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Welcome back to Somatics on Screen, a *Your Own Medicine Podcast* series where I analyze TV and film through a somatic and psychological lens.This week we’re talking about **Sex and the City, Season 1, Episode 11: “The Drought”**—an episode that, unfortunately for me, felt a little like watching someone turn parts of my own life into a 26-minute HBO comedy.Carrie accidentally farts in front of Big and proceeds to have what can only be described as a full nervous system event about being perceived as an actual human woman.And honestly? This episode is such a good depiction of fawning in romantic relationships.Because fawning doesn’t always look like overtly agreeing with someone or doing everything they want. Sometimes it’s the enormous amount of internal effort that goes into trying to remain desirable. Monitoring yourself. Editing yourself. Hiding the embarrassing parts. Trying to figure out what version of you will keep someone interested.And the more you actually like someone, the higher the stakes can feel.We talk about the somatic experience of shame and insecurity, the tension created by trying to perform a more perfect version of yourself, and what happens when a tiny moment of perceived rejection gets turned into evidence that the relationship is slipping away.I also get more personal in this episode and talk about the parallels I saw in my own relationships—because Carrie’s spiral around Big hit a little too close to home.Ultimately, “The Drought” asks a much bigger question than whether farting in front of someone kills your sex life:What happens when intimacy requires us to become increasingly visible, but being fully seen is exactly what our nervous system is afraid of?Find me on Instagram & Tiktok:@kali.somatics📖 Tired of Being Good: A Nervous System Map for Reinhabiting Your Body After a Lifetime of Fawninghttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B0H53CHKJL?lv=shuf&bestFormat=true&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_apin_dp_TS5ZHVAY9B4F28BTWBPG&channelId=704&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_apin_dp_TS5ZHVAY9B4F28BTWBPG&plpRedirect=mhFallback❤️‍🔥 **Sexual Fawning Course**My on-demand course exploring fawning, desire, embodied consent, arousal, sexual boundaries, and what it looks like to stay connected to yourself inside of intimacy.https://v2.stan.store/kalisomatics/p/sexual-fawning-courseSubscribe for more **Somatics on Screen** and *Your Own Medicine Podcast*

Welcome back to Somatics on Screen, a Your Own Medicine Podcast series where we analyze TV and film through a somatic and psychological lens.In this episode, we’re breaking down Sex and the City, Season 1, Episode 10: “The Baby Shower.”Carrie, Samantha, Miranda, and Charlotte head to a baby shower and suddenly everyone is taking inventory of their lives: the women with children are reminiscing about who they were before motherhood, while the single women are wondering whether marriage and babies are things they actually want—or things they’re eventually supposed to want.We get into the sunk cost of our decisions, the nervous system experience of insecurity, and what happens when someone else’s life makes us question our own.We also talk about female group dynamics and the ways women can fawn with one another—softening our opinions, bridging differences, or trying to make our choices more palatable when our lives, values, or desires don’t line up.And underneath all of it: How do you know when a desire is actually yours?How do we tell the difference between an organic desire emerging from the body and a life path we’ve absorbed because it has been modeled, rewarded, or expected of us?Connect with me on social media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kali.somatics/?hl=enTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kali.somaticsGet my book - 📖 Tired of Being Good: A Nervous System Map for Reinhabiting Your Body After a Lifetime of Fawninghttps://www.amazon.com/dp/B0H53CHKJL?lv=shuf&bestFormat=true&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_apin_dp_TS5ZHVAY9B4F28BTWBPG&channelId=704&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_apin_dp_TS5ZHVAY9B4F28BTWBPG&plpRedirect=mhFallback🖤 Tired of Being “Good” LabMy on-demand companion course for working with fawning, boundaries, anger, the inner villain, family dynamics, work, dating, and more.https://v2.stan.store/kalisomatics/p/tired-of-being-good-labSubscribe for more episodes of Somatics on Screen and Your Own Medicine Podcast.

In this episode of Somatics on Screen, we’re getting into Sex and the City Season 1, Episode 7: “The Monogamists.”

This episode gives us A LOT to work with somatically.

Carrie realizes she and Big may have very different ideas about what dating each other actually means. Miranda finds herself dating someone whose desire for closeness and time together exceeds her own capacity for it. And Charlotte is confronted with a sexual act she genuinely does not want to do — while also navigating the pressure, expectations, and relational consequences attached to saying no.

So naturally, we’re talking about sexual fawning, attachment, relational capacity, desire, boundaries, and what happens when two people want very different amounts of closeness.

With Charlotte, I unpack the difference between choosing something sexually because you genuinely want to and overriding your own disgust, hesitation, or lack of desire because you’re afraid of what saying no might cost you.

And through Carrie and Miranda, we explore something I think gets flattened in dating conversations all the time: two people can like each other and still have very different capacities for intimacy, commitment, frequency of contact, or relational closeness. Those differences don’t automatically make one person avoidant and the other needy — but they do give us information.

Welcome back to Somatics on Screen, where we use television as an excuse to talk about what bodies, attachment systems, and nervous systems are doing underneath the plot.

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Welcome to the first episode of Somatics on Screen, a new Your Own Medicine Podcast subseries where I analyze TV and film through the lens of somatic psychology.

And for episode one, we’re starting with the pilot of Sex and the City.

We’re looking underneath the dating drama at what might be happening in the body: attachment patterns, the fawn response, relational anxiety, self-abandonment, and the ways our nervous systems can shape how we date, who we pursue, and how we try to secure connection.

We talk Carrie, Big, Samantha, Charlotte, Miranda, and the pilot’s whole experiment with women attempting to have sex “like men” — while asking what some of these behaviors might look like when viewed through attachment and nervous-system frameworks rather than simply as “good” or “bad” dating decisions.

Basically: somatic psychology meets my desire to aggressively overanalyze television.

If you have a TV show or movie you think would be particularly juicy for Somatics on Screen, send me your recommendations. I’m building the list for future episodes.

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In this episode, I interview somatic therapist, nutritionist, and author Luis Mojica about the link between trauma recovery and nutrition, a focus of his book Food Therapy (releasing April 28). Mojica explains “food-induced stress,” arguing that nervous system regulation is affected by what we eat daily, not just breathwork or therapy, and categorizes foods as stimulants (caffeine, sugar, skipping meals), depressants (fried/processed flour and fat like fries, pizza, pasta), and balancers (beans, greens, proteins). He describes “seesaw regulation,” shame-free “unconscious alchemy” behind cravings, and how balancing meals can shift mood, sleep, glucose, and stress responses. They discuss examples including insomnia tied to nocturnal hypoglycemia, improved blood sugar, boundaries revealed when removing coping foods, and how culture and processed diets shape regulation. Mojica shares a tracking practice and invites pre-order readers to a free book club.

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In this episode, we welcome back teacher, counselor, and author David Bedrick, founder of the Santa Fe Institute for Shame-Based Studies, to discuss his “unshaming” approach to shame and trauma healing. Bedrick contrasts traditional pathology-and-fix models with meeting symptoms—such as eating struggles, anger, addiction, codependency, anxiety, and insecurity—with curiosity, respect, and embodied listening to uncover their meaning and intelligence. He shares a story from a Slovak eating-disorder documentary session where a client’s throat-closing response reveals a powerful boundary and a “revolution” in expression, emphasizing organic pacing rather than quick fixes. Kallie relates the approach to post-infidelity insecurity in a new relationship and discovering boundary intelligence. They also discuss Bedrick’s book The Unshaming Way and his upcoming Unshaming Way Workbook (March 17), designed with step-by-step somatic practices and poetry.

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Victoria from Season 10 of Below Deck Mediterranean joins us today. In this episode we explore what happens to your nervous system under pressure, how grief shapes relationships & life, navigating messy connection on camera, and why manifestation isn’t just mindset — it’s about what your body feels safe to receive.

Follow Victoria on Instagram at @victorianadaoiz

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Courtney Robertson is best known from Ben Flajnik’s season of The Bachelor, where she was labeled the “villain”—called manipulative, calculated, and the Black Widow—for being confident, s*xually expressive, and openly chosen early by the lead in a high-pressure, highly surveilled environment. In my work around fawning and nervous system survival, her season is a powerful example of what happens when being agreeable or palatable doesn’t actually protect you, and a woman stops performing niceness to manage other people’s discomfort. This conversation isn’t about rehashing reality TV—it’s about identity, shame, motherhood, and what it takes to be visible again after being flattened into a role, especially when the culture is quick to punish women for not fawning.

In this episode, I sit down with two-time Survivor winner and author Parvati Shallow for a raw and refreshing conversation about intuition, expression, and reclaiming your inner villain.

✨ We dive into:

Intuition + Self-Trust: how developing a deeper connection with your body opens access to guidance, clarity, and a friendlier relationship with the world around you.

Freedom of Expression: moving beyond self-auditing and PR-trained polish to share experiences authentically—without rehashing every word later.

Gaslighting & Self-Trust: how building inner trust becomes the antidote to external invalidation.

Villain Work: why embracing your shadow is essential for healing, boundaries, and personal power.

We also talk about Parvati’s time winning Survivor: Australia vs. USA, her new book Nice Girls Don’t Win, and the launch of our upcoming course How Villains Are Made—a six-week live program designed to help you step into your unapologetic self.

💥 If you’re ready to explore your edges and embody the parts of yourself you’ve been told to hide, join us here: https://kalisomatics.com/howvillainsaremade2

This is the final free workshop offered by me for the foreseeable future—and it’s a potent one.

In this session, we dive into the often-overlooked survival strategy of fawning at work—where you overextend yourself, blur boundaries, and people-please in the name of job security, approval, or stability.

You’ll learn:

What workplace fawning looks like (and why it’s not your fault)

How it’s connected to your nervous system, safety, and family dynamics

Grounding practices to reconnect with your body and your “no”

How to recognize urges and somatic cues before burnout hits

Practical tools to start setting boundaries without sabotaging your livelihood

This episode includes real participant shares, somatic exercises, and honest conversation about the cost of chronic overgiving at work—and how to begin to build a new pattern from the inside out.

If you want to go deeper, I also share details about SHED, my 6-month live somatic program for people who intellectually understand the fawn response but don’t know how to stop doing it.

🌀 To learn more and register for SHED, click the link below:

https://kalisomatics.com/SHED

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What happens when you spend your life reading everyone else’s emotions but feel disconnected from your own? What’s the cost of peacekeeping at the expense of your truth?

In this episode of the Your Own Medicine Podcast, I sit down with licensed psychotherapist Meg Josephson, whose new book Are You Mad at Me? comes out August 5th. We explore the fawn response—the lesser-known survival strategy characterized by overthinking, chronic conflict avoidance, and compulsive people-pleasing.

Meg shares her personal story, including the impact of growing up with a rageful father and a mother with Alzheimer's, and how these shaped her fawning patterns. We also discuss:

Anger, grief, and nervous system healing

The pressures of self-disclosure in a digital world

Boundaries that feel good in the body

Writing about trauma with integrity

Why fawning is more than just “being nice”—it’s a trauma response

This is an honest, grounded, and tender conversation about what it means to reclaim your needs, your body, and your voice—especially when you’ve been wired to abandon them.

📖 Preorder Are You Mad at Me?: https://megjosephson.com

🎧 Learn more about my current offerings: https://kalisomatics.com/SHED

In this special workshop replay, I guide you through the somatic foundations of sexual fawning—why it happens, how it shows up, and what to do with the shame, confusion, and disconnection that often follows.

Whether you’re a recovering fawner or just beginning to realize how often your body says “yes” while your mind says “no,” this episode offers a grounded space to reflect and reconnect.

We explore:

• Why sexual fawning is not about being manipulative—but about safety

• How trauma responses can show up in “safe” relationships

• The subtle and overt ways we override our boundaries for connection

• How to begin reclaiming your inner no (and your real yes)

🧠 Want to go deeper? Join my 6-month somatic program SHED. We start August 27th : https://kalisomatics.com/shed

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⚠️ TW: This episode includes mention of sexual trauma, coercion, and dissociation. Please care for your body and nervous system as you listen.

Dr. Ingrid Clayton is no stranger to the complexities of trauma. A clinical psychologist with over two decades of experience, she’s worked at the intersection of psychology, addiction recovery, and trauma healing—long before those words became buzzwords.

But her work got deeply personal with the release of her memoir Believing Me, where she named, for the first time, the covert abuse and emotional enmeshment that shaped her nervous system. It was raw, unflinching, and revolutionary in how it gave language to experiences so many of us carry but can’t name.

Now she’s back with Fawning: The Trauma Response We Don’t Talk About—a book that goes deeper into the trauma pattern she knows all too well. Not fight, not flight, not freeze. But fawn. The survival response that looks like being “easygoing,” “helpful,” or “good,” while your body quietly braces for impact.

In this episode, we talk about:

How Fawning builds on the foundation of Believing Me

Why fawning is so often missed—even by therapists

The biology of appeasement and what it costs over time

What it means to stop being “the good one” and start being real

And the long road from trauma bonding to boundary setting

Ingrid doesn’t just write about trauma. She brings a level of clarity and honesty that cuts through the noise—no posturing, no sugar-coating, just deep clinical insight and lived truth.

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To learn more about Kallie's Greece Retreat in May 2026

https://kalisomatics.com/GREECERETREAT ____________

Connect with Dr. Ingrid Clayton on social media at @IngridClaytonPhD

Pre-order her new book at:

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Ever gone from smiling sweetly through discomfort… to fantasizing about slapping someone in the face?

Yeah. Same.

In this episode, I break down the people pleaser to rage pipeline—what happens when your body has been stuck in a fawn-freeze loop for years, and then finally starts to thaw. Spoiler: it’s not always cute. Sometimes, it’s loud, messy, and full of backlogged “no’s” that come out all at once.

I share my own story of how learning French (and drinking cheap wine) unlocked a rage I didn’t even know I was holding—and what it taught me about the biology of fawning, freeze responses, and unexpressed boundaries.

We also get into:

* Why rage is a natural part of recovery from people-pleasing

* Why cathartic rage practices (like screaming or punching pillows) aren’t always trauma-informed

* How to work with anger in a way that’s titrated, embodied, and safe

* The power of translating somatic cues into real-life boundaries

If your body has been whispering “I’m not okay” for years—this episode is your permission slip to start listening.

💥 Want to dive deeper into somatic anger work?

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My signature on-demand course VENOM has two full modules on anger + boundaries. Check it out via the link in my bio 🐍

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In this engaging conversation, Rachel Leviss shares her recent transformative experiences at a sound healing retreat in Mexico. She discusses the profound impacts of sound healing, the importance of using one's voice, and how she has transitioned from a chaotic environment to a life of healing and self-fulfillment. Rachel also opens up about overcoming the challenges of being misunderstood and the journey to authenticity. Dive deep into the therapeutic aspects of sound healing, the significance of supportive communities, and the empowering process of setting and maintaining boundaries.

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Connect with Kallie on Instagram + Tiktok at @kali.somatics

Kallie's signature program, VENOM: https://kalisomatics.com/venom

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Connect with Rachel on Instagram at @RachelLeviss

Ever feel like you weren’t allowed to ask for what you needed?

Like your desires got buried under being “easygoing,” “nice,” or “low maintenance”?

This episode is for you.

In this recorded workshop — The Body Remembers What You Forgot to Ask For — we explore how unmet needs don’t just vanish. Your body holds onto them. And if you’ve spent years silencing your voice to keep the peace, this is your chance to start rebuilding that connection.

Inside, we cover:

Why your body stores unmet needs (and how to actually listen)

Somatic tools for reconnecting with buried desires

What embodied repair looks like — giving yourself what was missing

Practical rituals to rebuild trust between your body and your voice

This is somatic work for people who’ve been told they’re “too sensitive” or “too much” — and learned to shut themselves down to stay safe.

🎧 Listen now and take what you need. Your body’s been waiting for you.

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You can sign up for Kallie's next free workshop at the following link: https://stan.store/kalisomatics

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To learn more about Kallie's Greece Retreat in May 2026

https://kalisomatics.com/GREECERETREAT

Stop Burning Your Own Witch is a free somatic workshop for recovering people pleasers who are ready to stop exiling their “bad” parts and start building real nervous system safety around their bigness, their bitchiness, and their truth. We’ll explore how shame shows up in the body, why it keeps us stuck, and how to finally stop self-abandoning—one curious breath at a time.

🖤 What to Expect

A guided somatic exploration of how shame lives in your body

The protective purpose of shame + how to interrupt the cycle

Parts work + IFS: why we fragment, and how to meet those parts with love

A somatic meditation to soften around your exiled parts

A live Q&A to deepen your practice and get support

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You can sign up for Kallie's next free workshop and explore all her current offerings at the following link:

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Ever wonder why you can’t say “no” without feeling guilty? Or why you always end up playing the peacekeeper even when it’s costing you your sanity? It might be because all that anger you’ve been taught to swallow is screaming for some boundaries.

In this episode, we’re unpacking:

• The biology of anger and why it’s actually a protective mechanism

• How chronic people-pleasing and fawn responses bury that anger deep

• Somatic practices to safely access your anger and honor the boundaries your body craves

• Real-world strategies for setting boundaries in social situations without all the guilt

• A live Q&A where we answer your burning questions

This isn’t about becoming “less nice” or “more assertive.” It’s about getting real with yourself and letting your body lead the way.

Ready to get fierce about your boundaries?

Hit play and let’s get into it.

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To inquire about 1:1 sessions: https://kalisomatics.com/venom

To learn more about the Bali Retreat (2 spots left!):

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Sebastian Conelli is a New York-based improviser, comedian, and actor known for his work with the Upright Citizens Brigade and his endearing and hilarious podcast Loud About Nothing.

In this episode of the Your Own Medicine Podcast, Kallie and Sebastian unpack self-discovery, masculinity, and the unfiltered truth about personal growth. From navigating societal norms to using comedy as a mirror, they dive deep into:

✔️ The hidden cost of traditional masculinity

✔️ Why vulnerability is the ultimate power move

✔️ The art of comedy as truth-telling

✔️ How relationships reveal the rawest parts of ourselves

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To connect with Sebastian on social media: https://www.instagram.com/sebastianconelli/?hl=en

His podcast, "Loud About Nothing": https://www.instagram.com/loudaboutnothing/?hl=en

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To learn more about Kallie's signature program, VENOM: https://kalisomatics.com/venom

Could mushrooms be the missing piece in your mental health toolkit? Jeremy from MushMore Supplements joins us to unravel the truth about medicinal mushrooms.

💡 In this episode, we cover:

✅ The real difference between microdosing and macrodosing

✅ Common myths & misconceptions (it’s not just about “tripping”)

✅ How mushrooms can support mental health, anxiety, and depression

✅ What you NEED to know before trying magic 🍄

If you’ve ever wondered whether fungi can actually heal, or if you’re just curious about expanding your mind (responsibly), this episode is for you.

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@kali.somatics

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Are you tired of outsourcing your decisions to group chats, family, or the endless spiral of second-guessing? This webinar dives deep into how and why so many recovering people pleasers struggle with decision-making—and how to reclaim your power with somatic tools.

During this webinar, you’ll:

✨ Learn why people pleasers often hand over their decision-making process to others

✨ Discover how a “yes,” “no,” and “maybe” feel in your body

✨ Understand the difference between traumatic overcouplings (like anxiety) and true gut feelings

✨ Learn to align your sensations with your actions so you can make decisions with integrity and confidence

Your body already knows what it wants—it’s time to learn how to listen.

Next Steps for Your Journey:

Ready to dive even deeper? Check out VENOM, my flagship program, designed to help you recover from people pleasing with somatics. It has modules on understanding the fawn response, embodying boundaries, embracing healthy anger, and more.

https://kalisomatics.com/venom

🌺 Dreaming of a retreat in paradise? My Bali Retreat is happening this June, and there are only 4 spots left until it’s completely sold out! This retreat is a chance to immerse yourself in somatic practices, connect deeply with yourself, and experience the magic of Bali.

Learn more here: https://kalisomatics.com/baliretreat

Deb Dana, LCSW, is a clinician, consultant, and speaker specializing in complex trauma. She is the leading translator of Dr. Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory for both clinical and general audiences, and the best-selling author of Polyvagal Practices, Polyvagal Card Deck, and more. She is founding member of The Polyvagal Institute, a consultant to Khiron Clinics, and an advisor to Unyte.

Deb Dana is known for her work coining the term "glimmers" defined by noticing small micromoments of safety.

In this episode of the Your Own Medicine Podcast, Deb Dana and Kallie chat about exactly what glimmers are and how they relate to your nervous system. They answer the questions you previously submitted: Why do I feel sad sometimes when noticing glimmers?; What's the difference between mindfulness and a glimmer practice?; Why is sharing so important when it comes to glimmers?; And more...

This is an incredible episode with an absolute legend in the somatic psychology world. Give it a listen and let us know what you think.

Visit Deb Dana's website at

https://www.rhythmofregulation.com/

You can pre-order her upcoming book, "Glimmers Journal: Reflect on the Small Moments That Bring You Joy, Safety, and Connection" at:

https://www.amazon.com/Glimmers-Journal-Reflect-Moments-Connection/dp/1324082070?source=ps-sl-shoppingads-lpcontext&ref_=fplfs&psc=1&smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER&gQT=1

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Kallie and Dana ( @danadozzyy) discuss the impact of online culture on personal expression, the fear of being "canceled", and the importance of managing one's own feelings and opinions. They also explored the concept of taking responsibility for one's own safety and well-being, and the need for individuals to find environments and communities that align with their values and beliefs.

To learn more about the Bali Retreat, click the link below: https://kalisomatics.com/baliretreat

Enjoy this interview with David Bedrick about his recently published book, "The Unshaming Way". Kallie and David discussed the concept of shame and its impact on self-awareness and self-love, with a focus on its relationship with chronic symptoms and the importance of recognizing the intelligence and sensitivity that these symptoms may represent.

They also explored the concept of boundaries and their impact on physical and emotional well-being, and the need to unshame and address the perpetrators of religious trauma. Lastly, they emphasized the importance of empathy, understanding, and treating one's body like the earth in fostering a sense of community and promoting self-love.

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Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kali.somatics?lang=en

Connect with David on social media:

https://www.instagram.com/david.bedrick/?hl=en

Purchase David's book, "The Unshaming Way" on Amazon:

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Matthew, also known as "@CasuallyMatthew", introduced his passion for cozy hobbies and games, which he found to be a healthy escape from grief and stress.

Kallie and Matthew discussed the benefits of non-screen activities, the concept of 'hygge' from Scandinavia, and how to cope with seasonal affective disorder. They emphasized the importance of slowing down, finding time for self-care and hobbies, and incorporating small, enjoyable activities into daily routines to enhance comfort and well-being.

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Join Kallie and Dr. Justine Weber, Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach and Therapist, for a free workshop on navigating challenging narcissistic family dynamics during the holidays. We'll explore practical tools and techniques to help you approach the season with more peace and clarity. What we cover: Culty family dynamics Navigating family estrangement What to do with narcissistic in-laws Setting boundaries and creating space for yourself during the holidays ___________ To discover Kallie's holiday support course, click below: https://kalisomatics.com/holidaysurvi... To connect with Kallie on social media, check her out below:   / kali.somatics   To connect with Dr. Justine Weber, check out her website and social media links below: https://drjustineweber.com/

During this workshop, you will:

- discover how somatics can support you during the annual people pleaser Olympics (the holidays, baby!)

- explore a practice to support you in embodying boundaries

- learn a practice to use your body as a compass to decide what parties to go to, when to leave, and everything in between

"The Holiday Survival Guide for Recovering People Pleasers" will be available to purchase at over 60% off between October 24th - November 4th.

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In this episode, we sit down with Pauline Peck, a specialist in culturally sensitive therapy, to explore the vital role that boundaries play in the healing process. We dive into how cultural backgrounds, particularly the contrast between collectivism and individualism, shape our understanding of boundaries. Learn how these cultural perspectives impact the way we navigate relationships, therapy, and personal space. Whether you're a therapist, a client, or simply curious about the intersection of culture and mental health, this conversation offers deep insights into building trust, adapting therapy to diverse experiences, and creating meaningful change. Connect with Pauline on social media: Instagram: @paulinethepsychologist Website: https://www.noortherapyandwellness.com/ Connect with Kali Somatics: Instagram and Tiktok: @Kali.Somatics Follow Your Own Medicine Podcast: Listen on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3jIfObo... Podcasts Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...

In this episode we explore both sides of the fawning coin - being the therapist friend and being the emotional dumper. I cover why emotional dumping happens so frequently and why it might actually feel like true emotional intimacy for those of us who are recovering people pleasers.

I also explore alternatives to mainly bonding over shared trauma or being a hostage to someone's intense life stories - as well as what to do instead of sitting frozen while someone recounts some "much-to-personal" information.

What do you think? Leave your thoughts on the below Instagram post: https://www.instagram.com/p/C9LJIkQsyMV/

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In this episode we touch on common struggles for recovering people pleasers during the holidays and start to explore how you can take back your peace.

To register for the FREE workshop to support you during the holidays: https://stan.store/kalisomatics/p/join-me-at-this-free-workshop

I recently hosted a yoga + somatics retreat in the Sequoias of California. These are my main takeaways from the retreat. To connect with Kallie's current offerings: https://stan.store/kalisomatics To learn about the 2025 Bali Retreat: https://trovatrip.com/trip/asia/bali/... To connect with Kallie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kali.somatics/

Every now and then on social media, I'll ask you to submit anonymous questions you have about somatics. This was a question I received recently and is one I see very often: How do I support my friend who is also a people pleaser? What do you think? 😯 To connect with Kallie's current offerings: https://stan.store/kalisomatics To learn about the 2025 Bali Retreat: https://trovatrip.com/trip/asia/bali/bali-with-kali-somatics-jun-2025?earlybird=true To connect with Kallie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kali.somatics

In this episode, we'll explore how you can use your body as a compass to make little and big decisions. It's really simple- just attuning to the sensational experience of your body. We'll break it down here.

To connect with Kallie's current offerings: https://stan.store/kalisomatics

To learn about the 2025 Bali Retreat:

https://trovatrip.com/trip/asia/bali/bali-with-kali-somatics-jun-2025?earlybird=true

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During this workshop recording, you will: - learn about how we lose connection to ourselves + our bodies' sensations when we fawn/ people please - receive tools and practices to support yourself in reconnecting to your body - discover practices to discover how to reconnect to your authentic personality + interests To connect with Kallie and her current offerings as well as sign up for next month's FREE workshop, check out the link below: https://stan.store/kalisomatics

A few days ago, I visited Germany and was surprised at the bluntness and directness I encountered. Aka- no fawning detected.

It made me reflect on my studies in cultural relations and how fawning is sometimes built into our cultural interactions.

In this episode, I explain how your culture may have an impact on how much you're inclined to fawn.

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Want to learn more about me and Parvati Shallow's upcoming course- "Mastering the Art of Being Disliked"?

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I've been musing a lot on the concepts of hate, shame, and cancel culture. How does hate feel somatically in the body and how does it express? Is there a purpose to shame and specifically- the shaming that happens in cancel culture? How can we pardon ourselves, let go of shame, and be brave to speak our truth in an age where everyone is itching to cancel the next unlucky person? What do you think? To connect with Kallie on social media and discover her current offerings, click the following link: https://stan.store/kalisomatics To learn more about her signature program, VENOM, click below: https://kalisomatics.com/venom

In this episode, me and my sister, Aleena, chat about how fashion can be an extension of our self-expression and how it can be a living thing that grows and changes as you heal from people pleasing.

During this webinar, you will: understand how "being the villain" helps you to release shame and let go of the shackles of constantly trying to "be good" Learn about the potency and ease of "archetypal play" Experience a somatic exploration of what it feels like to embody your "inner villain" To connect with Kallie on social media and explore her current offerings, click the link below: https://stan.store/kalisomatics

In this episode, I share three things I’ve incorporated into my daily routine that has helped regulate my nervous system and establish a greater feeling of wellbeing. Try them and let me know what you think. x Kallie

In this mini episode, Kallie explains the definition of people pleasing vs fawning and what exactly fawning means from the somatic perspective. To learn more about VENOM and Kallie's other offerings (as well as FREE meditations and monthly workshops) , click the link below: https://stan.store/kalisomatics

Abi-Maria Gomes is a Brazilian-born reality TV personality best known for her appearances on the hit series Survivor. Renowned for her fiery personality and strategic gameplay, she has left a lasting impression on fans with her outspoken nature and unpredictable alliances. In this episode, Kallie and Abi chat about what it was like for Abi to be labelled a "villain" on national television and reclaim the title of "witch" that was placed on her in her season 31 alliance known as the "Witches' Coven". Connect with Abi-Maria on Instagram at  @theabimaria  Connect with Kallie at  @kali.somatics  Learn more about Kallie's current offers at: https://stan.store/kalisomatics

Last year I was the victim of an online witch hunt that resulted in lots of harassment, hate, and online bullying. It was scary and REALLY forced me 🙃 to apply my work. Is it possible to allow THOUSANDS of people to misunderstand you (especially when they’re commuted to misunderstanding you)? Can you find SAFETY in your body even when people dislike or hate you? And how can you connect to your own CAPACITY TO BE DISLIKED and find freedom of expression and authenticity on the other side?

Co-hosted with Abby Kurtz, Women's Intimacy Coach During this workshop, you will experience: -How to build the inner safety it takes to experience pleasure - How to move pleasure through your body - Using play and presence as a way to experience pleasure - Feeling worthy of experiencing and receiving pleasure - Why the pleasure you feel is already within you Connect with Abby on social media:   / abby_kurtz   Connect with Kallie on social media:   / kali.somatics   Learn more about Kallie's current offerings here: https://stan.store/kalisomatics

Sage is an expert in facial tension + massage. She has a PhD in Myofascial Release and Microexpression Reading. She helps people discover how trauma effects their resting facial posture as well as how to release facial tension through self-massage. You can find Sage on Instagram and Tiktok at @SageFacialTensionRelease

Parvati Shallow is a 4-time Survivor player and winner. She was also recently a duchess of deception and mistress of murder on Peacock's show "Traitors". In this workshop, you'll get the Survivor tea firsthand and learn how to integrate "your inner villain" as you heal from people pleasing. This is a video recording from last year’s “How Villains Are Made”. The discount code mentioned in this video does not apply to the 2024 “How Villains Are Made” course. To secure your spot in our program before April 7th, click the link below: https://kalisomatics.com/how-villains-are-made Follow Paravti on social media at @pshallow Follow Kallie at @kali.somatics

This is a recording from Kallie's monthly FREE workshop. In this workshop, Kallie and Fi explore the freeze response, how it feels in your body, visual cues for when you're experiencing it, and how to get out of it. To learn more about Fi's trauma sensitive business coaching, click below: https://www.astrabusinesscoaching.com/ To learn more about Kallie's current offerings, click below: https://stan.store/kalisomatics

Manipulation is an essential element in FAWNING. More symptoms of fawning include lack of boundaries and enmeshed relationships- which April Harter describes as true NARCISSISM. This episode is a must-listen if you identify yourself as a recovering people pleaser. April Dawn Harter is a licensed clinical social worker, psychotherapist, and the trailblazer behind the first-ever rehab center for narcissists. Connect with Kallie on social media at https://www.instagram.com/kali.somatics/

During this podcast episode, you will: - Discover the fundamentals of fawning through a somatic lens - Practice somatic explorations to support the body in moving beyond fawning - Receive practical tools to weave into your day To discover Kallie's offerings, click here: https://stan.store/kalisomatics To learn more about narcissism rehabilitation: https://www.narcissismrehabilitation.com/

In this episode, Kallie explores how fawning makes us enmeshed with others and thus leaves us with very little sense of true self. You’ll learn why this happens and what you can do to start to discover your authentic self and personality. Connect with Kallie on social media at @kali.somatics Kallie's program to heal from people pleasing - VENOM https://kalisomatics.com/venom Kallie's June yoga + somatics retreat in Three Rivers, California https://kalisomatics.com/journeytoparadise

Did you know that shame dyregulates your nervous system SO MUCH? Dana Doswell (@danadozzy) breaks down why you feel disregulated - whether it be due to modern infrastructure moving us away from our hunter-gatherer roots or our implicit shame towards ourselves and our coping mechanisms. We also answer the questions you submitted via social media previous to recording this episode. This episode is a must listen! Dana is an expert is nervous system regulation and uses science backed somatics to support her clients. You can find her at @danadozzy on social media. https://www.danadozzyy.com/ Connect with Kali via social media @kali.somatics

To learn more about Kali's upcoming yoga + somatics retreat, click here: https://kalisomatics.com/journeytoparadise