Super Feeler: A BPD Podcast – Details, episodes & analysis

Dr. Kiki Fehling, a super feeler psychologist, author, influencer, and super feeler joins the pod to talk all about Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), its accessibility, and the importance of skills for all parts of life.

Kiki shares about their journey learning DBT while training as a psychologist and their desire to develop more accessible DBT-based resources.

Laurie and Kiki also compare notes on their heart issues (Kiki’s heart attack and Laurie’s heart rhythm disorder) and how they used DBT skills to cope through the attacks themselves and the subsequent treatment and recovery.

The conversation also touches on the challenges of traditional DBT resources and the importance that accessibility is improved for people who are neurodiverse, queer or live with disabilities. Kiki shares about their transition from clinical work to creating resources for a wider audience to help meet these accessibility needs.

In this episode we talked about A LOT of things so here’s a linked list of all of it!

Kiki’s books and resources

• Self-Directed DBT Skills: A 3-Month DBT Workbook to Regulate Intense Emotions and Create Lasting Change with Dialectical Behavior Therapy
• DBT Cards for Coping Skills: 125 DBT Skills and Strategies to Find Balance, Joy, and Purpose 

Upcoming event feat Laurie and Kiki

• Click here to get tickets to the BPD Society of BC’s Virtual BPD Awareness Day Event that Laurie and Kiki are speaking at on May 8th 2025!

Other DBT Resources we chatted about:

• DBT RU Videos
• DBT for Life Book
• DBT-Informed Art Therapy Book 
• The Game of Real Life Game
• The Neurodivergent Friendly Workbook of DBT Skills Book
• DBT Skills: Radical Acceptance Podcast Episode

Other resources:

• Rest Is Resistance Book
• Laziness Does Not Exist Book
• Now Matters Now Website

Support the show

If you want to support the show, dive deeper into the world of super feeling and for tons of bonus content please consider subscribing to the Super Feeler patreon page.

Click here to register for The Super Feelers Club (the peer support group)

If you are needing mental health support or someone to talk to, please connect with your local crisis line or call or text 988 in Canada or the US or find a local line

Don't forget to follow us on social media (@thesuperfeeler) and subscribe to our podcast for new episodes and updates. Your subscriptions, downloads, and reviews mean the world to us!

Thank you for listening!

This week we're joined by Sashbear Foundation founder Lynn Courey and Sandy, a family partner involved in Sashbear's Family Connections Program. The Sashbear Foundation, is an internationally recognized Canadian charity focused on supporting families affected by borderline personality disorder (BPD) and emotion dysregulation. 

Sashbear was created following Lynn's family's tragic loss of a daughter to suicide. Both Lynn and Sandy share about the impact of peer support for families as well as the importance of normalizing conversations about mental health, decreasing stigma and advocacy. 

May is borderline personality disorder awareness month and Sashbear hosts fundraising and awareness walks across Canada (and in France!) this summer. Join the Super Feeler team and register for your local walk here! 

2025 Sashbear Walks:

• Ottawa, ON: May 3
• Burnaby, BC: May 10 - Laurie will be there! Come say hi! 
• Saskatoon, SK: May 24
• Steinbach, MB: May 24
• Toronto, ON: May 25
• Edmonton, AB: May 30
• St. John, NB: June 8
• St. John's, NL: June 14
• Montreal, QC: September 14
• Virtual Walk: May 1 to September 30

Even if you aren't in Canada you can still donate to this important cause to show your support. 

Throughout our conversation we highlight the beauty found within the BPD community and we hope to see you out wearing orange at the walks to connect with this amazing community even further. 

To learn more about Sashbear's Family Connections program click here! 

Support the show

If you want to support the show, dive deeper into the world of super feeling and for tons of bonus content please consider subscribing to the Super Feeler patreon page.

Click here to register for The Super Feelers Club (the peer support group)

If you are needing mental health support or someone to talk to, please connect with your local crisis line or call or text 988 in Canada or the US or find a local line

Don't forget to follow us on social media (@thesuperfeeler) and subscribe to our podcast for new episodes and updates. Your subscriptions, downloads, and reviews mean the world to us!

Thank you for listening!

Meet our new DBT Skills series guests Kat and Heather! 

In this episode we break down the PLEASE skill from Dialectical Behaviour Therapy. It's an IMPORTANT one. 

If you're new to the PLEASE skill here's a little breakdown for you! 

P – Physical Health: Address any physical illness, injuries, or medical concerns. Follow doctor’s recommendations and take medications as prescribed.
L – Lessen Mood-Altering Substances: Avoid or reduce alcohol, drugs, and excessive caffeine,
E – Eat a Balanced Diet: Eat regular, nutritious meals to stabilize blood sugar levels.
A – Avoid Mood-Altering Drugs: Limit or eliminate substances that negatively impact mood and cognition (e.g., non-prescribed substances).
S – Sleep Well: Aim for a consistent, adequate sleep schedule (7-9 hours).
E – Exercise Regularly: Engage in physical activity to reduce stress, improve mood, and increase emotional resilience.

By following PLEASE, you reduce emotional vulnerability and improve overall mental stability, making it easier to manage distress and regulate emotions effectively.

Get your own copy of 'DBT for Life' by Diana Partington to follow along with us!  

PLUS get the PLEASE Skill handout Laurie talks about in the show here! 

Support the show

If you want to support the show, dive deeper into the world of super feeling and for tons of bonus content please consider subscribing to the Super Feeler patreon page.

Click here to register for The Super Feelers Club (the peer support group)

If you are needing mental health support or someone to talk to, please connect with your local crisis line or call or text 988 in Canada or the US or find a local line

Don't forget to follow us on social media (@thesuperfeeler) and subscribe to our podcast for new episodes and updates. Your subscriptions, downloads, and reviews mean the world to us!

Thank you for listening!

Dr. Juveria Zaheer is an expert in suicide risk assessment and prevention, a psychiatrist and a literal Jeopardy superstar.

She is currently exploring the impacts of the COVID pandemic on suicidality and how the pandemic impacted Canadians.

Together we discuss the complexities of suicidality, the need for accessible targeted treatments and why it’s important for people with lived experience to be involved in research.

There’s still time to share about your own experience in the Suicide and the COVID-19 pandemic: Understanding Canadian stories research study.

The study is currently looking for participants who:

• reside in British Columbia, Manitoba, or Nova Scotia
• are aged 18 and over (in Manitoba) OR are aged 19 and over (in British Columbia or Nova Scotia)
• have experienced suicide-related thoughts and/or behaviours anytime between September 2019 and December 2022

 If you want to learn more about the study click here!

Support the show

If you want to support the show, dive deeper into the world of super feeling and for tons of bonus content please consider subscribing to the Super Feeler patreon page.

Click here to register for The Super Feelers Club (the peer support group)

If you are needing mental health support or someone to talk to, please connect with your local crisis line or call or text 988 in Canada or the US or find a local line

Don't forget to follow us on social media (@thesuperfeeler) and subscribe to our podcast for new episodes and updates. Your subscriptions, downloads, and reviews mean the world to us!

Thank you for listening!

Cope Ahead is a particularly helpful life skill from dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT) that helps us preparing for difficult interactions by coming prepared with healthy coping strategies. Laurie, Dave and Megan discuss how they use this skill to help manage social interactions and family dynamics.

Get your own copy of 'DBT for Life' by Diana Partington to follow along with us!  

Support the show

If you want to support the show, dive deeper into the world of super feeling and for tons of bonus content please consider subscribing to the Super Feeler patreon page.

Click here to register for The Super Feelers Club (the peer support group)

If you are needing mental health support or someone to talk to, please connect with your local crisis line or call or text 988 in Canada or the US or find a local line

Don't forget to follow us on social media (@thesuperfeeler) and subscribe to our podcast for new episodes and updates. Your subscriptions, downloads, and reviews mean the world to us!

Thank you for listening!

Mercedes Killeen is a writer and mental health advocate who has struggled throughout her life with anxiety, depression, BPD, and alcohol addiction. In this episode, Mercedes shares her story of working towards sobriety, seeking mental health treatment, and healing through writing/creativity.

You can learn more about Mercedes' work here.

To purchase your own digital copy of tulips, click here.

Support the show

If you want to support the show, dive deeper into the world of super feeling and for tons of bonus content please consider subscribing to the Super Feeler patreon page.

Click here to register for The Super Feelers Club (the peer support group)

If you are needing mental health support or someone to talk to, please connect with your local crisis line or call or text 988 in Canada or the US or find a local line

Don't forget to follow us on social media (@thesuperfeeler) and subscribe to our podcast for new episodes and updates. Your subscriptions, downloads, and reviews mean the world to us!

Thank you for listening!

Time to discuss Opposite Action! Long story short - Opposite Action means doing the opposite of what you want to do when what you want to do isn't effective.

Easier said than done of course - but an incredibly helpful tool once you're practiced at it. Part of that practice is recognizing unskillful urges, and the learning the balance between feeling emotions and taking action to improve one's situation.

Get your own copy of 'DBT for Life' by Diana Partington to follow along with us! 

Support the show

If you want to support the show, dive deeper into the world of super feeling and for tons of bonus content please consider subscribing to the Super Feeler patreon page.

Click here to register for The Super Feelers Club (the peer support group)

If you are needing mental health support or someone to talk to, please connect with your local crisis line or call or text 988 in Canada or the US or find a local line

Don't forget to follow us on social media (@thesuperfeeler) and subscribe to our podcast for new episodes and updates. Your subscriptions, downloads, and reviews mean the world to us!

Thank you for listening!

Dr. Amanda Uliaszek, associate professor at the University of Toronto, joins Super Feeler to discuss her passion for research for people living with borderline personality disorder, reducing stigma, and including people with lived experience in the research process. 

We discuss the importance of a strengths-based approach to BPD, the challenges of conducting research, and the complexities around diagnosis and the symptom of emptiness. 

To learn more about the work of Amanda's lab (called STEPP) including how to sign up to participate in research studies click here.

Support the show

If you want to support the show, dive deeper into the world of super feeling and for tons of bonus content please consider subscribing to the Super Feeler patreon page.

Click here to register for The Super Feelers Club (the peer support group)

If you are needing mental health support or someone to talk to, please connect with your local crisis line or call or text 988 in Canada or the US or find a local line

Don't forget to follow us on social media (@thesuperfeeler) and subscribe to our podcast for new episodes and updates. Your subscriptions, downloads, and reviews mean the world to us!

Thank you for listening!

We're diving into the complexities of emotion regulation as we start unit 3 of our DBT Skills Series. Together Dave, Laurie and Megan explore the role of emotion regulation skills in our life, what our core values are, and how we use the dialectical behaviour therapy skill Check the Facts in our lives. 

Get your own copy of 'DBT for Life' by Diana Partington to follow along with us! 

Support the show

If you want to support the show, dive deeper into the world of super feeling and for tons of bonus content please consider subscribing to the Super Feeler patreon page.

Click here to register for The Super Feelers Club (the peer support group)

If you are needing mental health support or someone to talk to, please connect with your local crisis line or call or text 988 in Canada or the US or find a local line

Don't forget to follow us on social media (@thesuperfeeler) and subscribe to our podcast for new episodes and updates. Your subscriptions, downloads, and reviews mean the world to us!

Thank you for listening!

In this episode, my husband Aaron and I discuss my first inpatient/residential treatment experience at a crisis response facility called CRESST.

Together we explore the decision to go, what it was like to arrive with very limited information, and the importance of rest, monitored med management, and community.

And naturally - some ridiculously hilarious and embarrassing stories from my time there.

If you're local to the Fraser Health area of British Columbia and interested in learning more about CRESST, click here. 

Support the show

If you want to support the show, dive deeper into the world of super feeling and for tons of bonus content please consider subscribing to the Super Feeler patreon page.

Click here to register for The Super Feelers Club (the peer support group)

If you are needing mental health support or someone to talk to, please connect with your local crisis line or call or text 988 in Canada or the US or find a local line

Don't forget to follow us on social media (@thesuperfeeler) and subscribe to our podcast for new episodes and updates. Your subscriptions, downloads, and reviews mean the world to us!

Thank you for listening!