This week's episode is the last of seven re-releases from season two. In the one about ''The Power of Pleasure' I'm joined by Misty Tripoli and we deep dive into a conversation about discovering our joy and pleasure.

❤️‍🔥💝This is for you if you secretly believe that a juicy delicious life is possible for someone else but not you.

💃🏼💃🏼 Its for you if you enjoy dancing!

Everyone gets to live a deliciously adult life and learn to love themselves, once they've taken the time to cultivate an intimate relationship with themselves.

• HOW to take responsibility for your joy and pleasure
• HOW to correctly use the law of attraction
• How 'The Groove' came about - and how furious dancing is changing the world! (so fun, so cool!)
• The embodiment principles of being a delicious adult
• HOW to navigate disappointment in relationships
• HOW to activate your sexual energy - and why you want to
• Why 'learning to love yourself in order to love others' is important
• HOW to connect with and articulate your desires
• What happens when you really listen to what you really want 
• The questions to ask yourself that will reveal where you really want to be

Misty is the Founder of The World Groove Movement, Creator of The Groove Method, Body Groove and an International Presenter, Body Image truth talker, Lover of LOVE and warrior for TRUTH!

• @mistytripoli
• @theworldgroovemovement
• @bodygroove
• www.theworldgroovemovement.com

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If you are ready to take your first next step, I invite you to get your Value Filter, which I lovingly refer to as YOUR COMPASS. It's my signature tool and a prerequisite for all my other programs.

To find out more, and activate your inner GPS go here: https://www.ebonieallard.com/the-value-filter

If you're curious about your Human Design, you can get your free 'Embody your Design' chart and Report worth £49 for free as a gift as well as other freebies from me here: https://www.ebonieallard.com/freebies

If you are looking to get The Kismet Codes Oracle Deck, go here: https://www.ebonieallard.com/kismet-codes-deck-one

To talk to Ebonie about anything in this episode you can whatsapp her or DM her on Instagram and leave a voicenote testimonial on our speakpipe at https://www.ebonieallard.com/podcast

This week's episode is the sixth of seven re-releases from season two. In the one about 'Fight or Flight' I’m joined by Dr Rachel Morris to talk about the instinctive responses to our “stuff” - fight, flight and freeze. 

Stress. It’s real. It’s pervasive. It’s something so many misfits I work with battle day on day…

And what’s happening to us now on a physiological level is that we’re responding to that stress the way our ancestors would have responded to life-threatening danger.

Listen to hear us discuss:

• The perks (and limits) of self-awareness.
• How to handle your emotions in a way that will make you way more effective!
• How to make sure your fight or flight response doesn’t rule the show.
• The impact that true community can have on the way you engage with your fear.

Rachel is a GP turned Executive Coach, Speaker and Specialist on Resilience in the workplace. She works with GPs, doctors and other professionals in high stress and high stakes jobs to help them beat stress and burnout.

• You can find Rachel's podcast here: You Are Not a Frog 
• Rachel’s website is here
• Find Rachel on Twitter
• Connect with Rachel on LinkedIn

• The Manual of Me
• The Chimp Paradox by Steve Peters
• Fuck it by John Parkin

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If you are ready to take your first next step, I invite you to get your Value Filter, which I lovingly refer to as YOUR COMPASS. It's my signature tool and a prerequisite for all my other programs.

To find out more, and activate your inner GPS go here: https://www.ebonieallard.com/the-value-filter

If you're curious about your Human Design, you can get your free 'Embody your Design' chart and Report worth £49 for free as a gift as well as other freebies from me here: https://www.ebonieallard.com/freebies

If you are looking to get The Kismet Codes Oracle Deck, go here: https://www.ebonieallard.com/kismet-codes-deck-one

To talk to Ebonie about anything in this episode you can whatsapp her or DM her on Instagram and leave a voicenote testimonial on our speakpipe at https://www.ebonieallard.com/podcast

This week's episode is a solo episode where I share a different aspect of The Kismet Codes®. The Kismet Code cards are not just an oracle deck, but also offer a way to explore the Gene Keys and your Human Design. Let me show you how you might explore The Venus Sequence by sharing my own sequence and what it means for me.

Listen now to hear:

• Some other ways you can use your Kismet Codes® Cards
• What the different sequences will illuminate for you
• What The Venus Sequence specifically supports you to understand about yourself
• When and how your your relationship with your values developed and what these pivotal points in your development are illuminating for you
• A deep dive into my own Venus sequence so that you might see what discovering this looks like in real time

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If you are ready to take your first next step, I invite you to get your Value Filter, which I lovingly refer to as YOUR COMPASS. Its my signature tool and a prerequisite for all my other programs.

To find out more, and activate your inner GPS go here: https://www.ebonieallard.com/the-value-filter

If you're curious about your Human Design, you can get your free 'Embody your Design' chart and Report worth £49 for free as a gift from Ebonie HERE

If you want to get The Kismet Codes Oracle Deck, go here: https://www.ebonieallard.com/kismet-codes-deck-one

To talk to Ebonie about anything in this episode you can whatsapp her or DM her on Instagram.

If you have enjoyed the podcast, please rate, subscribe and leave us a review as it really helps more people find us. Thank you. If you leave a review and send me a screenshot I’ll send you a £10 credit note to use at www.eboniealchemy.com/products

If you struggle in the face of uncertainty, this one’s for you.

Learn how uncertainty can be a good thing, and how you can alchemise uncertainty into surety, and begin the process of creating the life you want and deserve today.

• Discover and follow the process of creation and manifestation
• Understanding your relationship with uncertainty
• The contradiction of our existence
• Know the duality of desire
• How survival is success to your brain
• Letting go of our stories so we can be in creation mode
• Discover how uncertainty can actually be AWESOME
• Understand the energetics of intention and attention
• What and where is the path of least resistance to your dream
• The power of community and how it can supercharge your growth

• Your Thing, Sure Thing

• Find out more at www.ebonieallard.com/podcast

You’re not going to know if it works until you try it!

We are all trying to run a business that’s never been done before, in a world that’s constantly changing, yet trying to find a finite solution to make us successful.

In this episode, we’re diving into the importance of CONNECTION and how by focusing on yourself (and the 100 people who need you most) you can create a business of truth and purpose.

• The key to mustering motivation on a daily basis
• The 2 questions that will give you the answers to connection, business and life
• The impact of distraction
• Our thoughts on doing what you want to do, being who you want to be, and living our art
• The danger of implementing tactics, positioning and messaging that isn’t true to you
• Why blaming yourself for a lack of results is a pointless process
• The importance of loving the fuck out of your people
• How awareness and understanding of ourselves is the ultimate currency
• How to deliver the true you to the world
• How to become a masterful storyteller (rather than a boring one)

Matt works with business owners to rock their brand, audience and income.

His mission is to help more people build businesses around who they really are and the work they truly love.

At the heart of this is a belief that connection conquers all: feeling connected to the brand you build; the audience you attract and the work you deliver. Connection = clarity, confidence and conversion. 

An award-winning business journalist, Matt 'caught the bug' and has since set up and co-founded numerous businesses including his own content marketing agency, business support service Smarta.com and The Freedom Collective coaching business with Shaa Wasmund MBE and Beardpoo, a beard shampoo brand that gives 25% of its profits to help fight male suicide.

Matt's a published author, has led creative projects for global brands and advised government on enterprise. In 2020 he'll be launching the 'YOUYOUYOU!' community for ambitious solopreneurs doing 'their' thing.

• Calm
• The School of Life
• Matt on Instagram
• Matt’s website

• Find out more at www.ebonieallard.com/podcast

• The one about doing it all creatively (with Nicky Raby)
• The one about communication and professionalism (with Daire Paddy)
• The one about stories (with Martha Shandur)

If you lack confidence in yourself or the Universe, this one’s for you.

My purpose is to work with the misfits and the magic-makers and support, activate and inspire you so that you have the foundations and the tools to show up and do “your thing”.

• What to do when you feel like you’re not enough (despite doing all the personal and business development work).
• How to adult the fuck up.
• Everything I’m going to give you to activate and inspire you. 
• The information you don’t need in order to step into your true potential.
• Your next steps if your life doesn’t look like anyone else’s version.
• What to do when you don’t know what “your thing” is.
• What will make you feel proud, happy, fulfilled and creative.
• How to create the kind of business that allows you to take time away.

• Your Thing, Sure Thing

• Find out more at www.ebonieallard.com/podcast

• The one about choosing yourself
• The one about living richly (with Allison Braun)
• The one about personal growth and perception (with Rebecca Lowrie)

In this episode, we’re diving into entrepreneurship from an Asian female perspective.

As kickass and kind humans, I feel that it’s so important to be open to hearing stories from people with different life experiences, and that’s one of the reasons I was so excited to speak to this week’s guest.

We’re talking about some of the cultural stereotypes vs. the realities of growing up as a woman in a Sikh Punjabi household. We’re also diving into inclusivity in business, in the media and onstage… and what we can all to make sure that everyone is represented.

• The impact growing up in a strict family can have on your identity
• How you can find your confidence through the right relationships
• Our thoughts on challenging social and cultural norms
• The importance of a clear yes and a clear no
• The many faces of manifestation
• Recognising privileges that you may not even realise you have
• Our thoughts on inclusion and diversity in the event space
• The most effective way to have these conversations without naming and shaming

Sharn Khaira is an advocate for Asian female entrepreneurs and has set up the Asian Female Entrepreneurs Collective (AFEC) to help other women be successful in business.

She launched her free Facebook group back in 2017 which has now grown to over 4000 Asian female entrepreneurs!

AFEC provides Asian women the mindset and marketing tools to change their life. She is now on a global mission to empower Asian female entrepreneurs globally.

She serves as a business and mindset mentor for Asian female entrepreneurs and is also an international motivational speaker.

You can find out more about Sharn on:

• Her website - https://afecollective.com/
• Asian Female Entrepreneur Collective on Facebook
• Her Instagram page

• Bushra Azhar
• Suzy Ashworth

• Find out more at www.ebonieallard.com/podcast

• The one about huge cultural change (with Ari Krzyzek)
• The one about bypassing and privilege (with Thais Sky)
• The one about worthiness (with Charlotte Eléa)
• The one about showing up (with Suzy Ashworth)

The world is changing fast, and old patriarchal systems are being replaced with something new.

Over the last few weeks we’ve had a chance to slow down, to listen, and to observe some of our own truths, and in this episode I discuss what it means to truly step into trusting ourselves and source, and taking inspired action in a time that feels uncertain. 

• How this time is making us unable to hide from our shadows
• How not everything new and different is bad, sometimes it’s really cool
• The joining of energies to create a space that can hold you completely
• This time can be about giving you the strength to take off your armour
• You’re allowed to be messier, more chaotic, and fully express yourself
• The safety of a true container created for you to be fully yourself, can help you face things that ordinarily would feel too much
• Being able to completely drop societal expectations about “who” we should be
• The choice to act on the wisdom of the universe without knowing what comes next
• What it’s like to trust yourself completely & implicitly 

• Find out more at www.ebonieallard.com/podcast

• The one about shame and guilt
• The one about calming your autonomic nervous system
• The one about choosing yourself

Do you feel responsible for your own feelings and circumstances right now?

In this episode, I’m joined by Nick North to talk about responsibility, ownership and validation (among other things). We’re diving into how each of these topics show up in our relationships, in our families and in our own identities.

• Our thoughts on responsibility, and teaching our families to own theirs
• The impact of focusing on getting validation from others (and boundaries for making that okay)
• The concept of an exploding doormat (i.e. the Misfit MO!)
• How to take responsibility for ourselves when that’s not what we’re used to
• An amazing tool for handling conflict and compromise in your relationships
• The difference between being in a relationship as a woman and being in a relationship as a man
• Understanding our privilege and how we can use that for the highest good

Nick North is a dude, a husband, a dad to 5 kids and a Branding Strategist. He also has a history of living as a woman, a wife, a mom, a photographer and even an EMR. When he embraced his identity and came out as transgender, he realised just how much gender affects the way we think, talk, sell and function. He now speaks from his experience on both sides of the gender coin, empowering men and women to live authentically and powerfully, while also making more money following their passion and their gut. You can find him at http://www.nicknorth.co or sharing many a topless photo and big feelings on Instagram @epicdanger.

• Enneagram types
• The Four Tendencies quiz
• “Just another beautiful family” documentary

• Find out more at www.ebonieallard.com/podcast

• The one about gender expression (with Jonathan Beal)
• The one about responsibility and not abdicating (with Dyana Valentine)
• The one about identity and environment (with Becky Rui)

Shame and guilt are two of the topics I get asked to talk about most frequently, so in this episode, I’m delivering!

When we feel feelings of shame, it’s often attached to a feeling of vulnerability, which can often be interpreted as weakness… but we get to flip the script on that. And while guilt is typically less painful than shame (because we see it as being more useful) it can still have a negative impact on our businesses and lives.

In this episode, I’m pulling apart the strands of shame, guilt, vulnerability and judgement and talking about how we can make moves towards a more value filtered life.

• What shame and guilt actually are (and what the difference is)
• How you can alchemise some of those things you feel ashamed of and turn them into superpowers
• Self-awareness and personal responsibility are where it’s at. Blame does not remove shame!
• What happens when you go against your (or someone else’s) values
• How to shift our feelings of shame and guilt
• Society’s role in our feelings of shame and guilt
• The distinction between guilt, procrastination and self-sabotage



• Listening to shame (with Brene Brown)
• Landmark forum
• The Value Filter Masterclass
• Misfit to Maven (the book!)
• Masterclasses are all now in The Vault.

• Find out more at www.ebonieallard.com/podcast

• The one about misfit misconceptions
• The one about capacity (with Lisa Fabrega)
• The one about fear

There’s a lot of conditioning that’s been going on for the past few hundred years with regards to masculinity and femininity - with what it means to be a man and what it means to be a woman.

Gender identity is a broad and complex topic, and in this episode we’re scratching the surface and talking about expressing and embodying the aspects of masculine and feminine energy that are US at our core.

A mentor and coach for men, Jonathan has spent over 10 years in the personal development space, he believes in supporting men in the mental, emotional and physical adventure & exploration that brings men to full embodiment, that ultimately brings them home to the truth of who they really are.

• Jonathan’s website

• What we’re taught about gender from a societal perspective (and how it’s bullshit)
• The evolution of the conversations we (as a society) have been having around gender, and sexuality and relationship dynamics.
• The colour and diversity of gender identity (and how we’ll never get bored of exploring that!)
• The desire to understand, which frees people up to experiment for themselves.
• The magic of sex.
• The importance of intimacy with yourself and others (and how it all boils down to self-awareness and self-trust).
• Undivided attention and active listening are the key to unlocking profound relationships.

• The one about empowered sex (with Joyce Oladipo)
• The one about sensuality and intimacy (with Stacey Herrera)
• The one about sexy committed relationships (with Persia Lawson)
• The one about feminine conditioning (with Jo Casey)

Are you living a value filtered life?

If you follow me on Instagram, you’ll have heard me talk about Value Filters and value filtered living… but what does that really mean?

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain and sharing the story of the Value Filter System and how you can use it to create a life that feels good to you. 

• What values really are (you might be surprised!) and how they intertwine with your beliefs
• What the Value Filter System is, and what value filtered living really means
• The two types of beliefs you have, and how to make sure you’re focusing on the ones that will support your growth
• A peek at my Value Filter and how it came to be
• The fundamental difference between human needs and human values
• The truth about what you’re seeking, the expression of your masculine energy, and the expression of your feminine energy
• How to find your “yes” and your “no”

• MBIT
• The Value Filter Masterclass
• Misfit to Maven (the book!)

• The one about finding your sparkle (with Sally Beaton)
• The one about choosing yourself
• The one about calming your autonomic nervous system

In this week's episode, I'm chatting with Sally Manners and we’re diving into how we process and recover from trauma, and how we can turn everything around and create a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside.

Long term single mamma, life long hustler, business owner, hypnotherapist & NLP coach, Sally Manners is a woman on a quest for connection, healing, community, female empowerment and fuck loads of love. 'Manners London' (her clothing label) is a women's designer clothing brand for the curvy lady, making women of all shapes feel beautiful and empowered.

Listen on for:

• How we get to adult for ourselves, as well as for our loved ones.
• The perception of adulting we have as kids, and how that evolves as we age.
• Our thoughts on trauma recovery, and the transformation that inevitably takes place along the way.
• The importance of bringing purpose into everything we do.
• The truth of learning life’s most valuable lessons (i.e. it’s not always fun but it’s always clear!)

**The one about fuller figured confidence (with Georgina Horne)

**The one about trusting yourself (with Carly Foster)

**The one about being a boss (with Jess Critchlow)

This weeks episode is the fourth in a mini series where I am chatting with people who I feel are truly embodying their design or who I have seen really embracing their Human Design experiment. This week's guest is Charlie Brown, a photographer who wants people to see themselves through the same eyes as their family and friends do. She very generously let me dive into her Human Design and together we explore what she understands already and then we go deeper. Charlie is a 6/2 Generator and her Conscious Sun and 'life's work' is code 25 - The Spirit of Love...

• The unique magic of being a Generator
• What it means to have undefined centres
• Why knowing your design stops comparison and removes competition
• How you can discover more about your design even when you already embody your design.
• The aha's that Charlie got from our chat and The Kismet Code cards

If you are ready to take your first next step, I invite you to get your Value Filter, which I lovingly refer to as YOUR COMPASS. Its my signature tool and a prerequisite for all my other programs. To find out more, and activate your inner GPS go here: https://www.ebonieallard.com/the-value-filter

Photography has the ability to capture that twinkle in someone’s eye. It can make an image feel alive. I want people to see themselves through the same eyes as their family and friends do.

I help people to have a collection of images that truly represent their life and personality in an authentic way, with a hint of magic.

It’s so important to me to capture people authentically. Even if the image has a creative edge to it, I’m still wanting that person’s personality to be weaved in and out of every part of it.

“A picture paints a thousand words”

This rings true for me. This is what makes photography so important. At the end of the best day ever, it’s the photos that can remind YOU of what an amazing time you had. When your babies are all grown up it’s the only way to freeze time, and if you’re in business for yourself it’s the way to shine brightly enough to attract your ideal clients. Show them who you are and what makes you different.

Find Charlie here:

Instagram: https://www.Instagram.com/beyou_photoshoots

Facebook: https://www.Facebook.com/beyouphotoshoots

Facebook: https://www.Facebook.com/charliebrownpics

Instagram: https://www.Instagram.com/charliebrownpics

Website: www.Charliebrownpics.uk

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If you're curious about your Human Design, you can get your free 'Embody your Design' chart and Report worth £49 for free as a gift from Ebonie HERE

If you want to get Ebonie's Kismet Codes Oracle Deck, go here: https://www.ebonieallard.com/kismet-codes-deck-one

To talk to Ebonie about anything in this episode you can whatsapp her or DM her on Instagram.

If you have enjoyed the podcast, please rate, subscribe and leave us a review as it really helps more people find us. Thank you. If you leave a review and send me a screenshot I’ll send you a £10 credit note to use at www.eboniealchemy.com/products

It’s known that almost all of the body’s functions are controlled by the ANS (autonomic nervous system) - it’s actually around 90% of the body that the ANS innovates.

In this episode, I’m exploring how calming your ANS plays such a huge part in your adulting and who you’re becoming in the world.

• An overview of the science behind your autonomic nervous system and how it functions
• The impact slowing down has on your mood
• The role your ANS plays in balance, alignment, coherence and everyday life
• The difference that focusing on this has made to my body image and my life
• A round-up of activities to help you take better care of your ANS

• Manuel Martinez
• MBIT
• Grant Soosalu
• Paul Canali
• Misfit to Maven: The Story of Argh to Ahhh
• Peter Levine
• The one about fight or flight mode (with Rachel Morris)
• Rochelle Schieck - Qoya
• M2M playlist
• Morning meditation favs
• The Maven Meditation Extravaganza
• Wim Hof

• The one about overwhelm (with Alice)
• The one about overcoming anxiety (with Sam) 
• The one about finding out about your block (with Lucinda)
• The one about the antidote to burnout (with Audrey)

Stress. It’s real. It’s pervasive. It’s something so many misfits I work with battle day on day…

And what’s happening to us now on a physiological level is that we’re responding to that stress the way our ancestors would have responded to life-threatening danger.

In this episode, I’m joined by Dr Rachel Morris to talk about these instinctive responses to our “stuff” - fight, flight and freeze. 

• The perks (and limits) of self-awareness.
• How to handle your emotions in a way that will make you way more effective!
• How to make sure your fight or flight response doesn’t rule the show.
• The impact that true community can have on the way you engage with your fear.

Rachel is a GP turned Executive Coach, Speaker and Specialist on Resilience in the workplace. She works with GPs, doctors and other professionals in high stress and high stakes jobs to help them beat stress and burnout.

• You can find Rachel's podcast here: You Are Not a Frog 
• Rachel’s website is here
• Find Rachel on Twitter
• Connect with Rachel on LinkedIn

• The Manual of Me
• The Chimp Paradox by Steve Peters
• Fuck it by John Parkin

• The one about the antidote to burnout (with Audrey Holst)
• The one about overcoming anxiety (with Sam Hearne)
• The one about resilience (with Ty Johnson Anderson)

Do you ever feel like you’re sleepwalking through your day?

In this episode, I’m talking you through the 8 lies and the 8 truths that will bust through your overwhelm and resistance, and leave you loving your business and life.

I want to show you just how possible it is for you to really live from being awake and in a place of superflow, rather than having to fall back into the “do, do, do” of life.

• My thoughts on positivity, and how it is not always the best way forward if your mission is to create intimacy with your people. 
• Money-based mind monkeys that are still tripping you up and holding you back.
• The importance of balancing hard work and belief (one or the other is not enough!)
• Where to look for your validation (and why it’s so important to get it in the first place!)

• Slide into my DMs here.
• The one about opting out of the blame game (with Amy E. Smith)

Heather Thorkelson is a Canadian dual entrepreneur living in rural Sweden. She grew up living all over the world and in her early 30's, finally took the leap to self-employment and never looked back. In 2013 she was living in Peru working as an online business consultant when she went to Antarctica, fell in love, and by 2015 she had opened a second business - a polar expedition company. She has just finished writing a book for incurable entrepreneurs, titled No Plan B, which will be released in Spring 2020.

In this episode, we’re looking at the topic of personal responsibility and how, especially as entrepreneurs, we should be responsible for our experience, for our output and also for our errors (that’s a big one!).

It’s a lot “easier” to pass the buck, blame others and avoid admitting our screw ups but that is not adulting. Adulting means practicing compassion for yourself, but also taking full responsibility for how you show up in the world.

• Thoughts on running multiple businesses at the same time - it doesn’t have to be difficult!
• The importance of owning the expertise you have - even if you feel you’re lacking in other areas.
• What to do when you start feeling like there’s too much on your shoulders - overwhelm happens!
• How to feel grateful for relationships in your life that might be difficult or unconventional.
• The distinction between fear of the unknown and fear of something that’s actually dangerous.

• The one about the inner child with Kathleen Hannigan
• Heather’s website
• Find Heather on Instagram
• Find Heather on Facebook
• Interested in a polar expedition? Click here.

• The one about responsibility and not abdicating (with Dyana Valentine)
• The one about being your own best parent (with Callum Hardingham)
• The one about dealing with comparison (with Lucy Sheridan)

Are you going through life being more than a little co-dependent? Being a people pleaser? A martyr? Always putting others first?

Join the club. I’ve spent most of my life making those same choices.

Sometimes these choices come from need. Sometimes they’re incredibly useful and resourceful strategies, at moments when your safety depends on them. But that doesn’t mean you need to stick with those same self-limiting decisions forever.

As I’ve matured and my circumstances have changed - as I’ve built a life and a business that feels as good on the inside as it looks on the outside - I have really focused on my values. Value filtered living is where it’s at!

In this week’s episode, I’m looking at why choosing yourself is the key to becoming a truly kickass and kind human.

• The disservice you’re currently doing to yourself (and your audience) and what you can do about it.
• The impact that choosing myself has had on my business and what I offer the world.
• My wild intentions for this year… and how you can help me achieve them!
• Journaling prompts to help you define what choosing yourself really means for you, and figure out how to take action on that.

• Find me on Instagram
• The Value Filter Masterclass
• Misfit to Maven: The Story of Argh to Ahhh - on Amazon

• The one about endings and beginnings
• The one about capacity (with Lisa Fabrega)
• The one about the antidote to burnout (with Audrey Holst)

In this episode of Adulting with Ebonie (the last of season 1), I’m chatting with Jo Casey about Feminine Conditioning.

Jo helps coaches and healers to get more clients without sacrificing soul or sanity. She’s a certified coach, speaker, trainer and host of the meaningful business podcast. In addition to being British, Jo is slightly nerdy and determined to help women overcome their female conditioning so that we can step out, be seen and thrive.

You can find Jo online and on social media at:

https://www.jocasey.com/ 

https://www.facebook.com/JoCaseyB/

https://www.instagram.com/jocaseyb/

Fav quotes from this episode:

“Adulting is owning my own shit, emotionally’

“We’re given a skewed and limited view of what ‘good’ femininity is”

“As a woman you are made of magic. What are you going to do with it?”

“Sometimes we tie up the money that we charge with our own personal value”

“Magic is priceless… or at least worth the cost of a two week holiday!”

“Feminine Conditioning is just propaganda!”

“The human race needs a huge wave of creative problem solving and empathy. We’ve got some big shit to sort out!”

“I love men. I love masculinity in its rawest form.”

“One of the scary things about running your own business is the fact that you get to make the rules!’”

“I’m an adult but I cry and feel like I’m 6 years old when I have to look at my tax return”

In this episode we talk about:

**The importance of wildness, creativity, playfulness and childlike curiosity in our lives.

**It’s only when we take control of our own emotional responses that we can move through life responsibly, without dumping our shit on other people! (as much as possible)

 **The difference between ‘responsible’ feminine and ‘irresponsible’ feminine, and between being ‘responsible’ and being a ‘good girl’.

**How we can relate Elsa from ‘Frozen’ to our own lives and conditioning.

**How we’ve been conditioned to associate creative and caring professions with a lower financial value than some other professions, like sport, law or science, which are perceived as more pragmatic/logical/data driven roles with a more ‘masculine’ energy.

**The importance of recognising the value that you can provide, and the transformation that you can facilitate in others.

**How when we’re talking about feminine conditioning, we’re not just talking about women - men have feminine energies too, and have also been conditioned.

**That we’re not always aware of conditioning taking place

**How working 9-5, Monday to Friday was set up for some men based on their cycle.  This ‘model’ of business doesn’t work for all of us though. We’ve got the freedom to design something that works for us!

Plus, we talk about what the number one skill you need as a business owner is.

In this solo episode of ‘Adulting With Ebonie’, I’m talking about Endings and Beginnings as season one of ‘Adulting with Ebonie’ draws to a close...

Fav quotes from this episode:

“I’ve been doing a lot of internal reflection about what the end of this decade means to me.”

“Are you willing to say ‘No’ in order to create space?”

“There are always going to be endings and beginnings in our lives.”

“There have been so many interesting conversations that we’ve had since December 2017 and I want to continue to have incredible conversations with incredible people”

In this episode I talk about:

• The importance of reviewing the last decade, and establishing what exactly the protagonist of your story (you) gets to do in the next chapter. 
• A review of the last 109 episodes and the topics we have covered from the first ever guest episode of Adulting with Ebonie back in December 2017 with Thais Sky on the topic of Bypassing and Privilege.
• The episodes of ‘Adulting With Ebonie’ that touched on the topic of personal boundaries and relationships - starting from episode four with Amy Mitchell, I’ve talked about relationships with so many of my guests; I chatted with Nadia Munla about Tantrums, discussed communication with Elloa and Nige, and talked about resilience with Ty Johnson Anderson.  We also explored the masculine and feminine with Sarah Akwisombe in ‘Yin and Yang in Business’ - something I’ll be exploring in greater depth this season. Some of the most popular episodes of the series include ‘Choosing Not To Have Children’ with Diana Mayor, as well as conversations on infertility with Alice Fyles and surrogacy with JoAn Richardson. I also discussed the topic of intimacy with Stacey Hererra and the issue of co-dependent behaviour with Jo Westwood.
• The episodes of ‘Adulting with Ebonie’ that focused on body, health and wellbeing, including the episode on body rebellion and listening with Stella Stathi, talking about holistic health with Jo Gamble and breaking out of diet culture with Harri Rose.  I also chatted with Hazel Butler about mental health and Sam Hearne about overcoming anxiety.
• How many of the most popular episodes of this season touched on the idea of spirituality and self, including the episode on Spirituality and Money with Sarupa Shah, conversations on intuition with Sam Mant, a discussion on Jungian Personality Typing with CS Joseph and the episode on Lucid Dreaming and Shadow Work with Charlie Morley.
• That we’ve talked money this season too, from the ‘Juicy Sexy Money’ episode with Lara Rose Duong to my conversation with Rosie Sloesek about business finances and self-care

Plus, I talk about going deeper with my guests next season, and the changes coming up in Season 2 of ‘Adulting With Ebonie’.

In this week's episode, Ebonie chats with Laurence Shorter about 'getting to things late in life'.

Laurence is a creative entrepreneur, speaker, coach and recently - a talk show host! His books include “The Optimist - one man’s search for the brighter side of life”, “A global tour of the world’s most positive people”, and “The lazy guru’s guide to life”, a cartoon book that advocates doing nothing as a new approach to mindfulness.

He lives in East Sussex with his wife and two children and helps stressed-out business owners to relax when he’s not at home writing.

Find out more about Laurence on his website: http://www.lazyguru.co.uk/ or on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thelazyguru/ 

Fav quotes from this episode:

“I can draw a line before and after I had children in terms of adulting”

“I wasn’t just slow off the mark with my career, I was slow off the mark with everything!”

“You never stop becoming an adult”

‘When I talk about myself and my own woes, it’s funny!’

“It’s easier to talk about sex than God!”

“Sometimes you have to trust yourself to just ‘be’”

“I’m an adult but… I’m addicted to tea and coffee”

In this episode we talk about:

• The difference between being an adult and behaving like an adult
• How there is something beautiful in sharing the tragedies and struggles of being a human
• How that at some point in life you realise you’re never going to read every book, watch every film, watch every Netflix series, and it’s nice to just do nothing!
• How taking a little bit of time out can actually be the catalyst for increased productivity as well as reducing the risk of burnout.

Plus, we talk about how not having your shit together in your twenties isn’t a sign of what is to come for the rest of your life! 

This week, Ebonie chats with Harri Rose about 'breaking out of diet culture'.

Harri is a certified health coach and author specialising in unapologetic body acceptance. Through her one-to-one coaching, workshops, and writing, Harri teaches her clients how to love their bodies, find more self-compassion and discover what wellness means to them. Her new book ‘You are enough’ is out now. She is also co-creator at the Anti-Diet Riot Club and an emotional resilience trainer with Tough Cookie.

You can find Harri's website online at https://www.harrirose.com/

Fav quotes from this episode:

“I thought by now I would have all my shit together!’

“It’s a bit hard, isn’t it, this adulting stuff”

“A lot of the trauma that happens around food happens at home”

“We need to give ourselves permission to enjoy this festive tradition of feasting… it’s normal, it’s Christmas!”

“Food doesn’t have to be hard”

“There’s no perfect diet”

“You need a rebel attitude to bust out of diet culture and the unrealistic expectations of what we should be looking like!”

“I’m an adult but… time-keeping is hard! I’m perpetually late”

In this episode we talk about:

• The impact that breakups and other major life transitions can have on your long term happiness and becoming a more authentic version of yourself
• That major decisions don’t have to last a lifetime! Life is long and we are allowed to change.
• Why there doesn’t seem to be a boundary with family members when it comes to making comments about body image, and why it’s worth making coping plans for the Christmas period when you’re likely to come into contact with people who make these comments.
• How it’s people’s own projections of body confidence and beauty that causes them to make comments and assumptions about your relationship with food, diet and your body.
• That the ‘thin ideal’ is just one standard of beauty, but that it controls so much of what we think and do.
• How the process and journey to making peace with food isn’t easy, but it is possible.
• “Fat” isn’t a feeling - if you are feeling “Fat”, it could be that you are feeling sad, you are feeling sluggish. It’s important to establish what the underlying feelings are.

Plus, we talk about how gentle movement STILL COUNTS when it comes to improving health and wellbeing, and that you don’t need to be “smashing it” in terms of exercise to see and feel the benefits.

Viktor is a ritual maker who works with rituals as a powerful part of transformative processes, community building and culture change. He approaches the topic of ritual through a lot of directions; by creating art about it, studying it academically, engaging with it spiritually and by taking on the meaningful moments in life with self-made rituals. Since 2013, Viktor has lived in five countries and worked with clients all over the globe on his journey to make sense of how to engage with rituals in the modern world.

Viktor has just opened an Instagram account so you’ll be able to find him over on @howtomakerituals in the near future!

Fav quotes from this episode:

“Without belonging we’re fucked.”

“Ritual is a human process that can really facilitate a shift.”

“How do I feel today? What is my intention?”

 “Ritual holds a huge potential for shifting ourselves in relation to what’s going on, and really finding some honesty and some truth about ourselves and the situation that we find ourselves in.” - EA

“Christmas is a ritual on steroids.” – EA

In this episode we talk about:

• How being fiercely independent without creating a community around you can leave you feeling isolated
• How ritual can be a powerful tool to experiment with your own boundaries and to change and grow
• The “before” and “after” time that exists in the context of ritual, and the transformation that lies in between those moments
• How to ritualise everyday acts 
• Acknowledging that Christmas can be challenging for a lot of people and how you can make it work better for you by creating your own rituals

Plus, we talk about Viktor’s personal journey to discovering the power of ritual.

This weeks episode is the third in a mini series where I am chatting with people who I feel are truly embodying their design or who I have seen really embracing their Human Design experiment. This week's guest is Kelly Vikings, founder of NEW Earth Business, an Energetics Growth Specialist. She very generously let me dive into her Human Design and together we explore what she understands already and then we go deeper. Kelly is a 2/4 Emotional Manifestor and her Conscious Sun and 'life's work' is code 12 - The Purist...

• The unique magic of being a Manifestor
• How human design made her feel more understood and helped her to feel like she fit in more
• How learning and embodying her design has happened piece by piece
• What it feels like when you leak your personal power
• The immediate power of words and imagery in supporting you to embody your design... and I quote "I don't know what to say! I have full body goosebumps...that's me."

My new signature programme Embody Your Design® starts its premier six week sprint on 14th June! Join us as we play with a series of 'experience experiments' that will have you understanding your Human Design, activating your magnetism and alchemising your challenges into wisdom. Find out more here.

Kelly Vikings is an Energetics Growth Strategist for visionary leaders, with over 18+ years of experience, empowering visionary new world leaders to achieve unparalleled success. By designing a life and business that designs a business inspired by Soul, powered by Purpose, Performance and Profitability.

Kelly is the founder of NEW Earth Business. She is revolutionising the way we do Business.

Kelly mixes high-performance business strategies with powerful energetic practices, an equal balance of divine feminine and masculine energy. To help high-achieving visionaries, new paradigm embodied leaders activate their path to 6-8 figures and beyond.

The Conscious Embodiment Method TM runs through the core of Kelly’s work, cultivating a deep integration of self-trust, intentional and conscious leadership, embodiment of soul’s energetics, emotional resilience and learning of how to direct your new inner power.

You can work with Kelly in three ways, her high touch one to one programmes, The Collective 6/12 month group business Mastermind, or the practitioners certification Soul Energetics= which is Kelly’s’ own powerful modality.

The Future is NEW Earth Business!

Find Kelly here:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KellyVikingsBusinessMentor

Website: https://www.kellyvikings.com/

Join Kelly’s FREE FB Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/newearthbusinesscommunity

Buy my #1 Best Selling Book, Secrets of The Divine Business Code

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As a truth-telling coach, writer and an innovator in the realm of leadership, Lisa has devoted her life to helping people unleash their inner Gandhi, Mother Teresa or MLK’s (or helping ordinary people achieve extraordinary things) so that they can make a powerful impact in the world. One client described her as her “Courage Curator” while another declared her to be “the secret weapon for the world’s next great thought leaders”.

Her poems, essays and musings can be found on bentlily.com, Medium and Inside The Jungle Magazine. She has also been featured in CNN, Sports Illustrated and as a guest blogger on LauraRoeder.com.

When she’s not helping people ignite their own revolutions in the world, you can find her travelling the world in search of epic nature views and watching the sunset with her laptop in one hand and a piña colada in the other.

You can find out more about her over on her website https://lisafabrega.com/, or on Instagram, Facebook or Twitter all @LisaFabrega

“Do I have the capacity to receive that which I say I want to create?”

“Sometimes it’s ok to feel like a fraud because it keeps us in integrity.”

“When we are in a place of capacity we have discernment, we have equanimity, we have sovereignty and we have boundaries.”

“Boundaries are bigger than just saying no and putting up walls. Boundaries are about making specific requests to the universe about what we want.”

“The whole point of this journey is to get to be yourself and to enjoy it.”- EA

• What our ‘capacity’ is. And why it’s vital to up-level it if we want to up-level our lives or businesses
• The four pillars of Lisa’s capacity work
• Getting to the real root of low self-confidence
• Feeling like a fraud. Does it mean that you’re not living in alignment with your soul’s purpose? Or is it another part of the jigsaw puzzle? We discuss.
• Lisa gives us an invaluable ‘self-assessment’ quiz to get a very clear picture of where you are and what to do next in terms of your capacity

Plus, we talk about how important it is to learn to do things in the way that works for you, otherwise, you end up wasting time and money.

Resources:

• Get Lisa’s free video series on working out your capacity by joining her mailing list over at

Marianne is the founder of Free Range Humans, she gave the TEDx Talk "the hidden power of not always fitting in" which has been viewed over a quarter of a million times, and she is also the author of the bestselling book Be A Free Range Human. Featured in The Guardian, Business Week and more, it is all about finding your right direction and making it work for who you are so you don't have to fit yourself into someone else's box in order to get paid... and has just been released in a heavily revised second edition!

 From the UK and Australia, Marianne spent years travelling the world chasing the sun with her business in her laptop and now lives between London and sunny California.

Find out more about her over at https://mariannecantwell.com/

Fav quotes from this episode:

“True freedom is the freedom to dance with the changes that will come your way.”

“Life on your terms can look any way that you want it to.”

“Community is so vital if you want to succeed.”

“Who would you be without your business?”

“If you try to be everything, you end up being nothing.”

“If we don’t do the self-development work, you can ride a wave and you’ll hit a wall...If you want to be in business and love what you do long term, you’ve got to do the work while you’re riding the wave.”

In this episode we talk about:

• Learning to make decisions that really feel right, rather than being influenced by other people’s expectations and assumptions
• How your perfect life is going to be radically different from anyone else’s, and the importance of embracing and honouring that
• How so many entrepreneurs find themselves overworked and miserable, and what to do to avoid that trap
• How rebelling against something often ends you up in yet another limited box - how to break that cycle and find true freedom 

Plus, we talk about embracing the full spectrum of who you are, trying on ideas for size, and allowing yourself to really experiment until you find what fits.

Resources:

• Website: https://free-range-humans.com/
• CLICK HERE to claim a free chapter of the 2nd edition of Marianne’s book
• Marianne’s TED talk: “The Hidden Power of Not Always Fitting In”

Callum is a global adventure and leadership experience facilitator, an inner leadership coach and a life pirate.

You can find out more about him over on Instagram @callumhardingham

Fav quotes from this episode:

“Age is kind of irrelevant, experience is where it’s at.” 

“As long as you’re aligned to an intention that is actually bringing more wholeness into your life or is empowering you in some way…the way in which you do that is irrelevant.”

“We get so addicted to making what’s outside of us more important than what’s inside of us.”

“As we build our connection to courage…then we can face our fears much quicker.”

“Stop what you’re doing. Breathe. Listen. Acknowledge. Explore.”

In this episode we talk about:

• How you only really grow up when you take the reins of your life
• Avoiding burnout by learning to recognise and meet your own needs (in the same way that a parent would)
• The difference between switching off by numbing out and switching off with nourishing downtime
• The importance of conscious communication not just with others but with yourself too: What are the voices in your head trying to tell you?
• Getting out of the cycle of your own behavioural patterns and blind spots by working with a coach
• The positive role that fear can play in personal development

Plus, we talk about how we really need to stop the comparison game and just focus on creating a life that feels good.

Alice is the co-founder of two charities (Tilinanu Orphanage and Love Support Unite Foundation) and the innovative fundraising company: Love Specs. Their ethos is about long-lasting sustainable change and they are all about a leg up and not a handout.

“The smallest thing can make the biggest impact to change somebody’s life.”

“You can do amazing stuff in the world and still be thinking - what am I going to do with my life!?” 

“If you want to sponsor a child at Tilinanu, you can guarantee that all of the money is going to that and that there isn’t any overheads or administration costs.”

“Find a charity that you really love and whose ethos is very similar and go and either become an ambassador for them or go and intern for them.”

• What inspired Alice to start her first charity aged just 17, and the highs and lows of being a ‘young’ voice in the charitable sector
• How making a big difference to someone’s life can be an easy thing for us all to do
• What to consider if you want to get started with charitable work
• The current culture of secrecy and competition in the charity sector and the need for more collaboration, community and communication 

Plus we talk about how you can help with Love Support Unite’s latest project of providing period pants to girls in Malawi - an opportunity to do something good today! Go HERE to fund a pair of pants for just £18.99.

• Find out more about Love Support Unite HERE
• Find out more about Tilananu Orphanage HERE

Get a pair of paper Love Specs for just £10 (100% of the proceeds go to Love Support Unite) DM me HERE

CS Joseph is the next up-and-coming expert on Jungian analytical psychology, with a fresh look known as ‘ego hacking’. Chase has been studying psychology for eleven years and is pleased to share some of his cutting edge knowledge on the subject with us in this episode.

You can find out more about him over at www.csjoseph.life

“You can’t really love other human beings unless you understand them…and you can’t understand anyone else without understanding yourself first.”

“How we think we are conducting ourselves within, is NOT how we conduct ourselves without.”

“It’s harder to combat an invisible thing than it is to combat something that you can see.”

“There is no such thing as ‘I have arrived’, it’s more ‘I need to keep arriving’.”

“When people get their personality type verified they either can’t believe it... or have a huge sigh of relief.”

“You only gain happiness and satisfaction through continuous growth and improvement.”

• The repercussions of not truly understanding and embracing who you are
• The difference between free online personality tests and Chase’s methodology
• The huge shifts that can occur when a person has their personality type verified (and how it’s often different from what they expected)
• What it’s like to relearn everything you think you know about yourself and rebuild it from the ground up
• How understanding people’s operating systems can radically change your relationships and increase your chances of forming a compatible partnership

Plus, we talk about what it means to be in a ‘mental minority’.

• The book Chase mentions: ‘Enders Game’ - Orson Scott Card
• Access Chase's online community via the Dischord App HERE
• Find Chase on one of his many social media channels: Youtube, Instagram, Facebook, Pintrest or Twitter

Asa is a matchmaker and dating coach for the wild at heart. Creating deeper connections through matching people on sexual preferences and overall compatibility. On a mission to remove shame from sexual desires and bring dating back to real life, where real connections happen.

You can find out more about her over on her website www.tailormatched.com or on Instagram or Facebook @tailormatched

“Who am I outside of my career. What do I need? What do I want?”

“Make sure you know who you are falling in love with and why.”

 “If we are bringing this amount of openness and transparency into the bedroom, then that’s going to impact the rest of the relationship in a wonderful way.” 

“I want everyone to get to the point where it’s ok to talk about everything in a relationship, especially the intimacy side.”

“The more I communicate and the more open I am…the more like-minded people I meet."

• What’s missing from current dating apps
• The two types of compatibility to take into account when considering whether someone is right for you or not
• The biochemistry of sex, and the importance of educating ourselves on what’s going on when we sleep with someone, and how that affects what we are thinking
• What you can learn from the kink community (even if you’re vanilla)
• The need to normalise talking about our wants, needs and desires in and out of the bedroom 

Plus, we talk about learning to parent ourselves, instead of outsourcing mother/father roles to potential partners.

In this special 100th episode of ‘Adulting With Ebonie’, I’m chatting with Jo Westwood (Coach and creator of ‘Lovingly Fierce’ - a programme to help break the cycle of codependency) and five members of this year’s MORE group (Lizzy Fone of Tax Angel Accounting, Money Mentor Gail Bainbridge, Community Organiser and Social Activist Emily King, Quiet Confidence founder Tessa Brooks, and Gerlinde Halmer of https://www.sparklewithlindy.com/) about the reality of MORE.

• What #adulting looked (and felt) like before, and after, MORE for my 2019 mastermind members
• How as children, we assume that trusted adults have all the answers, but that it is okay that they don’t. Plus, we talk about how this awareness can be incorporated into positive parenting.
• The importance of trust when it comes to adulting.
• How MORE has had an impact on the business lives of mastermind members this year.
• Why not everyone has a vision for the future, and that that is okay!
• The importance of taking a step back and leaving your business ‘washing up’ occasionally without feeling bad about it!
• How MORE works - you can find out more about the programme here

“Before MORE, #Adulting meant focusing on the boring shit in life, to the exclusion of all the fun stuff.”

“If you haven’t got a group of people who have got your back, it’s easy to fall into old patterns’

“Now, most of the time, I am an actual adult!”

“Before MORE, I got caught up in victim mode - a lot!”

“It’s so much more fun to be your own knight in shining armour!”

“Adulting is making a conscious choice to do whatever I want, and to forgive and embrace my inner child.”

“A big piece of adulting is letting everyone else be adults and deal with their own emotions and feelings”

“Adulting is being patiently impatient”

“It’s okay to let go of control - shit is going to happen anyway!”

Plus, if you listen to the end you’ll hear a whole host of ‘I’m an adult but...’ confessions from both my podcast guests AND live studio audience!

Marie-Claire is a Professional Rebel - a photographer, self-discovery facilitator and fairy dust sprinkler. Just don’t call her Marie; it makes her want to harm innocent children and puppies. She gets to help people embrace their awesomeness for a living and is having lots of fun in the process. Know Yourself. Be Yourself. And f*%@ing own it!

Find out more about her over at www.professionalrebel.co.uk 

“A misfit is too innovative, too creative and too full of heart to just clock in and clock out of life.”

“I swear and talk about mental health in a relaxed fashion that isn’t too airy-fairy.”

“A professional rebel is about…rebelling against what you’re told to do and finding yourself at the core.”

“It’s a massively rebellious thing to love yourself.” 

 “If you don’t start with self-awareness, you can’t go further in any direction.”

• Two different definitions of rebellion (and what they mean for our personal behaviour)
• Having the courage to own your uniqueness and choose a life less conventional
• Why people shouldn’t be afraid to do the inner work and find out who they really are
• The importance of staying connected to the inner child
• Seeking out diversity and rebelling against what is being shown to you – choosing to be the curator of your feed, your life, everything.

Plus, we talk about quarter-life crises!

Megan McCann is a business strategy coach, co-founder of the Soul Success Summit. She’s a meditation and mindset teacher and a serial entrepreneur.

Find out more about her over on her website www.meganmccannyoga.com

“What do you stand for?”

“We put so much pressure on ourselves to achieve a certain outcome and for things to look a certain way that we forget to have fun.”

“When I put pressure on myself to fit in a certain box – I am so disconnected from who I truly am.”

“How many times can I fail consecutively in order to find out who I really am?”

“I thought that once I became successful I would have all of my problems magically figured out with rainbows and fairies and unicorns everywhere…and fortunately, it doesn’t work that way.”

• Going from being afraid of what people will think, to just following your own path
• The difference between a ‘have to’ to and a ‘get to’ life
• The importance of finding what lights you up and going after it
• How not everyone will share your worldview, and why that’s ok
• Why failure is a great thing
• Why having fun is essential for success

Plus, we talk about laughing so hard that water comes out of your nose!

• The Soul Success Summit 13th/14th June 2020 Sun Valley Idaho – More info HERE

Amy E. Smith is a certified confidence coach, masterful speaker, and personal empowerment expert. Founder of TheJoyJunkie.com, Amy uses her roles as coach, writer, podcaster, and speaker to move individuals to a place of radical personal empowerment and self-love.

With an acute focus on helping people “find their voice”, she is highly sought after for her uncommon style of irreverence, wisdom, and humour and has been a featured expert on Fox 5 San Diego and YourTango.com

You can find out more about her over on her website www.thejoyjunie.com, her free facebook community, or on Instagram @thejoyjunkie.

“The more we stand in blame and judgement of others, the less empowered we are.”

“It’s not that you’re not justified in feeling the anger, it’s just that if you hold onto the anger, you’re the one suffering.”

“What if I took the amount of energy that I put into anger and blame and put it into forgiveness or self-love or proactive creation?” 

“I am not willing to chronically complain about anything that I’m not taking some assertive action on.”

“Unless you’re with a psychic or a mindreader, you need to use your words, because that’s #adutling”

• How we need to move away from blaming others and start taking radical responsibility for ourselves
• How blaming others and constantly complaining disempowers us
• How to handle difficult/uncomfortable conversations with our friends/partners/colleagues (and why they are so important)
• Finding the middle path between avoidance and attack when dealing with difficult situations
• How good communication is the key to having your needs met and meeting the needs of your loved ones. Don’t assume you know what each other are thinking!

Plus, we talk about how we wish we’d learnt this stuff in school!

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This weeks episode is the second in a mini series where I am chatting with people who I feel are truly embodying their design or who I have seen really embracing their Human Design experiment. This week's guest is Denise Mortimer, the breakiest-breakthrough Queen who has a deep understanding of your brilliance and helps you bring it to the forefront of your life. She very generously let me dive into her Human Design and together we explore what she understands already and then we go deeper. Denise is a Projector and her Conscious Sun and 'life's work' is code 32 - The Evolution Empowerer...

• The unique magic of being a Projector
• How to embody your design if you are someone who is very open to the influence of others
• How to work with your Authority when you have lots of open centres
• What it feels like to walk through life as 'you'
• The immediate power of words and imagery in supporting you to embody your design... and I quote "I hadn't ever thought about it like that. It's brilliant!"

My new signature programme Embody Your Design® starts its premier six week sprint on 14th June! Super early bird has gone, but I am offering early bird pricing until 10th June. Join us as we play with a series of 'experience experiments' that will have you understanding your Human Design, activating your magnetism and alchemising your challenges into wisdom. Find out more here.

Denise Mortimer is a dopamine hit. Denise Mortimer is a human dopamine hit. She can see the more efficient way to do your life and business. She prides herself on being one of the 3% Mental Projectors and having a level of insight and depth that others simply cannot access. When she is not working with clients, she is busy down loading divine guidance - for her clients. In other words, she is obsessed, with personal and business development, and with helping her clients achieve insane levels of success. Originally from New York, Denise lives in London England with her 2 cats and a husband and neighbours who use noisy garden power tools everytime there is a slight hint of sunshine. She is FUN, fierce, insightful.

Find out more about Denise:

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/denise.mortimer.12/

Website: Denisemortimer.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/denisemortimer_12/

Read Denise's e-book:https://denisemortimer.com/book-referral-link/

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Lucy is a Spiritual Healer, Business Coach & Speaker supporting ambitious women in business to fall in love with themselves, increase their self-worth and as a result, their net-worth.

Find out more about Lucy on her website - http://www.lucy-brand.com - or on Instagram.

“#Adulting means surrendering to love and allowing that to flow into your life”

“You have to forgive yourself for past mistakes”

“Receiving and accepting love was a game-changer for me”

“Love is a feeling of connection”

“When you are an adult, you don’t need to seek anyone’s approval”

“Language doesn’t always do justice to love”

• How to increase your capacity to receive love
• The importance of being curious when it comes to extending your capacity to love and receive love
• The problems associated with advice like “You can’t find love until you love yourself”.
• How you don’t necessarily have to be in a place where you are happy with yourself in order to find love, and why it’s so important not to give up on love!

Plus, we talk about how to establish what you really want in life and love, and why it’s not a problem if you have to work that out via a process of elimination!

Lucy is the world’s first and only Comparison Coach. Recognised as one of the UK’s most successful coaches by the Times, she is on a mission to cure comparison! 

Find out more about Lucy here: http://www.proofcoaching.com/ or on Instagram via her handle @lucysheridan.

“The people I respect and admire the most let other people be themselves”

“#Adulting means having shit loads of compassion!”

“I have an underlying, unpredictable, very competitive streak.

“I’m sick of one-sided relationships and actively seeking genuine relationships”

“I’ll take a hangover over 5AM bike rides any day of the week!”

“If something is important to you, make a temple in your heart and guard it”

• How comparison is nothing new, and compassion can be a cure!
• The importance of not feeling the need to trust everyone, and only sharing your thoughts, hopes and dreams with people who you trust and respect to preserve your energy.
• How when Lucy stopped fighting [comparison], she was able to understand more of what it was trying to show her.
• The importance of recognising the symptoms of comparison and changing your perspective in order to adjust the response.

Plus, we talk about why a 5AM morning routine doesn’t work for everyone!

Audrey helps people recover from burnout by helping them connect their bodies and minds. Combining over a decade of experience teaching yoga and mindfulness with extensive training and work as a Certified Professional Coach, she teaches her clients how to tap into their natural resilience and agility so they can handle whatever comes their way.

Find out more about Audrey on her website - https://fortitudeandflow.com/ or on Instagram -https://www.instagram.com/fortitudeandflow/

“People send me pictures of themselves relaxing!”

“The ‘hustle’ culture is so toxic and awful.”

“#Adulting is how one perceives or handles discomfort”

“It’s time to stop competing in Burn out ‘Top Trumps!’”

“I wish there was an operating manual for being human”

“We need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable.”

“Let’s brag about self care!”

• How bodily comfort and discomfort is interpreted by the nervous system.
• Why so many of us feel the need to criticise team members or colleagues who don’t rock up to work super early, occasionally take a sick day or mental health day and don’t reply to emails when they are on holiday - and why we need to congratulate them!
• How the aggressive narrative around fear isn’t helpful (the ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway!’ kind of advice) and what can help instead.
• How historical toxic working experiences can contribute to patterns of behaviour in our working life, whether you are employed or self employed)

Plus, we talk about why everyone needs to watch the Matrix!

Meet Jo Westwood.

Jo is a life coach and author, known for her fun, real, no BS approach to helping you improve your life. She specialises in helping women escape from codependency, reclaim their lives with confidence and live Lovingly Fierce.

Her online codependence recovery course is available now at jowestwood.com <http://jowestwood.com>

Fav quotes from this episode:

“Adulting means knowing who I am, and that’s not a static thing”

“The only time you are done as a human being is when you are dead”

“Human nature is so fascinating - we’re so weird!”

“Figuring out that I was co-dependent and going on my recovery journey was simultaneously one of the most painful experiences but categorically the best experience of my life because it brought me to who I really am - where I could peel away the mask”

“We’re seeing so much of the narcissistic/abusive vs. codependent/empathic dynamic being played out on the world stage in such a huge way at the moment”

“I’ve never heard the word ‘gaslighting’ so much since 2016”

“I can’t change anyone else’s behaviour, but I can change the dynamic between us by changing me behaviour”

“I used to see people who were in healthy relationships and I used to think it was fake!”

“We’re not meant to do this alone. We’re meant to connect with people in a healthy way”

“There’s nothing more gorgeous than being in a relationship with someone who really wants you”

“It’s fucking terrifying to let go of needing and being needed”

“I’m an adult but… I’ve just been to the Coop and bought some creme egg ice cream”

In this episode we talk about:

• The importance of constantly growing, learning and developing to finding who you really are.
• Why we’re terrified of saying what we really want and need.
• The difference between misfits, rebels and mavericks
• How it’s human nature to want to ‘fit in’, and how this affects our relationships
• ‘Mend and Attend’ - a mechanism for self-protection like our ‘Fight or Flight’ response.
• Why if you are an adult who can take care of yourself and can put a roof over your head and have experienced an abusive relationship, you have played into that dynamic in some way, and why it’s important to take ownership of...

Meet Kathleen Hanagan

Kathleen Hanagan is spiritual teacher, modern mystic, psychotherapist, and author, whose work integrates the essential wisdom of the great spiritual traditions with scientific knowledge, 30 years working intimately with individuals, couples, and groups, and her own quest for liberation.

Kathleen’s gift is her ability to translate esoteric knowledge into practical tools that help us navigate the stormy waters of the human journey. 

You can find out more about her over on her website: www.KathleenHanagan.com

Fav quotes from this episode:

“Part of being an adult is realising when you’re in an emotional blind spot.”

“I help people connect to the child inside so that they can grow that child up and become an adult.”

“As adults, we need to teach those kids inside to ask for what they want…but it doesn’t always mean we are going to get it.”

“You can’t really blame someone else for how you feel.”

“Showing up is big work but it’s worth it.”

In this episode we talk about:

• Why “unbridled self-expression” isn’t always a good thing
• How our present-day relationships can be deeply affected by unresolved childhood hurts
• What causes adults to ‘act out’ with destructive behavioural patterns
• Why we need to learn to witness and identify our emotions (and take responsibility for them)
• The importance of integrating and accepting all aspects of the inner child in order to find harmony and wholeness in your life

Plus, we talk about how to communicate productively with your partner or the people close to you.

Meet Tamu Thomas

Tamu Thomas is the founder of ‘Three Sixty’ and a purveyor of joy.  ‘Three sixty’ is a wellness brand on a mission to help generation X women experience more joy in their day to day lives.

Find out more about Tamu and her work over on her website http://www.livethreesixty.com

Fav quotes from this episode:

“We are bought up in a society that prepares us for fear, but doesn’t prepare us for joy.”

“By taking responsibility for your own joy, you give other people permission to own their joy.”

“I’m constantly prioritising joy in every moment. Even the ones that feel quite sticky.”

“The idea that joy is within you, and that you can tap into it at any time feels really empowering.”

“Instead of thinking of my playfulness as being immature – I now consider it a vital part of my vitality.”

In this episode we talk about:

How it’s time to stop playing the ‘my-life-is-harder-than-yours’ game

What you can do to enable others to access their inherent joy

How rollerskating flicked a switch in Tamu’s brain to wake her up to another way of livingWhat the difference is between 'happiness' and 'joy'

How it’s possible to feel joy alongside other emotions like sadness

Plus we talk about ‘Generation X’ women and how they are the bridge between the digital and analogue ages.

Resources:

Bill High - How do you define joy 

In this episode with Ebonie... Ebonie chats about milestones, celebrations and collaborations! Plus she looks ahead to the upcoming LIVE recording of the 100th episode of Adulting with Ebonie and let you know how to get involved!

Fav quotes from this episode:

“I’m really happy because I have created a life that I adore and a business that is in line with my values.”

“How do you mark the beginning of something, or the end of something, or the milestones in your life?”

“Come and see me – I’d love to give you a hug!”

“This community is cool because you are in it!”

“The ultimate celebration would be to hear from you!”

In this episode I talk about:

• Anniversaries, birthdays, and the importance of reflecting on your journey at certain milestones
• The upcoming 100th episode of Adulting with Ebonie (spoiler alert: It will be a LIVE event! Find out how you can join us!
• The deep transformations I’ve seen occur in the MORE Mastermind
• Co-creation, and I’m reaching out to you to find out what you want to see me do next!

Plus I talk about my recent collaboration with the lovely Carly from Lucky Sew and Sew and how you can get your hands on a set of misfit undies.

Resources

• Reach out to me on Instagram @ebonieallard or @adultingwithebonie
• Lucky Sew and Sew x Misfit Enterprises collaboration - get yours HERE
• More info about Happy Startup Summercamp HERE

Meet Laurence McCahill

Laurence is the co-founder of The Happy Startup School, an antidote to business as usual. They provide courses, coaching programs and somewhat legendary off-grid gatherings for purpose-driven entrepreneurs and leaders that are seeking to balance money with meaning. Laurence's story is particularly inspiring for anyone who's struggling to find their purpose, who finds themselves with the feeling that this is not as good as it gets.

Find out more about Laurence over at https://medium.com/@welovelean 

Fav quotes from this episode:

“There are no rules. You can play how you wanna play once you realise that most people don’t know what they're doing!”

“We are very good at overcomplicating things as humans.”

“We are passionate about business. But we aren’t passionate about business for business’ sake. We are passionate about people too.”

“A happy startup is when you are balancing three things; your own needs, what drives you, and what the world needs.”

“Having ideas is 1% of the work, and 90% of it is the execution.”

In this episode we talk about:

• How ‘finding your purpose’ is NOT about waking up one day and suddenly knowing what you want to do with your life
• Why we need to stop idolising other people and recognise that we all have something important to offer
• Why the Happy Start-Up Camp is for people who don’t feel like they don’t fit in at conventional business events 
• Why heart-led businesses tend to have more longevity than economically motivated businesses
• The magic trio of things that you need in order to find fulfilment in your startup

Plus, we talk about how to avoid burnout as an entrepreneur or small business owner

Resources:

• The Happy Startup School - http://www.thehappystartupschool.com/
• The Happy Startup Summer Camp - tickets HERE
• Caroline Mchugh’s TED Talk - “The Art of Being Yourself

Meet Sally Beaton

Sally Beaton is a holistic nutritionist and life coach i.e. a sparkle coach. Sally's an international speaker, the CEO of Women With Sparkle and coaches women all over the world to reach their full potential because she believes that every woman deserves to live with vitality, confidence, passion and purpose. She has a special interest in teaching women how to understand and work with their health and hormones so they can truly thrive in business and in life.

You can find out more about her over on her website www.womenwithsparkle.com and on Instagram @womenwithsparkle

Fav quotes from this episode:

“You can bring that fun and sparkle and play into being an adult.”

“If we understand our bodies, especially as women, we can create amazing health for ourselves and not be scared.”

“We have four different phases. And in those phases, your brain and body chemistry changes.”

“I didn’t realise that I had an actual hormonal cycle that every month was trying to lure me into a better way of health – mental and physical”

“Before, I dulled down my sparkle to fit into business frameworks. Now, Instead of dulling down that sparkle – I dial it up!”

“It’s about you being at peace with who you are, rather than obsessing over what other people are going to think of you.”

In this episode we talk about:

• Celebrating your uniqueness and dialling it up! Even in a business setting
• Realising that women and men might need to approach business (and life) slightly differently
• Sally’s experience of burning out as a result of trying to function in a way that was totally against her body’s wisdom
• The gift of understanding your hormonal cycles in order to really understand yourself as a woman
• How to work with the four phases of the menstrual cycle to bring more ease, creativity, and sparkle to your life

Plus, we talk about learning to love adulting instead of seeing it as a chore.

Meet Ben Clench

Ben is a Traumatic Brain Injury Advocate and an International Development Specialist. He’s also an inspiring speaker (I was introduced to Ben by his powerful Ted Talk – Follow the Patient) and author of the book ‘Ben Again’.

You can find out more about him on his website https://ben-again.org/ or say hello on Twitter @ben_clench

“I basically died. But survived - which is fascinating.”

“I’m not angry. It was an accident. An awful accident.”

“When you come so close to death…how can you not feel lucky to come through that?”

“It’s made me a persistent bastard”

“[The book] is a brutally honest description of how the fuck you get up after something as awful as what happened.”

• The traumatic brain injury that Ben experienced that almost killed him
• Starting over: having to learn to walk, talk and adult again
• How the people around him had to adjust to the changes in his personality as a result of the accident
• Exceeding the doctors’ expectations for his recovery and the many things he’s gone on to achieve since his accident
• Gratitude and appreciation for this precious life

Plus we talk about Ben’s book ‘Ben Again’ and what to expect from it.

• "Ben Again" - Ben's book
• "Follow the Patient" - Ben's TED Talk

This weeks episode is the start of a mini series where I am chatting with people who I feel are truly embodying their design. I start by talking to Sarah Olivia, a multi-modality healer, who recovers inner children and lost selves, activates wild women and desires and leads you home to safety, love and belonging. She very generously let me dive into her Human Design and together we explore what she understands already and then we go deeper. Sarah's conscious sun and 'life's work' is code 33 - The Wisdom keeper...

• How you can begin to embody your design even if you don't have all of the details
• How the past lands differently, and becomes more empowering as this information affirms the journey she's already been on, and how you can experience this for yourself too
• What Sacral Authority looks like in daily life
• The unique magic of being a Generator
• The immediate power of words and imagery in supporting you to embody your design... and I quote "I should be paying you for this!"

Plus, I share my new signature programme Embody Your Design®, a six week sprint, where you get to join me and play with a series of experience experiments that will have you understanding your Human Design, activating your magnetism and alchemising your challenges into wisdom. Find out more here.

Sarah Olivia is a deep-access healer and somatic coach working with women to excavate and activate their aliveness, pleasure and unique flavour of feminine power. Creating deeply attuned healing and growth containers for multidimensional, whole humans is this red-power-suit wearing witch’s jam.

Curious about working with Sarah: https://healwithsaraholivia.com/all-of-you

Free desire mapping session: https://calendly.com/sarah-olivia-connect/desire-mapping

Connect and play on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithsaraholivia

Receive love letters from Sarah https://healwithsaraholivia.activehosted.com/f/3

Podcast - Heal with Sarah Olivia

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Next Steps:

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Meet Chrissy Kapartis

Chrissy is an actress-in-training and full-time self-love warrior!

You can find out more about her over on her Instagram page @chrissy_shroomie

Fav quotes from this episode:

“Oh my god what? I can love myself instead of hating myself? That’s a thing!?”

“Of course no-one deserves to suffer, but the strength you gain from healing does transform it into a gift.”

“It’s really important for us to share our stories because so much of eating disorders are secret and hidden.” – EA

“Not only do I deserve a great life – but I CAN have that.”

“No one is in control of me, no-one has my power.”

“You deserve so much better than what an illness can give you. You deserve actual happiness and actual safety not the weak substitute that an illness tells you you can have.”

In this episode we talk about:

• Learning to be your own parent and own best friend
• Chrissy’s personal journey through trauma, illness and, finally, recovery
• How eating disorders can promote a false sense of happiness and belonging (that doesn’t last)
• Why learning the art of self-love is paramount to the healing process
• Adversity, strength and healing. How often those who have suffered develop an incredible inner strength
• How trauma isn’t always obvious or dramatic

Plus, we talk about how the healing process is never ‘done’. There are always more layers!

Resources:

• The Recover Clinic - Where Chrissy received treatment
• Chrissy’s Spoken Word Poem - Listen HERE

Meet Alisa Wilcox

Alisa is a six-figure success coach, specialising in automated systems and powerful sales funnels.  Her clients are entrepreneurs who are looking for massive growth with less work. She is also the co-creator of the Soul Success Summit, a Women’s conference aimed at creating connecting and sparking business growth, taking place steps for the beach in her hometown of Santa Barbara, CA.

You can find out more about her over at www.alisawilcox.com 

Fav quotes from this episode:

“My divorce taught me that life doesn’t have to follow sequential steps. It doesn’t have to go ‘in order’.”

“Whenever you get the opportunity to invest in training or one-on-one mentorship - do it!”

“My goal for my clients and myself is always six figures at ten hours a week and it’s very easy to accomplish that!”

“You actually don’t have to run yourself into the ground in order to have your own business.”

“Money is just an exchange of energy.”

“It doesn’t make you a saint if you’re broke all the time.”

In this episode we talk about:

• The freedom that comes from choosing your own path instead of just repeating your parents’ patterns or society’s expectations
• How going through a rock-bottom event, like divorce, can be a catalyst for success
• The entrepreneur ‘trap’ - working yourself into the ground for your business when what you are really seeking is freedom (and how to escape the trap!)
• How investing in a business coach transformed Alisa’s life
• Why wanting more money is not selfish or greedy
• How automated technology can save you time and change your life

Plus, we talk about why it’s so important to have interests outside of work in terms of enjoyment and inspiration.

Resources:

• The Tech Academy - Consistent $10k months with fully automated systems - Alisa’s coaching course

Meet Lauren Polly

Lauren Polly is a speaker, a coach and a multi-award-winning author of her book “The Other Side of Bi-Polar”. Her ‘thing’ is all about living beyond your label.

Find out more about her over at http://www.laurenpolly.com

Fav quotes from this episode:

“Really and truly the bigger picture is to build that trust in YOU.”

“You love the label because it gave you relief and at the same time you hate it because you’re in a box that you can’t get out of.”

“There’s so much of life to enjoy, but if you only ever put yourself in one box, you’re missing out.”

“Look normal and think wild!”

“If you’re with someone who’s disempowering you, don’t waste another appointment there.”

“We’re all weird and wonderful!”

“I am what I am...no matter what, I’m beautiful and I’m here.”

In this episode we talk about:

• How knowing and trusting yourself, and embracing your uniqueness is the single most important thing you can do for yourself
• Finding ways to navigate institutions, systems, and labels in a way that is helpful and empowering and... 
• Not falling into the ‘either/or’ trap when it comes to considering your options
• Learning to explore the elements of who you are beyond any labels or diagnosis’ you have had placed on you (or that you identify with)
• Stigma, community, and the importance of recognising that we are not alone

Plus we talk about recognising that life is messy and learning to look for peace within that messiness not in spite of it.

Resources:

• Lauren’s book: “The Other Side of Bi-Polar”
• Lauren’s podcast: “The Lighten Up Podcast”