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| Ep 190: The Final Episode | 08 Dec 2023 | 01:50:11 | |
This was meant to be a just 3 min announcement, but based on your reaction to the news Dean Street Society is closing, I felt we needed another moment to just hang and process.
Pay The Value Closing Sale: DeanStreetSociety.com/closing
Also read information shared via email, by clicking “Hear More” at the bottom, and you can catch up on all emails sent since December 1st. | |||
| Ep 189: 5 Q’s to ask now to feel expectant for 2024 | 29 Nov 2023 | 01:03:20 | |
You asked for help choosing joy now and in the new year, after a hard year or season.
Can you relate to any of these?
Today’s 5 Q’s with my teaching on each from my own life currently are for you!
Review these after the teaching to come up with your own answers: 1. What do I have that others don’t have? // Gratitude 2. Who have I seen rebound that reminds me it’s true? // Evidence 3. What dark came before my dawns? // Receipts 4. What have I handled well, grown in, how have I healed? // Confidence 5. What is good right now? // Present
And enjoy my list of happy company this season:
See you over on Instagram @HilaryRushford for more.
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| Ep 188: Please help with our baby name?! | 22 Nov 2023 | 01:17:56 | |
The closer we get to a due date, the more I’m overthinking the name we have picked.
Here’s my advice on naming, plus what I’m looking for in case you have ideas?
Share this one with anyone working on their baby names.
Or to spark some conversation this holiday if you’re done with naming in your family.
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Truly, Internet Aunties (and a few uncles) thank you for your help!
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| Ep 187: We flew with my mom to meet our surrogates’ family in a whirlwind baby tour day! | 17 Nov 2023 | 01:30:33 | |
Sadly, much of a surrogacy journey is bracing for disappointment. However the positive side of that, is when things are easy you feel so incredibly lucky.
This week Jeremy, myself, and my mom all flew out to meet our surrogate’s family, our doctor, do a hospital tour, and have our 20-week anatomy scan.
All in a whirlwind 6 hours!
It was hilarious (y’all, our doctor is both an angel and a SNL character), a bit awkward, slightly triggering, and super heartwarming.
May it bring you more compassion, all the good feelings, and make you want to watch Bette Midler and Lily Tomlin this weekend! (wink)
Would be so grateful if you’ll share this episode with anyone it might bless, tag me @HilaryRushford on Instagram, and take a minute to leave a review.
So grateful you’re here!
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| Ep 186: How get help to save you when thing are really, really hard | 08 Nov 2023 | 01:12:57 | |
A breakdown of my last 24 hours and the choices I made when there was too much on my plate.
Things are a lot right now.
Today I’m sharing exactly what I’m preaching, practicing, and sending in voice memos to my girlfriends.
We’re talking about:
I want to help you do better not by trying harder, but by trying more gently.
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Please share this episode to bless someone else and tag me @HilaryRushford if on IG Stories so I can see what spoke to you. And thank you in advance for taking one minute to tap the stars and leave a review – it means so much! | |||
| Ep 185: What if my dream doesn’t happen? 2 approaches that lead to burnout | 01 Nov 2023 | 01:16:02 | |
I’m watching friends navigate life from a place of burnout vs healing, and the difference is astounding.
Comparison (their grass is greener) keeps us chasing goals harder than we should.
Yet, the opposite of envy is even more destructive to our burnout, and far less talked about.
Today we’re healing the crippling mindset that keeps us chasing a dream until it nearly kills us.
Anxiety and depression are two manifestations of the same burnout root.
Whether today you’re sprinting to keep a million balls in the air, or struggling through a sad fog to get much of anything done – it’s burnout.
The great news is that you can heal burnout!
You don’t have to stay here.
Let’s start creating space for hope today…
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| Ep 184: Have I chosen the wrong dream + signs of burnout | 25 Oct 2023 | 01:22:14 | |
What if some of the biggest choices in your life actually came from outside your head, not inside your heart?
That’s the hard truth I’ve been grappling with.
I’ve been coming up for air a bit after a season of grief (with my book story) that (I see now) was followed by a season of hustle and determination to put life back together again.
I’m remembering how it felt in my body to dream many years ago with more hope, less disappointment, and less outside voices.
And now I understand why choosing the wrong dreams led to burnout and never enough These are the complex choices in life, and this is a safe space to tell the truth to yourself.
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| Ep 183: When things are hard, how to winter well + move towards spring | 18 Oct 2023 | 01:21:18 | |
So many are struggling lately, both personal friends and members of our community.
I had a different episode planned for today when a friend called with hard, hard news and I wanted to share part of what we discussed.
Listen in to hear:
It’s the message you or someone you love needs when the way is feeling dark, and you’re wishing to feel more hope and faith.
With all my heart, you’re welcome, in advance.
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| Ep 182: How much should my friend risk giving up to fall in love? | 11 Oct 2023 | 01:08:28 | |
What advice would you give? Would you want?
The last two weeks while in Italy, I was swept away in the best romantic story.
A dear friend unexpectedly met someone while traveling internationally far from home and texted, “I might have met my husband.”
The wrinkle is that a life with him means a major fork in the road, leaving possibly forever things she’s loved, and for various reasons the decision is going to be made quickly.
When you have a major life decision, how can you be confident you won’t regret whatever you choose?
Over hours of voice messages back and forth I reflected:
The questions I guided her through, I found myself asking myself in the very different scenarios I’m walking through personally today.
This is the grown-women’s approach to love and life choices that (thank goodness) has less draining drama and more delightful drama that makes life exciting yet empowering.
Curious to hear on Instagram @HilaryRushford what advice you’d give after you listen? If you share it on Stories tag me so I can see! | |||
| Ep 181: Second trimester update + magical finds in Tuscany (roadtrip chat with Jeremy) | 04 Oct 2023 | 01:08:18 | |
Join us on the road from Tuscany to the Italian Riviera via Rome on:
We get lost, have to change audio sources halfway through, and I don’t allow for silence so we don’t have to make edits once we arrive in Positano so he doesn’t have much time to chime in (ha.) Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. If you think this would help someone you know please share and tag me so I can see and chime in! And thank you in advance (wink) for leaving a review, they mean so much in helping more people!
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| Ep 180: My new simple Q to ask when cranky, insecure, or overwhelmed | 27 Sep 2023 | 00:44:59 | |
Ciao from Rome! When we’re in a bad mood, we know so much we could do to make ourselves feel better.
Yet how often do we not do it in the moment when we’re rushing, flooded, frustrated?
Recently I’ve found a new self-coaching prompt I’m actually remembering to use.
I’m asking myself this simple Q when I’m cranky… because it feels light.
It doesn’t require as much mental work as past options, and comes with a lot less shame. Try it out for yourself today, and let me know if you agree?
I’ve been using it in Rome (more on my surprising thoughts about this city, travel, enough, fomo and more in the PS!) and it’s making my days sweeter.
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| Ep 179: Was your grandma beautiful, the purpose of photos, + breaking generational habits | 20 Sep 2023 | 01:04:23 | |
A girlfriend chat going back to the future, around the world, and ending with more ease. (Don’t miss the PS!) In today’s episode we’re talking about how to live in the flow of love.
That sounds hard to pin down, but I’ll tell you exactly what to do and it’s so simple.
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| Ep 178: How you’re hiding in your life + why it’s harming you | 13 Sep 2023 | 01:04:23 | |
A few months ago I got messages from 2 women in one week who were both hiding, on opposite ends of the same spectrum, each thinking they had the most to be ashamed of.
As I sat with their stories I realized: we all think we’re hiding the most, or more than others. When the truth is everyone is either hiding in some way, or has healed from hiding but used to be there so they can relate.
Today we’ll explore exactly how we heal, learn to trust, and why it matters so deeply to our health and happiness.
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| Ep 177: The 3rd level of healing in my body peace, 4 signs I saw in myself, + exactly how to get this sense of quiet confidence | 06 Sep 2023 | 01:01:14 | |
I went back to the site of past shame and was so grounded in myself, it was noteworthy.
How did I stay more present than self-analytical, despite being in a room of wealthy people I had once felt so much smaller than?
This is a different experience of confidence and freedom (of time, money, energy) than I’ve felt before.
And I’m sharing exactly what I did to get there!
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| Ep 176: Running into someone from your past + realizing you weren’t the problem | 30 Aug 2023 | 00:55:09 | |
How often do you double shame yourself? Part of the shame is warranted: we’re imperfect and insecure.
Yet from that place how often do we also take on a double helping of guilt, instead of being able to see that the people or circumstances around us were also flawed and problematic?
Sharing a story about a chance meeting that left me with so many insights about myself 20 years ago, and myself today – both how I’ve grown and what the next level of healing is.
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And thank you in advance (wink) for leaving a review, they mean so much in helping more people! | |||
| Ep 175: Don’t let people throw you off your game - 3 steps to avoiding mom shame, unsolicited business advice, + more | 23 Aug 2023 | 00:59:30 | |
I had my first experience with mom shame, and I couldn’t believe I caved so quickly!
I knew what was and was not a priority for me, but one little sentence… and I took an action purely out of shame and fear. #PalmToFace
I was genuinely flabbergasted that I could feel pressured so easily on a decision I’d made very clearly over a year ago.
I came home determined to shore up my confidence and identified 3 steps to remaining confident in your decisions when others disagree.
This conversation includes how to feel less triggered by the unsolicited advice of others, avoid burnout and overwhelm, and live with less stress, more peace.
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And thank you in advance (wink) for leaving a review, they mean so much in helping more people!
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| Ep 174: From anxious worrier to WILD PEACE, a case study in fertility/pregnancy, career/business, community/love, finances/home | 16 Aug 2023 | 01:31:29 | |
We got a call from our surrogate that she was spotting, shaken, and headed to the hospital.
I’ve been sharing how much I’m confused by the peace I’m feeling around surrogacy and pregnancy.
As someone who’s always been prone to anxiety, how the heck am I SO CALM?!
I’m thrilled I am! But I literally don’t recognize this feeling of living in my body.
I wondered if perhaps I just hadn’t been tested?
Maybe the peace will prove less strong if something goes wrong?
How I handled the next 12 hours of not knowing whether we were miscarrying, shocked me even more.
The next day I started journaling: I want this same peace in other areas of my life! So HOW did I get here?!
I went back to 2018, followed the path, and identified 5ish steps you’ll learn in this episode.
I’ve taken new steps myself this week from the wisdom in this conversation!
I believe we can both create more almost unbelievable peace for ourselves by the end of 2023.
Let’s give each other updates on how it’s going in the months to come…
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| Ep 173: 7 Steps to Making Big Decisions (whether or not to have kids + we’re moving!) | 09 Aug 2023 | 01:02:23 | |
For years I’ve been endlessly making big decisions.
Did we want to have kids or not?
Were we supposed to leave NYC, and if so to go where?
These decisions were the two longest and hardest I’ve ever had to make, but I’m so grateful for this process that eventually lead me to peace.
As I wrestled with these decisions over the years, I took notes for you. Listen in for the 7 steps that helped me make these big choices in a way that left me with confidence when it came time.
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Earlier episodes on my decision to have kids or not:
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| Ep 172: The #1 insensitive Q to please stop asking pregnant people | 01 Aug 2023 | 01:02:24 | |
I’ve had 5 years of being asked this question. #PalmToFace
It’s one I asked others over the years! It seemed innocuous and I didn’t realize how triggering, personal, or just awkward it can be.
This question is asked whether someone is pregnant, using IVF or conceiving naturally, or even had children years ago.
Please note this isn’t to shame any of us who have asked (or answered!) over the years.
We did the best we could with what we knew then.
Now we know better, so we’ll do better for both parents and children.
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| Ep 171: Our Surrogacy Story (part 2) | 26 Jul 2023 | 01:48:07 | |
How did surrogacy get on our hearts? What are the misconceptions about surrogates?
Bigger picture, how do you make big decisions (especially when you have no one to ask) and look for clues in the seeds God/the universe has planted around your life?
We’re covering all of that plus the 4 reasons to NOT do surrogacy, why we turned down our 1st two matches, and more.
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| Ep 170: Our Fertility Journey (part 1) | 19 Jul 2023 | 01:33:46 | |
ICYMI my recent announcement on Instagram, we’ve been on a fertility journey for the last 6 years. From my first appointment about egg freezing when single, through multiple rounds of (failed) embryo freezing, to moving forward with a surrogate (gestational carrier), and our first embryo transfer last week! Today I’m answering Q’s you submitted about the process, thoughts, feelings, and decisions along the way.
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| Ep 169: When you’re not as far as you’d hoped this time last year | 12 Jul 2023 | 00:28:07 | |
What if you’ve worked so hard the last year, only to feel so far from where you hoped you’d be?
You’re still in debt, or the business still isn’t working; still waiting on the adoption or walking through infertility; still haven’t met your person, or aren’t over the relationship you lost.
Or in my case, I’m not as healed, as undefined from grief a year ago as I thought just a few months ago I might feel passing the anniversary.
If you feel far from your peak, you’re not alone, and I’m on the journey with you.
Would love to hear from you on Instagram @hilaryrushford after the episode, and if you think this could make someone else feel less alone, share it and tag me so I can see what spoke to you!
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| EP 168: Burned out + asking how can this be easier | 05 Jul 2023 | 00:50:23 | |
I’m struggling today. You? I had another episode planned.
Yet for reasons I’ll explain, it was feeling heavy. And I’m burned out.
So I asked myself:
What would feel easier today?
I hope my enough will be enough for you today, and that you’ll give yourself the same grace. ❤️
Your weariness is welcome here, in an honest chat about how to continue when you’re using all your tools and still feel far from really good.
Would love to hear from you on Instagram @hilaryrushford after the episode, and if you think this could make someone else feel less alone, share it and tag me so I can see what spoke to you! | |||
| Ep 167: What’s your beauty healing score? | 28 Jun 2023 | 00:38:52 | |
When you say you feel “good” in an area, it’s compared to how you used to feel. You feel better. But if this is the best you’ve felt, can you really know it’s good? What if how you feel today is only 40% of what’s possible? You don’t even know what great feels like!
Ten-ish years ago I was feeling so much better in my body and beauty. But something in me knew there was more–more peace, more ease, more acceptance, more confidence. In today’s personal episode I’m sharing small moments of healing over the years and what I realize caused the shift You can feel better. You simply have to listen to that knowing inside of you that says: this isn’t the peak yet. Let me show you how to get there…
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| Ep 166: How to feel beautiful *without* loving your body + stop excluding other women | 21 Jun 2023 | 01:13:48 | |
I want to introduce you to a new aspiration, belief system, way of living:
Beauty Positive.
My goal is not Body Positive, because you don’t need to feel positive about your body to live this way.
“How to Finally Feel Confident and at Peace in Your Body Plus Save Time, Energy, and $2k/Year”
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| Ep 165: My 3-Part mantra + method to like your body more today | 14 Jun 2023 | 00:44:18 | |
There’s no affirmation I use more in my life. And this one actually isn’t even about your body. Yet it leaves you feeling better, kinder, more hopeful. And, better about your body. Then inspires you to take the next step to healing. If every woman used this, we could change our culture. Let’s start with us.
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| Ep 164: Real talk, how much would I spend to look younger + why filters are not the problem | 07 Jun 2023 | 00:55:59 | |
You sent so many messages when I started this convo on Stories a few months ago. Then I had an appointment I wanted to tell you about (yegads) and the two came full circle.
What we get riled up about on social media distracts us from what we should really care about. From false advertising ignoring the biggest factors making women look younger and pretending it’s something else. Then we spend the money we do have unwisely, and are disappointed with the results.
I want to help you spend less. I want to help you heal from the inside. I want to help you feel more joy, more easily, on the outside.
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| Ep 163: Attractive angry women | 31 May 2023 | 00:51:12 | |
When does our rage feel compelling, not repelling? After Part 3 of the podcast series went live II received messages like this: “Hearing this unlocked something in me…” “You awoke an anger inside of me I’ve been swallowing, and made it feel okay to let it out…” “This was a holy rage and it was exciting, inviting even, to witness, thank you…”
I had been nervous to release that episode, but it turns out the lack of filter was deeply needed. Today we’ll break down 6 elements to consider that increase our chances of being heard and honored when we speak up with passion. And what I realize in hindsight was the recipe to why the Part 3 episode felt so raw yet so safe for you to hear
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| Bonus: Unofficial Part 4 Q&A | 29 May 2023 | 00:44:42 | |
You requested this episode, submitting follow-up Q’s you had after listening to parts 1-3.
Today I’m answering your Q’s including:
I also talk about how to:
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If you’re an author or in the publishing industry and want to share your experience after listening, write to me privately at books@deanstreetsociety.com. All correspondence will remain anonymous. Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. If you think this would help someone you know please share the links above + tag me so I can thank you + hear what spoke to you!
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| Ep 162: Where do we go from here | 24 May 2023 | 01:02:36 | |
You’ve known gaslighting, rage at disorganization or disrespect, or a traumatic work/community experience.
Today I’ll share 7 action ideas to help us protect ourselves in the present or future, those in our inner circle, and more broadly our culture. Use this cheat sheet to journal, discuss, and reflect what you’ll do in this season to grow 10% better, leaving you more empowered + confident:
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Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. If you think this would help someone you know please share and tag me so I can see + chime in! If this episode helped you or someone you know, I’d be so grateful if you’d leave a review. They mean so much to creators!
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| Ep 161: My Story 3 of 3: It gets worse | 17 May 2023 | 01:36:49 | |
I want to say it gets better. In life I’ve really found that to be true. In romantic relationships, homes, friends, employees. But sometimes it gets worse first. How do you know when it’s time to walk away from a dream? From everything you’ve invested, with nothing–less than nothing, far far less than what you started with? You know it when it happens. The final straw. HEADS UP: This is a very raw, salty, cursing, no holding back episode.
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Share this series and read an exclusive chapter of What Makes Women Feel Beautiful at HilaryRushford.com/BookStory.
If you do so on Instagram tag me @HilaryRushford so I can thank you for doing what I wish someone had done for me, and/or hear what parts spoke to you the most. If you’re an author or in the publishing industry and want to share your experience after listening, write to me privately at books@deanstreetsociety.com. All correspondence will remain anonymous. If this episode helped you or someone you know, I’d be so grateful if you’d leave a review. They mean so much to creators!
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| Ep 160: My Story 2 of 3: Ignoring red flags to chase a dream | 10 May 2023 | 01:20:05 | |
In 2011 I started a business as a stylist. I’d moved to New York City for my career in theater after a Broadway tour, Radio City Rockettes, and all that jazz.
[The below timeline is not covered in the episode and included here for backstory.]
In 2014 a friend who worked at a top publisher told me that my style course, “had to be a book.” She’d told everyone in her office my principles and they were using them daily–women needed this. I told her that sounded like a lot of work for very little money. We were both right.
In 2016 I began writing the book in fits and starts, always “let’s just get through one more launch, just a little more income so we aren’t burned out and *then* I’ll write the book.”
By 2020 I decided *then* was never going to come. I had to take the leap. I hired a book coach and in 2021 they introduced me to a top agent. My book went to auction and my dream was coming true.
For a year I absolutely adored the writing process (which most authors bemoan) yet was traumatized by the publishing process (which I had never heard anyone mention–as explained in the episode now I know why.)
Worse, it almost cost me everything.
This is part 2 of 3 in sharing that story. Please begin with last week’s Part 1: Silent vs Silenced.
This is a story of creative and financial heartbreak, shared to protect others from it.
It’s the episodes I have wish I had heard from just one person, to have any idea what I was risking when I decided 7 years ago that maybe I would in fact like to write a book.
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Share this series and read an exclusive chapter of What Makes Women Feel Beautiful in Part 3 at HilaryRushford.com/BookStory.
If you know any author, creative, or aspiring this could bless, please share it with them and if you do so on Instagram tag me @HilaryRushford so I can thank you for doing what I wish someone had done for me. If you’re an author and want to share your experience after listening to next week’s final episode (I understand the desire to share with someone who can relate), DM above or write books@deanstreetsociety.com. All correspondence will of course remain anonymous.. If this episode helped you or someone you know, I’d be so grateful if you’d leave a review. They mean so much to creators! | |||
| Ep 159: My Story 1 of 3: Silent vs silenced | 03 May 2023 | 00:44:15 | |
For a year I’ve been asked, “What happened to you? What exactly are you grieving about?”
Each time I would reply, “Unfortunately I’m not legally allowed to share right now, but hope to be able to soon.”
Now I’m able to, and as I’ve known I would be all along, I feel terrified.
So we’re starting with that:
As is always my hope: may you feel seen in your story, or better understand others as they share theirs.
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Share this series and read an exclusive chapter of What Makes Women Feel Beautiful in Part 3 at HilaryRushford.com/BookStory. Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. If this episode helped you or someone you know, I’d be so grateful if you’d leave a review. They mean so much to creators!
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| Bonus: Aaron Update | 02 May 2023 | 00:54:03 | |
The long + layered stories we’re all living in.That’s what this chat is about--you, us.You’ve asked for updates on my brother-in-law which I’m sharing here in the most respectful way possible.Yet really, this is about far more than one person’s physical healing + rather how we navigate the mental complexities of hope amidst hard things.You can catch up on Aaron’s story here:
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| Ep 158: You don't have time to rush | 26 Apr 2023 | 00:40:16 | |
How do you train your body to be more calm in stress?
Today I’m sharing an anchoring phrase that helps me every time I remember to use it, in hopes this conversation will help us all do so more often.
Recorded from a car outside the hospital visiting my brother-in-law, we’ll talk not only big picture gratitude and presence, but practically how we make our lives easier when we build the habit of small mental shifts.
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| Ep 157: How to Wait Well | 19 Apr 2023 | 00:58:41 | |
When you’re waiting for news, for an answer, for closure… how are you patient, how do you get through the day, what do you occupy your mind with? I shared the spontaneous teaching you’ll hear in this episode, and am following it up with thoughts through the lens of my brother-in-law’s accident that hadn’t yet happened when I shared this original teaching. Links in this episode: Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. If you think this would help someone you know please share and tag me so I can see + chime in!
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| Ep 156: Sympathy vs empathy vs empaths + how to avoid pity | 12 Apr 2023 | 01:19:46 | |
Four weeks ago I’d have told you I’m deeply empathetic.
I still am! But I’ve been humbled as to how much I can declare that in scenarios in which I truly have never walked a similar path.
It’s rare we have “overnight change” moments. When they happen we get a clear vision of a before and after of ourselves.
Today we’ll chat about:
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Would love to hear your thoughts after today’s episode @HilaryRushford! If you think this would bless someone else please share it and tag me!
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| Ep 155: For the caregivers (our brother’s recent paralysis from an accident) | 05 Apr 2023 | 01:36:14 | |
If you love someone who’s walked through illness + injury, this “pour a cup” or “let’s go on a walk” chat is for you.
When I shared the news on Instagram Monday comments and DMs were flooded by the caregivers. I saw a whole demographic that had been there all along, you just hadn’t had a reason to share your story with me.
Today’s episode is for you.
I’m sharing from what I call the First-and-a-half Circle of Grief. The wife of the brother. Close enough to watch the trauma unfold, but aware how far my experience is from that of his parents and siblings who’ve known him every day of his life.
May you feel seen. Love, Hilary
Would love to hear your thoughts after today’s episode on Instagram @HilaryRushford
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| Ep 154: Why I’m ending my most profitable product + how to know when “it’s time” to make a change | 29 Mar 2023 | 01:08:09 | |
Whether ending a relationship, letting go of a home or a side gig, it can be so challenging to know when a long story has run its course.
And it matters BIG TIME! When we’re leaking energy on the wrong thing, we can be missing out on passion and purpose meant for us, in our career or simply in how we live our daily life.
In this episode I guide us back to how we got here, and how we get out with lots of grace, empowerment, and hope.
This is an important episode for any entrepreneur, yet it’s about so much more than business or work.
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Come let me know your thoughts on today’s episode inside the group and on Instagram @HilaryRushford!
© 2019 - 2023 Hilary Rushford | |||
| Ep 153: It’s tiring to be in the middle of a long story | 22 Mar 2023 | 01:07:51 | |
Calming nervous system dates, the simplest path to feeling beautiful + more in today’s post-Florida download.
94% of us are in a waiting season. #HandRaised This week I stumbled upon a few ways to support myself in what feels like a Groundhogs Day chapter + broke down why/how they helped so I can look for more.
Join me in a seasonal reset inside our Elegant Excellence Community for April! We’ll be Choosing Lightness (hope, ease, releasing, faith) daily together in a special format this month.
Come let me know your thoughts on today’s episode inside the group and on Instagram @HilaryRushford!
© 2019 - 2023 Hilary Rushford | |||
| Ep 152: Zero Guilty Pleasures + Feeling Lighter | 15 Mar 2023 | 01:08:39 | |
A light girlfriend chat after a hard week. Anyone else just need to feel lighter?
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| Ep 151: My 13 year journey to healing | 08 Mar 2023 | 00:47:51 | |
What’s the thing you keep trying to solve/fix/change in your life?
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| Ep 150: The 5 reasons you’re behind | 01 Mar 2023 | 00:47:06 | |
What’s stealing your time? I asked myself that question while using my Elegant Excellence Journal one morning.
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| Ep 149: How to live well, instead of fearing death | 22 Feb 2023 | 01:14:36 | |
A simple 5-part daily check in on living with peace while surrounded with hard things we can’t control.
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| Ep 148: An Encouragement to Keep Going | 15 Feb 2023 | 00:55:06 | |
While in a hard season right now there’s 2 phrases I keep coming back to.
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| Ep 147: How to speak up for yourself: agreeable vs demanding women + finding our center | 08 Feb 2023 | 00:37:10 | |
I’m embarrassed to admit this even happened. Yet a recent appointment made it crystal clear: I am a people pleaser in an unexpected way, with unintended consequences for people I care about (not to mention myself!)
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| Ep 146: I’m still grieving + I’d like to be done thanks | 01 Feb 2023 | 01:02:33 | |
Do you have days it feels hard to get out of bed, or you want to climb back in halfway through? That was today for me, and I decided rather than putting on a happier face to talk about what I had planned, I’d just share. From bed, from notes in my Elegant Excellence Journal. Why do we hesitate to be honest we’re “still” not “over” what happened to us? That we may never be? With honesty, hope, humor, and more honesty… Links mentioned in this episode:
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| Ep 145: What makes women feel beautiful: Inner Body Positivity | 25 Jan 2023 | 00:46:48 | |
Culture puts much emphasis on the outside of our bodies. We feel confident or insecure based on what others see.
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| Ep 144: Why you’re afraid to slow down | 18 Jan 2023 | 01:01:39 | |
The root reason you’re running so fast may surprise you. There’s the first layer fears. Once I dealt with those… I found a second layer, deeper reasons I didn’t even realize were there. Then I saw a friend go through the same phases, then students inside my Healing Burnout course started to report the same.
© 2019 - 2023 Hilary Rushford | |||
| Ep 143: Cultivating inner confidence to trust yourself most | 11 Jan 2023 | 00:44:57 | |
I have a vision for our new year, friend. One that is softer, more beautiful, yet has more easy strength than we’ve known. In today’s episode I break down how I arrived at a new season of inner confidence, and how that’s different from outer confidence. We’ll talk about how to think about losses without minimizing them, what it means to feel like a situation broke you or didn’t break you, and importantly how to look a little longer-term when choosing what to prioritize and celebrate in our lives. This episode will feel like a warm cup of tea on a cozy couch. ****
© 2019 - 2023 Hilary Rushford | |||