When you're a parent, every day brings a "fresh hell" to deal with. In other words, there's always something. Think of us as your funny mom friends who are here to remind you: you're not alone, and it won't always be this hard.
We're Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables, both busy moms of three kids, but with completely different parenting styles. Margaret is a laid-back to the max; Amy never met a spreadsheet or an organizational system she didn't like.
In each episode of "What Fresh Hell" we offer lots of laughs, but also practical advice, parenting strategies, and tips to empower you in your role as a mom. We explore self-help techniques, as well as ways to prioritize your own needs, combat stress, and despite the invisible workload we all deal with, find joy amidst the chaos of motherhood.
If you've ever wondered "why is my kid..." then one of us has probably been there, and we're here to tell you what we've learned along the way.
We unpack the behaviors and developmental stages of toddlers, tweens, and teenagers, providing insights into their actions and equipping you with effective parenting strategies.
We offer our best parenting tips and skills we've learned. We debate the techniques and studies that are everywhere for parents these days, and get to the bottom of what works best to raise happy, healthy, fairly well-behaved kids, while fostering a positive parent-child relationship.
If you're the default parent in your household, whether you're a busy mom juggling multiple pickups and dropoffs, or a first-time parent seeking guidance, this podcast is your trusted resource. Join our community of supportive mom friends laughing in the face of motherhood!
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Fresh Take: Ellen Skrmetti on What Happens When Life Goes "Cattywampus"
vendredi 6 novembre 2026 • Durée 29:54
Most days, Ellen Skrmetti's house is a little cattywampus—something, somewhere, is going to be a tad askew. And these days, what's most likely to be cattywampus might be her hair— or her hormones.
In this hilarious interview, Ellen tells us about her new memoir CATTYWAMPUS, and how her comedy, her family, and her intergenerational friendships keep her sane through all of life's ups and downs.
Amy and Ellen discuss:
some very Southern and ladylike ways to say "no"
whether one can have a "little bit of cancer"
why it's worth the work to have female friends in all stages of life
why we can't wait until it's "convenient" to pursue our dreams
Here's where you can find Ellen:
https://ellenskrmetti.com
Buy CATTYWAMPUS: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9781546011248
@ellen.skrmetti on FB
@justskrmetti on IG and TikTok
@ellenskrmetti on YouTube
What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.
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How to Do a Reset When Your Household Has Gone Off the Rails
Épisode 493
mercredi 4 novembre 2026 • Durée 45:24
When family routines fall apart, it can feel overwhelming to attempt a reset. But getting things "back to one" is possible. In this episode, we answer a listener’s question about how to get routines and household expectations back to normal after a chaotic stretch.
We discuss:
Why family systems can break down gradually or all at once
The questions to ask yourself before actually trying to fix anything
How clear expectations when things are calm can make it easier to know what you're returning to
How to respond to the pushback you will probably encounter
Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:
Sege, R. D., and Siegel, B. S. for Pediatrics: Effective Discipline to Raise Healthy Children
CDC's Essential Tips for Parenting Toddlers and Preschoolers:
Tips for Relying on Routines and Rules
CDC's Essential Tips for Parenting Toddlers and Preschoolers:
Tips for Responding to Behavior
Harvard University Center on the Developing Child: A Guide to Executive Function
Amy Sutherland for the NYT: What Shamu Taught Me About a Happy Marriage
Our episode Creating Systems That Work
Our episode How to Make the Back-to-School Transition a Little Easier
Our episode When Kids Hate Transitions
What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.
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Deep Dive: Does Having Kids Ruin Your Marriage Forever?
lundi 2 novembre 2026 • Durée 45:25
This Deep Dive series revisits some of our previous episodes about dynamics with our parenting partners.
Have you and your spouse slipped into "angry partners at the 24/7 daycare" mode since your baby was born? Here's why relationships change after kids, and some real solutions that can help us get through it.
Amy and Margaret discuss:
The number-one reason relationships change after a baby is born
Helpful perspectives for maintaining sanity during early parenthood
Small steps for building back connection with your partner
Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:
Jessica Grose for the NYT: Fighting Constantly after Baby? Read This
Doss BD, et al. The Effect of the Transition to Parenthood on Relationship Quality: An Eight-Year Prospective Study.
Alex Vance for Verywell Family: 4 Ways To Focus On Your Relationship When the Kids Keep You Busy
Jessica Grose for the NYT: Bickering More After Kids? Learn how to avoid the four horsemen of the relationship apocalypse.
Christina Caron for the NYT: How to Reconnect with Your Partner After Kids
Judd Apatow: "Who Slept Worse?"
What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.
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Fresh Take: Kristin Hensley and Jen Smedley of "I Mom So Hard" on Surviving Middle School Parenting
vendredi 30 octobre 2026 • Durée 46:08
How do we parent middle schoolers while simultaneously experiencing the PTSD of our own middle school years? Kristin Hensley and Jen Smedley , co-hosts of "I Mom So Hard," join Margaret to talk about their how new book, THE MIDDLE SCHOOL MOM'S SURVIVAL GUIDE, approaches puberty, changing friendships, and the increasingly high stakes of parenting tweens and teens with plenty of humor.
Margaret, Kristin, and Jen discuss:
How our own middle school experiences can color the way we parent
Why kids need room to make mistakes and figure things out for themselves.
Why being bored makes a kid more interesting
Parenting middle schoolers while navigating perimenopause, menopause, and aging parents
Here's where you can find Kristin and Jen:
https://imomsohard.com
Listen to the "I Mom So Hard" podcast
@imomsohard on FB, IG, YouTube, and Threads
@realimomsohard on TikTok
Buy THE MIDDLE SCHOOL MOM'S SURVIVAL GUIDE: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9781668201916
What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.
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Weaponized Incompetence—and Weaponized Passivity
Épisode 492
mercredi 28 octobre 2026 • Durée 41:44
There are several sneaky ways for the people we work with, or live with, to get away with participating less in the work that needs to happen. "Weaponized incompetence" became TikTok-famous during the pandemic, and most of us became more aware when that was being deployed.
A recent Substack post by Ask Astrid suggested that "weaponized passivity" may be a subtler but equally effective opt-out option. When someone says "I don't care what we have for dinner, I'll eat whatever," are they being generous, low-key, and collaborative? Or are they declaring themselves "not it," knowing dinner will still be served (by you) and they'll still get to eat?
We discuss:
How to spot weaponized incompetence, weaponized passivity, and weaponized irritability
How gender roles and socialization teach women to anticipate the needs of the domestic sphere, while rewarding men for being hands-off and largely inattentive
Practical ways to challenge these patterns, including recognizing that “not caring” doesn't mean something doesn't need to get done
How these dynamics show up with our kids, our teenagers... and yes, sometimes, ourselves
We loved Ask Astrid's Substack on this topic and refer to it heavily in this episode. Read for yourself: Meet weaponized passivity: incompetence's quieter sibling
Here are links to some of the other resources mentioned in the episode:
Maggie Zhou for Refinery29: Why Is ‘Weaponized Incompetence’ Blowing Up On TikTok? Because Too Many Of Us Do It
Fresh Take: Allison Daminger, WHAT'S ON HER MIND- The Mental Workload of Family Life
Changing the Invisible Workload (with guest Eve Rodsky)
Celestial Sylvia on FB: Weaponized incompetence in "You Can See Everything"
What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.
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Deep Dive: Is It Sometimes Easier When Our Spouses Aren't Around?
lundi 26 octobre 2026 • Durée 39:15
This Deep Dive series revisits some of our previous episodes about dynamics with our parenting partners.
There are lots of reasons why someone might find parenting easier when their spouse is not around, and not all of them are a cause to call in the couples therapist. A listener posted in our Facebook group:
Anyone else feel like things are easier when their spouse isn’t home? We’ve been dealing with some family issues so he is out of town. I find that when he isn’t here, my kids listen better, we make a good team and work together, they sleep better, etc. Is that weird? How can one person make such a difference? Not much has changed except I do a little more (take out the trash, drop kids off at school) so it’s not that I have more time. It just seems more peaceful in our home or something. And to be honest, I’m not sure it’s a good sign!
When we're solo parenting, we have more alone time, we don't have to negotiate child-related or housework-related decisions, and there are fewer dishes and dirty clothes to wash. If you like it when your spouse is away, that doesn't mean you love them any less or they're a bad spouse. But are there advantages we can consider making part of our parenting all the time? That might also be a possibility.
Amy and Margaret discuss:
Why it's easier to solo parent sometimes
How the pandemic changed couple dynamics
How to discuss with our spouse how we feel
Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:
Katie Cloyd for Scary Mommy: "My Life Is Easier When My Husband Travels"
Meredith Bland for Parent Map: "Parenting is Easier When My Husband is Out of Town"
We Did Not Sign Up For Being With Our Spouses 24/7 (with guest Damona Hoffman)
A Room Of Our Own: Claiming the Space We Need
What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.
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Fresh Take: Meg Stone on Campus Sexual Violence and Empowerment Self-Defense
vendredi 23 octobre 2026 • Durée 39:27
This episode includes discussion of rape and sexual assault.
As parents, we have been horrified by the reports of sexual violence on Cornell’s campus in 2024, and dismayed that so little seems to have changed since we were in college ourselves. How do we teach our children to protect themselves from sexual violence on campus? And how mad do we get to be at the institutions that still aren’t protecting them?
On this episode we interview violence prevention expert Meg Stone, executive director of IMPACT Boston and author of The Cost of Fear: Why Most Safety Advice is Sexist, and How We Can Stop Gender-Based Violence and Don’t Fight Back and 10 Other Myths About Crime, Personal Safety, and Gender-Based Violence.
This conversation explores why sexual violence is usually committed by someone the victim knows, why common safety advice can be both ineffective and victim-blaming, and what research says about empowerment-based prevention.
Meg also discusses practical skills, boundary setting, bystander responsibility, and the role parents and institutions can play—without placing responsibility for violence on those targeted.
We discuss:
Why the “stranger jumping out of the bushes” is a misleading picture of sexual violence
Why one-time online campus trainings often fail to change behavior
How victim-blaming has shaped conversations about sexual violence
What empowerment-based self-defense programs teach—and why practice matters
How stress can make it harder to respond in the moment
Why refusal skills and boundary setting can be protective
How friends, bystanders, and institutions can interrupt abuse
Where families can look for empowerment self-defense and comprehensive sex education
The conversation emphasizes practicing refusal and interruption under stress, bystander responsibility, and finding trainings via the Empowerment Self-Defense Alliance and the National Women’s Martial Arts Federation.
Here’s where you can find Meg Stone’s work and the resources mentioned:
Impact Boston: impactboston.org
Meg Stone: megstone.org
Empowerment Self-Defense Alliance: https://www.empowermentsd.org/
National Women’s Martial Arts Federation: https://nwmaf.org/
The Cost of Fear by Meg Stone
Don’t Fight Back and 10 Other Myths About Crime, Personal Safety, and Gender-Based Violence by Meg Stone
Sexual Citizens by Jennifer S. Hirsch and Shamus Khan
If you or someone you love has been impacted, help is available. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is available 24/7 at 1-800-799-SAFE or by texting "START" to 88788. RAINN's National Sexual Assault Hotline can be reached at 1-800-656-HOPE.
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What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.
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You Might Also Like: Zero Reject from Understood.org
mercredi 21 octobre 2026 • Durée 31:41
Beth Gellman-Beer spent her whole career fighting for kids with disabilities — first as a student written off as “lazy,” then as a federal civil rights attorney who found her dream job protecting students like her younger self. But on one ordinary night, a phone call changed everything: Her entire office had been eliminated.
In the premiere of Zero Reject, reporter Anya Kamenetz traces Beth’s journey from an unfair fourth-grade classroom to the front lines of a sweeping overhaul at the Department of Education’s Office for Civil Rights — the agency families turn to when a school isn’t meeting their child’s needs. Anya breaks down the reduction in force that gutted OCR’s staff, what it means for the 25,000 families still waiting for a response to their complaints, and the plan to dismantle the Department of Education altogether. With fewer people to enforce the law, what happens to the students the system was built to protect?
https://lnk.to/zerorejectFD!whatfreshhell
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Conflict Resolution: How to Fight Fair and Repair Relationships
Épisode 491
mercredi 21 octobre 2026 • Durée 46:54
How do we handle conflict with those closest to us without damaging the relationship or going in circles? We discuss why some people avoid conflict while others escalate quickly, how our family of origin shapes the way we handle disagreements, and common triggers for starting conflicts.
We discuss:
What happens in the brain during conflict
Practical conflict-resolution strategies, including the EAR method and the BIFF method
Why sometimes the conflict is over before you’re done being angry and how to handle that
Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:
Aaron Steen and Kanade Shinkai for the International Journal of Women's Dermatology: Understanding individual and gender differences in conflict resolution: A critical leadership skill
Peter Reuell for the Harvard Gazette: Resolving conflict: Men vs. women
Danya Rumore for the University of Utah Environmental Dispute Resolution Program blog: The power of calm when dealing with conflict
Bill Eddy for the High Conflict Institute: How to Avoid Getting Hooked by High Conflict Behavior
Bill Eddy for the High Conflict Institute: Calming Upset People Fast with EAR
Bill Eddy for the High Conflict Institute: How To Write A BIFF Response®
Emily Pinto for Katie Couric Media: How To Handle Conflict Without Damaging Your Relationships
What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.
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Deep Dive: When Our Kids Have Different Relationships with Our Parenting Partners
lundi 19 octobre 2026 • Durée 37:33
This Deep Dive series revisits some of our previous episodes about dynamics with our parenting partners.
Do you feel like the odd parent out in your house? Or do your kids want only you to do everything with them all the time? A listener in our Facebook group asked:
"Is there an episode about one parent having a very different relationship with a child than the other parent? My 12yo and I seem to have a pretty functional (not perfect) relationship, but he and my hubs seem to end up arguing constantly. Thought at first it was a phase, but if it is, it’s a LOOOOONG one. Would love some perspective on this!"
Margaret and Amy discuss:
How preferential treatment plays out in younger vs. older kids
Why kids save their worst behavior for their primary caregiver
Which one of them is conflict-averse and who's conflict-attracted (one guess which is which)
Preferring one parent over the other can be developmentally appropriate, but there are times when ganging up on one parent can become too much and needs some course correction.
Links!
Our episode "When Kids Prefer the Other Parent Over You (Or You Over Them)"
Ryan C. Martin for McSweeney's: "GOOD PARENTS CAPITALIZE ON THEIR INDIVIDUAL STRENGTHS. MY WIFE’S IS SEEING TO OUR KIDS’ EVERY NEED, AND MINE IS ROUGHHOUSING"
Marni Feuerman for VeryWell Family: "How to Cope With Parenting Differences"
Mariah Maddox for Motherly: "If your kids act differently with you than dad, you’re not imagining it"
What Fresh Hell is co-hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables.
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