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Alonement

Francesca Specter

Société & Culture

Fréquence : 1 épisode/20j. Total Éps: 98

Alonement is a podcast about the positive side of spending time alone. When being alone isn't lonely, it's alonement: finding joy and value in solitude. Each week, host Francesca Specter asks a new guest about the time they spend by themselves – and why it matters to them.

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Strengthen Your Solitude Skills, with Thuy-vy Nguyen

Saison 10 · Épisode 3

lundi 30 juin 2025 • Durée 40:03

This week's guest, Thuy-vy Nguyen, PhD, is one of the world’s leading researchers on solitude, and an associate professor at Durham University’s dedicated research lab, Solitude Lab. Her interest is in ‘ordinary, everyday life solitude’, the kind you’re more likely to find in the corner of a cafe than on a 10-day silent meditation retreat. It’s solitude in moderation – or what we on this podcast like to call alonement.

This episode is an edifying exploration of the latest in solitude research, from how the experience of being alone affects our mental state to the pros and cons of labelling yourself an introvert/extrovert. We also talk about solitude skills, and how almost anyone can get better at it – no matter how much they hate it to begin with.

You can find out more about Thuy-vy’s brilliant work on the Solitude Lab website. Meanwhile, stay in touch with me on Instagram @chezspecter and on Substack – francescaspecter.substack.com

Referenced in the show:

Solitude: Seeking Wisdom in Extremes - A Year Alone in the Patagonia Wilderness by Robert Kull

Solitude: In Pursuit of a Singular Life in a Crowded World by Michael Harris

Solitude Skills and the Private Self – Research paper authored by Virginia Thomas

A Room of One’s Own by Virginia Woolf

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How to Cook for One, with Eleanor Wilkinson

Saison 10 · Épisode 2

lundi 23 juin 2025 • Durée 44:20

Struggle to cook for one? We've got you - our guest Eleanor Wilkinson, recipe developer and author of One Pot, One Portion, has dedicated her career to overcoming some of the most common hurdles people face when cooking solo. Inspired by losing her father at a young age, Eleanor resolved to seize life's simple pleasures and make every moment count, including the meals she ate alone. Trained at Ballymaloe cookery school, she turned her skillset towards the oft-neglected territory of single portion meals. From her special take on lasagne for one to her innovative ways to use up a pack of tortillas when it's 'just you', this episode combines practical advice with a continuous love letter to the joy that is nurturing yourself, stomach and soul, in your alonement. Nigella Lawson's a fan, and you will be too after tuning into this episode. Why not leave a review to let us know what you thought?

If you'd like to follow Eleanor's solo cooking adventures, her book One Pot, One Portion is out now, while she's on Instagram at @eleanorgwilkinson. She also regularly updates her website, eleanorgwilkinson.com, with new recipes.

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Thomas Curran: The Dark Side of Perfectionism

Saison 9 · Épisode 1

mardi 21 novembre 2023 • Durée 43:39

'That's the root of perfectionism: that chronic deficit thinking, the belief that we're not good enough. That we're not attractive enough, smart enough, fit enough, whatever it might be. In order to compensate for those feelings, we project on to the world a perfect persona that we feel like everybody wants to see – that we should be, essentially. And it's exhausting if you have to keep that up in every single interaction.'

Welcome back to another season of Alonement. My first guest on this season is Dr Thomas Curran, a world leading expert on perfectionism and the author of The Perfection Trap: The Power Of Good Enough In A World That Always Wants More. Endorsed by the likes of Adam Grant and, more recently, Gwyneth Paltrow, The Perfection Trap is the culmination of years of academic research, interwoven with other expert voices, and as well as being rooted in academia it’s also chatty, engaging and honest, which was not something I expected from an academic text. In this conversation, we chat about the relationship between alone time and perfectionism. This includes how solitude can sometimes be used as a space to recover from perfectionism, for practising a hobby that you’re not, technically, very good at – purely for the joy of it. But also the danger of bringing your own perfectionist tendencies along, like trying to get a PB every time you go for a solo run. We also touch on the potential loneliness of relocating you have to do as an academic professor – or any lifestyle, like digital nomadism, that involves rootlessness and moving around a lot. Finally, we discuss how time outside – specifically cycling in nature – is Thom’s favourite kind of alonement, and how sometimes finding joy in solitude can come to our rescue in our lowest moments.

Thank you to our season sponsor Sensate, a palm-sized infrasonic stress and anti-anxiety device. Visit getsensate.com/alonement for 10% off your first device (you can also use the code ALONEMENT at checkout).

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Vex King: How To Practise Self-Love Through Your Actions

Saison 8 · Épisode 9

jeudi 17 août 2023 • Durée 49:48

You can’t really love anyone until you love yourself. While we see this a lot on Instagram, it’s something that actually requires a lot of exploration – and it’s my guest this week, the bestselling author and mind coach Vex King, that many of us have turned to over the past few years to teach us the true power of self-love, through his books, first in 2018’s Good Vibes, Good Life and later in 2021’s Healing is the New High. Now, Vex is back with his new title – Closer To Love – an essential guide to bringing those lessons into dating and romantic relationships. In this episode, he shares a little sample platter of that wisdom. We discuss everything from how Vex’s difficult upbringing made him the person he is today - how he’s navigated what he calls the verb, or action, that is love, in his own relationship with his wife. Finally, a fresh approach to self-love: how to demonstrate it to yourself through actions, and how to self-love if you’re looking for a relationship but haven’t found one yet.

We discuss, among other things:

Vex’s understanding of love as something that exists ‘within you’ [5:31]
How self-love can help us identify healthy relationship dynamics [7:58]
‘Healing’ in a relationship versus outside of a relationship [15:25]
The distinction between ‘mature’ and ‘immature’ love [25:32]
How to show yourself love through your actions [30:30]
Vex’s journey towards self-acceptance after being bullied for his voice [40:23]
Why daily meditation is Vex’s alonement [48:02]

Cultural references from our conversation:

The concept of immature versus mature love, originating in Eric Fromm’s book The Art of Loving
‘Knowing how to be solitary is central to the art of loving’, a quote from bell hooks’ All About Love
‘You can’t heal what you don’t reveal’, from the song ‘Kill Jay-Z’ by Jay-Z

You can purchase all of Vex King’s books from

Ruby Warrington: My Marriage Wouldn't Work With Children

Saison 8 · Épisode 8

jeudi 10 août 2023 • Durée 49:15

My guest this week is Women Without Kids author, Ruby Warrington. We're are at a fascinating time in history – where, both in the UK, US, and across almost every developed nation like Switzerland, Italy, Japan and South Korea, adults are having children later in life – or, indeed, not at all. While statistics vary, it is a recognised trend – and that trend is relevant to all of us whether we have children now or in the future, or don’t. Author Ruby Warrington, for this week’s episode, has tackled that subject in her latest book, Women Without Kids – a timely non-fiction investigation into what it means to be, as it says on the tin, a woman without children today, with the help of expert insights from philosophers, anthropologists, social scientists and other writers. This is naturally a topic that lends itself an alonement slant, too – we all know that parenthood isn’t exactly famed for its abundant alone time, but what about a life, and heterosexual relationship, that takes place without it? Ruby, who is now in her mid-forties and has been with her husband Simon for over 20 years, shares the answers to that question, and many more – offering so many insightful perspectives into being childfree by choice.

We discuss, among other things:

Why alone, for Ruby, means ‘sovereignty’ [3:57]
The value of having strong connections in your life as insurance against loneliness [8:30]
The link between Ruby’s introversion and her choice to be childfree [11:54]
Why alone time is important in Ruby’s marriage [15:04]
How Ruby envied her father’s lifestyle growing up [21:39]
Ruby’s experience of abortion [29:32]
When Ruby questioned whether she did want kids [35:09]
Chosen families and ‘other mothers’ [39:18]
What Ruby gained through the process of writing her latest book
Ruby’s favourite kind of alone time [47:47]

You can purchase Women Without Kids from all good bookshops, and online.

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Donna Lancaster: Alone Is Where I Meet Myself

Saison 8 · Épisode 7

jeudi 3 août 2023 • Durée 49:56

Donna Lancaster is a coach and therapist, best known as the co-creator of The Bridge, a retreat designed to help attendees navigate grief and loss, and the author of a book of the same name. More recently, Donna has published a pocket book called Wise Words for Women, full of advice on how to live a rewarding, connected life. I know we hear a lot of these buzzwords like authenticity and pain, but equally I think what a lot of us are searching for day to day is that person who emanates gentle, universal wisdom, that comforting phrase that catches you at the right time. Donna refers to herself as a ‘trainee elder’, and to those she touches with her work, that’s what she is. This is a conversation about how to find wonder and creativity in alone time; how to connect with nature; and just generally how to find a bit more joy in our lives.

We discuss, among other things:

Why Donna feels most authentic when she is alone [3:53]
Donna’s struggle with loneliness growing up [6:31]
How Donna’s relationship with nature makes her feel more connected to the world [12:!6]
Are you a mountain person, a sea person or a forest person? Donna believes we all have a ‘natural leaning’ [19:08]
How to have a ‘Date with Wonder’ [24:40]
Why wealth can make you feel lonelier, according to Donna [28:39]
Is loneliness something we should accept in our lives? [39:30]
Donna’s love of colouring books as an alone time activity [45:19]

You can purchase Donna’s latest book, Wise Words for Women, now online and in bookstores.

Subscribe to my weekly email newsletter at francescaspecter.substack.com to follow my personal writing plus podcast bonus content.

You can also order my book, Alonement: How To Be Alone and Absolutely Own It, which is based on this very podcast, now from Amazon, and .

Naoise Dolan: Autism, (Un)happy Couples & The Joy Of Being A Foreigner

Saison 8 · Épisode 6

jeudi 27 juillet 2023 • Durée 42:10

This week’s guest is author Naoise Dolan. I am absolutely thrilled to have Naoise on this season – she’s widely consider of the millennial generation’s most talented writers, ever since her Sunday Times bestseller debut novel Exciting Times was published in 2020. It’s currently being adapted into an Amazon Studios TV production starring Phoebe Dynevor. We’re here to discuss her hotly anticipated follow up book, The Happy Couple, which is a sort of anti-rom counting down to the wedding of a boy and girl who probably shouldn’t get married. During this recording, we chat about Naoise’s experiences of being an expat in Berlin – where she’s lived less than a year. Fans of Naoise, who is originally from Dublin, will know that she is no stranger to the experience of living abroad – her first book, Exciting Times, was heavily inspired by her own expat experience living in Hong Kong, while she’s also lived in Singapore and Italy. From an alone time perspective, this is an interesting position to be in – and Naoise describes how this sense of being a foreigner has enabled some of the incredibly perceptive social observation in her writing. We also discuss Naoise’s autism diagnosis, and how it might or might not reflect itself in her writing – plus, whether framing writing as ‘neurodivergent’ is useful in the first place. I found Naoise incredibly thoughtful and intelligent – she has a dark sense of humour, which I really appreciate, and she has one of the best laughs I’ve ever heard on this podcast. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did.

We discuss, among other things:

Naoise’s decision to relocate to Berlin [4:56]
Navigating cultural differences as an autistic person [9:01]
Why Naoise structured her book around a wedding narrative [19:25]
Main character syndrome, in relation to Naoise’s protagonist Celine [24:08]
Naoise’s characters’ self-sabotaging tendencies (in The Happy Couple & Exciting Times) [30:26]
How Naoise’s neurodiverse perspective influences her writing [34:23]
Naoise’s love of drawing in her alone time [38:30]

You can purchase Naoise’s book, , now online and in bookstores.

Caggie Dunlop: Overcoming Anxious Attachment In A Relationship

Saison 8 · Épisode 5

jeudi 20 juillet 2023 • Durée 48:52

My guest for this week’s episode is podcaster and author Caggie Dunlop, whom you might also recognise as a former cast member on the rather well known reality show called Made in Chelsea. Caggie has since reached a whole different audience. Her show Saturn Returns – which explores the coming of age happens somewhere around your late twenties and early thirties – has united a community as they navigate the shared challenges and opportunities that come with this age. I discovered the show last year – unsurprisingly, just as I was coming into this life stage – and was lucky enough to be Caggie’s guest on an episode released this May. Afterwards, Caggie generously agreed to come on and talk all things alone time with me – together with discussing her debut book, a memoir meets guidebook co-written with astrology expert Noura Bourni. In this episode, we talk about everything from the loneliness that Caggie faced when she pursed her singing career in LA, to, on the more positive side, how to navigate the vulnerable early stages of a blossoming relationship in a healthy way. I also ask Caggie how solo holidays work out when you’re a recognisable former reality TV star.

We discuss, among other things:

Why Caggie describes herself as ‘a bit of a recluse’ [4:45]
Independence vs. codependency in a romantic relationship [7:25]
Why alone time was a ‘sanctuary’ for Caggie, growing up [10:10]
The definition of ‘Saturn Return’ [19:19]
How Caggie’s own ‘Saturn Return’ let to a career pivot [25:31]
The power of the ‘slow burn’ when entering a relationship [32:09]
Navigating anxious attachment [35:52]
Caggie’s recent solo mini break [39:40]

You can purchase Caggie’s book, Saturn Returns, now – while her podcast of the same name is available to listen to wherever you get your podcast.

Adam Gopnik: Solitude And The City, Edward Hopper & The Joy Of Being Alone In A Crowd

Saison 8 · Épisode 4

jeudi 13 juillet 2023 • Durée 40:39

This week's guest is Adam Gopnik, a long-standing staff writer at the New Yorker, and the award-winning author of a frankly intimidating number of books, most recently The Real Work: On the Mystery of Mastery, which explores the process of learning a new skill. And then there was his recent Hollywood debut – those who’ve seen Oscar-winning film Tar might have also spotted Adam playing himself, as an interviewer, alongside Cate Blanchett in the film’s opening scene. Today, we’re talking about solitude – and how it’s played out in Adam’s writing career and life more broadly. As a true New Yorker, Adam tells me how his version of alone time manages to integrate a great deal of companionship too, from his love of working amid the hustle & bustle of others in his office days to the more collaborative strands of his career, including writing for musical theatre. Alone time, for Adam, is best spent pacing around a crowded city listening to what he still still refers to as a walkman – alone in a crowd. He also shares with me how his childhood, growing up as one of six in a crowded noisy house, has shaped his love of being around others in modern life. Finally, we discuss the beauty of solitude as depicted by the art of Edward Hopper – which Adam and I share a love for.

We discuss:

How Adam’s upbringing primed him to feel most comfortable around the noise of others [4:34]
His love of walking alone around a city [7:08]
Adam’s lifelong struggle with insomnia – and how he treats it [10:38]
Writing routines, and approaching writing like a ‘physical challenge’ [16:30]
Edward Hopper’s depiction of solitude [26:04]
The art of ‘social solitude’ in New York [31:34]

References from our conversation:

Adam Gopnik's 'walkman' playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1oe0WuKABmBtL576sGgW64?si=c45849d6d4a94cef
The Edward Hopper exhibition at The Whitney, New York

Dr Nicole Lepera: How A Fear of Being Alone Feels In Your Body

Saison 8 · Épisode 3

jeudi 6 juillet 2023 • Durée 46:00

This week’s guest is Dr Nicole LePera, whom you might be more familiar with as the Holistic Psychologist – the handle of her somewhat insanely popular Instagram account. She’s also the author of multiple books, including her New York bestseller How To Do The Work, and her latest title, a workbook called How To Meet Your Self. With fans including Elizabeth Day, Dr Rangan Chatterjee and Mel Robbins, Nicole’s popularity is justified – with her succinct but hard-hitting social media posts bringing therapeutic insight out of the expensive and often inaccessible clinical space and in front of the 9 million people who follow her on social media.

We discuss, among other things:

The practical challenge of alone time when you’re in a throuple, or three-person relationship, as Nicole is [5:40]
How Nicole developed a fearful relationship with being alone in childhood [8:10]
How your body can go into a ‘threat state’ when you’re alone [10:45]
Nicole’s experience of struggling with being physically alone in her early twenties [15:05]
How to practically teach yourself to cope better with alone time through Nicole’s five-minute exercise[18:16]
Can you learn to be alone through therapy? [20:51]
How to avoid the addictive trap of ‘self-help’ [26:51]
Why Nicole is passionate about mental health advice being widely accessible via social media [33:31]
Practical advice for engaging with self-help content sensibly [37:08]
Why Nicole’s favourite alone time involves nudity (not like that!] [41:18]

You can find links to Dr Nicole Lepera’s latest workbook on howtomeetyourself.com. Subscribe to my weekly email newsletter at francescaspecter.substack.com to follow my personal writing plus podcast bonus content. You can also order my book, Alonement: How To Be Alone and Absolutely Own It, which is based on this very podcast, now from Amazon, and . Thank you so much to WestLab for sponsoring this season of the podcast. Visit and quote the code ALONEMENT15 for 15% off when you spend £10 or more, excludes subscriptions,T&Cs apply. Code expires 31st August 2023.

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