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Functional healing isn't about bouncing back, it's about becoming more whole. In this episode of Trauma Rewired, Elisabeth Kristof and Jennifer Wallace are joined by somatic expert Veronica Rottman, founder of Soma School, to explore what happens when post-traumatic growth deepens into post-traumatic wisdom.

Together, they unpack how healing often involves grief, identity shifts, and surrender, not just resilience and strength. You'll hear how emotions are constructed in the body, why dissociation and fawning are intelligent survival responses, and how safety is rebuilt through slow, titrated somatic experiences. We discuss how cultural narratives about "getting stronger" can overlook the body's need for modulation, rest, and relational repair.

You'll learn how capacity building is nonlinear, why co-regulation and oxytocin-based safety cues matter, and how tending to wounds rather than fixing them can transform pain into embodied wisdom.

Join us for a workshop, taking a deeper dive into Hormones, Stress and the Female Nervous System, combining applied neuroscience and somatics to support female cycles: https://neurosomaticintelligence.com/female-nervous-system-workshop/

Timestamps:

• 00:00 Welcome and framing: growth vs. wisdom

• 05:30 Emotions as predictions and survival patterning

• 14:00 Dissociation, boundaries, and identity shifts

• 22:30 Somatic titration, oxytocin, and co-regulation practices

• 31:00 Capacity, achievement, and health trade-offs

• 39:30 Reframing fawn and freeze as intelligent responses

• 47:00 Cyclical needs, rest, and redefining growth

• 54:00 Integration, tending, and systemic context

• 59:00 Takeaways and next steps

Key Takeaways:

• Post-traumatic wisdom includes grief, ambiguity, and letting identities evolve, not only resilience.

• Emotions are constructed from interoception and predictions; safety cues can update those predictions.

• Small, consistent somatic doses help the system perceive more safety without overwhelm.

• Fawn and freeze are adaptive; meeting them with curiosity reduces shame and supports change.

• Capacity building is relational; co-regulation and oxytocin-supportive practices can expand what feels possible.

Resources Mentioned:

• Soma School – founded by Veronica Rottman

• Neurosomatic Intelligence Coaching Certification

• Brain Based

• The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron (via Alanis Morissette interview)

• Peter Levine on Somatic Titration and Safety

• Dr. Stephen Porges and the Polyvagal Perspective

• Lisa Feldman Barrett – Theory of constructed emotion

• Vincent Felitti – The ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) Study

• Raja Selvam – Integral Somatic Psychology

Call to Action:

If this episode offered you a new perspective on healing—or gave language to something you've felt but couldn't name—share it with someone who needs to hear it. And don't forget to subscribe on your favorite audio platform or tap the bell on YouTube so you never miss an episode.

If you've ever noticed your focus, energy, or emotions shift throughout your cycle, this next workshop will help you understand why. On November 13th at 12pm Central, Elisabeth Kristof

and Veronica Rottman will explore how your hormones interact with your nervous system—and how somatic tools can support you through every phase. Join live or catch the replay at https://neurosomaticintelligence.com/female-nervous-system-workshop/

Disclaimer:

Trauma Rewired podcast is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear. We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being. If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.

If someone's life is in danger, immediately call 911.

We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available. We don't warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It's very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren't responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast.

We invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don't verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization. We talk about general neuro-science and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs.

We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neuro-somatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional. The BrainBased.com site and RewireTrial.com is a membership site for general nervous system health, somatic processing and stress processing. It is not a substitute for medical care or the appropriate solution for anyone in mental health crisis.

Any examples mentioned in this podcast are for illustration purposes only. If they are based on real events, names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved.

We've done our best to ensure our podcast respects the intellectual property rights of others, however if you have an issue with our content, please let us know by emailing us at traumarewired@gmail.com.

All rights in our content are reserved.

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The flight response is often misunderstood as weakness or avoidance, but it's actually a deeply wired survival strategy shaped by fear and trauma. In this episode of Trauma Rewired, we uncover how the nervous system uses constant motion, through overwork, hustle, and productivity, to escape from internal sensations and emotions that once felt unsafe.

You'll learn how fear disguises itself as discipline, why rest feels threatening to high performers, and how chronic busyness creates a false sense of safety while eroding health and connection. From neuroscience to personal stories, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof explain the mechanisms of the flight response, its roots in trauma, and the protective role it sometimes plays.

Most importantly, we share practical somatic tools to slow down, regulate the nervous system, and reclaim fear as a signal for presence and alignment, not something to outrun.

00:00 – Running from internal sensations, not others
00:24 – Busyness and productivity as avoidance
00:43 – Slowing down in somatic therapy
01:33 – Hustler identity and chronic overdoing
02:25 – Flight tied to fear of stillness
03:11 – Welcome to Trauma Rewired
04:15 – Flight patterns: urgency, overscheduling, avoidance
05:13 – When flight signals misalignment
07:46 – Flight as protection against overstimulation
09:31 – Brain-body mechanics of flight
11:50 – Fear bypassed as weakness
13:10 – Trauma and structural reinforcement of flight
15:36 – Movement replacing emotion
17:35 – Somatic healing requires slowing down
18:32 – Signs of inward-directed flight
19:55 – Disconnection from body cues (hunger, fatigue)
23:39 – Somatic regulation steps and tools
25:53 – Fear as primal protective signal
28:12 – Regulation tools to create space between sensation and action
31:24 – Stillness and vulnerability as safety
32:16 – Somatic release of fear: frozen shoulder story
33:28 – Reclaiming emotions as growth tools
34:36 – Fear, intuition, and aligned action

Topics Discussed in This Episode:

• The difference between healthy fear and chronic flight
• How trauma conditions the nervous system to stay in motion
• The neuroscience of the flight response: amygdala, hypothalamus, PAG, prefrontal cortex
• Why productivity and hustle are often survival strategies
• Signs of chronic flight in relationships and work
• The hidden cost of avoiding emotions through busyness
• Somatic tools for slowing down and processing fear
• Rewiring chronic flight through neuroplasticity and body-based healing
• The role of cultural and systemic trauma in reinforcing flight
• How to reclaim fear as a clarifying signal for safety and presence

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Trauma Rewired podcast is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. Always consult a qualified medical professional about your specific circumstances before making any decisions based on what you hear. We share our experiences, explore trauma, physical reactions, mental health and disease. If you become distressed by our content, please stop listening and seek professional support when needed. Do not continue to listen if the conversations are having a negative impact on your health and well-being. If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, or in mental health crisis and you are in the United States you can 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.
If someone's life is in danger, immediately call 911.

We do our best to stay current in research, but older episodes are always available. We don't warrant or guarantee that this podcast contains complete, accurate or up-to-date information. It's very important to talk to a medical professional about your individual needs, as we aren't responsible for any actions you take based on the information you hear in this podcast.

We invite guests onto the podcast. Please note that we don't verify the accuracy of their statements. Our organization does not endorse third-party content and the views of our guests do not necessarily represent the views of our organization. We talk about general neuro-science and nervous system health, but you are unique. These are conversations for a wide audience. They are general recommendations and you are always advised to seek personal care for your unique outputs, trauma and needs.

We are not doctors or licensed medical professionals. We are certified neuro-somatic practitioners and nervous system health/embodiment coaches. We are not your doctor or medical professional and do not know you and your unique nervous system. This podcast is not a replacement for working with a professional. The BrainBased.com site and Rewiretrail.com is a membership site for general nervous system health, somatic processing and stress processing. It is not a substitute for medical care or the appropriate solution for anyone in mental health crisis.

Any examples mentioned in this podcast are for illustration purposes only. If they are based on real events, names have been changed to protect the identities of those involved.

We've done our best to ensure our podcast respects the intellectual property rights of others, however if you have an issue with our content, please let us know by emailing us at traumarewired@gmail.com

All rights in our content are reserved

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Our bodies are always speaking to us, but often we're not able to understand or listen to what they're trying to communicate.

In this episode, hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth unpack the complexities of our relationship to the body, including how our perceptions, emotions and beliefs about our bodies significantly impact our overall well-being. They dive deep into the impact the interoceptive system has on the nervous system, emotions and behaviors, especially in relation to disordered eating and body dysmorphia.

Jennifer and Elisabeth explore how past traumas shape our body image and inhibit our ability to express emotions safely through the body, sharing their own journeys from the cycle of maladaptive behaviors to loving acceptance.

Tune in to hear their insights into having a healthier, more compassionate relationship with your body!

Topics discussed in this episode:

• Exploring the relationship to the body

• How we develop our body image

• Interoceptive awareness and our ability to connect to the body

• The connection between trauma and the relationship to the body

• Understanding body dysmorphia and dissociation

• Sensory mismatch in relation to body dysmorphia

• The emotional aspect of the relationship to the body

• Building a healthier relationship to the body

Contact us about private Rewire Neuro-Somatic Coaching:

https://brainbased-wellness.com/rewire-private-neuro-somatic-coaching/

Learn more about the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching program and sign up for the spring cohort now! https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com/?utm_medium=aff-traumarewired&utm_content&utm_source

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Our bodies are always speaking to us, but often we're not able to understand or listen to what they're trying to communicate.

In this episode, hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth unpack the complexities of our relationship to the body, including how our perceptions, emotions and beliefs about our bodies significantly impact our overall well-being. They dive deep into the impact the interoceptive system has on the nervous system, emotions and behaviors, especially in relation to disordered eating and body dysmorphia.

Jennifer and Elisabeth explore how past traumas shape our body image and inhibit our ability to express emotions safely through the body, sharing their own journeys from the cycle of maladaptive behaviors to loving acceptance.

Tune in to hear their insights into having a healthier, more compassionate relationship with your body!

Topics discussed in this episode:

• Exploring the relationship to the body
• How we develop our body image
• Interoceptive awareness and our ability to connect to the body
• The connection between trauma and the relationship to the body
• Understanding body dysmorphia and dissociation
• Sensory mismatch in relation to body dysmorphia
• The emotional aspect of the relationship to the body
• Building a healthier relationship to the body

Contact us about private Rewire Neuro-Somatic Coaching:

https://brainbased-wellness.com/rewire-private-neuro-somatic-coaching/

Learn more about the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching program and sign up for the spring cohort now! https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com/?utm_medium=aff-traumarewired&utm_content&utm_source

Get started training your nervous system with our FREE 2-week offer on the Brain Based Membership site:

https://www.rewiretrial.com

Connect with us on social media:

@trauma.rewired

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"Impaired integration is such a hallmark of the traumatized brain. It disrupts our ability to balance our nervous system. Neurobiologist Dan Siegel says that at its very essence, the purpose of trauma therapy is to restore brain integration."

On today's episode, co-hosts Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristoff of Brain-Based Wellness discuss the neurological impacts of trauma, specifically how disassociation and fragmentation affect our brain integration. They're joined by Matt Bush of Next Level Neuro and co-founder of the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching Certification Program.

Expect to understand more about how early childhood trauma results in brain dysfunction, shapes our basic functioning and filtration systems, and can overpower the cognitive mind. You'll also learn what reintegrating memories actually means, and why integration is the key to healing.

Trauma Rewired has mentioned many times that without integration, long-lasting change is difficult, but without the survival brain and emotional brain working together, integration, specifically vertical integration, is impossible. This may sound overwhelming, but the good news change IS possible because of neuroplasticity.

If you want a deep understanding of vertical integration and how trauma affects the developing brain, tune in to learn more!

Tune in to hear how neurosomatic intelligence can help get you to integrate and regulate your nervous system!

Topics discussed in this episode:

• Defining complex trauma from a neurosomatic perspective

• Effects of trauma on brain development

• Dissociation and fragmentation of self

• Memory integration and why people feel "stuck"

• Real examples of trauma responses overpowering their cognitive brain

• Dissociating from the different parts of your self

• What is vertical integration?

• How developmental trauma affects vertical integration

• Dysregulation between the brains left and right hemispheres  

• The SAID Principle in realtion to nervous system imbalance 
• Benefits of learning more about trauma and the brain 

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How do you show up in the world, in relationships, at work? Even just sitting in a sauna. Can you safely say you are fully present in these situations? If you feel you aren't present most of the time, you're not alone. Most people aren't, especially if you've experienced complex trauma. On the bright side, presence can be learned by using the right tools to get you there.

Presence is a topic that is near and dear to our hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth's hearts, precisely because of how they both struggled to be present after experiencing trauma, but also the gift presence provided them in all aspects of life once re-learned.

In today's episode, Jennifer and Elisabeth discuss how not being present, repressing emotions and dissociation can lead to health issues and deteriorate relationships. While offering the tools required to become present to live a fulfilling and healthy life with secure attachment styles in relationships.

This episode dives deep into the science behind presence as well as what happens when you are in your body for the first time in a long time and how using the tools provided in the NSI training can help. Understanding how your brain operates when it is fully present and how it affects your body, while having tools to help you get there, can literally put years back on to your life.

Tune in for this and more!

Topics discussed in this episode:

• How Jennifer and Elisabeth define presence

• Why presence is important for healing complex traumas

• Empowerment that comes from presence

• How presence is a time expander

• What is a trigger?

• How intentional training can lead to presence

• The time it takes to cultivate full presence in the body

• The struggle behind showing up in the world differently

• Health implications behind repressed emotion and not being present

• One big reason to start being present: a study on telomeres

• Why it is important to work with your interoceptive system

• Re-patterning of relationship attachment style

Contact us about private Rewire Neuro-Somatic Coaching:

https://brainbased-wellness.com/rewire-private-neuro-somatic-coaching/

Learn more about the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching program and sign up for the spring cohort now! https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com

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Dissociation is one way that our brain keeps us safe from things that may cause us stress or harm. Whether it's a simple moment of daydreaming or constant state of dissociation in an abusive relationship, being cognitively and physically disconnected is not conducive to healing.

During this episode of Trauma Rewired, Jennifer and Elisabeth discuss the spectrum of dissociation and how it can affect the interoceptive system, or how we process and send information to the brain. They go over the symptoms of dissociation, sharing their personal experiences of dissociation related to childhood trauma.

Our survival brain sees healing as a threat, but there are ways to rehab the deficits in the nervous system to give more clear information to the brain, helping us to think and see more clearly. For example, training our interoceptive system can fight our hypersensitivity to threats and bring us out of disassociation.

To learn what tools can help you retrain your nervous system and the learned conditioned responses that are no longer serving you, tune in to this episode!

Topics discussed in this episode:

• Misconceptions about dissociation

• The definition of dissociation and its symptoms

• Dissociation as a protective mechanism

• How the interoceptive system works

• Dissociation and the freeze response

• How dissociation affects the body and how we feel pain

• The link to avoidance behavior

• Tools to bring yourself back from a state of dissociation

• Body dysmorphia and deficits in the visual system

• Living in the body to find a safe place to feel and heal

• Dissociation as an effect of peak somatic experiences

Learn more about the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching program and sign up for the spring cohort now! https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com/?utm_medium=aff-traumarewired&utm_content&utm_source

Get started training your nervous system with our FREE 2-week offer on the Brain Based Membership site:

https://www.rewiretrial.com

Contact us about private Rewire Neuro-Somatic Coaching:

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When a child's needs aren't being met by their caregiver, by not being fed or feeling safe, they develop a distorted view of relationships. This attachment schema is the lens through which they examine the behavior of others, impacting their ability to form relationships and lead a healthy, happy life.

In past episodes, hosts Jennifer and Elisabeth have talked about connection being one of our survival needs, but an insecure attachment directly challenges this need. Being close to others, feeling vulnerable and connected, can also be very dysregulating to those who learned to survive with unemotional or unreliable caregivers.

So, how can you overcome your learned patterns to create healthy relationships with yourself and others? The answer is nervous system training.

In this episode, Jennifer and Elisabeth will walk you through attachment schema, how the three insecure attachment styles develop and show up as behavioral outputs, and how nervous system regulation has helped them work toward lasting change.

Tune in for all this and more!

Topics discussed in this episode:

• Attachment style from the NSI perspective

• How insecure attachment schema affects social development

• Nervous system regulation as a way to change our patterns

• The areas of the brain responsible for creating neuro tags

• How the 3 insecure attachment styles develop and are expressed

• Misconceptions about avoidant attachment style

• Disorganized attachment and complex trauma

Get started training your nervous system with our FREE 2-week offer:

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Learn more about the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching program and sign up for the spring cohort now! https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com/?utm_medium=aff-traumarewired&utm_content&utm_source

Sign up for the free Holiday Self-Care NSI Workshop on December 15th:

https://neurosomaticintelligence.com/holidayselfcare

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@trauma.rewired

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Our last episode introduced the brain as a social organ, and how this topic relates to the neurobiology of relationships. Today, we dive deeper into how the brain develops through social interactions, why social connection is a survival need, and what happens in the body when we experience connection with other people.

Matt Bush is joining Jennifer and Elisabeth to discuss the impact of trauma on the brain's functioning, and therefore, our relationships, expression, sense of safety, and overall health. They talk about what happens when you're not primed for connection in childhood, how the brain is wired to be part of the social structure in relationships, what part of the brain guides us toward dysregulation and protective outputs, and lots more.

If any of this sounds confusing, be sure to listen for Matt's definitions of attachment schema and C-PTSD from a neurosomatic perspective, which make it easier to understand how these systems and inputs come together for integration.

You'll also finally learn why complex trauma is an attachment would, and most importantly, that change is possible and how you can get started NOW. Tune in for all this and more!

Topics discussed in this episode:

• The impact of attachment patterns on brain function

• How the brain develops through social interactions

• The role of the insular cortex

• John Bowlby's attachment theory

• How a mother's nervous system impacts a child's

• The resiliency of our nervous system

• Attachment styles and Bowlby's experiment

• Matt's neurosomatic definition of attachment schema and C-PTSD

• How we can rewire attachment

Sign up for the free Holiday Self-Care NSI Workshop on December 15th:

https://neurosomaticintelligence.com/holidayselfcare

Learn more about the Neuro-Somatic Intelligence Coaching program and sign up for the spring cohort now! https://www.neurosomaticintelligence.com/?utm_medium=aff-traumarewired&utm_content&utm_source

Get started training your nervous system with our FREE 2-week offer on the Brain Based Membership site:

https://www.rewiretrial.com

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