“Sexual shame causes profound wounding in people’s lives, because it hurts in their ability to do attachment, to give love, and to receive love. They don’t believe they are fundamentally worthy of love, and so they put up a mask. So if somebody loves them, they think that they couldn’t possibly love me if they knew who I was. So that love doesn’t get in.And then, the loving coming out is behind this mask, like, I’m going to do what I think you want me to do.
It affects our ability to do attachment. And as a human one of my core desires is to be seen. known, loved, and accepted. And this interrupts that, at every level.”
Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is a licensed sex and gender feminist psychotherapist, best-selling author, researcher, emeriti professor, and media personality whose expertise spans sex therapy, spiritual intimacy, parenting, medicine, and social justice. Her revolutionary perspectives have been expressed on platforms such as Spirituality & Health, Refinery 29, Vocal, Medium, and Bust Magazines, along with many podcast, radio, news, and TV outlets. Known for exposing the impact of patriarchy and sexual shame on our ability to securely attach to our partners, and instruct our children to attach to theirs, Dr. Sellers’ book Sex, God, & the Conservative Church – Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy has had a global impact. Her latest book, Shameless Parenting – Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident, Kids and Heal Your Shame Too! was a New Release Bestseller in eight categories. She speaks throughout the world on how to heal, and how to raise shame-free relationally confident children. In 2015, Dr. Sellers founded the Northwest Institute on Intimacy, a post-graduate institute to train psychotherapists, educators, clergy, and physicians in sexual health, healing sexual shame and trauma, and understanding their sexual biases. In 2023, Dr. Tina founded InannaRising.org - A private membership community for psychedelic assisted therapists and medical providers to get ongoing clinical consultation, collaboration, training, and support in creating scholarships for the under resourced, and participation in an indigenous reparation fund.
Dr. Tina’s websites and social media:
https://www.instagram.com/drtinashameless/
https://www.instagram.com/inanna_rising_pat/
https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/
https://inannarising.org/
Shameless Parenting: https://www.amazon.ca/Shameless-Parenting-Everything-Shame-free-Confident/dp/B0BZF5865H/
Sex God and the Conservative Church: https://www.amazon.ca/Sex-God-Conservative-Church-Intimacy-ebook/dp/B07252M2H2
Reference: Audre Lorde reads Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic As Power https://youtu.be/aWmq9gw4Rq0?si=HopYif_ttLzfBosv
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