Very Good Enough – Détails, épisodes et analyse

Jess and Layne take some time to reflect on the conversations we've had with you over the course of this season.

While Very Good Enough is on hiatus, you can still find us in REAL LIFE inside the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Very Good Mothers Club⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠  community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month)!

Find Jess at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Jessica Hover⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Youtube and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jess_hover ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠on Instagram

Find Layne ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@enquiryco⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ on Instagram

This episode digs into the isolating world of early parenthood. Jess and Layne explore why connecting with other moms (or literally anyone) is crucial for your mental and physical health and offer practical tips on building your support network.

Learn how to combat "must be nice" syndrome--that creeping resentment towards partners or friends who seem to have it easier--and how friendship can help you identify these feelings and transform them into productive conversations about your needs.

Whether you're a seasoned mom or new to the game, find out how to create meaningful connections and build community.

Share your thoughts or ask a question - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Layne: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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Layne - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@enquiryco⁠

Is the constant power struggle leaving you drained? This week, Layne and Jess look at old-school methods of parenting that rely on fear and force to control children's behavior. We dive into how fear hinders internal motivation and discuss ways to foster cooperation. Jess shares her journey raising a strong-willed child, finding leadership without resorting to dominance.

We discuss:

• The long-term effects of fear-based parenting on adults
• Why compliance shouldn't be our ultimate parenting goal
• How fear-based discipline impacts a child's decision-making skills
• How to maintain parental authority while fostering internal motivation

And ya, we talk a little bit about spanking.

Join us as we share personal struggles, insights, and practical tips for becoming the strong, compassionate leader your child needs.

Previous episodes we mentioned:

Season 3, Episode 11 | Best of Toddler Advice

Season 5, Episode 9 | Less Gentle Parenting

Share your thoughts or ask a question - ⁠⁠⁠verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠

Join ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Very Good Mothers Club⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to be a part of our community and join our live monthly calls (4th Tuesday of every month): ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://verygoodmothersclubhouse.com/share/7ah7WID0giU77Bz0?utm_source=manual⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!

Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: ⁠⁠https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching⁠⁠

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Jess - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jess_hover⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Layne - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@enquiryco

Gentle TW: we are handling a tender topic this week. While no alarming details are shared, there is reference to sexual assault and a broad conversation around the safety of women and girls. Take good care of yourselves; feel free to skip or circle back to this episode when the moment is right for you <3

This week we take a question from Jess' seven-year-old daughter about "bad guys." Jess talks about a mother's urge to promise her child that nothing bad will ever happen to them. Layne shares her experience of surviving an encounter with a "bad guy" and some real-life, practical skills that can actually keep children safer. We talk about the power of teaching little girls how to grow into women who value their own experiences and use their voices.

Join Very Good Mother's Club to be a part of our community and get your questions answered on a future episode!

Find Jess at Jessica Hover on Youtube and @jess_hover on Instagram

Find Layne @enquiryco on Instagram

This week Jess explains why she is so careful about what kind of parenting content she consumes. We talk through how deal with contradictory parenting advice, trust your mothering instincts and let go of suggestions that don't match your parenting style (such as, wearing avocado on your nipples to coax your baby to nurse). A listener asks how to transition a toddler into daycare when he's upset and we discuss how to helping your child overcome challenges instead of rescuing them builds self-esteem and confidence.

Join Very Good Mother's Club to be a part of our community and get your questions answered on a future episode!

Find Jess at Jessica Hover on Youtube and @jess_hover on Instagram

Find Layne @enquiryco on Instagram

As we mentioned in the episode, we recently did deep dive into tips for transitioning your child to daycare or preschool - you can watch it HERE!

This week Layne reveals why she doesn't have any babies (yet?) and explains her fears and doubts about motherhood. Jess speaks to the comedy and confusion of parenting a little boy who loves his penis (as they all do) and how to maintain your identity when you also have to be someone's mom. We discuss why toddlers are the best and how community can keep you going when you feel like drowning. A listener whose toddler has "love aggression" asks how to keep her child from hurting the new baby and nurture their sibling relationship at the same time.

Join Very Good Mother's Club to be a part of our community and get your questions answered on a future episode!

Find Jess at Jessica Hover on Youtube and @jess_hover on Instagram

Find Layne @enquiryco on Instagram

In their first podcast episode EVER, Jess and Layne take deep breaths and learn how to correctly speak into microphones. They compare themselves to pilots and discuss how to handle turbulent times in life, how to keep perspective and how we can be "the village" for each other. Jess explains the podcast's name, shares how she handled making mistakes early in motherhood and what makes a good mother. Layne talks about why she's afraid of becoming a mom and how teaching preschool made her a better person. Then we discuss how parents can be more present, how to understand your child from their own perspective and how mindfulness can enrich your relationship.

Join Very Good Mother's Club to be a part of our community and get your questions answered on a future episode!

Find Jess at Jessica Hover on Youtube and @jess_hover on Instagram

Find Layne @enquiryco on Instagram

In this episode, Jess shares what she learned through surviving cervical cancer about why prioritizing your well-being is crucial for your entire family's health and happiness.

We get into:

• Practical tips for communicating your needs to your partner
• How to identify what you truly need when feeling overwhelmed
• Why mom's wellness is essential for your family's functioning
• Easy ways to incorporate rest into your busy schedule

We explore how to embrace guilt-free rest and share actionable advice for weaving REAL self-care into your daily routine, even with young children. Don't wait until you're sick or burned out – learn to prioritize your needs and create a more balanced, fulfilling life for yourself and your family.

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Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: ⁠https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching⁠

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Jess - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jess_hover⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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This week, Layne and Jess reframe fairness into a more powerful concept: equity, ensuring everyone gets what they need. We offer practical scripts to explain this concept to your child, and discuss how to navigate those inevitable one-toy toddler meltdowns. This episode dives into:

• Why "no fair" complaints emerge around age 3 and how it relates to brain development
• Understanding the difference between fairness and equity
• Emphasizing that parents' needs matter too in family dynamics
• Guiding children through disappointment and unfulfilled wants
• Building resilience and empathy in kids by focusing on meeting diverse needs
• Communicating effectively with your co-parent about family needs
• Prioritizing needs based on your values and current circumstances

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Book a 1:1 coaching session with Layne: https://www.enquiryco.com/coaching

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Jess - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jess_hover⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Layne - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@enquiryco

To kick off Season 6, Jessica and Layne revisit the transformative power of loving your life, even amidst the challenges of raising young children, recovering from cervical cancer and figuring out how to pay bills. Jess introduced us to the mantra "I love my life" in the final episode of last season and while you don't need to hear it to enjoy this episode, it is a conversation that genuinely changed us both and we recommend listening when you can (find the link below)! Today we build on that with a discussion about how to find strength and "love your life" even on your worst days. We share stories about times in our lives when things "went good" instead of going bad. We offer encouragement about how to trust that the dark times are part of a story that's worth loving and that good things will continue to come in your life.

Share your thoughts or ask a question - verygoodenoughpod@gmail.com

Season 5, Episode 12: I Love My Life | How to stop waiting and start loving your life now - https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/JXo2kMmICKb

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Jess - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@jess_hover⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Layne - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@enquiryco