Life Coaching with Christine Hassler – Détails, épisodes et analyse

What if forgiveness isn't the next step?

In this deeply honest coaching session, Christine works with Sylvie, who has been trying for years to reach forgiveness after a profound betrayal involving her ex-husband and a longtime friend. Despite therapy, spiritual work, and understanding that "forgiveness is for you," she finds herself stuck.

Christine helps Sylvie uncover something powerful: sometimes forgiveness isn't blocked because we're not spiritual enough — it's blocked because we've skipped a step. When betrayal runs deep, especially when it touches childhood wounds of not being seen or valued, forgiveness may not be the first doorway. Confrontation, anger release, and self-advocacy might be.

If you've ever tried to forgive but couldn't get there — or felt ashamed that you're still angry — this episode will help you understand why and what may actually need to happen first. 

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Consider / Ask Yourself:

• Is there someone you feel you "should" forgive but can't?
• Are you trying to spiritually bypass anger or confrontation?
• Do you avoid conflict, even when something deeply hurt you?
• Are you holding onto resentment because speaking up feels harder?
• Is there a clearing conversation you've been postponing?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Forgiveness is not condoning someone's behavior.
• Forgiveness is about releasing the beliefs and judgments keeping you stuck — not excusing the action.
• Sometimes the growth edge isn't forgiveness — it's confrontation.
• Anger is not unspiritual; it's information and energy that must be processed.
• Avoiding hard conversations can keep betrayal alive in the body.
• Peace often comes from self-advocacy, not silence.

How to Deepen the Work:

• Ask yourself if there is a conversation that needs to happen before you can move forward.
• Explore somatic or anger-release work to move stored emotion out of your body.
• Notice where you are confusing forgiveness with people-pleasing.
• Practice being a stand for yourself in small ways before having larger confrontations.
• Shift the goal from "forgiveness" to "peace and acceptance."

Free Masterclass: Untangled

Christine is hosting a free masterclass called Untangled, designed to help you break out of childhood patterns and step into who you truly are — especially in this powerful Fire Horse energy cycle.

This is an opportunity to create new momentum, untangle old emotional patterns, and strategically step into transformation.

Register at:
christinehassler.com/untangled

Social Media + Resources:

 Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment

Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner

Christine on Facebook

Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler

@ChristineHassler on Twitter

@ChristineHassler on Instagram

@SacredUnionCouples on Instagram

Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!

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We're moving from the introspective Year of the Snake into the bold, forward-moving Year of the Horse.

Snake energy has been about shedding — old roles, patterns, identities that no longer fit. The Horse brings movement, courage, and momentum.

But if you haven't fully released what surfaced this year, you may feel pushed instead of propelled.

In this episode, I share what this energetic shift symbolizes and how to consciously move from reflection into aligned action — without burnout, without rushing, and without dragging the past forward.

And if you're ready to go deeper into untangling the patterns that keep repeating in your life, I'm teaching a free masterclass at christinehassler.com/untangled.

The New Year is just around the corner along with the tradition of making resolutions, which are usually promises to do something "more, better, or different." Most of us start the New Year with the greatest of intentions, yet by March (or even by the second week in January) we may not find ourselves so resolved. We revert back to old patterns and beat ourselves up for not sticking to our resolutions. Could there be a way to ring in 2026 that serves us better?

YES! And it has been my New Year ritual for the past fifteen years.

Many of you have joined me in this ritual, which is a co-creative process of reflection and intention setting over the years.

The night of December 31st will come and go (and no one will remember what you wore) so instead of just trying to plan an epic evening, set your sights on co-creating an epic year!!

I invite you to follow this step-by-step process and amend it any way that inspires you:

PART ONE: Completing 2025

1. On December 31st (or around that time) carve out at least an hour of uninterrupted time for yourself. Create the mood – get comfy, quiet, light a candle, put on some music. Begin by writing in a journal your "Year in Review." Month by month recall events that happened, people you met, places you visited, lessons you learned, accomplishments, blessings, struggles, funny moments and so on. What is so great about looking at the year in this way is that you are able to notice how you have grown and express gratitude for all your learnings.
   
   

2. After you have gone through the year, consider the behaviors, beliefs or habits that you'd like to leave behind. We all have our regrets, bad habits, and learning experiences; yet, a lot of us tend to cling to them much longer than we need to. On a separate sheet of paper, write down what you would like to leave behind in 2025. For example: being obsessed with an ex, bad eating habits, going to bed too late, limiting beliefs, repetitive/disruptive thoughts, overuse of social media, consistent self-scrutiny, road rage and so on. When you complete this list, burn it or rip it up into tiny pieces to really let it go!
   
   

3. If you so choose, share your year in review with someone close to you. See what they recall, reminisce, and share a couple laughs. (Optional)
   
   

4. Make a toast to the end of the year. Say a prayer of gratitude for 2025, declare you are letting it go, and toast to releasing anything that no longer serves you.
   
   

PART TWO: Co-Creating 2026

1. Begin to co-create/manifest 2026. Light a new candle, set the mood. Meditate for at least five minutes using the guided meditation included in this episode. Meditation is important to do before you begin to manifest so you create and visualize from the authentic self rather than the ego.
   
   

2. After your meditation is complete and you are tuned into your most authentic channel, you are ready to start visioning your 2026! Begin by getting a blank sheet of unlined paper. Write at the top: "This or something better for the highest good of all concerned. And so it is."
   
   

3. Without thinking or analyzing, write down anything and everything that comes to mind that you would like to co-create/manifest in 2026. Be specific, be creative and think big; however, your list should be at least 70 percent possible and believable. Write until your brain is empty – don't worry about being greedy! The Universe loves to be generous!!! Important: write everything in present tense using "I am" and use verbs to enthusiastically and specifically express what you want. For instance, "I am joyfully and easily securing a new job that is professionally fulfilling and offers me the opportunity to do what I love." Include how you will FEEL - this is crucial because we're actually chasing the feeling, not just the goal.
   
   

4. Choose a place to display your list where you can see it regularly and treat it as something sacred. Better yet, record yourself reading your list aloud with feeling and emotion - your own voice is hypnotic. Listen to this recording daily, multiple times a day if possible.
   
   

5. Create a playlist of 3-5 songs (at least 20 minutes) that make you feel enlivened, connected to your purpose, and energized for the future. Choose forward-thinking songs that uplift you, not songs that make you nostalgic or sad. Listen to this playlist frequently - ideally while taking a walk and listening to your recorded manifestation audio.
   
   

6. Frequently throughout the year, review your list (every day is ideal). Read what you wrote aloud and feel free to add to it. January 1st is not the only day of the year in which you can call in what you want! Believe in the possibility of your manifestation power.
   
   

7. Observe with gratitude as things in your life begin to manifest. Celebrate AND do not beat yourself up or get discouraged over what is not happening. Focusing more on what is abundant in our lives ALREADY is the best way to generate more abundance. Remember that sometimes our timeline and the Universe's timeline may be different.
   
   

Resolve to live your life in alignment with what you truly want to manifest. Rid yourself of any emotional, mental, physical, or interpersonal clutter so that you can get out of your own way. Co-creating and manifestation takes action as well as thought and belief, so resolve this year to take steps to truly LIVE your best life.

Love,
Christine

In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler speaks with Hyesha, who seeks advice on managing her empathic tendencies, especially the overwhelming emotions she feels when witnessing suffering. Christine helps Hyesha navigate the delicate balance between feeling deeply and maintaining emotional boundaries, particularly when her empathic abilities make her overly sensitive to the pain of others.

Hyesha opens up about her experiences of being triggered by everyday situations involving children or animals, which leads her into "worst-case-scenario" thinking. Christine assists Hyesha in understanding how her heightened sensitivity stems from unhealed childhood wounds and limiting beliefs. Through this powerful coaching session, Hyesha learns practical ways to embrace her empathic gifts without being consumed by them.

Christine emphasizes the importance of distinguishing between empathy and sympathy, encouraging Hyesha to hold space for others' suffering without taking it on herself. She also guides Hyesha in recognizing her own triggers and using them as opportunities for self-compassion and healing.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you find yourself feeling overwhelmed by others' emotions, to the point that it drains you?
• Are you an empath who struggles to maintain boundaries between your feelings and those of others?
• How do you respond when you're triggered by the suffering of children, animals, or even people on the news?
• Can you hold space for others' emotions without going into "rescue mode" or becoming emotionally paralyzed?

Hyesha's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Hyesha shares how hearing a child or animal cry often triggers a response that doesn't match the reality of the situation, rooted in past trauma.
• Christine helps Hyesha identify the emotional patterns that cause her to react so strongly and teaches her how to use her empathic abilities constructively.
• Hyesha recognizes the need to mother herself and attend to her own emotional needs when triggered by outside stimuli.
• The session highlights the difference between empathy and sympathy, showing how Hyesha can feel deeply without becoming overwhelmed.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Practice distinguishing between empathy (feeling without judgment) and sympathy (feeling sorry for others), and strive to stay in an empathetic space.
• Acknowledge that your reactions to certain situations may be based on unresolved emotional wounds, and use these moments as invitations to self-care.
• Use grounding techniques to regulate your nervous system when you start to feel overwhelmed by others' emotions.
• Recognize that feeling deeply is a gift, but it doesn't require you to take on the burden of fixing or saving others.

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Social Media + Resources:

• Christine Hassler — Take a Coaching Assessment
• Christine Hassler Podcasts Including Coaches Corner
• Christine on Facebook
• Expectation Hangover by Christine Hassler
• @ChristineHassler on Twitter
• @ChristineHassler on Instagram
• @SacredUnionCouples on Instagram
• Email: jill@christinehassler.com — For information on any of my services!
• Get on the waitlist to be coached on the show!
• Get on the list to be notified about the upcoming certification program for coaches!

Happy Holidays!! This is a beautiful and sweet time of year, which can bring forward so many feelings and experiences. Some of you may be absolutely blissful – you love this season and are in a place of peace. Others of you may be really struggling this time of year.  Perhaps you feel alone. Or family dynamics are challenging. And some may be feeling a mix of both. You have moments of peace and joy and other moments of loneliness, anxiety or even sadness. Wherever you are is okay.  Please remove the expectation that your holidays are supposed to be any certain way – otherwise you will just keep waking up with an expectation hangover! My intention in sharing this meditation with you today is to remind you about what is most important not only this time of year but in every moment of every day, which is LOVE.

Regret. We've all felt it at some point. Some of you are feeling it right now and you are suffering because of it. Something did or did not happen the way you wanted. You did or didn't do something the way you wished you would have. And you want more than anything to be able to rewind time and get a do-over. You've replayed scenarios over and over in your head thinking of all the things you could have done or said. You're trapped in a shoulda/coulda/woulda perspective and it's a miserable place to be, isn't it? As much as you are aware that regret is a miserable place to hang out in, you cannot seem to be free of it. But I have good news: liberation from regret is 100% possible!! And it is essential to your well-being that you commit to letting go of regret. In this Coaches Corner, I explain how.  Listen closely to this episode…or you'll regret it! ;)

Seasons change and so do we. We all have expectations as to how our lives should be, what our family should think of us and how we will feel after making a big change.

When we cannot come to terms with the decisions we have made, we experience regret and consequently an Expectation Hangover. But regret is useless and we often beat ourselves up over nothing. We cannot move forward by living in regret.

What if instead of suffering from regret, we found peace and experienced connection by reprogramming our unconscious mind to fully accept the decisions we have made? What if instead of dwelling on the past, we fully opened ourselves to receiving all the gifts in the present?

In today's call, Jenny is uncertain about her decision to move, in order to be closer to her family. She is having difficulty creating her new life, because she is stuck in her old one. She is also physically sick from the stress. She thinks geography may be a factor, but we discover she may need to stop pushing against the change and allow things to happen.

Taking a step back and seeing the impression her indecisiveness is leaving on her children, might be the key that helps Jenny to accept the decisions she has made and to move forward towards creating the story she wants to tell.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Is there a recent decision you made you currently regret?
• Are you in a situation where you think that changing things is the answer to your problems?
• Are you feeling physically drained and apathetic?
• Are you an adventure junkie?
• Are you a parent and feel it's important to make your child feel safe and secure?

Jenny's Question:

Jenny is making herself physically sick and tired, because she regrets moving a long distance to be closer to her family and would like to know how to get over it and on with it.

Jenny's Key Insights and Aha's:

• She is living half in Wyoming and half in Wisconsin
• Her fatigue is a signal from her body
• Self-judgment is sucking her dry
• She's stuttering on decisions

How to get over it and on with it:

• Fully accept the reasons for making previous decisions
• Be fully present wherever you are
• Begin a spiritual practice such as yoga and/or meditation
• Create the feeling you are missing
• Learn to live more inside out and less outside in
• Embody safety and acceptance
• Create a community where you are

Tools and Takeaways:

• Write out a list of emotions you want to feel and generate them, reorient yourself from inside out
• Write out these 3 things:

              ○   The reasons why it was the best decision you could have made, given the information you had

              ○   The reasons why you feel safe and secure

              ○   The reasons why you can trust yourself

• Collect evidence about the story you want to tell
• Inspect your health problem to see if it could be a lack of self-love; also check out "Choosing me before we" for in-depth analysis
• Examine what you are teaching your children, they feel your energy

Resources:

Christine Hassler

Expectation Hangover 

@christinhassler

Coaching Corner - Getting Over Regret

Choosing ME Before WE - Christine Hassler

Courage. It's a desirable quality to have and an empowering way to be. Our heroes and inspirational leaders are labeled courageous.  We are told throughout our life to "be courageous," but that isn't always easy. In fact, courage is often one of the most difficult qualities to truly integrate. Why is being courageous not as easy to embody as the heroes make it look in the movies?  There are two main reasons.  First, being courageous means being willing to face fear and embrace uncertainty.  YIKES! We don't like being scared or not knowing what is ahead.  Second, most of us do not truly understand what courage really means.    In this coaches corner, Christine shares how to become more courageous and go after the things in life that scare us.

Absolute certainty is rare. If you are waiting to be absolutely certain before making a decision, you may find yourself spinning in confusion.

Today's session is with Marie, who believes she is ready to make big changes in her life, but fear and unresolved issues from a recent break-up are keeping her from taking the first step. She is distracting herself by considering multiple changes at once and it's depleting her energy. 

When we fear something we create roadblocks for ourselves. Roadblocks can be waiting for certainty, attempting to move forward before dealing with issues from the past and talking a lot about what we want, but not taking the first steps to get to it.

Marie realizes she may be lingering on open issues from a past relationship. She needs closure before she is able to move forward, but she's unsure of how to get past the breakup. We work through how Marie can use her inner wisdom to remove the residue from the past and pursue her career dreams with a clear mind.

When we accept change and allow it to happen, we discover our challenges are leading us somewhere. 

Read the emotional and mental chapters of the treatment plan in my book, Expectation Hangover, to gain a deeper understanding on grieving and closure.

If you want to get unstuck join me on January 8th - 10th for my "for women only" Winter Retreat.  

Consider/Ask Yourself:

Are you waiting to do something until you are completely sure?

Are you attempting to make too many decisions at once and not making progress on any of them?

Are you a creative person who feels the need to do everything all at once?

Are you still wanting something from a previous relationship and are unable to move on until you get it?

Marie's Question:

Marie feels she is in a rut and wants to make a big move, including getting over her last relationship. She is a motivated person but has a fear of moving forward.

Marie's Key Insights and Aha's:

• She wants to feel certain about something before she moves forward
• She's trying to do too many things at once
• She's making a reactive choice and not a proactive one 
• She needs other people's opinions
• Listening to her intuition will help her move on

How to get over it and on with it:

• Clean up old residue first before moving forward
• Focus on one thing at a time
• Own the part you played in the relationship
• Listen to your intuition

Tools and Takeaways:

• Focus on the problem or the question you don't want to deal with first 
• A closure conversation or letter should include
  • ○ What you learned
  • ○ What you are grateful for
  • ○ What you forgive the other person for
  • ○ What you forgive yourself for
  • ○ Acknowledge the other person
  • ○ A thank you and a goodbye

Resources:

Christine Hassler

@christinhassler

jill@christinehassler.com

2016 Winter Retreat

Expectation Hangover

Are you carrying around an unspoken question or assumption about something? Did someone do something or behave in a way that stumped (and possibly hurt) you but you haven't had the guts to ask them about it? Are you being a wee bit wimpy when it comes to speaking your truth? I see so many people suffer under our own assumptions, pretend everything is fine, and take things personally rather than just having the chutzpha to be real, raw and vulnerable with another person. In today's coaches corner I give you tips for mustering up the courage to take action and actually say what you need (and want) to say.