Your teenager pulling away from you is normal, and it’s a sign their brain is doing exactly what it’s supposed to do. In the teen years, your child’s job is to build an identity outside your family, and their brain is wired to care far more about social safety than physical safety or future success.
Your job is to stay calm, be available but not needy, listen without fixing, and hold clear rules without lectures. The way you handle these years is what sets up a good relationship with your young adult later.
You’ll Learn:
- Why your teen cares more about their friends than their grades (and why that’s developmentally right on track)
- Why your teen shuts down after school, and how to give them the decompression time they need
- How to listen to your teen’s problems without rescuing, fixing, or falling apart
- Why adolescence is like making a cake
Parenting teens is so, so hard. But as a mom who is now on the other side, with young adult children I have a really good relationship with, I can tell you that a lot of what makes that relationship work now came from choices I made during the teen years.
In today’s episode, I’ll help you understand what’s happening in your teen’s brain so you can give them the support they need and stay connected, even as you let go of control.
Read the full show notes here.
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