In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationships, we’re building the blueprint for your most grounded, self-led, and successful year ever. Not because the calendar magically fixes your life - but because you decide to show up as the woman who no longer drags old chaos into her new chapter.

2026 is a blank slate. A reset. A clean energetic line in the sand. And the version of you who thrives next year is built from identity, habits, emotional maturity, and standards… not “new year, new me” delusion.

I walk you through the exact ways to anchor into self-belief, detox 2025 without spiralling into shame, rebuild your habits, upgrade your mindset, call in healthy love, and become the woman whose life reflects her standards - not just her Pinterest board.

Here’s what I unpack in this episode:

Claiming 2026 as Your Fresh Start

Identity - Evidence

Reflecting on 2025 Like a Grown Woman

Habits That Match Your Goals

Your 2026 Vision

Intentionality Over Performance

Expanding Your Comfort Zone

The 1% Rule

Big Dreams, Small Actions

Protecting Your Energy

Mindset Mastery

Your Environment & Community

Defining Success on Your Terms

Progress Over Perfection

Celebrating Every Win

Reinvesting in Yourself

Raising Your Standards in Love

Breaking the Anxious/Avoidant Loop

Shadow Work on Your Standards

Embodying Your Worth

Choosing Intimacy Over Chaos

Becoming the Woman Who Lives Her Standards

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In this episode of Unfck Your Relationships*, we’re stepping into the most misunderstood and most misused part of feminine energy: the dark feminine. Not the TikTok version. Not the “manipulate him back” bullshit. The real dark feminine. The part of you that is bold, grounded, self-protective, deeply self-respecting, and absolutely unwilling to keep abandoning herself for crumbs.

Most women are living 90% in their light feminine… the sweet, nurturing, soft version of themselves and then wonder why they feel drained, overlooked, over-giving, mothering grown men, and acting like the emotional support animal of their friendships. The truth?

Your light feminine didn’t fail you. You were simply never taught how to access the other half of your power.

In this episode, I break down how to awaken the dark feminine in a way that is empowering, not chaotic… liberating, not manipulative… and how she becomes the version of you that will literally save your fucking life.

Here’s what I dive into:

Light vs Dark Feminine

Dark Feminine ≠ Manipulation

Being Willing to Be the Villain

Raising Your Standards

Feminine Assertiveness

Mystery + Moving in Silence

Self-Devotion — Your Level-Up Era

Integration — How to Activate This Today

This episode is your permission slip to enter the era where you don’t just hope for better — you enforce it. Your dark feminine isn’t dangerous. She’s divine. And she’s been waiting for you.

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In this episode of Unf*ck Your Relationship, I dive into one of the most common yet challenging dynamics I see: the anxious–avoidant relationship. Instead of just giving surface-level advice like "communicate better" or "give each other more space," I explore how shadow work is the real key to creating lasting change.

I share some of my own experiences with anxiety, avoidance, and love and why I realised that traditional approaches often just reinforce the old wounds. For me, shadow work has been the tool that allowed me to see the parts of myself I had disowned and projected onto partners, which kept me locked in unhealthy cycles.

Here's what I cover:

• Why anxious and avoidant partners are so magnetised to each other.
• How your partner often mirrors the parts of yourself you've hidden or rejected.
• Why symptom management (like "better communication") doesn't actually heal the root cause.
• The difference between chemistry and true compatibility.
• How I personally decide when a relationship is worth working on vs. when it's time to leave.
• The questions I ask myself when I feel stuck in old patterns.

This work has taught me that true growth in relationships comes from embodiment, not just intellectual understanding. That's exactly why I created The Connected Woman to help women integrate shadow work with practices that shift attachment patterns, so we can all show up more secure, more authentic, and more fully ourselves in love.

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WELCOME TO 2024, BITCHES!

I fucking LOVE the first day of a new year…no surprise, cause I'm also a Monday girl. Most people are all about the weekend, but not me.

I love fresh energy. I love new possibilities. And I'm welcoming 2024 in with open arms…and bold intentions.

Intention-setting has changed EVERYTHING for me. But here's the thing about intention setting…

I believe in setting big, bold intentions. But in my experience, a lot of people set safe intentions they KNOW they can accomplish…or even some they've already accomplished before.

This is called operating in the realm of predictability. And babe, we're not fucking with that energy in 2024.

Leave the predictable behind. Let's talk about what can happen when you live in the realm of POSSIBILITY instead.

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All right, my loves, here's the deal…we've all gone through a breakup.

Some were so fucking painful that we didn't think we'd make it through.

Others, we were totally over before they even happened.

And some…some we're still working on unpacking all the way.

There's some pretty cooked things we do when we're going through breakups, and there's a reason for it: breakups bring out aaall the shit that we keep buried otherwise. Our wounds. Our shadows. Our insecurities.

But there's a better way to move through a breakup…and I'm going to tell you how.

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My loves, you are NOT ready for all the wisdom that is about to drop on this episode of UFYR.

Please welcome Gabrielle Stone onto the podcast!

If you aren't familiar, Gabrielle Stone is no stranger to the world of entertainment. Growing up on set with her legendary scream queen mother, Dee Wallace, from Cujo and E. T., she had days of licking off Mommy's fake blood and watching movie magic unfold behind the scenes. Seeing the world with Mom and Dad gave her the travel bug at an early age…until Gabrielle experienced a real-life horror when she lost her father suddenly at age seven.

After many years of working in the industry herself, Stone transitioned from meaty acting roles to writing and directing. Her award-winning films It Happened Again Last Night and After Emma gained her awards for writing, directing, and acting, but she had a bigger role in life that would soon present itself.

After the rug was vigorously pulled out from under her when her husband's affair came to light, she found herself falling into the arms of another man. After a second failed attempt at love and a massive heartbreak, she decided that instead of falling landing flat on her ass, she'd make a career out of it. And so came the birth of her book, Eat, Pray, FML, where she shared all the mistakes she made, all the lessons she learned, and most importantly, how she became a fearless leader from it all.

Long story short? Gabrielle Stone's a fucking badass, and she has so much wisdom to share that I couldn't NOT have her come on the show. Let's jump right in.

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Here's my short and sweet (jk) opinion on the idea of "twin flames":

I think it's all a load of BULLSHIT.

Come on. The idea that there's only ONE person in the world you're truly meant to be with? BULL.

And on top of that, this kind of mentality leaves you open to some pretty serious manipulation from people who don't actually want to help you–they just want your money in their pockets.

By and large, the personal development industry has plenty of wonderful people who work with integrity. But there are some who don't act that way at all…and some that are just plain dangerous.

Let's discuss.

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If you've ever heard the quote, "One day or day one—you choose." and wondered what exactly that meant…I'm talking to YOU today, babe.

I have seen too many fucking people stop themselves from pursuing their dreams because of "one day" mentality.

"One day, when I'm skinnier, I'll wear a dress like that."

"One day, when I have enough money, I'll quit this job."

"One day, when I feel fully capable, I'll start my business."

But here's the problem: one day never comes, loves.

How do I know? Because I was a "one day" person too…until COVID forced "one day" to become "day one" reeeal fucking fast.

Let me tell you all about my "one day" story…and how grateful I am I didn't have the choice to stay in that forever.

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This may be my favorite episode to date…or at least, it was definitely the most fucking fun to record.

When my best friend in the whole world, the badass India Vine, told me she'd be coming to see me for the weekend, I figured…what better time to get her on the podcast?

Not only that…but what better person to interview me and Drew and ask us the questions other interviewers probably never would?

This shit is GOLD, my loves. There's some truly juicy stuff in here…including the story about how Drew (absolutely, definitely, beyond a doubt) broke up with me.

Yeah–we're going there. Grab some popcorn and a glass of your favorite whatever. This is gonna be FUN.

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As humans, we are hardwired to avoid pain at all costs…

But here's the hard truth, loves: you cannot avoid being hurt in a relationship. Period.

I'm not talking about big hurts; I'm not talking about breaches of trust, intentionally crossed boundaries, or abuse of any kind.

I'm talking about the little ruptures that happen in our relationships every fucking day: little comments that hurt our feelings, small arguments that turn into huge amounts of resentment, and even things as simple as miscommunications between us and our partners.

No matter what you do, you can't avoid getting hurt…but you can learn how to get over the fear of it. And most importantly, you can learn how to repair when wounds are dealt to you or by you.

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I was so honored to be a guest recently on the Thriving in Love podcast, hosted by Sana Akhand!

Sana is a fucking incredible love coach with so much wisdom to share, and FUCK did our conversation get JUICYYY.

There are plenty of unpopular opinions in this interview of ours, but what do I always say?

I'm not here to blow smoke up your ass. And neither is Sana.

We're gonna talk about all kinds of shit: independence, masculine and feminine energy, how our wounds try to hide, where we both started our personal development journeys, why Drew and I sleep in separate beds (and why Sana and her husband sleep in separate APARTMENTS) and sooo much more.

Buckle up. This is a big one.

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Let's talk about sex, babyyyy…with Dr. Tara, the Internet's Resident Sexpert!

If you've ever tuned in to Celebs Go Dating, then you're familiar with Dr. Tara already. She's also a podcast host herself, a former TEDx speaker, a tenured professor, and a sex and relationship coach…who also talks about blowjobs on TikTok. (Proof women aren't one-dimensional, yeah? We contain multitudes.)

I am so thrilled to have Dr. Tara here today. We're going to tackle some pretty heavy topics–including discussions around sexual trauma, so listen safely, loves–but we're also going to have a shit ton of fun talking about how one can transition from living with the shadow of sexual shame to living their best, most orgasmic life.

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Let me see if this sounds familiar to you…

You're sitting on the couch at home. Maybe you're reading a book. Maybe you're watching TV. Maybe you're playing a video game. Whatever it is, you're just trying to relax…and then you hear a car pull into the driveway.

Adrenaline rush. You're on your feet in an instant, searching for something to do, trying to look busy when your partner or parents or roommate or whoever walks inside.

Have you ever stopped to wonder where that instant flood of shame comes from?

At some point in your life, you were taught that resting = being lazy…and that lazy is the worst thing you can be. So now, you can't even sit and watch TV without convincing yourself you're a lazy piece of shit who doesn't deserve to sit and relax for five fucking minutes.

Resting is not laziness–actually, it's a proactive way of taking care of ourselves. But to get comfortable with it, we first need to decondition ourselves from the beliefs we picked up as children.

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Today's conversation is all about the OWN IT part of CLOCK IT, OWN IT, CLEAN IT UP…and who better to share than the accountability queen herself, my amazing client Heather!

Heather is a mother of three, a healthcare executive, and a self-proclaimed attention whore who loves deeply, leads fiercely, and never backs down from a challenge…and she proved that when she finally (after THREE FUCKING YEARS!) signed up for The Connected Woman!

Facing down your patterns is never easy. But Heather makes it look that way with the way she owns them. It can take fucking AGES for people to clean up their patterns because they spend so long pretending they don't exist.

Not an issue for Heather. And I'm hopeful as FUCK she's going to inspire you all to take a long, hard look in the mirror…because if everyone owned their shit the way she does, they'd hit a breakthrough a whole lot faster.

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If you want to call in a man who leads…

Take your hands OFF the fucking steering wheel.

If you keep stepping in to plan things, if you keep making decisions, if you keep reaching out again and again and again when your energy isn't being met…what makes you think he's going to magically wake up one day and take over?

If you step into your masculine, he will step back into his feminine. And that's fine, if that's what you want…but if you're not fulfilled in it, if you're getting resentful, then it's time to stop and step back.

And if that means you never go on another date again…so fucking be it, babe. You're not making yourself available for a relationship where you're leading anymore.

Here's how you finally learn to lean back…and how to preserve that energy moving forward.

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If you want to kill your relationship stone-cold dead, there's only ONE thing you have to do:

Start expecting things from your partner.

I don't mean the standards you've set for each other in the relationship itself. I mean starting to EXPECT things that you once APPRECIATED.

Maybe at the beginning of your relationship, your partner got you flowers every week. You absolutely gushed with appreciation and excitement…

Until one week, he didn't get you flowers. And you decided to throw a little tantrum about it. After all, he brings them every week–why not this one? What is he thinking?

After that little hissy fit…do you think he wants to bring you flowers next week? I sure don't.

The masculine THRIVES on appreciation. And when you take that away and switch it out for expectation…the masculine will shrivel up in an instant.

When the masculine isn't appreciated, it will stop wanting to show up. It will stop wanting to provide and protect and do all the amazing things that masculine energy brings to a relationship…

And notice I said THE MASCULINE…not MEN. This is about you too, boo.

Grab a drink, sit down, and settle in. I'll tell you how to avoid killing your relationship over something as everyday as taking out the trash…but you might not like what you hear.

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Can I be honest with you?

I think you're lying to yourself.

If you think you're all right with a mediocre life, you're lying to yourself.

If you think you're content with a lukewarm relationship because it's "better than nothing," you're lying to yourself.

If you think you're okay with being unhappy about who and how you are…you're LYING TO YOURSELF.

Not only that…I think you like being lied to.

We are conditioned to put on a happy face and say everything is fine, even when it's not. And we'd rather be fucking MISERABLE than admit that something has to change, because change is uncomfortable. Change takes work. Change is uncertain, and fuuuck, we hate uncertainty.

I used to be where you are, until I got sick of pretending. Until I got sick of settling for a less-than life.

Getting honest with yourself is scary. But what's waiting for you on the other side…you can't even imagine how incredible it is.

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If your man is getting bored with you…

Have you considered that maybe you're just fucking boring?

Harsh, I know. But I have worked with wayyy too many clients who don't understand why their partner is getting bored of them, and the fact is…you're probably missing the key to sending your magnetism through the fucking roof:

Multidimensionality.

When we try to identify the feminine and what it looks like, we usually tell ourselves that feminine energy is soft. It's gentle. It's nurturing. It's maternal. It's innocent.

But you know what else the feminine is?

Slutty. Wild. Wrathful. Strong. Direct. Sensual.

The feminine is everything. And when we limit ourselves to embodying just one aspect of it…

We might as well kiss magnetism goodbye.

There are ways to strengthen the aspects of the feminine you don't know how (or don't WANT) to embody…but it's going to take some work, babe.

Note: since the recording of this episode, it has come to my attention that the phrase 'flavours of the feminine' is copyrighted by Monica Yates

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What if I told you that taking responsibility can be a bad thing?

Okay, well, not really. It's important we take responsibility for our shit. However, when we get into the personal development space and start learning about shadows and projections and all that good shit, we can actually end up in a place where we start taking responsibility for the ways we feed into certain situations…and also taking responsibility for the bad behaviors of others.

It is fucking CRUCIAL that we learn how to separate our shit from someone else's. Otherwise, we can end up in unhealthy–and even dangerous–situations real fucking fast.

So let's go over where you might not be taking enough responsibility…and where you might be taking too much.

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Life in plastic is truly fantastic…just like the Barbie movie.

I went and saw Barbie recently, and fuuuuck, I loved it. It was so funny, so lighthearted…it even got a tear or two out of me. I'll be honest.

(Ryan Gosling with a fake tan and platinum blond hair…not quite so fantastic. But I digress.)

However, one thing in particular stuck out to me about the Barbie movie…its portrayal of patriarchy and the way it so clearly centered on the conflict between masculine vs. feminine energy.

Because here's the thing: the women being adored and admired for being in positions of power while the men were scorned for just being Kens? That's actually still the fucking patriarchy at work.

Let me tell you why…and what I think we actually need to do in order to reach equilibrium between masculine and feminine energy.

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There is a difference between wisdom and knowledge, and when it comes to human design, my guest on the podcast this week is fucking BURSTING with wisdom.

I have never met someone more embodied in their work than Mallory, my wonderful friend and a passionate human design coach. (Like, she doesn't even need fucking notes to dive deeper into human design and what it can do than anyone else I've ever heard.)

According to Mallory, human design is the shortcut to all your core dreams and desires. And your first step to mapping out that shortcut is by listening to today's episode.

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I talk a lot about becoming utterly unfuckwithable, but let me tell you…over the past few months, I feel that I've truly UPLEVELED in my ability to be exactly that.

I have unfuckwithable confidence. I have an unfuckwithable sense of who I am. I have unfuckwithable integrity and emotional intelligence. I have come leaps and bounds in the past few months, and I want to tell you all about it.

Mentorship played a HUUUGE part in this transformation, thanks to receiving some hard truth I needed to hear from one of my mentors, but that's not all—it required a whole fucking lot of mindset work on my part. And there are some things about mindset work I want to share that are going to flip your world upside down.

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"Nobody knows you better than you know yourself."

Mmm…I don't think so, loves. I think that's fucking false. Here's why:

We have a tendency to engage in distraction mode the SECOND we start noticing anything in ourselves that we don't want to see.

A glass of wine…or a bottle. A binging session on Netflix. Hours of scrolling on TikTok. Whatever your distraction is, it's keeping you from actually sitting and observing what's happening for you…and as long as you keep creating that separation within yourself, it's not only going to disrupt your ability to know yourself deeply; it will also keep you from getting to know OTHERS deeply.

It's time to set down the distractions, take a deep breath, and take a deep dive into the actuality of ourselves.

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I'm just gonna be honest: the subtle growth we experience every day is fucking boring.

That's just how it is. It's fucking boring. When we aren't experiencing huge, life-changing shifts, we feel like nothing is happening at all.

But that's not the case at all.

Maybe you can't name the shifts that have happened to you in the last six months. But I bet if you sat down and took a look at just how far you've come in that time, regardless of whether there were any huge "breakthroughs," you'll find that you've been steadily growing all along.

It's time we let go of our addiction to catharsis and start embracing the progress we make day-to-day. Let me tell you why.

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Not to break your entire self-image or whatever, but abandoning all your needs and desires for the sake of your partner actually doesn't make you a good person.

Sorry not sorry.

Sure, maybe it feels good to oh-so-f*cking-selflessly lay your needs down to fulfill your partner's instead. To be the "good girl." The "cool girl." To play the hero in his story.

Right up until resentment starts burning so badly you think you've got a f*cking ulcer.

Truthfully, self-abandonment is a relationship-killer. But it can be a subtle one, especially when you don't know what the fuck self-abandonment even LOOKS like. That's why I'm walking you through all the ways self-abandonment slinks out of the shadows and sets you on the path to complete relationship meltdown—and how to finally shine a light on it so you can clock it, own it, and clean it up.

Martyrhood isn't a good look on you, babe. It's time you tried something new.

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I'll tell you a secret: I spent wayyy too long trying to decide what I wanted to talk about for this episode.

It's Main Character Energy season, which means a lot of content around CONFIDENCE has been coming out of this space lately. And I kept trying to shove my message into that same box for today, but you know what?

It wasn't working. And I realized why pretty quickly: I was trying to please everyone else instead of doing what felt in alignment to me.

So, fuck it. This is my podcast. I can do what I want. And I want to talk about what happens when we try to shrink ourselves into a box to please others instead of focusing on pleasing OURSELVES.

I practice what I preach, and I'm demonstrating that shit today. So maybe this lands for you, maybe it doesn't, but I'm not doing it for you…I'm doing it because it pleases ME. And that's what you should start doing, too, loves.

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I have a question: why the fuck are we still policing women's bodies in 2023?

Getting Botox? Great. Plastic surgery? Who the fuck cares. Let people LIVE.

If you ask me, the WHAT is not important. It's the WHY we need to examine.

If you're getting your nails done because you love having acrylics…good for you, boo.

If you're getting your nails done because OMG I CAN'T BE CONFIDENT WITHOUT MY NAILS I NEED THESE TO EVEN LOOK PEOPLE IN THE EYE…mm, maybe we need to have a talk, babe.

Let's talk about the difference between wanting a certain aesthetic and NEEDING a certain aesthetic.

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Get ready for a coaching sesh in communication, loves. I've invited Shannon Torres, a client, business owner, and overall badass, to come on and chat about what happens when we can't communicate effectively…with others or ourselves.

Shannon started off as most people do: unable to communicate feelings and navigating relationships through an endless cycle of repeated patterns. After years of personal development, she found herself listening to my podcast and ended up signing up for my Signature Program, "The Connected Woman," and it's been non-stop ever since! She recently started her own business as a Confidence & Communication Coach, helping others live courageously and speak honestly while cultivating connection.

I can't wait for you all to hear the fucking WISDOM this woman has.

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If your confidence is built on external factors around you then it's built on shaky ground. If things are going well you're going to feel on top of the world and your confidence is going to be sky high. But if the external factors contributing to your self-confidence changes then it's going to totally mess with your energy and sense of self.

In this episode, I'm diving into the ways that confidence can be built from the inside and you can actually be in control. You don't want your confidence to be easy to shake. So stand strong and listen now!

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Listen, loves…

Self-responsibility? It's not exactly the sexiest thing in the world.

It's so much sexier to advertise my programs as something that can get your man to finally commit, or to make yourself irresistible to men, or whatever the fuck it might be…

But the truth is…at its core, my work is about helping you connect to YOU.

It's messy. It's emotional. It's fucking hard. But once you commit to it, once you start doing the work to connect with yourself first and foremost…

You'll be amazed what changes.

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Throw off your rose-colored glasses, my loves—this week, we're getting real about red flags.

Some red flags are subjective, right? Different things give different women the ICK…but that's a different episode.

This week, I'm talking about the red flags that you should NEVER FUCKING IGNORE…like, across the board. I don't want excuses. I don't want "But if I just love them hard enough, maybe…" No. No, they won't. And we're not wasting our fucking time trying to CONVINCE people to change for us anymore. We're better than that.

If you catch a glimpse of any of these red flags, do not pass go. Do not collect $200. Take that red flag as a stop sign, and OBEY THAT STOP SIGN.

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When I sit down to discuss what high-caliber men find attractive in women, I'm not going to waste your time talking about wearing makeup, dressing feminine, smelling good, etcetera.

We're not worried about the external today. Instead, we're going to take a look at the INTERNAL qualities that attract next-level men.

You're not going to be able to attract the kind of man you're looking for by focusing solely on the external and entirely neglecting the internal. You're not going to call them in by sitting around and waiting for them to show up and make your entire life fucking mean something.

You have to create a life you love OUTSIDE of a man if you want someone to desire to share it with you. Let's talk, loves.

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Being abandoned is the best feeling in the entire world.

If that sentence made you go, "Um, WTF?" then you're going to looove the rest of this episode.

I know it sounds fucking insane, yeah? How could anyone LOVE being abandoned?

It's more common than you think, actually. A lot of us have an addiction to being abandoned…but the root of that addiction is buried so deep in our subconscious that we don't usually recognize it.

I know, because I used to be addicted to being abandoned. And if you can't wrap your mind around that, think about it like this…

Do you lose interest in a guy when you don't have to chase him?

Do you get major ick when you start to feel safe around someone?

Do you only think you're "in love" when your nervous system is in total overdrive, leaving you "lovesick?"

Yeah, I thought that might sound familiar. Let's talk about where this addiction to abandonment comes from.

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Nowadays, inner child work is beyond popular. It's trending. It's everywhere. But as recently as five years ago, I had no idea what the fuck an "inner child" even was.

Hard to imagine, right? It's even hard for me to believe. My relationship to my inner child has come leaps and bounds from where it was back then…but it was definitely a journey to get here.

I believe we all have multiple "inner children" within us…and for me, some of them are wayyy easier to have compassion for than others. But without doing the inner child work and learning to heal every stage of my inner child, trust me…my ability to have a conscious relationship would still be extremely fucking limited.

Let's talk about why inner child work is so important.

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IT'S THE BIG 1-0-0, BABES!

Welcome to Episode 100 of Unf*ck Your Relationships. And fuuuck, do I have a TREAT for you today.

First, I have to say a huge fucking THANK YOU. Thank you for listening, for downloading, for loving, for sharing, and showing up for 100 incredible episodes. I am so fucking grateful to each and every one of you for being here.

And to show just how grateful I am, I'm doing something truly wild on today's episode.

Honestly, this could be a paid masterclass. There's so much fucking wisdom in here; wisdom I have learned through coaching hundreds and hundreds of different women in their relationships with men, their relationships with friends, their relationships with themselves, but also through my own relationship to myself and with my partners in the past and my current partner.

This is my own embodied wisdom, which is the best kind of wisdom, isn't it?

Without further ado, here are 100 things I've learned about sex, love, and relationships.

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Warning: today's episode might just piss you off.

It's to be expected, all right? I am called the Trigger Queen, after all. (If you're new here, just know: it's all said with love.)

Buckle up, because today, I've got some fucking brutal truth bombs to drop about anxious attachment.

If you're someone who anxiously attaches, at least a couple of these are probably going to make you fucking furious. But you know what? Fucking good.

Sometimes we need a good shakeup to get our heads out of our asses and actually start shifting things.

The reality is, the patterns that you're running through right now are keeping you stuck. And until something brings you to your fucking senses, you're just going to keep running on that hamster wheel of heartbreak and dating the same damn person in a different outfit.

And coming from someone who's been there…if you can actually let these land, they're going to change how you do love forever.

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Buckle up, buttercups. This impromptu episode is going to be a fucking trip.

One of my very best friends, Kelsie Hockins, is BACK.

Remember her from a few episodes ago? The stunning, utterly badass personal stylist that helps you transform your style so that you can stand out in the world and make your mark? Yeah, she's back, but this time, we are not talking style.

(Well, maybe a little.)

On this episode, we're going to be talking about DATING…but not my usual dating content. Nope; today, we're going deep into the archives to share some of our biggest dating fails. And trust me, there are some major ones…

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Let me lead with this: being in your feminine has NOTHING to do with your makeup, your clothes, or whatever TikTok has decided to take too literally today.

These external things can all be EXPRESSIONS of your feminine, but the truth is…if you're really in your feminine energy, it's going to absolutely ooze out of you, even if you're just in trackies.

Sooo many people get the feminine so fucking twisted. There's a totally distorted view of feminine energy and why it matters so much to our dating lives, and today, I want to get on here and clear the air.

So let's talk about masculine and feminine…and why we need both in order to be well-rounded human beings.

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What's the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear the words "dating app?"

If it's a resounding "ugggghhh," guess what? You're going to want to listen to this episode.

I get it. Lots of people have told themselves all kinds of stories around why dating apps are the fucking WORST. But here's the thing: when you engage in this mindset, you're actually cock-blocking yourself from meeting a whole pool of people you would never connect with otherwise.

I met my partner in person, but I FULLY advocate for dating apps. I learned so much from them and grew in so many ways…and you can do the same.

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If you're sick of feeling like you're dating the same man over and over and over and OVER again…this episode's for you.

This is the most common reason people come to work with me around dating and relationships; they're tired as fuck of ending up with emotionally unavailable men, and they're ready to get in a conscious relationship.

There are lots of reasons why you might keep getting trapped in the same fucking pattern, but the first step to breaking it is always the same: getting aware of what that pattern actually is. Even if that means admitting the part that we're playing in it.

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Listen up, loves! We're going to be covering a LOT more subjects surrounding dating for the next while, because…

IT'S SWIPE RIGHT SEASON!

Swipe Right is my program all about dating: setting standards, non-negotiable boundaries, online dating mindset, and everything else that you could possibly need to know. We're gonna be chatting about allll the things, but today we're going to start with what NOT to do when you're starting to date someone new.

I could go on about dating mistakes all fucking day. I really could. But for today, I've narrowed it down to a handful of the most common things I see that you absolutely should NOT be doing while dating.

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I have heard way, way, wayyy too many people ask why the spark has disappeared from their relationships…and then blame their partner for lack of effort.

Here's the truth: the minute you let your relationship shift into autopilot, you will lose that level of connection you had at the start. Relationships don't run on their own, regardless of how long it's been; you always need to be putting effort into it to keep it alive.

The good news? Putting effort into your relationship actually doesn't take that much from you…sometimes, it's as simple as listening to them talk about how hot it is outside and agreeing that yes, it is in fact hot outside. Sometimes it means taking a look at the bird they pointed out in your tree. Sometimes it means saying "Me, too" when they say they're tired.

These little things are called "bids for connection," and trust me, while they don't seem that important…they stack up to something much bigger.

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You want to know why you're struggling with setting boundaries?

I'll give you a hint…it's not because you don't know how. If you're in this space, I'm willing to bet you've heard HOW to set a boundary or what a boundary is a billion times.

What you need to be asking is WHY you aren't setting boundaries.

I've said this before, I'll say it again: EVERYTHING we do, we do it because we benefit in some way. If you're resisting setting a boundary, there's a reason…and until you uncover that reason, you're not going to be able to set and enforce boundaries at all.

No more asking "How?" Instead, start asking "Why?"...and listen to my answer.

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Conscious relating isn't a skill you can just DECIDE to learn.

It takes fucking work. It takes doing THE fucking work. But if you're anything like me, sometimes you don't learn lessons until you've fucked around and found out once, twice…a lot.

If you're NOT like me and CAN learn things without fucking them up first just in case, this episode is going to be great for you. I'm here today to share a few things I had to do before I was able to actually have a truly conscious relationship.

People can get trapped in the never-ending loop of "doing the work" without actually DOING anything. Action is a key piece of the process, and if we don't take it, we're just going to keep looping the same old patterns over and over and over again.

Let's break the pattern.

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Something I've noticed about this podcast? You guys go fucking FERAL when I talk about anxious attachment.

I don't choose subject matter based on what's popular; I choose it based on what I want to talk about. Today, these two things just happen to align.

I want to come at anxious attachment from a different angle today, because you know what I see wayyy too much?

People doing unhealthy shit in their relationships, then trying to excuse themselves from responsibility by saying, "Oh, well, I do that because I have anxious attachment…"

NO. No, no, no no no no.

Relating REQUIRES responsibility. You cannot keep shoving it off on anything but you…not if you want to actually transcend this shit. Let's talk about why.

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Hellooooo, my loves. I am freshly back from a fucking INCREDIBLE business retreat, and I am utterly bursting with all the things I want to say, starting with this…

If you think that deep friendships are "unicorn friendships," you're absolutely fucking wrong.

If you're sitting around pouting because none of your friends are able to meet you in this place of depth, if you think that they have no interest in doing the work alongside you, let me ask you this:

Have you tried fucking asking?

If you're not willing to initiate, if you're sitting around projecting the idea that your friends can't meet you at your level, if you're unwilling to risk rejection by sticking your neck out and being the first to pursue something deeper…that's just not the vibe, my friend.

If you want deep friendships, you absolutely CAN find them…but only if you're willing to do what it takes to plumb those depths. Let's unpack all these misconceptions surrounding what it truly takes to form deep friendships.

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Welcome to a super special episode, friends: today, we have the beautiful Rochelle Powell here with us!

Rochelle is one of my incredible clients, and I've been working with her for a few years now. She is an ever-evolving woman determined to experience all aspects of herself by fiercely leaning into her edges and exploring what it truly means to come home to herself. She moves through life with curiosity, a wild spirit, and a deep devotion to truth and connection, and her story is one a lot of you are going to relate to.

From unwillingly listening to the podcast (still dying over that one, wait until you hear the story!) to hosting one of her own, Rochelle's journey is one for the books…or the headphones, apparently.

Buckle up, babes. This one's going to challenge you.

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When we find ourselves getting avoidant + closed off, we immediately jump into a reparation spiral.

"I just need to invest in another coach. I need to join a new program. I need to read a new book. I need to, I need to, I need to–"

You know what you actually need to do?

Listen. To. Your. Fucking. Body.

Your body knows more than you consciously do. And sure, sometimes it's a trauma response you need to unpack…but other times, there's a lot of wisdom your body has to impart, if you'd just sit in curiosity and LISTEN for longer than a second or two.

We're talking about two things today: having curiosity, and taking responsibility. It's a two-headed episode, loves, and both are equally important. Let's talk it out.

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You've probably HEARD about emotional intelligence before. But do you even know WTF it is?

First off, emotional intelligence is not something we naturally have. It's something that can absolutely be learned…and something we ABSOLUTELY NEED to learn.

You can be book-smart, street-smart, whatever, and that's great. But if you're not emotionally intelligent…good fucking luck forming a healthy relationship. Seriously.

I'm speaking from experience here. I used to have very, very low emotional intelligence, but you know what I did? I learned it. I developed it. And if you want a healthy relationship, you need to start thinking about doing the same.

And if you don't know how to learn it…well, I can help with that too.

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We've all heard about what happens when we get hit with a hundred fucking awful things all at once.

A ton of people have talked about how to expand your capacity to hold more when bad things are happening. But here's the thing…

We don't only hit our capacity for negative shit. We also have a certain capacity to hold good things…and when we reach it, we end up primed to dive straight into self-sabotage.

I have had the BEST beginning to my year. My life is so fucking good right now…so good that I actually started getting wayyyy overwhelmed.

This doesn't make us ungrateful. It doesn't mean anything bad about us. It just means we need to expand our capacity a little wider…and I'm here today to tell you how to handle it when the good becomes TOO good.

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