Let’s be real — when it comes to chores, our kids could definitely be doing more. We’ve mentioned this topic before, but today we’re finally diving in headfirst: what are age-appropriate chores and responsibilities for kids?

Inside the Kiefer and Green homes, things look a little different — and there’s room for improvement in both. In a world where everyone shows their highlight reels, we want to keep it honest. Yes, we have strengths, but we also have areas where we’re still figuring it out.

Amy shares her goal of raising boys who can fully take care of themselves one day — the kind of men who know how to cook, clean, and do laundry without being asked. She doesn’t want any future partner looking at her like, “Who did you raise?” Abby opens up about the pressure she felt to be overly responsible as a child, and how she’s making sure her own kids don’t carry that same weight. Both agree: the men in our homes play a huge role in setting an example that everyone participates in keeping a household running.

Then we get into one of the biggest debates — should kids be paid for chores? Amy shares exactly how much her boys earn for certain tasks and what’s still expected of them for free. Abby’s family takes a different approach, focusing on teamwork and shared responsibility — and she explains why that works so well for them.

We also break down what age-appropriate chores actually look like — from toddlers learning independence through simple tasks, to preschoolers pitching in with supervision, to elementary-aged kids taking real ownership around the house. And for those preteens? You might be surprised by just how capable they are when given the chance.

As you listen, think about what your family is doing well. Celebrate that! And then take one small step toward helping your kids grow their confidence and independence through everyday responsibility.

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Today we’re welcoming Claire Lerner back to the podcast! Claire specializes in helping parents understand and support big reactors—kids whose emotions and reactions tend to run higher and deeper than most.

Our first episode with Claire was one of our most popular, so we knew we had to bring her back for round two. If you’re parenting a child with a sensitive temperament, this episode will leave you feeling seen and equipped with real strategies to help your family thrive.

In this conversation, we dive deeper into what works—and what doesn’t—when parenting spirited kids. Amy opens up about what she used to do differently before learning more about emotional regulation, and why she no longer feels like there’s no hope. Claire reminds us that growth for these kids starts with growth in us as parents—and with the right tools, things really can get better.

We talk about what to do when traditional talk therapy isn’t the right fit, and how to handle it when your partner isn’t on the same page. Claire also shares how to navigate the tricky moments when siblings point out that your big reactor seems to get “different rules,” and what to do when their emotions seem even bigger in public settings. She explains why confidence and praise can be complicated for deeply feeling kids, and how to shift your language so it encourages them. We even cover what to do when a big reactor crosses a line with a younger sibling.

Claire brings in real-life examples from her work, and we include some of the listener questions you submitted ahead of time. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed or worried that things will never improve, this episode will remind you that progress is possible—it’s never too late to reconnect and help your child (and yourself) grow.

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Conflict is a natural part of every relationship—whether it’s in marriage, friendship, family, or work. In this week’s episode, we’re diving into the 5 different conflict styles (the accommodator, the avoider, the compromiser, the competitor, and the collaborator) and exploring how they show up in our lives.

We share personal stories and examples of how conflict plays out differently in our marriages versus our friendships. Abby opens up about realizing her conflict style might not be what she originally thought after reflecting with her husband, Colin, who leans more toward the “need to be right” style. Amy talks about how she used to lean heavily on avoidance but, through therapy, has been growing into a more collaborative approach.

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• What the 5 conflict styles are and how they show up in relationships.
  
  
• Why saying “we never fight” might actually mean you’re not speaking up for yourself.
  
  
• Why our conflict styles can look different in marriage vs. friendships.
  
  
• How to decide which relationships are worth working through conflict for.
  
  

Remember: the goal isn’t to avoid conflict altogether, but to understand how you (and those around you) approach it so you can move toward healthier resolutions.

• Read the article on the 5 conflict styles here.

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Today’s topic idea came from a friend of ours. She explained that her partner is going through a rough stretch at work and it’s trickling into their home life. She was wondering how she can help him and how she can make sure this issue is not taken out on their kids. We decided to dedicate an entire episode to what happens if one of the two of you has a tough stretch of life.

We give real life examples from both ourselves and our partners. Both of us have been there. We know what it’s like to go through tough seasons as individuals and what it’s like to have a partner go through a rough patch. We help break it down into three parts; finding the root cause, pulling the other person out of their rut, and how to stop their bad mood from bringing you down.

A common theme that comes up throughout this episode is the importance of self-awareness. We get it that it’s not your responsibility to make sure your partner is happy all the time. It is up to them to recognize what their triggers are and to communicate with you what will help them during this tough time. And the way to help your partner out in times of need is going to be different for everyone. 

You and your partner are two different people. When they are going through a rough patch it’s just not easy. We have to normalize that as humans we are going to go through hard things. It’s important to ask ourselves how can we help each other, how can we best support each other, and be there for one another? How can we take some things off their plate while also knowing that we exist outside of them too?

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This is a special episode that was originally recorded for the other podcast that Amy & I host; Pursuing HER Purpose. I (Abby) get behind the microphone with our other co-found of that business, Kat Herro, and together we share what it’s like to have a traveling spouse. May you are the traveling one or may it’s your partner, either way this episode is going to fill you with so much insight into what this lifestyle is all about. 

We go through how often Kat and I’s partners are gone, what they do ahead of time to set the family up for success, and what the expectations are for both themselves and their partners when they are gone. Kat and Abby share what systems work best for them when their spouses are out of town including having something fun planned in advance, having groceries delivered, and even making bath time a longer than usual activity with the kids.

Having a partner who travels for work can be taxing in more ways than one. But we want you to know that you’re not alone. It’s easy to slip into that angsty comparison place. We hope this episode not only gives you ideas for how to make the time your partner is away easier but also something that you can actually look forward to.

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Jamila Souffrant, from Journey to Launch, is on the podcast today. We’ve had financial experts on the show before and we know these types of episodes always hit! But we feel that you’ll especially vibe with Jamila. She is a mom of three, a money coach, a podcast host, and a certified financial education instructor. Her own journey with money and how she too is learning along the way is so relatable.

There are different ways to approach your finances. Jamila explains that during different stages of life you may approach money differently. You could be an aggressive investor at one point versus extremely frugal at another. She explains things like what the FIRE acronym stands for and what her “guacamole lifestyles” mean in her new book; Your Journey to Financial Freedom.

We know that finances can feel like an all or nothing approach. Jamila gives a fresh take on how you can look at a side hustle and how to get on the same page as your partner when it comes to still valuing each other's independent financial goals. Another thing our generation tends to think is that our parents didn’t teach us enough about money. If you want to start having money talks with your children, Jamila gives some advice on where to start.

We loved so many of Jamila’s answers during this interview. You’ll be able to take her real life examples, implement them right away, and not feel overwhelmed while doing so.

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We have Dr. Sumi Raghavan on the show today. If you’ve heard of Dr. Becky Kennedy, who has been on the show before, Dr. Sumi consults for her parenting company. She also collaborates with other psychologists who support women and mothers.

Throughout this interview Dr. Sumi does such a great job of empowering our listeners to feel confident and break free from mom guilt. She lets us know that if a system isn’t working for us, it’s not our fault. Instead, she gives us techniques we can use to move forward through community and finding support from the people around us.

Dr. Sumi answers our questions on how we can create more space for rest and how we can help ourselves understand that rest is necessary. We live in a culture that loves to value being over-productive. Dr. Sumi explains how we can move away from this lifestyle. She also shares her concept of “anti-work Wednesday”; what it is and why she created it.

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We are sharing the microphone with a married couple who also happen to be couples counselors specifically for parents. Erin and Stephen Mitchell join us today to talk about the tough decisions we have to make as parents, starting with do we want to have more kids? They go into their own story on this very subject and share the struggles they had to overcome to come to a final decision. Not only do they bring the humanity behind therapy, but also with Stephen’s PhD in medical family therapy and Erin’s masters in counseling and psychology, they’re able to bring in so much more. 

We know that the decision of how many children to have shows up constantly for this community. Some couples can fight on this topic for months and months, some even years. Erin and Stephen share what you should be asking yourselves, as individuals, if this is a topic of tension in your household. And what about if you’re grid locked - one person is a no and the other is a yes. They share how you can move forward in this situation.

Finances are another topic of discussion that cause stress for couples. Do you feel like you can never get on the same page as your partner when it comes to money? And what about a career change? How do you decide as a couple if this is the next right move for your family? Erin and Stephen bring forth the idea of asking what the truth behind the story we are telling ourselves is with these issues. They also share how to help your partner feel seen and heard when their opinion differs from your own.

We both had so much to reflect on after this conversation. Erin and Stephen still have issues, even though they are experts in this area. We all have things that we can continue to work on inside our relationships. And, when we throw kids in the mix, it only elevates the demands and responsibilities we feel when making tough decisions. We hope this episode allows you and your partner to revisit some of the stories underneath the surface and that together, as a couple, you can understand each other just a little bit better and decision fatigue can be less of a burden.

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Many of us are craving our own holiday traditions yet we are trying to please our parents at the same time. When is it our turn to enjoy the holidays? We can’t be expending all our energy into others and expect there to be time to dedicate to our own families. Today we hope you leave this episode feeling inspired, with some new strategies to try this holiday season, and definitely with some solidarity.

We understand that juggling the holidays is complicated. It’s so easy to say, “set a boundary. Say no.” But when other people’s feelings are at risk, it’s just simply not that easy. We share where we draw the line and say no. Being flexible when you can is key but also know what you’re going to hold near and dear to your immediate family.

We reached out to our community and asked you what was the most stressful for you during the holidays. We go through your hot takes on topics such as gifts, kids being crabby, sleeping arrangements, perfectionism, and the mom’s mental load this time of year. 

To make this holiday season a little bit more about you and less about everyone else you might have to have that hard conversation with your loved one or your in-laws. If anything, we suggest making your partner take some things off your plate! Keep it simple, delegate, and get ahead of what you can.

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This episode is all about step families, blended families and how to deal with exes. Even if that’s not your current situation, opening your eyes to the challenges that stepparents face is really important. And that’s exactly what today’s guest, Jamie Scrimgeor, helps us do. 

Jamie has a background in psychology and social service work. She is now a certified life coach who specializes in step family dynamics. Jamie also hosts her own podcast, is a content and community creator, she’s a wife, a mom to three stepchildren and one of her own.

In our conversation with Jamie she shares what she would like those of us who aren’t stepmoms to understand about those who are. She also shares what the most common challenges are that come up for stepmoms. We know that blending a family with stepchildren and an “ours” baby can bring up a lot of emotion. Jamie shares her own personal story with this and why it’s the best thing that has happened to her family.

One topic that isn’t often talked about is the mental load of a stepmom. Jamie shares her insights on what contributes to stepmom mental load most often and also shares her reframes to help you release the guilt, shame, and judgment of others when it comes to divorce.

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Did you know that your physical space can help you with your mental health journey? Today we are speaking with Anita Yokota, former mental health therapist turned interior designer. Anita shares her story of how practicing as a marriage and family therapist for over 20 years before pivoting her career into interior design allowed her to realize the importance of how your space feels. She is also the author of the best selling book Home Therapy.

Do you feel insecure about your home? Are you nervous to do any improvements because you’re afraid you might ruin it? Or you want to do all the things because you're hosting this upcoming holiday season? Anita teaches you how to be somewhere in the middle. She also explains what the four domains are from her book and how we should be using them to find more peace and joy in our homes.

Anita walks us through how we can feel good in our homes during the little kid years without breaking the budget. She recommends things like changing the paint color in a room to help a space feel more calm and less chaotic. She also touches on how you can compromise if you share a space with someone who has a different vision than yours when it comes to decorating.

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Do you lack confidence from time to time? Let us introduce you to Lydia Fenet. She is the world’s leading charity auctioneer and has single handedly raised over one billion dollars for over 800 different organizations and broken down countless barriers for women in our industry. In this episode Lydia teaches us how to step into our own confidence by focusing on the present.

As moms we are forced to make so many decisions and with all of the options we have, we can struggle with the choices we make. Lydia explains how things influence us, both in positive and negative ways, and how we can start to tune out the outside world and trust our own instincts. She shares what the “strike method” is and how we can start using it today. Lydia also states that she has learned way more from her failures than her successes and how this has made an important impact on the lives of her three children as well.

A lot of women in this community struggle with working mom guilt. Many of you have thought about leaving your careers completely because the stress of managing a household and kids gets to be too much. Lydia has some words of wisdom for you if you are stuck in this mindset right now. She also stresses the importance of understanding money, whether or not you’re the one bringing it in for your household.

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Did you know that there are more tools to measure your health progress than just a scale? Today, Jessica Kuchnia, from DexaFit Madison is here to explain to us what a DEXA scan is and what all it measures. We first met Jess when we walked into her business for our own scans. We all share the same passion for all things health, fitness, nutrition, and longevity.

It can be so hard not to compare ourselves to other women. Especially in this social media era we are living in. Jess explains why it is important to focus on progress on ourselves and how focusing inward can be our best bet when it comes to living our healthiest lives. We also know that progress can be slow. Especially as we age and after we have babies. Jess explains what can help with this and why playing the long game when it comes to your health is best.

One of our favorite pieces of advice that Jess shares is to beware of the “BLTs” of life - and they aren’t what you think they are!

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Since it’s a holiday here in the U.S., we’re bringing back one of our most downloaded and loved episodes of all time—with none other than the incredible Shrink Chicks, Emmalee and Jennifer, co-founders of The Therapy Group.

These two women are experts in relationships, and in this conversation, we dig deep into what happens after kids enter the picture. From navigating conflict and working through small disagreements to building healthier communication patterns, this episode is packed with strategies you can use at every stage of your relationship.

To be honest, it felt like we were sitting in on our very own couples therapy session—except thousands of you were right there with us, nodding along to the truths being shared.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

• How to navigate conflict in a way that strengthens your relationship.
  
  
  
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• Why communication patterns matter more than winning an argument.
  
  
  
• The importance of seeking support instead of trying to “fix it all” on your own.
  
  
  

Important note: The guidance shared in this episode is meant for those in safe, healthy relationships. If abuse is present, these tools won’t apply, and we encourage you to seek professional resources and support.

One of the most powerful takeaways from this conversation is that you don’t need to figure out your relationship struggles alone. Resources, therapy, and the right tools can transform your partnership—and your life.

We’d love to hear your biggest “aha” moments after listening. Share your takeaways with us on Instagram and tag @shrinkchicks and @herselfpodcast so we can connect with you.

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Topics like fertility and menstrual cycles usually have a serious tone to them but our guest today, Dr. Danielle Lane has a way of bringing humor into these often stressful situations. Dr. Danielle is a board certified fertility specialist and you’ll learn why she has more information related to fertility issues than your Ob-Gyn might. 

This episode covers everything from defining what a normal and abnormal menstrual cycle is to the difference between endometriosis and endometrial cancer. We hear the acronym PCOS, or polycystic ovarian syndrome a lot these days and Dr. Danielle explains what this is and what you can do if you suspect you might have it? 

Unfortunately, many of our listeners are currently struggling with infertility. Whether it be you are trying to conceive for the first time, or maybe you are having issues a second or third time around. Dr. Danielle explains when you should seek out a fertility specialist and what to do if you don’t feel like you’re being heard from your current provider.

We want so many women in this community to hear Dr. Danielle’s message. Even if you haven’t struggled with fertility issues, you can benefit from listening to this conversation. We cannot wait to hear what you have to say about this one. It’s definitely a must listen!

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Our conversation with Julie Menanno, therapist and mom of six, centers around secure and insecure relationships based on attachment styles. She educates us on what attachment theory is and what the different types of attachment styles are. Julie breaks down what happens when a couple has an argument and how to help get you back to the ultimate goal in any relationship: feeling safe.

Do you wonder what attachment style you and your partner are? Julie walks us through how we can tell and what it means if you don’t identify with one attachment style over the other. She talks about why avoidant and anxious partners are often attracted to each other. Julie also explains why different attachment styles react differently when their partner is disappointed in them. 

To conclude our talk with Julie, she gives us an example of what we can start doing today to create a home that has an attachment friendly environment. Doing this type of work is hard but it’s fulfilling. Remember, it’s not linear but it will be worthwhile. If you want to be in your partnership for life, you must figure out how to sustain it and nurture it. When you get to go through something like this with someone you love, you come out the other side feeling like a rockstar!

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We are excited to have Dr. Whitney Casares back on the show today. She was first on the show back in episode 87; HERself Expert: Dr. Whitney Casares Talks Working Motherhood and Silencing Your Inner Critic. Dr. Whitney is a maternal child health expert, a pediatrician, a mom of two; one child has ADHD and the other has autism. She’s also the author of the soon-to-be released book - Doing It All.

Today we are talking about how we can make working motherhood better for ourselves. Dr. Whitney explains how when she was doing it all, in the end, she was the one who was suffering the most. She shares her hot take on the word balance and offers a suggestion on what we could be seeking instead. 

We cover everything from how to advocate for yourself and others in incremental ways at the workplace, what the term sandwich generation means, and what you can do if you fall into this category. Dr. Whitney shares how her and her husband split the household and parenting load & you’ll find her honest, personal answer refreshing. 

In Dr. Whitney’s upcoming book, Doing It All, she talks about the centered life. In this episode she walks us through this concept, gives her own personal examples, and shares what you can do when your top priorities conflict with one another.

We appreciate Dr. Whitney’s honest, realistic approach to working motherhood. We all want you to know that you deserve to feel good in this role and that even if you feel like you don’t have five minutes to reflect on your own needs, doing so will have a foundational impact on the rest of your life.

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We are discussing a topic we’ve never really talked about before. And that is how to have the really hard conversations with our kids. In this episode we cover topics like death, funerals, losing a pet, and what to do when our child has completely lost it at an appointment.

Our guest, Katie Taylor, is a certified child life specialist with over 12 years of experience. She supports kids and their families as they navigate challenging life events. Today, Katie explains to us that having  hard talks with our kiddos is a learned skill and why it is one that is so important to develop.

In this conversation Katie gives us her tips on whether or not we should tell our kids the truth about what to expect in an upcoming appointment. She also walks us through what age appropriate conversations around the death of a pet or a close family member sound like and gives suggestions on the appropriate language to use to help explain these events to our kids. We both took so much away from our chat with Katie and know you will too!

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It is a well known fact that ⅔ of couples report decreases in their marital satisfaction in the first three years after having a child. Dr. Tracy Dalgleish is back on the show with us today to talk about what happens after those first three years. How do we reconnect with our partner? 

Dr. Tracy is a mom to two kids, a wife, and has over 15 years of practice as a clinical psychologist. She gives us advice on how we can find the passion in our relationship again when we are in the thick of raising littles. And it doesn’t have to be these big extravagant date nights. It’s more about the little things like a text in the middle of the day to let your partner know that you’re thinking about them.

Do you feel like your relationship with your partner is transactional? Or when you do get a chance to sneak in a date night - do you only talk about your kids? Dr. Tracy explains how we can go from the mundane conversation of, “how was your day” to the four “C’s”; curiosity, compassion, connection, and collaboration.

What we love about Dr. Tracy is that she shares her own, personal experiences with us as well. Which is one of the touch points in her upcoming book; I Didn’t Sign Up For This. In her book Dr. Tracy writes about the importance of sharing the stories of other couples, and her own, to help her clients relate and feel less alone. 

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If you’re like us, we are celebrating Labor Day today! We are at the cabin, our kids are going back to school, and we’re getting together with friends. With everything we have going on we thought we would bring back one of our most listened to episodes with Nedra Tawwab all on boundaries.

Nedra does such a good job of explaining boundaries, the need for them, and how to implement them into your life. Every time we listen to this episode we find ourselves saying “no” so much more often because it makes our “yeses” feel that much better!

We read Nedra Tawwab’s book “Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself” as a group in our Patreon Book Club and in this episode, we dive into the details of her book and boundaries in general. We have answers to the family member who gives you the guilt trip, the friend who keeps testing the limits, and also with finding the power within yourself to make the changes with boundaries needed in the first place. 

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The whole idea of this episode is that, as women, we have to ask for what we need. And this takes practice. We were raised by a generation of women who did not speak up when it came to getting their needs met which is leading us to a lot of resentment and burnout. But today we talk through a few situations that have happened in our lives recently where we have stood up and asked for what we need.

We cover what getting our needs met from our partners looks like. We think they can read our minds and this just isn’t true. If you are feeling resentful towards your partner, you have an unmet need. We both share some things that work for us with Drew and Colin and hope they might help you as well.

The other two areas we cover are work and kids. You have to set boundaries with both. Whether you work inside or outside of the home, setting boundaries around these areas of your life will help you get what you need. We’ve recently implemented some changes with the role our kids play inside of our homes that will hopefully help aid them in becoming a more collaborative part of the family unit.

With all the things we cover in today’s episode, make sure you do what feels right for you. But also, in the moment, when something doesn’t feel right, speak up. We’re sensing a shift for our generation. We are starting to get our needs met. We are starting to ask for what we need. And that is a really great thing!

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It always feels good to get advice from those who are two steps ahead of us in life. And that’s exactly what today’s episode is. We have the pleasure of interviewing Dr. John Van Epp, developer of evidence based relationship programs. He also has his PhD in counseling and psychology. Dr. John Van Epp has over 44 years of marriage experience himself and has raised two daughters who are also in healthy marriages. You might even recognize one of his daughters; Dr. Morgan Cutlip, who has been on the show twice before!

Have you ever been at a point in your relationship where it feels more challenging than other times? Dr. John Van Epp explains that this is completely normal. He gives us evidence based examples of when relationships tend to struggle the most and walks us through how to get through those tough times. For many couples, the same argument keeps coming up time and time again. Dr. John Van Epp talks to us about the importance of not making it a you versus me thing but rather to dig deeper by trying to act like the other person’s defense attorney in order to come up with a resolution.

We loved our conversation with Dr. John Van Epp because it felt like he was giving us the wise advice that we all need. He is at a much different stage in life than most of us and it was refreshing to hear his take on things. If you loved this episode we would love it if you left us a rating and/or review wherever you listen to podcasts.

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It’s almost back to school time! Since we both have soon to be second graders, almost kindergarteners, and younger kiddos, we thought we would do an episode all about this big transition! This time around we feel a little more experienced and open up to you about how the process of sending our littles off to school has gone for us.

In this episode, we start off by sharing our thoughts on the end of the summer pressure we put on ourselves as moms. We might feel like we haven’t done enough. But ask your kids what their favorite memory from this summer was. We think you might be surprised to hear that in their eyes, the little things are what matter most.

We share what caught us off guard as first time parents of kindergarteners. We touch on how with school comes a whole new bag of unexpected responsibilities for not only your child but for you as the parent as well. If you’re part of a household that has two, full-time working parents, juggling this new school year schedule definitely comes with its challenges. We share how we’ve had to build a bigger village than just our own couplehoods in order to get the help that we need.

With big transitions come big emotions. We want you to know that every feeling is valid. You and your little one have everything you need, you’re going to get through this, and don’t forget to have a little fun along the way!

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This conversation is chock-full of great information that we are so glad we get to insert into our own lives right away! Melinda Moyer, author of How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Assholes, is our guest today. She is also the mom of two, contributing editor to Scientific American Magazine, weekly contributor to The New York Times and a faculty member in the science, health, and environmental reporting program at NYU.

We sometimes tend to think that talking about emotions too much with our kids may lead to them not being able to stand up for themselves or might make them too sensitive. Melinda explains why this is not true and how research has shown that strong soft skills, like emotional awareness, directly improve hard skills.

As a parent, we’ve all witnessed the dreaded scenario when our own kid treats someone else in a way that we are not proud of. Melinda coaches us through what to do in this scenario and how we can move forward from that. She also explains that saying sorry might not be the best solution, and what to foster instead.

We know so many of you are on the same page as us - you want to raise kind humans. In today’s conversation we take a deep dive into how to do just that. We hope you enjoy!

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As moms, we know every season brings new challenges, and summer can be one of the hardest to navigate. In this week’s episode, we share an honest summer recap—the wins, the struggles, and the lessons we’re carrying into fall and beyond.

From childcare challenges to balancing marriage and motherhood, we open up about the good, the bad, and the messy parts of parenting during the summer months.

• Childcare struggles & solutions: Amy shares what she learned when their nanny left for college in August and how she’s planning ahead with summer camps for next year. Abby talks about what worked (parent swaps) and what will have to change as Owen transitions out of daycare.
  
  
  
• Parenting & relationships: Many parents find themselves burnt out by the end of summer, especially when one parent carries more of the load. Amy and Abby talk about how this impacts relationships—and why it’s important to ask for help before you’re drowning.
  
  
  
• Practical takeaways: From childcare swaps, community programs, and after-school care, to making small changes at home, Amy and Abby share the strategies that are helping their families run more smoothly.
  
  
  
• Personal edits: Amy admits she’s working on bringing more positivity to family check-in meetings, while Abby is finding balance between her love of open weekends and Colin’s need for structure.
  
  
  

This conversation is a reminder for every parent: check in with yourself often. Needs change, kids grow, relationships evolve, and your routines should too. Don’t stay stuck—start making small edits now to set yourself up for a smoother season ahead.

We also want to take a moment to celebrate a very special milestone today; this is our 300th episode! We couldn’t be here without the support of each and every one of you. Thank you for tuning in, listening week after week, and sharing the episodes that resonate the most with you. Here’s to 300 more!

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We are thrilled to have Dr. Emily Jamea on the podcast today. She sits down with us to talk all things sex and intimacy! Emily is a sex therapist who is also the mom of two. She also has a book coming out next year and hosts her own podcast: Love & Libido. It was important for us to talk to someone about this topic who was a mom because we know Emily truly understands the ebbs and flows that come with intimacy in parenthood.

Sex is often the first thing that gets dropped by couples when life feels so full or gets super stressful. Dr. Emily coaches us on how we can make sex a priority if it has been put on the back burner. Or maybe sex feels like it’s too far gone? She walks us through how to even bring it up in conversation when it can feel too awkward. 

There are a lot of things that can be mismatched between partners when it comes to sex; frequency, time of day, fantasies, etc. It can be hard to even get started when you are feeling so misaligned. Dr. Emily shares her evidence based facts on how you too, as a couple, can have great sex! Even after having kids!

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We hear it so often when we are about to become mother’s for the first time, “Oh, you’re not going to get any sleep!” But the problem is there’s not a plan in place for how the mom’s sleep is actually going to happen. And we think this is something that needs to be talked about more!

Today we have Dr. Shelby Harris on the show. She is a mom, a clinical psychologist, and is board certified in behavioral sleep medicine by the American Academy of Sleep Medicine. We are absolutely obsessed with this interview! We go off script so many times, in a good way, because we ask all the follow-up questions that all of us have.

Dr. Shelby answers our questions around whether or not women really do need more sleep than men, how to enhance the quality of sleep when more sleep is just simply too hard to come by, and how caffeine really affects our sleep.

Do you ever wonder if naps are good for you?  What about the term “revenge bedtime” that we are seeing all over the internet? Should we be taking sleep aids? And what to do on those nights that you just can’t fall asleep, no matter what. Dr. Shelby answers those questions and so many more!

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Dr. Morgan Cutlip is back on the show today. She first joined us for episode 162. Today we are focusing on how we take care of ourselves as mothers; how do we feel good inside motherhood? So many of her answers spoke directly to both of us.

In her upcoming book, Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself, Dr. Morgan explains three core concepts moms face. She chats with us about these concepts including what we can do to help ourselves with the conflict of sacrificing our own identities in motherhood. We also discuss the core concept of idealization of motherhood and how intense our standards are on ourselves as parents. 

Ever feel like your needs aren’t being met by your partner when it comes to sharing the load? Do you ask them for help but it never seems to go anywhere? Dr. Morgan shares actionable steps we can take when our own needs are not being met. She talks about how we can best manage all of our commitments and why that means we can’t be 100 percent committed to everything at once. 

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If you’ve been wanting to minimize the clutter and simplify your life, we have a podcast episode that’s going to hit today! We are speaking with Denaye Barahona who has her Ph.D. in child development, is a licensed clinical social worker, and a mom of two. 

She shares her own journey when it comes to decluttering and simplifying her life. Denaye brings in the research side of things to help coach parents to adjust and eliminate the shame around feeling inadequate as a parent when you can’t say yes to everything.

Struggle with all the “stuff” that comes along with raising kids? Denaye gives us her top three strategies for coping with clutter and simplifying our physical spaces. She explains how when the space around us is peaceful, it puts our minds at ease as well.

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We know that many of you might be in vacation mode this week due to the Fourth of July holiday so we thought we would do a more casual episode. We are answering your questions that you submitted via Instagram and we have not seen these questions beforehand so we are answering off the cusp!

We talk about whether or not each of us takes naps and if the nutrition changes we have made have had an effect on how tired we get throughout the day. Things get a little spicy when we share what our favorite and least favorite quality of our spouses are. 

Parenting is a roller coaster, as we all know. We dive into what the peak and pit of parenthood looks like for both of us and how we each built our confidence level as mothers. 

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Are your kids starting to ask the really difficult questions especially when it comes to race? Then today’s episode is going to be a great one for you to learn from. Our guest, Dr. Traci Baxley is a cultural and race identity coach and she supports families in creating a safe place to have these types of conversations.

Dr. Traci approaches all of the subjects we cover in a non-judgmental way. She explains how being an educator in the classroom for years and being a parent of five children has led her to the work she does with social justice parenting. Dr. Traci describes why shielding our children from the ugliness of the world makes it more difficult for them to empathize with the struggles other people are going through. She goes into details on why she coaches parents to acknowledge race and shares tangible examples of age appropriate ways we can talk about these things with both our school aged children and younger kiddos as well.

Have you ever been in a situation where your child has asked a question right in front of another person? Dr. Traci walks us through what to do when this happens and explains how to go about handling that other person’s reaction as well.

We know that today’s episode is going to help you grow both as a person and as a parent. We would love it if you shared this episode with a friend who you know would enjoy it as well. As always, thanks for being here.

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Oftentimes as parents we focus so much on our kid’s emotions that we forget to give ourselves grace in this area. Today’s guest, Liz Fosslien is an emotions expert, an illustrator, and best-selling author of two books; No Hard Feelings and Big Feelings.

Liz explains why it is so hard for us as adults to focus on our own emotional needs. She also talks about why demonstrating our emotions to our children is so important and why editing them all out isn’t a good idea. Liz touches on the touchy subject of regret and explains why it isn’t always a bad thing.

Amy and I couldn’t help but feel the whole range of human emotions when we did this interview with Liz because not only does she allow that, she expects it. As women we often shove down emotions like anger or frustration when in reality those feelings should be invited. Having our kids see us work through those emotions is in fact very healthy!

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Destini Ann Davis is our guest today. She is a parenting coach, a working mom, and the author of Very Intentional Parenting: How to Raise Empowered Kids. She approaches parenting in a peaceful manner. Today, she talks with us about what this means and explains it in a way that we are all on the same team and we’re all trying to figure things out together.

Destini focuses on the energy that we can bring to parenting to really help everyone be more positive and peaceful and in return, we can raise children who are the same. She answers our questions on whether or not peaceful parents are raising entitled children, what to do when our approach to parenting differs from our partner, and how to use reflection and intention setting in parenting.

The continuing message throughout our conversation is centered around encouraging the parent and child to connect and communicate. If this episode resonated with you, we would love for you to share it on your Instagram stories and tag both @herselfpodcast and @destini.ann.

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We are bringing you something we’ve never really spoken about in the past. We are talking about adolescents and teenagers. We cover really hot topics including when it’s appropriate to give your child a cell phone. Our guest is Dr. Lisa Damour. She is a mom of two daughters, a psychologist, and the author of three New York Times best selling books that help parents untangle family life.

Dr. Lisa answers our questions on when we should start laying the groundwork with our children so that they can be resilient and cope with the challenges that come with the adolescent years. She covers how we can help our kids develop a solid self-esteem even if they’re not one of the stars. Body autonomy, expressing feelings, and how to support your kids in school are just a few of the topics we cover in today’s episode.

If you are the parent of an adolescent, or will be transitioning to this stage soon, you are not going to want to miss this episode! Be sure to tag both @herselfpodcast and @lisadamour on your Instagram stories and share this episode!

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The Dude Therapist is back with us today! We have Eli Weinstein on again, this time to focus on communication and conflict in relationships. This is a real conversation of what it’s like to be in a long term relationship with kids. There are challenges that come up and figuring out how to work through these and stay on the same page is so crucial.

Eli walks us through how couples that stay together deal with conflict. He touches on how to deal with heated issues when kids are in the room and how to work around that feeling of wanting to solve an argument right now.

Have you and your partner ever had the same disagreement over and over? Eli shares his tips on how to resolve this so that the same issues don’t keep coming up. If you’ve ever felt like your relationship is more transactional than anything else, tune in to hear what Eli recommends when things with your other half start feeling this way.

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Happiness. For some, the word sparks joy. For others, it feels complicated. In this episode, we’re unpacking what happiness truly means — and why our own perspectives on the word itself are surprisingly different.

Inspired by research from a UC Berkeley professor who studies happiness, we explore three key factors proven to boost your well-being:

• Human connection — why in-person connection is essential for joy.
  
  
  
• Expressing gratitude — how appreciation shifts your mindset.
  
  
  
• Volunteering — the surprising way giving back benefits you, too.
  
  
  

We also share personal stories and simple practices we use to spark happiness in our own lives — even on hard days.

If you’ve ever wondered why happiness can feel so elusive or how to cultivate more of it, this conversation is a heartfelt mix of science, personal reflection, and actionable tips you can try today.

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We are shaking things up today by bringing you a male voice from the therapy, personal development, relationship, and parenting space. Our guest, Eli Weinstein, is a Dad of two and a psychotherapist that isn’t afraid to give it to people straight. He has an honest, blunt, but always kind style.

Eli has been working as a therapist for over eight years and shares some of the struggles he has faced since becoming a Dad. Him and his wife have experienced loss and infertility and Eli shares what that is like to go through as a Dad. 

As women, we often ask ourselves if Dad’s ever feel the mental load? Eli shares his perspective on this and what advice he has for women who are feeling the mental load burden. We cover the topic of postpartum mood disorders in men, what it’s like to be the starting player versus the bench warmer in parenthood, and how we have to be able to switch on and off as the preferred parent even when our children aren’t as comfortable with it.

You guys are always asking us for more episodes that center around a male’s perspective. This one's for you. You are going to want to share this with your male partner as well as any friend that you think might benefit from this episode!

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Dr. Corina Dunlap joins us for today’s conversation. She is a mom and a naturopathic doctor whose research is incredible. She focuses on hormones, mood, and gut health. Dr. Corina’s goal with each of her patients is to get to the root cause of their symptoms.

We discuss what the most common symptoms of hormone imbalance are and what kind of foundational health habits we should have in place in order to function at our best. Dr. Corina answers our questions on how hormones affect our metabolism, why our thyroid is so crucial for overall well being, and how we can know if our gut is truly healthy. 

If you’ve ever asked yourself questions like what do these symptoms mean or what changes can I make to feel better then you’re not going to want to miss this episode. Dr. Corina even gives those of us who have been putting our own health on the back burner the gentle nudge we need.

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Megan and Lauren from The Matrescence are back with us today. If you’ve been around for a while then you know they were on previously in episode #112. 

The Matrescence was born out of a desire to help other women navigate their personal experiences with motherhood while providing a community to support, uplift, and empower one another. Lauren is a licensed and trained registered nurse in the NICU and a mom of three precious little men. She is also now a board certified Psychiatric Mental Health Nurse Practitioner, focusing on women’s health and wellness. Megan splits her time developing marketing strategies for national brands and chasing three toddlers. 

In today’s episode we cover everything from anxiety to depression to what this looks like inside motherhood and how we can keep ourselves mentally well. This month is mental health awareness month and as you guys know we think this is so important. 

Lauren and Megan provide us with strategies on how we can cope with mental health challenges, explain how we can start to accept help for those of us who struggle in this area, and share their top wellness tips that they recommend every mom does.

If you enjoyed today’s episode, please tag both @thematrescence and @herselfpodcast and share it to your Instagram stories. As always, thanks for listening.

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This interview feels like a big hug. We sit down with Meghan Watson, a psychotherapist, writer, consultant & content creator, to talk about understanding emotions and giving ourselves compassion.

We cover the steps of what building emotional awareness looks like, the topic of resentment - how it can be an emotional burden, and Meghan gives us prompts on how we can move past resentment even if we feel like the other player isn’t willing to make a change. We dive into how we can start to build self-trust and the role that social media plays on our ability to trust ourselves.

This episode is both thought provoking and healing all at the same time. We would love it if you shared it in your Instagram stories tagging both @thrive_withmeg and @herselfpodcast.

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We are honored to have Dr. Aliza Pressman back on the show today. She was a guest on episode #41 and also hosts her own podcast; Raising Good Humans, where she interviews very knowledgeable and renowned parenting experts.

What we love about Dr. Aliza is that she parents the parent. She brings the latest research in child development and helps parents with the things that we deal with every, single day. Throughout this episode we bring in our own experiences and sift through ways to not only make parenting easier but also more enjoyable. 

Dr. Aliza shares the through line that all her guests agree on and you might be surprised to hear that it’s actually way simpler than you might think. We cover how we can keep our information intake at a manageable level when we live in a world where we are bombarded with information overload. We talk about resilience and how we can help our kiddos self regulate, how we prevent passing on our own worries, and whether or not that should even be the goal.

As always, we appreciate all the tags, ratings, and reviews. We are trying to grow our download numbers and every share helps us do just that. Thanks for listening.

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It’s Amy & Abby here this week. We are talking about five questions we’ve asked ourselves recently and we think everyone else should ask themselves these questions too. The whole point of this episode is that all of our answers will be unique. We will give you prompts, and share our own answers to the questions, but we want you to take them and  run with them.

We hope that these questions give you something to think about and allow you to do the type of self reflection that you deserve.

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If you are in a romantic partnership of any sort you are going to love today’s conversation. We sit down with Elizabeth Earnshaw who is a licensed marriage and family therapist. She is also a mom, author, premarital counselor, and she’s the voice behind the very popular IG account @lizlistens.

What we love about Liz is that she is an expert at navigating conflict in relationships. She not only teaches couples who are just beginning their partnerships but she also helps couples that have been together for a long time. 

Liz shares tips on the nonnegotiables every couple must have in order for their relationship to be successful. She shares her best advice on how to solve conflicts we get into and how we can close the loop so that we can move forward in a healthy way. She also just affirms that sometimes we just need a little tough love and sometimes we just need a little change. We know you are going to love this interview!

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Do you identify as a people pleaser or an overfunctioner? Then this episode is going to hit home for you. Today we sit down with Yara Heary of the @lifeafterbirthpsychology Instagram account. Yara is a therapist, a speaker, and a coach who really likes to help women thrive on their journeys both as women and as mothers.

Yara chats with us on how over functioning can affect us both short and long term. She gives us prompts to replace more work with actually taking a break. We cover how it is impossible to run on maximum capacity at all times and how it is a necessity to build in recovery time to our busy lives.

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Today we are so excited to have a conversation with Whiteny Goodman, the radically honest psychotherapist behind the very popular Instagram account @sitwithwhit. You may have seen her information and content in dozens of publications including the New York Times and New York Magazine.

We love this interview because it takes the toxically positive environment that many of us are living in and it gives it a little bit of a shift. We don’t want to be walking around in complete negativity but there definitely is a balance and Whitney walks us through ways we can find that balance while helping ourselves and our relationships in the process.

Whitney covers everything from why she got started with toxic positivity to how we can show up for a friend who is going through something we might not fully understand. She also helps us identify the connection between people pleasing and toxic positivity.

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We are so excited to introduce today’s guest, Faith Broussard Cade. We have been long time fans of hers and she is the woman behind the movement of self-care. Faith’s handwritten notes that she shares online tend to go viral. She started writing these notes as a means to heal from a personal accident and in today’s interview she explains how her messages have helped many others heal as well.

If you are someone who struggles with rest, Faith shares how we can turn that to-do list off in our head and actually take some time for ourselves. She shares a list of self-care items that we can benefit from that are inexpensive and tangible ideas to pull ourselves up from the bottom of our priority list.

We would love for you to do two things for us this week. 1. Make sure you are subscribed to our show so these new episodes show up for you every week and 2. Leave us a review. Those help us get our important conversations, like this one with Faith, to more ears!

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In this episode, we're answering your questions—everything from serious parenting dilemmas to fun, rapid-fire get-to-know-you questions. We kick things off by digging into thoughtful, vulnerable topics like:

• How to help kids develop a tolerance for discomfort.
  
  
  
• What to do when someone you care about is in a toxic relationship.
  
  
  
• How to respond when family members ignore birthday invitations.
  
  
  
• Parenting children with developmental delays.
  
  
  
• When to let go of a long-term friendship.
  
  
  
• How to make meaningful friendships that aren't just “mom friends”.
  
  
  

Later in the episode, we switch gears and get into the lighter stuff, answering questions like:

• Who is more hygienic?
  
  
  
• Who needs more sleep?
  
  
  
• Who is more of a homebody?
  
  
  
• Who is pickier about food?
  
  
  
• Who takes longer to get ready?
  
  
  
• What do we admire most about each other as parents?
  
  
  
• Who is more confrontational?
  
  
  
• Who has the wilder spending habits?
  
  
  

Spoiler alert: One question made us both emotional—so be sure to listen all the way through!

Whether you're navigating parenting, family drama, or just want to get to know us better, this episode has a little something for everyone. If you loved this Q&A format, let us know—we'd love to make this a recurring thing!

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With this episode we are going to take you behind the scenes. We usually do this type of thing over on Patreon but we know many of you are interested in more episodes where we are just being ourselves and talking about what we are going through. We would love to hear what you think about this type of episode and if you’d like to hear more like it.

We go through what it is like for us to have different social needs than our partner. For Amy, it can be a struggle when she is more of a homebody and her spouse is more social. Or the opposite can be true as well. Abby tends to be more of a busy body and, at times, wishes her partner would have more real-life friends. Navigating these situations is tough and we chat about what works for us in these scenarios.

If you’ve been a long time listener then you know that we both have been going through our own health journeys. As we enter our mid-thirties, we are finding that this season of life can be challenging. Especially if you’ve had children. Both of us give you an update on where we are currently at and what tools we use to help us feel our best.

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Our guest today is Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart. She is a pediatric psychologist, a parent coach, an author, and a speaker. And let us tell you, we wish we would’ve had this episode sooner in our parenting journeys. Dr. Lockhart walks us through actual, real-life scenarios we are going through with our kiddos.

She also answers the tough questions that so many of us have. How do we handle our kid’s fears and anxieties? Where does rebellion come from and what can we do about it? How can we better understand a child who is lacking motivation? And, how do we help our kids not miss out on a commitment because they are nervous?

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This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

Today’s guest is Sheina Schochet, a licensed mental health counselor who is the face behind the popular account @loveafterbaby. What we love about this interview is that she pulls in her own life experiences around how we can help partners stay connected for the long haul even after they have kids.

We know that with children comes more challenges. After listening to this episode you’ll be able to directly apply Sheina’s simple, tangible tips to start improving the love in your relationship right away.

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