Explorez tous les épisodes du podcast You’re Not for Everyone
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| E.209. Self Loathing | 15 Jun 2026 | 00:10:25 | |
Self-loathing is more than low self-esteem. It is a deep, persistent belief that something is fundamentally wrong with who we are. It can quietly shape our relationships, careers, health, and overall happiness. In this episode, we’ll explore where self-loathing comes from, how it develops, the signs that it may be affecting your life, and practical ways to begin healing and building a kinder relationship with yourself. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.208. Childhood Neglect | 12 Jun 2026 | 00:17:35 | |
Childhood neglect is often overlooked because it is defined by what didn’t happen rather than what did. Unlike abuse, neglect can be harder to recognize, yet its effects can last a lifetime. In this episode, we’ll explore what childhood neglect looks like, how it shapes emotional development, relationships, self-worth, and mental health, and what healing can look like for adults who grew up feeling unseen, unheard, or unsupported. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| Jackie's Children's Book Announcement!!! | 03 May 2026 | 00:01:42 | |
Zola the Brave Little Poodle is a heartwarming story that shows children—and the grown-ups who love them—how to face challenges with courage and an open heart. Through Zola’s journey, readers discover that even in uncertain moments, there is a quiet bravery inside them waiting to shine. This magical tale gently teaches emotional resilience, reminding kids that it’s okay to feel big emotions and that they won’t last forever. Most importantly, Zola shows that with love, kindness, and a little bravery, everything will always work out in the end. Purchase Here: https://a.co/d/09CKH1MY Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.112. Overcoming Insecurity | 21 Dec 2023 | 00:23:36 | |
Insecurity is a feeling of vulnerability or uncertainty about oneself or one's abilities. It is often characterized by a lack of confidence or a fear of rejection, failure, or judgment from others. Insecurity can stem from a variety of sources, including early life experiences, social conditioning, and past trauma. Jackie offers ways to overcome insecurity and shares how to step into your confidence as a wonderful human. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.111. Things Resilient People Do | 11 Dec 2023 | 00:20:20 | |
Resilience is the ability to withstand adversity and bounce back from difficult life events. Being resilient does not mean a person doesn't experience stress, emotional upheaval, and suffering. Resilience involves the ability to work through emotional pain and suffering. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.110. Rudeness | 06 Dec 2023 | 00:19:27 | |
Rudeness is generally defined as a display of disrespect, a breaking of social norms or expectations, a breach of etiquette , or ignoring "accepted" behavior. Jackie shares how to manage rude people and how to not get so triggered by them. She also explains that sometimes we are the rude ones and we need to check ourselves and ask why am I acting this way. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.109. Managing Holiday Stress | 29 Nov 2023 | 00:21:49 | |
The holidays, for many, are not a joyful time. The holidays can be a source of stress. People experience the stress of gift-giving, financial burdens, hosting, social situations, family dynamics, past memories to live up to, and travel. Jackie encourages you to audit your holiday traditions, finances, & how you spend your time to ensure that how you choose to celebrate the holidays brings you joy & comfort and not overwhelm & stress. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.108. Benefits of Journaling | 28 Nov 2023 | 00:17:09 | |
Journaling is traditionally the exercise of writing down your thoughts and feelings to understand them more clearly. And if you struggle with stress, depression, or anxiety, keeping a journal can be a great idea. It can help you gain control of your emotions and improve your mental health. But traditional journaling may not be for everyone so Jackie offers some creative & alternative ways to journal that may be work for you. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.107. Social Media & Your Mental Health | 22 Nov 2023 | 00:21:43 | |
The use of social media significantly impacts mental health. It can enhance connection, increase self-esteem, and improve a sense of belonging. But it can also lead to tremendous stress, pressure to compare oneself to others, and increased sadness and isolation. Mindful use is essential to social media consumption. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.106. The Recovery Wheel: Making a Life Change | 03 Nov 2023 | 00:19:00 | |
Whether it be from addiction, toxic relationships or unfulfilling jobs, many people get to places in their lives where they feel stuck and need a life change. Changing your life is a process that moves you from unhappy, unhealthy, and unproductive choices to a healthy & happy place. Jackie shares how the wheel of recovery is used to help make important life changes. She shares the stages of change and how to resource yourself to achieve these important life changes. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.105. The Downside to Down Playing Your Trauma | 01 Nov 2023 | 00:23:34 | |
We often downplay the trauma we survived by telling ourselves that it wasn't a big deal, that we should just get over it, or that others may have it worse. However, as much as we might want to deny our trauma, in reality, it needs to be acknowledged, or it will continue to influence us. Jackie shares the importance of acknowledging the trauma you survived and the benefits of starting your healing journey. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.104. Stop Negative Thinking | 29 Oct 2023 | 00:24:27 | |
Focusing on negative thoughts may lead to decreased motivation as well as greater feelings of helplessness. This type of critical inner dialogue has even been linked to depression. Those who find themselves frequently engaging in negative self-talk tend to be more stressed. Not only can negative thinking adversely affect our mental health, but it can also affect our physical health by raising blood pressure and making it more difficult to recover from illness. Jackie provides insight into why some people are so negative and she provides tools to reframe and change the negative outlook and language. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.103. A Self Love Flood | 29 Oct 2023 | 00:09:22 | |
When we practice self-love, we accept ourselves for who we are and recognize our worth, which has a healthy impact on our self-esteem. Self-love also encourages us to take care of ourselves, both physically and emotionally, and helps to protect us from outside influences that might diminish our self-worth. Jackie offers a self-love flood for both your adult self and for your inner child. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.199. When We Disappoint Ourselves | 29 Apr 2026 | 00:15:48 | |
A powerful exploration of what it really means to let yourself down—and why it happens more often than we admit. This episode unpacks the emotional weight of broken self-promises, the deeper patterns behind self-betrayal, and practical, compassionate ways to rebuild self-trust. It’s a grounded reminder that growth isn’t about perfection—it’s about how you return to yourself after you fall. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.102. Energy: Yours Vs. Theirs | 08 Oct 2023 | 00:19:01 | |
Our nervous systems are highly sensitive especially if you are an empath or feel emotions deeply. Jackie shares how to regulate your own nervous system and she provides skills to discern whether the energy your feeling is your own or if it belongs to someone else. This podcast provides skills like “tracking” and “holding space” to protect your energy to be attuned to and separate from the energy of others. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.101. Emotional Suffering | 05 Oct 2023 | 00:24:35 | |
Emotional suffering refers to an intense emotional response to an experience that arises from a particular event, occurrence, pattern of events or condition. Jackie explains why we experience emotional suffering and she provides ways to move away from suffering to being able to manage these intense feelings in a healthy and productive way. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.100. Self Care for Your Nervous System | 19 Sep 2023 | 00:26:05 | |
When we are in a state of overwhelm, stress or anxiety our nervous system gets dysregulated. Jackie provides some self care practices to help bring calm and peace to the nervous system so that the immune system stays boosted and we are better able to manage the challenges of life more efficiently and with a very zen approach. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.99. Childhood Sexual Abuse | 18 Sep 2023 | 00:23:11 | |
Child sexual abuse occurs when a person uses his/her power over a child or youth, and involves the child in any sexual act. The power of the abuser can lie in age differences, intellectual or physical development, a relationship of authority over the child, and/or the child's dependency on him/her. Adults who had experienced child abuse were two and a half times more likely to have major depression and six times more likely to have post-traumatic stress disorder compared to adults who had not experienced abuse. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E. 98. The Damage Done By Shaming a Child | 06 Sep 2023 | 00:19:28 | |
Publicly making fun of, name calling, and embarrassing your child are all forms of shaming. Shaming a child can have significant negative effects on their emotional well-being. It can lead to low self-esteem, anxiety, depression, and even behavioral issues. It can also damage the parent-child relationship and hinder the child's overall development. Jackie shares that shaming is not a form of discipline; its a form of abuse. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.97. How To Travel Alone | 05 Sep 2023 | 00:19:24 | |
Traveling alone can be scary to consider but can also sound like an alluring adventure. Jackie shares thoughts about traveling alone and why its an important part of personal development. She also gives some tips on safety and what to expect when traveling solo! The world is your playground. Go explore!!! Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.96. How To Self-Soothe Yourself | 28 Aug 2023 | 00:22:55 | |
Self-soothing helps the body reset itself during and after experiencing overwhelming stress and anxiety. . All people need soothing after a shock or following trauma or upset. Common self-soothing behaviors include reaching for an alcoholic drink or a tub of ice cream. Jackie offers some healthier ways to self soothe that will help you to find your zen and bring your body & nervous system back to homeostasis. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.95. Navigating a Tragic Loss | 23 Aug 2023 | 00:22:28 | |
One of the many painful types of trauma is that of tragic loss. Tragic loss occurs when a loved one unexpectedly dies or is killed, be it by an acute health condition, suicide, crime, accident, or natural disaster. Jackie shares tools and insight on how to navigate this painful time and gives hope that healing will come. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.94. Splitting | 14 Aug 2023 | 00:23:02 | |
Splitting is a psychological mechanism which allows the person to tolerate difficult and overwhelming emotions by seeing someone as either good or bad, idealised or devalued. This makes it easier to manage the emotions that they are feeling, which on the surface seem to be contradictory. Splitting is characterized by a rapid, extreme change in how a person or situation is perceived. It is a very impulsive and volatile response to real conflict and/or perceived conflict. Splitting is a characteristic of Borderline Personality Disorder or a learned response to childhood abuse or neglect. This podcast is a combination of Jackie's clinical insight as well as her wisdom & life experience gained from years of mentoring, coaching & counseling. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.93. The STOP Skill | 26 Jul 2023 | 00:16:54 | |
The STOP skill stands for stop, take a step back, observe, and proceed mindfully. The STOP skill helps you to be more assertive and responsive when dealing with distress. It helps you to train your mind to be less emotionally reactive and impulsive. The STOP skill is a tool that helps you to get your needs met in a productive way when dealing with conflict and stressful interactions. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.198. Why Some People Let Us Down | 29 Apr 2026 | 00:18:17 | |
Why do people disappoint us—even the ones who care? This episode explores the psychology, nervous system responses, and relational patterns behind why people let us down, and how to protect your peace without losing your capacity to connect. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.92. Emotions & Your Physical Aches and Pains | 25 Jul 2023 | 00:20:02 | |
Our bodies experience and manifest what our minds are feeling. Our emotions directly impact our physical health. Just as stress exacerbates heart disease, anger can manifest into arthritis, & fear of moving forward can create hip pain. Our emotions are strong and directly impact our physical aches & pains. Jackie encourages you to identify the underlying emotions causing the physical manifestations and work through them for optimal physical & mental health. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.91. Passive Aggressive Behavior | 19 Jul 2023 | 00:20:18 | |
Passive-aggressive behavior is a pattern of indirectly expressing negative feelings instead of openly addressing them. There's a disconnect between what a person who exhibits passive-aggressive behavior says and what he or she does. Passive-aggressiveness is a behavior where people tend to avoid direct conflict and express their anger indirectly through sulking, procrastination, silent treatment, withdrawal, stubbornness, sarcasm, controlling, and sabotaging tasks. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.90. Habits for Success | 17 Jul 2023 | 00:19:37 | |
What defines a successful life for you? How do we create that life? Harnessing the power of habits is a great way to pursue success. Committing to habits allows you to free up your brain capacity to make better decisions, do your best work when you are in a prime mental state, and stay on track even when things are difficult. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.89. The Story We Tell Ourselves | 16 Jul 2023 | 00:20:46 | |
A good story can entertain, motivate, and teach valuable lessons. That is why it is important we pay attention to the stories we tell ourselves. Stories can change how we see the world. But they can also impact how we see ourselves—especially if we tell ourselves the same ones over and over again. Our minds are wired to create a cohesive narrative out of the apparent chaos of life. Our stories tell us who we are, what we value and what we're capable of. These stories not only bring meaning to our life, but also, create the life we're experiencing. What is the story you are telling yourself about yourself? Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.88. Being An Empath | 12 Jul 2023 | 00:20:59 | |
Empaths are highly sensitive individuals, who have a keen ability to sense what people around them are thinking and feeling. Psychologists may use the term empath to describe a person that experiences a great deal of empathy, often to the point of taking on the pain of others at their own expense. Jackie offers some ways to protect & support your empathic spirit. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.87. Birthday Depression | 05 Jul 2023 | 00:20:46 | |
Birthday depression refers to feeling sad, apathetic, or disinterested in celebrating or thinking about your birthday. Jackie explains reasons why some people experience birthday depression and suggests some ways to shift this mindset. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.86. Dysfunctional Relationships | 29 Jun 2023 | 00:20:52 | |
The word “dysfunctional” or “toxic” describes a relationship not functioning well. There are no perfect relationships. At the same time, it's a red flag when a relationship is mainly filled with pain and challenges instead of bringing you joy and support. Jackie explains the differences between healthy, dysfunctional, and abusive relationships. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E. 85. Time Management | 28 Jun 2023 | 00:21:06 | |
Time management means organizing your time thoughtfully & mindfully – so that you use it more effectively. The benefits of good time management include greater productivity, less stress, and more opportunities to do the things that really matter. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.84. Things You Can Control | 26 Jun 2023 | 00:17:59 | |
Remind yourself that you have power over so many elemental parts of being a happy, healthy human. You can control what you eat, the content you read & watch, and how long you sleep. You can control how much you exercise, the way you talk to yourself, and the way you treat others. It's time to take the driver's seat of your life. It's time to take control. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| A Request From Jackie | 16 Jun 2023 | 00:02:12 | |
Thank you for being a supporter of my podcast for the past year!!!! Please take a moment and: Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.197. Sychophants: Trading Authenticity for Approval | 22 Apr 2026 | 00:14:33 | |
What is a sycophant—and why do some people feel the need to constantly flatter, agree, and seek approval from others? In this episode, we unpack the psychology behind sycophantic behavior, exploring how fear of rejection, low self-worth, and power dynamics can lead people to abandon authenticity for acceptance. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| S.83. Suicidal Ideation | 15 Jun 2023 | 00:24:16 | |
Suicidal ideations (SI), often called suicidal thoughts or ideas, is a broad term used to describe a range of contemplations, wishes, and preoccupations with death and suicide. Suicidal feelings can mean having abstract thoughts about ending your life or feeling that people would be better off without you. Or it can mean thinking about methods of suicide or making clear plans to take your own life. Whether you are experiencing SI yourself or want to support a friend through crisis, this podcast will give you some insight in to this delicate topic. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.82. The Truth About Laziness | 13 Jun 2023 | 00:21:15 | |
Laziness is defined as a failure to act or perform as expected due to conscious, controllable factors — namely a lack of individual effort. Why are some people super productive and some are lazy? What causes laziness? How can we live a more motivated and fulfilled life? Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.81. What's Your Attachment Style? | 07 Jun 2023 | 00:18:55 | |
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| E.80. Be A Disrupter | 05 Jun 2023 | 00:19:38 | |
A disrupter is a person or thing that prevents something, especially a system, process, or event, from continuing as usual or as expected. It means to come out of the status quo of your life, to leave your comfort zone, to navigate from what you have always done and to create a positive and powerful shift to move you towards living your best life! Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.79. Make Some Space | 01 Jun 2023 | 00:17:27 | |
Making space is a method of opening up your time, energy and physical space to allow more room to live, create and enjoy life. We want to make space in our lives, home, relationships, worklife, and in our daily tasks so that we can live with ease & intention and become better able to manage conflict & chaos. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.78. Cultivating a Fulfilled Life | 22 May 2023 | 00:21:33 | |
Fulfillment is about living a deeply meaningful life, a life of purpose and satisfaction. Fulfillment is cultivating deep meaning. It's about one's vision, their dreams, and living in full alignment and flow with their values. Jackie shares ways on how to cultivate a fulfilled life. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E. 77. Adverse Childhood Experiences | 08 May 2023 | 00:14:12 | |
Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) include all types of abuse and neglect, such as parental substance use, incarceration, and domestic violence. ACEs can also include situations that may cause trauma for a child, such as having a parent with a mental illness or being part of a family going through a divorce. There is a test for ACEs and its been proven that some people who have a high amounts of ACEs tend to have more mental & physical health issues later in life. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E. 76. Anxiety in the Family | 04 May 2023 | 00:21:34 | |
Family culture is the combination of your family's habits, traditions, purpose, values, beliefs, and choices. Both our family culture and our own anxiety can play a role in our children's anxiety. We want to start healing our own anxiety, create a healthy family culture, and role model a zen life to our children. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.75. Self Forgiveness | 03 May 2023 | 00:19:03 | |
Through the process of self-forgiveness, you will earn to identify negative thoughts and emotions and replace them with compassion, empathy, and love for yourself. People who practice self-forgiveness have better mental and emotional well-being, more positive attitudes and healthier relationships. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.74. The Importance of Morning Rituals | 30 Apr 2023 | 00:22:11 | |
Healthy morning rituals will brighten your mood and give you more energy during the day, reduce anxiety, boost your productivity levels, and make you feel better overall! Jackie provides some easy and helpful rituals to make part of your morning routine. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.196. Why Some People Attract Predators | 22 Apr 2026 | 00:19:15 | |
A deep dive into the psychology behind why some people repeatedly find themselves in toxic or manipulative relationships. This episode explores attachment patterns, nervous system responses, and the hidden ways empathy and conditioning can make someone more vulnerable—while offering practical, empowering tools to break the cycle and rebuild self-trust. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.73. How to Glimmer | 27 Apr 2023 | 00:24:23 | |
Glimmers are small moments that spark joy or peace, which can help cue our nervous system to feel safe or calm. Experts say this mindset shift can make a positive impact on our mental health. Glimmers are the opposite of triggers. Jackie gives tips on how to experience glimmers in your life. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E.72. Emotional Regulation | 26 Apr 2023 | 00:25:24 | |
Emotion regulation is the ability to exert control over one's own emotional state. It may involve behaviors such as rethinking a challenging situation to reduce anger or anxiety, hiding visible signs of sadness or fear, or focusing on reasons to feel happy or calm. Jackie also explains the benefits of emotional regulation on the physical body!! Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||
| E. 71. The Effects of Emotional Incest | 17 Apr 2023 | 00:19:54 | |
Emotional incest often takes place when a parent lacks or has lost their own emotional support system, including their partner or spouse, and looks for this support from their child. Emotional incest means you felt pressured to play the emotional role of partner to your parent — and as a result, you may have missed out on key parts of childhood such as friendships with people your age. Click here to support Jackie's show: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/jackiehenderson | |||