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| Ep 270: Following Our Rhythm, Knowing When to Let Go | 17 août 2023 | 00:24:51 | |
Whadddup, Listener homie!
This podcast has been such a belonging-maker in my life--thank you for being part of this! In our finale episode, I offer the fifth care package of how-to guides to navigate this work: Been Unschooling and now Ready to Deepen My Shit. Dig this show? Join our make-it-happen family at patreon.com/akilah to make sure we can keep this thang going strong. Thank you! | |||
| Ep 269: Let's Notice How Whiteness Shows Up in Us Too, Boo! | 07 août 2023 | 00:29:27 | |
Have you ever wondered how grief and loss might pave a pathway toward spiritual growth? In this penultimate episode of Fare of the Free Child podcast, I share with you the fourth path in my care package to this community. Sharing Season 9 reflections, Chemay Morales-James, Vanessa Molano, Jasai Madden, Stori, and I bring to life our experiences in this liberation walk. Engaging in a candid exploration of spirituality, manifestation, magic, and money, we unravel the ways it has shaped our lives. We also dive into our origin stories and the leveling up it has brought us to. Dig this show? Join our make-it-happen family at patreon.com/akilah to make sure we can keep this thang going strong. Thank you! | |||
| Ep 268: Freedom Is For Your Grown Ass Too! | 29 juil. 2023 | 00:31:14 | |
Join Akilah as she journeys through the third path to Raising Free People: For Me not Them. Learn the languaging that helps you, the adult, the independent person, move through discovering confident autonomy and other themes that come through as you traverse the pathway of personal leadership. Dig this show? Join our make-it-happen family at patreon.com/akilah to make sure we can keep this thang going strong. Thank you! | |||
| Ep 267: It Ain't About Just Doing School Tings at Home! | 21 juil. 2023 | 00:44:58 | |
Moving away from school-centric culture and the performances we got going on is a very real thing that one listener voiced and we're sharing it here in this episode. Dig this show? Join our make-it-happen family at patreon.com/akilah to make sure we can keep this thang going strong. Thank you! | |||
| Ep 266: Starting a Journey of Trust and Discovery with Unschooling | 15 juil. 2023 | 00:08:16 | |
A 6-minute offering for the beginner’s path. Dig this show? Join our make-it-happen family at patreon.com/akilah to make sure we can keep this thang going strong. Thank you! | |||
| Ep 265: New to This; Not Quite True To This | 10 juil. 2023 | 00:42:58 | |
If you've been searching and asking about some of the most innovative minds in the realm of unschooling, youth rights, and liberation, names like Zakkiyya Chase, Moji Yai, Lane Santa Cruz, and Dr. Sundiata should ring a bell. Moji Yai of Wise African Woman Retreats. Host of THE Birth Education Retreat where participants immerse in village healing culture. https://www.instagram.com/wawretreat/ Tucson Ward 1 Council Member https://www.instagram.com/lanewar Dr. Sundiata of The Theory of Indivisibility https://www.instagram.com/drsundiata/ Genesis Ripley of Mythology of a Dragon Newsletter https://www.genesisripley.com/ Yolanda Coles Jones https://bio.site/YolondaColesJones Lou Hollis https://linktr.ee/LouHollisTalent https://www.instagram.com/lhtmproductions/ Miss Lou - Louise Bennett-Coverley The Unschooling Entrepreneur’s Guide to Life and Learning Veronica Ashley-Reid https://www.instagram.com/autonomousgrowth/ https://fofc.buzzsprout.com/344681/1193546-ep-41-demilitarizing-myself Maleka Diggs https://www.eclecticlearningnetwork.com/ Tia Cunnigham Ep. 32: Kicking Cancer's Ass While Unschooling (buzzsprout.com) Dig this show? Join our make-it-happen family at patreon.com/akilah to make sure we can keep this thang going strong. Thank you! | |||
| Ep 264: From Schoolish to Sovereign to Savorist | 29 juin 2023 | 00:36:16 | |
In this episode, we'll explore the concept of savorism, a term Akilah coined to savor the spaciousness, slowness, and richness that comes from integrated unschooling. https://www.instagram.com/sehratonin/ http://mybrownbaby.com/2012/03/harmony-the-sustainable-alternative-to-worklife-balance/ https://savorcomplex.substack.com/ https://schoolishness.com/coaching/ https://schoolishness.com/savorade-coaching/ Dig this show? Join our make-it-happen family at patreon.com/akilah to make sure we can keep this thang going strong. Thank you! | |||
| Ep 263: Unschooling as Resistance: A Look Back at Season One | 22 juin 2023 | 00:27:35 | |
Ever wondered how unschooling and liberation work intersect? Join us for a nostalgic trip down memory lane as we delve into the first season of Fare of the Free Child podcast. We discuss my personal journey to unschooling and how moving away from a school-centric life connected to liberation work. krak teet: https://www.krakteet.org/ The Life School Atlanta: https://www.thelifeschool.co/ Humanity Communications Collective: https://humanitycom.com/about-our-ceo/ Smell Good Spa: https://smellgoodspa.com/ Heart of Business: https://www.heartofbusiness.com Dig this show? Join our make-it-happen family at patreon.com/akilah to make sure we can keep this thang going strong. Thank you! | |||
| Ep 262: Gratitude, Growth, and Endings: A Tribute to the Unschooling Movement | 14 juin 2023 | 00:20:36 | |
What happens when we eulogize an elder who has guided us on our journey of unschooling, decolonizing education, and raising free people? Join me in this heartfelt final season as we celebrate the transformative energy of unschooling and the legacy of Self-Directed Education. Dig this show? Join our make-it-happen family at patreon.com/akilah to make sure we can keep this thang going strong. Thank you! | |||
| Ep 261: Communal Care Ain’t Separate from Business Here! | 25 déc. 2022 | 00:45:58 | |
Ahhh….what an accomplishment! Our penultimate season reaches it’s finale… and ya’ll what a season it has been!! Manifestation, magic, bridges, money as a tool, and the community that is MRM Village! We talk about how networking is actually all about creating community and linking up with folks who are willing to support each other’s missions.
This conversation brings so much to the fore and it’s so important to bring these topics to the table and unpack things like: Intuitive work, embodiment, trusting the unknown, making space for what is to come, anti-hustling, and seeing that work is life and life is work. As we close, we honor the energy of entrepreneurship, and we commit to the continual deschooling of it as one way of supporting the next generation in shifting the hustle-hard-at-all-cost lens they learned from us. Now, we choose to build a bridge for them to walk out of those old models into ways and modes of being that are more aligned with abundance culture, devoid of shame or guilt around money, and filled with mindful intentional and trust for the process. Dig this show? Join our make-it-happen family at patreon.com/akilah to make sure we can keep this thang going strong. Thank you! | |||
| Ep 260: Vanessa Molano on Abundance as a We Thing, Not a Me Thing | 10 déc. 2022 | 00:49:58 | |
What is abundance culture? And what does pausing have to do with sustained abundance? These are some of the questions Vanessa Molano (our resident party animal + book nerd) asks us to explore in this conversation.
Highlights from this convo: 30: 48 - 30:51 “authenticity is the most important thing we have” VM 31:08 - 31:17 “if you turn on the abundance lens, you’ll see that there’s a lot more support for the world that we want” - VM Links from this convo:
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| Ep 259: Tuning Into "Spiritual Tech" with Stori + Jasai of Alaiyo Waistbeads | 25 nov. 2022 | 00:43:03 | |
In this episode, and through the season, we are inviting you to listen, to notice, and to feel through what these conversations evoke for you; within you. What new language is forming for you? Are you already using spiritual tech in your life? What does that look like? Are you aware of or recognizing ways that help you be more mindful? Are you trying to balance all the things in your life or are you going deeper and finding sustainability in harmony? What are you doing to face your freedom calling? LINKS Journaling Workshop List: Grab your RFP Card Deck https://schoolishness.com/store/ Alaiyo site https://www.alaiyo.net/alaiyotv Dig this show? Join our make-it-happen family at patreon.com/akilah to make sure we can keep this thang going strong. Thank you! | |||
| Ep 258: Origin Stories | Remembering Some, Releasing Others | 17 nov. 2022 | 00:58:26 | |
What is your connection to your origin story? Do you feel tied to your origin in ways that feel good and grounding? Or do you feel tethered to something that doesn’t quite feel like you? What do you think about when you read or hear the words Origin Story, anyway?
On this episode, you’ll hear some of me (Akilah) and Naaz’s (aka Fatima’s) origin story—how we met, and where we were in our respective lives when we joined forces. It’s more of an origins-to-now story, with plenty examples about following the threads that led us to peace and release! Plus, Dr. Crystal Menzies of EmancipatED and I have a real-ass convo about releasing aspects of our origin stories as creators, as givers, as liberation workers, so that we can live in ways that align with our current needs, energies, and intentions. Related links: Dr. Menzies on Parenting Decolonized Podcast Sign up here for Expansive Journaling Workshop updates Rock Merch + Art to affirm your Raising Free People practice: Dig this show? Join our make-it-happen family at patreon.com/akilah to make sure we can keep this thang going strong. Thank you! | |||
| Ep 257: Spirituality and Intuition in This Self-directed Life | 08 nov. 2022 | 00:33:04 | |
This is the first episode of Season 9 and we’re delighted to dive into the work of shifting our spiritual and intuitive work to include our raising free people practice. This feels important because while some of us might already see the connection between our commitment to raising free people and the cultivation of our spiritual and intuitive practices, not all of us do. For some of us, the weight, pressure, and pace of our daily responsibilities make that particularly difficult to name, let alone practice. For some of us, the fatigue and frustrations that come with lack of community, for example, can have spiritual work feeling like a luxury we just don’t have time to get into. Our intention is that this season will offer you pockets of education and examples for how to begin exploring what spirituality and its first cousin, intuition, in your specific life and relationship work. And then, through that exploration, it is our hope that you can begin to clear away the not-it shit that’s taking up way too much space in your thoughts and actions, so that you can plant or nurture new seeds, seeds that align with your right and your connection to liberation work. This work is not just for, or because of our children. It is for us first, and then for all the relationship circles we are in, that require our nurturing. Voices we’ll center this season:
With special guest conversations about Spiritual Technology by Jasai and Stori, the mother|daughter team behind Alaiyo Waistbeads MADD QUESTION ASKIN’ MOMENTS (MQA’S)
EP 257 JOURNAL PROMPT As you listen to this episode, let's think about the prompt that would help you think through your current imperfect conditions. What would you describe as your version of “$2 status?” What are some of the realities that you feel are stalling your ideal life design? As you work through these prompts throughout the season, start with questions that can bring deeper meaning. Start thinking in questions. This helps in the unearthing. This helps loosen the roots and aerate them for growth on this journey. This helps bring change. It helps us reimagine the answers, and how we come to those answers, and what comes forth from the way we ask these new expansive questions. Dig this show? Join our make-it-happen family at patreon.com/akilah to make sure we can keep this thang going strong. Thank you! | |||
| Ep 256: Season 9 Preview - Tuning In To The Themes | 20 oct. 2022 | 00:06:52 | |
As we continue our preparation for Season 9, you are invited to listen as Naaz (also known as Fatima) Mookadam tell us what showed up for her as she listened to Akilah S. Richards’s conversation with Dr. Crystal Menzies. You’ll hear much of that conversation in Season 9, so for now, hear Fatima’s insights and Akilah’s invitation to you. If you missed our first teaser, listen to it here. We are so excited to be centering the voices of five women who are deep in their own deschooling journey! And here are the some of the topics we’ll be exploring all season long:
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| Ep 255: Season 9 Preview - Notes from the other side of the Pause | 28 sept. 2022 | 00:22:12 | |
What's on the other side of a pause? Last season, we leaned into a focused pause, over and over, episode by episode. We also took that pause with us when the episode ended, and now we are ready to slow-walk our way into what arose for us, and for you. And here are the some of the topics we touched in this episode, and will explore all season long:
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| Ep 254: Listening Party for ‘E. for Exploration | 04 juin 2022 | 00:55:19 | |
Grief. Avoidance. Funky energies. We’re wrapping up Season 8 with all kinds of feelings in the mix. How do we embrace or transform these feelings as they arise? That’s the pausewerk, and this week we arrive at E, for Exploration. “Noticing your behavior in that moment is about noticing that moment, which is really powerful. It grounds you in the now.” Akilah encourages us to trust the wisdom that emerges from a pause, and Domari shares a story speaking to this experience. Domari reminds us that pausewerk is deschooling work. It’s the little moments where we stop to notice ourselves in our environment. But in what ways might this be a privilege? In what ways might this be radically transformative? How can pausewerk shape the way that we treat ourselves and others in community? Why we pause We are pausing from colonial habituation. We are pausing from autopilot. We are pausing to give ourselves undivided attention and to identify our needs. “Definitely deep emotions this week…because I see myself sitting at this intersection where my liberation work is always about being in relationship with, not free from.” - Jonie Around this gem, Akilah reflects on how it might feel to gather yourself and be in relationship with that emotion, embrace it, and learn to be ok with it. Domari recalls a moment when she navigated an opportunity to pause and pivot: “I did [it], and I didn’t die.” Jonie (our wonderful Listening Party regular) validated how threatening a pause can feel: “this all can feel like negotiations with our survival sometimes.” Transformation ain’t easy! But we’re embracing the practice with open questions. Madd Question Askin’ …
In case you missed any episode here you can revisit our P.A.U.S.E acronym: Episode 244: There is Real Power in the Pause tho! Episode 245: P for Pain Points: What’s hurting you? What’s hurting them? Episode 246: Listening Party for “P. is for Pain Points” Episode 247: A for Absent: What feels missing in your current relationships? Episode 248: Listening Party Replay for ‘A. is for Absences’ Episode 249: U for Understanding Episode 250: Listening party for ‘U. for Understanding’ Episode 251: S. for Sorting and Shedding Episode 252: Listening Party for ‘S. for Sorting and Shedding Episode 253: E. For Exploration – Seeing What’s Available Right Now We’ll be away for a while but you will hear from us in-between seasons, so stay tuned with Raising Free People Network for more resources and surprises. Thank you for sharing this 70-day pausewerk focus with us, #fofcpod fam!
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| Ep 253: E. for Exploration What are some resources you can tap into, based on where you are right now? | 28 mai 2022 | 00:29:22 | |
The second to last episode in season 8 is live, #fofcpod fam! This week’s inquiry is about the E (for Exploration) in our P.A.U.S.E. acronym. We’re also sharing some post-season offerings and spaces, so be sure to take notes on the things that perk your ears up! These spaces help us find community and connection and are tools to decolonize and revisit our relationships and practices while we navigate through this deschooling journey with our #pausewerk tools in hand and in heart. Madd Question Askin’
Spaces where inquiry and pausewerk are welcomed!
Join us for the FINAL EPISODE OF THE SEASON!! It’s a live recording on May 30th. Here’s the link (this link will add it to your calendar) LIBERATION WALK
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| Ep 252: Listening Party for ‘S. for Sorting and Shedding | 18 mai 2022 | 00:36:20 | |
Peace #fofcpod fam! This week, Domari is in the buildin’ for our Listening Party Live Chat,and she and Akilah share some experiences and examples of zoning in on the letter S. in P.A.U.S.E. We also continue speaking about the differences between practice and process. As we question what Sorting and Shedding look like, our hosts share some examples where pause work might be effective. What can we notice or re-imagine in our relationships, language, and self-care? DISCUSSION POINTS Domari talks about her relationship with pleasure (the card that continues to speak to her from our Practice Deck) and how pausing opened up comfort and awareness to think about the practices she has been sorting and shedding with her children and herself. Domari names aspects of decoloniality at home and points out the importance of honoring boundaries and consent. “I’ll be working on identifying the ways that my kids and I are disrupting on a daily basis, and being intentional about noticing these moments and P.A.U.S.E.ing in order to listen and lean in. I’ll also be spending more time intentionally designing pleasurable experiences for myself as a mom (with the kids), as a woman (with others), and as an individual (with myself).” - Domari Our two hosts talk about the importance of honesty and trust work by acknowledging our needs and honoring others as well. Just because I don’t understand something, doesn’t mean it isn't right or important. It’s about building a partnership where everyone can feel safe enough to speak up and say “I don’t want to do this” or “I want to change the way we are doing this” without feeling someone is disappointing or hurting others. If we can pause we can connect with certain situations, not necessarily figure them out. As they speak about the differences between practice and process, they name the importance of paying attention to what triggers us and practice a different response. Be more kind to yourself, forgive yourself, and understand that “we have the right to change our mind” as we are navigating through joy and pain. Then our hosts continue chatting about the distractions or systems that don't allow us to follow our intuition. They reflect on how practice invites more of the intuition, more of the specific needs, delights, and quirks. Live out the #pausewerk with My Reflection Matters co-learning for Liberation Membership. This is open through May 20, 2022, and is accepting 30 new members. The first 10 BIPOC members that get accepted get free access to our Fare of the Free Child course, “From Schoolish to Self-Directed.” Don’t forget to join us next week, we will be talking about the E. in P.A.U.S.E. a continuation of today’s convo. LIBERATION WALK
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| Ep 251: S. for Sorting and Shedding - What’s good for YOUR family? | 11 mai 2022 | 00:14:10 | |
This week in Episode 251, we droppin’ gems around the S. in P.A.U.S.E. S. is for Sorting and Shedding. Domari (put her links here as usual) starts us off with a nursery rhyme remix to remind us about the side effects of neglecting to slow it on down sometimes! This week, Akilah offers us seven distinctions between process and practice. She reminds us about a convo with Tiersa McQueen Think about what feels present, the models of living and learning that you practice, and what you might need to pivot away from or at least, revisit. Be sure to join us next week for our Listening Party where we will be sharing some musings and goodness in our Live Chat. Discovery as part of designing Akilah points out the importance of questioning and deschooling our beliefs. Besides people’s consent, boundaries, and shared meanings as ways to invite understanding and trust, resistance feels like a key element in the mix, allowing us see (through our discomfort) what we might need to shift. “That pushback, that resistance—my children’s as well as my own—has been like a magnifying glass for all of us to examine (sometimes in painstaking motherf*kin’ detail) what might need shedding, what might need sorting and what might need shoring up.” - Ep 251 PROCESS and PRACTICE
Process is:
Check Tiersa McQueen’s insights around Practice Vs Process in Episode 211: A Feel Trip Recap about Process vs Practice. LIBERATION WALK
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| Ep 250 - Listening party for ‘U. for Understanding’ | 05 mai 2022 | 00:45:56 | |
Peace, #fofcpod fam! This week we’re still focused on the letter U for understanding as part of our P.A.U.S.E.werk. Domari (of Positive and Purposeful Parenting) and Akilah hosted the listening party, and Jonie, Reese, Ana Maria, and Erica joined live to share and hear feedback and touchpoints. Together, they reflected and inquired about our relationship with understanding, how autonomy and trust are intertwined, the many layers around discomfort, compassion, trust, and then some. Let’s agree to disagree Our two hosts reflect on what they’ve been noticing around their relationships and pause work, on the importance of taking the space to go through certain feelings, crying, for example, as a liberation practice. As our hosts speak and share their stories, pausing and understanding emerge as key components in the trust work that builds up community and healthy partnership. Check some of the offerings the listeners gave us during this Listening Party Live Chat “In my family, disagreement equals disrespect.” - Erica “For me, I’ve been working on shedding the belief that needing to be understood equals being loved. I think I've tried so hard to get the members of my family to understand me when I think what I was really looking for was compassion, and not actually needing to be understood.” - Ana Maria “I’m feeling into understanding so much more as a verb, it’s not a set destination, it’s movement, it shifts, morphs and transforms.” - Jonie Careese shares some thoughts about Ieishah’s reflection on gentle parenting as a privilege. If you missed the previous episode you can replay it here Episode. 249: U for Understanding and get more details. Then Akilah pulls a card from the Raising Free People practice deck: AUTONOMY: Take up space, let them take up space too, practice allowing yourself and them to take up space, work it until it invites boundaries that work. Remember that the Raising Free People Card Deck is available now, click here to order it. Next week we will be talking about the S in P.A.U.S.E. for sorting or shedding, we will reflect on what’s good for your family and what might need releasing or re-imagining? LIBERATION WALK
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| Ep. 249: U for Understanding | 28 avr. 2022 | 00:29:33 | |
This week we’re focused on the letter U for understanding in our P.A.U.S.E.werk. Listen as we talk about the language of conscious parenting, the difference between dialogue and discussion, and then some. Domari and Akilah take us through some of their noticings about how understanding and control impact their relationships, and not just as mothers. Also, be ready for an insightful convo about an Instagram post where Ieishah Clelland (our Season 7 Co-Producer) questioned gentle parenting as a privilege. Akilah cites Dr. Sundiata’s distinction between dialogue and discussion as we question our relationship with understanding, and with discomfort. So much goodness in here! Pull out your pause pad and join us. Madd Question Askin' Understanding Essay for people committed to Raising Free People There is a link between Understanding and control, and in our efforts to become more partner-centered parents and caregivers, we've got to look into that link. Control is not inherently a negative thing, but when control is our goal and we don't even realize it, we can demand things from children in the name of understanding, when really what we're after is a sense of control. Control is comforting. Control feels like certainty, yet comfort and certainty aren't always what's needed in a relationship. Is it a child's job to be controllable? Is it a child's job to give us a sense of certainty? How do we impact children when we don't understand something they do? And how much of our need to understand is tied to our desire to feel like we're in control and we're sure about what's going on? When are my efforts to control a child appropriate? and when are they more about my lack of understanding? Here’s a resource for working through the questions and feelings you will face as you let yourself ask better questions: Restorative Justice and Conscious Parenting workshop. Happening Sunday, May 1st. Be ready for interactive exercises and group discussions, where we’ll learn the roots of restorative justice work, the basics of the restorative process, and how this supports your conscious parenting process, harm caused by supremacy culture, and other oppressive systems. Discomfort is a significant part of understanding Shout out to Ieishah who put this on the table and made us inquire about our relationship to discomfort. Ieishah reflects on conscious parenting and gentle parenting. Is our capacity for gentle parenting or to treat humans like humans impacted by our access to resources? Is gentle parenting a privilege? Check out the full Show Notes and the Liberation Walk for this episode at https://www.raisingfreepeople.com/249/ Dig this show? Join our make-it-happen family at patreon.com/akilah to make sure we can keep this thang going strong. Thank you! | |||
| Ep 248: Listening Party Replay for ‘A. is for Absences’ | 21 avr. 2022 | 00:39:03 | |
Welcome #fofcpod fam! This episode is the continuation of our Listening Party Replay around the letter A (for Absences) in PAUSE. We’ll be inquiring more about what’s missing, understanding, compassion, and boundaries as we navigate through the ups and downs that may arise from this PAUSEwerk. Domari of Positive and Purposeful Parenting is in da house along with Ana Maria, Lou, Antoinette, and Joni who joined us in the Live Chat. Let's get into it! Domari named some of the things she has been noticing around her relationship with her children. The words that resonated the most for her were compassion and trust. She reflects on what compassion looks like for her and also questions the misconception around what productivity means, and how sometimes she had struggled by feeling bad and unproductive for resting, being “lazy”. Boundaries do not require understanding Our hosts chat about boundaries and the layers around them. Akilah mentions the struggles we might face with different parts of ourselves: the compassionate self (intuitive) vs the schoolish self, and mentioned the patois that needs to be created to hold our intentions, the other person’s intentions, and the thing we’re looking to create. Akilah also shares the importance of trustwork, seeing relationships not as transactional/productive but as connections, as in what we notice together and what our healing work looks like. This week’s pull from the Raising Free People practice deck revealed the Layer card (same card from the last pull):
Next week we’ll be having a deep conversation about U for understanding, but for now, Madd Question Askin’ time:
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| Ep. 247 A for Absent: What feels missing in your current relationships? | 14 avr. 2022 | 00:15:16 | |
Here we go #fofcpod friends! Let’s continue with this 70-day PAUSE journey, along with the amazing Domari Dickinson of Positive and Purposeful Parenting.
Episode 247 is part one of the Listening Party around the letter A (for Absences) in PAUSE, so we’re offering you affirmations and snippets from conversations all in service of our current PAUSEwerk. What’s missing? What feels lost or otherwise missing from your relevant relationships? Akilah and Domari place their attention on some of the things that once, or even now, feel absent in their relationships or practices. The invitation is for you to slow down, discern, and align. Since healthy boundaries tend to be one of the more common missing elements, we touch on those in this episode, and will expand that exploration when we touch U for Understanding in two weeks. In the meantime, what’s your relationship to boundaries? Are you a confident boundary setter? Cautious but willing boundary setter? Do you suck at setting boundaries? SING ALONG Hush Little Parent Homie, sung by Val Sinclair: Hush little parent homie you ain’t gotta say a word, but some of your beliefs are pretty absurd, they came from your Mama and she got them from hers, but it’s time to stop and think ‘cause they ain’t gotta be yours. Hush little parent homie don’t perpetuate schoolish colonizer-minded traits, We took them in, in attempts to survive, but they don’t apply now; we tryna thrive. So, hush little parent homie don’t perpetuate schoolish colonizer-minded traits. AFFIRMATIONS 1. in fact, my boundaries are invitations for us to align, it’s ok not to love it, I ain’t askin’ for no shrine, just affirming what I need and honoring what’s mine. 2. I am safe, I am free, and when I choose to pause, that’s liberation work for me. I reject the option of performing a life and choose to authentically design mine. I am in partnership with this child I am not in partnership with people’s opinions about my child. I show up, I listen, I lean, I let. Download this episode so that you can record your version of the words that you connect with. And join us on Monday, April 18th at 1 PM Eastern for part two of this discussion about what’s missing. LIBERATION WALK
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| Ep 246: Listening Party for “P. is for Pain Points” | 07 avr. 2022 | 00:23:36 | |
This week on #fofcpod we're serving insightful thoughts, feedback, and resources based on our current PAUSEwerk flow. The letter of the week is P, for Pain Points: What’s the matter? What took you here? What things feel like pain, discomfort, uncertainty? What is coming up for you and for the people that you’re closest to right now? This episode is our first Listening Party, the space where we focus on your feedback about an aspect of pausing, as well as our own insights and struggles. Akilah and Domari continue unraveling the layers of perfection vs pleasure: they speak about Black Excellence and the pressure of feeling that all that you do is never enough. Can pause be a privilege? “The more success I feel, the harder it is for me to accept that I can pause.” - Akilah “I don’t like that. I’m not like that”. - Domari In this episode, you’ll notice that we’re just getting the hang of the tech for this new format—but you’ll still get a feel for what these listening parties are about! Every other Monday, we’ll be at it again, so join Domari and Akilah as live audience members (no video necessary)! The next Listening Party is Monday, April 18th at 1 PM Eastern. We LOVE feedback We listened to Zeba Savage from Savage Learning Environment who brought up the importance of pausing, and the pressure of being perfect. Then, our homie, Vanessa Molano, shared their thoughts from one of the cards that Domari pulled from the Raising Free People practice decks (the Layers card), and pointed out their experiences with boundaries and grace. Raising Free People Card Deck is available now, click here to order it. These comments are gems in the work we do, so thank you for contributing to this ecology that moves us away from tools of oppression and towards our personal healing journeys. More Resources Dr. Sundiata teamed up with Maryella Marie and Tomis Parker, two other SDE-minded facilitators, to create an amazing offering: The live virtual training, “Co-creating a Thriving Family Culture.” This will take place on the weekend of April 23 to the 24. They’re offering tools that will help you on being intentional about learning new skills and processes to make decisions and resolve conflicts in peaceful and collaborative ways. Liberation WALK Here are a couple of gems to take your time and think about:
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| Ep 245: P for Pain Points: What’s hurting you? What’s hurting them? | 31 mars 2022 | 00:29:54 | |
It’s storytime #fofcpod fam and we‘re so excited to continue with this 70-day PAUSE journey along with the amazing Domari Dickinson of Positive and Purposeful Parenting. Ep 245 is live! We’re listening and taking a look at the skills that are happening in between the defined things. In this episode in particular, we are observing the ways we react to our pain points, so breathe in, breathe out, pull out your pause pad, take some notes, and let’s play together! Remember that we’re in the process of noticing what sometimes can’t be easily named nor understood, so try to feel into the experiences that you have with these questions, without expectations, without judgment, only your attention. **Use this link to join our live audience (no video, just chat, unless you ask to join us on air in the chat) on Monday, April 4th at 2PM Eastern.** These every-other-weekly listening parties are where Domari and Akilah invite you to play and struggle through specific aspects of pausewerk with them, real time. Listen to Episode 244:There is Real Power in the Pause tho! to hear details on the flow of this season’s 70-day pausewerk focus. Today is P day and we’ll work through all the pain points: What’s the matter? What took you here? What things feel like pain, discomfort, uncertainty? What is coming up for you and for the people that you’re closest to right now?” Domari pulled a card from the Raising Free People practice deck. Layers: If I could access grace in this moment, I may choose to offer it in honor of all the many layers that comprise this person I love. And if I do, might that be enough for me, for now? The Raising Free People Card Deck is available now, click here to order it. “What would change in my life if I chose to pursue pleasure instead of perfection? - Domari Domari shares her experience with her children on how they respond when a conflict appears. Akilah talks about the struggles and worries that may show up for parents around how and whether learning is happening, and how pausing can offer the space we often need to learn how to recognize and trust learning. “I’ve now started to look at my children’s resistance as one of their gifts. One of the things that society—which I am part of—didn’t pry out of their hands.” - Akilah Akilah speaks about Marley and Sage’s approaches to resolving conflicts, and how much she is learning from their approaches. Both hosts also speak about the nuances of the term “readiness,” and the role of resistance as a powerful gift in our efforts to raise free people. Throughout Akilah and Domari’s convo there are 10 points of Madd Question Askin’ energy for you to get into:
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| Ep 244: There is Real Power in the Pause tho! | 24 mars 2022 | 00:29:28 | |
Season 8 is here and we are kickin’ it with the homie, Domari Dickinson of Positive and Purposeful Parenting. She is our co-producer for the season, and we’re in alignment about the need to spend all season on the importance of slowing down, and pausing. We’ve got invitations, resources, and some songs too! We are so grateful to you all #fofcpod fam and Make it Happen family for your love and connection throughout this journey. Our team got some rest, and we’re back with this focus, so we hope y’all ready to get and do this PAUSEcast werk! If you want to get familiar (or re-familiar) with Domari’s dopeness, listen to Episode 185: Parenting Paradigm Shifts in Black Families. Here’s what to expect this season... We are working on being more mindful about the ways we show up for ourselves. So this season, we invite your consent to show up as you are, slow down, and feel into the ups and downs of this 70-day pause journey. Starting next week, each letter in PAUSE will get our full attention with two episodes each: - the first episode will bring you into the work with a story, a song, or a skit; the second episode will be live, and we’ll invite you to play and struggle through that aspect of pause. Acronym:
Then we’ll keep that going until we feel all the way through P-A-U-S-E. Through this game, Akilah and Domari will engage you beyond the moment to feel the PAUSE as an experience. So make some tea, pull out your dedicated pause pad, and join us for a 70-day journey of affirmations and reflections in the ecology of Raising Free People. Do you want to play with us? Season’s 8 flow - Raising Free People Card Deck Akilah pulled a card from the Raising Free People practice decks:
The set of Raising Free People Card Deck is available now, click here to order it. Season Witnesses: We are working together to offer bridgework for folks in the philanthropic world. What is a witness? Our witnesses want to be part of the Unschooling Liberation movement by investing dollars and time with Akilah. Some witnesses give general-use funds, while others want to take care of something specific for us. For them, dollars are not an issue. They want to support the work and be part of the movement and its impact. Akilah speaks about the 100-day project for witnesses that will begin in summer. Shout out to Hill Larson who is our witness this season. We’ll be speaking more about that in our Make it Happen family in the coming weeks. Check out the full Show Notes page at http://www.raisingfreepeople.com/244/ Dig this show? Join our make-it-happen family at patreon.com/akilah to make sure we can keep this thang going strong. Thank you! | |||
| Ep 243: Seasonal Slow-downs and Shoutouts | 31 déc. 2021 | 00:42:57 | |
Ending season 7 with gratitude, reminders, and major writing mojo Closing out season seven with major gratitude for you, #fofcpod fam! Your feedback and encouragement have been part of an active listening practice that opens up our mindset to different possibilities as we grow this village of/for people raising and being free people. This episode brings us some resources, reminders, and clues of what’s to come in season eight. See you in a few months! Here are the Season 7 series in case you missed any episodes: Fare of the Free (Man) Child series: Co-produced with Tony Galloway's series on manhood and masculinity. Episode 224: Deschooling Adulthood with Tony Galloway Episode 232: Learning (and Unlearning) Masculinity Episode 233: Deschooling Manhood and Masculinity Episode 234: Kris joins Tony for the recap of #fofmanchild (Feel Trip) Māori Mother Wisdom series: Co-produced with Ieishah Clelland-Lang liberation-centered parenting and living. Episode 237: On Māori Mother Wisdom (The Language Episode) Episode 238: On Māori Mother Wisdom (The ‘Old Knowings’ Episode) Episode 239: Vibin’ off Māori Mother Wisdom (The ‘Feedback’ Episode) Episode 240: Series Closing: Māori Mother Wisdom Some announcements and reminders
Audio by Raising Free People Network In addition to Fare of the Free Child Podcast, Audio by Raising Free People Network produces other podcasts from which we hear some updates throughout this final episode of the season. Check out the full show notes at raisingfreepeople.com/243/ Dig this show? Join our make-it-happen family at patreon.com/akilah to make sure we can keep this thang going strong. Thank you! | |||
| Ep 242: Expansion and Feedback About Language | 24 déc. 2021 | 00:38:04 | |
We're continuing our language vibe this week on #fofcpod episode! First, you'll hear from Juan Pablo Pérez, audio manager of Fare of the Free Child, as he shares his thoughts on Episode 241: Freeing Your Approach to Language Studies (with Marley Richards). He talks about his experience as a Spanish native speaker who, like Marley, taps into language as a way of developing an identity that includes more than the culture he was born into. Juan's interests in music, for example, sit outside his cultural background, and those experiences help Juan Pablo to feel a strong sense of self that isn't limited by location or familiarity. For the rest of the episode, Akilah gives us some gems about the importance of language and the many ways we can engage it as parts of our unschooling and deschooling practices. And of course, #maddquestionaskin is all up and through the episode. Is there a difference between a definition of a word and an understanding of a word? How have words evolved from having a definition to having a meaning? Akilah refers to language as something that goes beyond the accent and vocabulary, and something we can see as being part of a whole culture and context, and not some isolated thing that we pluck from a culture. Who is this language tied to? What are some of the non-verbal cues of this culture? How can I learn more about body language, symbols, and other elements of communication and culture? Akilah shared some of the conversation she had with Zakiyya Ismail (at the Summerhill Festival of Childhood) about the evolution of these particular words in their unschooling journeys: Learning Power Trust Community Resistance Akilah pulled a card from the Raising Free People practice decks and invited us this activity:
Akilah explains through her experience with Spanish the insights and learning process of making associations. She also talks about words that are very specific to her practices and the understanding of them. She then reflects on the her experiences that came with recognizing herself as both oppressed to oppressor, and how that shows up in her motherwork. LIBERATION WALK
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| Ep 241: Freeing Your Approach to Language Studies (with Marley Richards) | 16 déc. 2021 | 00:38:52 | |
Welcome #fofcpod fam! Today's vibe is insightful conversation about language acquisition, culture, and how to learn stuff, with seventeen year-old unschooler, Marley Richards. Japanese and Korean languages are integrated parts of Marley's daily practices, so she shares with us some of the ways these languages have influenced and impacted her identity as a Black girl. Marley also speaks about some of the tools she uses for language study. What are some ways you can support your/a child in expanding their experience with a language they want to learn? #maddquestionaskin Long story-short… Many children are learning Japanese and Korean as a result of their appreciation for Anime and K-pop culture. Marley was among them; she started learning Japanese at around age 7 or 8, when she got passionate about Anime. Soon enough she started feeling the limitations of the translation that she was getting from English subtitles, and felt she was getting a diluted version of what the people who made the thing had intended. By learning Japanese, she felt a wider understanding of the world as language was connected to other elements of life, and of her interests, and of broader world culture. For Marley, studying a language went beyond grammar and accent, and transformed into a way of being and living. Marley’s key elements for language study:
Akilah shares her own learning process and experience with Spanish (check below for some resources). Then, she and Marley chat about the expectations people might have based on language stereotypes and assumptions people may make about others. If you integrate different elements from another culture, does that make you less Black, Korean, Latinx…? #maddquestionaskin LIBERATION WALK
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| Ep 240: Series closing: Māori Mother Wisdom | 09 déc. 2021 | 00:51:45 | |
This week on #fofcpod we are closing the Māori Mother Wisdom series about liberation-centered parenting and living. We've had the pleasure of connecting with Māori stories from Mea Rapata, Angella Smith, Moana Reihana, and Tina Talaić. These are select excerpts from our feel trip (live group meetups about our episodes), where Akilah and our series co-producer, Ieishah Clelland-Lang, vibed with Mea, Angella, and some of our Village family. We reflect on the importance of the trustworthiness of feelings, and the levels of connection that live inside active listening, and non-verbal language, as well as other kinds of human technology like collaboration, echolocation, identity and community-building. Who we innately are - The Energy of Feelings
“We don't have to compress what we are in order to be together”. Akilah S Richards Angella also points out the sacredness of their indigenous language Te Reo Māori (Māori language) and how important it is to speak up and take action to keep the integrity and the sacredness. We also chat about identity and the mindful work of looking at your indigeneity, and looking beyond the labels so it can open up spaces to regenerate, heal, and identify with authenticity. In case you haven’t heard the previous conversations we’ve had on this topic, be sure to listen to Māori Mother Wisdom series from the start: Episode 237: On Māori Mother Wisdom (The Language Episode) Episode 238: On Māori Mother Wisdom (The ‘Old Knowings’ Episode) Episode 239: Vibin’ off Māori Mother Wisdom (The ‘Feedback’ Episode) Don’t miss next week’s episode! We will start another series of conversations with Marley, an unschooler and SDE advocate who will chat about language. See y’all soon! LIBERATION WALK
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| Ep 239: Vibin' off Māori Mother Wisdom (The 'Feedback' Episode) | 02 déc. 2021 | 00:41:30 | |
#Maddquestionaskin What does it mean to own your sense of sovereignty? Welcome to another #fofcpod episode. As you know we’re in the thick of the wonderful Māori Mother Wisdom series, and are vibrating with gratitude for your engagement with us, in all of this goodness. We kick off this episode with feedback from author, speaker, activist and educator Sonya Renee Taylor who has been listening to this series and loving it! We also share some feedback we’ve gotten from Jonie, Yolande, Got2BOshun, and Kateri (thank y'all!). Then Akilah and Ieishah Clelland-Lang revisit some gems from these previous conversations, and speak about migration, reparenting, echolocation (yes, chile!), unschooling, and then some. Don’t miss our Feel Trip to close out the Māori Mother Wisdom series, where Akilah and Ieishah will kick it with the Village family, and a few of our series guests are slated to join the chat. It's happening Friday, December 3rd. Join our Podcast Village so you don’t miss any of our Feel Trip invitations. Akilah pulled a card from one of the Raising Free People practice decks: Reparenting: “No way around it, so gather some resources around your pain and change and growth and self-trust so that you can move out of situation and into self.” PAIN, SELF-TRUST, MOVE OUT… Akilah reflects on what moving away means, centering migration as a keyword in this conversation. They speak about looking back and respecting the past versions of themselves, appreciating the wisdom each has brought to them. What does it mean to move away from the elements of parenting that we were raised with? What positives and difficulties are implicit in quitting the parts that don't resonate with us? What is the cost we pay to seek our authentic selves? What are we currently moving away from? “Reparenting ourselves is not about what happened back then, but about what we have the right and the wisdom to do now.” Location system - Migrating into our authentic self Ieishah and Akilah talk about how the ability to "locate" ourselves in certain situations can be a form of good resistance, to how the knowledge of why we must observe, listen and question different mindsets and ideas, it’s a never-ending process that evolves and changes all the time. “Trust, resistance, education, that’s how I can put my understanding into practice”. Akilah S. Richards Reclaiming culture: Take and give back Ieishah and Akilah speak to the relevance of culture and nature as key points in unschooling, and Ieishah brings more insights from her related experience at the unschooling camp in Aotearoa. They chat about the "intelligence energies" that come through the collective, as well as the importance of knowing when to be a witness, and how to "trust first." Check our Liberation Walk and a picture with the card that Akilah pulled at raisingfreepeople.com/239 Dig this show? Join our make-it-happen family at patreon.com/akilah to make sure we can keep this thang going strong. Thank you! | |||
| Ep 238: On Māori Mother Wisdom (The 'Old Knowings' Episode) | 26 nov. 2021 | 00:57:10 | |
Welcome #fofcpod fam! We’re getting into our second exploration on the Māori series co-produced with the incredible Ieishah Clelland-Lang. This 4-part series centers Māori unschooling mothers’ knowledge and narratives, to invite us to deepen our understandings of the layers within motherhood, childhood, community, and culture. Join us and listen to Ieishah’s conversations with Angella Smith and Tina Talaić, plus a a bit more from Akilah. If you're feeling these episodes, don’t miss our Feel Trip about this Māori series! On Friday, December 3rd at 4pm EST, Ieishah and Akilah will join the other members of Fare of the Free Child Village to talk, to ask, and to listen, with this series in mind and in heart. It's free and it's part of the My Reflection Matters Community vibe, so put that in your calendar, bruh! Here's the direct link again (it'll prompt you to join My Reflection Matters for free). As a reminder, last week, Moana Reihana and Mea Rapata shared some unschooling mothers’ wisdom and invitations; go and listen, in case you haven’t: Episode 237: On Māori Mother Wisdom (The Language Episode). Notes from this week... Children will show you the way. Angella grew up in a dichotomous environment, on one side she was sharing Te Reo Māori (Māori language) as a living language at home in her Marae with her family, and on the other, her student life going to a convent school where Christianity was King. She speaks about her transition into unschooling and why she decided to go through that path when she gave birth to her children. Angella also talks about the importance of listening as a point of connection, to surrender and listen to our intuition. She explains that our intuition remembers, and that children already have their inner knowings and that these are important, innate qualities. White privilege - what we were conditioned to be. Angella and Ieishah speak about racism, colonialism, and white privilege. Angella explains that white privilege was something she couldn’t understand as a child, her people were conditioned to be compliant and very subservient. Then, as she grew up, she gathered some understanding and was able to make a rediscovery and question for herself what Māori is, what’s hers and what’s not, what has been taken away, and what can be transformed to thrive and survive. This level of madd question-askin is part of what continues to support what the people in her circle have been building as a community. As they build, they create their own definitions of success, and for Angella, part of that succession lives in the way new generations get to grow up to be free people. Unschooling Camp Reflections. Tina and Ieishah chat about their experiences in the Māori camp. Tina is a Māori unschooler, a mother who shares joy through kapa haka & songs (they call it waiata), she also works in a local library (Te Reo Māori room time), and helps families that are struggling with methamphetamine addiction. Tina shares her unschooling journey and how much she loves taking time to be with her children. LIBERATION WALK
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| Ep 237: On Māori Mother Wisdom (The Language Episode) | 18 nov. 2021 | 00:57:32 | |
Basically this: We talk about reclaiming language, sovereignty, relationship with motherhood, community, culture, intergenerational relationships, childhood, ancestors, and unschooling among other key topics. In this episode you will hear about intentional living and parenting why's and what's in Te Reo Māori (Māori language) and also in English. The whole story... #fofcpod has teamed up with brilliant writer, nomad, and unschooling mama, Ieishah Clelland-Lang to co-produce this 4-part series centering fours Māori unschooling mothers' wisdom and invitation. They are all based in Aeotearoa (Māori name for what we know as New Zealand), in the South Pacific. You'll hear about these women's relationships with reclaiming (when necessary) and sustaining strong connections to their community and culture. Through these narratives we can all expand our perceptions of mothering and honor the different layers of motherwork. This week, in Part 1, you'll hear from Moana Reihana and Mea Rapata, in addition to hearing from Ieishah and Akilah. Over the next two episodes, you'll also hear from Angella Smith and Tina Talaić, as well as the energies that all 6 of us bring into the space through meaningful inquiry and real commitment to keep much of our culture alive and thriving beyond us. Three generations to regain a language - Unschooling and tradition Moana shares her experience and the reason why she learned her native language by herself as an adult. None of her family members were able to speak the language at that time, so they also started to regain this ancestral knowledge years later. This helped Moana to reclaim traditional knowledge that she wanted to share with her children and future generations. They also speak about the importance of language as a liberation tool and as a choice that offers connection and more ways to listen. How do we deal with newer generations and balance our ideas with tradition? Learning how to be a guest Ieishah and Akilah talk about the importance of “witnessing” as a way of making space through observation, and being willing to stop and listen to others so that we can be the least intrusive when we are guests in someone else’s space. Moana and Mea allow us to listen to their stories from vulnerable and authentic spaces by sharing their connection with nature, their ancestors, and themselves. They speak to a sense of belonging and invite us to think about what we are being instead of focusing on what we are doing. Ieishah and Akilah also speak to how unschooling can help us with our observation skills so that we can develop trust in our partnership with our children. More about Ieishah... Ieishah is a writer, nomad and unschooling mama of two brown girls. She is a New Yorker of Caribbean descent. If you want to hear more from Ieishah you can listen to previous conversations on Episode 63: Deep Work + Dora Life (2018), and Episode 190: Nomad(ing) in Place with Ieishah ‘Nem (2019). Check out our Liberation Walk at raisingfreepeople.com/237 Dig this show? Join our make-it-happen family at patreon.com/akilah to make sure we can keep this thang going strong. Thank you! | |||
| Ep 236: Can we deschool our approach to holiday/family stress? | 11 nov. 2021 | 00:21:05 | |
This week on #fofcpod, we’re inquiring about the idea of an unbothered child. Is “unbothered” a status reserved for worthy adults? Or can children claim it too? We’re moving through some thoughts around liberation work and education perceptions that center the decolonization of intergenerational practices, so this also means Madd Question Askin’ time! Listen in as Akilah acknowledges how our family members and friends might feel about unschooling during the holidays, and some of them may not understand what unschooling and other types of Self-Directed Education look like. Because of this, they sometimes openly question some of the ideas and practices around them. How might we learn from their reactions and begin to recognize our mindful responses as actual skill sets? Here’s a 2017 episode where Akilah points out a few specific ideas, and recommendations of what we can do: Episode 56: Managing Unschoolers' Holiday Anxiety. "Dis Long Time Gal Mi Neva See You" "This is a song that tells of two people who have not seen each other for a long time. The singer invites the other party to allow him to hold her (gal/gyal) hand in a greeting as they wheel and turn and dance and jig. The first video is of the legendary Jamaican icon, Mrs Louise Bennett Coverly, singing the song. She was very instrumental in breaking cultural barriers that saw the local language (patois) being frowned upon by the "most affluent" in the Jamaican society who would have preferred to have everyone speaking the adopted "Queens language" or proper English. Miss Lou (as she is fondly called, got people to accept the fact that our language is our language no matter whatever other language we may adopt. She also played a very instrumental role in the Jamaican folk songs rising to prominence." Madd Question Askin’ out loud!!
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| Ep 235: Building the Very Things We Need | 05 nov. 2021 | 00:40:37 | |
Welcome to another #fofcpod episode! We hope that you enjoyed Fare of the Free (Man) Child series as much as we did. Thanks to Tony for co-producing these insightful conversations around masculinity, identity, adulthood, diversity, childhood, gender, and other topics that resonated with us. We had the chance to question, name things, deschool and discuss—it was so good, and so necessary! In case you haven’t heard, here are some previous episodes with Anthony: Ep 12: How He's Using His Gifts Episode 31: Solutions to Whitewashed Self-Directed Education Episode 61: Deschooling Release Party: Time for Self Episode 215: Fare of the Free Man Child (A Tony Galloway Ting) Episode 224: Deschooling Adulthood with Tony Galloway Episode 232: Learning (and Unlearning) Masculinity Episode 233: Deschooling Manhood and Masculinity Episode 234: Kris joins Tony for the recap of #fofmanchild (Feel Trip) Nowadays, we are feeling surrounded by the energy of migration away from schoolishness and into more sovereign, more human-centered relationships. As we move forward in Season 7 you’ll be hearing more from our earthwide community, others well on their migration journeys, who have useful tools and toys for our journey. We’re here to share and offer resources for more self-directed ways as we’re raising and being free people. We’re gonna go back in time and listen to a snippet from a previous Feel Trip that we had with Domari Dickinson in a convo with Tony Galloway. You can find the full conversation for free at patreon.com/akilah. You'll also hear from Tebogo Modisane to listen as she spoke with us about a current project she and part of Limpopo’s community are working on in Mabose, South Africa. She describes it as a natural building adventure and her vision of sharing knowledge on plant-based nutrition, vitamins, and herb information to consumers. Tebogo recently acquired a small property where she plans to establish an organic and indigenous herb plantation, tree producing, storing, and agro-processing homestead called Ha Se Lehola. In this space, they will be offering education around plant identification, growing, and preparation of plant remedies. The products that have been in production include avocado seed powder, herbal teas, spices, shampoos, and body butters. If you want to know more be sure to contact Tebogo: use her e-mail tebogomodisane@icloud.com or WhatsApp/Text/Tele: +27834153739 See the rest of the show notes at raisingfreepeople.com/235 Dig this show? Join our make-it-happen family at patreon.com/akilah to make sure we can keep this thang going strong. Thank you! | |||
| Ep. 234: Kris joins Tony for the recap of #fofmanchild (Feel Trip) | 27 oct. 2021 | 01:03:37 | |
We're closing out Tony Galloway's series on manhood and masculinity this week, and the convo, as usual, is fyah! Kris Richards joins Tony to wrap up this season's Fare of the Free (Man) Child series with reflections from past episodes and current events. The two talk about identity, adulthood, diversity, childhood, gender, manhood, power dynamics, masculinity, and some of the different labels around those topics. Because definitions are always going to be biased to our experiences, they discuss some of the ways their environment has molded them as they grew up, and reflect upon what they were taught compared to what they currently understand and feel about those definitions. People's commitment to labels - Category is… Manhood Tony and Kris also chat about the interactions that take place when we speak about power dynamics in manhood. They share their experiences and the way people label others in partnership, how people put so much trust in the traditional definitions of manhood and womanhood, and the issues therein. Then they talk about masculinity and its categories. They mention that this definition keeps changing based on varying ideas about manhood, including who men "should" want attention from, and the need to perform certain “male” characteristics to feel accepted or validated by the otherness. Marketing and shadow figures Patriarchy and sexism leave serious damages in society, Tony talks about shadow figures that profit from polarizing and normalizing hegemonic discourses that benefit only a few. Tony's last four episodes: Episode 215: Fare of the Free Man Child (A Tony Galloway Ting). Episode 224: Deschooling Adulthood with Tony Galloway Episode 232: Learning (and Unlearning) Masculinity Episode 233: Deschooling Manhood and Masculinity LIBERATION WALK
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| Ep 233: Deschooling Manhood and Masculinity | 20 oct. 2021 | 00:46:47 | |
Welcome to another #fofcpod episode! As you know, October is Fare of the Free Man Child month, so get comfy and join our special host Tony Galloway Jr. in conversation with ten of his college fellas: Elijah Martin, Terry Lyles, Travis Amsterdam, Markyle Rondon, Kyle Moore, Sheps King, Fred Spite, Henri Battiste, Deshon Jones, and Curtis Webb. Each shares their thoughts on gender roles, accountability, and the complexity in naming masculinity due to the many layers around its meaning. Tony and friends navigate and question some of the previous notions and narratives they had around manhood and identity, like what it means to be strong, to be the provider and other stereotypically masculine qualities. They also speak about their experiences growing up and the patterns they began to unlearn throughout that journey. They explore some of the ways their understanding of the relationships and interactions between the masculine and the feminine have changed over time. They pose questions like, what does deschooling manhood and masculinity look like? This group also chat about the balance between intuition and rationality, which characteristics or qualities are part of that dichotomy, and how rich it is to find different shades within it. Deep and interesting convos up in here, so you don't want to miss them! In case you haven’t heard previous episodes go ahead and check them all: Episode 215: Fare of the Free Man Child (A Tony Galloway Ting). Episode 224: Deschooling Adulthood with Tony Galloway Episode 232: Learning (and Unlearning) Masculinity LIBERATION WALK
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| Ep 232: Learning (and Unlearning) Masculinity | 13 oct. 2021 | 01:00:53 | |
Welcome #fofcpod fam! We are so excited to share a new episode with our special host Anthony “Tony” Galloway Jr. This is Tony's third venture on the Fare of the Free Man Child series. If you missed the first two episodes go check them out: Episode 215: Fare of the Free Man Child (A Tony Galloway Ting). Episode 224: Deschooling Adulthood with Tony Galloway In this episode Tony and two of his college roommates, Anthony D. Janifer and Stanley D. Cochran Jr., explore their perspectives around masculinity and manhood. They question, among other topics, the way they perform their masculinity and the patterns and distinctions around it, they also speak about personal relationships, power relationships, dating, shadow work, gender, stereotypes, and sexuality. Defining manhood can be a tricky task, even more so when you live exposed to dominant stereotypes of what masculine or feminine bodies and attitudes are supposed to be. Tony and his friends chat about their experiences and the way each of their environments and families modeled or influenced them to think masculinity in certain ways. What we are supposed to be | We don’t want to be “weak” Vulnerability is seen as a weakness and something more characteristic of the feminine, this makes us question toxic masculinity. Is the version that we got around masculinity so narrow that it starts devaluing femininity? Men that embody certain mannerisms or sensitive attitudes tend to be mocked and categorized in a negative way as “less of a man.” Tony and friends discuss how these stereotypes make us more aware of the aspects within ourselves that we might shift just to fit in outdated “standards” that we must overcome. They also speak about feminine and masculine seen as energy and the balance in knowing when to show up, because Identity cannot be limited, it’s a wide spectrum of definitions and nuances, defined by culture and context. LIBERATION WALK
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| Ep 231: New Moon, New Wounds, Same Resistance | 06 oct. 2021 | 00:30:51 | |
This episode is so that we can bring some new moon energies as we understand them, to some of Akilah’s motherwork, to the ways that she is continuing to understand resistance from the perspective of her daughters resisting things, sometimes resisting her, but other times resisting things that she feels like they should not resist, things that they should accept, things that feel important or healthy for them to accept. If you've been rocking with us here, you know we've talked about versions of this many times over in past episodes in terms of resistance as a roadmap. Also in terms of recognizing ourselves as oppressors (potentially and sometimes realized) in our relationships with children, particularly if we live with them. This episode closes with #maddquestionaskin about resistance. Here are some of the questions that popped up for Akilah. Listen to the full episode for the full list.
(This particular question can be good for, at the moment, when you're in the middle of a space of resistance with a young person)
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| Ep 230: Marley on Studies, Reflections, and Self-Inquiry | 29 sept. 2021 | 00:23:26 | |
Subject Sprint: a learning method for designing a mindful approach towards learning and structure in a sustainable way. - Marley What does productivity look like and feel like when we get to choose topics that interest us? #maddquestionaskin This week on #fofcpod, Marley Richards, 17-year-old unschooler and SDE advocate, brings a follow-up from Episode 193: Developing a Self-directed Mindset. She speaks about her learning struggles in 2020, and the ways she used Subject Sprints to re-center her passions. Marley asks and invites questions about the progression of education, the differences between quantity and quality, the real meaning of productivity, managing feelings of perfectionism, self-care as a point of clarity, and more. This path has broadened her access to different opinions, and ways to communicate, showing up as a constant progression, a transformative and helpful structure that has boosted her sense of fulfillment and her confidence. Thinking of a mentor session with Marley? She’s open to a few of those. In addition to our new patreon supporters, we also beam our deep gratitude to all of the folks who helped us fund and actualize the translation of Raising Free People Book en Español. ¡Gracias! LIBERATION WALK
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| Ep 229: Flowing into Season 7 like… | 24 sept. 2021 | 00:16:29 | |
We’re back from our much-needed break and ready to rock with you for Season 7 to continue this journey together of healing, exploration, liberation and change. Thank you for being part of our #fofcpod fam! This season we’ll keep our three-part flow, with a few deviations from that structure wherever it feels right. Here's what to expect during Season 7: This season our contribution to the many ways we invest in our liberation from tools of oppression will include continued collaborating with some of the busiest folks in this moving for liberatory learning and living:
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| Ep 228: Mobile Black reads, more feel trips, and two Open House invites | 02 août 2021 | 00:16:16 | |
Just dropping by with an in-between seasons episode filled with invitations and big announcements! #fofcpod
Here you can find some of the convos that we have had with them before: Episode 185: Parenting Paradigm Shifts in Black Families, Episode 204: (REPLAY) Solutions to Whitewashed SDE, Episode 215: Fare of the Free Man Child (A Tony Galloway Ting) and Episode 224: Deschooling Adulthood with Tony Galloway.
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| Ep 227: Feel Trip Replay | Deschooling Our Marriage | 10 juil. 2021 | 00:33:15 | |
We’re so excited to share our Feel Trip recap and final episode of Season Six. We will be playing some snippets from a live conversation that Akilah and Kris had with some of our listeners and Make It Happen Family members. They reflect on trust, language, destination peddling (nope, that ain’t a typo), and how all of those things affect our most important relationships. They also chat about the opportunities for facing and resolving our struggles with attachments. Watch the video of the entire convo on our Youtube Channel. Raising Free People Está Disponible en Español! Shout out to the 25 people who helped us reach our goal, because now Raising Free People will be available in Spanish too! As soon as we get more info we’ll let you know, for sure, but in the meantime, some members of the translation team put together a superdope Spotify playlist you can vibe to! Check it: Raising Free People en Español. Thank you so much for joining us on this amazing journey so far! For Season 7, we will stay on our three-part flow, and include solo episodes like Fare of the Free Man Child and Plant It Up Podcast episodes. In the meantime, here’s what to expect in the coming months:
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| Ep 226: (Feedback) Deschooling Our Marriage | 07 juil. 2021 | 00:20:35 | |
It’s the second-to-last episode of Season Six, and today we’re going back in time to our Season One intro while we reminisce for a bit. Later this week, on July 10th we’ll play a clip from Episode 0 to celebrate our 5th anniversary! Today though, you’ll hear what some of our listeners had to say about last week’s episode Episode 225: Deschooling Our Marriage (Pt 1) and about Episode 224: Deschooling Adulthood with Tony Galloway. And one listener, Dani McClain has a great book you should check out titled We Live for the We. 4 things happening in-between seasons
Tune in this Saturday for our finale episode, 227, to hear clips from our feel trip with Kris and Akilah. and members of our Make it Happen Family. Make sure you don’t miss any of our Feel Trip invitations by joining our podcast village. LIBERATION WALK
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| Ep. 225: Deschooling Our Marriage (Pt 1) | 30 juin 2021 | 00:38:54 | |
This week on #fofcpod: We are now all up in Part 1 of this 3-part season finale flow! Listen to this insightful conversation between Akilah, her partner Kris, and their oldest daughter, Marley. They process their feelings out loud about how trust, language, and "destinations" help us move from performance and fake-assness over to practicing authenticity and partnership in our relationships. Stay tuned for our Feel Trip with Kris and Akilah on July 6, 8:30 pm EST. Make sure you don’t miss any of our Feel Trip invitations by joining our podcast village. Here are some of the gem-drops you’ll hear: Trust happens over time. Akilah and Kris share their experiences with relationship-building and how many of the normalized processes and practices in marriage leave us with dynamics that have prefabricated structures around marriage role models that don’t fit actual people in real life. They also point out the ways that we replicate these roles and expectations without taking into account the quality of the relationship. Deschooling helps us question these structures and the way we live and face reality and relationships over time. We can deschool our language. You’ll hear the trio’s take on the importance of naming and speaking up about feelings and insecurities when we want to be held accountable and also be supportive. Communication and language are key components for a partnership, so consider the benefits of madd question askin’ like: How is language useful? How do we nurture our feelings while trusting the process? LIBERATION WALK
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| Ep 224: Deschooling Adulthood with Tony Galloway | 23 juin 2021 | 00:31:20 | |
First, a special Thank You to all of the people that have contributed to translate Raising Free People book to Spanish, we’re almost there! / Gracias a quienes han colaborado para traducir el libro Raising Free People al idioma Español, ¡ya casi llegamos a la meta! -- Welcome to Anthony “Tony” Galloway, Jr’s second Fare of the Free Man Child episode. Missed the first episode? We gotchu... Episode 215: Fare of the Free Man Child (A Tony Galloway Ting). Tony is co-founder, director, and facilitator of The Heartwood School, a local (Atlanta) Agile Learning Center, and one of our Presence Counselors at Raising Free People Network. On this episode, Tony covers the topic of childhood and adulthood from the perspectives of
He goes on to offer insights and reflections on how childhood and adult-child dynamics play out in a Self-Directed Education framework, and he speaks to some of the aspects of adulthood that sit within the confines and expectations of certain structures of power that center production and achievement over all else. LIBERATION WALK
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| Ep 223: Karema Akilah #ATL #Unschooling | 16 juin 2021 | 00:40:09 | |
This week’s #fofcpod episode is a solo jawn, mainly because Akilah wanted to share the local community spotlight segment that will be part of Season 7. So, expect for the 3-part episode flow to be accented by single episodes like this one and Fare of the Free Man Child with another ATL local, Anthony “Tony” Galloway, Jr. who you’ll hear next week. Today’s guest is brilliant entre/edupreneur, Karema Akilah Greene from The Genius School. So much goodness in here! Karema shares how she got interested in Self-Directed Education, and how, as a detail oriented person, she struggled with some habits from her schoolish mindset, and eventually arrived at some of the tools that helped her to support learning with her children and other ways of connection. She also speaks with us on how her deschooling process evolved into the offering of a supportive community that focuses on education as something that we build up together, allowing for space where children can be themselves, and get to know their strengths and weaknesses in order to nurture their independence and confidence, giving the tools for them to excel with a trust-based foundation. LIBERATION WALK
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| Ep 222: Feel Trip | Untigering with Iris Chen (Pt. 3) | 12 juin 2021 | 00:37:21 | |
Welcome again Fare of the Free Child community! In episode 222 you’ll hear excerpts from our feel trip with Iris Chen, author of Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent along with our fellow unschooler, Tiersa McQueen. Iris and Akilah talk about multigenerational learning and unlearning, the differences between respect and relationship with the elders, collective change, cultural distance, relationship skills and how we can feel honored and honor other people too, learning to coexist and grow together. Tiersa joined the discussion, and poured her usual awesomesauce all in the mix. If the excerpts just ain’t enough, you can watch the entire conversation here. In case you haven’t listened to the previous elements of this three-part flow, here’s Episode 220: Iris Chen on Culture, Childhood, and Consent, and Episode 221: Untigering with Iris Chen (Pt. 2) where our listeners shared their feedback. Join our podcast village to make sure you don’t miss any feel trip invitations. We are just a few episodes away from the end of this season, including two more episodes and a feel trip with Kris and Akilah to close out the season and celebrate the five year anniversary of Episode 0. So exciting! Need to knows:
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| Ep 221: Untigering with Iris Chen (Pt. 2) | 02 juin 2021 | 00:28:08 | |
Sending love to all of the families and descendants of theTk’emlúps te Secwépemc community, who are dealing with the tragedy of discovering the bodies of 215 children who lived at the Kamloops Indian Residential School. We share the official statement from Tk'emlúps te Secwépemc Kukpi7 (Chief) Rosanne Casimir. May their families find a way to be at peace. --- On this week’s #fofcpod you'll hear feedback from our community members. Regina, Sarah, and Ana Maria share their thoughts about previous episode 220: Iris Chen on Culture, Childhood, and Consent with Iris Chen from Untigering but also Ana Maria took the time to share her impressions on episode 219: All In My Feelings About Family Meetings. As we realize now, feedback won't always be about the most recent episode, people find episodes that talk specifically to them all the time (folks are still listening to season 1!). Today, members of our listening community share some realizations based on conversations and experiences with their children. They share reflections on empowerment, boundaries, rewriting our narrative, and then some. You'll also hear from a local ATL unschooler wondering about tools of oppression in the context of parents who use them on their adult children. Dr. Sundiata also shares some insights about The Theory of Indivisibility, Tools of Oppression in contrast with the Tools of Indivisibility. Head over to Sundiata's website to learn more. And we are super-stoked and grateful that Akilah’s book, Raising Free People: Unschooling as Liberation and Healing work, will be translated into Spanish, and that the ALC Network has launched a fundraiser to match the $5000 needed to get us published in print and digitally! Will you donate and share? Here’s the link with details. Our next Feel Trip is coming up with Iris, Akilah, and Tiersa on June 7, at 5:30 PM EST. Here’s the link to register. You'll hear a recap of that next week. Make sure you don't miss any of our Feel Trip invitations by joining our podcast village. LIBERATION WALK
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