Nectar Sex & Soul – Details, episodes & analysis

In this episode, you get a double dose of Projector wisdom with Alyssa Troob (magician in 5D, holistic coach, and Human Design specialist like myself) and me.

We explore how to decondition ourselves and come home to the authentic truth of who we are through the lens of Human Design, for a life of greater clarity, flow, fulfillment and alignment.

We dive into so many rich topics, such as aligning with our unique erotic frequency, understanding ourselves and the people we love, the importance of living authentically and how to attune to our individual internal compass through strategy and authority, how to move through people-pleasing patterns, cultivating a sustainable work flow and vitality for each individual, how Human Design has impacted our personal lives, and so much more.

Human Design is a brilliantly complex system which synthesizes eastern and western astrology, the Chinese I-Ching, the Kabbalah tree of life, the Hindu chakras, and quantum mechanics.

Human Design is a map of each individual's unique energy mechanics, which contains codes that can fast-track our understanding of self and how to live our most fulfilling, successful lives in a way that is uniquely authentic to each individual.

I see it as guidelines that grease the gears and help our lives flow more smoothly and effectively through a deep intimacy with and understanding of the unique facet of consciousness each of us is here to embody.

Human Design can help us understand our life purpose, our gifts, our challenges, archetypal themes in our lives, our sxuality and relationships, how our physical energy works and how to best harness its power, our unconscious tendencies and sooo much more.

It's an excellent tool for helping people sync into greater compatibility, through having a roadmap of how one another works.

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If you're interested in diving deeper into your Human Design, I'd love to guide you on that journey.  

Typically, I only offer Human Design readings as part of my private coaching packages. However, I’m feeling particularly excited about sharing Human Design in a more accessible way right now and I’m excited to announce that for a limited time, I’ll be offering human design readings à la carte! In addition, the first five readings claimed will be 15% off. Afterwards, I will continue offering human design readings at normal price for a limited time.

If you’re ready to come home to deeper authenticity and alignment, claim your spot here: https://www.sureyaleonara.com/quantumhumandesign

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Alyssa Troob, magician in 5D and holistic coach everywhere else, joins me today as we embark on a recounting of our own experiences with human design. As a self-projected projector, Alyssa is a heart-centric, holistic systems thinker, here to guide brilliant humans through the art, science & eros of honing their magick. She bridges the technical & intuitive using modalities such as nutritional biochemistry, re-patterning, menstrual cycle syncing, human design, astrology & embodiment. Trained as a Registered Dietitian, Coach & Human Design Guide she works on an incredibly holistic scale, primarily with lifestyle  & de-conditioning. Bringing the magick back to the experience of the individual as a unique, integrated self.

Dive deeper into Alyssa's world:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alyssa_troob/?hl=en

Her website: https://www.alyssatroob.com/

Sign up for Erotic Integration with Alyssa: https://www.alyssatroob.com/erotic

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In this episode I dive into a missing key ingredient in many people’s lives, relationships, conflict resolution, healing process, and more.

I discuss:

• Why somatic/embodiment practice is so important, even for cerebral & intellectual people (and what it is!)
• Key self-inquiries to attune you to the wisdom of your body and deepen into the present moment
• My love of words, and their limitations
• A way of connecting with others in a way that drops so much deeper than words and facilitates deliciously rich intimacy
• Why we have to slow down in order to hear the messages from our body
• How to work with the breath to regulate our nervous system and come home to grounded clarity and truth.
• How breath and embodiment practice helped me to work through anger and rage
• How to problem-solve with the body, rather than the mind
• Where we can find the answers to our greatest decisions
• Lesser known love languages that bring us into deeper connection with ourselves and our beloveds
• Practices you can share with a partner that go deeper than conversation and typical conflict resolution
• How to communicate with the body, heart and soul, rather than the mind and ego.
• Letting go of persuasion or being right, in favor of real intimacy
• Going beyond conflict resolution into relationship nurturing
• How embodiment practice has changed my life and my work
• Upcoming opportunities to work with me in embodiment practice

To find out about my upcoming offerings hop on my email list here.

Thank you for listening! My work is in service to the embodied union of sex and spirit, body and soul, shadow and light. It’s a journey of learning to love and integrate all the pieces of yourself, others, and the world. Learn more about how to work with me on my website, and follow me on Instagram.

In this episode, my dear friend, Lee Curac-Dahl, so generously and candidly shares of his own experiences with porn addiction, escapism, avoidance, and anxiety.  We discussed in great depth the way that our vices can derail our lives, and how to rewrite these patterns for more fulfilling, intentional, balanced lives.

We explore the difference between mindless and mindful masturbation, and how to cultivate an intentional self-pleasure practice that will enrich your life both in and out of the bedroom. If you want to dive deeper into this, I'm offering a men's course and a women's course in the coming weeks! Join below: 

Self Pleasure for Mastery for Men

Venusian Pleasure Rituals for Women

A little more about Lee:

Lee is passionate about creating space for humans to feel safe being themselves. Leading with vulnerability, he offers a blend of depth and lightness all at once. His project "The Army of Love" is focused on the path to acceptance with an emphasis on using electronic music and dance as a medicine. Show some love and connect with Lee on Instagram and view his Youtube channel!

Even if you're not at all interested in non-monogamy, this episode is a really fun exploration into the components that are necessary to any healthy relationship, regardless of whether it's monogamous or not, because the truth is, both types of relationships require many of the same skill sets and values in order to be fulfilling and harmonious!

In this episode, Ellecia Paine, non-monogamous relationship coach, and I dove into so many of the most frequently asked questions around the choice between non-monogamy and non-monogamy, and how to best navigate each. 

In this episode, we explore: 

❦ The key components to healthy, fulfilling relationships (whether monogamous or not)

❦ How to rewrite our story about jealousy and navigate it in a healthy way 

❦ The most important things a couple can do to successfully open their relationship 

❦ How to decide if non-monogamy is for you 

❦ What if one person wants to be open and the other doesn't 

❦ The implications of opening a relationship in order to fix it ​ 

❦ How to navigate some of the most challenging aspects of non-monogamy 

❦ De-stigmatizing non-monogamy​​ 

❦ How kids and family play into non-monogamy 

❦ And so much more!  

Relationship Coach Ellecia Paine helps adventurous people break the social conditioning of monogamy and learn how to navigate healthy alternative relationship styles such as ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, polyamory and swinging. She helps them move through the challenges like jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens their relationships, deepens trust and communication, and leaves them feeling confident.  

Ellecia believes in courageously challenging the status quo and empowering people to create relationships that work for the real people in those relationships. Throughout the past 8 years living in an ethically non-monogamous relationship while working as a sex, love, and relationship coach, Ellecia has acquired valuable insight and a unique ability to share this information with her clients and audience in a way that hits home while leaving them feeling validated and whole.   

Connect with Ellecia:  

www.elleciapaine.com 

www.instagram.com/elleciapaine 

www.facebook.com/elleciapaine

In this episode, we're restoring the sacred to the slandered. So many of the innately human, life-giving, embodied expressions of what it is to be alive (most of which are feminine by nature) have been slandered, shamed and outlawed for thousands of years. Sex, birth, blood, the body, and the earth have all been oppressed and repressed, stripping humanity of its connection to its roots, depth and power. In this episode we explore why, as well as how to restore our birth right to be deeply connected with and in reverence to these parts of ourselves and humanity for more richly fulfilling, sovereign, embodied lives.

This episode is important for everyone to hear, regardless of gender, as these lost parts of ourselves have left many aching for meaning, direction, connection, and aliveness in a world that has long been disconnected from the core nurturance and nourishment of the feminine.

In this episode, Rachel Ruva, Birth Keeper, Portal Tender, Apprentice to the Plants, explore all of this and so much more, including:

❦ Connecting with the wisdom of the body, blood, womb and earth

❦ Conscious conception

❦ Sx and motherhood

❦ Intentional parenting

❦ Sovereign, instinctual, natural birthing

❦ Motherhood as a spiritual teacher

❦ Sacred sisterhood

❦ And more!

Rachel Ruva is a mama, a birth witness, a caster of circle spaces and spells and a devotee to the old earth ways which invite instinctual renaissance and living reverence into our bodies.

Plants, womb blood and the familiar shape of a circle inform her work as a space holder and facilitator. She holds three in person programs in Denmark: the Birth Keeper Immersion and Embody your Female Nervous System and The Wisdom of the Witch Wounds, where women gather to do the work to re•member the living technology of our bodies and inherent place in the web of life. She also supports women as they walk the path of sovereign birthing, motherhood, cyclical womb-centered living, and nourishment with plant and animal foods as medicine.

Learn more about Rachel’s work and stay connected:

www.rachelruva.com

www.instagram.com/womb.song

Sexual “dysfunctions” (I don’t like the term sexual dysfunction bc it implies something’s “wrong,” which often isn’t the case) are symptoms of a deeper misalignment and are a reflection of how energy is flowing (or not) in the rest of your life.

They’re not isolated to the bedroom, but rather integrated into the whole of our lives.

Your body is a mirror for what’s out of balance in your life, a map of the unconscious.

The wisdom of the body is potent and often expressed in a way we don’t understand, and even get frustrated with.

If sex isn’t working, we need to ask what’s out of alignment internally,  in our relationship, and in our lives.

In the same way that pain and illness are messengers, alerting us that something is out of balance or needs attention, sxual "dysfunctions" serve to bring awareness to something deeper going on, within ourselves or in our connection to our lover, if we know how to read the signs.

If our body is not responding in a way that allows us to sxually connect, it doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong with us.

More often than not, it's the wisdom of the body/c0ck/pu$$y having our back by working EXACTLY how they're supposed to.

Learning to listen to the oracle of the body can reveal where healing and integration are needed. It’s essential to respond in reverence rather than mistaking the body’s communication as an annoyance or inconvenience.

The good news is, most of them can be healed when we address the root of the problem, which I address in great detail in this episode.

This episode is a generous deep dive into the ins and outs of the root causes and meaning of all types of sxual challenges, and is incredibly rich with invaluable information as to how to navigate them.

Learn more at https://www.sureyaleonara.com/

We’ve all been programmed by other people’s ideas of what sex, our bodies, and our orgasms “should” look like, whether through porn, movies, or other media.

In our society, our desirability, our “performance” as a lover, and our ability to “get laid” can get really entangled with our sense of self-worth.

What would sex be like if we could be free of preconceived, performance-based notions, with no expectations, no pretense, nothing to prove, no “getting it right?”

How much more pleasure, presence and play could you immerse yourself in if you let go of pressure, performance and pretense?

Learn more about your host, Sureya at https://www.sureyaleonara.com/

In this episode connect with special guest, Simon Yugler, Depth Psychotherapist & Psychedelic Integration Coach. We covered suchhh a rich and diverse array of topics that I'm so excited to share with you. We talk psychedelics, shadow work, leadership, masculinity, and so much more.

Simon is a wealth of wisdom and an excellent resource for living a life full of purpose, meaning, and soul.

In this episode, we take a deep dive into:

❦ The quest for meaning and purpose, and how the lack of meaning is afflicting people in the western world

❦ The importance of integrating our shadow

❦ Initiation and its purpose in the human experience (and the consequences of its absence)

❦ Grief as a portal to the soul

❦ Conscious leadership and what it means to lead with integrity

❦ The healing potential of psychedelics and how to work with them safely and integrate what we learn from them into our daily lives

❦ Sxuality, masculinity and polarity, both in the modern world and in indigenous cultures

A little more about Simon:

With a masters (MA) in counseling psychology from Pacifica Graduate Institute, Simon Yugler is a depth and psychedelic integration therapist based in Portland, OR. Weaving Jungian psychology, Internal Family Systems therapy, and mythology, Simon also draws on his diverse experiences learning from indigenous cultures around the world, including the Shipibo ayahuasca tradition. He has a background in anthropology and experiential education, and has led immersive international journeys for young adults across 10 countries.He currently works as a retreat leader and therapist with MycoMeditations, one of the world's leading legal psilocybin-assisted therapy retreats, based in Jamaica. He is passionate about initiation, men’s work, decolonization, and helping his clients explore the liminal wilds of the soul.

Links:

https://www.depthmedicine.com/

https://www.instagram.com/depth_medicine/

To learn more about Sureya visit https://www.sureyaleonara.com/

Attractiveness is subjective and can change, evolve and diminish based upon so many factors.

Much of it is dependent upon the chemistry between two people, the dance of polarity that exists between their unique expressions.

But there’s something in particular I find to be the most deliciously attractive quality across the board, whether it’s igniting sxual attraction, or simply a magnetism that entices us to want to get to know someone and be in their presence platonically.

It’s a quality that can be extremely triggering to those who don’t yet embody it themselves, and one that can be incredibly inspiring to anyone who wants to cultivate the same special sauce in their own flavor.

It’s truly available to anyone, and will express differently through each individual.

Can you guess what it is? (Hint: it’s probably not what you think)

In this episode, I offer a deep dive into why this quality is so magnetic, how it enriches every area of our lives, and some practices you can try right now to start cultivating it.

To learn more about my work, check out https://www.sureyaleonara.com/

I encourage everyone to give this one a listen, even the men, because there is such a wealth of insight in here as to how to better harmonize with a female lover (if you have one) in relation to her cycle, that can support you both in having a much more fulfilling and smooth-sailing relationship!

Not to mention there is just so much magic laced within the mystical world of menstruation that is beyond fascinating and really deserves to be known and revered!

Laura has a true gift for weaving the scientific and the spiritual in the way she addresses this topic, in a way that's deeply profound, grounded and practical. She's played a pivotal role in my life in how I relate with my own cycle, and it's changed my life in such beautiful and unexpected ways. I want every woman to have this knowledge, and I want every man to be equipped with it as well. It's seriously a game-changer for everyone involved.

In this episode, we explore:

❦ How to effectively navigate PMS

❦ Cycle literacy and how it can change your life

❦ How to work as a team in relationship in regards to maintaining harmony throughout the changes of the menstrual cycle

❦ The ancient roots of menstrual mysticism and how to relate with it as a spiritual, self-care, and creative practice

❦ The importance of honoring the yin cycle in life, for all humans, menstruating or not

❦ How to read and honor the language of the body

❦ Destigamatizing menstruation

❦ And more!

Laura Carmody (she/they) is a menstrual health and empowerment educator residing in southern Oregon. She loves to support people as they cultivate deep and meaningful relationships with their bodies and cycles. Laura trains groups and individuals in red tent facilitation, and brings practical Red Tent bleeding spaces to festivals and gatherings.
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Laura's approach to sacred menstruation recognizes the systemic inequities that have lead to period poverty, inaccessibility of menstrual necessities, and global menstrual taboos. She believes that all menstruators deserve to bleed with dignity, with access to menstrual education and care, and with clean water. She is devoted to playing her part in stewarding a world where menstruation is truly respected.

Links:

Threadedred.org

http://instagram.com/threadedred

Speaking of moon magic, here are the links to register for my New Moon Portal: The Magnetism of Desire & my Full Moon Portal: Opening to Eros.

https://www.sureyaleonara.com/the-magnetism-of-desire

https://www.sureyaleonara.com/opening-to-eros

For more from Sureya, check out her website: https://www.sureyaleonara.com/