Adulting with Ebonie – Détails, épisodes et analyse

This week's episode is the last of seven re-releases from season two. In the one about ''The Power of Pleasure' I'm joined by Misty Tripoli and we deep dive into a conversation about discovering our joy and pleasure.

❤️‍🔥💝This is for you if you secretly believe that a juicy delicious life is possible for someone else but not you.

💃🏼💃🏼 Its for you if you enjoy dancing!

Everyone gets to live a deliciously adult life and learn to love themselves, once they've taken the time to cultivate an intimate relationship with themselves.

• HOW to take responsibility for your joy and pleasure
• HOW to correctly use the law of attraction
• How 'The Groove' came about - and how furious dancing is changing the world! (so fun, so cool!)
• The embodiment principles of being a delicious adult
• HOW to navigate disappointment in relationships
• HOW to activate your sexual energy - and why you want to
• Why 'learning to love yourself in order to love others' is important
• HOW to connect with and articulate your desires
• What happens when you really listen to what you really want 
• The questions to ask yourself that will reveal where you really want to be

Misty is the Founder of The World Groove Movement, Creator of The Groove Method, Body Groove and an International Presenter, Body Image truth talker, Lover of LOVE and warrior for TRUTH!

• @mistytripoli
• @theworldgroovemovement
• @bodygroove
• www.theworldgroovemovement.com

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If you are ready to take your first next step, I invite you to get your Value Filter, which I lovingly refer to as YOUR COMPASS. It's my signature tool and a prerequisite for all my other programs.

To find out more, and activate your inner GPS go here: https://www.ebonieallard.com/the-value-filter

If you're curious about your Human Design, you can get your free 'Embody your Design' chart and Report worth £49 for free as a gift as well as other freebies from me here: https://www.ebonieallard.com/freebies

If you are looking to get The Kismet Codes Oracle Deck, go here: https://www.ebonieallard.com/kismet-codes-deck-one

To talk to Ebonie about anything in this episode you can whatsapp her or DM her on Instagram and leave a voicenote testimonial on our speakpipe at https://www.ebonieallard.com/podcast

This week's episode is the sixth of seven re-releases from season two. In the one about 'Fight or Flight' I’m joined by Dr Rachel Morris to talk about the instinctive responses to our “stuff” - fight, flight and freeze. 

Stress. It’s real. It’s pervasive. It’s something so many misfits I work with battle day on day…

And what’s happening to us now on a physiological level is that we’re responding to that stress the way our ancestors would have responded to life-threatening danger.

Listen to hear us discuss:

• The perks (and limits) of self-awareness.
• How to handle your emotions in a way that will make you way more effective!
• How to make sure your fight or flight response doesn’t rule the show.
• The impact that true community can have on the way you engage with your fear.

Rachel is a GP turned Executive Coach, Speaker and Specialist on Resilience in the workplace. She works with GPs, doctors and other professionals in high stress and high stakes jobs to help them beat stress and burnout.

• You can find Rachel's podcast here: You Are Not a Frog 
• Rachel’s website is here
• Find Rachel on Twitter
• Connect with Rachel on LinkedIn

• The Manual of Me
• The Chimp Paradox by Steve Peters
• Fuck it by John Parkin

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If you are ready to take your first next step, I invite you to get your Value Filter, which I lovingly refer to as YOUR COMPASS. It's my signature tool and a prerequisite for all my other programs.

To find out more, and activate your inner GPS go here: https://www.ebonieallard.com/the-value-filter

If you're curious about your Human Design, you can get your free 'Embody your Design' chart and Report worth £49 for free as a gift as well as other freebies from me here: https://www.ebonieallard.com/freebies

If you are looking to get The Kismet Codes Oracle Deck, go here: https://www.ebonieallard.com/kismet-codes-deck-one

To talk to Ebonie about anything in this episode you can whatsapp her or DM her on Instagram and leave a voicenote testimonial on our speakpipe at https://www.ebonieallard.com/podcast

This week's episode is a solo episode where I share a different aspect of The Kismet Codes®. The Kismet Code cards are not just an oracle deck, but also offer a way to explore the Gene Keys and your Human Design. Let me show you how you might explore The Venus Sequence by sharing my own sequence and what it means for me.

Listen now to hear:

• Some other ways you can use your Kismet Codes® Cards
• What the different sequences will illuminate for you
• What The Venus Sequence specifically supports you to understand about yourself
• When and how your your relationship with your values developed and what these pivotal points in your development are illuminating for you
• A deep dive into my own Venus sequence so that you might see what discovering this looks like in real time

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If you are ready to take your first next step, I invite you to get your Value Filter, which I lovingly refer to as YOUR COMPASS. Its my signature tool and a prerequisite for all my other programs.

To find out more, and activate your inner GPS go here: https://www.ebonieallard.com/the-value-filter

If you're curious about your Human Design, you can get your free 'Embody your Design' chart and Report worth £49 for free as a gift from Ebonie HERE

If you want to get The Kismet Codes Oracle Deck, go here: https://www.ebonieallard.com/kismet-codes-deck-one

To talk to Ebonie about anything in this episode you can whatsapp her or DM her on Instagram.

If you have enjoyed the podcast, please rate, subscribe and leave us a review as it really helps more people find us. Thank you. If you leave a review and send me a screenshot I’ll send you a £10 credit note to use at www.eboniealchemy.com/products

If you struggle in the face of uncertainty, this one’s for you.

Learn how uncertainty can be a good thing, and how you can alchemise uncertainty into surety, and begin the process of creating the life you want and deserve today.

• Discover and follow the process of creation and manifestation
• Understanding your relationship with uncertainty
• The contradiction of our existence
• Know the duality of desire
• How survival is success to your brain
• Letting go of our stories so we can be in creation mode
• Discover how uncertainty can actually be AWESOME
• Understand the energetics of intention and attention
• What and where is the path of least resistance to your dream
• The power of community and how it can supercharge your growth

• Your Thing, Sure Thing

• Find out more at www.ebonieallard.com/podcast

You’re not going to know if it works until you try it!

We are all trying to run a business that’s never been done before, in a world that’s constantly changing, yet trying to find a finite solution to make us successful.

In this episode, we’re diving into the importance of CONNECTION and how by focusing on yourself (and the 100 people who need you most) you can create a business of truth and purpose.

• The key to mustering motivation on a daily basis
• The 2 questions that will give you the answers to connection, business and life
• The impact of distraction
• Our thoughts on doing what you want to do, being who you want to be, and living our art
• The danger of implementing tactics, positioning and messaging that isn’t true to you
• Why blaming yourself for a lack of results is a pointless process
• The importance of loving the fuck out of your people
• How awareness and understanding of ourselves is the ultimate currency
• How to deliver the true you to the world
• How to become a masterful storyteller (rather than a boring one)

Matt works with business owners to rock their brand, audience and income.

His mission is to help more people build businesses around who they really are and the work they truly love.

At the heart of this is a belief that connection conquers all: feeling connected to the brand you build; the audience you attract and the work you deliver. Connection = clarity, confidence and conversion. 

An award-winning business journalist, Matt 'caught the bug' and has since set up and co-founded numerous businesses including his own content marketing agency, business support service Smarta.com and The Freedom Collective coaching business with Shaa Wasmund MBE and Beardpoo, a beard shampoo brand that gives 25% of its profits to help fight male suicide.

Matt's a published author, has led creative projects for global brands and advised government on enterprise. In 2020 he'll be launching the 'YOUYOUYOU!' community for ambitious solopreneurs doing 'their' thing.

• Calm
• The School of Life
• Matt on Instagram
• Matt’s website

• Find out more at www.ebonieallard.com/podcast

• The one about doing it all creatively (with Nicky Raby)
• The one about communication and professionalism (with Daire Paddy)
• The one about stories (with Martha Shandur)

If you lack confidence in yourself or the Universe, this one’s for you.

My purpose is to work with the misfits and the magic-makers and support, activate and inspire you so that you have the foundations and the tools to show up and do “your thing”.

• What to do when you feel like you’re not enough (despite doing all the personal and business development work).
• How to adult the fuck up.
• Everything I’m going to give you to activate and inspire you. 
• The information you don’t need in order to step into your true potential.
• Your next steps if your life doesn’t look like anyone else’s version.
• What to do when you don’t know what “your thing” is.
• What will make you feel proud, happy, fulfilled and creative.
• How to create the kind of business that allows you to take time away.

• Your Thing, Sure Thing

• Find out more at www.ebonieallard.com/podcast

• The one about choosing yourself
• The one about living richly (with Allison Braun)
• The one about personal growth and perception (with Rebecca Lowrie)

In this episode, we’re diving into entrepreneurship from an Asian female perspective.

As kickass and kind humans, I feel that it’s so important to be open to hearing stories from people with different life experiences, and that’s one of the reasons I was so excited to speak to this week’s guest.

We’re talking about some of the cultural stereotypes vs. the realities of growing up as a woman in a Sikh Punjabi household. We’re also diving into inclusivity in business, in the media and onstage… and what we can all to make sure that everyone is represented.

• The impact growing up in a strict family can have on your identity
• How you can find your confidence through the right relationships
• Our thoughts on challenging social and cultural norms
• The importance of a clear yes and a clear no
• The many faces of manifestation
• Recognising privileges that you may not even realise you have
• Our thoughts on inclusion and diversity in the event space
• The most effective way to have these conversations without naming and shaming

Sharn Khaira is an advocate for Asian female entrepreneurs and has set up the Asian Female Entrepreneurs Collective (AFEC) to help other women be successful in business.

She launched her free Facebook group back in 2017 which has now grown to over 4000 Asian female entrepreneurs!

AFEC provides Asian women the mindset and marketing tools to change their life. She is now on a global mission to empower Asian female entrepreneurs globally.

She serves as a business and mindset mentor for Asian female entrepreneurs and is also an international motivational speaker.

You can find out more about Sharn on:

• Her website - https://afecollective.com/
• Asian Female Entrepreneur Collective on Facebook
• Her Instagram page

• Bushra Azhar
• Suzy Ashworth

• Find out more at www.ebonieallard.com/podcast

• The one about huge cultural change (with Ari Krzyzek)
• The one about bypassing and privilege (with Thais Sky)
• The one about worthiness (with Charlotte Eléa)
• The one about showing up (with Suzy Ashworth)

The world is changing fast, and old patriarchal systems are being replaced with something new.

Over the last few weeks we’ve had a chance to slow down, to listen, and to observe some of our own truths, and in this episode I discuss what it means to truly step into trusting ourselves and source, and taking inspired action in a time that feels uncertain. 

• How this time is making us unable to hide from our shadows
• How not everything new and different is bad, sometimes it’s really cool
• The joining of energies to create a space that can hold you completely
• This time can be about giving you the strength to take off your armour
• You’re allowed to be messier, more chaotic, and fully express yourself
• The safety of a true container created for you to be fully yourself, can help you face things that ordinarily would feel too much
• Being able to completely drop societal expectations about “who” we should be
• The choice to act on the wisdom of the universe without knowing what comes next
• What it’s like to trust yourself completely & implicitly 

• Find out more at www.ebonieallard.com/podcast

• The one about shame and guilt
• The one about calming your autonomic nervous system
• The one about choosing yourself

Do you feel responsible for your own feelings and circumstances right now?

In this episode, I’m joined by Nick North to talk about responsibility, ownership and validation (among other things). We’re diving into how each of these topics show up in our relationships, in our families and in our own identities.

• Our thoughts on responsibility, and teaching our families to own theirs
• The impact of focusing on getting validation from others (and boundaries for making that okay)
• The concept of an exploding doormat (i.e. the Misfit MO!)
• How to take responsibility for ourselves when that’s not what we’re used to
• An amazing tool for handling conflict and compromise in your relationships
• The difference between being in a relationship as a woman and being in a relationship as a man
• Understanding our privilege and how we can use that for the highest good

Nick North is a dude, a husband, a dad to 5 kids and a Branding Strategist. He also has a history of living as a woman, a wife, a mom, a photographer and even an EMR. When he embraced his identity and came out as transgender, he realised just how much gender affects the way we think, talk, sell and function. He now speaks from his experience on both sides of the gender coin, empowering men and women to live authentically and powerfully, while also making more money following their passion and their gut. You can find him at http://www.nicknorth.co or sharing many a topless photo and big feelings on Instagram @epicdanger.

• Enneagram types
• The Four Tendencies quiz
• “Just another beautiful family” documentary

• Find out more at www.ebonieallard.com/podcast

• The one about gender expression (with Jonathan Beal)
• The one about responsibility and not abdicating (with Dyana Valentine)
• The one about identity and environment (with Becky Rui)

Shame and guilt are two of the topics I get asked to talk about most frequently, so in this episode, I’m delivering!

When we feel feelings of shame, it’s often attached to a feeling of vulnerability, which can often be interpreted as weakness… but we get to flip the script on that. And while guilt is typically less painful than shame (because we see it as being more useful) it can still have a negative impact on our businesses and lives.

In this episode, I’m pulling apart the strands of shame, guilt, vulnerability and judgement and talking about how we can make moves towards a more value filtered life.

• What shame and guilt actually are (and what the difference is)
• How you can alchemise some of those things you feel ashamed of and turn them into superpowers
• Self-awareness and personal responsibility are where it’s at. Blame does not remove shame!
• What happens when you go against your (or someone else’s) values
• How to shift our feelings of shame and guilt
• Society’s role in our feelings of shame and guilt
• The distinction between guilt, procrastination and self-sabotage



• Listening to shame (with Brene Brown)
• Landmark forum
• The Value Filter Masterclass
• Misfit to Maven (the book!)
• Masterclasses are all now in The Vault.

• Find out more at www.ebonieallard.com/podcast

• The one about misfit misconceptions
• The one about capacity (with Lisa Fabrega)
• The one about fear