The holidays are upon us.  It's time to dig deep.

Catherine Hickem, founder of Parenting Adult Children Today (PACT). Catherine shares a hopeful, practical roadmap for parents who want less tension and more trust—especially as the holidays bring everyone under one roof.

We dig into why adult children often act different around their parents and how expectations, tone, and boundaries can either smother or strengthen the relationship.   We discuss:

• the hidden cost of parental expectations on adult children
• why rescues undermine confidence and fuel estrangement
• shifting from advice to curiosity with practical scripts
• separating our self-worth from kids’ choices
• tone of voice as an anxiety dial in hard talks
• setting and holding fair house rules when kids move home
• preparing for holidays with boundaries, space and new traditions
• grieving lost visions so joy can return

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Check out Catherine’s free resource: Seven Keys To Talking With Your Adult Children at leaderpass.com/parenting-adult-children-today/preview

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We sit down with "therapist to the millennials"  Tess Brigham to unpack why the 20s feel overwhelming, how parents can ease anxiety without enabling, and what healthy support looks like in a world of constant comparison and blurred work boundaries. 

We also share a step‑by‑step plan for tapering financial help and end with three clear takeaways to guide tough conversations.

• why questions beat lectures when adult kids call in crisis
• social media’s role in comparison, urgency and the “by 30” myth
• money stress, pandemic shifts and the gig economy
• boundaries at work, after‑hours expectations and burnout
• individuation, values and reworking family narratives
• mother‑daughter friction and being seen without defensiveness
• tapering financial support with timelines and transparency
• three takeaways: coach, contextualise, accept

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Pride Month gives us the perfect opportunity to expand our understanding of the LGBTQIA+ community, especially for those of us navigating relationships with our adult children. This heartfelt conversation with Emmy-nominated Matthew Rodriguez, host and executive producer of "It's Okay to Ask Questions," offers exactly what many parents need—permission to learn without judgment.

Rodriguez creates a safe space for curiosity, admitting that even as a gay man himself, he once struggled to understand terms like "non-binary" or aspects of transgender experience. "Just because I'm gay and we're kind of on the same side of the street didn't mean I knew everything there was to know," he explains. This honest acknowledgment sets the tone for a conversation where no question feels too basic or inappropriate when asked with genuine care.

Rodriguez elaborates on how society builds these metaphorical closets brick by brick through subtle messaging about acceptable behaviors and interests until a child "can't see out of all the things they've been told they shouldn't be."

For parents whose adult child has just come out, Rodriguez offers compassionate advice: "If you need to and you can't say anything in the moment, I would hug your child, kiss them, say I love you and say I just need a moment to process this...because I want to say the right things to you." 

Rodriguez's reminds us to reminder to "dream wider" for our children beyond traditional expectations. "All the ways you can grow and be in this world—there are many, and being open to that, as long as it brings love and joy and no harm, why not?"

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Special episode with new guest host:  Connie Fisher.

Connie is usually behind the scenes doing our tech work, but today she joined Denise to talk to  Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo. They are the hosts of the #1 marriage podcasts on Apple podcasts called One Extraordinary Marriage.

Does this sound like you?

• Are you and your partner out of sync since you are no longer parenting young children?
• As your empty nest impacted your marriage?
• Do you wish for the same level of connection and intimacy you once had?
• Do you need the emotional skills to stay connected with your partner?
• Do you fear the important things are falling through the cracks?

Then this episode is for you!

Links to other mentions in the podcast:

• The Vagina Bible
• The Penis Book
• 10  Questions to Amazing Sex with Your Partner
• Tony and Alisa's Favorite Sex Toy

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Today we talk to Cameron Huddleston, an award-winning journalist who has been writing for over 20 years on personal finance.  US News and World Report named her one of the top finance experts to follow on Twitter.  Link to her Twitter feed.

She just released an amazing book called, “Mom and Dad, We Need to Talk.”  The target for the book is our kids of course, but we switched the conversation with Cameron and called it - “Hey Adult Kids, We Need to Talk.”

Here are some of the things we discuss:

• Why it is important to have a conversation with your adult kids now about estate planning (and estate planning is not just for rich people!).
• How to broach the subjects of estate planning and end-of-life planning  with your kids.
• The key legal documents that you need to have now, and how often to update them.
• Other important documents and information,  including passwords, car titles, bank accounts and more.  Here is a link to Cameron’s IN CASE OF EMERGENGY document - or you can also download it from her website. It could take you weeks to complete, but it is a starting point in understanding all that your adult children need to know NOW!  
• Even though you are healthy and really don’t think you will die or be injured soon, why it is so very important to be prepared.

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EPISODE NOTES

Joining us today are Nyge Turner and Merk Nguyen, the hosts of the wildly popular podcast - Adult ISH. Produced by YR Media and Radiotopia from PRX, these two young adults have become prominent voices of their generation.

This episode they discuss everything from mental health and work ethic to social media and their relationships with their parents. They also bring a bit of diversity to BITE YOUR TONGUE. Nyge is an African American and I found through some research that he always wanted to be Eddie Murphy.  Merk is Vietnamese, in fact her parents immigrated to the US from Vietnam soon after 1975.

More about our guests:
Angela "Merk" Nguyen, 24, is an LA-based podcast producer who is a self-described "cis sis with a knack for puns and alliterations." She got her start in audio through KUOW's RadioActive Youth Media and can #humblebrag about being on NPR airwaves as a teen. She also aspires to be the next SpongeBob ( really, ask about her voice acting dreams).

Nygel Turner, 24, is an Oakland, California-based creator of Not Your Father’s Podcast and YouTube series Not Your Mama’s Kitchen. Nyge is the only person in Oakland who has never lost an argument. One day we’ll all see him own the red Jeep of his fantasies.

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Grandparenting.  This episode is for anyone who is a grandparent, has a grandparent in their life - or might soon become a grandparent. Or you just love an exceptional interview with a fabulous guest!

We welcome Julie Dolan Smith, one of the legendary Satellite Sisters.  With over 20-years in the radio/podcast industry, Julie has now taken on the alter ego of “Urban Nana.”  With 10 grandchildren and  years of experience, her wit and wisdom will make you laugh. and think.

We explore with Julie many questions submitted by listeners:

• When should grandparents get involved in disciplining, or even just talking to their grandchildren about their bad or impolite behavior, if ever?  
• When does it become necessary to tell the parents about bad or unkind behavior from the grandchildren?
• When grandchildren are at their grandparents’ home,  being taken care of by the grandparents, whose rules have to be followed? 
• What is your advice for the grandparent who lives far away from the grandchildren? How can they keep the connection alive?

She sums things up very quickly with ONE piece of advice we all will want to tape to our foreheads.

We hope you enjoy the episode.  To learn more about Julie and the Satellite Sisters, visit their website.  You can link to all of their podcast episodes, read the bios and learn why this podcast is really like “having coffee with a friend.”  Here is a quick link to their 20-year-history video.

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In this episode, we speak to two young adults -- Sarah and Dan.  Both of them are in their early 30s.  We work to uncover their thoughts about young adulthood and the role their parents played in their journey.

Full disclosure --  both of these young adults, although from different parts of the country, are white and from middle to upper-middle-class families.  Our goal over the next year is to speak with more young adults, from many different backgrounds.  But this is a start.

Both of them give us some solid advice on issues such as:

• Do they want to know if you do not approve of their significant other?
• How often should you call - or not?
• When did they feel like they were "adults," and what did it mean to them?
• What is the hardest part of being an adult?
• How do their families deal with finances and if they were ready for a fiancial education in their younger years?
• Did they have reckless years in their 20s and do they agree with our earlier interview with Dr. Larry Nelson?

Stay- tuned for their final advice at the end of the episode.  It is worth waiting for.

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The emerging adult - now recognized as “the third stage of life.” 

Our guest today says that studying the emerging adult years (about age 19-29) is much like studying the preschool years — the preschool years set the stage for the teen years, and the emerging adult years set the stage for the future adulthood.  

Today we talk with Dr. Larry Nelson, one of the world’s leading researchers on the emerging adult years. Dr. Nelson is the president of the Study of Emerging Adulthood (SSEA) and examines factors that contribute to flourishing or floundering during this time. He has published over 70 peer-reviewed journal articles and chapters in edited books on topics including conceptions of adulthood, social withdrawal, and the role of parents and culture in the transition to adulthood.

Here are some things you will learn from today’s episode:

• Why is this period of life critical to setting the stage for the adult years?
• What role do parents play during this stage of life? 
• What are the signals for the flourishing and/or floundering young adult?
• Why our generation might not have done it “right.”
• How this stage of life is dealt with in many other parts of the world, and how we can learn from them.
  …and more
  To learn more about the emerging adult and Dr. Nelson, here are some informative links:
• Society for the Study of Emerging Adulthood
• Flourishing in Emerging Adulthood, book by Dr. Nelson
• Distinguishing Features of Emerging Adulthood: The Role of Self-Classification as an Adult

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Welcome to our 8th episode! 

Every time I listen to an episode, I think to myself, "everyone needs to listen to this. There are so many valuable nuggets of information for all of us in every episode."

For this episode - I plead with everyone to listen and share it.  

Many of us think we are progressive and accepting, but to step into someone's shoes helps us learn so much more.  This episode is NOT JUST FOR PARENTS of LGBTQ+ children, but for ALL OF US.  Let me know what you think.
 
Today I speak with Levi Teachey, who is the Board President of PFLAG Denver, and Stacey Shigaya, who is the organization's Board Secretary.

Levi shares his very personal journey as a trans man and Stacey shares her journey both as an ally within the LGBTQ+ community and with her daughter who is pansexual.

We discuss both their stories and the rapidly changing landscape of this community.  Planned Parenthood writes: "Understanding the words, and the labels people use encourages respect and understanding."

Please share the episode with friends and family who you think might benefit. 

Stacey and Levi also shared these documents which I found very helpful:

Glossary of Terms (https://pflag.org/glossary)
Faith FAQs (https://pflag.org/faithfaq)
Becoming a Trans Ally 101 (https://pflag.org/transally101recording)

Finally, Levi ends each of his emails with this phrase -- "courage, kindness and lasting change," -- keep it handy!

PFLAG is a national organization founded in 1972 by Jeanne Manford, who marched with her son, in a gay pride parade in New York, with a sign that read: "Parents of Gays Unite."  It has become one of the most important organizations building support for friends and families of the LGBTQ+ community.  

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Join us for a conversation with Dr. Susan Heitler, a renowned relationship therapist. She is best  known for clarifying the basics of collaborative dialogue and provides wonderful techniques to use - not only with your adult children but for all of the relationships in your life you value.

You will take away real tools, words and actions to develop meaningful relationships.  This is a must listen.  Take your time, take notes and share with others you love.

Dr. Heitler appeared on the CBS Early Show where anchor Harry Smith introduced her as “the most influential person in my life—my therapist.”  He encouraged his viewers similarly to seek therapy when they feel  distressed and to check out pre-marital counseling before they wed.

Some links you will enjoy:

• Dr. Heitler's Website  therapyhelp.com
• Dr. Heitler's Tedx Talk
• Psychology Today (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/contributors/susan-heitler-phd)
• Power of Two (https://www.poweroftwomarriage.com/)
• This is from Modern Love: The Podcast.  We thought it was appropriate for the advice Dr. Heitler gave us:  "Shamu and a Happy Marriage." (https://www.nytimes.com/2019/10/11/style/modern-love-what-shamu-taught-me-happy-marriage.html)

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Have you ever worried that your adult children have no spiritual foundation -- or maybe that their connection to God or a higher power is different from yours?  

How do you handle and respect your adult child's choices, if you are very religious or even if you find spirituality a source of strength and wish this for your child?  How also do you deal with a child that might become very religious when you are agnostic?  ‘

Join this wonderful discussion with the Reverend Elizabeth P. Randall and Galit Pinksy Gottlieb. 

Elizabeth is the Rector at St. Andrew's Episcopal Church in Denver, Colorado.  She is a graduate of Smith College and Yale Divinity School and  was one of the first clergy in Denver to recognize and perform weddings for the LGBTQ community. She’s been happily married for over 30-years to someone who is Jewish. Together they have one daughter. 

Galit, who practices Conservative Judaism, served as a Synagogue Cantor for many years. She is also an author as well as a mother and the wife of a Jewish scholar. Her children were raised in the Jewish tradition and now are all in long-term relationships with non-Jewish partners.

These two women bring great insight and strength to many parents of adult children who may struggle with their adult children who have no spiritual foundation, or a spiritual following that is very different from their own.  Research tells us that millennials, between the ages of 23 and 39, are likely to say they have no religion.  It is not clear if this is temporary, but mounting evidence is showing that our younger generations may be leaving religion for good.

So many journeys to understand, learn and accept.  We think both Elizabeth and Galit offer support, understanding and some brilliant and thoughtful ideas and approaches.

Galit is also an author of a wonderful mystery book series called the Whipped and Sipped Mysteries.  

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This is a wonderful episode with lots of advice and suggestions from Kris Burbank, a coach for parents of people with disabilities.  She is the proud mother of three grown children, including a son born four months premature with severe cerebral palsy.

She shares her story along with Dr. Ellen Braaten, a co-host of the episode who has a brother with Downs syndrome.

Please also take a minute to listen to another podcast that we mention during the episode.  Remarkable group of three moms - all with children with Down Syndrome.   For three seasons, Heather Avis, Micha Boyett, and Mercedes Lara have become even closer friends than ever before. Together, they take on conversations in the Down Syndrome Community that not only we want to hear, but need to hear and share as we shout the worth of our loved ones with Down Syndrome. THE LUCKY FEW PODCAST.  (theluckyfewpodcast.com).
 
Here are links to some of the website that Kris mentioned during the podcast:

• • Great article on preferred language for addressing those with special needs
  • A link to Kris' newsletter:  This one is on Taboo Talks: Newsletter on Sexuality
  • Future Planning
  • Siblings
  • Sexuality
  • SSI Government Benefits
  • Parent Support

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Sally Harris shares her emotional journey through a decade of estrangement with her adult daughter, revealing how she transformed her pain into a mission to help other parents facing similar struggles.

• Sally became an alcoholic and extremely unhealthy while her daughter's life was spiraling
• After eight years of sobriety, she's now reconciled with her daughter who returned to the family four years ago
• Sally believes "we are best positioned to serve the person we once were"
• Many therapists advise adult children to cut off family rather than work toward reconciliation
• Parents should honor their adult child's perception of events even when they disagree
• When values differ, loving your child where they are creates space for potential reconciliation
• Ask "do you want me to just listen or do you want my advice?" before offering guidance
• Self-care isn't selfish but essential for maintaining healthy relationships with adult children
• Take care of yourself first and "stay in your own lane" by focusing on what you can control
• Remember that many phases adult children go through are temporary as they establish their identity

Visit sally-harris.com to connect with her resources or find her YouTube channel with helpful videos for parents navigating relationships with adult children.

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We are kicking off summer with an episode we are calling “Whose Wedding is it Anyway!”

"It's in our DNA to want our parents to approve of us!"

Listen to the great advice and suggestions from Aleigh Huston-Lyons, a therapist and coach at AisleTalk: Consultation & Therapy.  A boutique practice devoted to helping brides and grooms cope with the stresses that arise during wedding planning and anticipation of marriage. AisleTalk is New York City-based, but works with clients all over the world. You can get in touch with their team through the website aisle-talk.com or @aisletalk on instagram! 

From engagement and finances to the invite list and drama, Aleigh puts in all in perspective.

Social media has taken a toll on weddings and learn how Aleigh gives some sound advice on keeping it all under control.

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Happy Mother’s Day!
 
Today we are joined by two amazing moms with great advice for keeping our relationships with our adult children healthy, fun and spirited.  Also listen for some special Mother’s Day messages of support and advice from some young adults!  

This will be an episode that will get you thinking, make you smile and lift you up.  

We hope you enjoy it!

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Former Wall Street Journal columnist and finance reporter Jeff Opdyke joins us for a discussion on our adult kids and money.  He gives us some advice on “just say no,” to saying point blank, “Boomers are the most financially ignorant people on the planet” and warns us “We are moving into a time that is going to filled with a lot of hurt honestly and kids need to understand now how best to manage their money, how best to invest”  Insight on inheritance, wills and preparing your kids for financial success.

Learn more about Jeff and all of his books here  and also check out his past columns on LOVE and MONEY in the WSJ.

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Date:  Recorded on Sunday, April 4 - Dropped on April 17
Name of Show:  Adulting Made Easy - Author Amanda Morin
Episode Title and #:  Adulting Made Easy - #01

Summary:

• Show hosts:  Denise Gorant and Dr. Ellen Braaten
• Guest:  Author Amanda Morin shared details of her newly released book, “Adulting Made Easy.” 

How to help your adult kids transition to adulthood. How to provide advice, without being shut out and what role do parents play.

 “We really do not know much about this stage of parenting, no one has really studied it, it is really new territory,”  Dr. Ellen Braaten.

What kind of support do young adults need and how parents can play a role  -- from understanding health insurance to boiling and egg and doing laundry.  How to provide advice to adult kids without being shut out.  

“It’s a dance,” said Morin.  “One foot in and one foot out.”  She also offered the phrase, “I may not agree with you, but I support your choice,” and “You do not owe me an explanation.  When adult kids make a decision and are asking for approval - “you do not owe me an explanation.”  

List of Resources:

Adulting Made Easy on Amazon.  But check your local bookstore too.

Understood.org

Amanda Morin

Dr. Ellen Braaten

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A one minute intro to the exciting new podcast BITE YOUR TONGUE, building healthy relationships with your adult kids. We will explore that next chapter in parenting that no one thinks about. I hope you will join us! Watch for Episode I to drop soon!

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Dr. Charles Fay, CEO of Love and Logic, delivers a masterclass in parenting adult children with the perfect balance of love and accountability. Drawing from decades of experience and his family legacy in developing the Love and Logic approach, Dr. Fay shares transformative strategies that shift our focus from control to influence.

At the heart of his message lies a powerful truth: "We can never consistently work harder on somebody else's life than they are." This principle challenges us to examine our enabling behaviors masked as care and instead embrace practices that foster true independence. Through relatable scenarios—like the adult child who needs $17,000 for a truck payment or returns home to play video games on the couch—Dr. Fay demonstrates his practical five-step approach that maintains connection while respecting autonomy.

The approach begins with genuine empathy, followed by the crucial question: "What do you think you're going to do?" This simple query hands responsibility back to adult children while communicating your belief in their capability. 

When establishing boundaries with adult children living at home, Dr. Fay suggests focusing on two fundamentals: ensuring their situation doesn't interfere with their growth, and making sure their presence remains enjoyable for everyone. These boundaries, communicated with empathy and firmness, create the conditions for mutual respect and continued development.

Dr. Fay offers this memorable wisdom: "The more words I use when things are going wrong, the less effective I become." 

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This was our very first Mother''s Day episode.  I interview my two favorite moms -- Doria and Sharon, two mothers of adult daughters and now both have several grandchildren.  I watch as they continue to share with their grandchildren their magical parenting skills.

They share with us their wisdom on creating joyful, respectful relationships with grown children in this special Mother's Day episode. Their insights reveal how bringing a spirit of fun, maintaining connections across distances, and knowing when to offer advice (and when to bite your tongue) creates lasting bonds that evolve beautifully over time.

• Creating fun, joyful experiences forms lasting connections that continue into adulthood
• Modern technology like WhatsApp enables daily connection even with children living far away
• The best conversations focus on daily life details rather than major decisions or judgment
• Offering opinions rather than judgments by asking "What do you think?" after sharing your perspective
• Shifting from leader to supporter as children become adults requires patience and trust
• Wedding planning requires openness, support, and recognition that it's their special day
• Grandparenting brings immense joy while requiring respect for the new parents' choices
• The most important message to consistently convey is unconditional love and acceptance
• Our hearts remain our children's home no matter where we all physically live

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In today's episode, Dr. Gene Beresin, Executive Director of the Clay Center for Young and Healthy Minds, explores the complexities of adult children returning home and maintaining healthy relationships during life transitions. Based on four decades of experience with youth and young adults plus his personal journey as a father of four whose adult children all boomeranged at some point, he offers practical wisdom for navigating these delicate family dynamics.

Drawing on revolutionary brain science, Dr. Beresin challenges our traditional understanding of development, revealing that neurobiologically, adolescence doesn't end at 18—but continues until age 26. This critical insight reshapes how we approach relationships with young adults who are still developing the neural connections between emotional impulses and rational decision-making.

For parents navigating the return of an adult child, transparency becomes essential. Conversations about finances—typically avoided in most families—need prioritization alongside discussions about household expectations, timelines, and mutual support. "The rare family that speaks openly about money," Dr. Beresin notes, "is better equipped to navigate these transitions without resentment building." The key lies in balancing empathy for the challenges young adults face with appropriate boundaries that foster continued growth.

He also reminds us of what he calls the "oxygen mask principle"—the essential reminder that both parents and adult children must attend to their own emotional regulation and self-care before attempting to help each other. When both generations put on their metaphorical oxygen masks first, they create the foundation for authentic communication, mutual respect, and relationships that continue evolving through life's inevitable transitions.

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Today we rewind and delve into the much overlooked topic of sibling relationships.  We speak with Fern Schumer Chapman author of the book Brothers, Sisters, Strangers.  Siblings are the longest relationship we will have in our lives - and our children's.  

Whether you're navigating your own sibling estrangement or watching it develop between your children, this conversation offers both validation and practical wisdom for one of life's most painful but least discussed family challenges.  It also makes you question: "Do you have a favorite child?"

Chapman shares her personal life story that led her to write this book and highlights a number of key points:

• Sibling relationships can last 80 years, making them our longest connections
• Estrangement often occurs during "perilous moments" like marriage, having children, or parental illness
• Parental favoritism significantly contributes to sibling rifts
• The "dignity model" approach to reconciliation requires genuine listening without challenging each other's stories
• Some relationships are too toxic to repair, especially with narcissism or mental illness involved
• Birth order affects sibling dynamics and relationships
• Estrangement ripples through families as relatives often align with one sibling
• Strong sibling connections are cornerstone of emotional health, according to Harvard's longest study of well-being

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We are doing an episode rewind today on our most downloaded episode - Mothers and Daughters.  This relationship carries a unique intensity that often follows us well into adulthood. When does healthy involvement cross into control? How do we navigate the painful territory when our adult daughters push us away?

Certified life coach and mother/daughter expert Pam Tronson joins us to unravel the complicated dynamics of mother-daughter relationships with refreshing honesty. Drawing from her professional expertise and personal struggles with her own adult daughters, Pam gets straight to the heart of what makes these relationships simultaneously precious and challenging.

"We were expected to be in control," Pam explains, pinpointing why the transition to parenting adults feels so disorienting. "That was part of our job description." The expectation to curate, orchestrate, and manage gradually gives way to a new reality – watching from the sidelines as our children build independent lives. This transition feels like "jumping off a bridge" for many mothers who've built their identities around active parenting.

Most powerfully, Pam encourages mothers to take responsibility without shame: "When you own the problems, you have the power to do something about them." Her advice to ask better questions like "what else could be true?" offers a path away from defensiveness toward genuine connection.

Whether you're navigating a challenging relationship with your adult daughter or working to improve communication as an adult daughter yourself, this episode provides compassionate guidance for the journey. Subscribe and share your experiences with us – when was the last time you had to bite your tongue?

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This is one of our most popular episodes.  Join us for an insightful exploration of the evolving dynamics in parent-child relationships and the often-misunderstood in-law dynamics in our latest podcast episode featuring Rachel Haack. Rachel, a seasoned mental health clinician and mother of five, shares her wealth of knowledge on fostering healthy relationships within family systems. 

We delve into the complexities that arise when adult children forge their own paths, and how parents often grapple with the shifts in their roles. Rachel draws from her personal journey as a mother and daughter-in-law, giving listeners practical advice on how to navigate potentially rocky waters. 

Key themes include the importance of establishing relationships with in-laws that are grounded in empathy, understanding expectations, and being open to engaging in difficult conversations. We tackle the notion of ambivalence in relationships—a concept often overlooked—and the necessity of nurturing compassion amidst the chaos of family life. 

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This episode is a "must listen" for an parent of an adult child on the brink of welcoming a grandchild. 

We are thrilled to bring you a special episode with the wise and compassionate Kimberly Beppler, The Grandparent Doula.  

Kimberly enlightens us with her journey from assisting postpartum families to recognizing the irreplaceable role grandparents can play in this delicate phase. We uncover her innovative approach of crafting a "menu" of support options, ensuring grandparents provide meaningful help without stepping on toes. 

It's an episode of advice for those eager to strengthen family bonds while honoring the autonomy and boundaries of new parents.

Our conversation shifts to the fresh landscape of parenting and grandparenting, where emotional intelligence reigns supreme among millennials and Gen Z. This era demands a recalibration of old norms, as we explore the evolving expectations and challenges grandparents face today. Kimberly's insights highlight the delicate balance of offering support while respecting the independence and parenting styles of our children. Together, we navigate the fine line between being a source of wisdom and avoiding the imposition of outdated solutions, all while championing patience and empathy.

We also tackle the modern pressures surrounding parenting, with a focus on breastfeeding and the overwhelming sea of information new parents encounter. Balancing personal needs with familial responsibilities also takes center stage, as we share strategies for maintaining emotional and physical well-being, ensuring grandparents remain a vibrant and nurturing presence in the lives of their families. 

A special call out to a product we love: Curiocity Travel Guides. The greatest tool of discovery and keepsake for traveling with kiddos. Listen for more on today's episode. 

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🌟 A listener wrote to us about Tina Gilbertson, the guest in today's episode. She told us that Tina "saved her life." The pain and guilt that parents go through when estranged from their adult children is unimaginable. 

We asked Tina what really is estrangement? Is it a troubled relationship? Is it silence? "No, she said: "It could also be you talk every day. But maybe there's a constant tension, or you're always getting into little conflicts, and sometimes you go apart and have to be apart for a while, and then you come back together."  This episode is about  building a stronger and  less stressful relationship with your adult children And we all need that!

We talk about:

• Understanding the relationship between self-perception and parent-child connection
• Defining estrangement and its various forms
  • The importance of addressing emotional distances and insecurities
  • Steps to take when facing estrangement: pause, reflect, research, and reach out
• Effective methods for navigating difficult conversations
• Resources and support available through the Reconnection Club
• The ongoing journey of healing and self-improvement in parent-child dynamics

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On to today's episode:

The first hug goes to your adult child. That simple shift sets the tone for everything that follows—and it’s the heartbeat of our conversation with Donne Davis, founder of the Gaga Sisterhood, who’s spent two decades helping grandparents build steady, loving connections without overstepping. We dive into the messy, modern realities of grand-parenting—new parenting norms, gift-giving traps, long-distance heartache, and the quiet art of biting your tongue—while keeping one mission clear: protect the bond with the parents so your relationship with the grandkids can thrive.

We unpack why curiosity beats advice, offering word‑for‑word scripts that help you stay close without taking control. From the “anthropologist mindset” for approaching different sleep and feeding choices to setting gentle house rules in your own home, Donne shows how specific praise, reflective listening, and calm boundaries earn trust. We also explore the maternal vs. paternal grandparent dynamic, how to handle in‑law tensions, and why sustainable gifting and secondhand finds can align beautifully with younger parents’ values.

Donne shares her L‑O‑V‑E framework and book - When Grand-parenting Isn't So Grand. 

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This is a very special episode for a couple of reasons. First, we’re thrilled to finally interview Dr. Ellen Braaten, the podcast's original co-host, about her incredible book, Bright Kids Who Couldn’t Care Less. It’s a great conversation. 

Second keep listening to find out big news about the podcast

But the conversation today is about rekindling your child’s motivation, and the tools she shares work wonders for any age group.

As parents of adult children, many of us wonder if our kids are truly living up to their potential—or if we’re just looking at it through our own expectations. That’s the heart of today’s conversation. 

Here are some highlights of today's episode:

🌟 "Parenting isn't over." Braaten reminds us that our role as parents continues even as our kids grow up. Braaten shares invaluable insights on understanding our kids' unique strengths and how to support them in finding their passions.

🤔 Are you worried about your adult child's lack of motivation? We discuss signs to look for and how to approach these sensitive conversations. 

💬 "Life is a puzzle, and we put pieces in the puzzle." Discover how to help your kids find their passion and purpose. 

🤔 Are you worried about your adult child’s lack of motivation? Braaten discusses the signs to look for and when to seek professional help. It's crucial to recognize the difference between typical struggles and deeper issues that may need attention.

 🎓 College isn't the only path! Braaten encourages parents to embrace diverse career choices and to support their kids in exploring what truly brings them joy, whether that's a trade, a creative pursuit, or something else entirely.

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Today we speak with Karen Denison Clark as she courageously recounts her journey from being a young tennis star victimized by her coach, to becoming a fearless advocate against sexual abuse.

Her narrative, shared through powerful media outlets, including The New York Times, serves not only as a beacon of hope for survivors but also as a call to action for creating environments where victims feel safe to voice their experiences.

By establishing a foundation of trust and openness, parents can create a safe space for their children to express their feelings and experiences, should they choose to do so.  Highlights:

• Why it is not too late to talk to your adult children now
• The impact of repressed memories and the journey to recovery 
• Encouraging open communication about uncomfortable topics 
• Tips for parents on initiating conversations with adult children 
• Advocating for awareness and change regarding sexual abuse policies 
• The importance of believing survivors and nurturing their voices 
• Fostering a supportive environment for future generations
• The surprising rules at Colleges and Universities that still allow relationships between coaches, professors and other people in positions of leadership with students.  Read Karen's OP-ED here. 

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Are you missing the signs?  Do you really know how your adult child feels and are you ready to begin to mend a fractured relationship?   In this episode, we sit down with Sally Harris, to explore the nuances of maintaining strong, healthy relationships with adult children. From navigating differing values to addressing estrangement, Sally shares practical advice and strategies for parents striving to build deeper connections while respecting boundaries.

Here are some of the things we discuss:

1. Recognizing the Parent-Child Dynamic 
2. Prioritizing Self-Care
3. Mastering Effective Communication
4. Offering Support Without Judgment 
5. Embracing Differing Values
6. Focusing on Your Role

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In this episode, we explore the joys and challenges of visits with adult children, whether during the holidays or throughout the year. Our guests,  Pamela Heckelman, a certified Empty Nest coach, and Rabbi Schlomo Slotkin a seasoned relationship counselor, share their expertise on building stronger, more fulfilling connections with adult children.

How can parents create a welcoming home environment while prioritizing their own emotional well-being? They offer invaluable tips on balancing self-care with the temporary chaos of family gatherings. We discuss the surprising reappearance of teenage behaviors and provide strategies for handling these moments with grace and patience.

As the family gathering time approaches, managing expectations is more critical than ever. We delve into the art of flexibility, open communication, and adapting traditions to reduce stress and foster joy. Together, we explore how parents can find fulfillment in simple, meaningful moments while letting go of unnecessary pressures to truly enjoy the holiday spirit.

We talk about the importance of respecting adult children’s autonomy and maintaining a united front with your partner. By setting healthy boundaries and practicing non-judgmental communication, parents can nurture relationships that thrive beyond holiday visits. 

Join us for this insightful conversation, packed with practical tools to enrich your family gatherings and strengthen relationships with your adult children.
Also a free book download from Pamela: Your Kids are Grown: Now What?

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Today we discuss the circle of life and explore the emotional and delicate balance of caregiving.  For most of us we will be caregivers to our spouse, parents or even our children. And at some point, our own children will be our caregivers.  We are lucky to have two guests.  The first is Dana Eble, who has  been involved in Alzheimer’s disease philanthropy for more than a decade, which led her to being one of the first employees at Alzheimer’s Caregivers Network in 2021. Dana works to educate and equip caregivers with the knowledge and resources they need to excel in their roles while avoiding burnout.

Joining Dana is Jessica Smith. Dana shares her own story of her mother being diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease the age of 61.  She remembers wanting to hide. She felt shame and fear as her family’s world and daily realities changed.

You'll discover how mindfulness became Jessica's anchor in managing her responsibilities and learn about the essential resource, "Navigating Alzheimer's Disease: A Map for Caregivers," available as a free PDF for anyone on a similar path.

We dive into the tough conversations that many of us avoid, yet are necessary when dealing with dementia—like preparing for end-of-life discussions and challenging the often grim societal perceptions around the disease.

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Prepare to gain invaluable insights into the intricate dynamics of family relationships as we chat with Rachel Haack, a seasoned mental health clinician, mother, and daughter-in-law. We discuss everything from daughter-in-law issues, being a good mother-in-law, grandparent and we even have a poll our guest is going to share about what bugs young adults the most about us - and vise-versa!

Rachel opens up about her early conflicts with her mother-in-law, offering vital lessons on empathy, understanding different perspectives, and the power of effective communication in mending strained family ties.

We also discuss the high expectations often placed on mothers and the need for them to adapt as their children grow into independent adults. Rachel’s journey provides a blueprint for navigating and healing complex familial relationships, even when they start off on the wrong foot.

We explore grand parenting and  identify common pitfalls such as criticism, discipline, and favoritism, emphasizing the importance of offering advice only when asked and keeping a balanced perspective on grandchildren’s strengths.

Rachel shares strategies for initiating open dialogues and handling silent treatment, as well as the importance of self-soothing and emotional regulation. We examine the balance parents need to strike between maintaining their sense of self while being open to feedback from their children. This episode is packed with practical advice on addressing past conflicts, avoiding common communication pitfalls like stonewalling and passive aggressiveness, and nurturing healthier parent-child relationships in an age where social media influences are ever-present.

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How do we transform our parenting roles as our children become young adults?
Today we speak with Julie Lythcott-Hames, former Stanford University dean and bestselling author of "How to Raise an Adult" and "Your Turn." Joined by guest co-host Erica Gardner-Gray, we unravel the complexities of modern parenting, addressing societal pressures and the myth of effortless achievement.

As a parent herself, Lythcott-Haims acknowledges that parenting young adults is a continuous learning process. Despite her credentials and expertise, she humbly admits that she is still figuring things out and undoing patterns in her own journey. She encourages listeners not to interpret her words as criticism but rather as lessons learned from her own experiences.

We examine the long-term effects of over-involvement on millennials and Gen Z. From helicopter parenting to the financial and emotional implications of extended adolescence, we tackle the difficult dynamics that parents face today. Strategies are offered for navigating this terrain, highlighting the importance of finding a delicate balance between supporting and enabling, and the necessity of preparing young adults to fend for themselves in an increasingly complex world.

We discuss practical steps for supporting young adults, emphasizing the value of allowing them to learn from their challenges and lead their own lives. 

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Should you be involved in your adult child's dating life?  Listen and find out.

Discover the art of balancing parental involvement in your adult children's dating lives as we bring you insights from the esteemed matchmaker, Rachel Greenwald.

Our conversation takes a deep dive into the ever-evolving dating landscape, where technology and social media have turned dating into a skill that requires finesse and caution. Hear how the priorities of marriage and career are shifting among young adults, as highlighted by a compelling New York Times article.

The pandemic has left an indelible mark on dating behaviors, encouraging a shift towards meaningful connections over superficial interactions. We explore how family dynamics play a pivotal role in shaping romantic relationships and the importance of having open, constructive conversations about your child's partner choices. From the influence of family backgrounds to the art of effective communication, this episode is a treasure trove of insights for anyone navigating the complex world of modern dating.

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Unlock the secrets to fostering resilient and independent adult children with Dr. Charles Fay, co-founder and CEO of Love and Logic. We promise you'll gain actionable insights into shifting your parental role from caretaker to supportive guide, helping your children thrive as self-reliant individuals. Dr. Fay uncovers the pitfalls of parental guilt and codependency, offering practical strategies to empower your adult children to take charge of their own lives.

Ever wondered how to offer advice without taking over? Dr. Fay enlightens us on presenting choices without overwhelming, allowing your children to make informed decisions and grow from their mistakes. We explore the importance of effective communication, the power of empathy, and why sometimes saying less can mean more. Through engaging role-plays and real-life examples, discover the fine line between helping and enabling, ensuring your children develop the critical thinking and resilience necessary for adulthood.

Finally, learn how to set boundaries that foster mutual respect and independence. Dr. Fay shares his personal experiences and wisdom from his upcoming book on Raising Mentally Strong Kids.  This episode is packed with profound advice on maintaining a balanced household where both parents and adult children can flourish. Join us for a thought-provoking journey into the heart of parenting adult children with love and logic.

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Ever wondered how to better support your millennial children without overstepping? Tess Brigham, renowned as the "millennial therapist," joins us to share her unique journey from the glitz of Hollywood to the fulfilling world of psychotherapy. Discover her expert insights into fostering independence in young adults by encouraging them to solve their own problems, rather than simply handing them solutions. Tess's approach is all about guiding questions that empower young people to navigate their own challenges confidently.

Tess helps us unearth the pressures millennials face today, from social media comparisons to the looming "30 under 30" lists. We discuss the anxiety that accompanies unmet milestones and the fear of future failure, drawing intriguing parallels to the concerns faced by people in their sixties. Learn how to build trust in oneself through life transitions and the essential role parents play in this process, all while avoiding the trap of enabling. Tess sheds light on the evolving attitudes toward mental health among younger generations and the impact of technology on their work-life boundaries.

Get ready for practical, heartfelt advice on how to provide emotional support to your adult children. Tess emphasizes the power of supportive texts and acknowledging efforts in boosting confidence and happiness. We tackle the complexities of work-life balance, especially in a world where constant connectivity blurs the lines between professional and personal life. Gain valuable strategies for setting boundaries, achieving financial independence, and embracing generational differences in career expectations.

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What if the words you use to show love are the very ones your adult child hears as judgment? That tension—care that lands as critique—drives so many family conflicts, and Deborah Tannen gives us the language map to change it.

We sit down with the Georgetown linguist and bestselling author to explore conversational style, meta-messages, and the subtle ways timing, tone, and turn‑taking shape intimacy at home. 

Tannen shares vivid stories—from “Do you like your hair that long?” to car‑ride silences—that reveal how message and meta‑message diverge, why “helpful” advice stings, and how indirect questions can be invitations to co‑decide rather than games to decode. We trace the fault lines of gendered talk, where solutions collide with “troubles talk,” and show practical scripts to ask consent before giving feedback, translate intent across styles, and keep curiosity alive without sounding intrusive.

We also dig into complementary schismogenesis—the spiral where differences push each other to extremes—and how to stop the chase/withdraw dance by adjusting cadence and expectations. Birth order roles resurface in adulthood, turning firstborn competence into control and younger resistance into reflex; naming those roles loosens their grip. Tannen’s take on apologies is both moving and actionable: why impact matters more than defense, how a simple acknowledgment can heal years of hurt, and why late‑life apologies carry disproportionate power. Along the way we address the “big three” hot zones—hair, clothes, weight—plus social media’s sting of exclusion, and we offer boundary phrases that preserve both bond and autonomy.

If you’ve ever thought, “I was just caring,” while someone heard, “You’re not enough,” this conversation offers clear tools to bridge the gap. Listen, share with your family, and try one shift this week: ask before advising, label your intent, or offer a four‑part apology. 

This conversation is filled with insights that can help you strengthen your most important relationships. You may also enjoy this Youtube video of a talk Dr. Tannen gave in Amsterdam highlighting the conversational differences between men and women.  We found it fascinating. 

🎧 Listen now and join us in exploring the power of language, connection, and understanding.

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Would you like to unlock the secrets to building deeper, more rewarding relationships with your adult children?

Join us in this BONUS episode rewind for a compelling conversation with Dr. Ruth Nemzoff, author of "Don't Bite Your Tongue: How to Foster Rewarding Relationships with Your Adult Family." 

Ruth shares her invaluable insights on transitioning from a central role in your children's lives to finding a new way to connect as they gain independence. We explore the delicate balance of offering advice without alienating your adult children and the nuances of maintaining a loving and supportive relationship through thoughtful and timely communication.

We tackle the practicalities and emotional challenges of redefining relationships when adult children return home or continue living at home. Learn essential strategies for setting clear expectations, negotiating roles, and offering the right kind of support. We delve into real-life scenarios to provide actionable advice on balancing household responsibilities, encouraging independence, and fostering mutual respect. Gain a deeper understanding of evolving social norms around intergenerational living and the importance of self-awareness in navigating these new dynamics.

Finally, we venture into the realm of communication and boundaries, offering insights on how to navigate relationships with in-laws and manage family dynamics. Discover the power of open communication, humor, and positivity in diffusing tension and enhancing connections. Ruth's wisdom reminds us that while relationships are inherently imperfect, thoughtful communication and a willingness to understand different family cultures can transform friction into closeness. Tune in for personal anecdotes, practical advice, and a heartfelt discussion on maintaining harmony and intimacy within your family.

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Another listener favorite! Today we discuss the sometimes difficult, yet rewarding relationships between mothers and daughters. We speak with Pam Tronson, parenting coach with a special certification in mother/daughter relationships. 

The connection between a mother and daughter is one of the strongest and most important family relationships. Accepting that it can be difficult and messy is key to being able to navigate the highs and lows. Bound by love we are often disappointed when our adult relationships with our daughters don’t meet the dream we had for that relationship. 

Pam offers solutions to help us let go of control and worry and avoid resentment. She discusses how the shame we feel, and the perceived “failed” relationship can get in the way of the repair that is needed.

Resolution only requires one person to change the trajectory of the relationship. And showing one another that they are worth the effort is impactful.

Beyond the personal stories and emotional shifts, Pam also discusses broader societal influences that affect motherhood. She addresses issues like parental anxiety, control, entitlement, and the normalization of worry. Highlighting the necessity of empathy and understanding different perspectives, Pam teaches us how redefining love and setting healthy boundaries can break the cycle of negative self-narratives. This episode is a treasure trove of heartfelt guidance, practical advice, and emotional support for anyone looking to navigate the complex, yet beautiful, bond between mothers and daughters.

Learning to practice self-care and to love yourself is the key to setting the necessary boundaries to build better, more meaningful relationships with our daughters. 

It's always a good idea to listen again!

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Ever felt the sting of disappointment when your adult children don't quite live up to your dreams for them? Join us in a special rewind episode where we sit down with the insightful Jane Adams, PhD, author of "When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us."  Jane unpacks the emotional rollercoaster that many parents experience, offering her personal story and expert advice for letting go and allowing children to grow into their unique identities. Her years as a social psychologist and parent coach shine through, providing listeners with practical strategies to foster authentic and loving relationships with their adult kids.

We also tackle the heavy burden of parental guilt, especially in extreme situations like incarceration or drug addiction. We delve into the difference between guilt and regret, encouraging parents to support their children healthily without being consumed by unwarranted guilt. Setting boundaries and providing structured support are key themes as we also touch on the complexities of financial support and sibling rivalry. We wrap up by engaging our listeners for feedback and suggestions, stressing the importance of open communication within families. Tune in for a comforting and enlightening episode that promises to reshape your perspective on parenting adult children.

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We are answering your questions!  When our inbox fills with numerous questions on a particular topic from listeners, we know it's time for a dedicated podcast episode addressing those questions.  However, not every query requires a full episode but each deserves an insightful answer. In this special installment, we've compiled questions from you—our listeners via email and social media—and provided answers that we hope will resonate with many.

In this episode, we cover:

• Building strong bonds despite time and distance challenges.
• Navigating generational expectations and enhancing communication skills.
• Establishing healthy boundaries during divorce to support children without overstepping.
• Exploring how motivational interviewing techniques can empower adult children facing their own challenges.
• Addressing sibling estrangement and more.

We conclude with heartfelt discussions and actionable advice aimed at fostering stronger, healthier family relationships.

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In this episode we talk to Francine Russo, Francine Russo, a renowned journalist and author of "Love After 50: How to Find It, Enjoy It, and Keep It." 

Francine shares her personal journey through widowhood and divorce, and the unique advantages of finding love later in life. She says new love in later years is the best love. Listen and find out why.

Merging families in adulthood, also known as adult stepfamilies or later lifestyle families, can be challenging.  Some say it can take up to five years to create harmony, and that the divorce rate is higher for people who marry a second time. 

Then there are the issues of pre-nuptials, estate planning and making sure your children are not left of the mix. This tends to be even more challenging with a second marriage, especially if you both have children from previous marriages or relationships. 

We talk bout the legalities to consider prior to plunging into a second marriage. A significant difference in age and financial resources can also cause difficulties and potential delays. However, the consequences of avoiding this conversation are even more dire in a blended family because laws affecting estate distribution have been written to better fit the needs of a traditional first marriage.

We also talk about how to approach the sensitive topics of dating and divorce with your adult children and practical tips on when to introduce your new partner.

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We delve into the world of pregnancy and fertility challenges that our young adult children are facing. With couples taking longer to marry or start families, this has become a significant issue for young adults, and as parents, it’s crucial for us to understand the landscape. A listener reached out to request an exploration of this topic, so we invited Elizabeth King, a Certified Life Coach specializing in Fertility, Miscarriage, and New Mom Support, to join us. Elizabeth, a proud IVF warrior and mother of three children born after age 40, brings invaluable insights and experience to the conversation.

We discuss:

• Options for Young Couples: Our guest highlights that while the expenses can be significant, many companies offer partial coverage, and there are also grants and resources available. You can find more information and resources here.
• Miscarriage and Infertility: We dive into the emotional and psychological impacts of miscarriage and infertility.  We also discuss how we can be supportive.
• Finding Trustworthy Care
• Advances in Science.

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What if simply engaging in thoughtful conversations could transform your understanding of the LGBTQIA+ community? In our latest episode of Bite Your Tongue, we celebrate Pride Month with the Emmy-nominated Matthew Rodriguez, the insightful host and executive producer of "It's Okay to Ask Questions."

Through heartfelt narratives and candid discussions, we unravel the complexities surrounding pronoun respect, gender identity, and the often-overlooked struggles of intersex and transgender individuals. Hear the poignant story of Pidgeon Pigonas, an intersex individual subjected to surgeries without consent, and understand the far-reaching implications for intersex and transgender rights.

We also explore the evolving role of parents in supporting their children's diverse dreams and aspirations. Reflecting on personal experiences and shared stories, we highlight the importance of allyship, education, and vocal support in creating a more inclusive environment.  Tune in to learn how to engage in meaningful conversations and build stronger, more understanding relationships with your adult children.

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What happens when your sweet, funny, smart, enthusiastic child turns out to have a mental illness? Where do you go for help? Who do you turn to for advice? And what if those institutions and experts fail you and more importantly, fail your young adult? What happens when everywhere you look for help or support you come up disappointed and alone? 

In today’s episode we hear from a couple whose family, much like any of ours, has been turned upside down because of a drastic change in their son’s mental health, subsequent drug issues, and the failure of our mental health systems that we assume are trained well enough to handle these challenges.

It is a silent struggle we bring a voice to today.   The Holtons bear their souls, recounting their son Patrick's descent from youthful athleticism to one ensnared by the clutches of dextromethorphan abuse.  Sometimes called Robo-Tripping.  The drug of choice is Robitussin, easily accessible over the counter to just about anyone.

Their narrative addresses the sometimes treacherous waters of the healthcare system, the cold reality of guardianship rights, and the isolation that so often accompanies mental health crises.

The Holten share their story in hopes that it will help other families with a young adult facing similar challenges.  They suggest support networks such as NAMI and and the necessity of perseverance when confronting mental illness and substance abuse. 

Their experiences shed light on the significance of seeking the right medical advice, staying the course despite heartbreak, and cherishing the moments of joy amidst the pain. 

Links: https://www.nami.org

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This episode will defy nearly everything we've talked about over the past few years.

Our guest Jeffrey Arnett, Ph.D is renowned for proposing coined the theory and term “emerging adult” in the early 2000’s.   He characterizes this stage of life by exploration, instability, and boundless optimism.

But when we talk about technology, sex, and societal patterns he outwardly rejects much of the current research and tells us why. 

We take a look at how things have changed since his original book in 2013 Getting to 30: A Parent’s Guide to the 20-Something Years to his latest book Emerging Adulthood: The Winding Road from Late Teens Through the Twenties. 

 What we talk about:

Significant changes that have occurred over the past decade. We tackle the topic of sex and how the current generation's approach to it has evolved. 

We get to the digital world and how completely disagrees with much of the so-called research and its lack of firm causation results.

He also offers some advice for staying connected to your young adults and leaves us with an optimistic view.

He discusses the historical pattern of societal issues and how they played out in past generations (including ours!)

And we touch on our grandchildren’s generation and the recent Los Angeles Times article “Millennials Gave Birth to ‘Generation Alpha.’ Are these kids already doomed?” 

Our takeaway is that maybe we shouldn’t be so quick to stereotype any generation. Maybe we allow them to come out of the emerging adulthood stage as fully realized adults and they will prove all the naysayers wrong. 

Listen and let us know what you think.

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When we think of Mother's Day, we often envision breakfast in bed or a sweet card, but the truth is, the gifts that mothers cherish most are the bonds they share with their children, no matter their age. 

That is what we hear today from our guests. Mary Dell Harrington and Lisa Heffernan. They are the founders of Grown & Flown, the very popular website and social media stops. Together, we unpack the transition from managing a bustling household to adapting to an 'empty nest', and how this shift doesn't mean the end of parenting, but the beginning of a new chapter.

We get a behind the scenes look at how they started, what is the most valuable advice they've learned and what they see on the horizon.

We talk about so much including:

• Adapting different strategies for each child's unique needs
• Significance of Mother's Day to many and how to set clear expectations
• Multi-generation living and why taking the failure out of "failure to launch" is so important
• How the pandemic has re-shaped our understanding of family living situations.
• Complexities of financial support and how to handle it
• Spirituality, mental health and so much more.

Grown and Flown Links

Link here for College Admissions: Grown and Flown membership helps parents through the college admissions process. Sign up for theirnewsletter here.  Link here to join their community o parents of teens, college students, young adults. 

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Relationship and Friendship expert Shasta Nelson shares powerful insights on transforming parent-adult child relationships and building meaningful connections throughout life.

Emphasizing her Friendship Triangle framework of positivity, consistency, and vulnerability.

1.     The Triangle of Healthy Relationships : Shasta introduces a powerful framework for understanding relationships, which consists of three essential components: positivity, consistency, and vulnerability. To foster a strong connection with our adult children, we need to ensure that our interactions are filled with positive emotions, that we spend consistent time together, and that we allow ourselves to be vulnerable. This triangle is not just applicable to parent-child relationships but can also enhance our friendships and other connections in life.

2.     The Importance of Vulnerability : One of the most profound insights from our conversation is the idea that vulnerability is a gift we can give to our children. By opening up about our own experiences, regrets, and feelings, we create a safe space for them to share their own thoughts and emotions. Shasta emphasizes that it’s crucial for parents to ask their adult children about their childhood experiences and to listen without being defensive. This kind of openness can lead to healing and a deeper understanding of each other.

3.     Building Our Own Support Systems : As parents, it’s easy to become overly focused on our relationships with our children, sometimes to the detriment of our own well-being. Shasta reminds us that cultivating our friendships is essential for our happiness and health. By prioritizing our own social connections, we not only enrich our lives but also become better equipped to support our children. After all, a fulfilled parent can foster a more positive and nurturing environment for their kids.

I truly believe that this episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the challenges of parenting adult children or looking to strengthen their friendships. Join us as we explore these themes and more! 🎧💖

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