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How open(-minded) are you, really? And how "free" do you feel?

Our biggest fear is not being loved. And fears keep us stuck in the comfort zone. But what happens when we suspend fear?

While reflecting on our peculiar summer, we explain how openness, curiosity, and feeling comfortable in your own body can bring you a deeper sense of connection and, ultimately, freedom.

There's a different flavour when you meet people who are willing to share themselves and their stories - who are unapologetically themselves and in their body.

If you're one of those people that feel stuck and just dream of being free (from whatever) but don't know how, you might want to listen to this. The whole conversation is a beautiful metaphor for how life can be lived.

!! Don’t miss our book recommendation at the end !!

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TIME STAMPS

1:32 Our Mission Is To Help People Open To Love

03:04 A Music Festival As An Open Love Experience

03:50 Openness + Nakedness = Freedom

07:11 What You Wouldn't Expect About Being Naked

08:51 Feeling Comfortable vs. Feeling Confident

09:46 It's Not About You, It's About Them

13:10 You Can Be Monogamously Open

15:23 When Your Husband Shows You Support Instead Of Anger

18:22 Yo Gotta Overcome The Fear To Love

19:16 Recommended Light Summer Reading: Wild Nights

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Communication is THE KEY in enhancing relationships and sexual experiences.

Drawing from our personal and professional experiences, we share practical tips on how you can initiate open dialogues about desires, needs, and fantasies with your partner.

As always we emphasise on creating a safe space for vulnerability, avoiding blame, and using creative alternative methods like scheduled talks, writing sexy emails to each other and, why not, listening to content together.

If you wonder how keep going at this seemingly utopian rate, this is it! Don't miss this episode.

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TIME STAMPS

02:36 Experience in communicating 04:03 What stops us from sharing dark secrets 06:09 Communicating is hard! 08:18 How to practice "exposing" yourself 09:50 We all have the same fantasy (and the same fear) 12:58 1. Let it flow 14:29 2. Quit the blame 16:07 3. Create a safe space for an intentional conversation 20:19 4. Listen to content together 24:21 5. "Please can you help me to understand..." 26:16 6. Show that you're listening - aka be present with them 27:50 7. Have an "exploratory" vs. a "goal-oriented" conversation 29:05 8. Writing sexy emails to each other is less confrontational 33:01 9. When in doubt, say what's on your mind

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Are you longing for deeper, more intimate sexy time?

Today we share our personal journey of learning how to shift boundaries in the ENM and kinky world that we sometimes play in, and draw lessons for how intimacy and sensuality can supercharge connections - in all kinds of relationships.

We talk about how rare it is to find partners who share a similar emphasis on slow, intimate play, and we will provide a few tips on how to communicate  intimacy in your own relationship – monogamous or not - so that you can experience and nurture the power of focusing on the present moment to have mind blowing encounters.

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TIME STAMPS

02:31 Exploring Intimacy Beyond the Norm

05:16 Personal Boundaries and Evolving Relationships

07:44 The Power of Sensuality

17:55 The Impact of Trust and Respect in Sensual Encounters

22:48 The Essence of Sensuality: Being Present and Connected with Each Other

30:07 Navigating Safety and Comfort

36:56 Is He Worthy Of You?

38:11 Exploring the Paradox of Intimacy in ENM

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Contrary to what many people fear, today we talk about how non-monogamy can actually strengthen relationships.

You’ll learn something seemingly counterintuitive: how can adding more “bodies'' into a relationship strengthen a bond? 

We unpack concepts like open communication, trust, honest conversations, respecting boundaries, and navigating complex emotions together. 

Allie shares how she made her man’s fantasy come true by organizing a surprise birthday party in his office… While you might think this is counter-intuitive, her story is actually a great example of how communication and trust made their relationship even stronger.

We’ll give you the ins and outs of how to prioritize the couple’s intimacy, desire, and mutual pleasure while maintaining a strong emotional connection with each other.

We also talk about: personal growth, how sharing fantasies can help you increase trust, how to communicate that there is something wrong by processing information before making a scene, and how to ask for what you need.

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[00:01:29] What is a Unicorn?

[00:02:32] Can swinging strengthen a couple's relationship?

[00:04:01] Allie’s perspective

00:04:01] The power of communication and boundaries in swinging

[00:04:31] Fantasies: a journey of exploration together

[00:04:54] Chiara’s perspective

[00:06:26] A naughty fantasy made come true as a birthday present to your man

[00:14:31] Wills perspective

[00:19:38] Respect is always a must

[00:19:45] How to navigate challenges and emotions in open relationships

[00:24:09] The importance of confidence and teamwork

[00:26:37] Open a relationship may result in massive personal growth

[00:35:01] "Desiring" vs. "needing something in a relationship

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What are the challenges that couples face in maintaining a fulfilling sex life, especially as responsibilities grow and the initial spark fades?

Today we have a very open and honest discussion about the importance of creating time for intimacy and sensuality - which is not just having “sexual intercourse” as your main goal.

We share our own experiences and learnings, such as how we communicated in tricky situations, how we made ourselves vulnerable and how to create a safe space for each other.

We also discuss how non-monogamy might be an option for some, as a catalyst for deeper connection and exploration beyond what traditional society teaches us.

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02:16 Welcome to Our Sensual Journey

03:07 Reflecting on Past Relationships and Sexual Fulfillment

04:50 The Common Struggle of Maintaining Intimacy

06:46 Prioritizing Your Relationship Amidst a Busy Life

10:50 The Importance of Quality Over Quantity in Sexual Relationships

15:43 Exploring Non-Monogamy and Its Impact on Our Relationship

22:18 The Role of Inner Work in Enhancing Sexual Connection

37:38 Advice for Couples Struggling with Intimacy

 

Welcome to Deeper Sex, a podcast about connection, exploration, and adventure.  

 

ABOUT WILL

Psychologist, journalist, entrepreneur, spin doctor, executive advisor and father. For two decades his passion was the world of words and stories. He reported from wars and riots. He wrote communication strategies for governments and prime ministers. He coached CEOs and rocket scientists. He built companies and made his fortune, changed track, reinvented himself, and refocused his energy on inner meaning.

Today, Will works as a coach and retreat facilitator, following his vocation to help others unblock their lives and find meaning and happiness. He is fascinated by the power of love, intimacy and sexual liberation to forge profound relationships with others and unlock healing forces within ourselves.

Will is married to Chiara and could not possibly be happier.

 

ABOUT CHIARA

ICF-certified professional Co-Active Coach® with a masters in business communication. Ex director for a tech pioneer where she led sales teams for 15 years. Communicating and helping others perform were her daily bread. Finding herself successful but unfulfilled, she left her first marriage, quit the corporate world and embarked on a new journey – first to reinvent herself and then to help others chart their own path of purpose. She learnt to channel her energy from masculine overachiever to feminine goddess turned (self)-love mentor.  She reconnected with her body and learned to receive true love.

Today Chiara runs deep intimacy experiences and programmes for men and women who are keen to grow together, exploring deeper ways to connect. She helps people find their voice and feel safe to talk about their desires and fears, without shame or drama.

 

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Jealousy can serve as a useful tool in relationships when rooted in objective facts: it can be a sign of real issues, but also a reflection of deeper insecurities. How do you know?

In this episode we cover the various sides of jealousy, how to understand when it is keeping you safe, vs. when it’s signalling that there’s something deeper to look into – your body generally knows best.

We look at jealousy in the context of ENM couples, tho the same concepts can equally be applied to monogamous relationships.

The importance of a strong relationship foundation, open communication, and setting flexible ground rules are what will make you feel safe, confident, and ultimately set you free. Embracing jealousy can be a tool to deepen intimacy – believe it or not.

If you've ever struggled with jealousy or just want to understand it better - this episode is for you.

 

SHOWNOTES

01:47 I Am So Jealous!

04:55 How To Have Difficult Conversations With Your Partner

05:27 Keep The Dialogue Open And Ask With No Expectations

14:54 Embracing Jealousy Can Keep You Safe

16:00 Your Body Has All The Answers Inside

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Have you ever dreamt of joining a threesome but never dared ask your partner? It’s a universal fantasy, and one that can become reality with trust and good communication.

In this episode, we share a very intimate experience where we pushed our boundaries further than ever before: for the first and only time in our life, Chiara is "lent" for the night as a Unicorn to Allie and her husband, while Will is away on an expedition.

He talks vulnerably about his internal struggle between a positively erotic idea and the negative social conditioning around masculinity and ownership that would mark this as incredibly wrong and dysfunctional. 

He also explains the strong bond he created with Allie’s man, the complete trust and clear communication that they have, highlighting the significance of male, brotherly energy and trust.

Our goal in sharing this story is to show you what’s possible when the bond in a couple is so strong, and complete trust has been achieved: we would have not been able to do this before our deep inner work and sexual deconditioning journey! 

Our intention is to purely inspire you to embrace sexual liberation by learning how clear communication, vulnerability and boundaries work Even within the boundaries of your monogamous relationship, there's plenty of things you can try out!

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02:56 What is a Unicorn 05:11 Trust, Desire, Fantasies And Open Communication 07:27 Healthy Management of Emotions: Thrill or Jealousy? 12:51 A Strog Secure Bond Can Take You To Depths You Can't Imagine 13:40 The Potential Risk of Damaging a Relationship 14:24 What It Feels Like to Join Another Couple as a Unicorn 14:57 Only When You Feel Safe You Can Relax 15:47 Conditioning: Shall We Listen To It? 17:01 Protect What's Precious 19:13 Giving vs. Taking Attitude in Bed 22:35 Is There Such A Thing As "Too Much"?

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• Download the free guide: “10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner”
• Chiara’s FREE LIVE WORKSHOP on how to share secret fantasies: RESERVE YOUR SEAT

ALERT: FREE workshop on how to share secret fantasies (Live with Chiara): RESERVE YOUR SEAT

Are you “vanilla” or “spicy”? Are you into ENM? Are you not? Are you curious? How much should you share about this with your friends? And should you drag them into this exploration with you?

These are all themes we discuss in this episode, focusing on the importance of respecting the boundaries of people around you.

While we could not wish for deeper connections and the personal growth that we've gained from exploring ourselves the Ethical Non-Monogamy world (ENM), we understand this might not be necessarily everyone's cup of tea.

Our objective is, as always, to demystify society’s misconceptions, promoting open mindedness and sexual liberation, as this is THE SECRET recipe to a great sex life - whether you choose to have one or multiple partners.

If you’re looking for practical advice on how to navigate challenging but genuine conversations about your curiosity and interest in adding more people to your romantic situation, this is it!

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TIME STAMPS

01:12 Are Alternative Forms Of Relationships An Option?  05:51 Be Yourself But Respect Others' Boundaries 08:39 The Highest Form Of Sexual Liberation 18:16 Build Strong Relationship Foundations and Create Deep Emotional Bonds 19:25 Coming Out Can Be A Challenge 24:21 Superficiality or Depth? 25:41 What You Didn't Know About Playing With Others As A Couple 27:14 What We Love About The Openness Of Relationships 27:53 How To Manage Jealousy 33:42 Should We Try To Fuck Our Friends Then?

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