable. It’s not theirs to name—it’s already spoken by the One who made you.” If you've ever felt like someone else's opinion rewrote your sense of self, this conversation is for you. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| When Pain spoils into offense | 07 Jul 2025 | 00:40:36 | |
Offense Isn’t Just Pain: It’s Pain + Pride We often think being offended is just another form of hurt—but it’s more than that. Offense is what happens when pain gets tangled with pride. It’s the moment pain hardens into judgment, and we start to feel powerful… while quietly becoming more closed off. In this episode, we unpack how offense feels like a defense mechanism—but actually keeps us stuck. You’ll learn how offense hijacks your brain’s ability to heal, why it loops like a highlight reel of your rightness, and what that reveals about identity, humility, and emotional maturity. You’ll hear real-life phrases that often sound self-protective (“I’m not mad, just done”) but are often signs of unchecked offense. You’ll also get a practical self-reflection tool to help you “spot the offense” and re-center on humility. Offense might feel like strength—but humility is where the healing begins. You’ll walk away with: A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Special Episode: Moved by Love: the secret to sharing Jesus | 30 Jun 2025 | 01:09:57 | |
What if evangelism wasn’t about striving—but about overflow? In this special episode, I sit down with a few of my friends fresh off a missions trip to unpack what actually cracked the code for us when it came to sharing Jesus. Spoiler: it wasn’t a strategy—it was being so connected to the Father’s heart that love naturally led the way. We talk about what surprised us, what challenged us, and how everyday evangelism becomes possible when we’re moved—not pressured—by love. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Passivity isn't a fruit of the spirit | 23 Jun 2025 | 00:36:35 | |
What if the “peace” you’re protecting in your marriage… is actually costing you real connection? In this episode, we’re unpacking how passivity can disguise itself as love—especially in Christian marriages. We’ve seen it in our own relationship: moments when silence looked like patience, but it was actually fear. Times when we avoided conflict, convinced we were being kind or godly, but bitterness was the fruit. We explore:
3 self-reflection questions : 💭 Is there a situation where I told myself I was “loving” or “being patient”… but now I feel resentful, bitter, or shut down? 💭 Where am I avoiding action, conversation, or boundaries because I’m afraid of how someone will react? 💭 Am I hoping someone else will just “get it” or change, while I silently keep score or build a case in my head? A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Stop Calling Strategies “Needs” | 26 Feb 2026 | 00:35:48 | |
In this episode, we unpack one of the most practical distinctions we teach: the difference between a need and a strategy. A need is a relational longing: connection, safety, being seen, being prioritized. A strategy is your idea of how that need should get met: date night, quicker texts, no phones at night, doing the dishes before sitting down. The problem is, most of us accidentally disguise strategies as needs… and that’s where control sneaks in. We talk about why that feels so painful (for both people), how “requests” turn into “demands” when there’s punishment attached, and why collaboration creates way more buy-in than prescriptions ever will. We'll talk about how to peel back the strategy to name the real need underneath, so you can fight less about the method and connect more around the longing. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||
| Date Fail Debrief: Control Freak & Shut Down | 17 Jun 2025 | 00:33:27 | |
What do you get when you mix a paddleboard, high expectations, and two humans with emotions? This was not our best date… but maybe it was one of our best recoveries. We went on a paddleboard date thinking it’d be relaxing and fun—but being stuck on the same board triggered us both in different ways. Instead of letting the day spiral, we each practiced managing our own emotions without blaming the other. It wasn’t a romantic home run, but it was a huge sign of growth. In this episode, we talk about how emotional flooding can happen even in fun moments—and how the real win is learning to stay connected while dysregulated. Because the goal isn’t to never get triggered—it’s to grow in how you show up when you are. A week left: Click here for more info Click for info on Habit Lab: Mastery Course ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | |||