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| #66: Dipping Your Toe Into BDSM: Ideas for Beginners - with Jeanne Baade | 28 Aug 2024 | 01:03:45 | |
In this episode, I talk with Jeanne Baade, a sex and relationship coach who discovered her sexuality later in life after growing up in a conservative christian household. Jeanne shares how she first experienced a clitoral orgasm at 48, and her journey into kink and BDSM. We explore simple ways for beginners to dip their toe into BDSM, like using blindfolds, scarves and rope harnesses to build trust and connection with a partner. Jeanne’s humour and storytelling make this conversation both insightful and engaging, offering relatable advice for anyone curious about exploring kink. Whether you're new to BDSM or looking to reignite your relationship, Jeanne’s wisdom provides a welcoming introduction to this world. Mentioned in this episode
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| #65: The STI Questions You’re Too Afraid to Ask – With Dr Sara | 21 Aug 2024 | 00:48:00 | |
In this episode, we’re diving into a topic that might not be the sexiest, but it’s crucial for anyone exploring their sexuality, especially in non-monogamous relationships. I’m joined by Dr. Sara Whitburn, a General Practitioner specialising in sexual health and the Deputy Medical Director at Sexual Health Victoria, to tackle all the awkward questions about STIs. We’ll be covering what you need to know about common STIs, including what you should be testing for and how often. Dr. Sara answers those burning questions like, “How risky is oral sex without condoms?” and “Can I get genital herpes if my partner gives me oral with a cold sore?” If you have an active sx life with multiple partners, or just want to stay informed, this episode is a must-listen. Being educated about STIs allows us to make informed decisions about the risks we’re willing to take and how we negotiate boundaries with our partners. Mentioned in this episode
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| #56: Reflections on Speaking Out, and Cultivating Your Feed | 12 Jun 2024 | 00:37:08 | |
In this week's episode I reflect on the responses I got from speaking out in episode #54. I am so grateful to everyone who has reached out to me, shared their stories, or told me the episode had an impact on them. I was very nervous about how the episode would be received and this really goes to show that most people in this community are good humans! Also in this episode I reveal some of my favorite profiles to follow on Fetlife and Instagram! This is just one of the ways we can be proactive about cultivating a positive community around us. See the list of profile names below if you’d like to follow these amazing people yourself. Mentioned in this episode
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| #55: Saying No - The Power of Setting Boundaries | 05 Jun 2024 | 00:43:42 | |
Setting boundaries might seem straightforward, but it’s often challenging to recognise and communicate them, especially in the context of kink. This week's episode dives into the complexities of identifying and asserting your boundaries, with a particular focus on the struggles faced by those with anxiety who may have become adept at ignoring their body’s warning signals. I share insights from my recent experiences at a weekend rope workshop that showed me that saying ‘no’ can actually lead to more fun! Special thanks to Evil Girls HQ and Miss Gen for an incredible workshop – if you have the chance to take a class with Miss Gen, don’t miss it! Links below. Mentioned in this episode
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| #54: I had a Bad Experience - This is What Happened | 29 May 2024 | 01:00:20 | |
This week’s podcast was the hardest I’ve ever recorded. It’s easy to share the positive aspects of kink—the great experiences and the joys of exploration. What’s hard is sharing the negative experiences. It would have been much easier to keep this private, but my podcast is about sharing my kink journey openly and honestly. I can't do that if I’m only highlighting the good parts. In this episode, I discuss a recent experience where my vetting process failed, and I ended up trusting someone who caused me significant harm. This experience was confusing and required a lot of reflection and conversations to understand fully. I share all of this on the podcast as openly and accurately as I can. This isn't about pointing fingers but rather an honest exploration of the risks we take in this community and how we can better protect ourselves. Contact xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #53: Surprising Lessons from Floor Ropes! | 15 May 2024 | 00:48:31 | |
In this episode, I dive into a recent adventure that took me to Brisbane, where I explored rope suspension for the first time. While I successfully achieved my suspension goals, it was the floor rope scenes with a talented rigger named Ravel (@ravel_shibari on Instagram) that truly transformed my perspective on rope. Join me as I share about these floor scenes, revealing what they looked like, how they felt, and the crucial elements of successful scene negotiation and trust-building with a new play partner. In line with our show’s ethos, I also peel back the curtain on some of the less glamorous aspects of kinky play—like stress, expectations, and fatigue—helping to normalise the full spectrum of experiences that come with exploring our kinks. Tune in to learn why sometimes the most insightful lessons come from unexpected places! Mentioned in this episode
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| #52: Fire, Sensation Play and Somatic Therapy - with Alisa Millard | 08 May 2024 | 01:24:58 | |
Welcome to the next instalment of our Everyday Kinkster series. In today’s episode I have a chat with Alisa Milard. Alisa is studying at Somatica Institute with me, and she has also just started her practice at Intimacy Illumination as a somatic sex and relationship coach. Alisa shares all about her kink journey, beginning with what it’s like to be a single female sub navigating this world on your own, all the way through to exploring impact play, rope suspension, fire play and electro play! We also talk about embodiment, somatic and the crossover between somatic therapies and kink. If you’d like to get in touch with Alisa, you can do so at @intimacy_illumination on Instagram, or by clicking the links below. Mentioned in this episode
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| #49: How to Give INSANE Blowjobs - Even if you Can’t Deepthroat | 17 Apr 2024 | 00:30:32 | |
I am so excited to dive into this topic today! Most of us learn about blowjobs from porn, which usually shows some very talented actresses and actors taking a lot, very deeply! This is actually pretty hard to do (especially for a long time) and there is no wonder that so many of us think we are bad at giving blowjobs. In this episode I’m going to teach you my biggest secret to giving an insane blowjob! I’m also going to share a bunch of tips and techniques that are going to be WAY easier than what you’ve seen in porn, and will most likely be a lot more pleasurable for you and your partner! I’ll even take you through a practical exercise to get you started. Mentioned in this episodeContact xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #48: I Booked a Rope Trip! - Planning an Experience Safely | 10 Apr 2024 | 00:32:16 | |
Hey friends! Today I am spilling the beads about my plans for a rope trip in Brisbane! Woop Woop! I am doing a rope class with Slade, visiting the Crystal Chateau, and have organised two rope sessions with some amazing riggers! It is super scary to plan scenes, especially with people you don’t know, so that’s why in this episode I walk you through all the steps I took to plan this experience, so you can do the same! This includes being realistic about expectations,, looking for partners, having a throughout vetting process and communicating desires, limits, boundaries and health issues. If you’d like to follow me on this journey in real time, make sure you follow me on instagram @harley_rabbit Mentioned in this episodeContact xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #47: Australia's First Age Play Convention Kangacon! - Interview with DaddaG | 03 Apr 2024 | 01:01:52 | |
Meet the man behind Kangacon - Australia's first Ageplay convention. I had so much fun chatting to DaddaG about his journey as an ABDL and a caregiver. DaddaG is filled with amazing stories about his experiences with other ABDL’s, he also shares about his many trips to CAPCon and TeddyCon in the US, and how these conventions inspired him to start KangaCon in Australia. Tickets to KangaCon are on sale now, and DaddaG gives us a great description of what to expect across the 3 day event, including a ball bit, stuffy pageant, story time, as well as informative classes. I am so grateful for DaddaG coming on the show, as this is such a fun and informative episode for anyone curious about exploring Ageplay. Mentioned in this episode
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| #46: Strength in Darkness - Soothing Trauma with BDSM | 27 Mar 2024 | 00:27:52 | |
Summary: In this episode, Harley Rabbit concludes the mini-series on degradation play, pain play, and taboo kinks by discussing trauma and its relationship to kink. She addresses the misconception that kink is a symptom of trauma and emphasizes that kink is a normal and healthy expression of human sexuality. Harley explores how kink can play a role in alleviating trauma and discusses two pathways for exploring trauma in kink: repetition with agency and resolution. She provides case studies to illustrate these pathways and highlights the importance of aftercare and consent in exploring trauma through kink. Harley concludes by inviting listeners to read a recommended book and previews the next episode on age play (summary written by AI). Takeaways:
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| #45: The Truth About Turn-Ons | 20 Mar 2024 | 00:22:18 | |
Summary In this episode, Harley Rabbit explores the concept of arousal beyond romance and challenges the idea that love is the sole source of arousal. She introduces the concept of the four emotional aphrodisiacs: closeness, anxiety, guilt, and anger. Harley shares a personal experience of fulfilling a fantasy and discusses a study on peak erotic experiences. She delves into the connection between negative emotions and arousal, emphasizing the importance of finding a balance. Harley also explores how negative emotions can be transformed into positive experiences and discusses the role of conflict resolution in arousal. The episode concludes with a promotion for a new audio fantasy and a preview of the next episode on trauma and kinks (summary written by AI). Takeaways
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| #64: Igniting Libido - Bringing Desire Outside of the Bedroom | 14 Aug 2024 | 00:33:59 | |
One of the most common challenges people experience in their sex life is issues with libido. Whether it's a mismatch with their partner's libido or a sudden drop-off, these issues can be frustrating and confusing. In today's episode, I introduce a controversial exercise called “Keeping Your Pilot Light On.” This exercise focuses on finding ways to comfortably tap into your arousal in your day-to-day life, outside of the bedroom. We delve into the ethical questions this topic brings up, particularly regarding sexual fantasies and keeping them separate from reality. It's an important discussion for anyone on their kink journey, providing valuable insights and practical advice on maintaining a healthy and balanced approach to arousal.
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| #44: When bad feels really good - kink is NOT abuse | 13 Mar 2024 | 00:26:45 | |
Summary In this episode, Harley Rabbit explores the difference between abuse and kink. She shares personal stories and examples to illustrate the importance of agency in kink scenes. Harley discusses how agency creates a safe container for exploring negative emotions and sensations, such as embarrassment, anxiety, and pain. She emphasizes the need for consent, negotiation, and boundaries in kink play to ensure the well-being of all participants. Understanding agency is crucial for both tops and bottoms to engage in ethical and consensual kink experiences (summery written by AI). Takeaways
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| #43: Live Sex Shows, Pole Dancing and Help for Veterans - with Will Denison | 06 Mar 2024 | 00:45:49 | |
Today I am starting a new series called Every Day Kinksters. The idea is to interview regular, everyday people, either from Fetlife or wherever, and ask them about their journey - because we all have a story to tell! Today’s episode came about because I was talking to one of my classmates, Will Denison, and he casually mentioned he used to do live sex shows… so of course I stopped him right there, and asked if he would tell his story on my podcast. Thankfully, he agreed! Will is someone who’s lived a thousand lifetimes already, starting in culinary school, serving in the military, and competing as a male pole dancer. And this is just the beginning! If you are interested in Will’s Lovers and Fighters Initiative which he talks about toward the end of the episode, this is a program he has set up specifically for Veterans to navigate the world of sex and relationships - you can find more information at pegasussexology.com. You can also email will directly at will@pegasussexology.com. (Links below).Mentioned in this episode Harleyrabbit.com - Use the code INTOIT for 25% off any audio fantasy Lovers and Fighters Program - pegasussexology.com Bondassage: Kinky Erotic Massage Tips for Lovers by Jaeleen Bennis, Eve MinaxGet in touch! Email Will directly at will@pegasussexology.com Harley Rabbit on Instagram (harley_rabbit) xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #42: Advice for new submissives (don't make these mistakes!) | 28 Feb 2024 | 00:37:28 | |
Recently I’ve had quite a few DM’s from subs who are new to kink, but are unsure on how to find a good Dominant partner, and how to stay safe in general. So, I figured this would be a great topic for this week’s podcast! First of all, if you are a sub and you’re just starting out on your kink journey, well done!!! This is an amazing world, and you are going to learn and experience so much more than you could in your vanilla life. That said, I totally get this can be overwhelming at the beginning, especially if you are trying to figure it all out on your own. That’s where I am here to help. In this episode I share my golden rules for all subs, as well as things to explore and get you started on your journey. For the first time ever, this episode is also available on YouTube - if you’d prefer to watch rather than listen, you can visit my channel here. Mentioned in this episodeHarley Rabbit audio story ‘Tied and Taken’ Previous episode on Free Use - #25 The Many Faces of Free Use Get in touch!xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #41: The Art of Erotic Photography - Interview with KinkyLens | 21 Feb 2024 | 01:03:16 | |
This week it was my absolute pleasure to speak with artist, kinkster and fet!sh photographer KinkyLens! I know many of you enjoy taking sexy photos of your kinky explorations, and this episode is packed with tips and advice for capturing those magic moments on camera. Len speaks about his experiences, including what it’s like to photograph couples having sx! He shares about his journey in k!nk, beginning with magazine cutouts of lingerie, all the way up to working and teaching as a professional photographer. What I love most about this interview is the pieces of Len's wisdom that are scattered throughout. Len is extremely insightful, sharing a beautiful perspective on a world too often misunderstood. Mentioned in this episodeRalph Gibson - nude photographer Helmut Newton - fetish photographer Gilbert and George Harley Rabbit audio story ‘Trafficked’ use code INTOIT for 25% off Get in touch!xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #40: Is it ok to Fantasize About Someone Else? | 14 Feb 2024 | 00:28:15 | |
This question brings up a lot of feelings for the best of us. Maybe the thought of your partner fantasising about someone else feels really icky for you? Or maybe you are like me, and you need to have all sorts of fantasies during sex, but you feel guilty about it, like you’re disconnecting from your partner? In this episode we will discuss the role of fantasy during sex, and hopefully disarm some of these negative feelings. Fantasy is a healthy and normal part of the erotic experience, and is not something we need to feel threatened by or guilty about. In fact, if you can learn to embrace your own fantasies, and your partners - this could be what takes your sex life from, “fine” to “OMFG!” Mentioned in this episodeHarley Rabbit audio story ‘The Escape’ Get in touch!xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #39: Life in the Fast Lane - Talking About Premature Ejaculation | 07 Feb 2024 | 00:52:10 | |
There are many things in life we’d like to happen quickly. The 3 minute planking part of your workout, waiting for the microwave countdown timer, or the last hour of the work day when your partner just texted you an eggplant emoji… Unfortunately, sex usually isn’t one of them. Today’s episode is all about Premature Ejaculation; what it is, and what you can do about it. I was lucky enough to have an anonymous guest offer to be on the show today, and share his honest experiences with PE. As much as this isn't the sexiest topic we’ve had on this show, it certainly is an important one. PE is something that affects hundreds of thousands of people around the world. It’s frustrating, it can be embarrassing, and it’s very rarely talked about. Neither myself or my guest are medical doctors, so this episode isn’t medical advice. It’s about normalising a very common sexual health issue, while also giving hope that there are options available, which you can discuss with your doctor. Mentioned in this episodeThe Journal of Sexual Medicine, Volume 6, Issue 10, October 2009, Pages 2888–2895, https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1743-6109.2009.01392.x Published: 01 October 2009 Harley Rabbit audio story ‘Shower with Your Girlfriend’ use the code "INTOIT" for 25% off. Men’s Health Online: https://pilot.com.au/ Get in touch!xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #38: Why I Told my Mum I was Kinky… | 31 Jan 2024 | 00:28:48 | |
There are lots of reasons we keep our kinky lives a secret. For some of us, secrecy is part of the fun! For others, it might be about privacy. But for lots of us, we keep this stuff secret because we are afraid of what others might think, if they knew the truth about us. This creates a source of shame, and leaves us feeling like we have to hide a part of ourselves in order to feel accepted. I recently had an important conversation with my mum, where I told her about my kinky lifestyle. It wasn’t until I had had this conversation that I realised just how much I’d been needing it. It was like a weight had lifted. It’s this conversation that I want to talk about in today’s episode, because I know many of you might also have someone in your life you wish you could be more open about this with. Mentioned in this episodeHarley Rabbit audio story ‘The Escape’ Get in touch!xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #37: Outsourcing Sex: Advice for Opening a Relationship | 24 Jan 2024 | 00:26:51 | |
Not everyone is super well matched in the bedroom. You might be an amazing couple, but when it comes to sex you’re just not really compatible. This is the case for a lot of long term couples, but it doesn't have to mean the end of the relationship, or that you have to sacrifice a fulfilling sex life. While there are lots of things couples can do to improve their sexual compatibility, outsourcing sex is also a fantastic option! In today's episode, I will go through 5 amazing pieces of advice for couples who are wanting to try opening up their relationship and outsourcing sex! Mentioned in this episodeEpisode #36: Are Open Relationships Committed? Get in touch!xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #36: Are Open Relationships Committed? | 17 Jan 2024 | 00:19:24 | |
Most of us have grown up in a culture where monogamy is the norm. If you enter a relationship it is pretty much expected that you will be monogamous. But times are changing, and alternative relationship styles like polyamory and open relationships are becoming more popular, and more and more people are becoming more curious about them. I wanted to do an episode specifically about open relationships or ENM (ethically non-monogamous) relationships where I could address some common questions and misconceptions. If you are wondering “do these relationships really work in the long run?” or “are open relationships as committed as monogamous relationships?” this episode is for you. Mentioned in this episodeEpisode #32 Extreme Scenes: Understanding Abduction Play with Cruciator Get in touch!xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #35: Top 10 Vetting Questions for new Play Partners | 10 Jan 2024 | 00:26:08 | |
Happy new year! If you are wanting to have an exciting year of kinky experiences, it’s likely you might need to do some vetting. So what is vetting? And how do we do it well? Personally, my vetting process could use an update, so I did some research and found my top 10 questions I will be using to vet potential new play partners. (Honestly, I wish I’d known about these years ago). Each person's vetting process will be very different! Feel free to cherry pick from my list, as well as come up with some great vetting questions of your own. Doing this work now could save you a whole bunch of headaches later on! Mentioned in this episodeAlso check out @kimoftheinternet on instagram (I got lots of my questions from her) Get in touch!xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #63: Mastering Fetlife Profiles for Men - with Slade (Part 2) | 07 Aug 2024 | 00:53:08 | |
Get ready for part 2 of our conversation about men’s profiles on Fetlife. If you're a man on Fetlife struggling to represent yourself authentically, these episodes provide invaluable tips and advice on how to do just that. Mentioned in this episode
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| #34: Embracing Your Inner Child - Age Play with Bear | 20 Dec 2023 | 01:10:24 | |
Today we are doing a deep dive into Age Play! I was lucky enough to sit down with Bear, a kinkster from Perth, Western Australia, who is very active in the age play scene over there. Bear is extremely passionate about this space, as you will be able to tell in the interview. He is a little himself, and he also runs workshops and has recently opened up his own physical store Kelmscott, specialising in Little and Pet Play gear. We cover a lot of ground in this conversation, from the various different forms of age play AB/DL, Little Space, Middle space etc. We talk about common misconceptions, age-play hypnosis, dealing with shame, how to support your caregivers, events and lots more! Bear has kindly offered listeners a PDF submissive questionnaire, which is a helpful resource for when playing with a new partner. You can if you’d like a free copy of that, you can email bear at liddle.bear79@gmail.com. I am also doing a giveaway for this episode. You can grab yourself a free lifetime ticket to my audio story “Daddy Reads You a Bedtime Story.” You can find that one at my website Harlyrabbit.com. Use the code BEDTIME at the checkout. That code will be valid until the end of the year! Mentioned in this episodeDaddy Reads you a Bedtime Story - Harley Rabbit audio story - Use the code BEDTIME “Submissive questionnaire” PDF email Bear at liddle.bear79@gmail.com. Get in touch!xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #33: Tied up in a Pool - Not What I Expected! | 13 Dec 2023 | 00:31:01 | |
Last night I got to experience something I’ve been wanting to try for a long time - I got to go into my friend's pool and be tied up in ropes! If this sounds super dangerous, that’s because it is! But with careful planning, the right people and knowing your own limits, it is possible to have these experiences in a relatively safe way. In this episode I take you through each step of my first time water bondage experience. I discuss everything from planning the scene, to trying underwater, to how it felt to be completely bound while in deep water. It wasn't at all what I expected! Mentioned in this episodeGet in touch!xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #32: Extreme Scenes: Understanding Abduction Play with Cruciator | 06 Dec 2023 | 01:08:24 | |
Are you curious about the darker, more extreme or taboo side of kink? I know I certainly am! In this episode we are taking a deep dive into CNC and Abduction play. I was fortunate enough to interview a Fetlifer who goes by the name of Cruciator. Cruciator has decades of experience in kink, and specializes in abduction play and multi day scenes. Although Cruciator clearly has a wealth of knowledge on many aspects of BDSM, In this episode we’ll focus mostly on his abductions scenes, as this is something that is personally, a big bucket list item for me - and I think for some of you guys too. Obviously there is a massive trigger warning on this, if your are triggered by any kind of consensual-non-consent play - this episode will not be for you. But if this topic peaks your curiosity, then please join me as we go deeper down the rabbit hole than ever before. Please listen with an open mind. Here is my interview with Cruciator! Mentioned in this episodePornography in a Free Society (book) Spanner case (Wikipedia article) R*pe & Abduction Scenes (Fetlife writing) Extreme Scene Protocol (Fetlife writing) R*pe Play & Abduction Scenes - Organisation, Safety & Practical Methods (zoom class) Get in touch!xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #31: Kinks vs Values: Exploring your shadow self | 29 Nov 2023 | 00:20:22 | |
Most kinksters (myself included) struggle with shame. One of the reasons for experiencing shame is because what turns us on is often in opposition to our personal values. For example, you might identify as a feminist, and the idea of a dominant / submissive relationship might feel wrong to you - yet for some reason these dynamics turn you on. Or maybe you feel strongly about treating all people with respect, but you’re secretly turned on by the idea of degradation play. You might be asking yourself… is this ok? And what does that mean for your own morality? If you want to be able to accept your kinky side, you will need to be able to answer these questions for yourself. In this episode we are diving into doing just that! Mentioned in this episodeHarley Rabbit Newsletter Sign Up Get in touch!xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #30: The 3 Dimensions of Sex | 22 Nov 2023 | 00:26:15 | |
It’s all well and good if you are into romance and passion - you know, the kind of sex you see in the movies - but what if you're not? What if you don’t fit the mould of socially sanctioned sex? Well many kinksters don’t, and that can lead to feelings of shame, guilt and being abnormal. Although only one very narrow type of sex is usually ever represented in film and TV, the Three Dimensions of Sex teaches us that there are in fact 3 distinct types of sex. In this episode, I take you through each of the dimensions, as well as share my personal experiences, and challenge societal norms. If you've ever felt there's more to sex than meets the eye, this episode is your golden ticket. Get ready to redefine pleasure on "Turns Out I'm Into It." xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #29: You're so perfect, I'm so proud of you! (did I just turn you on?) | 08 Nov 2023 | 00:28:36 | |
You are such a good girl / boy. Well done for clicking on this podcast. I’m so proud of you for being curious and wanting to explore kink! In this episode we are talking about praise kink. This has been blowing up on TikTok lately and I thought it would be a fun topic to explore on the show. I discuss what praise kink is, what it looks like and how it might bring more confidence to your sex life! I have lots of stories to share about how praise intersects with my other kinks, and how it has dramatic effects on my pain tolerance, confidence, and overall enjoyment of a scene. Many of us really struggle to take a compliment in real life - so kink can be an excellent safe space to invite more praise into your life. Mentioned in this episode
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| #28: Sleep Play - The Gateway Kink to CNC? | 01 Nov 2023 | 00:32:59 | |
What is Sleep Play? Well, Sleep Play is a kink where one person is asleep (or pretending to be asleep) while the other person engages in sexual activity with them. For some people, this sounds super creepy! But for others, there are lots of great reasons why Sleep Play can be a fantastic turn on! In this episode we will discuss how Sleep Play may look very different for different people, as well as give you the tools to discuss this kink with your partner(s). If you are enjoying this podcast, don’t forget to leave me an anonymous star rating! Mentioned in this episode
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| #27: Do you Find it Hard to say "no"? | 25 Oct 2023 | 00:36:03 | |
Have you ever found it challenging to utter that two-letter word, "no"? In this episode, I discuss the reasons why saying "no" can be an uphill battle for so many people. I also explore the important role personal boundaries play in nurturing not only your self-worth but also the health of your relationships. I will give you five of my personal favorite strategies to make saying "no" more manageable. This is particularly tailored for those who identify as people-pleasers, like me! My mission is for you to leave this episode not only understanding the challenges of saying "no" but also armed with the confidence and skills to assert your boundaries effectively when the situation calls for it. Mentioned in this episode
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| #26: Collar me, own me | 18 Oct 2023 | 00:28:46 | |
Collars carry a lot of meaning within the BDSM community, and that meaning can be very different depending on the person. I asked the community on Fetlife to tell me what collars mean to them - and I got some wonderful responses which I share in today's discussion. From a simple fashion accessory, to a way to shift into a submissive headspace, to a symbol of the D/s dynamic - collars can mean a lot of different things! There really is a lot more to collars and ownership than what appears on the surface, so today we dig deep into the rabbit hole, and find out what makes collars so important in the kink community! Mentioned in this episode
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| #25: The Many Faces of 'Free Use' | 10 Oct 2023 | 00:33:31 | |
‘Free use’ is a kink that has been getting a fair bit of attention on TikTok lately - which is causing a lot of people to feel curious about what it means, and others to feel concerned about why anyone would want to play like this. In this episode, I provide some answers about the many faces of Free Use. Like lots of kinks, there are many ways to experiment with and enjoy this kink, and this may look very different for different people. I also address some of the valid concerns about the type of behaviour Free Use appears to be promoting, particularly when it is shared out of context on mainstream social media. Mentioned in this episode
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| #62: Mastering Fetlife Profiles for Men - with Slade (Part 1) | 31 Jul 2024 | 00:54:24 | |
Ok guys, if you're on Fetlife and not having much luck with the ladies… How much effort have you really put into your profile? Be honest! In this episode, I'm joined by my Dom and long-term partner, Slade, as we dive into men's profiles. Slade himself is guilty of not keeping his profile updated, and like many men, has a lot more to offer than his current profile showcases. Together, we go through his profile piece by piece, incorporating valuable input from female Fetlife users about the red and green flags they look for when connecting with men on Fetlife. Tune in for practical tips and insights that will help you revamp your profile and increase your chances of finding meaningful connections. Mentioned in this episode
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| #24: What's so Good About a Threesome? Let me tell you... | 03 Oct 2023 | 00:33:04 | |
Did you know, the threesome is the most common sexual fantasy, across different genders and sexual orientations? Rarely is anything to do with what turns us on, ever so universal…so let’s talk about that. In this episode I give a real-life account of my recent threesome experience. I share openly about everything from asking the right person, identifying potential triggers, getting in the right headspace - all the way up to aftercare. Everyone deserves to experience their fantasy if they want to, and this has been one of mine for years! Join the fun, and enjoy this latest episode of Turns Out I’m Into It! Mentioned in this episode
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| #23 Answering Your Kinky Questions - Establishing Boundaries, Communicating Your Desires, Always Learning | 26 Sep 2023 | 00:36:48 | |
I get a lot of great questions in my inbox, so I thought it was about time I did a Q&A episode on this podcast. Today I discuss some of the most common kinky questions I get asked, from how to establish boundaries, how to communicate your desires with your partner, where to get started with objectification, as well as lots more! If you have a question you’d like me to answer either privately or on the show, you can msg me on Fetlife or through my website (links below). Mentioned in this episode Harley Rabbit Newsletter Sign Up The Case of the Harry Potter Pajamas (episode about Age Play) Get in touch! Website: harleyrabbit.com/podcast Fetlife: HarleyRabbit xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #22: Female Submission and Feminism - Are They Compatible? | 19 Sep 2023 | 00:31:12 | |
There are a lot of misconceptions around D/s relationships, which on the surface can look as though they are perpetuating a culture of misogyny. This however, is not the case. In this episode, we dive a little deeper into the dynamics of healthy BDSM relationships, and discuss how they in fact, align with feminist values. If you, like many submissive women (and dominant men) ever feel conflicted about your values around equality for all genders, and what you enjoy in the bedroom, I hope this episode can help reconcile this for you. It is my firm belief that female submission and feminism can and do exist in harmony, and there is no reason to have to suppress either identity. Mentioned in this episode
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| #21: I Tried Being a Camgirl - This is What it was Like… | 12 Sep 2023 | 00:38:21 | |
This week I tried being a cam girl! If you’re curious to know what it’s like to get naked on a livestream then you will love this episode! I am all about living by my values of sex positivity, body confidence, challenging social stigma, and freedom of sexual expression. Camming to me, felt like a way to fully exemplify those values. That said, it wasn’t all smooth sailing, and the whole experience was a bit of a rollercoaster! If you’d like to hear a bonus video where I share even deeper about this experience, you can access that for free on the backstage tab of my website. Links below. Mentioned in this episode
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| #20: Making Your Kink Fantasies a Reality! | 05 Sep 2023 | 00:37:22 | |
This week's episode is all about making things happen! No more “someday” goals people, I want you to pick a date, make a plan, and start living your best sex life! Don’t worry, I’m going to be right there alongside you. To get you motivated, I have set my own kink goal, and over the course of the next few months. On this podcast, I’ll be sharing each step of my journey, so you can see how it’s done. Today we are starting with choosing a goal, visualizing yourself achieving that goal (so you can get nice and excited!), then mapping out the steps involved to make it happen. Oh and most importantly - setting some milestone dates. If you want to stop dreaming and start living your best sex life, this is the episode for you! Mentioned in this episode
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| #19: The Confidence Myth, FoMo and Comparing Yourself to Others | 30 Aug 2023 | 00:28:55 | |
It might all look happy and confident on the surface, but the reality is, social media (including Fetlife!) isn’t the best place for our self esteem. I’m not telling anyone to stop using these platforms - I actually think they do a lot of good as well, but when scrolling your feed, it’s important to be aware of how it’s affecting you. In this episode I talk about the 3 most common pitfalls we all fall into on social media, including Upward Comparison, FoMo and the Low Self Esteem Cycle. I give you an honest behind the scenes look at what Fetlife is like for me, and I do my best to suggest some small changes you can make, to make your Fetlife experience a more positive one. Mentioned in this episode
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| #18: The Case of the Harry Potter Pyjamas | 23 Aug 2023 | 00:25:11 | |
In this episode I talk about my journey with Age Play. This is one of the more divisive kinks in BDSM and it was a form of play I used to be very uncomfortable with. Overtime, through exploring this kink slowly with my partner, I have been able to understand Age Play a lot better, and my little self has now become an important part of my kink identity. What all this has to do with Harry Potter Pj’s you ask? Well you’ll have to listen to the episode to find out why this was such a pivotal moment in my Age Play exploration. Mentioned in this episode
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| #17: A Night at the ‘Erotic Ball’ | 16 Aug 2023 | 00:30:53 | |
I don't think this was quite what the fairy godmother had in mind, but I had a great night out at the Townsville Erotic Ball! This was a big event for our regional North Queensland community and brought in awesome humans from all over the state! In this episode I tell you all about my experience at this event. I’m talking sexy costumes, traffic light wristbands and fire twirling entertainment! I also get pretty real about the less glamorous side of being social, including feeling awkward and like a bit of an outsider at times (we all feel this, you’re not alone!). Lastly, is there really a divide between Swingers and Kinksters? Are they basically the same thing? Or should you be picking sides?! Find out on this week’s episode of Turns Out I’m Into It! Mentioned in this episode
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| #16: A Sharp Look at Sadomasochism - Interview with PersephonyFalls | 09 Aug 2023 | 01:00:14 | |
I’ve got an extra special deep-dive episode for you today, where I interview Persephony Falls. Persephony is one of the first people I met in kink. She is a self professed Sadomasochist, has more than 15 years experience in kink, and she is heavily involved in the Townsville kink community organising the local sub-munches here. In this episode we cover everything from kinky Greek mythology, advice for newbies, and go in depth into Persephony’s love of pain (seriously, she casually mentions taking 500 strikes of a cane like it’s no big deal!). Quick disclaimer, if you’re squeamish, we do get into a good chat about needles in the second half of this episode, so feel free to tune out if that feels like too much for you. But if you're curious about this lesser known branch of BDSM then “stick” around! Lastly, please don’t try any of this stuff at home without doing your own thorough research! Mentioned in this episode
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| #15: Toxic Monogamy is the Enemy of Love | 02 Aug 2023 | 00:32:38 | |
Monogamy is something most couples never really discuss. It is generally assumed when we enter a relationship, it will be monogamous, and that is that. After all, monogamy is the only way to show true emotional commitment to someone… right? Well I strongly disagree. Monogamy - when agreed to for the right reasons - can be perfectly healthy. Though this is often not the case. I have frequently seen monogamy being used to justify possessive and controlling behaviour, disguising jealousy as passion, and promoting shame and secrecy in relationships. I may have some pretty controversial views on this topic, but I encourage you to hear me out. I’m sure you’ll enjoy the ride, and hey, you might even agree with me? Join me in this week’s episode of Turns Out I’m Into It, for an extra passionate chat about some of the things I value most in relationships. Mentioned in this episode
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| #61: The Art and Connection of Rope Bondage - with Ravel | 24 Jul 2024 | 01:01:42 | |
If you are interested in rope bondage, you need to listen to this episode! Ravel is an experienced rigger from Brisbane Australia, who understands that rope is so much more than just technical skill. With a background in theatre, dance and performing arts, Ravel talks about bringing intention to your rope scenes - that is, knowing what kind of experience and emotions you are wanting to cultivate, before you even touch a rope. Throughout the episode, Ravel offers loads of practical tips and ideas, as well as talks about the subtlety of non-verbal communication during a rope scene. I am so excited to share some of Ravel’s wisdom and experience on my show. Do not miss this one! Mentioned in this episode
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| #14 - How Does it Feel to Watch Your Partner F**k Someone Else? | 26 Jul 2023 | 00:23:50 | |
For many people, the idea of seeing their partner in the arms of another person is to painful to even imagine… but for Slade and I, we were pretty excited about it! In this episode, I recount all the juicy details for you, about what this recent experience was like, how the opportunity came about, as well as some insights into the positives of an open relationship. Also in this episode, discover a helpful way to communicate desires and boundaries with a new partner (especially for those of us who are a bit shy), as well as how you can start your very own "F*ckit List!" All this and so much more in this week's episode of Turns Out I'm Into It. Get in touch!
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| #13: A Deeper Dive Into Objectification, Plus Strangely Sexy Monsters | 12 Jul 2023 | 00:18:32 | |
Last week's chat on Objectification got some super interesting responses! So I decided to go even deeper into this topic today and add some of YOUR comments to this conversation. Objectification is such an interesting topic, because despite its negative connotations, it is a suuuuper common desire and can be extremely validating for people of all genders and roles! Later in the episode I discuss how “sexy” can be found in all sorts of things - from kneading pastry to scary monsters. I share a personal story about a very non-sexy movie scene that got my motor running! Whatever you’re into, chances are you're not alone! So it’s time to let go of shame and explore your unique desires, in this latest episode of Turns Out I'm Into It! Mentioned in this episodeGet in touch!xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #12: So Much More Than an Orgasm! | 05 Jul 2023 | 00:32:54 | |
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We are taught that sex is all about having an orgasm, but there is sooooo much more to it! Great sex is about all the wonderful and complex feelings we get to experience during that play. Whether you like to feel adored, desirable, worshiped, dominant, or you like to feel submissive, degraded and humiliated - all of these feelings are valid, healthy, and super fun ways to play! In this episode, I go into detail about some of the feelings I like to get in my CNC fantasies, including objectification, confinement, and feeling out of control, as well as explore where those desires come from. Hold on to your earbuds friends, because this episode doesn’t hold back! Discover more about yourself and kinky desires than ever before! xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||
| #11: Why I've decided to share my face on Fetlife | 28 Jun 2023 | 00:30:14 | |
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Privacy is a big deal in the kink world, and it’s important to be sure you are comfortable with whatever you choose to share about yourself. Once it’s out there, it's very difficult to take back! That said, sharing my face on my Fetlife profile is something I’ve been thinking about for a long time, and have come to the decision that it’s the right choice for me. In this episode, I share with you about my decision making process, which may be helpful for you when deciding how you want to go about your kink lifestyle. It is very easy to get caught up in other people's opinions, and for this reason we need to check in with ourselves regularly and make sure we are playing by our rules and no one else's. I hope you enjoy this episode. I plan on sharing this face photo once this episode goes live. If you’d like to show your support, feel free to click through to my profile using the link above. xx Harley 🐰 Follow me: Visit my website harleyrabbit.com | |||