The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan – Details, episodes & analysis

Ruby is newly single and to use her own words, entering a ‘slaggy era’. Megan has been single for years. So what’s their take on singleness? 

Ruby and Meg chat about their personal lives, the shocking cost of being single, solo sex and w**king stories, and where the “modern Bridget Jones” would be living today.

Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@InsandOutspod

Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com

Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare 

Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_

Ep links and resources: 

• How many of us are choosing to be single - https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/article/2024/jun/24/no-being-single-doesnt-make-me-miserable-its-the-key-to-living-my-best-life 
• The cost of being single - https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/relationships/a42652414/single-penatly-revealed/ 

Ruby and Meg recommendations:

• Really Good, Actually by Monica Heisey

The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production

Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale

Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House

Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom

This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.

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What do you get when you bring a curious sex expert together with the nicest woman on OnlyFans? A show that really goes there. Each week, Ruby Rare and Megan Barton-Hanson welcome listeners to an unfiltered, playful and inclusive space to talk about sex in all its glory. They unpick all the big questions like: “How can we talk about kinks and fantasies?”, “Does stress kill the vibe?”, “What place does humour have in the bedroom?”, “How can we banish shame around sexual desires?”, and “Does wearing socks actually lead to a better orgasm?!”. Along the way, they share their own unforgettable stories of sex and dating, and hear from you lovely lot about your sex questions and tried-and-tested sex tips.

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Ruby and Meg chat about the first time they watched porn, growing up queer, the history of porn, and the ethical porn industry. Plus, what are the top 5 search terms of PornHub? Ruby and Meg reveal all. 

Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com

Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare 

Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_

Links and resources:

• Mozart’s “Leck mich im Arsch” - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C78HBp-Youk 
• Ruby’s steamy sex playlist - https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3v2QpYyO0tSz2I5nsbKt6R 
• Ruby’s tender sex playlist - https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1UhYyzNIbc22sBQA76NHdR 
• Top 5 UK search terms on Pornhub (2023) - https://www.pornhub.com/insights/2023-year-in-review#united-kingdom  

Ruby and Meg recommendations:

• Ethical porn: Erika Lust, Lustery, Cheex

The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production

Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale

Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House

Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom

This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.

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Do you know your fetish from your kink? Ruby and Meg have got you covered. 

Meg spills the beans (or should we say custard and gravy?!) on things she was asked to do as a sex worker and Ruby gets hot and bothered talking about jelly. 

Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com

Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare 

Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_

Ruby and Meg recommendations:

• The New Topping Book and The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
• Kink, edited by R.O. Kwon and Garth Greenwell
• Kink educator Lola Jean: @lolajeandotcom https://www.instagram.com/lolajeandotcom/?hl=en 

The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production

Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale

Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House

Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom

This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Was your sex ed growing up giving Mean Girls vibes? Ruby and Meg give you the sex ed you wish you’d had…. Including a fun fact about the speed of sperm! 

As a sex educator on the ground, Ruby shares some of the most popular questions kids ask in sex ed classes and Meg shares her mortifying 1970s-style sex ed experience at school. They chat about the things they wish they’d been told and why a more open dialogue would help cut the shame and stigma for teens figuring out their sexuality. 

Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com

Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare 

Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_

Links and resources: 

• History of the dildo - e.g. https://umsu.unimelb.edu.au/news/article/7797/2019-08-11-the-history-of-the-dildo/ 
• Alabama and sex toys - e.g. https://www.seattletimes.com/nation-world/high-court-lets-alabama-sex-toy-ban-stand/ 
• Sex ed guidance (May 2024) - https://educationhub.blog.gov.uk/2024/05/16/new-rshe-guidance-what-it-means-for-sex-education-lessons-in-schools/ 

Ruby and Meg recommendations:

• Sex Ed: A Guide for Adults by Ruby Rare

The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production

Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale

Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House

Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom

This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Who are you when no one else is watching? Ruby and Meg have a raw and candid discussion with their first ever guest: author and psychotherapist Charlotte Fox Weber. 

From painful stories of being slut shamed to laughing at the shame you can feel for f*cked up TV crushes, Ruby, Meg and Charlotte get shame out in the open. This is a complex and tender discussion. 

Sexual violence is discussed in this episode so please listen with care. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. 

Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com

Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare 

Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_

Links and resources: 

• Charlotte Fox Weber: @charlottefoxweberpsychotherapy
• Sacred Monsters (Forthcoming) by Charlotte Fox Weber
• What We Want by Charlotte Fox Weber

Charlotte recommendations:

• Paula Rego (Artist)
• Anaïs Nin (Author)

The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production

Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale

Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House

Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom

This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. 

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Ruby and Meg tackle the holy trinity of sex topics: lube, squirting and strap-ons! 

Ruby gives us the lowdown on different kinds of lube and Meg shares the moment lube got her featured in The Sun. Ruby builds up to revealing an explicit lube-related story that her book editor asked her to remove before the book was published. 

This is a two-part episode. Part two out next week!   

Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com

Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare 

Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_

Ruby and Meg’s lube recommendations:

• YES Organic lube
• Pasante lube
• Liquid silk lube

The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production

Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale

Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House

Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom

This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. 

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

There are stories akimbo in this episode as Ruby and Meg continue chatting about the holy trinity of sex topics: lube, squirting and strap-ons!   

Ruby shares whether squirting is actually pee and reveals the world record for the highest volume of squirt. (Pimms jug anyone?!). Ruby and Meg exchange surprising squirting stories and discuss wearing a strap-on to… watch TV. 

This is the second half of a two-part episode. Scroll back to last week’s episode for part one!   

Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com

Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare 

Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_

Ruby and Meg recommendations:

• Splash Blanket
• Njoy Pure Wand Stainless Steel Dildo 

The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production

Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale

Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House

Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom

This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ruby and Meg chat to actor, comedian and writer Ash Self (best known for playing Felix in Heartstopper), who debunks the myth that disabled people either can’t have sex or don’t want to. 

We hear about sex education (or lack of it) in the hospital youth ward where Ash spent some time and how he feels people expect to see him on Children in Need rather than Grindr. Ruby, Meg and Ash also debate whether Love Island is ready for a trans wheelchair user (or even just hairy armpits?!). 

Ash shares his dating highs - sleeping with another trans person for the first time - and dating lows  - a comically bad sex moment that he swerved, thanks to asthma and his gran! 

Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com

Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare 

Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_

Follow Ash on socials @smashself

Ash’s recommendations:

• Disability Intimacy: Essays on Love, Care, and Desire, edited by Alice Wong

Ruby and Meg’s recommendations

• Heartstopper TV series (Netflix)

The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production

Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale

Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House

Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom

This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. 

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Stress can be a b**ch for us and our sex lives. 

Ruby and Meg share what happens to their sexual desire when they’re stressed, Ruby reveals the science behind stress and they both share their tips for how to deal with stress impacting your sex life. Meg also petitions for a national holiday where only hibernation and self-love slobbing is allowed. Sounds great, no?!

Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com

Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare 

Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_

The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production

Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale

Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House

Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom

This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. 

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.