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Why Everything in Your Wardrobe Is Ageing You (And How to Fix It After 50)29 May 202600:39:29

We sit down with personal stylist Emma Davison to tackle one of midlife's most overlooked confidence boosters: knowing how to dress for the body and skin tone you have now, not the one you had 20 years ago. Emma brings refreshingly honest advice on colour, capsule wardrobes, wardrobe edits and why getting dressed in the morning doesn't have to feel like a crisis.

Key Takeaways

Black isn't always your friend. As skin softens with age, black absorbs light and creates shadows around the face, accelerating the appearance of aging. Navy blue is the universal alternative that works for virtually everyone.

Know your undertone. The key question is whether your skin tone is warm or cool, which determines whether you reach for ivory or pure white, olive green or teal, warm reds or cool blues.

A capsule wardrobe is simpler than you think. Aim for 25 to 40 core pieces built around 4 to 5 investment colours that all work together, then layer in statement pieces on top.

About 70% of most people's wardrobes go unworn. A wardrobe edit cuts the noise, reveals what you actually have, and often generates more outfits from fewer pieces.

Smart casual is where people struggle most. Most people can do formal and casual, but the middle ground is where a stylist adds the most value.

Fit and fabric matter more than trends. As men age cut and quality of fabric become the priority. A well-tailored classic piece will outlast any trend.

Clothes are a confidence tool, not a vanity project. Particularly through menopause and major life transitions, what you wear directly affects how you carry yourself and how others respond to you.

Start with the basics, literally. Underwear, bra fit and t-shirt weight are the foundation everything else is built on.

Timestamps

00:11 Introduction and why we all love black

02:32 The ageing effect of black and why navy wins

04:47 How knowing your colours shortcuts the shopping experience

07:09 Starting a wardrobe edit: body shape, underwear, and investment pieces

09:29 Kevin's colours, warm vs cool skin tones, and the role of hair colour

11:54 Jo's colour palette and why navy is the most versatile neutral

13:30 How clothes transform confidence, especially post-menopause

16:35 Dressing your age vs dressing for your body now

18:29 Common mistakes men make and where style tends to slip

20:49 Smart casual as the trickiest category and how to nail it

23:10 How a wardrobe edit actually works, start to finish

27:47 The emotional weight of clothes and how Emma handles it

32:19 The ripple effect of a style transformation on those around you

33:30 How many pieces make a capsule wardrobe

34:45 Go-to high street brands for men and women

37:09 Why shopping in person still matters and where to find Emma

 https://emma-davison.co.uk/

Mental Health Awareness Week - WTF Does That Have To Do With Snowboarding & Motorbikes?21 May 202600:29:01

We mark Mental Health Awareness Week (11–17 May, UK) by sharing our own very on-brand actions: a black-tie charity ball in London, donations to two youth mental health charities, and a group ride with near-strangers for the Distinguished Gentleman's Ride in Guildford. Along the way we get honest about male friendship, vulnerability, and why it's weirdly hard to make mates in your 50s and 60s. We close out with the Mental Health Foundation's Top 10 practical tips and score ourselves on how many we're actually doing.

Key Takeaways

  • Activity creates connection; men in particular open up when united around something physical
  • Making friends as an older adult is awkward, and that's normal; push through it anyway
  • The Top 10 aren't a checklist; pick what works for you, and use them to support others too
  • Shared experience > proximity; it's not having friends, it's actually spending time with them

Timestamps

00:09 — Welcome & intro: Mental Health Awareness Week 2025 theme is Action

00:45 — The charity ball: Stop Breathe Think; free, instant counselling for under-21s who can't afford it

02:10 — Snow Camp: using skiing & snowboarding to build life skills and support young people's mental health

02:36 — What is the Distinguished Gentleman's Ride? Retro bikes, vintage threads, raising funds for prostate cancer research and men's mental health (Movember)

04:53 — The Guildford ride by numbers: 1,392 riders, ~£100k raised, second biggest ride in the world this year

06:00 — The friendship backstory: why socialising with people your own age gets complicated over the decades

09:40 — Making new friends in your 60s: the vulnerability of putting yourself out there and why it's worth it

13:00 — What the ride unlocked: deep conversations, a WhatsApp group, and plans for future rides together

14:30 — Top 10 Mental Health Foundation tips begin

  • 14:30 1. Plan something to look forward to
  • 16:45 2. Eat well, avoiding sugar spikes and cortisol crashes
  • 18:00 3. Get closer to nature, daily walks, woods vs pavements
  • 19:13 4. Get good sleep, told straight
  • 20:00 5. Get creative, a guitar deadline and a hired drummer at the ball
  • 21:36 6. Move regularly, steps, yoga, Pilates, high-intensity cycling
  • 22:30 7. Try mindfulness, hot yoga, barefoot on grass, being present
  • 24:01 8. Make time for friends, shared experiences vs an unused contact list
  • 25:00 9. Be kind, gratitude and appreciating small moments
  • 25:45 10. Talk things over;  courage, survival mode, and the friends who've sat through it all

https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/our-work/public-engagement/mental-health-awareness-week

https://gentlemansride.com/

https://www.stopbreathethink.org.uk/

 

It's Not Your Knees…It's Your Head: Conquering Ski Anxiety in Midlife20 Mar 202600:30:50

Skiing, Anxiety & the Power of Mindset — with Louise Pode, Ski Mindset Coach

 

Episode Description

Jo sits down with Louise Pode, a ski mindset coach based in the UK, for a frank and funny conversation about why so many women over 45 quietly stop doing the things they love and what it actually takes to get back out there. Louise shares her own journey from chronically anxious skier with two replaced hips to leading an international coaching practice and explains how psychology plays a far bigger role on the slopes than most people realise. If skiing has ever terrified you, made you feel like the oldest, slowest person on the mountain or left you questioning why you even bothered, this one's for you.

 

Key Takeaways

•        Your 'why' is everything. Before technique or training, Louise asks every client why they want to ski. That emotional anchor is what gets you through fear on the mountain.

•        Women over 45 are more likely to step back than step forward and it's not just about menopause. Decades of prioritising others, cultural expectations and internalised self-doubt all play a role.

•        Anxiety physically changes how you ski. Rigidity, leaning back, bracing; fear creates the very instability you're trying to avoid.

•        Learning to ski as an adult is genuinely hard. Expecting to crack it in a week sets you up to feel like a failure. Feeling comfortable on skis after a few days is already a win.

•        Environment matters enormously. Busy Christmas resorts with packed slopes are the worst place to learn or relearn. A quiet Italian resort beats Courchevel every time.

•        Men have anxiety too, they're just less likely to ask for help. Louise's one-to-one clients are almost exclusively women, but men do turn up at group masterclasses.

•        Overcoming anxiety is liberating beyond the slopes. Being able to look at a scary run and walk away with your head held high…that's the real goal.

 

Timestamps

00:57  Louise's background: physiotherapy, hip replacements and a love-hate relationship with skiing

02:06  The accident that changed everything and the sliding doors moment that followed

04:31  Why women 45+ tend to step back, not forward

06:52  Male-dominated slopes and the intimidation factor

08:57  How anxiety physically distorts your skiing

11:24  What good learning actually looks like and why your instructor matters, it’s less stressful

12:56  The coaching process; finding your 'why' before anything else

15:45  Louise's own moment of panic at the top of Mont Vallon and how she talked herself down

17:43 The hybrid skiing model for families of mixed abilities

20:06  Do men seek coaching? (Spoiler: sort of)

22:53  What Louise offers - five-session programmes, power-hours and a new online course

25:08  Masterclasses at Tamworth and Hemel Hempstead and what a full day looks like

27:28  Jo's experience and the best advice for anyone thinking of going back

 

Find Louise

•        Website: www.louisepode.com

•        Instagram: @coachingwithlou

•        Masterclasses coming soon in Hemel Hempstead

Mother's Day, The Never Empty Nest & The Challenge of Post -Parenthood13 Mar 202600:30:40

Mother's Day, it's more complicated than a card and some flowers. This week we dig into the real origins of Mothering Sunday (16th century, religious, nothing to do with Hallmark), why mums feel the need to be celebrated and the uncomfortable truth about how much of our identity as parents we've wrapped up in our kids.

 

We also get into delayed adult development, why young adults are struggling to launch, how we might be making it worse and why letting go is the kindest thing you can do. For them AND for you. Plus: the love letter that made Jo emotional, the Mother's Day plan that backfired spectacularly and what David Beckham got right about letting your kids fail.

 

Timestamps

•        00:45 — The real origins of Mother's Day

•        02:12— Why mums need to feel valued

•        04:20 — The love letter from Jo’s daughter

•        06:34 — Delayed adult development & the stats

•        09:54 — How our generation parents differently

•        10:48 — Tying our self-worth to our kids' outcomes

•        14:14 — Mother’s Day isn’t good for everyone

•        17:11 — The case for a day to yourself and Kev’s plan backfired

•        19:42 — Expectations vs reality

•        21:40 — Letting them fail…David Beckham

•        23:00 — Why you can't control the outcome

•        25:30 — How to detach without losing the relationship

•        26:45 — Finding your third chapter – the beginning of your post-parenthood

 

Key Takeaways

•        Mother's Day started as a 16th-century religious festival; the commercial version is a modern invention

•        Around 58% of 21-24 year olds currently live at home; independence is arriving 5-7 years later than in previous generations

•        Our generation ties its self-worth to our kids' outcomes more than any generation before us

•        Shielding your kids from every failure actually delays their ability to function independently

•        Detaching isn't about loving them less, it's about freeing you both to move forward

 

“When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us” by Jane Adams

You Probably Can't Afford to Retire. Here's What to Do About It.06 Mar 202600:32:00

Kev gets brutally honest about retirement, what it actually means, whether you can afford it and what to do if you can't. With guest Richard Squire of My Finance Future, they dig into the financial realities facing people in their 50s & 60s: from FIRE movements to the PLSA's benchmark figures, legacy planning and why your first retirement budget will probably be laughed at. Spoiler: Jo laughed at Kev's.

 

Key Takeaways

•        Second & third careers, partial work & financial independence

•        FIRE movement (Financial Independence, Retire Early) is reshaping how people think about work & money

•        The PLSA estimates that a comfortable retirement in UK £60K pa after tax

•        Build your retirement budget from the bottom up.

•        Keeping mentally active matters

•        Helping kids is a newer, growing part of strategy

•        Start checking your pension now

 

Timestamps

•        00:45 — 4 stages of retirement, what it brought up for Kev

•        02:20 — Mortality reality check: losing parents, becoming head of family

•        03:10 — Triggers: empty nest, mortgage renewal, the oldest at work

•        04:30 — Introducing Richard Squire

•        04:59 — What does retirement mean today

•        06:09 — FIRE movement: Financial Independence, Retire Early explained

•        07:15 — Final salary pensions vs. modern approaches

•        08:09 — Keeping your brain active, why Kev worries about doing sod all

•        09:08 — Leaving a legacy vs spending it all

•        12:04 — Pension briefings at work

•        12:38 — Kev's 1st retirement budget, Jo's verdict: f**king ridiculous

•        13:39 — PLSA figures: what a comfortable retirement actually costs

•        15:00 — Why bottom-up personal budgeting beats mythical averages

•        16:38 – The go-go, slow-go and no-go years of retirement explained

•        18:30 – 3 approaches to planning: advisor, coach or DIY

•        22:25 – Kev's experience trying to move money out of a defined benefit pension

•        23:40 – The British Steelworkers DB scandal

•        24:30 – Where to start if you want to take control •        26:46 – Why getting pension decisions right first time matters

•        27:53 – What Richard's cashflow forecasting tool does

•        30:04 – Treat retirement planning like project management

 

 

 

 

https://myfinancefuture.com/learn-more

MyFinanceFuture: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u3tke_J8HrY

Can You Learn To Ski or Snowboard After 50? Spoiler ...Yes You Can27 Feb 202600:30:52

Inspired by the Winter Olympics, we dive into whether it's ever too late to hit the slopes and what to do when your partner just isn't that into it.

Kev is a seasoned snowboarder heading to Méribel in his 60s. Jo learned to ski at 57... under protest. We share our honest, sometimes hilarious experiences, plus practical advice for midlifers considering winter sports for the first time (or for the first time in a while).

Key Takeaways

·       Why the 2025 Winter Olympics felt so inspiring for older viewers

·       The 2030 Winter Olympics in France: 7 centres including Nice, Courchevel & Méribel

·       Why the average age of a new ski school student in Canada is 45

·       The real reason older beginners struggle; it's psychological, not physical

·       The physical and social benefits of skiing and boarding in midlife

·       Ski trips designed specifically for the over-50s

·       What to do when one partner loves it and the other... really doesn't

·       The rules: never teach your partner yourself

·       How to sweeten the deal and find the right resort for mixed-ability couples

·       Jo's ongoing negotiations about whether she'll ever ski again

Coming up: Jo talks to a coach who specialises in helping women over 45 rebuild their confidence on the slopes.

TIMESTAMPS:

00:44 – The Winter Olympics were inspiring

03:15 – What makes the 2026 Milan-Cortina Olympics different; multiple locations

04:25 – The 2030 Winter Olympics in France: 7-centre breakdown

07:00 – Kev heads to Méribel; two men over 60 on the mountain

08:00 – Jo's ski history (it's not pretty)

10:05 – The family Christmas ski trip to Méribel

11:20 – Jo learns to ski at 57 (under duress)

12:22 – Stats: average age of new skiers is 45 and cognitive ability at 50+

13:10 – The fear of falling problem

14:01 – Physical & social benefits of skiing in midlife

15:22 – Jo admits her fears of falling and her blocks

16:28 – Over-50s ski organisations & group holidays

19:00 – Club Med do social skiing for adults in term time, could this be the answer?

20:33 – Options when partners have different enthusiasm and skill levels

21:55 – Choices for going to a ski resort, rules and Golden rules: don't teach your partner; be back for après

25:25 – The infamous lost children incident in Méribel

28:45 – Will Jo ever ski again? Watch this space

RESOURCES MENTIONED: The Ski Gathering | Snow Camps Europe | Ski World Over 50s | Ski Club of Great Britain – Fresh Tracks (over 60s) | AARP 50+ Ski Club | Club Med social skiing

Retirement Coach Reveals: The 4 Stages of Retirement and Why 6 Months In Everything Changes20 Feb 202600:31:48

Think retirement is all about having enough money saved? Think again. In this eye-opening conversation, retirement coach Dawn Marcotte reveals the hidden challenges that hit six months after you leave work - the anxiety, the boredom, the loss of identity. Dawn breaks down the four stages of retirement and shares practical strategies for building a fulfilling post-work life, from creating your "curiosity list" to joining industry associations where your expertise still matters. This episode tackles the emotional and social aspects of retirement that nobody prepares you for, with honest discussion about depression and invisibility. disappear.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

·       Retirement coaching focuses on the emotional, social, and psychological changes - not finances

·       The first 6 months feel amazing, then many people experience anxiety and depression

·       Without planning, it takes 2 years on average to figure out retirement happiness

·       The four stages: Honeymoon → Lost → Exploration → Reinvention

·       You need to replace: routine, intellectual stimulation, purpose and social connections

·       Create a "curiosity list" of things to explore without judging if you'll be good at them

·       Join industry associations to mentor others

·       Quality of relationships is the #1 predictor of happiness

·       Society tells retirees to "be small"

TIMESTAMPS

00:52 - What is a Retirement Coach? Dawn explains the non-financial side of retirement coaching and why it's needed

01:40 - Why the first six months of retirement feel fantastic

02:03 - The "Now What?" Moment. When boredom and anxiety set in

03:13 – Why am I not having the time of my life?

04:02 - Key Elements for Retirement Success

04:33 - Dawn compares retirement boredom to the end of summer holidays as a kid

05:40 - DIY Jo discusses people who think they'll paint the house repeatedly (the Severn Bridge analogy)

06:45 - Most people feel lost 6 months to a year after retiring

07:56 - The Four Stages of Retirement

08:22 - The Reinvention Stage

08:43 - Giving Back Through Your Passions

09:44 - Why some people never reach the reinvention stage

10:02 - When grandchildren grow up and don't need you anymore - then what?

11:45 - UK retirement age is rising to 67-70, meaning 15-20 years to fill

13:00 - How removing structure without replacement can cause depression

14:20 - Baby Boomers & The Retirement Crisis

15:04 - The Introvert-Extrovert Marriage Challenge

16:00 - Why men particularly struggle when all their friends were at work

16:44 - Kev's Retirement Plans, he is considering snowboard instructor training to manage the transition

18:32 - The Need for Intellectual Stimulation

19:09 - Dawn's coaching technique: brainstorm things you're curious about

19:42 - Using your career expertise to mentor others after retirement

22:00 - Dawn recommends public speaking to share expertise

23:45 - Culture "be small" in retirement

24:17 - Tony Robbins' Six Human Needs

25:19 - Research shows relationship quality is the #1 indicator of happiness at any age

27:19 - Joining Organizations, finding people who enjoy what you enjoy to build new social connections

28:09 - Dawn's Book: "Filling the Blank Page"- practical guide to building a retirement of passion and purpose

30:00 - New Website Launch dawnmarcotte.com

30:30 - Dawn offers to help UK listeners find coaches i

Brat-ults, Beckham Drama & What Happens When Your Kid Gets Married13 Feb 202600:29:40

When your adult children get married, you're not just gaining an in-law you're potentially entering a minefield of power struggles, boundary conflicts and family drama. This week, we unpack "brat-ults (privileged young adults publicly cancelling parents) through the lens of celebrity wedding wars, then dig into what happens when your first child ties the knot. From Brooklyn Beckham's 6 page Instagram manifesto to the universal challenges of dealing with your kids' partners, wedding ceremonies and prenup conversation.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

The "Brat-ult" Phenomenon: Privileged young adults publicly cancelling parents

Entitlement vs. Legitimate Conflict: The difference between healthy boundaries and entitled behaviour

1st Marriage Milestone: Parents in their mid-50s/early-60s typically experience their first child's wedding

The Partner Question: Do you express concerns about your child's relationship

Power Struggles Are Real: Wedding planning can become a battleground between families

"Us" Matters: Supporting your adult child's relationship means accepting their partner is their priority

Prenup: Best done when couples are in love and with wealth inequality

Grandchildren Pressure: Being obsessive about grandchildren

Independence Is Healthy: Teaching children self-sufficiency early creates better boundaries

The Divorce Reality: With a 48% divorce rate, statistical concerns about marriage are valid but tricky

Let Them Make Mistakes: Adult children need to make their own choices

 

TIMESTAMPS

00:30 Brat-ults, cancelling parents and wedding conflicts

00:59 - What are "brat-ults"? Dr. Elizabeth McCain's article on privileged young adults in conflict with their parents

01:53 - Celebrity examples: Brooklyn Beckham and Prince Harry

03:00 - Jo's frustration with Brooklyn’s entitled behaviour and public family feuds

04:38 - The psychology of spoiled children and parental guilt

06:43 - Social media's role in normalising parent cancellation, by the rich and famous

07:08 - The immaturity of public family conflicts

08:22 - Brooklyn Beckham's wedding as the catalyst

09:26 - Plot twist: When did the Spice Girls get old?

09:52 - Parents in their 50s/60s experiencing their first child's wedding

10:24 - Power struggles behind the scenes at the Beckham wedding

10:57 - The new family dynamic: Your kid is no longer a kid

12:06 - Do you like your child's partner? What if you think it won’t last?

13:30 - The importance of "the us" in relationships

14:15 -Jo's take on not being married herself

15:05 - Mother's sense of loss when a child marries

16:43 - Jo's parenting style: Independence from an early age

17:23 - Single parenting and teaching self-sufficiency

18:33 - In-law relationships: Does it really matter if you don't click?

19:20 - Power struggles over the wedding ceremony itself

19:35 - Mumzilla vs. bridezilla: Jo's prom dress experience

20:33 - Making mistakes and learning independence

20:52 - The grandchildren pressure problem

22:11 - Kev's statistical approach to marriage advice for his boys

23:01 - The prenup debate: When does it make sense?

23:47 - Deed of trust: Jo's experience with wealth protection

24:33 - Wealth inequality and prenup timing

25:20 - Kev - Would you tell your child you don't like their partner?

26:06 - Malevolence vs. minor annoyances

27:17 - Wedding planning involvement

28:52 - Final thoughts: Freedom, boundaries and respecting choices

Dating Over 50: What Really Matters (It's Not What You Think) & Valentine's Day06 Feb 202600:26:52

We celebrate our podcast's 1st anniversary on Valentine's Day by diving into dating after 50, relationship maintenance and why this made-up holiday matters more than we thought.

Forget just celebrating Valentine's Day, we're celebrating a full year of podcasting! In this milestone episode, we reflect on our journey from starting with different co-hosts to building an audience (slower than expected!), going viral with 200K views and even getting nominated for a Pro-Ageing Podcast Award.

But the heart of this episode is about love after 50. We explore the three types of people on Valentine's Day (singles, established couples, and newly dating), confess how we nearly let Valentine's Day slide after 8 years together and share what people actually prioritise when dating post-50: intelligence, humour, honesty and kindness.

We get brutally honest about the challenges of dating later in life, the baggage everyone brings, financial compatibility conversations, health considerations and the reality that 35-40 years of habits won't change. From joint bank accounts (we don't have one) to understanding your partner's "money language," we cover the conversations you need to have before fully committing.

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Podcasting reality check: We overestimated Year 1 success and learned listeners dip in and out rather than following.

 Valentine's serves as a reminder to invest effort in your relationship, not just celebrate on one specific date.

Post-50 dating priorities shift: Intelligence, humour, honesty and kindness matter most (men add facial attractiveness; women add dependability).

Everyone over 50 has baggage; we think it's actually a red flag if they don't.

The comfort zone trap is real: Cohabitation can lead to taking each other for granted if you're not careful

Money means different things: Safety, control, freedom, or love, understanding your partner's "money language" is crucial

We took 4.5 years before moving in together, there's no rush when you're building something real

 

TIMESTAMPS

00:27 - Introduction & First Anniversary
01:54 - Year One Highlights and Surprises: Viral Posts & Award Nominations

02:49 – Lessons Learnt from Our First Year
04:10 - The Three Categories of Dating for People over 50 on Valentine's Day

05:41 – The Evolution of Our Valentine’s Day
06:18 - The Comfort Zone Trap: How We Nearly Let Valentine's Slide
10:15 - What People Over 50 Actually Look For in Partners
11:29 - The Baggage Factor: Everyone Has a History
14:07 - Blended Families & Why We Had It Easier

14:55 – Our Primary Motivation When We Started Dating Each Other in Our Mid 50s
16:21 - Health & Wealth: The Delicate Conversations – Do you want to be a nursemaid?

17:19 - It Is Important to do Things Together
19:00 - Financial Compatibility: Joint Accounts vs. Independence
21:21 - Emotional Transparency, Past Relationship Trauma & Understanding Your Own “Money Language”
23:34 - Our Relationship Journey  & Philosophies to Dating
25:53 - Our Opinion on Dating post 50

 

RESOURCES MENTIONED

• Anthony Robbins quote on Year 1 vs. Year 5 expectations
 • Sunday papers article on dating characteristics post-50
 • Research on financial compatibility in couples
 • Love languages and attachment styles theory
 • Previous viral episode: Should Adult Children Spend Christmas With Us?

 

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The Midlife Crisis Gets a Makeover: 5 New Stereotypes Which One Are YOU?30 Jan 202600:31:11

The midlife crisis isn't dead… it's had a makeover! We explore 5 new stereotypes replacing the old motorbike-and-affair cliché, confess which ones we fit and reveal shocking stats about sex after 50. Nothing is off the table!

Forget the leather jacket and motorcycle stereotype! The Times Magazine has declared the traditional midlife crisis dead and replaced it with FIVE new archetypes. Join us hilariously dissect each one;from the LinkedIn Thought Leader to the Midlife Clubber and (reluctantly) admit which stereotypes we have fallen into.

But this episode goes deeper than stereotypes. We break the taboo around sex after 50 with eye-opening statistics: 85% of men aged 60-69 are sexually active, 45% of over-50s are having the best sex of their lives, and 1 in 8 are doing it at least 5 times a week!

Inspired by the BBC series "Riot Women" and our own midlife experiences, we explore why society doesn't want to see older people as sexual beings, what happens when the kids leave home and the surprising kinks dominating the over-50s bedroom.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

The old midlife crisis stereotype (motorbike, affair, leather jacket) has been replaced by 5 new archetypes

 The Midlife Clubber is real and we are living proof (daytime clubbing, anyone?)

45% of people over 50 report having the best sex of their lives RIGHT NOW

Media representation of sex after 50 is virtually non-existent (67% say it's rarely/never shown)

Empty nesters experience significant improvements in their sex lives (48% report better intimacy)

33% of over-50s are open to multiple sexual partners

Confidence and self-acceptance increase with age, leading to more sexual exploration

TIMESTAMPS

00:43 - The Times redefines the Old Midlife Crisis Stereotype and a look at the 5 new stereotypes
02:20 - Kev's Confession: Living the Stereotype Early
04:04 - Stereotype #1: The Thought Leader (Kyle with his LinkedIn insights)
06:20 - Stereotype #2: The Psychedelic Dabbler (Emma's mushroom journey)
08:05 - Stereotype #3: The Camper Van Fan (Kath's van life obsession)
09:54 - Stereotype #4: The Midlife Clubber – We could be guilty!
12:57 - Stereotype #5: The Open Relationship Advocate (Polyamorous Debs)
14:30 - Sex After 50: Breaking the Taboo
16:07 - Shocking Statistics: Sex Lives of Over-50s
20:16 - The Lelo Survey: Best Sex of Their Lives
23:12 - The Great British Sex Experiment Discussion
25:27 - Top 5 Kinks for Over-50s Revealed
26:20 – Do We Need to Re-do Our Bucket List?
26:33 - Which Stereotype Do We Relate to?
30:17 - Creating Their Own Stereotype & Next Episode Preview

RESOURCES MENTIONED

• BBC Series: Riot Women
• Times Magazine Article on midlife crisis stereotypes
• Lelo Survey: Sex Lives of Over-50s
• Previous guests: Suzanne Noble (sex advice for seniors)and Dr. Elliott Justin
• Previous episode: The Happiness Curve & Midlife Malaise

NEXT EPISODE

Valentine's Day Special - February 6, 2026

#MidlifeCrisis #AgeingUnapologetically #SexAfter50 #MidlifeReinvention #PodcastOver50 #AgeingWell #MidlifeClubbing #Perimenopause #RiotWomen #SexualWellness #Over50AndThriving

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Dry January, Bucket Lists & David Bowie: Drinking, Ageing & Reinventing Yourself After 6023 Jan 202600:38:56

January isn’t over yet and neither are the resolutions, bucket lists, or existential reckonings. We take a brutally honest (and very funny) look at how our January intentions are actually going, from elusive masquerade balls and long-delayed bucket list dreams, to Dry January becoming… possibly Dry February.

Along the way, the conversation turns deeply personal: drinking habits, relationships, sex, sobriety, ageing bodies, and the symbolic end-of-day drink. The episode concludes with a passionate tribute to one of January’s most iconic sons, David Bowie, and why his legacy still matters across generations.

 Key Takeaways

  • Bucket lists don’t expire - sometimes timing is everything.
  • Alcohol is deeply symbolic, especially in relationships and daily rituals.
  • Stopping (or questioning) drinking later in life is emotional, not just physical.
  • Ageing invites honesty - about bodies, habits, sex and self-image.
  • David Bowie remains timeless, influencing generations long after his death.
  • January isn’t about perfection - it’s about reflection.

Timestamps

00:53  Our Bucket List Update, The Masquerade Ball - Venice, Versailles, eye-watering ticket prices and alternative

02:15 Kev finally ticks off a 23-year-old dream and the emotional backstory involving Jeremy Clarkson, fatherhood, guilt and timing

05:56 Kev’s Post-Christmas stubborn weight and why January hasn’t magically fixed anything

06:45 Drinking Maths – Kev is drinking 50–70 units a week, 4,000 calories, NHS guidelines and the uncomfortable truth behind “I don’t want to eat less”

08:11 He is considering “dry something” because 17.5M people in the UK are doing Dry January

09:11 The over-55s are least likely to question alcohol intake, Kev will do a month dry

10:16 Jo’s Sobriety Story, why she gave up alcohol over 20 years ago, being a single parent- fear, responsibility and choosing pain over pleasure

13:15 Jo & Kev have questions for each other from a recent article

13:36 Kev asks if she thinks he is drinking too much

15:40 When was the last time we had sober sex

16:20 If Kev gives up drinking, there is a possibility that he might be miserable

18:43 Kev predicts irritability, garage cleaning and losing the symbolic “end of the day” drink.

20:30 Celebrities of our age who have given up alcohol

22:10 David Bowie gave up alcohol in 1993

23:07 David and Elvis were massive icons

24:27 Ziggy Stardust was a redhead

24:55 The first airplay of “Heroes” played by John Peel, in the same year as Elvis died

26:05 Bowie’s cultural impact, he is timeless. He died 10 years ago, he released Black Star. Was that orchestrated?

29:20 Bowie was a nonconformist; he shaped music and fashion

29:54  A recent article said 10 bands wouldn’t exist without Bowie, including Sex Pistols, Joy Division, The Cure, Suede, Pulp, Placebo and The Kooks

38:37 We promise to report back on Dry January/February

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Our perspectives on Change - Is AI going to make a difference?16 Jan 202600:34:38

In this episode, we dive headfirst into one of the biggest changes of our time: AI.
Jo believes AI is moving fast and could be dangerous if left unchecked. Kev? Not convinced and frankly a bit exhausted by constant change.

From black-and-white TVs to ChatGPT, VHS barcode pens to Alexa paranoia, we explore how different generations adapt (or don’t), whether AI really threatens jobs or humanity itself and why fatigue, scepticism, and “I just can’t be arsed” might be the most honest response of all.

Funny, sharp and unfiltered this is a real conversation about ageing, tech, fear, curiosity, and knowing when to lean in… and when to say no.

Key Takeaways

  • AI feels revolutionary, but so did the internet, mobile phones and Sky TV
  • Change fatigue is real, especially after decades of adapting
  • AI will replace easy work, not human judgment
  • Critical thinking will matter more than ever
  • AI poses risks around misinformation, fraud, and emotional manipulation
  • The biggest danger may not be Skynet, but the exploitation of vulnerable people
  • You don’t have to love AI to accept it’s here
  • Curiosity beats panic (and denial)

Timestamps

  • 00:29 – Our attitudes to change, in particular to AI
  • 01:25 – Kev admits he’s an AI Philistine, he agrees he should know more
  • 02:32 – Growing up without phones, internet, or streaming and with black & white TVs
  • 03:29 – VHS recorders, barcode pens & early tech miracles
  • 04:28 – People said the internet “would never catch on”
  • 05:14 – Home automation – The internet of things
  • 06:52 – Change fatigue: “How many times can we relearn everything?”
  • 07:50 – AI at work: productivity tools & human oversight
  • 08:40 – Will AI take our jobs? The “easy work” argument
  • 10:30 – AI hallucinations and critical thinking
  • 11:24 – What the “big boys” are worried about
  • 11:57 – Creativity, charts & AI-generated music, what is real
  • 13:16 – AI avatars, grief & replacing dead loved ones
  • 14:02 – Kev’s glamourous AI version of Jo
  • 15:00 –Useful for the elderly
  • 16:06 – Humanoid robots and avatars
  • 16:54 – Fraud, FaceTime scams & the elderly
  • 17:54 – Cold War fears vs AI panic
  • 22:05 – The race to AGI & East vs West
  • 24:26 – Medical AI, wearables & privacy dilemmas
  • 27:23 – When tech fails the people it’s meant to help
  • 28:35 – Jo’s real-life AI uses for podcasts & business
  • 31:41 – Kev’s current use of AI and his commitment for 2026

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Menopause & Men: Navigating It Together14 May 202600:31:25

This week we get candid about one of the most overlooked relationship dynamics, what it's actually like when a woman is going through menopause and her partner is trying to keep up. Having been through it with two partners, Kev is something of an accidental expert and this episode is an honest, warm and sometimes hilarious look at what that journey really involves for both sides.

Key Takeaways

·       Menopause is technically one single day, 12 months after your last period. Everything else is peri or post, and post-menopause can last decades.

·       HRT can be life-changing but getting the balance right takes time. Oestrogen, progesterone and testosterone all play a role and the combination matters enormously.

·       Symptoms are not always obvious as menopausal. UTIs, anxiety, heart palpitations, poor sleep and mood swings can easily be mistaken for stress or personality.

·       Men who educate themselves make a tangible difference. Kev's prior experience meant he recognised the signs, suggested HRT and coached Jo through the worst of it without shame or blame.

·       Feeling chosen and emotionally safe allowed Jo to open up about what she was going through. Security matters as much as knowledge.

·       Only 26% of men in a recent survey attributed their partner's symptoms to menopause rather than ageing. 11% did nothing at all.

·       The responsibility should not fall entirely on women to explain what is happening to them.

Timestamps

00:09 Introduction and what menopause actually is

01:30 What we learned from a previous relationship going through menopause and HRT 03:30 Weight gain, libido, mood swings and separating stress from symptoms

05:00 Was she able to voice what was happening?

06:00 How Jo felt entering the relationship post-menopausal and low in confidence

07:45 The emotional chaos of menopause and not knowing who you are 09:00 The catfishing incident and the rocky early months

10:30 The blind date in Covent Garden and the moment a choice was made

12:30 How that moment changed what Jo felt able to share

14:00 Jo's symptoms: UTIs, palpitations, anxiety and sleep disruption

15:30 Suggesting HRT and why prior experience made that possible

17:00 The driveway tantrum, the forgotten laptop and two weeks off the patch

19:00 A previous relationship stops being a threat and becomes a gift

21:00 What changed after HRT: confidence, mood, sleep and playfulness

23:00 Louise Newson's 10 tips for partners and how we had already lived them

27:00 What men get wrong about menopause

28:30 The MATE survey and some sobering stats on men's attitudes and inaction

30:00 Why post-menopause is a long road and can actually be great

 

Louise Newson https://www.newsonhealth.co.uk/

MATE Mens attitude to menopause https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31188286/

 

 

The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After Midlife09 Jan 202600:34:13

What if everything we’ve been told about ageing and happiness is wrong?

In this episode of When the F**k Did I Become Old?, we dive into the surprising science behind happiness and why life often feels hardest in midlife but better on the other side of it.

Sparked by a viral Christmas clip that racked up over 163,000 views and ignited fierce debate, our conversation moves into the World Happiness Report, the Cantril Ladder and the research behind the so-called midlife malaise.

Kev shares insights from The Happiness Curve by Jonathan Rauch, revealing why happiness follows a U-shaped curve; dipping in our 40s and 50s before rising again as we age. Together we unpack expectations, resilience, gratitude, emotional intelligence and why getting older may actually be something to look forward to.

This is an honest, funny, and deeply reassuring episode for anyone who’s ever wondered:
Is this it?
(Spoiler: no, it really isn’t.)

Key Takeaways

  • Happiness follows a U-shaped curve, not a steady climb
  • Midlife is often the lowest point — and that’s normal
  • Young people are optimistic but unrealistic about happiness
  • Midlife pressure comes from expectations, responsibility, and comparison
  • After 50, people become more resilient, emotionally intelligent, and grateful
  • Older adults cope better with stress and uncertainty
  • Life shifts from striving to being
  • Ageing isn’t the end — it’s often the most fulfilling chapter
  • Reinvention and “encore careers” are common and powerful after midlife

Timestamps

00:45 – Christmas without children & why it went viral
02:40 – Introducing the topic: happiness
03:24 – The World Happiness Report & how happiness is measured
03:58 – The Cantril Ladder explained
05:30 – Happiest and unhappiest countries in the world
06:40 – The Happiness Curve & the surprising U-shape
08:28 – Why young people are happier (and more optimistic)
09:00 – The optimism bias & unrealistic expectations
12:06 – The hedonic treadmill: chasing “more”
12:50 – Kev’s personal happiness graph experiment
16:17– Midlife malaise vs the myth of the midlife crisis
16:50 – How longer lifespans changed everything
19:46 – Divorce, redundancy & pressure in midlife
20:35 – Glass ceilings and career reality checks
22:33 – Illness, mortality & emotional turning points
24:26 – Reframing and why life feels lighter after 50
26:45 – Why comparison changes and people believe they are happier
27:38 – Gratitude, perspective & comparison traps
28:41 – Increased emotional intelligence, resilience & compassion
30:21 – “Having what you want” vs “wanting what you have”
31:57 – Encore careers & reinvention after 50
33:15 – Why ageing isn’t the disaster we were sold

📚 Resources Mentioned

  • The Happiness Curve – Jonathan Rauch
  • World Happiness Report
  • Cantril Ladder of Life Satisfaction

Supporting organisations

https://www.oddfellows.co.uk/

https://www.workingtransitions.com/

https://www.proage.org/

 

 

 

New Year, Same You? Rethinking Resolutions, Bucket Lists & Ageing with Optimism02 Jan 202600:29:25

Do New Year’s resolutions actually work, especially as we get older?

In this honest, funny and refreshingly unfiltered episode we challenge everything we’ve been told about January self-improvement.

From overcrowded gyms and guilt-driven goal setting to the pressure to “start fresh” on January 1st, we explore why traditional New Year’s resolutions often fail and why optimism, agency and having something to look forward to matter far more as we age.

Drawing on insights from geriatric psychiatry, lived experience and bucket-list thinking for over-50s, this episode reframes ageing as a time for renewal, curiosity and choosing goals that genuinely make life more vibrant, not just more “virtuous”.

Key Takeaways

• Why looking forward to the future is vital for mental health in later life
• New Year’s resolutions vs bucket lists and which actually works
• Motivation, fitness and goal-setting after 50
• Why “boring but sensible” goals don’t always inspire change
• How hobbies, travel, social connection and curiosity keep life meaningful
• Choosing one achievable goal that makes life richer

If you’re over 50, questioning ageing, fed up with guilt-based self-improvement or simply want to feel more excited about what’s ahead, this episode is for you.

Timestamps


00:48 - Do either of us actually do resolutions? Kev has traditionally had projects planned.
04:07 - Are any of Jo’s regimes cyclical/planned for January 1st?
04:38 - Why don’t we do New Year's Resolutions?
05:50 - What is a New Year’s resolution and why is it important to make them?
09:45 - Christmas is a natural pause, which allows us to reflect
10:27 - Optimism and agency  give you the feeling of being in control
11:37 - The top 10 New Year’s resolutions for seniors, including exercise, mental health and diet
16:35 - Bucket lists vs resolutions: what’s the difference?
18:26  -Bucket list ideas for over-50s that actually excite us -Travel dreams, hobbies & new experiences
22:03 - Build something amazing
22:30 - Our joint bucket list wish list
25:40 - The benefits of goals that make a positive change for 2026
27:35 - Our goals for 2026

 

https://lifeconnect24.co.uk/blogs/hobbies/50-bucket-list-ideas

Staying Up To Date - with Tech and Trends17 Jul 202500:33:29

How to stay up to date.


Staying up to date with Thomas Power


Episode Summary:


In this episode we welcome our guest Thomas to discuss how to stay relevant with AI, Chat GPT and all the new tech and trends. Thomas gives his personal and professional takes on using AI and how this benefits everyone in all aspects of our lives.


Key Takeaways:

How AI is changing the way we work

Staying relevant


Timestamps:

• [01:01] – Introducing guest Thomas Power

• [03:05] – Staying on the edge

• [06:18] – How does a man like you stay curious

• [10:38] – What can we do to not get left behind?

• [14:10] – Integrating AI into your daily life and work life.

• [16:41] – How will AI change relationships

• [24:06] – Replacing people

• [29:55] - To old to try something new


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Exploring being a mother after 60 - Happy Mother's Day28 Mar 202500:33:54

Episode Summary: In this episode we talk about everything that is linked to Mother's Day. We discuss how Mother’s Day has changed as we have got older, the pressure of the day and why we celebrate Mother’s Day. We also talk about how it feels for others who don’t have mothers or who are not mothers and the impact the day has on them.


Key Takeaways:

Why do we celebrate Mother’s Day?

The pressure of Mother’s Day

The commercial impact behind Mother’s Day


Timestamps:

• [00:38] – What do you think of Mother’s Day

• [02:23] – Who is Mother’s Day being done for?

• [07:16] – How has your relationship with your mother changed over the years?

• [12:36] – How does the younger generation view Mother’s Day

• [13:33] – Why are we celebrating Mother’s Day

• [20:07] – All mother’s fuck up

• [29:22] – How do you encapsulate Mother’s Day


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Investment f**k ups and what we have learnt14 Aug 202500:35:50

SEASON 2 (The search for a new co-host)


Investment F**k Ups


Episode Summary:


Season 2 and we are introducing new co-hosts in this season. In this 1st episode we welcome our guest and new co-host for the next few weeks Paul Rolfe to discuss investments and fuck ups we have both done. Paul and I open up about scams we have been involved in and investments that didn’t work out.


This episode shares our personal experiences with investing, including the mistakes. It is not financial advice. Investments carry risks and what worked (or didn’t work) for us may not be right for you. Always seek independent, professional guidance from a qualified Independent Financial Adviser (IFA) before making any investment decisions.


Key Takeaways:


Only invest what you can afford to lose

Do your research

Timestamps:


• [01:01] – Exploring new co-hosts and welcome Paul

• [01:50] – Fuck ups I have made in investments

• [04:38] – Paul’s fuck ups

• [11:48] – Scams

• [15:50] – How do you avoid getting scammed

• [21:57] – Jo’s Investment

• [29:52] – Paul’s risky investments


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Dating in later life14 Feb 202500:33:36

What it is like to Date in Later Life.

 

Episode Summary:

 

In this episode we talk about dating with apps, setting expectations, getting naked, the "fuck of death" and so much more. We explore our own personal experiences and what it was like dating before social media. 

 

Key Takeaways:

Ask yourself why you are dating and what are you looking for in the relationship.

Don’t judge people on appearance.

Be curious, be open and no expectations.

 

Timestamps:

·      [00:38] – Dating Apps

·      [02:36] – Why are you dating? / What are you looking for?

·      [13:30] – How do we date in later life?

·      [27:31] - Setting Expectations.

 

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Erection Fitness - For health not just pleasure14 Nov 202500:43:00

Put an Erection Ring on it Episode


I have decided to replay this episode (for those of you who missed it) following last week's interview on Sex Advice for Seniors with Suazanne Noble, as she refers to the penis ring and is the UK distributor.

This is with Dr Elliot Justin who invented an erection ring that not only helps maintain an erection but also provides data on your erection health, which is an indication of other health issues. He talks in depth about the benefits of the erection ring and how people have responded to it.


Key Takeaways:

Dr Elliot Justin and the Erection Ring

Designing a device for women

How the erection ring can help you

Rock harder, last longer and have more intense orgasms put a ring on it


Timestamps:

• [00:27] – Introducing guest Dr Elliot Justin

• [01:39] – The Erection ring

• [11:04] – Not to call it Erectile Dysfunction

• [14:18] – How Women have been described

• [16:45] – Database

• [21:06] – Partner's response to the erection ring

• [26:02] – Shame and secrecy

• [31:56] - Device for women

• [32:54] – Your mission

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Right Sizing not Downsizing your home03 Jul 202500:28:59

Right Sizing not Downsizing


Don’t downsize just find the right size


Episode Summary:

In this episode we are joined by the amazing Sally Rule who is an incredible Homeologist. We talk with her about what a Homologist does and how she helps people in later life. She discusses why people call her in and the importance of finding the right size home. By the way Sally is our sponsor!


Key Takeaways:

How can a Homeologist help you

It’s not downsizing it’s find the right size for you

Less is more


Timestamps:

• [01:01] – Introducing guest Sally Rule

• [01:39] – What does a Homologist do?

• [04:12] – How do you help in the later life?

• [10:23] – Downsizing

• [12:50] – Declutter

• [16:50] – Why do people call you in?

• [21:10] – Bringing in Family Members

• [22:55] - Leaving it too late



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Erection Fitness - For health not just pleasure10 Jul 202500:43:00


Put an Erection Ring on it


Summary:


In this episode we have an amazing guest Dr Elliot Justin who has invented an erection ring that not only helps maintain an erection but also provides data on your erection health, which is an indication of other health issues. He talks in depth about the benefits of the erection ring and how people have responded to it.


Key Takeaways:


Dr Elliot Justin and the Erection Ring

Designing a device for women

How the erection ring can help you

Rock harder, last longer and have more intense orgasms put a ring on it


Timestamps:


• [00:27] – Introducing guest Dr Elliot Justin

• [01:39] – The Erection ring

• [11:04] – Not to call it Erectile Dysfunction

• [14:18] – How Women have been described

• [16:45] – Database

• [21:06] – Partner's response to the erection ring

• [26:02] – Shame and secrecy

• [31:56] - Device for women

• [32:54] – Your mission


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When friendships and relationships evolve24 Apr 202500:27:36

When friendship evolves in later life.


Episode Summary:

In this episode we discuss everything about friendships, how these change

in later life, what we need from a friendship and how to make new friends.

We talk about long term friends and new friends and also what friendship

means to us.


Key Takeaways:

What is friendship about?

What are you wanting from a friendship

The 4 assumptions


Timestamps:

• [00:18] – Talking about friendship and relationships for women.

• [03:45] – How do you make friends

• [07:51] – Worried about being judged

• [13:56] – Do you have anything in common with your husband

• [18:23] – As an older person what do you want out of your friendship.

• [21:45] – What does friendship mean to you

• [26:12] – The 4 assumptions


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Who Needs Friends Anyway? Why Midlife Can Feel Lonely & How Reclaiming Friendships Can Change That!07 May 202600:40:00

KEY TAKEAWAYS

  • Quality over quantity. Research suggests 4–5 deep friendships is all you need
  • Loneliness isn't about being alone — it's the gap between the connection you want and what you have
  • Midlife is the hardest time to make friends, but also when they matter most
  • Intentionality is everything — good friendships don't happen by accident anymore
  • Don't interpret silence as rejection — everyone is busy and overwhelmed
  • Audit your circle: use the Friendship MOT to decide where to invest your time
  • Start now. There's no better moment to reach out
What Happens Next - After we retire!24 Jul 202500:39:26

What happens next with Chris Daems


Episode Summary:

In this episode we welcome our guest Chris Daems who is the founder of Cervello (Financial Planning)and hostof the oodcast called What Happens Next.? We talk about how important it is be financially independent, have a good social wellbeing and physical wellbeing. We discuss how retirement has changed over the years and how there has been a mindset shift.


Key Takeaways:

What happens next podcast

Find your people

Book – Designing your life bu Bill Burnett


Timestamps:

• [01:03] – Introducing guest Chris Daems

• [02:06] – What happens next

• [08:33] – What are people doing in the transition

• [11:01] – Coaching people in life

• [13:01] – Greatest Challenges • [16:00] – Has retirement changed

• [19:58] – What is Chris’ what happens next

• [28:54] - Recurring themes

• [35:32] – Mindset shift


This is Chris

https://www.cervellofp.co.uk/

https://whathappensnext.life/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5MjdIt0_3W8&t=47s


Books

Designing Your Life by Bill Burnett

Bowling Alone by Robert D Putnam


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The HRT Journey Post Menopause12 Jun 202500:33:36

Jo's HRT Journey


Episode Summary

:

In this episode we talk about Jo’s HRT Journey, the side effects she has had from menopause including sleepless nights, anxiety and hair loss and how the HRT has helped with some of these. We discuss the changes you go through in your menopause. Gaylin opens up and talks about her HRT journey.


Key Takeaways:

Chasing a level of normality

Side effects of menopause

Has HRT helped?


Timestamps:

•                         [00:17] – Jo’s HRT journey

•                         [02:23] – HRT specialist

•                         [08:10] – What are we chasing

•                         [10:55] – Hair loss

•                         [14:24] – Is mood better now on HRT

•                         [18:32] – Gaylin’s HRT journey

•                         [22:21] – Post menopause

•                         [28:50] - What will happen moving forward

 

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Do we need to spend Christmas with our adult children?19 Dec 202500:31:42

In this episode, we explore the complexities of spending Christmas with adult children. We discuss the emotional challenges of changing family dynamics, the evolution of Christmas traditions and the importance of adapting to new realities as children grow up. We highlight the importance of open communication and understanding as our families navigate the evolving landscape of holiday celebrations.


Key Takeaways

Christmas with adult children brings new challenges.

Creating new traditions is essential as families evolve.

Emotional responses to children not being home for Christmas are common.

Parents must adapt to their children's changing preferences.

The pressure of parental expectations can affect holiday gatherings.

Open communication is key to understanding children's needs.

Christmas celebrations should reflect the current family dynamics.

It's important to allow children to create their own holiday experiences.

Financial considerations play a role in hosting Christmas.

Navigating adult relationships requires flexibility and understanding.


Time Stamps

01:14 Our first Xmas with no kids at home

01:38 Remembering Xmas as a child

06:04 Creating New Christmas Traditions for our kids

10:55 How it felt when my daughter asked if she could spend Xmas with her friends

13:15 Pros and cons of having Xmas with adult children

16:29 Managing expectations

17:58 Shifting Dynamics of Family Gatherings

18:23 Hosting Xmas is expensive

20:41 We think we might be invited for Xmas soon

21:21 We have to let our kids create their own Xmas

22:00 Main reasons adult children don’t want to spend Xmas with their parents

24:24 New Year’s Eve

27:35 Is this the last year we go clubbing on New Year’s Eve?

29:10 Get to know your children as adults

30:14 Redefining Christmas CelebrationsSubscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify

 

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Will we ever retire?22 May 202500:23:00

Will we ever Retire

Episode Summary:

In this episode we discuss if we will ever retire with the changes of age, who do we become when we retire and if we should prepare for retirement. We talk about what is retirement and what the expectations of retirement are. If we should plan for retirement and what to think about financially.


Key Takeaways:

Retirement age is changing

Do we actually retire?

Planning Retirement and Finances


Timestamps:

•  [00:44] – Dissertation on Retirement

•  [02:33] – Who are you when you retire?

•  [05:31] – Prepare for retirement

•  [09:47] – What is retirement?

•  [11:47] – Expectations of retirement

•  [14:10] – Planning retirement

•  [15:54] - Finances


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Shall we take are kids on holiday ....now that they are adults?26 Sep 202500:27:23

SEASON 2 (The search for a co-host) Meet Kev ( my partner)!


Shall we take the kids on holiday?


Episode Summary: 

In this episode we discuss having holiday with the children now they are older and have moved out. We also talk about holiday with the pets as well and the 

difficulties of holidays with pets. 


Key Takeaways: 

Creating family holidays and memories 

Paying for older children to go on holiday 

Why do we take them on holiday


Timestamps: 

• [01:55] – Having holidays when you have pets

• [05:18] – Planning a holiday with older kids

• [08:34] – Annoyed at paying for the children

• [11:51] – Why are we looking to take the children on holiday

• [22:03] – The last swansong


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Kev has his first "when the f**k did I become old" moment18 Sep 202500:27:37

SEASON 2 (The search for a co-host) Meet Kev ( my partner)!


Kev’s First When The F**K Moment


Episode Summary:

In this episode we introduce our co-host Kev Stockbridge and we discuss in depth his When the Fuck Did I become Old Moment. We talk about people’s perception of age and why Jo has to vet photos that go on social media.


Key Takeaways:

Someone else’s idea of old isn’t always your idea of old

Memories in Photo

Perception of how you look and how you feel


Timestamps:

•[01:14] – Introducing co host Kev Stockbridge

•[01:28] – Kev’s When the Fuck Moment

•[03:45] – Perception of age

•[08:45] – What age is perceived as old

•[11:58] – Why does Kev document with Photos

•[22:01] – Jo’s view of photos of her being on socials


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A look at holistic dentistry and its health benefits.09 Oct 202500:35:20

Holistic Dentistry


Episode Summary: 

In this episode we welcome Dr Elmar Jung to discuss Holistic Dentistry. He 

explains what Holistic Dentistry is and how they work. We have a very 

interesting chat about toxins in our mouth and how these toxins can link to 

other things in your body. 


Key Takeaways: 

Can toothache relate to something else in my body 

1st step is the most important one

Dr Elmar Jung’s podcast 


Timestamps: 

• [01:10] – Introduction of guest Dr Elmar Jung

• [02:08] – What is Holistic Dentistry

• [07:38] – Mercury in my mouth

• [16:45] – What is in people’s mouths 

• [19:28] – Fluoride 

• [22:10] – Where can we do our research

• [23:47] – How do we start 

• [27:50] – Root Canal



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Root Cause https://youtu.be/3s41QXReJ_4?si=uDlShJ7Bk4Aiyaf8

The Smoking Tooth https://youtu.be/fJVBYZEsqEU?si=UkeC1cuEhad3DAQH


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Sex After 60 - does it exist?28 Feb 202500:29:35

Let’s talk about Sex later in life

 

Episode Summary:

In this episode we talk about sex post menopause, dry vaginas, no libido  and sagging bits. We discuss how communicating your needs can benefit both parties. Introducing some toys and have some fun.

 

Key Takeaways:

Sex after Menopause.

How to have sex without a Libido

Communication about Sex is key

 

Timestamps:

·      [00:39] – Post Menopause

·      [08:01] – How to have to sex when you Lose your libido

·      [09:44] – Mumma Gena – Pussy book

·      [14:53] – Sex toys

·      [17:34] – How to have sex when you don’t feel sexy

 

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It is never too late to start again29 May 202500:36:10

It’s never to late to start over


Episode Summary:

In this episode we have our guest Clare Hughes who is an outstanding estate agent, discussing ageing in the industry and being a woman in estate agency. Clare shows us how it is never too late to start again, in any industry and under difficult circumstances.

We talk about health issues and surgery that Clare has had and how this has changed her life and career.


Key Takeaways:

Ageing and being a woman in estate agency

Women in Estate Agency Facebook group

What makes your feel sexy and successful in your 60’s


Timestamps:

• [00:18] – Introducing our guest estate agent Clare Hughes

• [00:58] – How have you found ageing in this industry?

• [03:02] – Reinventing yourself

• [04:28] – Health issues

• [11:04] – Women in Estate Agent Facebook group

• [15:07] – After effects of surgery

• [22:51] – What are doing now that your younger self wouldn’t have done?

• [28:04] – What’s left on your fuck it list

• [32:54] – What makes your feel sexy, successful and strong in your 60’s

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I have a retirement coach!31 Jul 202500:29:10

Episode Summary:

In this episode we welcome our guest David Puglsey (64) who opens up about his retirement coach. He talks about having a fear that he would retire and die, and how the coach is working with him on this. He discusses his little notebook and what this does to help him and open to new possibilities.


Key Takeaways:

Looking at you in coaching

Being open to possibility, possibilities will come to you


Timestamps:

[00:58] – Introducing guest David Pugsley

[04:00] – Retire and die

[07:26] – Getting a coach

[09:56] – Looking at you

[13:04] – David’s little notebook

[17:42] – What prompted you to start the book

[21:49] – Opening yourself up 


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The Generation Gap30 Apr 202600:38:49

Every generation thinks it had it hardest. Jo and Kev dig into a Sunday Times article taking a multidimensional look at how Boomers, Gen X, Millennials and Gen Z have fared across five key areas: housing, wages, consumer goods, relationships, and retirement. As parents of four Gen Z kids, this one is personal. Spoiler: the Boomers did have it better — but the picture is more nuanced than the kids would have you believe.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Housing: By 30, 50% of Boomers owned a home. First-time buyers today pay £73,800 in their first five mortgage years vs £41,500 for Boomers. The price-to-salary ratio has gone from 4.2x in 1975 to 7.6x today. Boomers had high rates but MIRAS tax relief softened the blow. Jo's 1988 Silvertown flat cost £85k — it's now £400k.

Wages: Under-20s are up 20% in real terms thanks to minimum wage rises. Ages 20–27 are flat. Above 27, wages are down. 45% of unemployed 24-year-old Gen Z have never held a job, and graduate oversupply is squeezing entry-level roles.

Consumer goods: Milk took 8 working minutes to earn in 1975, now 2. LCD TVs dropped from £4,500 to £279. But lifestyle creep absorbs the gains — one daily Starbucks is £225/month, and subscription stacking adds hundreds more.

Relationships: UK marriages fell from 400,000 in 1973 to 224,400 in 2023. Average marriage age has risen a full decade in two generations. Birth rates dropped from 2.93 in 1964 to 1.41 in 2024. Silver divorce is also on the rise.

Retirement: Boomers with final salary pensions had it best. Gen X were first to face defined contribution schemes — only 54% have adequate savings. Gen Z need £1,600/month to reach a £3m retirement pot. Their lifeline: the biggest intergenerational wealth transfer in history, if it survives inheritance tax changes.

Verdict: Boomers won. Gen X feel the pension pinch. Gen Z face delayed milestones but may inherit on an unprecedented scale. The generation game is not over.

TIMESTAMPS

  • 00:09 Welcome and intro to the generation debate
  • 01:30 Defining the four generations: Boomers, Gen X, Millennials, Gen Z
  • 02:28 Housing: mortgage costs compared across generations
  • 05:30 MIRAS, stamp duty wars and the race to complete in the 80s
  • 07:14 Wages vs house prices: the salary multiple then and now
  • 08:00 Jo's real-world test: his first flat in 1988 vs today
  • 10:30 Low-skilled workers and homeownership rates by generation
  • 11:30 Gen Z, university degrees and the graduate jobs squeeze
  • 14:00 Wages by age group: who's up, flat and down in real terms
  • 15:30 Consumer goods: the milk test (8 minutes vs 2 minutes)
  • 17:10 Tech prices: LCD TVs from £4,500 to £279
  • 19:00 Eating out: genuinely cheaper than 35 years ago
  • 20:30 Coffee culture and the £225-a-month Starbucks habit
  • 22:30 Subscriptions: the hidden drain no generation faced before
  • 24:30 Marriage stats: volume halved, age risen a decade in two generations
  • 26:00 Falling birth rates and the drift toward a one-child family
  • 28:00 Silver divorce, no-fault legislation and changing social norms
  • 30:31 Retirement: final salary pensions vs the defined contribution cliff edge
  • 32:30 Auto-enrolment from 2012 and the savings gap it exposed
  • 33:50 Gen Z's retirement challenge: the £3 million pot
  • 35:20 Inheritance as Gen Z's potential lifeline and the IHT threat
  • 37:13 Final verdict: who wins the generation game?
Have we become intolerant in our old age?08 May 202500:20:21

Episode Summary:

In this episode, we discuss tolerance and intolerance and how these change as you get older. We talk about how things changing around us affect our tolerance and the difference between tolerance and being moody.


Key Takeaways:

What we tolerate and don’t tolerate

How getting older changes what we tolerate

Is moody being intolerant?


Timestamps:

• [01:20] – Do you think its fear?

• [02:33] – Are you finding yourself more intolerant?

• [04:04] – What is tolerance?

• [8:17] – Understanding the new way of living

• [11:54] – How do we maintain our boundaries?

• [16:05] – Express your boundaries without being offensive

 

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What is happening to my skin? (Hair and Teeth?)28 Aug 202500:30:38

SEASON 2 (The search for a co-host)


What is happening to my skin, hair and teeth?


Episode Summary:

In this episode Paul and I discuss what happens to your skin, hair and teeth when you get older. We discuss Jo’s hair and skin changes and Paul discusses his long teeth journey.


Key Takeaways:

Keep skin hydrated

Hair changes

Losing teeth and teeth treatment


Timestamps:

[01:09] – Changes to our skin

[08:44] – The 75 day hard

[11:44] – Hair loss

[17:26] – Teeth 


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Unexpected Interests & Hobbies I want to pursue when I retire21 Aug 202500:30:30

SEASON 2 (The search for a co-host)


Unexpected Interests and Hobbies

Episode Summary:

In this episode Paul and I discuss the hobbies that we have both taken up and what we are looking to do to push us out of our comfort zone. We also talk about the difference between hobbies and interests and the importance of a community.


Key Takeaways:

Do what you want

Community is key


Timestamps:

[01:10] – Paul’s Hobbies

[09:01] – What’s the difference between hobby and interest

[14:25] – Silent discos

[19:04] – Learn to public speak

[21:42] – Knitting

[22:54] – Community

[28:37] – Our conclusion


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Battle of the sexes in the aging process - it's not fair!10 Apr 202500:21:49

The Battle of the Sexes as we age.

Episode Summary:

In this episode we discuss the difference between Men and Women aging. We talk about how men can still reproduce at older age, how the media perceives it to be allowed for Men to get old but not for Women and the grey hair look on both Men and Women.

Key Takeaways:

Men can still biologically still reproduce at older age.

If they can shame people into buying something then they are making money.

Grey Hair

Timestamps:

• [00:17] – Physical Appearance

• [03:22] – Why are men allowed to be older

• [04:16] – Biologically men can still produce • [09:48] – Men are more attractive when older than women

• [12:08] – It takes Women much longer to look better.

• [17:13] – The grey hair

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So You’ve Retired… Now What? LivOn’s Amanda Forsyth Has Answers12 Dec 202500:29:41

Jo sits down with Amanda Forsyth, the co-founder and CEO of LivOn, a new app helping people navigate the transition into retirement by discovering their interests, building purpose and staying connected to their community.Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. 

They unpack identity loss, loneliness and why retirement is far more than finances and how LivOn is redefining what this next chapter can look like.


Key Takeaways

Retirement is a whole new chapter, not an ending

So much of “good retirement” is down to luck

Identity loss is a huge, hidden problem

Live On is like a retirement coach in your pocket

Special support for men & the newly “forced” retired

The app is free, with a “tech for good” mission


Timestamps

01:38 - What is LivOn

02:04 - Retirement Comes Down to Luck

02:40 - Amanda’s Parents’ Journey

04:28 - The Difficulty of Finding Activities After 60

05:34 - 1 in 3 People Struggle with Retirement

06:04 - We Are Living Much Longer

06:20 - What LivOn Offers (Overview)

07:25 - The Personality Test, designed to help the individual

07:53 - How the App Recommends Activities

09:30 - Helping Introverts or the Newly Alone Make Friends

10:26 - Partnerships & Trusted Sources

11:25 - Supporting Men in Retirement

12:33 - Can Users Add Their Own Groups or Events?

13:42 - If the App Is Free, How Will It Make Money?

14:32 - What Might the Premium Version Include?

15:15 - The Gap in the Market

17:08 - Who Is the App For? (55+ and beyond)

18:35 - Why Aren’t We Emotionally Prepared for Retirement?

19:38 - Jo Talks About Kev’s Forthcoming Retirement Process

22:22 - Why Live On Avoids Health & Finance Advice (For Now)

23:40 - Anonymous Chat Groups (Reddit-Style)

25:56 - The Bigger Mission

28:24 - When Is the App Launching? January 2026

28:46 - Early Testers Wanted

Website: www.livon.ai (people can sign up for early access and learn a bit more about what we’re building.)


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Finding yourself after divorce...post 5002 Oct 202500:29:18

SEASON 2 The search for a co-host conitues with Kev ( my partner)!


Finding yourself after divorce...post 50


Episode Summary:

In this episode we talk about getting a divorce in later life and finding your identity again. We discuss getting back into doing things we love and making new friends along the way.


Key Takeaways:

40% of marriages end in divorce

Everything has an end to it

Finding your identity


Timestamps:

• [01:36] – Kev’s divorce

• [05:10] – Identity

• [10:00] – Getting back into motorcycling

• [18:44] – Kev going to India

• [24:25] – What you do creates your identity


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Early Days of Retirement - What I wish I had done!17 Apr 202500:31:44

The Early Days of Retirement.

 

Episode Summary:

In this episode we discuss the early days of retirement with our guest Paul Rolfe. We talk about how the process feels and what regrets you may have. We go into the money side of retirement and when and what to think about at younger ages.

 

Key Takeaways:

Finances in retirement

Regrets before retirement

How retirement makes you feel

Paul Rolfe’s new podcast, called Happy Money, is due to be released end of May

 

Timestamps:

·      [00:14] – Introducing guest Paul Rolfe

·      [01:12] – How you finding retirement 4 months in?

·      [04:51] – Does retirement feel like freedom or a slow march toward irrelevance?

·      [09:30] – What are you doing to push yourself out of your comfort zone?

·      [13:23] – What gets you out of bed in the morning?

·      [15:48] – Biggest lie society tells us about retirement

·      [24:28 ] – Paul’s podcast release date

·      [25:54] – What would your advice be to 40-year-old you?

 

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Living with Parkinson's Disease16 Oct 202500:32:06

SEASON 2 The search for a co-host conitues with Corinne Franceschi (ex head teacher)


In this episode, Jo Parker and Corrine Franceschi discuss the challenges and realities of living with Parkinson's disease, particularly from the perspective of a caregiver. Corrine shares her personal experiences with her partner's diagnosis, the emotional and physical toll of caregiving, and the importance of awareness and support systems. They explore the impact of the disease on relationships, the necessity of maintaining one's identity, and practical advice for those newly diagnosed. The conversation emphasizes the need for greater understanding and resources for both patients and caregivers.



Takeaways


  • Parkinson's affects everyone differently, with over 40 symptoms.
  • Early onset Parkinson's tends to progress more slowly.
  • There is a lack of awareness about Parkinson's as a growing neurological condition.
  • Caregiving can lead to emotional detachment as a protective mechanism.
  • Support systems are crucial but often lacking in understanding of Parkinson's.
  • The impact of Parkinson's extends to family and relationships.
  • Maintaining personal identity is vital for caregivers.
  • Practical advice includes understanding treatment options and side effects.
  • Finding joy and personal fulfillment is essential for caregivers.
  • Establishing lasting power of attorney is important for managing care.


Timestamps

01:34 Introduction to Parkinson's Disease

02:36 Understanding Parkinson's: Symptoms and Progression

07:40 The Emotional Toll of Caregiving

12:00 Navigating Healthcare and Support Systems

16:04 The Impact on Relationships and Family

20:34 Not Feeling Guilty, Finding Joy and Maintaining Identity

22:22 Depression and Dignitas

24:23 Going into a Care Home

26:12 Lasting Power of Attorney

28:09 Practical Advice for New Diagnoses



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Cosmetic Surgery, Weight Loss Drugs and Why Gen X Won’t Age Quietly05 Dec 202500:35:30


Episode Summary

In this unapologetically honest episode, we dive into the exploding world of cosmetic surgery, injectables and weight-loss drugs, especially for people over 50. From facelifts to Ozempic, celebrity transparency and the reality of loose skin, we explore what’s real, what’s taboo and what’s becoming completely normal.

We also discuss how Gen X is redefining aging, why social media is both inspiring and exhausting and the huge rise in both men and women seeking aesthetic treatments.



Topics Discussed

  • Why celebrities finally admitting surgery helps everyone
  • Cosmetic procedures growing rapidly in men (up 70% since 2021)
  • The difference between surgery in the 2000s vs today
  • Zoom culture and the rise of self-criticism
  • Top cosmetic procedures for men vs women
  • Jo’s personal experience with surgery & Botox
  • Kev’s reconstructive surgery story
  • Are facelifts still taboo? Why they shouldn’t be?
  • Brad Pitt rumours (has he or hasn't he?)
  • Fitness culture, shredding and the pressure to look “ageless”
  • Weight loss drugs (Ozempic/Wegovy/Mounjaro) becoming mainstream
  • The truth about side effects: sickness, muscle loss & long-term risk
  • Loose skin after weight loss and why it’s driving more facelifts
  • Gen X refusing to “act old” and how culture is shifting
  • Confidence, comparison and the expectations placed on women over 50


Timestamps

  • 01.45 – Celebrity honesty & why it matters
  • 04:13– Kev’s reconstructive surgery background
  • 06:48 – Zoom culture and self-image after 50
  • 08:05 – Men vs women: top 5 cosmetic procedures
  • 11:05 – Kev on ageing, weight, and “could I be bothered?”
  • 13:48 – Jo on Botox, implants & considering a facelift
  • 14:48 – “Glamour pusses” over 50: Liz Hurley, Aniston, Kidman
  • 18:32 – Gen X is ageing differently, here’s why
  • 22:34 – What men really think about women having surgery
  • 24:38 – Facelifts in Turkey & risks vs results
  • 28:00 – The weight-loss drug boom
  • 31:49 – Side effects, muscle loss & poor dosage
  • 33:00 – Weight loss → loose skin → facelift trend
  • 34:20 – Weight loss drugs and cosmetic work are no longer taboo


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Thriving not Survivng04 Sep 202500:30:53

Episode Summary:

In this episode we introduce our amazing guest Gina Gardiner, she discuss her accident and what pathways she took after. We talk about her motivation and her having a sense of purpose throughout life. Gina has also written 37 books and 3 of them have been number 1 best sellers.

Key Takeaways:

Focus on what you can do

Happiness is a choice

Believe in someone even when they don’t believe in themselves

Timestamps:

• [00:55] – Introducing our guest Gina and her story

• [12:47] – Where do you get your motivation from

• [18:20] – Sense of purpose in retirement

• [24:11] – Is aging a challenge 


Gina’s book https://genuinely-you.co/page/books


To lead others, you first need to transform into the best version of yourself and lead from a place of wholeness. In a new era of leadership, most are finding that there’s a deeper meaning to their overall purpose and reason for existing. This expands far beyond the approaches that have been taught in the traditional paradigms or even some of the most leading-edge programmes. Enlightenment, personal and spiritual mastery and leadership refinement are the core components required for creating a new landscape of leadership.


If you would like Gina’s blueprint either https://enlightenedleadership.co/page/free-blueprint or  ginagardinerandfriends@gmail.com with "Blueprint" in the subject title


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Stop Snoring, Start Sleeping: What You Need to Know About Sleep Apnoea and Ageing23 Apr 202600:32:27

Timed to coincide with National Stop Snoring Week (27 April to 3 May). 

Episode Description

Jo sits down with sleep psychologist Dr Maja Schaedel to unpack everything nobody tells you about snoring, sleep apnoea and ageing. From why women approaching menopause are increasingly at risk, to whether sleeping in separate bedrooms might actually save your relationship, this conversation covers the practical, the awkward and the surprisingly funny.

 

Key Takeaways

•        Snoring disrupts partners more than snorers themselves. Sleeping apart is not the beginning of the end. •        Women approaching menopause are increasingly likely to snore and develop sleep apnoea due to hormonal and physical changes in the throat.

•        Sleep apnoea in women often looks different to men. Watch for fatigue, lethargy, dry mouth and broken sleep rather than obvious snoring.

•        Alcohol worsens snoring. Move your drinks earlier in the evening so your body has time to process it before bed.

•        There are multiple types of snoring. The BSSAA free interactive sleep test can help identify which type you have before you see a GP.

•        A CPAP is still the gold standard for sleep apnoea. Less severe cases may be treated with a mandibular advancement device.

•        Magnesium might improve sleep by about 15 minutes. CBT for insomnia (CBT-I) is far more evidence-based. Apps like Sleepio and Sleepful are a good starting point.

•        Power naps work best at 15 to 20 minutes. Beyond 30 minutes, you risk sleep inertia and feeling worse than before.

•        Sleep quality naturally declines after 55 for both men and women.

•        Poor sleep costs the average person around £5,000 a year. 

Timestamps

00:00  Welcome and introducing Dr. Maja Schaedel and the problem of snoring

01:15  Why partners suffer more than snorers

03:07  Why people snore, menopause, hormones and the snoring link

04:06  Sleeping apart: stigma, reality and relationship benefits

07:04  Sleep apnoea symptoms in women versus men

07:50  How insomnia and sleep apnoea feed each other

10:02  National Stop Snoring Week and the BSSAA

11:05  Sleep position, alcohol and easy lifestyle tweaks

12:35  Types of snoring and the BSSAA sleep test

14:56  What to do if you suspect sleep apnoea

16:30  CPAP, mouth guards and treatment options

18:30  Perimenopause, hormones and disrupted sleep

20:58  Why sleep declines after 55 for everyone

22:16  The perfect power nap (and when it backfires)

24:02  The hidden £5,000 a year cost of bad sleep

25:29 Magnesium, melatonin and what the research actually says

26:10  CBT-I, sleep apps and where to get real help

 

Links

British Snoring and Sleep Apnoea Association: britishsnoring.co.uk

The Good Sleep Clinic: goodsleep.clinic/

sleepio.com

sleepful.me

Navigating The Challenges of Aging Parents07 Mar 202500:28:32

Navigating the challenges of aging parents


Episode Summary:

In this episode we talk about navigating older parents, talking about support and help for you and for the aging parents. We discuss putting parents into homes and how to make challenging decisions.


Key Takeaways:

Looking after older parents

Asking for help

Having relationships with your adult children


Timestamps:

• [01:04] – Navigating older parents

• [05:52] – How to get support

• [10:13] – Help

• [15:43] – Hide them in a home

• [21:36] – How to have a relationship with your adult children



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The Importance Purpose11 Sep 202500:29:21

Episode Summary:

In this episode we introduce our guest Craig Goldblatt, where we discuss the purpose of life. We talk in depth about finding our internal world and beliefs and how important these are. We discuss purpose, the meaning of purpose and Craig’s view of it.


Key Takeaways:

Thoughts become a belief

A purpose is doing something that fulfils us inside

Who we spend our lives with is how we will become


Timestamps:

• [01:46] – Finding our sense of purpose

• [05:00] – How to spend more time inside

• [08:48] – Our internal world

• [13:33] – Feeling fulfilled

• [15:28] – Our beliefs change everything

• [23:35] – Does purpose need to be massive

• [28:03] – Craig’s finishing statement 


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Men’s Mental Health, Movember & The Silent Epidemic of Loneliness21 Nov 202500:32:04

This week I welcome my new co-host, Kev Stockbridge, for a deep, honest, and surprisingly uplifting conversation about Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month, International Men’s Day, and the often-hidden issue of male loneliness , especially as men age.

Kev brings his experience as a UK Mental Health First Aider, sharing shocking statistics, the roots of men’s silence, why loneliness hits men harder later in life, the crisis of male social isolation, and why so many men fall off a social cliff after retirement.

From Movember moustaches to actionable support models, from suicide statistics to why men avoid support groups filled with women, this episode is equal parts enlightening, tender, funny, and necessary.


Key Takeawys

  • Why November matters for men’s mental health
  • Movember: where it started and what it funds today
  • Suicide statistics and the shocking gender divide
  • How men and women differ in social connection
  • Why loneliness skyrockets for men over 50
  • The “A.L.E.C.” model anyone can use to support someone
  • Why retirement is psychologically dangerous for men
  • How purpose protects mental health
  • The rise of male-only support spaces (Men’s Shed, Andy’s Man Club)
  • Creating social networks before retirement
  • Practical, real-life ways to support the men in your life

Timestamps

01:57 – Why Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month matters

03:11 – Suicide; methods & how they differ by age

05:30 – Movember: the origin story (and the ridiculous moustaches)

06:34 – What Movember funds today

08:00 – The Distinguished Gentleman’s Ride

09:35 – International Men’s Day & this year’s theme

11.34 – Why men die younger than women

13.33 – The A.L.E.C. Model: Ask, Listen, Encourage, Check-in

14:10 – What problems men bring to mental health first aiders

15:50 – Loneliness: the hidden epidemic for older men

16:35 – Social isolation vs loneliness (they’re not the same)

18:00 – 911,000 men over 50 live alone, rising to 1.5 million by 2030

20:55 – Why men struggle socially after 50

22:17 – Why men avoid support groups run mostly by women

22:45 – Men’s Shed, Andy’s Man Club & male-only spaces

24:50 – Kev’s personal retirement plans (and my opinion)

29:12 – The importance of purpose, routine & brain stimulation after retirement

30:36 – Men need reasons to meet up, not just “a chat”

31:10 – Being kind, checking in, and supporting the men around you


https://uk.movember.com

https://internationalmensday.com

https://www.ageuk.org.uk/information-advice/health-wellbeing/loneliness/

https://menssheds.org.uk

https://andysmanclub.co.uk


 

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How Erectile Dysfunction Affects Women26 Jun 202500:27:17


How Erectile Dysfunction Affects Women


Episode Summary:


In this episode we talk about how the blue pill affects women, especially as we get older, how it doesn’t supply the desire just the erection and how that affects relationships. We talk about the importance of communication, why don’t we tell our partners we are using pills for erections or pessaries for dryness? We discuss what the equivalent is for women and how this affects women. We are looking for questions for our guest on July 3rd and would love for people to message in if they have been affected by the blue pill, either positively or negatively.


Key Takeaways:

Questions before 3rd July for Dr Elliot Justin

The blue pill is purely functional

Why don’t we talk about this?

Women’s equivalent to Viagra


Timestamps:

•                         [01:01] – Effects of Viagra on women

•                         [06:55] – You both need to be aroused

•                         [08:50] – Worried about telling partners

•                         [13:30] – Penetrative Sex

•                         [15:49] – Female equivalent to Viagra

•                         [16:43] – Testosterone

•                         [17:50] – Pills for women

•                         [22:15] – Please share women’s experiences


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