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AFH: Season 1, Episode 3

Featuring Ericka Hart (@ErickaHart)

Al sits down with Ericka Hart, the Black queer femme activist and award-winning sexuality educator redefining liberation, pleasure and power.

About the Guest:

Ericka Hart (pronouns: she/they) is a black queer femme activist, writer, highly acclaimed speaker and award-winning sexuality educator with a Master’s of Education in Human Sexuality from Widener University. Ericka’s work broke ground when she went topless showing her double mastectomy scars in public in 2016. Since then, she has been in demand at colleges and universities across the country, featured in countless digital and print publications like Vogue, Washington Post, Allure, Harper’s Bazaar, VICE, PAPER Mag, BBC News, Cosmopolitan, Vanity Fair, W Magazine, Glamour, Elle, and Essence. Ericka’s voice is rooted in leading edge thought around human sexual expression as inextricable to overall human health and its intersections with race, gender, chronic illness and disability. Both radical and relatable, she continues to push well beyond the threshold of sex positivity. Ericka Hart has taught sexuality education for elementary aged youth to adults across New York City for over 10 years, including for 4 years at Columbia University’s School of Social work and the CUNY School of Public Health at Hunter College. They are currently running their own sex ed training program called Sex Ed as Resistance, a bratty switchy Sagittarius service bottom and misses Whitney more than you.

Guest Info:

• Instagram Ericka Hart
• Ericka Hart

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This podcast was produced by aurielle sayeh, filmed by @thetellychannel, and powered by @dameproducts.

AFH: Season 1, Episode 2

Featuring Mal Wright (@Igobymal)

In this episode, Al Fine and Mal Wright explore identity, the straights, and the power of presence. From reality TV fame to real-life reflection, Mal brings her signature blend of humor, honesty, and grounded insight to a conversation that feels both expansive and deeply personal.

About the Guest:

Mal Wright (she/her/they if you’re feeling zesty) is a reality TV standout from Netflix’s The Ultimatum: Queer Love S1, known for her grounded energy, sharp wit, and unfiltered authenticity. A creative based in NY with Caribbean roots and a background in corporate leadership and casting, she brings industry savvy and cultural depth to everything she does—on and off the screen.

Guest Info:

• Instagram Mal Wright @Igobymal

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This podcast was produced by aurielle sayeh, filmed by @thetellychannel, and powered by @dameproducts.

Talking about gender can get very serious very quickly, but my guest, Rae McDaniel, squashes that. They are all about reinfusing gender with play, possibility, and pleasure. They show us how in their amazing book, Gender Magic, and share some of their gender wisdom with me today. 

For Rae, gender magic asks how each of us can discover who we are and express our magic to the world in a way that doesn’t send her suffering. This requires a healthy dose of softening boundaries, doing away with rigid definitions, and eliminating dichotomies. 

Instead, we must engage in one of the biggest adult taboos: play! Silly is subversive! No matter your gender and how comfortable you are with your gender, there is always something to be learned through gender play.

We then get into power stuff: exploring feminine power, masculine power, and how even striving to activate more power within oneself can be a gendered motivation. Nothing is inherently feminine or masculine. These are ideas from which we get to decide what the words mean to us as individuals.  

One of my favorite things about Rae is that their ideas are rooted in the real world. Theory and sharing thoughts within our circles are well and good, but that is not the world. I guarantee you will learn something from this convo. Also, don’t forget to buy their book! 

Topics Covered:

• The unsexy/sexy process of titling Gender Magic
• The play, possibility, and pleasure of gender play together 
• How gender identity and power can interact, support, and contradict each other 
• Feeling good as a style compass
• Releasing gender and affirming through gender 

About Rae McDaniel

• Instagram: @theraemcdaniel 
• Website: rae-mcdaniel.com
• Buy Gender Magic: Hachette Book Group

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This podcast was produced by The Wave Podcasting

Let’s talk about sex as we age! I am so excited to share this conversation with Maryjane Fahey, creator of Glorious Broads and all-around bad b*tch. 

Maryjane is 74 and has never felt more alive. The revolution of openly curious women is on the rise, and I’m living for it! Curious about sexuality, open marriage, sobriety, both having kids and not having kids… it’s all about opening up communication with yourself and with the people you’re in relationship with. 

Especially as women, we crave intergenerational friendships. Most of Maryjane’s audience is younger, 25-45, and love hearing her debunk myths about growing old. We absolutely don’t shrivel up and become irrelevant; we absolutely still want sex and can feel sexy, and we absolutely can live pleasure-filled lives!

Maryjane shares the juice on sexuality as we age. Once pregnancy is removed as an option after menopause, pleasure is at the forefront. If we choose, there can be the liberation of not needing the next partner or spouse, just the next wonderful person to be with. Power is no longer a performance. 

This one will leave you feeling inspired and hot, no matter how old or young you are!

Topics Covered:

• Feeling lively AF at 74
• Maryjane’s daily practices to connect with joy and pleasure
• The rise of curious women!
• Sexuality as we age
• On being anti-retirement
• Menopause and hormones

Resources Mentioned:

• Instagram: @wednesdaymartinphd
• Hormone Studies: What Went Wrong? 

About Maryjane Fahey

• Glorious Broads
• Instagram: @gloriousbroads
• TikTok: @gloriousbroads 

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This podcast was produced by The Wave Podcasting

In this episode, I’m joined by the effervescent Solonje Burnett, who exists at the intersection of community, wellness, and weed. Solonje uses her platforms to speak to weed education and interconnectedness in a genuinely inspiring and joyous way.

There are many parallels between how our society indiscriminately labels sexual pleasure and weed as a sin or something to be ashamed of when actually both are healing modalities. We discuss what makes up a conscious, healthy relationship with weed. It's essential to stay in conversation with your body and yourself about how you’re using weed as a tool for connection or escape, for example, and not avoidance or numbing out. 

Our society promotes a lot of misconceptions, traumas, and lies around cannabis use, so when we do finally feel comfortable smoking, sometimes our identities, such as mom or leader, can feel jeopardized. For Solonje, smoking weed brings out her most playful and raw form and gets rid of the desire to perform. For her and most people, we become more present, open, and creative when we’re high and less guarded and secretive.

Solonje’s company, Weed Auntie, focuses on weed education and provides many types of services and events for small groups, like tea parties, to large organizations, like Soho House. All carried out with Solonje’s beautiful language of interconnectedness and inclusivity to show that weed is all types of people and all types of things. She also launched Erven in October 2023, a tech company that facilitates the exchange of sales performance data from cannabis retailers’ POS systems to brands. 

Naturally, we wrap by chatting about weed and sex as relates to body, mind, and sexual products. Ultimately, responsible smoking is a valid choice and one that calls for more play and pleasure in life. By the end of this conversation, Solonje helped me to feel confident enough to claim that weed helps me be my best self!

Topics Covered:

• Conscious, responsible weed-smoking
• Working through the stigma and shame of cannabis consumption as a woman, mom and business leader 
• Cannabis in the workplace and upholding our humanity
• Solonje’s businesses, Weed Auntie and Erven
• Weed and pleasure!
• Reflecting on our relationship with alcohol 
• THC breaks 

Resources Mentioned: 

• Daye CBD Tampons 
• Foria 
• Quim 

About Solonje Burnett

• Instagram: @solonjeburnett
• Solonje Burnett: solonjeburnett.com
• Erven: erven.ai

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• Instagram: @afinehuman 
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This podcast was produced by The Wave Podcasting

How weird can we get? I speak with the super groovy and wise head witch in charge at Holisticism, Michelle Pellizzon-Lipsitz, about staying true to our art and magic in this big, strange capitalist world.  

Michelle’s approach to business merges magic, whimsy, art, and an anthropological curiosity about existence. Past experiences of seizures, hearing voices, and trying to “fix” what seemed wrong solidified that life is not black and white. Rules are always an interpretation, there are always more answers, possibilities, and discoveries. From these ashes rose Holisticism.

We get into how operating creatively within capitalism is not innate, what balancing compromise with sacrifice could actually look like, and a whole lot of other things that seem like opposites (i.e. spellwork and marketing). Staying focused within systems that tell us what we want isn’t possible sometimes feels overwhelming, but through tools like ritual, spellwork, and systems, there really can be balance among all that chaos. 

Humans have actually been practicing ritual and spellwork since forever, it's just been called by so many different names. Michelle breaks down each component of a spell, and I was surprised by just how flexible and personalized intentional magic can be. 

Ultimately meaning-making is a structure to help us understand our own minds. You both are and you aren’t the same as your business. You may nourish and cultivate it, but it is not your baby. Let’s remove the singular, concrete labels and instead celebrate that our identities are infinite.

Topics Covered:

• Holisticism for intuitive small business owners
• Creativity within capitalism
• How to make a spell + Michelle’s favorite rituals 
• Spiderweb thinking vs. linear thinking
• Perfectionism is closer to mediocrity than failure

About Michelle Pellizzon-Lipsitz

• Instagram: @michellepellizzonlipsitz
• Holisticism: holisticism.com

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• Instagram: @afinehuman 
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This podcast was produced by The Wave Podcasting

Excited/intimidated/thrilled by the idea of an orgasmic birth? Me too. I spoke with orgasmic birth doula Debra Pascali-Bonaro about the dire need to put joy, love, and ecstasy back into the birth experience. 

Debra’s journey centers around transgressing the medical system’s authority on what birth should look like and instead encouraging women to let their own bodies and babies be the guide. The system isn’t all bad, but it leads from pain and fear instead of uplifting the birth experience. This is deeply evident from how birth is managed in hospital rooms to the birthing language itself. 

Debra widens my understanding of an orgasmic birth to include not just a potential birthgasm, which can really help the baby come out, but also the experience of your baby being between worlds, first feeling your baby against your skin and looking in their eyes, and the many pleasurable moments in between. 

After all, birth is on the same continuum as sexuality. Pleasure keeps the hormones flowing. Debra emphasizes that we need to take the time for pleasure practices every day because we birth the way we live. 

Topics Covered:

• Putting joy, love, and ecstasy back into birth
• Orgasmic birth, the birthgasm, and all of the pleasure
• The pleasure and pain of my own birth experience
• Sex and birth continuum 
• Pregnancy is a time for healing and sexuality
• Pleasure practices
• Shifting illness-based birth language to a more pleasureful one

Resources Mentioned:

• DONA International: Doula training and doula certifications
• Orgasmic Birth Movie

Guest Info: 

• Debra Pascali-Bonaro | website
• Orgasmic Birth | Instagram
• Orgasmic Birth | podcast

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This podcast was produced by The Wave Podcasting

Welcome to Horny for Life! I’m Al. I live at the intersection of business, taboo and wellness. I’m a trained psychologist, sex toy inventor, mom, running a multi-million dollar sexual wellness company.

On this podcast, I’m joined by dynamic humans who approach life with curiosity and courage, people who embrace the idea of paving their own path. The stories we share might challenge your beliefs or inspire you to think in a new way. That’s what we’re here to do. 

I want to know what makes people feel good. I want to know what alignment looks like. I want to know what makes people feel uncomfortable and push on the bruises. 

Join me on this audio therapy session. I’m horny for life, and soon you will be too.

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Al Fine and Latham Thomas discuss parenting and the power of presence.

Guest Info:

• Website: Peaceful Parenting
• Instagram @mamaglow @glowmaven

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This podcast was produced by aurielle sayeh, filmed by @thetellychannel, and powered by @dameproducts.

Dr. Ian Kerner, bestselling author of “She Comes First” and licensed sex therapist, shares insights from his 20+ years helping couples create more fulfilling sexual connections. From his own journey of overcoming sexual challenges to becoming a leading voice in sex therapy, Dr. Kerner discusses how traditional scripts around sex often limit pleasure and intimacy. He emphasizes moving beyond the “intercourse discourse” to embrace a more holistic view of sexual experiences that prioritizes mutual pleasure and absorption.

Through his clinical work and research, Dr. Kerner has observed concerning trends among younger generations choosing partnerships without sexual chemistry, while also noting positive shifts in couples’ openness to sexual exploration and toy incorporation. He provides practical frameworks for couples to examine and improve their “sexual scripts” - the patterns and behaviors that make up their intimate encounters.

The conversation explores how couples can cultivate psychological arousal, maintain erotic connections between encounters, and create space for authentic sexual expression without judgment. Dr. Kerner shares valuable insights about the importance of both emotional safety and maintaining elements of mystery and desire in long-term relationships.

Topics Covered:

• Rethinking traditional sexual scripts
• Creating psychological arousal and intimacy
• The role of foreplay vs coreplay
• Sexual chemistry in choosing life partners
• Maintaining desire in long-term relationships

Guest Info:

• Website: IanKerner.com
• Books: “She Comes First”, “So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex”

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• Instagram: @afinehuman 
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This podcast was produced by The Wave Podcasting