The Missing Piece in Your Intimate Life?
The Dynamics of Giving and Receiving with Betty Martin - new podcast episode out now
What if the missing piece in your intimate life isn't about desire or technique - but about truly knowing what you want, and feeling safe enough to say so?
In this episode, Sarah Rose Bright is joined by Betty Martin, creator of the Wheel of Consent — one of the most transformative practices in the field of conscious touch, intimacy, and relating. Simple in its structure and profound in its impact, the Wheel has quietly revolutionised how thousands of people understand the dynamics of giving, receiving, taking, and allowing.
This is one of Sarah's favourite practices - both personally and in her work with clients. She has seen again and again how it transforms people's experience of touch, pleasure, and genuine connection. And this conversation is a beautiful introduction to why.
Betty shares the story behind the Wheel of Consent and unpacks the subtle — and often hidden — dynamics that shape every experience of touch and intimacy. How we give. How we receive. How rarely we are truly asked what we want. And how transformative it can be when we finally are.
Sarah didn't get to half her questions — so watch this space for round two.
In this conversation we explore:
- The two core questions at the heart of the Wheel of Consent
- Why knowing what you want is a skill — and why so many of us were never taught it
- Why asking for what you want can feel so vulnerable
- How setting clear limits actually creates more generosity and enjoyment
- The discomfort so many people feel around receiving — and where it comes from
- How slowing down helps you feel what is actually true for you
- How exploring what you don't want can clarify what you do
- Why the ability to say no builds trust, safety, and deeper connection
- How many people have never truly been asked what they want
- How transformative it can be to choose — consciously and freely — how you are touched
Dr. Betty Martin has had her hands on people professionally for over 40 years (some of it legal and some of it questionable). 30 years of Chiropractic and other modalities, then later, 15 years of Somatic Sex Education and Surrogate Partner Therapy. Also Contact Improv and other kinds of play.
She is the developer of the Wheel of Consent, a cutting edge model of receiving and giving, based on touch but amenable to non-touch practices as well. She is the author of The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent.
She loves sharing her experience. She developed a 5 day training in the Wheel of Consent for practitioners, which took her around the world, and then trained others to teach it so she could retire.
She currently mentors helping professionals, from psychotherapists to sex workers, and all stripes of hands-on practitioners.
RESOURCES FROM BETTY
https://www.wheelofconsent.org
https://www.schoolofconsent.org/calendar/
https://www.instagram.com/thewheelofconsent/
Free gift https://www.wheelofconsent.org/free-chapter-sign-up
RESOURCES FROM SARAH
DEVOTION is a 5-month journey for women to return home to their feminine bodies, awaken their sensuality and reclaim their true power. Starts 7th May 2026
The Making Love Retreat for Couples, 12th - 18th October, 2026
ABOUT YOUR HOST
Your podcast host is Sarah Rose Bright. Sarah Rose Bright is a Love, Sex & Intimacy Coach, an authorised teacher of The Making Love Retreats® and a Gene Keys Guide. She guides women and committed couples who feel stuck and unfulfilled in their intimate lives - and know this is the missing piece. Women return home to their body, awaken their sensuality and discover their true power. Couples transform sex into lovemaking, creating an erotic life filled with depth, passion, and love. Find out more: https://sarahrosebright.com/
MUSIC: Trust and Surrender by Ayla Schafer. You can explore more of her beautiful music here - https://www.aylaschafer.co.uk/
