341. Abby: How to Move On after Grief  In part two of Abby’s sharing about the loss of her eldest brother, Peter – she opens up more about the revelations that her journey with grief has taught her about life. To hear the first part of our conversation on grief, check out Episode 340. How Abby Survived Her Biggest Loss Discover:  -Why Abby now looks at grief like a friend; -The beautiful story of how Peter saved Abby’s life and how that hits her now; and -What was truly underneath Abby’s outsized fear of death this whole time.

Today, we're revisiting one of our favorites. Enneagram Godmother Suzanne Stabile guides us through: What the hell is the Enneagram and why does it matter?  -The gifts and struggles each Enneagram type faces; -Why the worst part of you is also the BEST part of you; -The core desire / fear that explains your behavior; and  -Why, if Suzanne ever needs brain surgery, she’s finding a doctor who’s an Enneagram 1 And we FINALLY answer the question: Is Amanda a 3 or a 1?   To continue with follow up episode to this one, check out: Fix Your Most Important Relationships with the Enneagram: Suzanne Stabile. About Suzanne: Suzanne Stabile is an internationally-recognized Enneagram teacher. She is the co-author of The Road Back to You, and the author of The Path Between Us and The Journey Toward Wholeness. With backgrounds in sociology and theology, Suzanne has served as a high school professor; the first women’s basketball coach at SMU after Title IX; and as the founding Director of Shared Housing, a social service agency in Dallas. Suzanne lives in Dallas with her husband Rev. Joseph Stabile. She is the mother of four children and grandmother of nine. TW: @SuzanneStabile IG: @suzannestabile

Today, it’s our attempt to do some easy things in this encore presentation of the episode originally titled, 175. Life Hacks: Strategies to Suffer Less. Glennon, Abby, Amanda – and the Pod Squad! — share the strategies they’ve used to suffer less – giving us simple Life Hacks for relationships, home, tech, travel, and saving time.

Where does all our suffering come from and how can we free ourselves? Pastor, author, and speaker, Nadia Bolz-Weber, discusses how she finally became healed and whole enough to choose romantic love from freedom instead of desperation. With her characteristic raw honesty, Nadia shares that the secret to her healing has been “honestly, a lot of pain.” Plus, Nadia leads Abby to a heartbreaking, cathartic moment of clarity – and shares a blessing that she wrote for Abby and all queer people. About Nadia: Nadia Bolz-Weber is an ordained Lutheran Pastor; founder of House for All Sinners & Saints in Denver; host of The Confessional podcast; and author of three NYT bestselling memoirs: Pastrix, Accidental Saints, and SHAMELESS. Nadia writes and speaks about personal failings, recovery, grace, faith, and really whatever the hell else she wants to. She always sits in the corner with the other weirdos, and she can be found a couple days a week inside the Denver women’s prison where she is a volunteer chaplain. https://thecorners.substack.com/ IG: @sarcasticlutheran

Priya Parker is here to discuss what Glennon called “the most important thing in the world” – connection – and how to make our time with other people have more of it. She teaches us:  How – whether it’s a wedding or a retirement party – you can create new gathering rituals that forge truer, deeper relationships; Why the outcome of every gathering is decided before anyone steps in the room; and  Why so many of us hate parties – and what to do about it.  For the The Art of Gathering online course giveaway go to priyaparker.com/hardthings About Priya: Priya Parker is a conflict facilitator, strategic advisor, international speaker, and acclaimed author of The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters and host of the podcast TOGETHER APART. She is the creator and host of The Art of Gathering digital course, about how to make meaning with and for our people. She lives in Brooklyn, New York with her husband and two children. TW: @priyaparker IG: @priyaparker

Glennon tells three stories that reveal how recovery from anorexia has changed who she is and how she experiences the world. Together in G’s home, recording for the first time, Abby and Amanda respond with their reflections and the impacts that G’s recovery work has had on the entire family.

In this special episode, Glennon, Abby, and Amanda sit down with icon Dolly Parton for a heartfelt conversation about how to start something new at 77, how she mothers the world, and how she broke her own heart when Elvis asked to record her hit song.  Plus, the advice Dolly would give to Glennon and Abby’s daughter, Tish, as she enters the music business.  About Dolly:  Dolly Parton is the most honored and revered female country singer-songwriter of all time and was recently inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. Achieving 27 RIAA-certified gold, platinum, and multi-platinum awards, she has had 26 songs reach #1 on the Billboard country charts, a record for a female artist. Parton became the first country artist honored as Grammy MusiCares Person of the Year. She has 48 career Top 10 country albums, a record for any artist, and 110 career-charted singles over the past 50+ years. On October 17th she is releasing her second coffee table book in a trilogy called “Behind The Seams: My Life in Rhinestones” and on November 17th her highly anticipated 30-song rock album, “Rockstar.” To date, Parton has donated over 213 million books to children around the world with her Imagination Library. Her children's book, Coat of Many Colors, was dedicated to the Library of Congress to honor the Imagination Library's 100 millionth book donation.  TW: @DollyParton IG: @dollyparton

Brilliant life coach, Martha Beck, works her magic for our Pod Squad. In this treasure trove of profound insight and practical guidance, Martha teaches us how to find purpose in midlife, how to use our longing as a map, and how to know for sure if what we have is real love.  If you’d like to go back and listen to the episodes mentioned in today’s conversation, check out episodes:  252. Martha Beck Helps Amanda Let Go 238. How to De-Stress: Relaxation Intervention for Amanda (and You)! 121. Martha Beck & Rowan Mangan: Polyamory & Throuple Life 67. How to Get More Joy with Martha Beck 66. How to Come Home to Yourself with Martha Beck About Martha: Dr. Martha Beck is a bestselling author, life coach, and speaker – offering powerful, practical, and entertaining teachings that help people improve every aspect of their lives. She is known for her unique combination of science, humor, and spirituality. For over two decades she has been, in the words of NPR and USA Today, “the best-known life coach in America.” Her published works include several self-help books and memoirs, including New York Times and international bestsellers Finding Your Own North Star, The Joy Diet, and Expecting Adam. Martha’s most recent book, The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self, was an instant New York Times Best Seller. TW: @TheMarthaBeck IG: @themarthabeck

In this incredibly raw episode, Martha Beck coaches Amanda through a transformative, therapeutic session to help heal her overfunctioning, resentment, and burnout. Martha uncovers the different parts of Amanda that have existed inside her since childhood – and invites them to speak and then finally rest into peace, joy, and enoughness.   If you’d like to go back and listen to episodes referenced in today’s conversation, check out:  238. How to De-Stress: Relaxation Intervention for Amanda (and You)!. 170. The Most Radical Way to Heal: Internal Family Systems with Dr. Becky Kennedy 67. How to Get More Joy with Martha Beck 66. How to Come Home to Yourself with Martha Beck About Martha: Dr. Martha Beck is a bestselling author, life coach, and speaker – offering powerful, practical, and entertaining teachings that help people improve every aspect of their lives. She is known for her unique combination of science, humor, and spirituality. For over two decades she has been, in the words of NPR and USA Today, “the best-known life coach in America.” Her published works include several self-help books and memoirs, including New York Times and international bestsellers Finding Your Own North Star, and Expecting Adam. Martha’s most recent book, The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self, was an instant New York Times Best Seller. TW: @TheMarthaBeck IG: @themarthabeck

Singer, songwriter, and instrumentalist, Allison Russell, shares her incredible life story and teaches us how she healed from abuse through music, sisterhood, and returning to her body. This hour is a soul-stirring reminder of the life-saving, cycle-breaking power of truth telling, art, and love.  About Allison: Allison Russell has spent her career in multiple bands, including Po’ Girl, Our Native Daughters and Birds of Chicago. After a career spent as a gifted multi-instrumentalist, backing numerous other artists, she finally dared to release her solo project in 2021. She made her Opry debut and appeared at the Country Music Hall of Fame and performed at the 2022 GRAMMY’s Premiere Ceremony. In addition to her four GRAMMY nominations, she has earned three 2022 Americana Award nominations and a win for Album of the Year, two International Folk Music Award wins, a 2022 Juno nomination for ‘Songwriter of the Year,’ and her first-ever Juno Award win for Contemporary Roots Album of the Year. Russell received two 2021 Americana Awards nominations, won three Canadian Folk Music Awards, two UK Americana Music Awards, and more. She was recently nominated for Song of the Year and Artist of the Year for the 2023 Americana Awards.  TW: @outsidechild13 IG: @allisonrussellmusic

Today, Angela Chen teaches us how understanding asexuality helps us understand ourselves and the true meaning of sex. Angela describes:  The misconception that blocks us from fully understanding our own sexuality; Why your sexuality is a relationship between YOU and YOU;  How there are MANY reasons people have sex. (Glennon says sexual attraction only accounts for 5% of her sexual experiences.); and The shame underlying compulsory sexuality – and how to stop apologizing for not wanting sex.  And a question for anyone seeing themselves in asexuality: What would this label free you from? About Angela: Angela Chen is a journalist and editor. She is the author of Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex, which was named one of the best books of 2020 by NPR, Electric Literature, and Them. Her reporting and essays have also appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Atlantic, The Guardian, National Geographic, Paris Review, and more.  TW: @chengela IG: @angelaetcetera

Who do we go to for advice? And do we really even WANT advice — or just a good listener? Glennon, Abby, and Amanda tell us who they each go to when they don’t know what to do next — and offer their best advice to Pod Squaders dealing with loneliness and the unexpected jealousy of their partner's affection for a pet.

Amanda shares the one proven way to get the truth from someone – plus: Why Glennon calls her lying style “The Puppeteer” – and why you’ll never know what Amanda’s really feeling.  Amanda defends our right to lie, and debunks myths about how we can tell if someone is lying.  What’s the difference between lying and controlling, manipulating, and filtering the truth? Glennon’s fear of judgment from the next generation, and  How to foster real connection in a world where lying is normal.    For the first part of our conversation, check out 242. We’re All Liars: What’s Your Lying Style?.

334. How to Save The World & Yourself with Prentis Hemphill  Glennon, Abby and Amanda welcome back writer, embodiment facilitator, political organizer, and therapist, Prentis Hemphill. They will be sharing with you on how to take care of yourself while being informed and doing your part to help the world and your community in the midst of the 2024 election and the crises our world is facing.  Discover: -A third way of existing in the current political landscape that isn’t disregulation or escapism; -How to get out of your head and into your body; -Why the most helpful way of being with your kids is not to protect them, and what is; and  -Why chaos is necessary for creativity and change and how to use it. On Prentis: Prentis Hemphill is a writer, embodiment facilitator, political organizer, and therapist. They are the founder and director of the Embodiment Institute and the Black Embodiment Initiative, and the host of the acclaimed podcast Finding Our Way. Their work and writing have appeared in The New York Times, HuffPost, You Are Your Best Thing (edited by Tarana Burke and Brené Brown), and Holding Change (by adrienne maree brown). And their new book is called, What it takes to heal.

Kerry Washington shares the deeply personal story of what happened when her parents finally told her the truth about a long-held and shocking family secret: How uncovering the truth – as painful as it was – led Kerry to reclaim her self trust;  How the revelation made her the lead character of her own life for the first time; Walking the line between protection and deception; Breaking the cycle of gaslighting within families; and  How defying her father freed both of them. About Kerry:  Kerry Washington is an Emmy-winning, SAG, and Golden Globe-nominated actor, director, producer, and activist. Washington received widespread recognition for her role as Olivia Pope in the hit drama Scandal. In 2016, Washington launched her production company Simpson Street, whose projects include Confirmation, “American Son”, Emmy award-winning, “Live in Front of a Studio Audience”, The Fight, and Little Fires Everywhere. Washington is a lifelong activist and founder of Influence Change (IC21), an initiative that partners with nonprofits to increase voter turnout. For her efforts, Washington has been honored as one of TIME Magazine’s 2022 Women of The Year. Washington released her first memoir, Thicker Than Water, which is on sale now! TW: @kerrywashington IG: @kerrywashington

Calling all Caregivers!  Today is a tribute to the everyday efforts of all caregivers who are holding up the sky for everyone else.  Ai-jen Poo is here shining a light on why caregivers are exhausted, unsupported, and overwhelmed – all while doing the work that makes everything else possible.  We talk about how to give the people we love the care they deserve without neglecting our own needs, and what can be done to right the systemic failures that leave caregivers fending for themselves. Plus, we hear a heartfelt message from a Pod Squader who represents so many of us in the sandwich (or “panini”) generation.   About Ai-jen:  Ai-jen Poo is an award-winning organizer, author, and a leading voice in the women’s movement. She is the President of the National Domestic Workers Alliance, Executive Director of Caring Across Generations, Senior Advisor to Care in Action, Co-Founder of SuperMajority, and a Trustee of the Ford Foundation. Ai-jen is a nationally recognized expert on caregiving, the future of work, and what’s at stake for women of color. She is the author of the celebrated book, The Age of Dignity: Preparing for the Elder Boom in a Changing America.  TW: @aijenpoo IG: @aijenp

Andrea Gibson returns with their partner, Megan Falley, for a gorgeous, hilarious double date with Glennon and Abby: An Andrea health update and what each has learned since Andrea’s cancer diagnosis; How their chemistry ignited with Andrea’s questionable move on a sweaty dance floor – and the text moment Andrea knew Megan was the one; How each of their relationships with their bodies has been transformed by Andrea’s illness; Navigating a relationship where one partner worries constantly and the other doesn’t know how to worry; and  Why love looks like peeing your pants, and how they keep putting themselves in the way of miracles. For our previous conversation with Andrea Gibson, check out: Ep 215 The Bravest Conversation We’ve Had: Andrea Gibson. About Andrea:  Andrea Gibson is one of the most celebrated and influential spoken word artists of our time. Best known for their live performances, Andrea has changed the landscape of what it means to attend a “poetry show”. Andrea’s poems center around LGBTQ issues, spirituality, feminism, mental health, and the dismantling of oppressive social systems. Andrea is the author of seven books, most recently “You Better Be Lightning”.  TW: @andreagibson IG: @andreagibson About Megan:  Megan Falley is a queer femme writer and a full-time touring spoken word poet, author, and teaching artist. Her works include “Drive Here and Devastate Me”; “How Poetry Can Change Your Heart”; and the chapbook “Bad Girls, Honey: Poems About Lana Del Rey.” In addition to other accolades, Falley’s essays have been shortlisted for The Disquiet International Prize in 2021 and the Malahat Review Open Season Awards in 2022. TW: @megan_falley IG: @meganfalley

Where do you go to escape the pain of reality? Today, author Chloé Cooper Jones shares:  The survival strategy many of us use to retreat from our lives and how to become more present;  How she grapples with the world dehumanizing her disabled body;  Why desire and disgust are so connected – and what they teach us; and  The thing Chloé wants most – to be seen as inherently whole – and how to get it.  About Chloé: Chloé Cooper Jones is a professor, journalist, and the author of the memoir Easy Beauty, which was named a best book of 2022 by The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, The Washington Post, TIME Magazine, and was a finalist for the 2023 Pulitzer Prize in Memoir. She was also a Pulitzer Prize finalist in Feature Writing in 2020. She lives in Brooklyn, New York.  TW: @CCooperJones IG: @chloecooperjones

In the world of feelings, there are winners and losers, and somebody has to be the judge. World-renowned, self-proclaimed couples therapist Dr? Sheila invites you to sit in on her private sessions with clients. (For legal reasons, Dr? must be said in the form of a question.) Each week, a new couple…and a new puzzle to crack. You’ll get to hear, and benefit from, many of her famous techniques as she counsels patients on overcoming disagreements, dealing with an overstepping mother-in-law, navigating open relationships, and much more. Sit back, relax, and enjoy the show, because the best way to feel better about yourself is to compare your problems to the problems of others. “Say More” features guests including Kate Berlant, Paul Scheer, June Diane Raphael, Ilana Glazer, Abbi Jacobson, Maya Rudolph, Ike Barinholtz, Jessica St. Clair, Lennon Parham, Paula Pell, Janine Brito, Jason Mantzoukas, Peter Grosz, Jean Villepique, Stephnie Weir, John Lutz, Fred Armisen, Rachel Dratch, Chris Parnell and Ana Gasteyer, and stars Amy Poehler as Dr? Sheila. Say More with Dr? Sheila premieres Thursday, September 21, 2023. Listen to and follow Say More with Dr? Sheila, an Audacy production, on the Audacy app or wherever you get your podcasts.

The moment Oprah finally knew who she really was; The hidden gift of criticism, and the image to remember when you’re envious;   Why “Slugging It Out” is a losing game; How to let go of outcomes – and make peace with what you have to offer; and  Oprah reads the letter Glennon wrote to her after her mother died – which she says changed her life.   Read Oprah’s newest book BUILD THE LIFE YOU WANT. TW: @Oprah IG: @Oprah

Liar, liar – all of our pants are on fire. In this juicy conversation about lying: Why the question isn’t “DO you lie?” – but “HOW and WHY do you lie?” What constitutes a lie to you: defining what makes something a lie; Figuring out our own particular lie languages – and why Abby’s a Bullshitter; and Deciding if there is anyone you can be completely honest with – and how to create the algorithm of honesty.

Amanda, Glennon and Abby explore how to survive the lifelong, universal pain of being left out: What Abby felt when she heard “We don’t want you here” – and its long-lasting impact;  Why it is so painful, and how to process feelings of rejection and isolation; How dissociation helped Glennon cope with rejection in the cafeteria;  What parents should and *should not* do when helping kids navigate exclusion; and  The real difference between “fitting in” and “belonging.”  Also check out Episode 179: How to Fix Our Loneliness with Dr. Marisa G. Franco

Dr. Hillary McBride is back to continue our thrilling conversation about PSYCHEDELICS — and how folks are using them to enhance their relationships and lives. She helps us understand:  The importance of seeing our partners – and letting ourselves be seen – without any defenses;  How combining therapy with psychedelics is helping people stay close to their feelings;   Why the first step toward healing is feeling safe in your body; and  An important question for us all: Why is being here so hard?  For Part One of our conversation on Psychedelics, check our Ep 240 Are Psychedelics an Answer? with Dr. Hillary McBride.  And for our Embodiment conversation with Dr. McBride, check out: Ep 206: How to Follow the Wisdom of Your Body with Dr. Hillary McBride. About Dr. McBride:  Dr. Hillary McBride is a Registered Psychologist, researcher, podcaster, author, and speaker, but she identifies most with being a mother. She has lived experience and clinical expertise in the areas of trauma, embodiment, eating disorders, and the intersection of spirituality and mental health. Her research has focused on women's relationships with their bodies across the lifespan, and her books include: Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image; Embodiment and Eating Disorders, and the bestseller The Wisdom of Your Body. Her next book – Practices for Embodied Living – will be released in 2024. Her podcast, Other People's Problems, was listed in the New York Times and Wall Street Journal as essential listening. TW: @hillarylmcbride IG: @hillaryliannamcbride

Why is everyone talking about psychedelics?!?!  Today, Dr. Hillary McBride joins us to answer all of our questions about therapeutic psychedelics, and:  Her personal, step-by-step journey with therapeutic psychedelics;  The science behind how psychedelics help break old patterns and create new ones;  How she uncovered the root of her eating disorder; and  How psychedelics can reveal your innate goodness.  For our Embodiment conversation with Dr. McBride, check out: Ep 206: How to Follow the Wisdom of Your Body with Dr. Hillary McBride. About Dr. McBride:  Dr. Hillary McBride is a Registered Psychologist, researcher, podcaster, author, and speaker, but she identifies most with being a mother. She has lived experience and clinical expertise in the areas of trauma, embodiment, eating disorders, and the intersection of spirituality and mental health. Her research has focused on women's relationships with their bodies across the lifespan, and her books include: Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image; Embodiment and Eating Disorders, and the bestseller The Wisdom of Your Body. Her next book – Practices for Embodied Living – will be released in 2024. Her podcast, Other People's Problems, was listed in the New York Times and Wall Street Journal as essential listening. TW: @hillarylmcbride IG: @hillaryliannamcbride

333. Olympic Magic with Briana Scurry One of the world's most talented and influential goalkeepers and Olympians, Briana Scurry, joins us for an inspiring conversation. Brianna reflects on her historic career as the starting goalkeeper for the United States Women's National Team, sharing her experiences from winning two Olympic gold medals to making the iconic save in the 1999 FIFA Women's World Cup final.  About Briana:  Named starting goalkeeper for the United States Women’s National Team in 1994, Scurry led the team on an illustrious run that included two Olympic gold medals. In the 1999 FIFA World Cup Championship – Briana made the iconic penalty kick save that carried the United States to victory. Briana was selected to the United States Women’s National Team’s All-Time Best XI and was selected as the permanent Title IX Exhibit in the Smithsonian National Museum of African American History and Culture.  In 2022, Scurry released her best-selling memoir, My Greatest Save, and was also the subject of The Only, a CBS feature-length documentary chronicling her life.

Are you capable of being satisfied? Today, adrienne maree brown helps us uncover:  How to find beauty and connection in the everyday; How to stop wasting your time on things that don’t feel good; Why the greatest risk of life is also where its preciousness comes from;  How, through the discipline of pleasure, we can ALL be satisfied.  About adrienne: adrienne maree brown is a pleasure activist, writer, and radical imaginist who grows healing ideas in public through writing, music, and podcasts. adrienne has nurtured Emergent Strategy, Pleasure Activism, Radical Imagination and Transformative Justice as ideas, frameworks, networks and practices for transformation. adrienne’s work is informed by 25 years of social and environmental justice facilitation primarily supporting Black liberation. adrienne is the author/editor of several published texts including Emergent Strategy: Shaping Change, Changing Worlds; Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good; Grievers; and Maroons. After a multinational childhood, adrienne lived in New York, Oakland, and Detroit before landing in her current home of Durham, NC. TW: @adriennemaree IG: @adriennemareebrown

Abby and Glennon attempt a Relaxation Intervention, which Amanda sabotages – resulting in a riveting discussion of why we can’t (don’t) de-stress, and how relaxation can help us ALL feel a little more human: Why so many of us have lost our playful, silly, absurd selves – and how we might recover them;  The “Relaxation Homework” Abby assigned to Amanda;  How over-functioners can channel their superpower into being fully alive;  Why it’s not our job to ensure things won’t fall apart, but to accept that they absolutely will;   And the one “tracking” tool Amanda will use to find more moments of connection.

Glennon and Amanda share why they love this wildly popular conversation with Dr. Becky Kennedy and how it radically changed their approaches to parenting their kids (and reparenting themselves).  Dr. Becky Kennedy guides us through Attachment Styles, how our past comes alive in our present – and how to free ourselves and raise freer kids. 1. Why attachment styles are at the heart of our most intense conflicts (in ourselves and with others). 2. How to rewire our original mental coding (75% of which is complete by age 3), so we can have more peace. 3. How our physical and emotional attractions in adulthood are dictated by childhood attachments. 4. Why it’s never too late to initiate relationship repair, and the warning signs that we’re starved for connection. 5. How we can help our kids trust their instincts, use parenting as a path to grow in the ways we’ve always wanted to grow, and build empathy for our own imperfect parents. For our other conversations with Dr. Becky Kennedy, check out:  130. Breaking Cycles and Reparenting Yourself with Dr. Becky Kennedy 131. How to Raise Untamed Kids with Dr. Becky Kennedy 170. The Most Radical Way to Heal: Internal Family Systems with Dr. Becky Kennedy About Dr. Becky: Dr. Becky Kennedy is a clinical psychologist, bestselling author, and mom of three, named “The Millennial Parenting Whisperer” by TIME Magazine.Dr. Becky is the author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be and founder of the Good Inside Membership platform, a hub with Dr. Becky’s complete parenting content collection all in one place. Her podcast “Good Inside with Dr. Becky” – was one of Apple Podcasts “Best Shows of 2021.” TW: @goodinside IG: @drbeckyatgoodinside

Today, we celebrate the one-and-only Abby – and her rare gift of vulnerability and storytelling. Our favorite person on the planet – Abby Wambach – is going deep, answering the questions that we all have, but that only Glennon and Amanda can ask. Abby shares, in an intensely new and courageous way, about her lifelong pursuit of love – including her complicated relationships with her mom, soccer, her first marriage, queerness, and her “shadow self” – and why she has questioned her own lovability for so much of her life. For the other Abby episodes in this series, check out:  189. Abby for the 1st Time On Divorce & Her Unrequited Love 190. Abby’s Christmas Miracle: When All the Heartbreak Made Sense About Abby: Olympian, Activist, Author, and Co-host of the We Can Do Hard Things Podcast Abby Wambach is a two-time Olympic gold medalist, FIFA World Cup Champion, and six-time winner of the U.S. Soccer Athlete of the Year award. She was the United States’ leading scorer in the 2007 and 2011 Women’s World Cup tournaments and the 2004 and 2012 Olympics. Abby is the host of ABBY’S PLACES on ESPN+, in which she showcases what makes her beloved sport of soccer a worldwide sensation. An activist for equality and inclusion, she is the author of the #1 New York Times bestseller WOLFPACK as well as the adaptation of WOLFPACK for the next generation, an instant New York Times bestseller. She is a founder and part owner of Angel City FC, the first majority-female-owned soccer team in history, and is a member of the Board of Directors for the non-profit organization Together Rising. Abby lives in California with her wife and their three children. TW: @abbywambach IG: @abbywambach

Abby shares one of her all-time most impactful conversations – delving inside the “wonderful, dangerous” mind of Tracee Ellis Ross covers: 1. Tracee’s go-to strategies to stop questioning herself, to pick herself up when she feels unlovable, and to tether herself to her truest self. 2. How she made peace with the fact that she’s “not everyone’s cup of tea” – and stopped trying to change the things about her that others don’t like (but she does). 3. Inside Tracee’s 50th birthday party – the honor of being “Fifty and Free,” and what moved her to sing her mother’s song in her mother’s dress. 4. Tracee’s recent personal journal entry rejecting the lie that a woman’s purpose is to be “chosen” – and how she creates a beautiful, full life outside the roles of mother and partner. 5. Tracee’s incredible view of friendship: How to be brave enough to become a barnacle in your friends’ lives, and to find your Cauldron people About Tracee: Tracee Ellis Ross is an award-winning actress and producer best known for her roles in ABC’s award-winning comedy series BLACK-ISH and GIRLFRIENDS. For her role as “Rainbow Johnson” in BLACK-ISH, as a comedic leading actress, Ross won the Golden Globe Award in 2017 as well as nine NAACP Image Awards. She was nominated for five Emmys and two Critics Choice Awards. Ross is the CEO and Founder of Pattern, a haircare brand for the curly, coily and tight textured masses. Ross recently executive produced and narrates Hulu’s THE HAIR TALES, a docuseries about Black women, beauty and identity through the distinctive lens of Black hair. Upcoming, Ross will be producing a ten-episode podcast “I Am America,” which aims to break through the noise during this divided time in our country in an effort to create space and to heal. TW: @TraceeEllisRoss IG: @traceeellisross

Glennon reflects on the episode that has been the biggest marker of change in her life in the last five years.  Glennon shares from the messy middle about her new diagnosis and what’s next for her recovery. If talk about eating disorders and mental illness helps: Listen today. If it triggers: Skip today. CW // eating disorders If you have an eating disorder, you may find the National Alliance for Eating Disorders a helpful resource: https://www.allianceforeatingdisorders.com/. For other recovery episodes in this series, check out: 172. How Glennon Knew She Needed Help: Recovery Update  182. Glennon Update: Lessons from Therapy 194. Glennon Finds Her Healing Partner 199. Why Glennon Says We Should All Be In Recovery 200. Don’t Tell Glennon to Love Her Body

Join Glennon, Abby, and Amanda in celebrating, and closing out, the first season of the pod – and help them write the next chapter: What it felt like for Glennon to listen – for the first time – to her anorexia diagnosis episode;  How their parents’ 50th Wedding Anniversary party showed Glennon how to stop performing and just BE;  The crucial distinction Amanda is exploring between tension and conflict;  Abby’s recent decision to explore her relationship with anger; and  How to join in shaping the future of the pod.    For the other conversations mentioned in this episode, check out:  165. Glennon’s Diagnosis & What’s Next 167. Tracee Ellis Ross: How to Make Peace in Your Own Head 168. Sonya Renee Taylor: What If You Loved Your Body? 216. How to Find DELIGHT Today (and Every Day) with Ross Gay 226. Enneagram: Why You Are the Way You Are with Suzanne Stabile

We all want tools to navigate (and minimize!) family drama.  Today, Nedra Glover Tawwab teaches us how we can create drama free families:    How to speak up for yourself when it feels like going against the group;  Why confrontation is often the kindest thing;  When, exactly, we should bring up conflict & when to let it go; The most loving way a parent can respond to a child in pain.  For more with Nedra Glover Tawwab, check out: Episode 124 How to Say No: Boundaries with Nedra Glover Tawwab. About Nedra:  Nedra Glover Tawwab is the author of the New York Times bestsellers Drama Free and Set Boundaries, Find Peace. A licensed therapist and sought-after relationship expert, she has practiced relationship therapy for more than fifteen years. Tawwab has appeared as an expert on Red Table Talk, The Breakfast Club, Good Morning America, and CBS Morning Show to name a few. Her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, The Guardian, and Vice. Tawwab runs a popular Instagram account where she shares practices, tools, and reflections for mental health and relationships. She lives in Charlotte, North Carolina, with her family. TW: @NedraTawwab IG: @nedratawwab

Today, Glennon, Abby, and Amanda dive into the Pod Squad’s words of wisdom: How to identify bad advice;  How to stop “walking on eggshells”;  When to not tell your kids you’re proud of them (and what to say instead);  The advice about masturbating that Glennon can live by.

The Best Advice We’ve Ever Received Today, Glennon, Abby, and Amanda remember – and share! – the best advice they’ve ever received: How to honor your needs and become the ultimate expert of you;   Why we all need a friend who believes in our greatness;  How to encourage your kids to live open-hearted;  And why Glennon’s truest thing is that she doesn’t know anything.   Plus, we hear from two pod treasures – Sara Bareilles and Glennon’s 7th grade government teacher, Mrs. Yalen – on their best advice.

Glennon, Abby, and Amanda are joined by renowned tech journalist Kara Swisher to expose the deep connections between tech billionaires, like Peter Thiel and Elon Musk, with JD Vance and Donald Trump. The conversation explores JD Vance's background, key tech industry players’ influence on the Republican presidential ticket and beyond, and the broader implications for the American people. On Kara: Kara Swisher is host of On with Kara Swisher and co-host of the Pivot podcast. She’s editor-at-large at New York Magazine and a CNN contributor. Considered the top reporter in the tech game and called “Silicon Valley's most feared but revered journalist,” Swisher has established herself as the oracle of the tech world with unrivaled access to the industry's most significant leaders. She’s the author of the New York Times bestselling memoir, Burn Book: A Tech Love Story.

Time to HUDDLE UP, Pod Squad!  Our most beloved The Soccer expert – Abby Wambach – prepares us for the World Cup, bringing us inside her personal rollercoaster journey through four World Cups: The real scoop behind her impossible, iconic goal against Brazil in 2011;  The moments she will never forget from the brutal loss against Germany; How she *really* reacted when learning she would not be starting for the 2015 US Team;  How we can ALL learn to lead from the bench; and What to expect in this year’s tournament. Plus, Abby delivers the pep talk we all need for this year’s World Cup. LFG, USA!  About Abby:  Abby Wambach is a two-time Olympic gold medalist, FIFA World Cup Champion, and six-time winner of the U.S. Soccer Athlete of the Year award. She was the United States’ leading scorer in the 2007 and 2011 Women’s World Cup tournaments and the 2004 and 2012 Olympics. She is a part owner of Angel City FC, the first majority-female-owned soccer team in history. Abby lives in California with her wife and their three children. TW: @AbbyWambach IG: @abbywambach

Today, Glennon, Abby, and Amanda delight in “Beige Flags” – the hilarious internet sensation that invites us all to share our people’s weirdest and most baffling traits. You’ll learn why Glennon changes her clothes 5 times a day, Abby sounds like she’s from yonder yore, and Amanda has a drawer full of washed out Ziploc bags. Plus, we read YOUR Beige Flags and debate: Is that actually a red flag or a green flag?

Introducing Classy with Jonathan Menjivar, a new podcast from Pineapple Street Studios. Classy is a collection of surprising stories, juicy and uncomfortable interviews, and engaging segments that explore the ways that class infiltrates our day-to-day lives. In the host seat is Jonathan Menjivar – a working-class Latino kid who joined the media elite and became someone who likes oysters, wears cashmere socks, and is very conflicted about all of it.

Laser-focused on her final World Cup, MEGAN RAPINOE chooses our podcast to go *deep* on her bittersweet decision to retire from her iconic soccer career: Why she is excited – and ready – to say goodbye to soccer;  Why representing America is so important to her in this moment;  Why she doesn’t believe in sacrificing herself for the team;  How dissociation helped her on the field – and hurt her in life – and how she’s working to give it up.  Plus, Megan explores the question: Does greatness have to cost you your humanity? About Megan:  Two-time World Cup Champion and Olympic Gold Medalist, Megan Rapinoe is a fan favorite and one of the team’s most technical and craftiest players. A vocal leader on and off the pitch, Megan helped lead the USWNT to the 2019 Women’s World Cup Championship scoring some of the biggest goals of the tournament. Megan took home the tournament’s two top honors – the Golden Boot for top scorer, and the Golden Ball for the best player in the tournament. A New York Times’ Best-Selling author, Time100’s Most Influential People and recent Presidential Medal of Freedom award recipient, Megan is an advocate for equality for all and has been able to intersect her passion for humanity and authenticity. At the end of 2022, Megan and fiancé Sue Bird launched “A Touch More”, a new production company focused on promoting narratives around revolutionaries who move culture forward. The company will amplify stories focused on identity, activism, and underrepresented groups. TW: @mPinoe IG: @mrapinoe

We all have that one relationship that needs fixing… Today, Suzanne Stabile is back to tell us how we can use the Enneagram to improve our relationships and love our people better.  She guides us through:  How to stop misjudging and misunderstanding people;  How to start respecting your own innate gifts;   How to get rid of codependency; and  How to get what you are missing – more thinking, feeling, or doing – in your life.  If you missed our first episode with Suzanne, check out Episode 226 Enneagram: Why You Are the Way You Are. About Suzanne: Suzanne Stabile is an internationally-recognized Enneagram teacher. She is the co-author of The Road Back to You, and the author of The Path Between Us and The Journey Toward Wholeness. With backgrounds in sociology and theology, Suzanne has served as a high school professor; the first women’s basketball coach at SMU after Title IX; and as the founding Director of Shared Housing, a social service agency in Dallas. Suzanne lives in Dallas with her husband Rev. Joseph Stabile. She is the mother of four children and grandmother of nine. TW: @SuzanneStabile IG: @suzannestabile

Enneagram Godmother Suzanne Stabile guides us through: What the hell is the Enneagram and why does it matter?  The gifts and struggles each Enneagram type faces; Why the worst part of you is also the BEST part of you; The core desire / fear that explains your behavior; and  Why, if Suzanne ever needs brain surgery, she’s finding a doctor who’s an Enneagram 1. And we FINALLY answer the question: Is Amanda a 3 or a 1?   (Also meet back here tomorrow for a bonus episode where Suzanne uses the Enneagram to fix our relationships.) About Suzanne: Suzanne Stabile is an internationally-recognized Enneagram teacher. She is the co-author of The Road Back to You, and the author of The Path Between Us and The Journey Toward Wholeness. With backgrounds in sociology and theology, Suzanne has served as a high school professor; the first women’s basketball coach at SMU after Title IX; and as the founding Director of Shared Housing, a social service agency in Dallas. Suzanne lives in Dallas with her husband Rev. Joseph Stabile. She is the mother of four children and grandmother of nine. TW: @SuzanneStabile IG: @suzannestabile

Morgan Harper Nichols is here today to help us – finally! – breathe deep and pay attention:  What the hell is this elusive “peace” anyway? How to create your own peace practice How she has found a truer way to communicate than words  How her adult autism diagnosis helped her finally set boundaries  Concrete strategies to find peace even in chaos  Plus, she helps us understand why we don’t need to add “Presence” to our to-do list: It’s already right here.  About Morgan:  Morgan Harper Nichols is an artist, poet, musician, and best-selling author of Peace is a Practice and All Along You Were Blooming. Morgan has also performed as a vocalist on several GRAMMY-nominated projects and written for various artists. She is passionate about art making as a way to connect with others. Her latest book, You Are Only Just Beginning is available now. Morgan currently resides in Atlanta with her family. TW: @morganhnichols IG: @morganharpernichols

Sex Therapist Vanessa Marin is back on the pod to discuss how we can all make sex more ENJOYABLE. She shares with us:  How we can stop faking our orgasms and experiment with real pleasure;  How to communicate honestly with our partners about what we want in bed; and Why masturbation can be an opportunity for self-exploration and reclamation. She also offers empowering advice for individuals recovering from sexual trauma.  Plus, Glennon contemplates writing erotica.  CW: Discussion of sex after sexual trauma  For our previous conversations with Vanessa, check out: Episode 195 Sex Talk & That Night in Miami: Sex Therapy with Vanessa Marin, Episode 196 How Glennon & Abby Learned to Talk Dirty with Vanessa Marin, and Episode 213 Sex Fantasies: What Do They Say About Us? with Vanessa Marin. About Vanessa: Vanessa Marin is a sex therapist and instant New York Times Best Selling author of Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life, co-written with her husband and partner-in-crime, Xander Marin. Vanessa is here to help you kick shame out of the bedroom so you can start feeling the connection, pleasure, and joy you deserve! TW: @VMTherapy IG: @vanessaandxander

If the word “negotiation” makes you feel tense and sweaty and like the last thing you want to do is listen to this conversation . . . then what you absolutely need to do is listen to this conversation. Because it turns out we've been thinking about negotiation all wrong, and today we empower ourselves to think about it differently.  Mori Taheripour guides us through the top things we all get wrong in negotiation; the most effective tool in asking for a raise; the ways the vast majority of women undercut our own value; how we can best advocate for ourselves; and how to hold non-negotiable boundaries.   About Mori:  Mori Taheripour is a faculty member at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania, where she teaches Negotiations and Dispute Resolution. She also co-founded the Wharton Sports Business Initiative (WSBI), a partnership among top business leaders, faculty, and students that generates and disseminates knowledge about the sports industry through educational programs, high-level student consulting assignments, global forums, and research. Taheripour earned her MBA from the Wharton School and her BA in psychology and pre-medical studies from Barnard College/Columbia University. She is also the author of Bring Yourself: How to Harness the Power of Connection to Negotiate Fearlessly. TW: @MoriTaheripour IG: @mtaheripour

Jia Tolentino joins us to discuss how to finally accept all sides of you:  Why your un-productivity matters most;  When your shame is good;  How to make your real life bigger than your internet life; How to let motherhood energize you instead of drain you; and  How to stop scrolling in the middle of the night.   Plus, we talk acid trips, the sorority rush that Jia and Amanda shared, why Glennon’s friends track Jia’s words – and whether Glennon’s mug shot will inspire Jia’s next show.   About Jia:  Jia Tolentino is a staff writer at The New Yorker, a screenwriter, and the author of the New York Times bestseller Trick Mirror. In 2020, she received a Whiting Award as well as the Jeannette Haien Ballard Prize, and has most recently won a National Magazine Award for three pieces about the repeal of Roe v. Wade. Trick Mirror was a finalist for the National Book Critics Circle’s John Leonard Prize and the PEN Award and was named one of the best books of the year by the New York Public Library, the New York Times Book Review, the Washington Post, NPR, the Chicago Tribune, GQ, and the Paris Review. Jia lives in Brooklyn. TW: @jiatolentino IG: @jiatortellini

332. Christen Press & Tobin Heath: THE OLYMPICS! THE SOCCER! Abby, Glennon and Amanda are talking ALL about The Olympics and US Women’s Soccer with Olympians and soccer legends, Christen Press and Tobin Heath.  Discover: -Their take on the impact of not having Alex Morgan on the team; -The Canada cheating scandal and Christen’s solution for it; -What Tobin would have done differently, if anything, in the Germany game; and -How Tobin, Christen, and Abby feel about our chances of winning the games. On the guests: Christen Press is a two-time World Cup Champion, two-time Olympic gold medalist, and an equal pay pioneer. She is one of the all-time top 10 goalscorers on the U.S. Women’s National Team and currently plays for Angel City FC. Christen led the USWNT's historic achievement of Equal Pay and served as the leader of the USWNT Players Association for 2 years. Christen is Co-Founder and Co-CEO of RE—INC, a values-led brand that exists to reimagine the way women are seen and experienced in sports.  Tobin Heath is a two-time World Cup Champion and two-time Olympic gold medalist, known as one of the most skillful and entertaining players in the game. Throughout her club career, Heath has played for PSG, the Portland Thorns, Manchester United, and Arsenal. Tobin has taken her vision, leadership, and creativity off the pitch and into her roles as Co-Founder and Co-CEO of RE—INC, and host of the critically-acclaimed The RE—CAP Show. Tobin will be going live directly following each US Women’s Soccer Olympic game to Debrief with the community.

Glennon, Abby, and Amanda help us shed guilt through a freeing reframe inspired by a conversation with Dr. Becky Kennedy. Listen to learn: How to know what is true guilt and what is just the uncomfortable ickiness of defying expectations; how to hold boundaries in order to live shamelessly within our own values; and how to maintain empathy by staying with our own emotions instead of internalizing the emotions of others.  Also, we need your help inventing a word for the “not guilt” feeling!  Get Dr. Becky Kennedy's "Good Inside Guilt Guide," to find out if what you're feeling is truly "guilt" or something else, here: https://forms.gle/Aad1g5LSBNFZoXaN6. Check out our past conversations with Dr. Becky Kennedy, and the Dr. Brené Brown episodes we talk about today:  Ep 170 The Most Radical Way to Heal: Internal Family Systems with Dr. Becky Kennedy; Ep 169 Why We Love the Way We Love: Attachment Styles with Dr. Becky Kennedy;  Ep 131 How to Raise Untamed Kids with Dr. Becky Kennedy;  Ep 130 Breaking Cycles and Reparenting Yourself with Dr. Becky Kennedy; Ep 88 Brené Brown & Barrett Guillen: Sisters Double Date; Ep 83 Brené Brown: What to Say to Get What You Need; Ep 49 Dr. Brené Brown: On Holding Boundaries & Facing Our Fears; and  Ep 48 Dr. Brené Brown: How to Know Ourselves & Be Known By Our People.

Author Katherine May recounts the moment she – at age 37 – discovered she is autistic and recognized herself for the first time.  Living as an autistic person in a world that often misunderstands her, Katherine shares: How the prevailing understandings of autism erase the lived experiences of autistic women and girls;  The way autism looks and feels for adult women; and How she navigates social interactions and sensory overload.  Katherine also reveals what she hears most often from people who think they might be autistic, which has Glennon asking: “Katherine, am I one of those people?”  For more information about how autism may show up in the lives of adult women, listen to the end of this podcast, and visit Katherine May’s Autism Resource Page at https://katherine-may.co.uk/autism-resource-page. Don’t miss our We Can Do Hard Things conversation with Hannah Gadsby, who was also diagnosed with autism in adulthood: Episode 82 Hannah Gadsby: How to Communicate Better. About Katherine: Katherine May is the New York Times–bestselling author of Enchantment: Awakening Wonder in an Anxious Age and Wintering: The Power of Rest and Retreat in Difficult Times, which has been translated into twenty-five languages around the world. Her journalism and essays have appeared in a range of publications including The New York Times and The Times of London. She lives by the sea in Whitstable, England. IG: @katherinemay

Logan Ury helps Glennon’s former husband and co-parent, Craig Melton, navigate the wild world of dating as a grown up: How to identify your patterns that aren’t working for you; how to know if something’s really a deal breaker; why dating in your twenties is like “start-up” while dating later in life is a “merger”; an honest audit of Craig’s online dating profile; how to ensure you’re meeting who you want to meet; and how Craig factors whether or not Glennon and Abby will like who he’s dating.  About Logan:  Logan Ury is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach and the author of the bestselling dating book How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love. She works as Hinge’s Director of Relationship Science, conducting research on modern dating. She runs an online community through her weekly newsletter — Logan's Love Letter. She studied psychology at Harvard and ran Google’s behavioral science team, the Irrational Lab. She lives in the Bay Area with her husband Scott.  TW: @loganury IG: @loganury IG: @craigmelton14