Online dating: Is it worth it? Well… that really depends on your "worth it." In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we get real about the highs, lows, and “what even is this?” moments of dating online. Charlie shares why online dating hasn’t worked for her, while Dr. Sue brings in perspective from her work with students, seniors, and curious minds of all ages.

We talk about setting realistic expectations, navigating dishonesty (hi, bots), and why knowing what you want before diving in can save you a lot of heartache. From ethical non-monogamy to decoding bios and red flags, we cover the good, the bad, and the confusing parts of digital dating.

Whether you're new to online dating or feeling jaded by the apps, we’re here to help you check in with yourself, stay grounded, and figure out what your version of “worth it” really looks like.

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Is honesty always the best policy in relationships? In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we unpack the gray areas of truth-telling—exploring when full transparency strengthens trust and when it might do more harm than good.

We explore the nuances of disclosure, personal boundaries, and the idea that not everyone has earned the right to know certain details about your life—especially when it comes to topics like sexual orientation, past experiences, and personal choices. We also examine the difference between thoughtful honesty and brutal truth, discussing how timing, context, and emotional safety all play a role in communication.

From small white lies to life-changing disclosures, honesty in relationships isn’t always black and white. We break down how navigating these tricky conversations with intention, and respect, can help you foster deeper trust without unnecessary harm.

To see the question that prompted today's episode, you can read it on Substack or listen to it on YouTube

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In this episode, we unzip the often-overlooked topic of aging and its impact on sexuality. We discuss the physiological changes associated with menopause in women and andropause in men, exploring how these transitions affect sexual functioning, relationships, and self-image. Dr. Sue explains the importance of understanding changes like testosterone decline and lubrication challenges, while Charlie highlights the cultural stigmas that discourage open conversations about aging and intimacy.

We also talk about practical considerations such as finding the right lubricant for postmenopausal vaginal health and the importance of exploring pleasure beyond traditional norms. Through stories, we emphasize the value of better education, open communication, and positive role models to break down taboos and empower individuals to embrace their evolving sexuality. Whether you're navigating these changes yourself or supporting someone who is, this conversation offers empathy and insights to help you thrive.

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What are the questions about sex you’ve always wanted to ask but felt too awkward to say out loud? In this open and insightful episode, we take on seven of the most common—and most avoided—sex questions, inspired by this Buzzfeed article featuring Dr. Sue herself. Using our signature mix of expertise, humor, and candor, we shed light on topics many are too shy to talk about.

The questions we talk about are: 

• “What comes out when I squirt? Is it just pee?”

• “Am I masturbating too much?”

• “Will my vibrator desensitize me?”

• “Do my weird sexual fantasies mean there’s something wrong with me?”

• “Is there anything I shouldn’t be putting in my butt?”

• “If I enjoy butt play, does that mean I’m gay?”

• “How can I make my penis bigger?”

Through it all, we point out the importance of open communication, breaking down taboos, and embracing curiosity about your body and your pleasure.

Have your own question or a topic idea for the show? Submit them via the links below, and join the movement to unzip taboos around sex and sexuality!

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What is the “mating crisis,” and what does it really mean? In this episode, we unpack the complexities behind this increasingly popular term used to describe shifting dynamics in modern heterosexual relationships. We challenge its implications, questioning whether it reflects a genuine societal issue or simply perpetuates fear and blame—particularly targeting women.

We delve into the evolving concept of male loneliness, especially among straight men, and how it has been reframed as a "mating crisis." Our conversation explores how societal changes, including women’s growing autonomy and empowerment, have disrupted traditional relationship expectations. We also discuss the backlash women face, such as being labeled “childless cat ladies,” and how these narratives pressure women into relationships while ignoring men’s responsibility to themselves to evolve and adapt.

Dr. Sue and Charlie highlight the importance of embracing paths that align with personal desires and values, free from societal pressure. With a focus on rethinking harmful language and fostering honest conversations, this episode invites listeners to challenge outdated norms, redefine relationships on their own terms, and celebrate the beauty of autonomy and self-discovery.

If you’re in crisis and need to talk to someone you can call or text 988, or you can go to this website to chat.

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In this episode, we get real about the frustration, determination, and unwavering commitment it takes to keep pushing forward in a world that often tries to silence necessary conversations. From the political attacks on marginalized communities to the spread of misinformation, we explore the challenges of staying informed, the power of community, and the importance of resisting fear. We discuss why self-care isn’t just personal but political, how to support those most affected, and why we refuse to back down. Tune in for an unfiltered, passionate conversation about fighting for truth, justice, and the right to speak freely.

With the current political climate threatening access to accurate information and open discussions, we dive into how fear is used as a tool of control—and why it’s crucial to push back. We also emphasize the need for collective resilience, allyship, and finding strength in numbers, even if it’s just one trusted person. This episode is a reminder that questioning sources, seeking diverse perspectives, and holding space for difficult conversations are acts of resistance. 

This episode serves as a call to action—because when we fight for truth, justice, and freedom of speech, we all rise together.

What you can do:

• Share the podcast with others and on social media to help spread the word.

• Those with podcast promotion knowledge, consider lending a hand to amplify our reach.

• Prioritize self-care while continuing activism, recognizing the balance is vital for long-term resilience.

• Find your community—whether online or offline—to provide support and solidarity during these trying times.

• Use your power and privilege to support targeted communities through actions, not just words.

• Be critical of information sources and make a conscious effort to seek out diverse, factual perspectives.

• Diversify your social media feeds to include voices from communities outside your own.

• Contact your elected representatives and speak up about the issues that matter.

• Take the initiative to educate yourselves on how to best support marginalized communities.

• Older listeners, keep engaging with activism and stay informed about current issues to continue being a force for change.

• Send questions or topic suggestions to us to help shape future episodes and contribute to ongoing conversations.

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In this episode, we dive into the critical but often overlooked topic of sexual health in healthcare settings. Did you know that only 6% of healthcare providers start conversations about sexual health? We highlight why this needs to change and discuss ways the system can do better—starting with medical school and advocacy programs. We talk about the gaps in training for medical professionals, the discomfort many of us feel when raising concerns with our healthcare providers, and the challenges of dealing with gender and racial bias. 

We also share insights on the importance of treating the whole person and fostering open communication. On the patient side, we talk about how to prepare for appointments, advocate for yourself, and push back when your concerns aren’t being taken seriously.

This conversation is packed with practical advice, personal stories, and a call to action for providers to prioritize sexual health as a vital part of overall well-being. And we want to hear from you! Share your experiences and help us keep this conversation going.

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Statistics cited: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7177861/

National Coalition for Sexual Health https://www.nationalcoalitionforsexualhealth.org/

In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we dive into the often-asked question: What is the “normal” frequency for sex? *Spoiler Alert*—it’s different for everyone. We explore how individual preferences, partner compatibility, and life factors like stress, health, and age play a role in what feels “normal.”

The conversation delves into the motivations behind questions about sexual desire and frequency, the importance of open communication in relationships, and how to address differing libido levels. We also chat about challenges like the impact of medications on sex drive and navigating conversations about sexual needs in a vulnerable, non-judgmental way.

Whether you're curious about your own experiences or wondering how to have better conversations about sex and intimacy, this episode is packed with insights to help you understand what your “normal” is and what it can be for your relationships.

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In this episode of Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie, we dive into the essentials of reproductive health, focusing on the teenage years and the transformative changes of puberty. We discuss why understanding the basics—like the reproductive system, the hormonal shifts of adolescence, and when someone can get pregnant—is crucial for everyone. 

The conversation explores common misconceptions about reproductive health, emphasizing the importance of empowering people with accurate information, and highlights the role of empathy in bridging the knowledge gap. Whether you’re a parent, a teen, or just curious, this episode is packed with insights to help foster informed and respectful conversations.

Tune in to discover why education and understanding are the keys to fostering a healthier, more informed future for all.

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In this episode of Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie, we dive into the evolving landscape of relationship structures, focusing on consensual non-monogamy (CNM) like open relationships or polyamory, and the importance of clear communication and boundaries. We talk about how societal expectations around marriage and commitment are shifting, creating space for people to redefine what partnership means to them.

From defining terms like monogamy, polyamory, and monogamish to addressing the complexities of jealousy, family dynamics, and social stigma, our conversation emphasizes the value of honesty, self-awareness, and proactive communication. We also share how these relationship styles challenge societal norms while offering opportunities for personal growth and deeper connections.

Whether you’re curious about non-monogamy or exploring it yourself, this episode provides insights into what non-traditional relationships can mean, and offers tips for fostering healthy, communicative partnerships in today’s evolving world.

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In this episode of Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie, Dr. Sue and Charlie explore the critical differences between sex and gender, shedding light on how these terms are often misunderstood and misused. They delve into the significance of respecting people's identities, using affirming language, and understanding the evolving nature of gender as a social construct.

The conversation explores the evolution of language surrounding gender, the importance of affirming people's chosen names and pronouns, and how respecting identities fosters safety, health, and happiness for those who don’t fit traditional labels. This episode encourages listeners to embrace the power of understanding and respect to foster a safer and healthier world for everyone.

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In this episode of Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie, Dr. Sue and Charlie talk about how dating and relationships have evolved in the wake of COVID-19. They also explore the pandemic’s impact on emotional connections, communication gaps between men and women, and the rise of new dating standards shaped by shifting social norms.

Dr. Sue and Charlie talk about the prevalence of online dating apps and the challenges of transitioning from digital to in-person interactions, as well as the pressures of navigating a world where dating expectations have transformed. From ghosting to misrepresentation and the resurgence of in-person events, Dr. Sue and Charlie discuss the ups and downs of modern dating.

With a focus on empowerment, effective communication, and setting personal standards, this episode offers insights into the current dating landscape and encourages listeners to reflect on what works best for them in this ever-changing world.

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What happens when one partner wants sex more than the other? In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we dive into the complexities of desire discrepancy—when partners have mismatched levels of sexual interest. It’s a common challenge in relationships, but one that’s often misunderstood, stigmatized, or even ignored. We explore the many factors that can influence libido, from stress and medication to relationship dynamics, emotional connection, past experiences, and shifting self-perceptions.

We also challenge outdated stereotypes about men and women’s sex drives—like the myth that men always want more sex and women are the gatekeepers—and unpack how these assumptions can create unnecessary guilt and frustration. We talk about why communication is key, and why those conversations can be difficult or even painful. That’s why we share ways you can work to bridge the gap with empathy, curiosity, and openness.

From rediscovering passion in long-term relationships to handling mismatched desire without shame or resentment, this episode is about fostering deeper connection, understanding, and pleasure—on both sides of the bed. Whether you’re experiencing this yourself or just want to learn more, we’ve got insights, real talk, and ways to help you navigate intimacy with confidence.

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In this episode of Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie, Dr. Sue and Charlie dive into the complex and often misunderstood topic of abortion as healthcare. Tackling societal conditioning and pervasive myths, they shed light on the impact of restrictive reproductive laws, the importance of comprehensive sex education, and why access to contraception is crucial for real choice in reproductive health.

Dr. Sue and Charlie break down the misleading claims behind recent restrictive laws and policies, exposing how medical inaccuracies shape public perception and policy. They explore the stark realities of maternal mortality in the United States, and the profound effects of restrictive abortion laws on families and quality of life. Through a compassionate and clear discussion, they emphasize that reproductive choices are deeply personal and should not be politicized.

Dr. Sue and Charlie encourage listeners to protect their privacy by deleting period-tracking data (except for Euki), seek reliable health resources, and challenge misinformation. Wrapping up, they invite listeners to share the episode, join the conversation, and consider what it means to empower individuals to make informed choices about their bodies.

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In this episode of "Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie," we challenge the concept of virginity. Dr. Sue and Charlie explore the concept’s social and cultural weight, diving into how gender roles and expectations shape our perceptions. They dissect the pressure and confusion that surrounds first-time sexual experiences and question why society is so fixated on “losing your virginity” as a milestone.

Our hosts also discuss the problematic nature of terms like “virgin” and how religious and heteronormative influences complicate our understanding of abstinence and sexual identity. The episode touches on unique cultural pressures and examines how these expectations can lead to risky sexual behavior or feelings of shame.

With a mix of expert insight and empathetic conversation, Dr. Sue and Charlie stress the importance of communication and comfort during those pivotal first experiences. They address common concerns and emphasize that everyone’s journey is valid and unique. Wrapping up with a look at the societal and historical influences that perpetuate virginity myths, this episode encourages listeners to rethink, communicate, and challenge these outdated constructs.

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In this episode of "Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie," we invite listeners to a candid, compassionate conversation about sex and aging - an essential discussion for everyone at every stage of life. 

Together, they explore the changing perception of aging and how media shapes our views on what it means to grow older, especially when it comes to love and intimacy. Dr. Sue discusses how societal pressures around youthfulness affect both men and women as they age, and why diverse, authentic representation of aging in media can impact our sense of self. They also address the rising rates of STIs among older adults, unpacking the biases in healthcare that often leave this demographic without the education and support they need to maintain their sexual health.

Dr. Sue and Charlie touch on the role of adult children in supporting aging parents who are re-entering the dating scene. They discuss the importance of being open, supportive, and nonjudgmental, as well as how adult children can help their parents navigate new relationships and online dating safely.  

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In this episode of "Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie," we talk about how pop culture influences our perceptions of sex and sexuality. Dr. Sue and Charlie explore the impact of movies, music, social media, and celebrity culture on the way we view sex, relationships, and body image. From unrealistic expectations to sensationalized narratives, they break down how media messages shape our beliefs and behaviors—sometimes in ways we don’t even realize.

We’ll discuss the power of representation, how pop culture can both challenge and reinforce the taboo, and why it’s crucial to approach these messages with a critical eye. Dr. Sue and Charlie provide insights on the importance of media literacy, and share examples that highlight how pop culture shapes everyday conversations about sex. Tune in as we unpack the influence of media and discover ways to engage with it thoughtfully, so you can take control of your own narrative.

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In this episode of "Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie," we tackle the topic of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) with a focus on support and open communication. Dr. Sue and Charlie discuss how STIs impact different age groups and the unique challenges each group faces, breaking down common fears and misconceptions. They emphasize that anyone can be affected and that no one should feel alone or without options.

We discuss the importance of open and honest conversations about STIs with partners, and  removing the stigma that often surrounds these discussions. Dr. Sue talks about how common STIs are, and some of the reasons why people don’t take steps to reduce their risk, while Charlie helps to highlight the importance of staying informed and connected. Charlie and Dr. Sue emphasize that you are not alone in your reaction to the amount of information to consider surrounding STIs and individual risk. Tune in for a supportive, judgment-free conversation that reminds you that you’re never alone in your journey toward sexual health.

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In this episode of "Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie," we tackle one of the most important topics that is often overlooked or under discussed - consent. Dr. Sue and Charlie talk about what consent really is, going beyond the simple “yes” or “no” to explore how ongoing conversations around consent are essential for healthy and respectful relationships and sexual interactions.

We stumble through the complexities that often surround consent, and discuss the importance of clear communication, and why that can be difficult. Dr. Sue  and Charlie offer advice on recognizing verbal and non-verbal cues, and talk about real world examples of how consent plays out. Tune in for a candid conversation about the importance of consent.

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In this episode of "Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie," we dive into one of the key elements of healthy relationships: communication. Whether it’s discussing desires, setting boundaries, or tackling tough topics like consent and vulnerability, Dr. Sue and Charlie explore how open, honest communication can transform your sex life and relationships.

We’ll discuss why it’s so hard for many people to talk about sex, what to consider when you want to have those awkward conversations, and the tools you can use to communicate more effectively with your partner. From understanding the role of body language to the importance of timing, this episode is packed with practical advice for building deeper connections through honest communication.

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In this episode of "Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie," we explore the Circles of Sexuality, a framework that helps break down the many layers of human sexuality. Dr. Sue and Charlie talk about each of the five circles—sensuality, intimacy, sexual identity, sexual health and reproduction, and sexualization—discussing how they intersect and influence our overall understanding of sex and relationships.

We dive into how these circles impact everything from body image and trust, to communication and pleasure, while also tackling some common misconceptions. Dr. Sue shares her insights, and Charlie offers relatable examples to make the concepts easier  to understand and apply to everyday life. Join us for a deeper look at the complexity of sexuality and how understanding and  embracing the circles can lead to a healthier, more informed relationship with yourself and others.

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In this episode of "Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie," we dive into the current state of sex education in the United States. From inconsistent policies to outdated curriculums, Dr. Sue and Charlie explore how sex education varies greatly across states and the impact this has on people’s understanding of their bodies, relationships, and sexual health.

We discuss gaps in the system, the influence of politics and cultural values, and why comprehensive, inclusive sex education remains elusive in many areas. Charlie guides the conversation as Dr. Sue shares insights from her experiences, highlighting how these inconsistencies affect people's everyday lives. Join us as we examine what needs to change and why better sex education is crucial for healthier, more informed communities.

Curious about where your state stands on sex education? Check out this link: SIECUS State Profiles

To learn about confidentiality for minors in healthcare settings: CDC Minor Consent Laws

And don’t forget to reach out to your local school districts to learn about their sex education policies, and find out how to get involved.

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In this episode of "Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie," we break down persistent myths about pregnancy, such as when a woman can and can’t get pregnant, and discuss common misconceptions around things like condoms, anatomy,  and virginity. 

Dr. Sue and Charlie explore how pop culture and social norms keep these myths alive, often fueled by clickbait headlines and misinterpreted research. We also discuss why making sex education accessible to people of all ages is important for breaking down these myths.

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Sex is everywhere—but actually talking about it? That’s still a challenge. In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we get personal about what it’s like to openly discuss sex and sexuality. As co-hosts of a podcast that dives into taboo topics, we’ve seen firsthand how conversations about sex can empower, educate, and even shift cultural narratives. But we’ve also had to navigate the challenges that come with having these discussions openly.

We explore how having a platform like Unzipping Taboos has changed the way people perceive our expertise in human sexuality—sometimes in surprising ways. We talk about the social calculus of deciding what to share, setting personal boundaries, and how cultural and religious expectations can shape the way people engage (or avoid) conversations about sex. From family reactions to public scrutiny, we break down the complexities of being open about topics that many still prefer to keep behind closed doors.

Whether you're someone who's hesitant to talk about sex or you're already challenging taboos in your own circles, this episode unpacks the power of conversation, the risks and rewards of being open, and why normalizing discussions about sexuality is more important than ever.

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In this episode of "Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie," we tackle the complex issue of sex and censorship. Dr. Sue and Charlie explore how censorship in media, education, and public discourse perpetuates the taboo surrounding sex. By limiting what we can see, say, and learn about sex, censorship reinforces shame, stigma, and misinformation.

We discuss the impact of censoring sexual content on people's understanding of their own bodies, relationships, and sexual health. Dr. Sue provides insights into how this censorship affects sex education and public awareness, while Charlie questions the societal motivations of keeping conversations about sex behind closed doors.

Join us as we uncover the ways censorship keeps the taboo alive and how breaking the silence can lead to healthier, more open conversations about sex.

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In this episode of "Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie," we dive deep into the often-asked question: What counts as "normal" sexual behavior? Dr. Sue and Charlie talk about misconceptions about what is “normal” and the wide range of sexual behaviors and practices that people engage in. 

Dr. Sue offers her professional insights, breaking down what the latest science and research reveal about sexual behavior, while Charlie helps make sense of it all with relatable and engaging commentary.  

This episode is an open, judgment-free discussion aimed at informing, challenging, and broadening your perspective of what is "normal".

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In this episode of "Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie," we dive into the controversial and often stigmatized topic of "body count"—the number of sexual partners someone has had. Dr. Sue and Charlie discuss why this topic can be so loaded, exploring how society views body count for different genders. We challenge the stereotypes and misconceptions about what these numbers mean and examine why they might matter to some people while being irrelevant to others.

Dr. Sue provides a professional perspective on the implications of "body count” on self-esteem, relationships, and sexual health. While Charlie talks about what we see in pop-culture, and how society is conditioned to care about this topic.

Tune in as we strip away the judgment and talk openly about the significance—or lack thereof—of sex body count in our lives and relationships.

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In this episode of "Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie," we get back to basics by asking a fundamental yet often overlooked question: What is sex? Dr. Sue and Charlie explore the various ways people define and experience sex, challenging traditional definitions and discussing how these experiences can differ greatly from person to person. 

Drawing on her background in sex education, Dr. Sue provides expert insights, while Charlie brings relatable, everyday perspectives to the conversation. 

Join us as we expand the discussion around what sex truly means, debunk common myths, and embrace a more inclusive understanding of sex.

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Welcome to the pilot episode of "Unzipping Taboos: Candid Conversations about Sex with Dr. Sue & Charlie." In this kickoff episode, Dr. Sue and Charlie introduce themselves and dive into one of the biggest questions about sex: Why is it so difficult to talk about? From cultural and societal taboos to personal insecurities and fear of judgment, we explore the many reasons why conversations about sex are often avoided or kept behind closed doors.

Dr. Sue shares her professional insights from the field of sex education, while Charlie shares relatable insights & commentary on the topic. Together, they uncover the barriers that keep us silent and discuss why it's important to break the ice and start talking openly about sex.

Join us as we lay the groundwork for a series of honest, non-judgmental conversations aimed at breaking down taboos, clearing up misconceptions, and creating a space where everyone can feel comfortable discussing sex. Whether you're curious, nervous, or just eager to learn more, this episode is the perfect start to our journey together.

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Anal sex is often wrapped in stigma, misinformation, and awkward silence—but we’re here to change that. In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we break down some of the myths and misconceptions about what can make anal play safe, pleasurable, and well-informed.

We talk about the essentials: consent, communication, and why the right lube can make all the difference. We get into the nitty-gritty of preparation, hygiene, and common health concerns, including the risks of STIs.

But this isn’t just about the physical side—we also dive into the social taboos that keep people from talking about anal sex, why those stigmas exist, and how we can change the narrative around pleasure and sexual health.

Whether you’re new to the conversation or a seasoned pro, this episode is here to give you the facts, challenge the myths, and help you feel more confident talking about (and experiencing) anal play.

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What defines cheating, and where do we draw the line? In this episode, we unzip the nuanced world of relationships, exploring how communication, honesty, and personal boundaries shape our understanding of fidelity. From flirting and emotional connections to the impact of technology and dating apps, we dissect the complex dynamics that influence trust and transparency between partners.

You'll hear insights on identifying emotional baggage, the pitfalls of lying by omission, and why "calibration conversations" (a phrase Charlie coins) can help couples navigate evolving expectations. Whether it's tackling the challenges of meeting up with an ex or the ethical use of non-monogamy labels, this episode offers practical advice for fostering healthier, more honest relationships.

Tune in for a candid discussion that blends real-life scenarios with expert guidance—and learn how to create a stronger foundation of trust with your partner.

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In this impactful episode, we explore the complexities of consent, tackling its challenges and the cultural dynamics that perpetuate harassment and sexual assault. We confront the normalization of harmful behaviors, examine the influence of power imbalances, and discuss why "no means no" is an insufficient framework for understanding consent.

Our conversation emphasizes the importance of believing survivors, challenging rape myths and jokes, and addressing non-consensual behaviors like stalking and harassment. We also share practical advice on safely calling out inappropriate comments in various settings, creating safer spaces, and providing meaningful support to those affected.

By focusing on compassion, education, and cultural change, this episode equips listeners with tools to navigate boundaries, empower victims and allies, and contribute to a more consent-conscious society. 

If this episode brought something up and you need to talk to someone or need help, contact RAINN They’re available by chat and phone 24/7.

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Dr. Sue sits down with Becca, founder and director of I Need an A, to unpack the realities of abortion access in a post-Roe world. They tackle the confusion created by restrictive laws, the chilling effect of misinformation, and the resilience of communities working to keep abortion accessible. Becca shares how I Need an A provides clear, up-to-date information for those seeking care—without tracking data or collecting personal information.

They also discuss the looming threat of outdated laws like the Comstock Act, the broader challenges in reproductive healthcare, and why community-driven action is more critical than ever. Plus, Dr. Sue and Becca reflect on the importance of rest and self-care in sustaining this work.

Ways to Take Action:

• VisitI Need an A for accurate abortion access info

• Share I Need an A with your community to combat misinformation

• Volunteer with I Need an A’s digital support team

• Donate to I Need an A or local abortion funds or support organizations to help those in need

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In this episode, we dive into the complex and often misunderstood world of kink, addressing the taboos, misconceptions, and societal norms that contribute to shame and stigma around sexual expression. We talk about the importance of consent as a cornerstone of any sexual encounter, emphasizing the roles of curiosity, communication, and aftercare when exploring experiences with a partner.

Dr. Sue shares her perspective on the weight of the term "kink" and how it can evoke discomfort or judgment, while Charlie highlights the need for open, honest conversations to dismantle outdated cultural attitudes shaped by Puritanical views on sex. Together, they explore the challenges of finding reliable information on sexual health and kink practices, particularly in a society that often censors or avoids such topics and resources.

The conversation also touches on navigating personal preferences, respecting boundaries, and encouraging self-discovery without judgment. Whether you’re curious about kink or looking to deepen your understanding of sexual communication, this episode unpacks essential ideas about consent, acceptance, and embracing your unique desires.

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In this episode, we tackle the often-daunting role parents play in sex education. We explore the fears many parents face—like not having all the answers, accidentally "giving permission," or losing control of the conversation—and offer practical strategies to build confidence. From acknowledging gaps in knowledge to being an approachable resource, we share how parents can navigate these sensitive conversations with empathy and openness.

We emphasize the importance of clarifying personal values, respecting bodily autonomy, and adapting to each child's unique experiences. Join us for actionable advice, recommended resources like amaze.org, and insights to help you strengthen your connection with your child as they grow.

Whether you're a parent, educator, or curious listener, this episode offers a thoughtful approach to fostering understanding and breaking down barriers in conversations about sex and sexuality.

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Stealthing—it sounds like something out of a spy movie, but in reality, it’s a serious violation of consent. In this episode, we unzip what stealthing really is: when someone removes a condom during sex without their partner’s knowledge or consent. It’s a practice that crosses every ethical line, yet it’s still only legally recognized as sexual assault in one state (California).

Together with our guest Dr. Jenn Evans, we dig into the legal gaps, the cultural double standards around contraception, and the toxic influence of “red pill” ideology that excuses men’s harmful actions while blaming women. We talk about the human impact—how stealthing robs people of their bodily autonomy—and why shifting societal attitudes about consent is as important as changing the laws.

This conversation also shines a light on broader gendered expectations: why women are still blamed for pregnancies despite using contraception, why men’s reproductive sabotage is minimized, and how harmful online communities groom young men into entitlement and misogyny.

At the heart of it all, this episode is about consent, power, and respect. Because no matter what the law says, removing someone’s choice is never okay.

If you or someone you know has experienced stealthing or any form of sexual assault, you are not alone—and support is available. You can reach out to RAINN’s National Sexual Assault Hotline. They’re available by chat and phone 24/7.

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From Love Island to The Bachelor to Are You My First?, these types of reality shows turn love and sex into a competition. But what does that say about how we see relationships—and ourselves?

In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we dive into the “gamification” of sex and relationships on reality TV. We unpack how these shows reinforce harmful beauty standards, perpetuate rigid gender roles, and normalize manipulation—all while being marketed as romance. We also explore the hypocrisy of a culture that politicizes marriage for some while turning it into a ratings game for others.

At the same time, we talk about what responsible viewing can look like: understanding media literacy, treating contestants as human beings (not villains), and remembering that real relationships don’t look like staged drama on a tropical island. Whether you watch these shows for fun, critique, or guilty pleasure, this conversation unzips what it means to be a thoughtful consumer of relationship “entertainment.”

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Why is the United States—one of the wealthiest nations in the world—leading in maternal deaths among high-income countries? And why are Black women three times more likely to die from pregnancy-related causes than white women?

In this episode, we unzip the urgent and often-overlooked crisis of maternal mortality in the U.S. We dig into how systemic racism, lack of access to quality healthcare for everyone, abortion restrictions, and profit-driven medical systems contribute to hundreds of preventable deaths each year. Highlighting that this isn’t a “new” problem, but one that has been allowed to persist in the shadows—especially for women of color.

We also talk about the human cost of recent abortion bans, the chilling effect on healthcare providers, and the hypocrisy in the "pro-life" movement, while doing so little to protect people throughout pregnancy, during childbirth, and through post-partum. This conversation is a call to stop looking away and start giving a damn.

Whether you’re someone who’s planning a pregnancy, supporting someone through one, or simply believe in human rights—this episode is for you.

Because birth shouldn’t be a death sentence. And staying silent? That’s not an option.

To learn more about the important work and information Black Mamas Matter does, click here: https://blackmamasmatter.org 

Click here to find the article Dr. Sue talked about, you can find that here: https://blackmamasmatter.org/our-work/key-readings/

To learn more about this and find ways you can become involved - check out The Center for Reproductive Rights: https://reproductiverights.org/our-regions/united-states/

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Pelvic floor therapy isn't just about Kegels—and it isn’t just for women. In this follow-up episode with pelvic health physical therapist Dr. Cara, we go deeper into what it really means to treat the whole person through the pelvic floor. From bowel issues to sexual pain to emotional trauma, this conversation reveals the wide-ranging impact pelvic health has on everyday life, and why so many patients—especially men—aren’t getting the care they need.

Together, we tackle misconceptions about chronic pain and the very real risks of following advice like “just do Kegel exercises.” They also explore how emotional wellness, professional collaboration, and inclusive communication shape better outcomes for patients of all genders and backgrounds.

Whether you're curious about how pelvic therapy works, frustrated by misdiagnosis, or simply want to feel seen in your health journey, this episode makes space for all of it—with honesty, heart, and humor.

Want to learn more about Dr. Cara and how pelvic floor physical therapy can support your health? Explore her Patient Education page for approachable, helpful info on the many conditions it can help treat—and how to get started.

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What do leaking, libido, and lower back pain have in common? More than you might think. In this episode, we sit down with pelvic floor physical therapist Dr. Cara to talk all things pelvic health—from the muscles you didn’t know you had to the intimate connections between pain, pleasure, and pelvic function.

We dive into what a pelvic floor physical therapy evaluation actually looks like, what your nervous system has to do with your pelvic muscles, and why pelvic PT is still so misunderstood—even by medical professionals. Dr. Cara shares personal insights, professional tips, and candid truths about working in a healthcare system that doesn’t always make room for whole-person care.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone who’s ever had sex, plans to, or simply wants to feel more at home in their body. Whether you’re dealing with pain, curious about your anatomy, or just want to know what your pelvic floor has been up to all these years—we’ve got you.

Want to learn more about Dr. Cara and how pelvic floor physical therapy can support your health? Explore her Patient Education page for approachable, helpful info on the many conditions it can help treat—and how to get started.

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The term sex positive is everywhere—on social media, in classrooms, even in dating profiles. But is it as inclusive and liberating as it claims to be?

In this episode, we dig into the unintended consequences of a term that's often used as a shorthand for open-mindedness, but can actually create new forms of judgment and exclusion. 

We share personal stories and lived experiences that reveal how the label can oversimplify complex truths, alienate those who’ve experienced harm, and silence voices that don’t fit a certain narrative. What happens when a term meant to fight shame ends up reinforcing it? And what if a better framework is sexual freedom—a more nuanced, inclusive way to talk about consent, pleasure, boundaries, and autonomy without expecting everyone to perform sexuality a certain way?

This is a conversation for anyone who's ever felt out of place in “sex positive” spaces, questioned what empowerment really means, or wondered whether it's time to rethink the words we use and the assumptions we make about what being open about sex should look like.

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To read Dr. Sue’s take on sex positivity check out this Medium article

In this episode, we team up with Annette Benedetti, host of Talk Sex with Annette, to do a deep dive into the controversial notion of “sex addiction.” We unpack why sex addiction is not recognized as a legitimate diagnosis and explore how the term is often misused, perpetuating myths that can shame and stigmatize people’s sexuality. Together, we challenge the narratives pushed by the treatment center industry and offer a more nuanced understanding of sexual behavior and challenges.

We invite you to rethink common assumptions about sexual compulsivity, recognize the harm that pathologizing sexual desire can cause, and embrace a more compassionate, realistic approach to sexual health. This episode encourages open, judgment-free conversations that honor individual experiences without relying on misleading labels.

If you haven’t listened to Annette’s podcast yet, we encourage you to check out Talk Sex with Annette.

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Porn isn’t always just a solo activity—it can carry a lot of weight in relationships. In this episode, we dive into the tricky, often unspoken space where porn and partnership intersect. What does it mean if your partner watches porn? When does it cross a boundary? And why does it feel so personal when it might not be?

We talk about the emotional complexity behind discovering a partner’s porn use, the assumptions made about what it means, and how those assumptions are shaped by culture, shame, and our own sexual self-understanding. We talk about consent, communication, and why early, honest conversations about porn are important. Whether you’re struggling to bring it up, feeling judged for what you watch, or just trying to understand how porn fits into your relationship, this episode offers a thoughtful and nonjudgmental starting point.

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In this episode, we unzip what porn literacy actually is. Spoiler: it’s not about whether you watch porn—it’s about how you understand it. From awkward anatomy to unrealistic expectations, we explore how porn shapes our ideas about sex, bodies, and pleasure—and why it’s time to start talking about it without shame.

We break down the difference between fantasy and reality, what ethical porn can offer, and how media literacy (yes, even for porn) is a critical part of sexual health. Whether you’re a curious viewer, a confused partner, or just someone trying to make sense of the messages we get about sex, this conversation is about thinking more clearly—and more compassionately—about the role porn plays in our lives.

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In this follow-up to Healing Out Loud: Sex, Survival, and the Path Back to Your Body, we continue unzipping what healing after sexual trauma really looks like—messy, non-linear, and deeply personal. Together, we unpack the emotional, cultural, and physical layers of recovery—from the weight of societal expectations to the quiet, powerful moments of reclaiming pleasure.

We explore the many ways trauma can surface, how it’s often misunderstood, and why healing isn’t about “getting over it”—it’s about coming home to yourself. We reflect on what it means to feel safe in your body again, how pleasure can become a powerful act of reclamation, and why these conversations are essential.

If you haven’t listened to Annette’s podcast yet, we encourage you to check out Talk Sex with Annette.

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In this deeply moving and empowering episode, we sit down with Annette Benedetti, sex and intimacy coach, survivor of sexual assault, and host of the podcast Talk Sex with Annette. Together we talk about what it means to reclaim your body, your pleasure, and your desire after trauma. Annette shares her story of surviving rape as a teenager and the long, non-linear process of coming home to herself—through self-love, and joyful exploration.

We talk candidly about the messy middle: the cultural myths around being a "perfect victim," and the pressure women face to perform or recover in tidy timelines. We also explore how healing can be tender, playful, embodied, and even sexy.

Whether you’ve experienced trauma or love someone who has, this conversation reminds us that pleasure is a birthright—and reconnecting with it is an act of self-trust and power.

If you need support check out the National Sexual Assault Hotline: 800-656-4673 (HOPE) or RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network)

If you want to learn more about the work Annette does, check out her website or listen to her podcast

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In this episode, we’re taking a fresh look at sexual milestones—the kind that don’t revolve around “losing your virginity.” That term? It’s vague, outdated, and honestly, we’re not fans of that term. So instead of centering one arbitrary moment in your sexual journey, we’re celebrating all the deeply personal “firsts” that shape our sexual lives: the first time you had an orgasm, the first time you got tested for STIs, the first time you tried a sex toy, or talked about a kink with a partner.

These moments may not get talked about much, but they matter. A lot.

We talk about the emotional weight of these experiences, especially if you are healing from trauma, navigating body changes, or just trying something new later in life. We even touch on milestones like choosing to end a relationship that is no longer right for you—a powerful act of self-care that deserves recognition too.

It’s all about curiosity, compassion, and shifting the narrative around what it means to grow sexually. No matter your history or where you are in your journey, we hope this conversation helps you embrace your own timeline and feel seen in the “firsts” that you’re excited about.

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Take a listen to Dr Sue talk about virginity on Talk Sex With Annette here: Virginity is a scam!

Why do people cheat? In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we unzip the messy realities of infidelity. From unmet needs and boredom to revenge, immaturity, or even unresolved trauma, we unpack the many reasons someone might stray — including situations where cheating happens despite a seemingly “happy” relationship.

We also distinguish between cheating and consensual non-monogamy, explore the lasting impact on relationships, and ask what it really takes to heal if a couple chooses to stay together. Because at the end of the day, working through the “why” and the “what now” of infidelity comes down to communication, honesty, and self-awareness.

Whether you’ve been cheated on, have cheated yourself, or just want to better understand the psychology behind it, this candid conversation shines a light on one of the most painful and misunderstood experiences in relationships.

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Think about it before you stick it in! In this episode, we unzip the do's and don'ts of shopping for sex toys — because when it comes to your body (and your fun), a little knowledge goes a long way. We break down why non-porous materials like silicone, stainless steel, and body safe plastic are the best options, and why you should steer clear of porous materials like jelly and wood (yep, even if it looks cute).

We also get into the nitty-gritty of toy care: how to clean, store, and maintain your toys so they stay safe, fun, and ready for action. Thinking of grabbing a random veggie or a household item? We share why that’s a risky idea.

We highlight tips for shopping smart, whether you're hitting up a local boutique for a personalized experience or browsing trusted online retailers like Adam and Eve. We even touch on things you might not have thought about, like noise levels, discreet designs, and toys for people with medical or mobility considerations.

Whether you're shopping for your first toy or upgrading your collection, we are here to help you navigate the shelves (and the search results) with confidence. It’s all about making choices that feel good, are safer, and support your pleasure — however you define it.

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Where does sexual shame come from—and how do we start letting it go? In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we unzip some of the complicated ways shame shows up around sex, pleasure, and curiosity. We chat about how cultural messaging (like the old idea that sex is only for making babies) still impacts how people think and feel today—and how hard it can be to find accurate, judgment-free information about sex in a world full of misinformation and censorship.

We also get real about the role of the internet: yes, it can be a great place for anonymous questions and advice—but it can also fuel judgment, shame, and confusion. Dr. Sue shares insights from answering anonymous questions online, and we each reflect on how deeply ingrained shame can hold people back from fully understanding and enjoying their sexuality.

Throughout the conversation, we offer encouragement for anyone struggling with sexual shame—including tips for tuning out external noise, starting open conversations with trusted people, and knowing when it’s time to reach out to a professional. It’s an honest, compassionate talk about why normalizing conversations around sex isn’t just important—it’s necessary for healing and connection.

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