Highly Sensitive, Happily Married – Détails, épisodes et analyse

165   If you are tired, as so many women–and especially highly sensitive women—are these days, then it IS affecting your relationship – for the worse.

When we are tired, depleted, or burnt out, we HSPs tend to feel especially burdened, irritable and even resentful.

And unfortunately it is just so easy to get tired, depleted or burnt out in our modern lives with all the societal and real-life pressures. And you likely feel you have to just keep go-go-going. Especially if you are a mom or have a full time job (or both!).

If any of this is rigging a bell, please listen to this episode. Because you deserve to feel good in your life and relationship!

And I want to give you deep permission to rest. Listen in to hear why, how, and what that looks like. And take up my loving little challenge for you this week.

You’ll be on track to lose the exhaustion, the irritability, and even the sense of ongoing burden and resentment, and start replacing it all with a sense of nourishment and vitality. This is essential listening for all highly sensitive people.

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164  All marriages have ups and downs. It's in large part how you handle the downs that determines the overall quality of your relationship, and whether it grows more deeply loving and stays that way, or it disintegrates.

In this episode I candidly share how I recently applied my own coaching teachings to my own marriage during one of those harder times (when I was feeling like my husband wasn't supporting or caring for me well), and how I coached myself into feeling not just supported again, but even cherished.

As vulnerable as this is to share with you, I really wanted you to be able to see that even people with skills like mine go through harder times, and that instead of that being something to weaken your marriage, it is an opportunity for more growth, both personal and as a couple–WHEN you apply the coaching (and self coaching) I teach you and my clients.

You’ll not only hear the exact process I went through, but also how I dealt with resistance to doing my end of the work, how I took ownership over the hard emotions I was feeling, and how I shed the anger and hurt and began to feel loved and supported again–in just 10 or 15 minutes of my time! – so you can learn from me and even use this same process yourself.

I truly want you to be able to know just how to move out of those inevitable harder times in your marriage and get back to the love, connection and mutual supportiveness you cherish, so you can feel more fulfilled and secure, and keep evolving in the best ways both personally and as a couple. So listen in!

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155   Sometimes you hear something that changes everything, and puts you in a state of mind that leads to finally being able to bring a big dream to life. This must listen episode may very well be that for you.

Because if you are like most of the women I talk to and work with, you want a new level of intimacy with your spouse: a real partnership that is tender, connected, deeply supportive and nurturing in all realms– intellectually, physically, emotionally, domestically, in terms of each other's dreams and inner life. You want to feel like your significant other is a true team with you in life.

And it's really important that you get this! For you, for our world, even for your partner.

But, this is really a NEW paradigm when it comes to committed relationships and marriage. It's still just emerging.

And, unfortunately, the old and recent paradigms of marriage that still live on in many of us (which I will explain today), are making it harder to bring our partners onboard and make this new, beautiful vision we have of marriage come to life. So we are left frustrated, disappointed, resentful, and questioning if we can have the kind of relationships we really want with our current partner.

It doesn't have to be this way. You CAN (in most cases) open the door for your partner to be that full partner you want, and your marriage to be the NEW supportive and nurturing-in-all-realms marriage we women want. Especially as an HSP.

To do so, it will help you SO MUCH to understand the old school paradigm of marriage, and how it still colors so much in our marriages, and also the recent (or current)  paradigm of marriage–both of which are, though perhaps empowering for one individual in the relationship, very relationally disempowering overall! We dive into this today.

Then you’ll learn about what it takes to leave those old painful paradigms behind, step into relational empowerment (not just individual empowerment), and finally birth the new marriage we want so badly.

This is an essential and healing episode that will soften and sweeten your world with forgiveness and understanding, as well as empower and compel you to relate to your partner in such a way that gets him collaborating to bring this new paradigm of marriage very much alive between you. Listen in.

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070  As a sensitive woman, you likely love feeling connected to your significant other—and want to feel that way more often, yeah?

Trouble is, especially if you are married to a man, he may not be as into connecting in the ways you most love. He’d rather spend less time having deep talks and such, and more time doing other things. Or he outright resists spending time with you in the ways that bring you the emotional closeness you want…

Research shows this is a common difference between males and females.

Luckily, If this is the case in your relationship, you can still experience the connection you want. In this episode we talk about how.

We cover:

• The different ways, in general, males and females naturally connect.
  
  
• the one rule to follow to create satisfying connection for both of you.
  
  
• How to apply it step by step in daily life. 
  
  
• How to apply it when it comes to sex and physical intimacy. 
  
  
• Real life examples from clients and my own marriage that demonstrate how you can use this rule successfully.
  
  
• Why this naturally leads to more connection YOUR way.
  
  
• Stories of clients who use this to experience the emotional closeness they want with their partner.
  
  
• How to handle things when you feel you are the one compromising all the time, and he isn’t meeting you in the middle.
  
  
• Support to help you communicate about it all.
  
  

My clients and I use this “connection hack” to bring the emotional closeness we want with our husbands right into our marriages. Now you can, too! Listen in.

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If you’re considering getting professional support now or in the future for your marriage–or for anything related to your mental emotional well-being and life goals– you will want to understand what kind of support is best for you and your unique situation and goals.

I've seen too many women waste precious time, energy, money – and even lose hope in things changing in their marriages all together, simply because they didn’t understand when to choose a therapist for support, and when to hire a marriage coach…and so they chose the wrong type of professional support. 

Let’s not let that be you! This episode will clear things up for you.

Neither Coaching or Therapy (or Counseling) is better than the other. But both have their place, and each can be amazingly effective at their different goals. 

To maximize their benefit, get the changes you want, and not get discouraged, you need to educate yourself about the difference, and understand what they each work best for.

In this episode, I break that down for you, explain the difference between them, and help you identify what will be best for you, and perhaps your partner, to choose so you can have the best life and marriage possible.

If you’ve been considering working with me, definitely listen in to find out if I’d be the right choice for you in your situation. 

And even if you aren’t planning to find professional help right now, listen in so you can be educated to help point others in the right direction, listen to and follow the free content of right fit professionals for you, and get the best advice for your challenges and goals. 

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068  Want some super actionable–and fun! – ways to bring more connection, trust, cooperation and a sense of synchrony into your relationship? (Of course you do, as a highly sensitive woman who loves feeling connected to the person you love! )Then you’ve got to listen in.

In this episode, we dive into how moving together is a powerful doorway to feeling closer, and how you can incorporate this research-backed understanding into your marriage starting today for a stronger connection for the rest of your lives.

We dive into:

• What I mean by “sharing motions” or “moving together”, and examples to try out
  
  
• A bit of the (fun and even laughter-inducing) science behind how sharing motions leads to sharing positive emotions
  
  
• How my clients and I have harnessed this knowledge to our and our husbands benefit
  
  
• A few of the best ways to communicate with your partner to get him on board to putting this into practice in your lives.
  
  
• And why if your husband isn't into this idea, there is no reason to despair, and still SO much that you can do to make sure a deep loving connection is at the heart of your marriage.
  
  

You’ll come away from this episode with a clear understanding of how you can use this “connection hack” to bring more love and joy into your marriage, and confidence that you can increase the intimacy you want between you and your significant other.

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067  One of the biggest causes of discord, conflict, and the cycle of feeling less and less love and connection in a marriage is caused by what we call Assuming Negative Intent.

If you’ve ever had thoughts like: “My partner doesn’t care about me”, or "He’s just so irresponsible”, or “He doesn't value our marriage”, or “Xyz  [parenting, time together, a nice home] must not be as important to him as it is to me”, etc…

. . .you, too, assume negative intent. It happens for most –if not all– of us (especially as highly sensitive people).

The thing is, it happens automatically below the level of our conscious awareness –until we learn to catch it happening.

If we want a conflict-proof, secure, trust and love filled marriage, we’ve got to learn how to stop this automatic functioning of our brain from taking over, and learn how to assume positive intent. 

I lay out the basics for you here in this episode.

With a little bit of gentle discipline and effort, you can learn to work with your own mind in order to feel so much more at ease, cared for, and loved –and much better about your partner, too!

Dive in to guide your marriage into a realm of more understanding, acceptance, respect, compassion, and love.

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066   This is for you if you feel disconnected, irritated, or resentful towards your partner, or you don’t like who you become sometimes in your communications with him, or you experience a lot more conflict than you’d like –or you just want to create some freshness and more intimacy with your significant other (and inside yourself!)

Our feelings lead to so much of how we interact and are reacted to in our marriages. I think of them as the FUEL in our marriage.

Certain ones naturally lead to great interactions, while other ones tend to lead to interactions that go south.

The best news is that we can generate the ones that serve us in our marriages on purpose. And curiosity is one of the best of them all. 

Curiosity is powerful in so many ways to make our marriage and lives better–especially when it comes to communicating and connecting with your partner.  

It fuels great listening, great self and other-understanding, great problem solving –and makes you way less likely to get reactive, judgmental, or walled off from each other. And it helps us, ultimately, have more intimacy and deep love for the real person our husband is, in all his humanness.

 Listen in to:

• Learn about the magic that curiosity offers you in your marriage  when it comes to  communication and connceting.
  
  
• Hear stories of others powerful use of it, 
  
  
• Be empowered to start tapping into it yourself, 
  
  
• Learn exactly how to begin doing so, and the 3 steps to bring it directly into your marriage
  
  
• And embark on the little challenge I offer you to make it a much more regular part of your life
  
  

 – so your marriage can reap the huge rewards it brings.

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065  Often feel a little (or a lot) irritated, annoyed, disdainful or indignant, frustrated, exasperated, resentful or disappointed with your partner?  Or just generally hardened against this person you ultimately really want to feel soft and open to?

This is likely what I call “Should Pain.” 

Although very normal to the human brain, “should pain” is one of biggest barriers to love in our marriages. It feels bad to  both you and your partner when either of you are struggling with it.

Worse, it can run rampant for many of us when left unchecked, and lead to a culture between you and your significant other of disrespect, non-understanding, tension, and unhappiness.

Luckily, Should Pain is “curable”. From within yourself (Meaning, your hubby doesn’t need to do anything to make it go away. Super good news!). And the cure has to do with sensitivity –which you,  HSP friend, are a master of. 

So join me today as we dive into just what Should Pain is, where it comes from, and what you can do about it to begin to loosen it’s grip in your marriage, so you can feel open again to love and connection, communicate more effectively, and show up in a way you feel really good about.

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064  Without knowing where we want to go, how can we ever get there? We can’t, at least not without a ton of meandering and getting lost along the way.

So having a clear vision of what you WANT in your marriage is always the very first step to creating it. 

I want you, my friend-- and all sensitive women who are in a partnership (or want to be) to have what they feel is an amazing relationship, an amazing marriage. 

And I bet you want that, too.

Creating that requires some learning and skill building, and also some UNLEARNING– of what we’ve been taught that doesn’t work.

So we need to start  with not just a vision, but a re-envisioning of how we want our marriages to be–one that takes into account the VERY REAL HUMANS we are, in this current moment in time.

In this episode, I offer you that: a re-envisioning of what an amazing marriage realistically looks like for us as sensitive humans. A vision that I’ve brought to life in my own marriage, and my clients have in theirs, too...

...It's a vision that YOU yourself can achieve with your partner, too!

Slow down and really take and SAVOR this one. It will be the start of a sea-change of more love, connection, support, and ease in your marriage. It will be the beginning of you making your  marriage one that gets more amazing for the rest of your life.

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