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Keith and Mike dive headfirst into a variety of candid discussions about sex, relationships, and the complexities of intimacy. Kicking off with New Year reflections and lighthearted anecdotes about international travel and passport quirks, the conversation quickly transitions into a bold exploration of modern and historical sexual dynamics.

The hosts examine societal expectations of sexual performance, with an in-depth look at a passage from D.H. Lawrence’s Lady Chatterley's Lover. This sparks a thoughtful debate on male fantasies, clitoral stimulation, and the evolving understanding of female anatomy over the years. They analyze how outdated ideals still influence contemporary relationships.

Listeners are also treated to anecdotes about personal experiences, ranging from mishaps in college dorm rooms to the nuances of trying new things in the bedroom. Keith and Mike tackle stories on cockwarming, deep-throating challenges, and the curious role of additional participants during intimate encounters, offering their unfiltered perspectives along the way.

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Communication in relationships often feels like navigating a maze. One partner might think they’re being crystal clear, while the other feels utterly lost. In this episode, we break down the subtle art of saying what you mean without stepping on each other's toes. Whether it’s about chores, emotional needs, or the dreaded “What’s for dinner?” question, we explore how to find a balance between being direct and being kind.

Is “opposites attract” just a myth we tell ourselves, or is there truth behind it? We dig into how differences in personality, habits, and even core values can either fuel passion or spark conflict. More importantly, we discuss how couples can learn to embrace —- and even celebrate —= what makes them different, instead of letting it drive them apart. It’s not about becoming the same person but understanding how to coexist as a team.

We also delve into the role humor plays in keeping relationships alive. From shared inside jokes to laughing through mishaps, humor can be a powerful bonding tool—or a subtle way to avoid deeper conversations. Are you using humor to connect, or to deflect? We unpack how to use laughter effectively and why it’s crucial to pay attention to your partner’s response.

Finally, we tackle the question of personal growth within a partnership. Can you support your partner’s journey without losing yourself? How do you handle moments when one person seems to be outgrowing the other? We share insights on how to grow together while still honoring your individuality, because the strongest relationships aren’t about blending into one person—they’re about being two whole individuals who choose each other every day.

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Keith and Ally take the reins without Mike, but the lack of a third chair doesn’t stop them from diving headfirst into a bizarre mix of sex, relationships, and logistical puzzles. The duo kicks things off by discussing the viral story of Lily Phillips, a British OnlyFans model who attempted to set a world record by having sex with 100 men in one day. From red eyes to conveyor belts, they pick apart the mechanics, ethics, and deeply strange implications of a culture that produces such stunts—all while trying not to picture it too vividly.

They then tackle a question about a woman obsessed with her boyfriend’s testicles. Ally proposes space heaters and ball stretchers as solutions to optimize his "dangle," while Keith investigates the more esoteric paraphernalia of the internet's ball-stretching community. The pair debates whether the whole post might just be a ruse to start a niche fetish discussion, and by the end, neither of them is convinced it isn’t. Keith reluctantly closes his browser window, now resigned to weeks of targeted ads.

Later, they examine the case of a man convinced his girlfriend is intentionally destroying his belongings to incite rougher sex. Is she a strategic mastermind, or just tired of vanilla? The hosts offer advice -- kind of -— while reflecting on their own experiences of staying in relationships for all the wrong reasons.

Finally, Ally shares a dream involving Mike, an amusement park, and an audaciously inappropriate photo op, prompting a deep dive into ride-photo plausibility and whether Disney’s surveillance systems could catch a staged indecent act. The episode wraps with musings on awkward dating situations, misguided attempts at communication, and the ever-relevant question of how to properly introduce strap-ons into a relationship.

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We headfirst into a brutal listener email critiquing Ally’s podcasting style. She's accused of “juvenile speech patterns” and “unnecessary giggling.” Ally claps back with some sharp retorts, and Mike gleefully feeds the fire by running our conversational chemistry through an AI for its unvarnished take. Turns out Mike is the worst host.

We also take a detour into the world of bizarre hypotheticals and unfiltered admissions. Ever wondered if public bathroom masturbation is more common than you think? Or how to shave your harder-to-reach areas?

Our exploration of trans issues gets heated as we discuss locker rooms, government regulations, and the eternal battle of who really belongs where. You’ll get some surprising perspectives, a bit of libertarian philosophy.

Finally, we lighten the mood with a look at sugar daddies, plastic surgery, and why OnlyFans seems to be the ultimate gold rush. Keith confesses his curiosity about a millionaire “virgin” content creator, while Mike finds yet another way to make the rest of us uncomfortable.

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What do Taylor Swift, a clown car, and seasonal porn have in common? They all somehow make it into this week’s episode of Your Mileage May Vary! Just Mike and me today, and we’re diving into the strange, hilarious, and occasionally bleak corners of sex, relationships, and the modern world.

We kick things off with a look at the awkward politics of swinger approaches, including Mike’s firsthand confusion at a Lake Tahoe bar that was definitely not what he expected. Then we analyze why Taylor Swift’s music might be your secret weapon for attracting 20-something women (pro tip: encyclopedic knowledge of “All Too Well” is apparently a game-changer). Along the way, we discuss whether AI-generated porn is the future of personal fantasies, and whether we’d even want that future in the first place.

From there, we pivot into listener questions, tackling the problem of queefing, and a curious case of someone who can masturbate 15 times a day but can’t seem to finish during sex. As always, our takes are a mix of irreverent humor and the occasional moment of accidental insight—plus a surprising amount of advice on how not to ruin your marriage over a cushion.

Stick around to the end, where we contemplate the ultimate “bro gift” (it’s not what you think), seasonal porn costumes, and why some people are oddly dedicated to writing heartfelt comments on Reddit porn. This is an episode where our tangents are as good as the main course, so grab your headphones, settle in, and join us for another wild ride.

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Keith opens with a hot take on Trump’s America, while Mike finds unexpected humor in Elon Musk’s dreams of Mars. Ally is unimpressed, predicting four years of “dumb news” with a cognitive load she’d rather skip. It’s politics, sex, tech, and a sprinkle of dark comedy.

As the conversation shifts, we hit a deep dive into relationships and breakups. Keith brings a Reddit post on moving on from an ex, sparking a fiery debate. Mike likens it to Mein Kampf, and somehow Hitler’s love life becomes a point of speculation. The trio pokes fun, but there's a hint of truth in their banter about love, betrayal, and the bitter art of letting go.

Then, it’s onto the porn rabbit hole. Keith shares his paid-for porn adventures and the disturbing allure of AI-generated nudity. Mike gets philosophical, asking if infinite access to virtual sex will change the world – or just take men out of it. Ally, as ever, has a bone to pick, wondering if this shift could finally tip the scales in favor of women running society. It’s porn, politics, and the future of humanity in one messy, strangely insightful package.

Finally, they wonder: what will happen when everyone can make movies from scripts with a click? Mike envisions a world where we can create our own fantasies, from romantic sagas to Hollywood-level action. But Keith isn’t so sure – he predicts that AI-driven entertainment will soon overshadow everything we know.

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We spar over a recent listener’s email critiquing the show, with Mike’s biting response setting the tone: Don’t like it? Don’t listen. The debate over listener loyalty quickly spirals into discussions about free speech, political divides, and an unexpected autofellatio advocate from YouTube, proving once again that no topic is too taboo.

The team then veers into a humorous, yet candid, conversation about the logistics of drug testing and the subtle art of peeing in a cup. Ally bravely fields questions from Keith and Mike about the surprisingly complex mechanics of female urination. If you’ve ever wondered why women might need to wipe differently or how men view their anatomy post-pee, this segment has your answers.

The hosts take a dive into the motivations behind "natural conception donors" -— guys who offer up their sperm the old-fashioned way for women seeking motherhood sans relationship. What positions do they use, and how does the dynamic play out emotionally? Ally gives her two cents on the likely etiquette and logistics.

Later, YMMV explores the shifting social landscape where more women are opting for single motherhood by choice. The team discusses if this trend is part of a broader cultural shift or simply a case of personal preference meeting technological possibility.

Finally, the hosts dive into one listener’s personal dilemma: how to keep a spark alive in a long-term relationship when the sex drive seems unbalanced. Keith, in particular, shares his own experiences with the delicate dance of desire, while Mike and Ally weigh in with practical advice. Should she stay, or should she go?

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We dive headfirst into election season stress, sparking debates about voting, political allegiances, and California's unique tax burdens. The conversation gets heated as they explore the surprising reasons why some stick with their coastal roots, even at the cost of thousands. The stakes might be high, but the laughs are even higher as they weigh the pros and cons of state loyalty.

Next up, we step into the sometimes-misunderstood world of foot fetishes. From pedicure preferences to the social stigma of "diddling feet" in porn, the hosts don’t hold back in dissecting what makes a “good foot” and why this particular fetish polarizes so strongly.

The episode wouldn’t be complete without some vibrator talk, as the crew debates whether a buzzing toothbrush is really a worthy bedroom tool. Ally opens up about her skepticism toward vibrators, leading to a spirited conversation about the difference between solo pleasure and partnered intimacy. You might even hear some surprising confessions along the way.

Finally, the episode wraps up with dating mishaps, including tales of oral sex preferences, unorthodox requirements on first dates, and dreams of 20-year-olds that prove age isn't just a number.

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Keith kicks things off with the realization that he's been celibate for half a year and asks Mike for his longest dry spell, opening up a deep dive into the strange, hilarious world of post-college dating before apps were even a thing. Spoiler: the secret to success back then apparently involved nothing short of flashy cars and questionable confidence.

The conversation quickly veers into the psychological battlefield that is dating culture, as the duo debate why some guys lie their way to the top while others (including themselves) end up spinning their wheels. Keith reflects on his struggles breaking into conversations with strangers, while Mike philosophizes on the mysterious charm of "Riz" (after first learning what it is). In an unfiltered chat about awkward social dynamics, they wonder if being a charismatic introvert in your forties is more of a feature than a bug.

Somewhere between debating candy-colored apps and chemical addictions, Keith admits to getting way too into Candy Crush, losing hours and, nearly, his dignity, to the game's addictive spell. Mike, ever the wise advisor, encourages him to uninstall but jokingly suggests that at least with cocaine there’s more excitement (and arguably better stories). The two even suggest a government campaign against mobile game addiction, imagining a "Just Say No" to digital candy. Somewhere, Nancy Reagan is probably nodding along in spirit.

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This week, I'm going to have ChatGPT give you a summary of what we discussed, mostly because I'm lazy, but also because I just think it's more accurate than I would be! And, I mean, when you've made an episode with such a detailed effort to describe the structure of women's clitorises, what more is there to say?

New Orgasm Discovery: Ally shares a personal experience about discovering a new way to orgasm by being fingered in a different location.

Discussion on Female Anatomy: The hosts discuss the anatomy of the clitoris, with Mike attempting to explain its structure, leading to a playful debate on its positioning.

Porn and Anatomy Examples: The conversation shifts to the hosts sharing anatomical diagrams and explicit videos, sparking some humorous reactions.

Clit Size Comparison: A discussion arises about Ally's clit size compared to those in porn videos, leading to suggestions for measurement and light-hearted banter.

Dick Pics and Sexy Poses: The group talks about the challenges of men taking sexy pictures, comparing them to women’s nudes, and the importance of body positioning.

Online Dating Disappointment: Keith discusses how his interest in a woman from a dating app dropped after seeing her on video, exploring the concept of “catfishing” and curated online images.

Keith’s Preferences in Physical Attractiveness: Ally and Mike comment on Keith's strict standards for physical appearance and the varying levels of tolerance men have for such differences.

Cultural Critique of Dating Strategies: The group debates the implications of women "missing their window" to find a partner and the consequences of modern dating, particularly for women over 30.

"Call Her Daddy" Podcast Criticism: The hosts criticize the popular podcast for promoting misinformation about sex, with a particular disdain for its lack of honesty about women's mental health and its shift away from its original tone.

Podcast Popularity and Society’s Lack of Selectivity: They reflect on how Spotify and other algorithms have led to mass consumption of content without critical thought, contributing to the popularity of shows like "Call Her Daddy."

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Ally says she doesn't make efforts to get a guy to tell her he loves her, but it seems to happen anyway. We discuss the detailed parsing of that word that lies at the heart of many women's fantasies.

Another topic: How important are relative arousal levels in sex. Sure, it's irritating to see a guy in a porn is only partially erect, but is there some equivalent for women?

And, what is the motivation behind a woman masturbating during her period? Is sex drive tied mostly to the desire to procreate or other psychological factors?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/182/orgasm

https://ymmv.me/182/period

https://ymmv.me/182/love

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With election season firmly here, we take up a topic that probably shouldn't be in the news but always is: abortion. Good thing we didn't have a woman on this episode, because women's views on this topic are annoyingly consistent and, frankly, pretty boring.

Now, I like killing people as much as the next guy. I really do. But I'm not sure it's right to expect unrelated folks (doctors, nurses) to facilitate your killin'. It's a shame there isn't some sort of analog to the famous suicide pod for abortion. Then pregnant people (heh) could do it without involving any other people.

To follow on with women's issues, we discuss women who are unhappy with their experiences interacting with male doctors. And, a woman has a horrific experience with anal sex.

Here's the article we discuss about abortion:

https://ymmv.me/181/abortion

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/181/doctors

https://ymmv.me/181/anal

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With everybody in the media wagging their fingers at Mark Robinson for his posts on a porn site a decade ago, Ally and I take a look at what he said to understand if it's really all that different from what a lot of men get up to in the porn universe. On the sex side some of what he says is probably less unusual than others might imagine. But of course he goes off the rails when talking about broader social issues.

We take a similar look at Caroline Ellison, Sam Bankman-Fried's accomplice who was recently sentenced to hard time in prison. Perhaps she will be able to enact her plans for a hierarchical harem system in the prison setting.

We briefly discuss the revelation that a female journalist was having some sort of affair with RFK Jr. This seems fairly typical, as she is seeking status, and he wants to sext with someone half his age (Who wouldn't?).

And, to bring it back to explicit sex, Ally discusses her experiences with deep vaginal penetration and wonders why men consistently tell her that her oral is the best they've ever experienced.

Here are some articles referenced in the episode:

https://ymmv.me/180/robinson

https://ymmv.me/180/ellison

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/180/deep

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I'm fairly disappointed that our listener base hasn't worked very hard to help Ally out in her search for sex with a dominant older man. Maybe they don't exist? Or maybe our listener base consists largely of folks who just want that vicarious experience, not the sweet escape.

We solider on though, discussing Diddy's behavior and how that compares to other men who have found themselves in such compromising situations. We tackle the orgasm gap and the true percentage of women who can orgasm through penetration alone.

Ally waxes poetic about her love for deep, cervix-hammering penetration from a real penis. And, should men initiate dominant play when kissing early in a relationship, or is it too risky?

Here are links to the articles discussed early in the episode:

https://ymmv.me/179/orgasm-gap

https://ymmv.me/179/never

https://ymmv.me/179/condom

https://ymmv.me/179/diddy

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/179/choking

https://ymmv.me/179/fwb

https://ymmv.me/179/video

https://ymmv.me/179/deep

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Let's cut right to the chase: Ally is looking for a certain kind of man to satisfy her needs, and she's not finding him. This isn't your typical female ask for a life partner or a long-term relationship. It's more a recognition that she's had difficulty finding someone who can get the job done for her.

Which brings up an interesting difficulty that women can face: It's actually difficult to find out, early in a relationship, how a guy is going to perform in bed. Or, indeed, if he'll be able to perform at all. And, I suspect dick pix are no help, as they're often taken in a flaccid state, or taken from an angle that just doesn't do justice to the man's true stature.

Along the way, we discuss Peyronie's disease, some listener feedback on the podcast and listener questions. And, Mike informs Ally that none other than Bill Clinton, according to a sexual harassment lawsuit by Paula Jones, suffers from Peyronie's Disease. It's an epidemic!

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I really appreciate Ally's choice to talk in detail about her submissive proclivities prior to a hoped-for sexual encounter this weekend. I'm not sure how common it really is for women to like men to be dominant and/or aggressive during sex. As she points out, it's definitely common enough to make successes out of movies like 50 Shades of Grey.

Regardless, it's a welcome reprieve from the questions we more typically field: Men wanting to be pegged and women wanting out of the gender binary.

Our free-form discussion also touched on how men and women select mates, whether people naturally gravitate toward people of their own ethnicity, and the differences between physical and psychological dominance. Ultimately, one has to wonder what feelings people are working out when entering into these dominant and submissive situations.

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Straight back from consuming the dreadful convention coverage from the political parties, Mike tackles porn and society. The key word for the week is "taboos," as so much of what we're allowed to talk about now revolves around what will and won't make other people uncomfortable.

The history of mankind is best understood by thinking economically, and this applies to sex and dating as well as it does to other cultural institutions. I didn't talk about it this week, but religion can be understood in similar ways. Sadly, economics may presage the death of the tube sites that have dominated online porn for so long. OnlyFans appears to be pretty powerful, and the cucks who are willing to pay make life difficult for the rest of us.

And, what happens when women experience problems usually reserved for men such as too-obvious arousal and a lack of desire for foreplay?

Here's the channel I mentioned where a guy talks about dating from an economic perspective:

https://ymmv.me/176/dating

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/176/clean

https://ymmv.me/176/penetration

https://ymmv.me/176/disgust

https://ymmv.me/176/onlyfans

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Ally thinks she's never been filmed while having sex, with or without her knowledge and consent. The joke's on her, because I'm relatively sure pretty much everyone has been filmed at one point or another by the powers that be for blackmail material.

She also hasn't noticed in her sexual experiences the claimed increase in penis length that researchers have discovered. Apparently men's penises are now 25% longer than they were just a few short decades ago. Vagina depth doesn't appear to have kept up, but more research is definitely required.

We discuss the curious phenomenon of hundreds of young women wearing provocative clothing, seemingly for each other, at bachelorette parties in Nashville. And, do women really mind if their male partners are bisexual?

Here's an article about the Nashville bachelorette scene:

https://ymmv.me/175/bachelorette

And here's the one about penises getting longer:

https://ymmv.me/175/penis

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/175/recording

https://ymmv.me/175/bisexual

https://ymmv.me/175/anilingus-1

https://ymmv.me/175/anilingus-2

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One surprising challenge for the man traveling through Africa is that porn is illegal in essentially every country there. This, combined with spotty Internet access, can genuinely inhibit a man from being able to orgasm during his trip. Not to mention what it might do to prostate-cancer rates.

Condom use, or lack thereof in early sexual encounters, is discussed. Men and women's different and competing strategies come into play here, since women can decrease the odds of being ghosted by suggesting some hot sex in the future. But, if they actually do the deed too well, maybe the guy gets what he "wants" and moves on.

And, how much do women really know about their own genitals, given how hidden they are? Why do they appear so surprised when interacting for the first time with another woman's lady parts?

Here is the video of women touching another woman's vagina for the first time:

https://ymmv.me/174/touching

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/174/condom

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Keith has a serious problem while touring Southern Africa: Access to high-quality porn. We take it for granted in this day and age, but it relies completely on high-speed Internet access. How much porn per day should a man prepare before such a trip, and what should he do if he runs out?

We dive deeper into questions of squirting and what esoteric places the fluid might be coming from. If it were a religious debate, you might be able to call it a "squirt of the gaps" argument being made by the pro-squirting contingent.

And, it seems Keith is aroused by his own naked image in the mirror. Perhaps this is more widespread than we might have thought?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/173/flatulence

https://ymmv.me/173/handjob

https://ymmv.me/173/butt

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It turns out that Ally has never been with a man whose penis was so tightly circumcised that he had an immobile foreskin when erect. This came up because I wanted to understand what goes into her management of semen when the guy orgasms in her mouth.

Come to find out this generally isn't an issue for her, which makes me wonder whether she's having sex with men who have small penises and/or aren't generating very large loads.

I also had the joy of showing Ally the large clitorises discussed on episode 171, which I think she did not particularly enjoy. Funny how women can tolerate a penis-sized thing on a man, but put one on a woman, and it becomes a problem.

And, is it normal for people to be sexually attracted to themselves in the mirror?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/172/mirror

https://ymmv.me/172/thin

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I think the clit might be the most misunderstood part of the sexual apparatus. What's really going on with that small penis-analog that sometimes isn't difficult to even locate? People really just don't talk enough about clits. Why is that?

On some level women are in luck, given that men generally haven't extended to clits the specific body-part fetishizing that is applied to breasts, asses, facial features and the like. This could change, given the "Big Clit" content available online. Maybe men will start looking for women to enlarge that erogenous zone?

In other news, a female friend decided to explain to me how YMMV should provide a disclaimer or be censored because of its excessive male-gaze. I disagreed.

Some discussion followed of a woman who enjoys her boyfriend cumming earlier than anticipated during sex. And, is cellphone addiction eliminating the power gap between men and women in sexual relations?

By the way, Mike also explains why politics in western nations are so toxic.

On the topic of big clits, here are a couple of the subreddits discussed:

https://ymmv.me/171/bigclit

https://ymmv.me/171/growyourclit

And here's the video of the quite large clit under discussion:

https://ymmv.me/171/clit-vid

Here are the two research studies about squirting sent in by a listener:

https://ymmv.me/171/squirting1

https://ymmv.me/171/squirting2

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/171/early

https://ymmv.me/171/orgasm

https://ymmv.me/171/phone

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Maybe all women fantasize about being a man during sex in order to get off. I have often hypothesized that it's just more fun for the male partner to do the act. In this gender-bending world, it's hard to know what's going to work for someone. One man's autofellatio is another man's pegging.

In this episode, Ally and Mike discuss details of what goes through women's minds when in the locker room, whether nipple erections for women are analogous to men's erections, and much much more.

I'm confident that a large percentage of women don't have their first orgasm until they've been sexually active for some time. Is this evidence of some kind of male failing, or maybe just lack of interest by women?

And, what to do as a woman if you're convinced your vulva just isn't good looking? Is there a way to hide it during sex?

Here's the article about the professor fired for having an OnlyFans account:

https://ymmv.me/170/prof

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/170/first

https://ymmv.me/170/fantasies

https://ymmv.me/170/hiding

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Even men who are into cuckolding tend to restrict it to their fantasies or to what they think about when pretty aroused. We discuss a man who wants deeply to interact with the penis of another man, until he orgasms at which point the desire recedes immediately. What should he do? Simply remain aroused as long as possible?

A woman is tired of turning over when she wakes up to find her partner masturbating in bed while ogling her body. Is this a reasonable reaction? And, what would it be like if the gender roles were reversed?

We delve again into a relationship that tried an MMF scenario, only to find that the added "M" gave the female partner way more orgasms than her male partner expected. She says it's not a big deal, but is it?

And, how should a relationship proceed when both partners want to be dominant?

If listeners are interested in the video we discussed about dreams and the brain, here is the link:

https://ymmv.me/169/dreams

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/169/threesome

https://ymmv.me/169/husband

https://ymmv.me/169/cuckold

https://ymmv.me/169/jerking

https://ymmv.me/169/exhibitionist

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It's an oft-discussed trope that women become much more attached to men after the first time they have sex. But, does the same logic apply to oral sex performed on the guy? That is to say, does it matter where exactly the penis goes? And, does it matter where the semen goes?

Keith is interested in understanding how, in a normal relationship, a blowjob is initiated. Is there a verbal request? Does the man "push her head down" as is often suggested online? Or is there some other protocol?

And, a man who is dating a transwoman would like to know what a vagina feels like. How does it compare to the anus or the mouth?

Here's the link to the Tenga egg product discussed on the episode:

https://ymmv.me/168/tenga

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/168/again

https://ymmv.me/168/bj

https://ymmv.me/168/vagina

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It's complicated, as a man, to know how to respond to receiving a nude photo from a female partner. The obvious answer is you should be complementary, and not respond with a dick pic or similar. But then, how strong should the complements be? Is she forcing you to interact with her insecurities?

We struggle often to define the term "fingering" as it applies to women. Is it an internal or an external act? And, what could be going on with a woman who needs deep, aggressive fingering to (sometimes) get off?

Is it smart for a man to tell his partner that her ass is "too bony" for doggy style sex? And, what does the term "pillow princess" mean?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/167/fingering

https://ymmv.me/167/cow

https://ymmv.me/167/dirty-photo

https://ymmv.me/167/pillow

https://ymmv.me/167/bony

https://ymmv.me/167/cow

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In this day and age, it's hard to believe how poorly informed men can be about women's sexual responses. This week, we've found a selection of odd male behaviors in relationships which we make an effort to explain.

To wit, what would possess a man to send a list of "mistakes" made by a sexual partner after their first encounter? From my perspective, this only really makes sense if he wants her never to have sex with him again.

If a man reveals his desire for a woman in terms that she might not find particularly alluring, is that his fault or hers? Especially in a people where men are increasingly encouraged to be honest about their feelings. Are women ready for the reality of young men's libidos?

And, can a woman be too wet for oral?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/166/list

https://ymmv.me/166/virginity

https://ymmv.me/166/condom

https://ymmv.me/166/ridiculed

https://ymmv.me/166/too-wet

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A listener ponders: Given a choice between a series of probably gay activities and pegging, which is the most gay? And, how would we rank-order the experiences which all sound pretty gay, including two men facing each other and then masturbating simultaneously on to a black towel.

Along the same lines, a man really really wants to enjoy being pegged by his female partner, but he just seems unable to turn his prostate "walnut" into the pleasure organ he's been promised. Is he doing something wrong with his technique, or should he give up? And, in general, do men get more pleasure out of receiving anal than do women? I suspect they do.

A couple of men seem to have real problems with their partners' genitals. One got dry heaves when he tried to give oral sex to his partner, and the next isn't even willing to touch her vulva with his fingers. Are these just strategies to get out of pleasuring them, or is something more at play?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/165/gagging

https://ymmv.me/165/pegged

https://ymmv.me/165/touching

https://ymmv.me/165/double

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The release date of this episode will make it hard for listeners, as they'll have to tear themselves away from the new Taylor Swift album to give us their full attention. Her emotions regarding her most recent failed relationship are notable, if only because they don't really sound like those I would expect from a 35-year-old woman.

But we'll soldier on, even in the face of the Tortured Poets Department. Because, honestly, what could be more tortured than a man trying to provide his woman a little anal fingering, only to wind up with more than he bargained for?

Or, equivalently, a woman who might tip the scales beyond just "overweight" who is propositioned for an MFF threesome by her partner with someone who's ... pretty thin. Should she go along with it, or recognize that the other lady is likely to get the better of the situation?

And, are men supposed to do more work during sex than women?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/164/anal

https://ymmv.me/164/threesome

https://ymmv.me/164/work

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If one were to try to assign "blame" for men's difficulty in ascertaining whether a female partner has orgasmed, who bears the most responsibility? Traditionally, I would view it as the man's fault. Given our interest in that part of the female body, you'd think more men would conduct significant online research.

But what if women are actively trying to prevent men from understanding how to "get them there"? It doesn't even have to be all purposeful. Some combination of women confused about their own bodies and others trying to make men feel better about themselves might unwittingly be misleading whole generations of men about what they "should" be doing.

Another game-theoretical situation arises around STI tests. In the somewhat unusual case that tests are even exchanged by new partners, is there a good way to know if someone is sharing fabricated test results? And, what would even be the point of doing that, given that most STIs are treatable?

And, are there really any women out there who would be pleased to find out their new male partner has a bunch of sex toys?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/163/orgasm

https://ymmv.me/163/hours

https://ymmv.me/163/clean

https://ymmv.me/163/toys

https://ymmv.me/163/sti

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Keith wanted to discuss where to place his semen in an early sexual encounter. It's not as simple a problem as it sounds. It requires forethought for each position. And, since the woman may often simply express the desire that he "put it inside," it's a lonely road the man must travel to find a proper exterior setting.

As I sit here in my bed in Dublin, Ireland, contemplating Keith's semen situation, I can't help wondering if this is the same kind of dilemma faced by such writers as James Joyce when trying to frame his life in terms comprehensible to others. The expulsion of semen is a momentary event, but it can be seminal. And, where it's put can set the tone for years to come with a partner.

Speaking of literary masterpieces, we discuss a Reddit user's comment which encapsulates well the feeling of a hard penis, described for the benefit of a young woman who has never touched one. And, we explain why the 69 position usually places the man on the bottom, not the top.

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/162/69

https://ymmv.me/162/hardness

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There's no way to know the full extent to which people claiming to use multiple forms of birth control are virtue signaling. Sure, it's believable that in early sexual encounters people might use a condom as well as the pill, to protect against STIs. But there's definitely some sort of limit here, and later in a relationship the benefit derived is pretty unclear.

MFF threesomes are pretty commonplace in men's fantasy arsenals. But it's less common for men to think through the mechanics and the consequences. For example, what will the second woman do while he's interacting with the first? And, of course, this is all assuming that the threesome isn't really because the two women want to pursue a lesbian experience.

And, to what lengths might a man go to avoid giving oral sex to his female partner? Should oral sex be considered "table stakes" in intimate relationships?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/161/threesome

https://ymmv.me/161/plug

https://ymmv.me/161/smell

https://ymmv.me/161/pill

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Like the peninsular docks that jut out from the islands of the Maldives, a dildo a man purchased for his wife seemed to touch just the right spots, giving her the first "penetration-only" orgasm he's ever witnessed. Now, heartbroken, he's unsure whether this will permanently alter their relationship.

Another man is upset that his wife allowed another man to shoot "boudoir" photos of her. What's the actual reason for someone to want such photos? And, does he have any reason to be upset?

And, what inhibits men from giving oral more often in relationships? Is it because they're not big fans of the act in general, or is it just something to do with timing and what's asked for directly?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/160/boudoir

https://ymmv.me/160/shape

https://ymmv.me/160/going-down

https://ymmv.me/160/worst-sex

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It's always a difficult situation for a woman when she's pleasuring a man orally and he starts to get a bit too pushy. But here we discuss a young lady who was surprised by the act and unable to control the depth of penetration at all. What are some techniques for managing this? If she bites him, will she really get punched?

What's the best way for a woman to "freshen up" before welcoming a man between her legs? Obviously a shower is likely to be the gold-standard solution. But let's say that's not available. What are the best substitutes?

And, what's the right response by a man to a truly unusual fetish revealed by his female partner? Can a fetish be so extreme that it must have been invented purely to end the relationship?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/159/sex-ed

https://ymmv.me/159/kink

https://ymmv.me/159/pushy

https://ymmv.me/159/roulette

https://ymmv.me/159/first

https://ymmv.me/159/clit

https://ymmv.me/159/perfume

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Which countries have the largest and the smallest penis sizes? Would it surprise you to find out that the smallest nation is just a bit more than half the size of the largest one?

It's a complicated topic, though, because if a guy wants to get into the Three Sevens Club, he's going to need to be extremely tall, have a large penis and make a lot of money. I guess there are some well-known folks who definitely qualify on the first and third axes, but the middle one is still a question mark.

If a woman makes it clear to a friend that her husband's penis is "small" and he overhears the conversation, is there any coming back from that? Obviously she cares about it, and obviously she's aware. And, there's not much he can do to "fix" the problem.

We offer more information and discussion of male masturbation toys, this time in the context of a man who seems to prefer them to his partner. And, is there anything a woman can do to get a man to delete nude pictures of her? Or is it just up to his personality and innate desire to keep them?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/158/small

https://ymmv.me/158/filming

https://ymmv.me/158/toys

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That glow I have is the good feeling from being told by Ally, in no uncertain terms, that my orgasms are surely stronger than hers, and perhaps stronger than all women's. "Why else would men pursue sex so much more than women," she says. "It must be better for you guys."

Amen to that, and thanks to Ally we also learned that the products of teenage masturbation also may be more memorable for men than for women.

Next, we take a look at some reviews of male pleasure devices from Amazon, and wondered how long it would be before, paired with the metaverse, men could live in a sexual holodeck.

And, do women really want a man to "suck" on their clit? This seems like something that might be too aggressive for the typical lady.

Which reminds me, what explains the relative popularity of sex podcasts which just reinforce the standard cultural narratives? I know, you're probably thinking that the standard narrative is something out of the 1950s, complete with tradwives and obligation sex. But that's not the modern world. Today, humans without discernible gender are normalized. There's nothing wrong with treating people well, but it's a shame when the net result is to muddle life for those of us (the vast majority) who do fit into the traditional paradigm. Little surprise, then, that so many would rather play Fortnite or scroll Instagram Reels than sex one another.

What a world it would be if men and women alike listened to Your Mileage May Vary, to learn how their sex parts are supposed to work, and to discern an orgasm from hyperventilation. Do you really want to leave such important matters to Alex Cooper and her minions? Presumably not. So, if you're reading this, like and subscribe and share YMMV. It's one of the few things you can do that genuinely might save humanity from itself.

Here's the male masturbator product we discussed early in the episode:

https://ymmv.me/157/masturbator

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/157/teacher

https://ymmv.me/157/nipples

https://ymmv.me/157/elizabethan

https://ymmv.me/157/orgasm

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In spite of the vigorous efforts of men to post detailed feedback on porn and sex toys, few take this part of men's lives seriously. It's a shame, because for most men it's an important enough part of their lives that one wonders whether someone can really know a man without understanding his porn preferences.

This episode, Mike wanted to discuss a couple of porn tropes that he doesn't enjoy and wishes would change. Namely, men insisting that women have orgasms on cue (triggering fakery) and either party being too effusive in praising the other, especially when nearing climax.

Keith wants to discuss ways in which women could better vet potential partners on dating apps, something that is sorely lacking given the sheer amount of choice available to them (assuming they're attractive enough).

And, how do the mechanics of pelvic thrusting differ between men and women? Does this impact the experience in, say, the cowgirl position?

To follow along with the video discussed at the beginning of the episode:

https://ymmv.me/156/cumforme

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/156/dating

https://ymmv.me/156/thrusting

https://ymmv.me/156/cowgirl

https://ymmv.me/156/masturbation

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A woman reports experiencing an extraordinary number of orgasms experienced during a bondage session. So many so, in fact, that she passes out from the experience, and she claims that each orgasm became painful, starting about halfway through the session.

What is she experiencing? Is in analogous to the male experience or something completely different? Is passing out indicative of some other phenomenon like hyperventilating or even a medical issue of some kind?

Which men seriously comment on videos posted on porn sites, and what's the goal? And, if your partner is watching porn containing content that differs markedly from what they claim to enjoy in everyday life, is this indicative of anything?

And, what's the right way to handle the "aftermath" of anal?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/155/orgasmsporn,https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/1ahoqjd/bfs_comments_on_reddit_porn_should_i_be_concerned/https://ymmv.me/155/

anal,https://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/1aj5jby/bf_got_mad_cuz_i_farted_during_anal/https://ymmv.me/155/

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Like Icarus flying too close to the sun, we decided to tackle a series of topics this week that could get us banned from the Internet or worse. In general, we are very timid men, unwilling to challenge social norms, but this week was different. I blame climate change.

This may surprise you, but it sounds like men sometimes lie on dating applications in order to increase their odds of sleeping with new, attractive women. Sometimes this might even make sense, since women might apply too strict of a filter on their searches. Maybe dating apps should just make it easier for men to bust through such problems? Maybe using money?

You've undoubtedly heard the apocryphal story about the teenage boy who broke both his arms and, needing release, was assisted by a member of his family. In all seriousness, what do people do when they're in the hospital and need some sexual alone time? Is this an area where we can all agree that paid handjobs by a provider should be legal?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/154/gay

https://ymmv.me/154/study

https://ymmv.me/154/hospital

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Some men might not be upset to find out their partner invited another man to join their bedroom festivities. But, even those who at some time or another have declared they'd be up for "anything" may not really mean they want to take it quite that far.

Who are the real masters of the domain of orgasm? Is it perhaps time for women to concede that men might just have a better grip on the human sexual response cycle, given the frequency with which they "check the equipment"? This is of particular import when discussing a porn Mike shared with the audience (link below) where the male partner always urges his counterpart to orgasm during PIV sex. It doesn't really seem like she ever does.

What insights can a woman gain into the male desire (or lack thereof) for monogamy from sugar dating? Probably quite a lot, though there are certainly individual differences between men.

To follow along with the videos discussed at the beginning of the episode:

https://ymmv.me/153/lustful

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/153/monogamy

https://ymmv.me/153/drive

https://ymmv.me/153/mmf

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What a world it is that people will stand up and shout you down for having the audacity to suggest that a fluid emanating from a woman's urethra is urine. Perhaps we are the Galileos of a new enlightenment, called to the world to bring knowledge to the huddled masses. Incidentally, and perhaps appropriately, if you want to see Galileo's middle finger, it's on display in the Museo di Storia del Scienza in Italy. We recommend that listeners view it before submitting uninformed one-star reviews of the podcast.

We discussed the techniques used by potentially scorned women to search through their boyfriends' phones to see what he's been up to. Clever searches include looking at his screen time and battery usage, reddit history and the like.

What differentiates touching aimed at intimacy from initiation of sex? Is it the same for men and women? And, how does differentiating between these kinds of interactions apply in "dead bedroom" situations?

Along similar lines, what's going on when a woman wants to "ignore" her partner during sex? Is it a fetish, or is she just not all that interested in the act?

For those interested in seeing the TikToker discussed early in the episode, her is her profile:

https://ymmv.me/152/trinity

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/152/rubbing

https://ymmv.me/152/ignored

https://ymmv.me/152/cumkiss

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In a thought-provoking start to the new year, we discuss requests for unusual types of porn made by men on Reddit, paired with a conversation about PornHub's 2023 porn trends data. Where are men coming up with these rather strange requests? Is it indicative of what they want in real life, or have they just been conditioned by online content?

If you've ever wondered where the hot spots are in your city for gay cruising, but you haven't wanted to install the Grindr app on your phone for whatever reason, we've got a site you can visit just to get the lay of the land. Lots of cocks, and some good information.

How do people justify getting plastic surgery, and is it effective? Is there an analogy between it and makeup, or is there a bright line? And, what advice should a young man get who is considering losing his virginity with a sex worker?

Here's the site we discussed at the beginning of the episode:

https://ymmv.me/151/sniffies

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/151/surgery

https://ymmv.me/151/sex-worker

https://ymmv.me/151/dryness

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Before getting to the heart of the matter -- how many times one should have had sex in 2023 -- we discuss some topics of perhaps more general interest.

A woman has a curious predilection for small penises, prompting her to receive a large number of dick pics showing off all the smaller-than-average men available on the Internet. Her opinion, presumably, goes along with the old saw that what men do with the organ is more important than its size. Personally, I think both are pretty important.

A man's delicate sweetheart gifts him with a large amount of urine to the face as she's climaxing from his ministrations. Apart from the obligatory race to the shower, what's the right level of aftercare in each direction for this situation?

And, is a woman guilty of anything if she gives a married man oral sex, when she neither knew nor suspected she was married?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/150/cheating

https://ymmv.me/150/small

https://ymmv.me/150/squirt

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Discussion continues of Keith's concern that women don't particularly enjoy giving head, turning partly to the question of whether they're enjoyment of sex would be enhanced by "leaning into" a more submissive role rather than focusing primarily on emotional closeness.

For the holidays, Keith made an effort to find a lady-friend willing to come with him on a Caribbean getaway. As he's not in a relationship right now, it would have to be a somewhat spur-of-the-moment thing, and he found it pretty difficult to find anyone willing to take him up on it.

This leads into some conversation about dating strategies more broadly, and the reality that the male-female balance of power shifts in the man's direction as time passes generally: 20-year-old women hold all the cards, but by age 35 it's a different world.

To wrap up the episode, we take on such perennial questions as female wetness, and the length that vagina odor tends to remain on the penis after sex, even after showering.

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/149/mouth

https://ymmv.me/149/wetness

https://ymmv.me/149/smell

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There may be listeners who find it irritating when Keith and Mike pretty much agree on a subject, but such was the case regarding oral performed on women and how to optimize their orgasm quality. Sure, we haven't witnessed every single female orgasm that has ever happened on the planet (that will have to wait for the surveillance state of the 2030s), but our experience is that women who claim not to enjoy cunnilingus should probably give it another look.

Perhaps this goes along with a somewhat standard rule about life: The thing that is more cumbersome for one person is often the thing that provides the most benefit to the other. Many men do try to "dodge" their oral responsibilities, and perhaps that proves the point that it's something women should want and generally do want.

A man's wife offers him permission to see prostitutes while she is out of town. Is it a legitimate offer, or is this some elaborate form of entrapment? Should he do it, and what is the proper protocol? How far should he be willing to go with the lady of the night?

And, we begin a multi-episode arc of discussing social-media posts questioning the value to men of getting married at all. Does the current legal system and climate in the Western world make it just a bad deal for men?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/148/exhibitionism

https://ymmv.me/148/prostitutes

https://ymmv.me/148/facial

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What should a man do if his female partner starts taking steroids or testosterone? Whether it's to become a weightlifter or as part of a hormone-replacement regimen, he's liable to be confronted by someone with a significantly different libido from the norm.

It could even be -- bear with me here -- like the transition between Bruce Banner and The Incredible Hulk. Now, I'm no expert on the Marvel Cinematic Universe, but I believe the green guy has significantly larger body parts all over. In a similar vein, a man's partner might see her dainty vulva replaced by an angry red, or even purple, bulging clitoris. Should he become submissive in return? What if that's not really his style?

Speaking of submissive men, Keith wanted to understand the impact of Kegel exercises on a woman's virility, specifically whether using something like Ben Wa balls could actually improve a woman's ability to "grip" her partner during sex. Also, is this kind of gripping always voluntary, or is there a certain amount of it that happens on every insertion regardless of what she does?

We discussed a couple of pictures and articles on the podcast, and here are the relevant links:

https://ymmv.me/147/old-dildoes

https://ymmv.me/147/yoni-egg

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/147/painting

https://ymmv.me/147/anal

https://ymmv.me/147/crazy

https://ymmv.me/147/roids

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Men really like it when their partners orgasm during sex, and Keith is no exception. He has a theory for why maybe his partners are more likely to get there than those of a random man. He hopes he's a kind of orgasm whisperer, particularly early in a relationship.

Even pretty experienced and successful men probably make basic mistakes during early dates with a new partner. Keith offers some guidance on how men can correct these errors and move toward being "better" daters.

For whatever reason, we've recently been sent a cock ring and a request to take a look at a sex doll website, so we take care of that. Female sex dolls make some sense, but what is the function of the male ones, complete with large, protruding, erect penises?

And, we take a look at some data around first dates to try to evaluate claims made in various places on the Internet about male-female differences in that arena.

Here is the article we discussed in the episode containing data from first dates:

https://ymmv.me/146/first-dates

Here are links to the sex doll websites we discussed during the episode:

https://ymmv.me/146/hxdoll

https://ymmv.me/146/favdoll

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here is a link to the question we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/146/anilingus

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If you're like me, and I can only assume that you are, your enjoyment of sex follows the pleasure principle and the harm principle. In other words, my main reason for wanting to do things is because they turn me on and make me feel good. I'm not a goddamned sexual charity after all.

Well, come to find out that there are people out there who view sex in some sort of enlightened altruistic way. They do it "to increase the utility of all mankind". A bit preposterous when you consider the implications. Might one expect to see altruistic women offering blowjobs for free, because it's not all that much effort to make a man happy? Where would it end?

Alongside considering remaking society, we delve into a woman who wants group sex with a whole cadre of men (no news on who gets to go first, but I'd call him the "winner"). A man claims to get nothing out of playing with his partner's breasts -- and Keith sort of understands where he's coming from. After all, once you've "captured" the breast, what are you supposed to do with it? It's just a piece of human tissue after all.

And how should a man handle a woman who wants, say, an hour of oral sex from him each session. We're talking long enough that she gets up, goes to the fridge, and gets another Mountain Dew to savor while he's doing the deed. When is enough enough? And, is she really having all those "orgasms"?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/145/literotica

https://ymmv.me/145/gang-bang

https://ymmv.me/145/boobs

https://ymmv.me/145/eaten

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You're on a date with a woman, someone to whom you're pretty attracted, and she doesn't know a piece of information you thought was common knowledge. How should you react? Does it matter? Is it an opportunity to teach each other things about the world, or is it an indication that she won't be able to "keep up" with you?

Speaking of enlightenment, are women more enlightened than men when thinking about sex? Only in the period just after achieving climax do men have a glimpse at objectivity about sex, whereas for women that's more the normal state. At least, I think so.

If your partner specifically asked you for a facial, would you give it to her? Or would you be somewhat reluctant, wondering if it's something she "really" wants to have happen?

And, what should a woman do if she finds out her partner has been consuming fetish porn that she finds ... troubling?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/144/hair

https://ymmv.me/144/facial

https://ymmv.me/144/drive

https://ymmv.me/144/animal

https://ymmv.me/144/family

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I think women are well within their rights to be proud or self-assured when they see their male partner's penis erupt into a fountain of semen during a sex session. It's reassuring, and it certainly suggests that his attraction is strong and enduring.

But in a scientific sense, what it really means is that he's just masturbating less. Storing up his reserves, as it were, to release them on his partner. Now, this isn't necessarily a contrary indicator: His decreased masturbation frequency probably does mean he's pretty interested in the relationship.

Something similar applies to a situation where someone realizes that their date has brought condoms to the party. It's a sign that sex was expected to be in the offing. The important question we analyze is whether that is presumptuous and/or problematic.

And, wen a 50 year old man realizes he's not attracted physically to women his age, and not attracted mentally to those 30 years his junior, is the proper response to become asexual and take up a hobby?

We get a lot of our questions from Reddit, so for our listeners' enjoyment, here are links to some of the questions we discussed this week:

https://ymmv.me/143/condoms

https://ymmv.me/143/volume

https://ymmv.me/143/growth

https://ymmv.me/143/sleep

https://ymmv.me/143/older

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