You Must Be Some Kind of Therapist – Détails, épisodes et analyse

We've talked a lot on this podcast about institutional capture — whistleblowers, mission drift, what happens when ideology takes the steering wheel. Today my guest takes a different angle on all of it.

Tanya de Grunwald hosts This Isn't Working, a podcast about workplace dynamics, and runs This Is Working, a business community for employers. From 2018 to 2024 she ran a club for early-careers heads at companies like Google, KPMG, AstraZeneca, and the NHS — a front-row seat to peak DEI from the inside. By 2024 she'd seen enough unintended consequences, especially around the trans agenda, to walk away and start telling the story.

In this conversation we trace the personal psychology underneath workplace wokeness: the embarrassment about capitalism that pushed HR toward "higher purpose," the older gay men reliving Section 28 through trans activism, the weaponized fragility that lets the loudest voice win every argument. Tanya explains the brain drain that happens when sensible people leave and "nodding dogs" stay behind — and why the private sector is now leading the cleanup.

We also dig into what bullied kids fail to learn about self-protection, why "bring your whole self to work" is a mental-health disaster, and what it looks like when leaders finally take the room back. If you've been wondering whether the vibe shift is real, this episode is your field report from someone who sees the spreadsheets.

Tanya de Grunwald hosts This Isn't Working, a podcast exploring what has gone wrong in modern workplaces. In 2010 - after 10 years as a features writer for Glamour, Cosmopolitan and the Guardian - Tanya founded the careers blog Graduate Fog, and became a youth recruitment strategist. From 2018-24, Tanya ran the Good + Fair Employers Club, helping big UK employers including Google, KPMG, AstraZeneca and the National Health Service to hire graduates and apprentices. Last year, Tanya founded the business network This Is Working, bringing sensible employers together to unpick their problems. She is regularly quoted in UK newspapers including the Daily Telegraph and the Daily Mail. Follow her on X @IsntWorkingPod or YouTube ⁨@This-Isnt-Working⁩

[00:00:00] Start
[00:02:34] Workplace Dysfunction and the DEI Agenda
[00:05:54] Inside the Peak DEI Years
[00:11:23] Embarrassment About Capitalism
[00:15:00] Older Gay Men and Workplace Activism
[00:19:00] Weaponized Fragility in Arguments
[00:29:04] Self-ID Confusion and Legal Risk
[00:30:45] The Corporate Brain Drain
[00:35:47] Affirming Parents in Senior Leadership
[00:41:54] The Piggy Lesson on Bullying
[00:52:55] The Workplace as Cultural Collision Point
[01:00:32] Comfort, Challenge, and Young Workers
[01:06:52] The Vibe Shift and the Private Sector
[01:16:12] Bring Your Professional Self to Work
[01:24:47] We Make Paperclips

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Why does your teen tune you out? It might have to do with the role your message unconsciously casts her in. "Alter-casting" refers to the way every message you send implicitly assigns a role or identity to the person you're speaking with. If the role you cast your child in conflicts with how they want to see themselves, your message will be rejected — no matter how accurate, loving, or urgent it is.

I walk through a concrete example: a mother warning her teenage daughter about predators online. The mother's intention is protective love. What the daughter hears is: "You think I'm a naive, helpless child." That identity is intolerable to an adolescent fighting for autonomy — and so the message fails entirely. I explain how this same dynamic plays out when parents share detransitioner videos with their kids, and why that approach almost always backfires for this exact reason.

The episode also covers practical tools from ROGD Repair, including the alter-casting Venn diagram (mapping the overlap between what you see in your child, and what they see in their idealized self-image, even if aspirational); the strategic use of self-deprecating humor and strategic naivete; and the accusation audit — a technique for front-loading anticipated criticism in a way that actually invites your child into a more generous, gracious response. I close with a broader reflection on what this work really is: seeing beneath the performance to the real person underneath, and helping them become who they're meant to be.

This podcast episode doubles as an ROGD Repair bonus lesson. It can be found in the course here, along with homework questions to help you personalize the material. If you're a parent navigating these issues in your family, ROGD Repair can help you work smarter, not harder, to get through to your teen. Get access to over 120 lessons like this and more. Use code SOMETHERAPIST2026 to take half off your first month at ROGDrepair.com.

[00:00:00] Start
[00:01:00] What Altercasting Is and Why It Matters
[00:02:15] The Teen and the Predator Warning: A Case Study
[00:05:00] Why Sharing Detransitioner Content Backfires
[00:07:00] How to Cast Your Child in a Role They'll Accept
[00:07:45] The Altercasting Venn Diagram Exercise
[00:11:00] Why Failed Conversations Make the Next One Harder
[00:12:00] Strategic Naivete and Self-Deprecating Humor
[00:13:00] The Accusation Audit Tool
[00:15:30] Reading Your Child's Self-Presentation Without Reacting
[00:18:00] Early Intervention and the Cost of Waiting
[00:26:30] Accepting Reality as the Path to Self-Actualization

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Constitutional attorney Dean Broyles, president of the National Center for Law and Policy, joins me to continue untangling the legal battles reshaping how public schools handle gender identity — and what they mean for parents, teachers, and students.

Picking up where we left off with Laura Powell in episode 207, Dean begins with a detailed breakdown of the Mirabelli v. Bonta case, which started in Escondido, California, when two Catholic teachers refused to comply with “gender secrets” policies requiring them to conceal a child’s gender identity from parents. Dean walks us through Judge Bonita’s landmark ruling, which found that California’s parental exclusion policies create a “trifecta of harm” to children, parents, and teachers alike — and the March 2nd Supreme Court decision reinstating the statewide injunction squarely on the side of parental rights.

We go deep on what these rulings mean in practice: the secret “shadow records” schools have been keeping on students’ gender identities, the religious accommodation rights teachers can assert against California’s coercive PRISM training, and the student free speech protections guaranteed by Tinker v. Des Moines. Dean explains the difference between a parent’s right to be informed and a teacher’s legal obligation — and where the courts are headed on whether parents can block social transition at school entirely.

We also address the growing wave of detransition malpractice cases, including the Varian v. Einhorn verdict, and what a pending Supreme Court case could mean for therapists’ freedom of speech in counseling. This is essential listening for parents, teachers, and mental health professionals navigating what Dean calls an Orwellian environment in today’s public schools.

Dean Broyles is a constitutional attorney who serves as the president of the National Center for Law & Policy. He is a free speech, religious freedom, and parental rights advocate with extensive experience involving sexual identity issues in the courts, culture, and public schools. Dean regularly files amicus briefs at the U.S. Supreme Court in landmark cases, provides legislative testimony, and advises mental health professionals. He lives in southern California and has been married to his wife, Shona, a public-school teacher, for 36 years. Dean is the father of four adopted children and two grandchildren. Follow him on X: DeanBroyles. His blog can be found here.

[00:00:00] Start
[00:02:08] Mirabelli v. Bonta: Background and Origins
[00:05:55] Judge Bonita's Ruling: Trifecta of Harm
[00:09:25] Supreme Court Reinstates Statewide Injunction
[00:13:52] Teachers' Rights vs. Obligation to Inform
[00:15:45] Shadow Records in California Schools
[00:24:33] First and 14th Amendment Parental Rights Explained
[00:38:35] Students' Free Speech Rights: Tinker v. Des Moines
[00:44:50] Orwellian Coercion of Religious Students and Teachers
[00:51:20] AB 5 and California's PRISM Teacher Training
[00:58:40] Teachers Win Exemptions After Supreme Court Ruling
[01:00:50] The Spiral of Silence — and How to Reverse It
[01:07:15] Can Parents Block Social Transition at School?
[01:12:36] Desistance Rates and the Danger of Medicalization
[01:18:20] Detransition Malpractice Cases: Who's Liable?
[01:23:46] Pending Supreme Court Case on Therapist Free Speech

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MaryCate Delvey is a female rights activist and satirist. She created the video series “Listen To Trans People,” which exposes the dark nature of transgender ideology in their own words. 

In this episode, she helps me uncover the disturbing inner worlds of porn-saturated misogynists, incel Redditors, and autogynephiles, shedding light on the fetishistic nature of some men who simultaneously seek to become women while mocking us and undermining our safety. 

What is hypno sissy porn? Is “gender euphoria” just a euphemism for inappropriate erections? What drives these men to seek validation through violating women's spaces and boundaries? How do their actions reflect possible deeper issues of narcissism and sadism? And what do parents of young heterosexual men with Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria (ROGD) need to know about the dark corners of the internet their sons may be spending time on?

Join us as we navigate through the murky waters of gender identity and the blurred lines between sexual orientation and fetishism. Are you ready to uncover the unsettling realities behind the Transmaxxing Manifesto and its implications on society? Tune in to find out more.

MaryCate Delvey is a female rights activist and satirist. She created the series “Listen To Trans People,” which exposes the dark nature of transgender ideology in their own words. She enjoys painting, Chinese soap operas, and rescuing elderly and special-needs animals. You can find her on X at @marycatedelvey

Books mentioned in this episode:

• Irreversible Damage: The Transgender Craze Seducing Our Daughters by Abigail Shrier
• Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals by Oliver Burkeman

00:00 Start

[00:00:00] Transitioning for dating pool expansion.

[00:07:55] Pornhub model confusion.

[00:08:33] Super straight and gender critical.

[00:16:09] Dark revelations about transgender communities.

[00:19:51] Desire to escape sexualization.

[00:22:31] Gender euphoria and arousal.

[00:25:43] The sick thrill in sissy porn.

[00:30:50] Effects of extreme porn on youth.

[00:37:35] Sexual fetish and violation.

[00:41:43] Unusual encounters in locker rooms.

[00:44:43] Fear of speaking up.

[00:49:29] Genital preference.

[00:54:26] Gender identity in young lesbians.

[00:57:45] Sexuality and identity complexities.

[01:00:15] Trans Maxing Manifesto.

[01:05:20] Parenting challenges in ROGD cases.

[01:09:48] Men coming out as trans

[01:13:04] Psychological dynamics in relationships.

[01:14:27] Merger and self-respect in men.

[01:19:07] Fetish and hypnosis in therapy.

[01:24:32] Psychedelics for personal growth.

[01:26:12] Psychedelics and ego death.

[01:31:21] Life's Difficult Decisions

[01:34:46] Sacrifices for living.

[01:39:25] Veganism and health.

[01:42:34] Pregnant men and Twilight Zone.

[01:46:12] Twisted relationship with evil.

[01:48:55] The importance of dialogue.

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In this episode, I sit down with Tamara Pietzke, a mental health therapist best known for having blown the whistle on gender affirming care this past February in a Free Press article. What has she been up to since then?

We discuss the complexities of therapists being pressured to rubber stamp gender identities and recommend medical interventions. Tamara shares her experiences challenging the status quo and the backlash she faced for questioning the rush to affirm identities.

We explore the ethical dilemmas therapists face when young clients demand immediate medicalization, and confront the myths surrounding suicide risk and prevention in the transgender population. How do we navigate the fine line between supporting individuals in the moment and ensuring their long-term well-being? The conversation touches on the hot-cold empathy gap, the sunk cost fallacy, and the conveyor-belt nature of the gender industry, shedding light on the challenges of helping vulnerable youth in today's society.

Join us as we unravel the layers of social contagion, neuroplasticity, and the impact of social transitioning on young minds. Can therapy provide a safe space for exploration beyond immediate demands for medical interventions? Tune in to discover how therapists like Tamara navigate the delicate balance of protecting the holistic health of their clients.

Tamara is a mental health therapist (licensed independent clinical social worker) and has been a therapist for twelve years. She has worked a number of places, but most recently was working at Multicare, one of the state's largest hospital systems, for the past six years. When she raised concerns about the shift towards mandated "gender affirming care," she was bullied and dismissed. She stopped working there January of 2024, a couple weeks before her whistleblowing article came out in the Free Press. From Multicare, she went to another practice, but they let her go after three weeks, the same week the article came out, simply saying she wasn't "the right fit for the position." She has since been working on building a private practice. Meanwhile, the state is now investigating her license on account of not being "gender affirming.”

Links & Resources:
Free Press article 1
Free Press article 2
City Journal article
Give Send Go
Pietzke Counseling
 

00:00 Start

[00:01:10] Gender affirming care concerns

[00:07:11] Gender-affirming therapy for teenagers.

[00:12:25] Symbolic exploration of identity.

[00:14:25] Gender identity exploration challenges.

[00:17:48] Suicide risk and gender-affirming care.

[00:20:51] Teenagers and parental involvement.

[00:27:02] Therapists' reaction to detransitioners.

[00:29:10] Therapists' reaction to differing views.

[00:31:27] The gray area in ethics.

[00:36:59] Challenges in therapy practice.

[00:40:21] The hot cold empathy gap.

[00:44:05] Conversion therapy and gender identity.

[00:45:05] Gender dysphoria and identity confusion.

[00:48:57] Power dynamics in adolescence.

[00:53:35] Navigating marketing in therapy.

[00:59:10] Ethics of helping endangered children.

[00:59:29] Detransitioning concerns in youth.

[01:05:03] Ethics in Therapy

[01:08:28] Whistleblowers and support network.

[01:10:50] Gender crisis.

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LaRell and Valerie Herbert are a married couple with a very unique story. During their time together, LaRell first believed he was a transgender woman and went through full sex trait modification before awakening to self-acceptance as a man. 

Join us as we explore their journey through somatic psychology and psychedelic integration. How did their relationship withstand the challenges of detransitioning, medical trauma, and identity crises? What impact did their individual traumas have on their journey? 

Discover the intricate dynamics of their blended family and the unexpected twists that unfolded as they navigated the medical pipeline of gender transition. How did their experiences with therapists and surgeons shape their perspectives on identity and healing? Tune in to uncover the profound insights and personal growth that emerged from their transformative journey.

Valerie is a somatic trauma-informed mentor and teacher. She is an earth ceremonialist and weaves wisdom through understanding and learning more about our innate goodness and wildness from connection with Mother Earth and learning from her elements. Although she is classically trained as a systems thinker and understands theoretical approaches and methods of healing trauma, she finds that creating a deep, loving, consistent, and safe relationship and container is how people heal. Valerie helps people remember the wholeness of who they are.

LaRell Herbert is a former transwoman who lived for years believing he was a female born in the wrong body. This belief led him to pursue hormone replacement therapy in 2017 at 36 and gender reassignment surgery in 2019, despite being married to a loving and supportive woman. Through introspection and self-growth, LaRell realized his gender identity was rooted in childhood trauma. In October 2023, he de-transitioned and returned to living as his biologically male self. His journey through trans ideology and lived experience as a trans woman has made him acutely aware of the tragedies young people face when sold the idea of medical transition for happiness. LaRell and his wife Valerie aim to raise awareness about the impact of transition on spouses and family members, recognizing that while transition is a personal choice, it significantly affects those around you.

Books mentioned in this episode:

• "The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk
• "The End of Gender" by Debra Soh

 00:00 Start

[00:00:00] Identity exploration and transition journey.

[00:05:30] Shame and trauma in childhood.

[00:11:45] Discovering transgender identity.

[00:14:10] Inner dissonance in marriage.

[00:18:51] Repression and trauma in relationships.

[00:23:02] Transition and addiction parallels.

[00:25:46] Taking female hormones' impact.

[00:30:42] Hormone effects on emotionality.

[00:33:45] Femininity and bone mass.

[00:38:17] Fear of suicide and transition.

[00:41:22] Blended family challenges.

[00:44:32] Relational healing and gender ideology.

[00:52:20] Vaginoplasty experiences and complications.

[00:53:02] Post-surgical challenges in transitioning.

[00:57:08] Gender identity and self-love.

[01:01:19] Dissociation and body acceptance.

[01:07:00] Gender identity and transition journey.

[01:09:58] Gender identity realization.

[01:12:55] The journey of self-discovery.

[01:17:30] Unique life path and experiences.

[01:22:16] Men's initiation retreats.

[01:24:43] Best friends with therapist.

[01:30:25] Real-life relationships and complications.

[01:31:51] The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care.

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In this episode, I dive into a fascinating conversation with Dr. Camilo Ortiz about a groundbreaking concept he coined as "independence therapy." Dr. Ortiz shares insights on how giving kids age-appropriate responsibilities and freedoms can help them overcome anxiety. We discuss the evolution of this idea from classic exposure therapy to empowering kids with independence. How does this therapy work, and what age group is it suitable for? Dr. Ortiz reveals the surprising results and the potential impact on children's anxiety levels.

We explore the importance of allowing kids to experience discomfort, danger, distress, and disappointment to build resilience. Dr. Ortiz shares real-life examples of how parents can support their children in developing independence, highlighting the risks of overprotective parenting. What are the risks of inaction, and how can parents strike a balance between safety and independence? We also touch on the legal aspects of children's independence and the role of parents in fostering self-reliance.

Join us as we uncover the hidden benefits of independence therapy and discuss practical strategies for parents to empower their children. Discover how small changes in parenting approaches can have a significant impact on children's confidence and self-reliance. Are you ready to learn how to support your child's journey towards independence and resilience? Tune in to this episode for valuable insights and actionable tips from Dr. Camilo Ortiz.

Camilo Ortiz, Ph.D., is an associate professor and director of clinical training in the clinical psychology doctoral program at Long Island University-Post. He is also a fellow with the Flourishing in Action project at the Archbridge Institute’s Human Flourishing Lab. His scholarship focuses on parenting, disruptive behavior problems in children, child anxiety, elimination disorders, and cognitive behavior therapy for child and adult psychiatric disorders. He completed a pre-doctoral internship at Montefiore Medical Center and a postdoctoral research fellowship at Stony Brook before joining the faculty at LIU-Post in 2001. He teaches cognitive-behavior therapy (CBT) and evidence-based treatment of children and adolescents. Dr. Ortiz is a licensed psychologist in New York State and maintains a private psychology practice where he sees adults and children. He received a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the University of Massachusetts, Amherst. DrCamiloOrtiz.com

X: @DrCamiloOrtiz

Treating Childhood Anxiety with a Mega-Dose of Independence - Profectus Magazine
New York Times article

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 00:00 Start

[00:01:38] Independence therapy for anxious kids.

[00:07:16] Children's decline in mixed-age play.

[00:11:17] Independence activities for children.

[00:13:37] Changing parenting dynamics over generations.

[00:18:25] Developing sense of competence.

[00:22:11] Broken bone resilience discovery.

[00:25:28] The four Ds for kids.

[00:28:05] Trust in Independence Activities.

[00:33:42] Interacting with kids in society.

[00:37:41] Parental support and independence.

[00:41:04] The risks of inaction.

[00:44:00] Kids needing practice with danger.

[00:49:53] Independence and life skills.

[00:52:40] Therapist's role in politics.

[00:55:21] Therapist referral service and talks.

[01:00:07] Generational differences and media influence.

[01:03:23] Living life consistent with values.

[01:09:15] Therapists' online presence discussed.

[01:13:16] Gender-Affirming Care.

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I sit down with three remarkable gentlemen to discuss the complexities of black fatherhood in America. Speaking from their hearts, Adam, Mike and Jeremiah share how it has shaped their characters to embrace the responsibilities, challenges, and blessings of fatherhood. They critically examine societal norms, narratives, and myths that keep black families in survival mode, and explore what it truly means to “do your best” as a parent.

As the conversation unfolds, we touch on the concept of generational curses versus generational choices. Are we destined to repeat the mistakes of our ancestors, or do we have the power to make different decisions and break free from the cycle? We delve into the importance of hope and resilience in the black community, highlighting the need for healing and self-awareness to overcome past traumas and societal limitations.

Join us as we navigate through the complexities of fatherhood, resilience, and societal expectations. How can parents empower themselves and their children to break free from the constraints of generational curses and embrace a future filled with hope and possibility?

Adam B. Coleman is the Author of “Black Victim To Black Victor”, Op-Ed Writer, Public Speaker, host of the “Breaking Bread” video series, and the Founder of Wrong Speak Publishing. Adam is a columnist for Human Events, a frequent contributor for The New York Post and has articles published in Newsweek, The Telegraph, The Federalist, The Epoch Times, Daily Mail, The Post Millennial, Unherd, The Publica, ScoonTV, Free Black Thought, Life News HQ & Human Defense Initiative. Substack

Twitter: @wrong_speak

Michael David Cobb Bowen is a Stoic writer, data engineer and author of the award-winning blog Cobb. He has been published in Newsweek and was a regular NPR contributor, host at Cafe Utne, founder of the Conservative Brotherhood, Rights Universal and Free Black Thought. His online writing projects on political, cultural and philosophical subjects reach back over 23 years. His latest project, Stoic Observations, can be found at mdcbowen.substack.com. 

Jeremiah Wallace is a health coach and founder of RenewYou Health & Fitness. Over the last seven years, he has supported his clients to achieve renewal in their bodies, minds and behaviors. He is also host of the podcast Blended - Navigating The Blended Family Experience. As a stepparent himself, Jeremiah supports stepfamilies and those that are facing the complexities that exist within the blended family unit. His desire is for parents to have the clarity, competence and conviction necessary to lead well and to walk in purpose for their families. https://linktr.ee/jeremiahwallace

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Black Victim to Black Victor by Adam B. Coleman

 00:00 Start

[00:00:21] Fatherhood myths and realities.

[00:06:09] Fatherhood and personal growth.

[00:11:13] The impact of fatherlessness.

[00:12:13] Importance of family structure.

[00:16:33] Fatherhood myths and misconceptions.

[00:22:10] Family dynamics and relationships.

[00:27:13] Parenting challenges and gender dysphoria.

[00:31:20] Generational curses.

[00:33:09] Fatherhood and challenging stereotypes.

[00:39:13] Living a life without hope.

[00:41:25] Learning from privilege vs. trauma.

[00:45:56] Generational curses.

[00:51:17] Getting out of survival mode.

[00:56:21] Learning from parental struggles.

[00:57:15] Building discipline and success.

[01:03:33] The breakdown of marriage.

[01:06:11] Commitment and relationship standards.

[01:09:47] Shame and celebrity culture.

[01:14:44] Impact of fathers on daughters.

[01:20:21-01:20:32] Crisis of identity and values.

[01:24:37] Ancestry and identity crisis.

[01:26:08] Parental Responsibility and Guilt.

[01:30:13] Forgiveness and self-improvement.

[01:34:24] Gender crisis and community dialogue.

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I sit down with Maia Poet, a 24-year-old Israeli-American writer, researcher, and public speaker with an extraordinary story. Maia began identifying as transgender at the tender age of 12 and recently desisted from this identity after living as a man in the Middle East for several years. What led her to this profound change? How did her experiences in Israel and Palestine shape her understanding of gender and identity?

Maia shares her harrowing escape from the October 7th attacks, narrowly avoiding the chaos due to a last-minute change in plans. What was it like to be on the brink of such a life-altering event? How did her involvement in peace activism between Jewish and Arab children influence her worldview? Maia paints a vivid picture of the optimism and innocence that existed just before the world around her was shattered.

We delve into Maia's unique cultural background, exploring how her Russian Jewish roots and her deep connection to Arab culture influenced her journey. How did studying Arabic and immersing herself in Middle Eastern culture help her reconnect with her Jewish identity? And what role did her trans identification play in her integration into both religious Muslim-Palestinian and Orthodox-Jewish communities?

Join us as we navigate through Maia's compelling narrative, from her early intellectual obsessions to her life-changing experiences in Israel. How did a chance encounter in a West Bank coffee shop and an unexpected Bar Mitzvah at the Western Wall cement her male identity? And what ultimately led her to desist from her trans identity? Tune in to hear Maia's fascinating story and gain insights into the complex interplay of culture, identity, and survival.

Maia Poet is a 24 year old Israeli-American writer, researcher and public speaker. She began identifying as transgender at the age of 12, and has recently desisted from a trans identity which has lasted for half of her life. Maia is reflecting on her experiences of desistance, in hopes of providing insight for young people struggling with gender distress and, for their parents.  

Twitter/X: @thepeacepoet99

Maia's YouTube channel

Speech for Detrans Awareness Day

Book co-authored with Israeli social worker, Tal Croitoru, based on Maia’s life and journey of desistance, Lia's Journey

 00:00 Start

[00:00:21] Challenging beliefs about body image.

[00:03:50] Peaceful coexistence among Israeli kids.

[00:10:25] Youthful optimism in challenging times.

[00:15:32] Building bridges between communities.

[00:18:53] Interconnectedness of Jewish and Arab cultures.

[00:21:52] An intergenerational longing for connection.

[00:24:18] A rare pituitary tumor.

[00:29:10] Discovering newfound physical sensations.

[00:33:14] Cultural and social influences.

[00:37:16] Identity and political alignment.

[00:41:09] Gender identity realization.

[00:43:49] Bar Mitzvah surprise.

[00:49:29] Maia is looking to mingle.

[00:51:50] LARPing as an Orthodox Jewish man.

[00:55:39] Pro-Palestinian views and differences.

[00:57:54] Paradigm-shifting realization about anti-Zionism.

[01:03:34] Regrets of transition journey.

[01:06:14] Detransitioning experiences.

[01:09:14] Gender identity realization.

[01:13:18] Re-envisioning identity post-transition.

[01:19:34] Gender ideology and children's books.

[01:20:16] Gender identity exploration journey.

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Many cultural critics have expressed a mounting concern about prevalent attitudes that promote fragile mentalities, potentially crippling a generation and leaving them underprepared for the demands of adult life. Today’s roundtable panel brings together experts in mental health, social work, and social-emotional learning to discuss these concerns. How do narratives about our ability to bounce back from adversity shape our mental health and impact our outcomes? 

The discussion touches on the importance of self-awareness and the practice of mindfulness in strengthening our emotional resilience. But what happens when our nervous system goes haywire, and we can't trust our emotions? How do we navigate through moments of distress and disorientation? 

The guests share personal experiences and insights on how to cultivate mental fitness in a world filled with fear and self-censorship. Join us as we unravel the complexities of emotional well-being and resilience in the modern age.

Jake Wiskerchen, LMFT owns and operates Zephyr Wellness in northern Nevada and serves on the board of Walk the Talk America. His emotional functioning videos mentioned in this episode can be found here. Follow him at Twitter/X: @jakewisk 

Zander Keig, LCSW, is an award-winning social worker, speaker, caregiver, and educator who presents sought-after emotional well-being webinars and hosts the popular Umbrella Hour podcast. Zander co-founded the LGBTQ Caregiver Center, publishes change-maker stories at Third Space Press, and serves as a Caregiving.com LGBT Expert and Pride 365 Champion.

Jason Littlefield is an educator and advocate for personal well-being and societal well-being. He is the author of Empowered Humanity Theory: A Framework For An Empowering And Dignified Life. He's served more than years in public education in the capacity of teacher/coach, assistant principal and Social Emotional Learning. Jason has impacted students globally, including in Taiwan, China, and Benin, Africa. He works to reduce human division and promote personal well-being through EmpowerED Pathways, Free Black Thought, and The Institute for Liberal Values.

Books mentioned in this episode:

• "The Psychology of Emotions" by Carroll Izard

Previous episodes mentioned:

• Jake Wiskerchen: episodes 2 & 97
• Zander Keig: 38
• Jason Littlefield: 46
• Sara Stockton: 93

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SHOW NOTES & transcript with help from SwellAI.

MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude & permission. 

To support this show, please leave a rating & review on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe, like, comment & share via my YouTube channel. Or recommend this to a friend!

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Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.

Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, “Half Awake,” used with gratitude and permission.

Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.

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