Explorez tous les épisodes du podcast Till The Wheels Fall Off
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| #127 - Beyond Sobriety: The Hard Truths of Recovery | 18 Sep 2024 | 01:34:32 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode, we dive into the hard truths of what it’s really like to be with someone in recovery. Recovery isn’t a magical reset button; it's a long, painful process filled with challenges. You can’t just “start over” once someone gets sober—years of emotional immaturity, anger, and resentment come to the surface. It's not just about substance use, but about dealing with stunted growth and the unhealthy behaviors that persist or worsen even after sobriety. We'll tackle the complexities that partners face, from letting go of hypervigilance to managing the fear of relapse. We explore why setting boundaries is crucial, how building trust takes time, and the waves of resentment that often surface. You’ll hear about the difficulties of adjusting to an alcohol-free lifestyle, mourning the old life, and feeling isolated as your partner connects with a new sober community. This episode is packed with real-life questions from our community, addressing the fears, challenges, and emotional realities of being with someone in early recovery. Together, we’ll discuss what it means to truly heal and how to navigate these issues as a partner. Recovery is hard—emotionally, mentally, and relationally—but it’s possible to find a path forward, even if that means walking away to protect yourself. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #126 - Paige's Perspective: Finding Clarity in Chaos - How to Make Decisions When You’re Overwhelmed | 13 Sep 2024 | 00:23:06 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of Paige’s Perspective, Paige dives into what it means to feel overwhelmed, especially when carrying the mental and emotional load of an unequal partnership or living with a partner struggling with addiction. Paige shares her personal experience with overwhelm, offering practical tips for finding clarity in the midst of chaos. From acknowledging your emotions to taking small steps, and clarifying your values, this episode gives listeners actionable advice for regaining control. Tune in to learn how to break through the fog of overwhelm and make empowered decisions for your well-being. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #117 - Being Held "Hostage" In A Relationship | 14 Aug 2024 | 01:07:51 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Recovery is no doubt hard, but support is not required or deserved especially from the people substance abusers have hurt the most. In some situations, spouses and partners can feel like they're being held captive due to several factors: threats of self-harm if they leave a situation, phrases like "I cannot do this without you", being manipulated in various ways to keep you stuck in the cycle of dysfunction, financial control, isolation, guilt trips, and several other ways. Are you responsible for someone's recovery? No. You are not. You are no more responsible for their recovery than you are for their addiction and use. Is it helpful to have the support of loved ones in recovery? Yes. But it is not required and at some point we have to draw a line in the sand or create boundaries in order to keep ourselves safe from the dysfunction that is active addiction. In this episode we discuss signs that someone is effectively "holding you hostage" through manipulation and guilt, why this happens, and finally, what you can do about it. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #027 - Stop Being Weird About Money | 15 Feb 2023 | 00:34:06 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Couples will openly talk about their sex lives before they dare talk about their money. Why is this? We discuss why financial discussions are important to intimacy in relationship and how they're likely the most important conversation you AREN'T having. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #026 - Why Accountability Partners Fail: Spoiler - It’s You, Not Them | 08 Feb 2023 | 00:41:01 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Accountability partners aren't going to save you from putting food in your mouth and sponsors won't slap the drink out of your hand. This week we discuss how to become the CEO of your own life and stop making your goals contingent on other people's actions. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #025 - Own Your Trauma | 01 Feb 2023 | 00:31:56 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Personality comes from the latin word "Persona" , which refers to a theatrical mask worn by performers to play roles or disguise their identities. In the ancient world, a persona was a mask worn by an actor. If masks can be removed, then can we change our personality? Yes! Let's discuss! Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #024 - From Loving The Addict to Loving Myself | 25 Jan 2023 | 00:41:09 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Detaching with love from an addict partner, child, friend, or family member is difficult. Whether they are in recovery or in the flames of it, taking care of yourself must be a priority. Join us as we discuss the journey from being codependent to emotionally independent and learning to love ourselves regardless of the addict's behavior. We receive more questions about this topic than any other and we believe there's hope in our message of recovery for the codependent. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #023 - How Addiction Nearly Ruined Our Life | 18 Jan 2023 | 00:37:53 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In our first of two episodes about the addiction that nearly tore our family apart, Matt recounts his battle with opioid and alcohol addiction. An emotional recount of a story about how love persevered and hope for anyone in the midst of an addiction or in a relationship with someone. Stick around for Paige's side of the story next week! Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #022 - Stop Saving Your Kids! | 11 Jan 2023 | 00:18:20 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Adversity is essential to growth and independence. When we conquer a challenge we grow and learn but it's becoming rare as parents helicopter ever closer and step in for their kids at every opportunity. There is balance between exposing kids to healthy adversity and being a comforting, supportive parent. Embrace the grey area between with us! Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #021 - 3 Reasons Your Resolutions Fail | 04 Jan 2023 | 00:18:02 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Resolutions fail because they lack depth and weight. In 2023, promise to challenge yourself. Let's take an inventory, explore solutions, and take action that will get you where you want to be. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #020 - Manage Post-Holiday Blues | 28 Dec 2022 | 00:16:05 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Whether we feel the loss of the season and mourn or feel completely overwhelmed from the "Peopling" we have to do with each party there are tough emotions to manage as we exit the holiday season. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #019 - Story Time: Queso, you taking the kids or not? | 23 Dec 2022 | 00:11:54 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! It’s story time! This story has become lore in our family and friend circles. For story time this week we re-live an iconic breakdown over Queso…that’s right…cheese sauce. My wife threatened to take the kids and leave if I tossed out some terrible queso. It sounds as ridiculous as it was and it’s hilarious. You won’t want to miss this one! Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #018 - 10 Things I Hate About You | 21 Dec 2022 | 00:20:50 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! With Christmas fast approaching and everyone in survival mode, we decided to go light this week. Find out what drives us nuts about each other and let us know what weird pet peeves you have with your S/O on IG! Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #116 - Paige's Perspective: Instincts | 09 Aug 2024 | 00:16:15 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode of "Paige's Perspective: Trusting Your Instincts," Paige explores the importance of reconnecting with our natural instincts in parenting, relationships, and life decisions. She reflects on how modern conveniences and societal pressures can sometimes dull our instinctual responses, leading us to second-guess our natural inclinations. Drawing from her experiences as a mother who resisted relying on gadgets, Paige emphasizes that trusting one's instincts is vital for both personal well-being and effective parenting. She discusses how allowing children to experience discomfort and challenges can build resilience and how, in relationships, instincts guide us toward setting boundaries, recognizing red flags, and seeking respect. Paige also offers practical tips for rebuilding trust in one's instincts through mindfulness, education, and balancing intuition with rational thinking. Ultimately, this episode is a call to return to basics, listen to our inner voice, and allow our instincts to guide us in making healthier, more authentic life choices. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #017 - All or Nothing | 14 Dec 2022 | 00:27:49 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! "All or Nothing Thinking" or "Black and White Thinking" or "Polarized Thinking" are all terms given to a cognitive distortion wherein the individual has a skewed sense of reality. Things often appear much worse than they are in reality, causing depression and anxiety. If you tend to be an all or nothing type of person, we have solutions. This may be our worst produced episode yet, but there's a reason for it. Listen up and let's grow together! Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #016 - Story Time: When Moms Party | 09 Dec 2022 | 00:15:01 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Special Episode! Settle in, make sure your kids aren’t close and grab a seat for this special “Story Time” episode. We recount the hilarious events of a recent night when a responsible mother of two decides to party like she’s 21 and then attempts to cover her tracks. Suspenseful, hilarious, and a little vulgar we hope you enjoy a personal recounting of “Paige’s Halloween Bash.” Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #015 - Merry Stressmas & Happy Holidaze! | 07 Dec 2022 | 00:33:00 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! You don’t want to skip this one! From difficult and hilarious family stereotypes, to the burden of gift giving, to overbooked schedules, the holidays can be STRESSFUL. Sit down with us as we tackle ways we’ve found to make the season truly enjoyable in this solution-packed episode. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #014 - Time Management | 02 Dec 2022 | 00:14:02 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Where does the time go? We discuss some tips and tricks we use to juggle a marriage, family, extra curriculars, business, podcast, social media, and more! Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #013 - Want a GREAT Relationship? Listen Up. | 30 Nov 2022 | 00:40:44 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! This episode covers some key factors that have made our relationship successful over 20 years. Whether you are struggling in a relationship, wanting to strengthen an existing one, or preparing yourself for one to come, this discussion is a can't miss! Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #012 - Alcohol & The Holidays | 23 Nov 2022 | 00:28:26 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! The holidays are a time for fellowship, family, and tradition...but it can also be the source of immense stress and unhealthy coping with alcohol. With mental health at an all-time low and alcohol intake at an all-time high, we're playing with fire as we enter the holiday season. We discuss how to question our alcohol intake and take responsibility for what enters our bodies and why. If you've ever wondered if you have a drinking problem listen and join us as we explore the fringes of addiction and stress during the holidays. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #011 - Make Money Living Your Purpose | 16 Nov 2022 | 00:24:58 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Do you hate your job? Do you feel like you're not fulfilling your purpose or your talents are being wasted? Many of us struggle with the feeling that we're wasting time in our choice of career and we don't know how to get out. Join us as we discuss how to capitalize on your quirks and monetize your unique ability. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #010 - Coping With Anxiety | 09 Nov 2022 | 00:26:08 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Are you anxious? What are the sources of your anxiety and how to do you cope with it? We all have different ways of coping with anxiety and managing neurotic thoughts. We discuss how we went from letting anxiety drive our lives and actions to living without it. The first episode of many on how to conquer anxiety. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #009 - Ruthless Accountability | 02 Nov 2022 | 00:19:15 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Your friendly neighborhood street sweepers checking in to share with you how we've found how keeping our side of the street clean makes life simpler and more manageable. When we focus on our responsibilities and not the responsibility of others, serenity and confidence follow. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #008 - Reset Your Day | 26 Oct 2022 | 00:20:04 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Did you have a bad day, or did the day have a bad you? Did your tough morning snowball into the worst day ever and leave you feeling like a magnet for bad luck? We've been there and in this episode we explore the power of restarting your day. We'll give you instructions on how to hit the pause button on any day and restart it with a fresh perspective. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #115 - What Can You Change In 90 Days? | 07 Aug 2024 | 00:53:05 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! 90 days is often cited as an appropriate time to commit to something in order to make it stick, but where does this come from? Can anything actually be changed in 90 days? Why 90 days rather than 21 or 300? In this episode we talk time in relation to change and discuss what types of change someone can make in addiction recovery, as well as what spouses and partners of a person with a substance abuse disorder can make in 90 days. You may think that there are haves and have-nots in the world and the changes you’d like to make simply aren’t in the cards for you, but we’re challenging you over the next 90 days to make meaningful change. YOU CAN DO HARD THINGS! ❤️ Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #007 - Holiday Bucket List; Make The Most of The Seasons | 21 Oct 2022 | 00:10:00 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Do your favorite seasons or holidays pass you by and leave you wondering “What happened to the time?!” We discuss some easy ways to make the most of your favorite seasons while tampering expectations so you’re left feeling fulfilled. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #006 - Detaching With Love | 19 Oct 2022 | 00:20:33 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Detaching with love can be hard to navigate, but it can be beneficial for all involved, even if it’s painful. We touch on why it’s important, who to detach from, and how to manage difficult relationships and situations. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #005 - Mind Muscles | 12 Oct 2022 | 00:30:49 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! When we think about fitness, we often think of our physical fitness...But what does the state of your physical fitness say about the state of your mental and spiritual fitness? We examine the correlation between a healthy body and a healthy mind. We give reasons why we believe you cannot be at your absolute best without a fitness routine and we explore the single best way to achieve your best body and mind through E2M Fitness. We'll discuss what we've learned along the way about ourselves and each other. Abs are really cool...but abs for your brain are even cooler. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #004 - Discipline - The Missing Link to Success | 05 Oct 2022 | 00:21:29 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Discipline could be the very thing holding you back from becoming the greatest possible version of yourself. We discuss the importance of discipline, the best ways to attain it, and what you're missing out on if you ignore it. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #003 - 8 Tips for Productive Fights | 28 Sep 2022 | 00:35:48 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Fighting is inevitable in any relationship. We fight to be heard, to voice dissent, and sometimes we fight for no reason at all. Nearly everyone fights but do you know how to fight productively? How to fight fair? In this episode we examine the dynamics of a fight and offer solutions on how to fight fair. We’ll also share some of our toxic traits and share stories on what a typical argument looks in our home. Fights can be productive and lead to a stronger relationship and we’ll show you how. We all have bad habits when we fight that lead to further problems so we challenge you to listen and practice the techniques offered in this episode. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #002 - Contentment - Living at Peace | 21 Sep 2022 | 00:32:52 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Contentment is an emotional state of satisfaction brought on by being at ease with one's current situation, body, and mind. It's also more elusive than ever and a state we all seek unknowingly. Contentment and living at peace cannot be achieved through purchases, reaching a particular status, or through sheer will. True contentment comes through rearranging priorities, controlling expectations, and taking our hands off of the results of our efforts. We explore what true contentment means and ways to gauge the degree to which we are trying to control the world around us as well as ways to center our minds toward living in contentment. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #001 - What Is TWFO? | 14 Sep 2022 | 00:17:44 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode we introduce ourselves and explain what TWFO is and what we plan to accomplish with you! Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #114 - Paige's Perspective: The Power of Self Control | 02 Aug 2024 | 00:15:01 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this week's episode, we delve into the power of self-control. Inspired by an article on self-control by Steve Stewart-Williams, we explore its profound impact on our lives. Self-control isn't just self-care; it's the only thing we can truly control in life. From managing stress and improving physical health to enhancing relationships and professional success, self-control is crucial. We'll discuss its importance in delaying gratification, fostering perseverance, and achieving financial stability. Learn practical tips to boost self-control and discover mantras to reinforce your self-control and how leading by example can even benefit your children. Join me as we uncover the empowering truth that while we can't control others, we have the power to control ourselves and transform our lives. Remember, you are stronger than your impulses and excuses. Tune in and take the first step towards a more controlled and fulfilling life. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #113 - Reframing "Selfishness" | 31 Jul 2024 | 01:00:38 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode we're covering the concept of selfishness as it pertains to acts of self-care. In many ways working toward sobriety can be seen as "selfish" when it's actually an act of self-care that leads to the elimination of selfish behaviors over time. This is true for people in recovery as well as spouses and partners of alcoholics and addicts. A person setting boundaries to protect their values is no more "selfish" than someone in recovery doing the same thing - but it's often not viewed that way. We break down what we believe to be actual selfish behaviors versus self-care, and then discuss how "codependency" is no more selfish than someone trying to preserve the things they hold most dear to them. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #112 - Paige's Perspective: Coping with Uncertainty | 26 Jul 2024 | 00:10:40 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this week's episode of Paige's Perspective, Paige discusses how she deals with a problem we all face - uncertainty. Whether you are in a relationship with an addict (which creates TONS of uncertainty) or someone that struggles with planning to the extreme, there are several helpful tools and tidbits buried in this episode that will help you reframe your perspective around planning. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #111 - Reclaiming Self Love & Self Esteem When the Bare Minimum Is Asking "Too Much" | 24 Jul 2024 | 01:32:07 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Are you REALLY asking for too much? Why do so many accept the bare minimum standard for involvement in a relationship? If you are left feeling unfulfilled in a relationship, what can be done about it? In this episode we touch on these questions and many more as we venture into relationship standards and why we believe that asking for an equal partner is not asking too much. Whether you are in a relationship with someone in active addiction, recovery, or a relationship unaffected by addiction, we believe the discussion will be enlightening. Our aim is to help you reclaim your sense of self love and self esteem with some actionable processes that will lead to empowerment so that you will be making decisions from a confident place rather than one of fear. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #110 - Paige's Perspective: Anxiety & Overwhelming Emotions | 19 Jul 2024 | 00:14:37 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this week's Paige's perspective, Paige is covering anxiety and overwhelming emotions. Paige recounts her struggle with anxiety disorder and how she overcame debilitating anxiety, panic attacks, and overwhelming fears. She discusses the tools she uses to break free from anxious thoughts and how she rationalizes "what if" scenarios and shifts to being present and away from anxious thoughts. She goes on to further discuss her experience with being overwhelmed and how she works through immense feelings of dread and running out of time. Recovery from a relationship with addiction involved is MUCH more than simply recovering from things like "codependency" or self sacrificing. It requires a renewed mindset and tools such as different ways to frame anxiety and a pragmatic approach to being overwhelmed. We hope this episode is helpful for you as you grow stronger and empowered. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #109 - You Are Stronger Than You Think - We Can Do Hard | 17 Jul 2024 | 01:18:42 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! This is an episode designed more like a charcuterie board than a main course. We discuss Independently Strong because we don't think we've really ever done a great job at communicating what it's about and the value to someone in a relationship with a person struggling with addiction. We then get onto topics that are beneficial to you right here, right now. We discuss emotional resilience and ways to increase resilience through mental frameworks, as well as self-care activites. When you feel like you've given all you can in life, remember that you have survived 100% of your hardest days and you're actually MUCH stronger than you think. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #108 - Paige's Perspective: Complimenting vs Completing Your Partner | 12 Jul 2024 | 00:12:25 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Interdependence is important in our most intimate relationships. When one partner breaks down, we often find ourselves filling their cup and leaving ourselves empty. This is fine and well in relationships, but when addiction is involved the prolonged and persistent nature of the lack of support will leave you playing the role of both people...carrying an immense amount of weight. It's unsustainable. Rather than relying completely on someone to carry the traits you lack to "complete you" I like to think of a partner as a shining example of the traits I should develop as we work toward being two complimentary individuals, interdependent. Don't give up on your development such that you are left motionless and lost if anything happens to your relationship. In my opinion, this idea strengthens a marriage when both people are working toward this, not weaken. My goal has always been to be preferably with my partner, but fully capable without. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #125 - Understanding Addiction: A Tool for Healing or a Trap of Inaction? | 11 Sep 2024 | 01:03:07 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode we discuss the natural tendency to want to understand what is affecting your loved one if they struggle with addiction. Often times the journey of education is enlightening and fosters empathy and understanding, but it can also be a trap which keeps people stuck in a pattern of inaction. While understanding is important, it is not sufficient to "fix" anyone and runs the risk of keeping spouses and partners stuck in a loop of seeking to understand rather than taking action. We discuss benefits and possible dangers of over-intellectualizing addiction, we discuss separating the behaviors from the substance, and how you can take action to protect yourself and your family from an abusive situation that may cause you harm. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #107 - Hear Me Out...If You Were Randomly Sent This, Please Listen | 10 Jul 2024 | 01:10:48 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Please just hear me out. The person that sent this to you is not as crazy or out of touch or nagging as you think. I'm not going to try to convert you to anything, I've just been where you are and someone that loves you dearly wants you to know there's a way out. If you were sent this randomly by someone, please listen. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #106 - Paige's Perspective: Fake It Till You Make It | 05 Jul 2024 | 00:15:01 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this week's episode of Paige's Perspective, Paige discusses "fake it till you make it" and the importance of this annoying phrase and how there's actually something beautiful underneath it all. There are of course caveats, and all of them are discussed in this quick pick-me-up episode! Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #105 - Betrayal Trauma | 03 Jul 2024 | 01:13:56 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Betrayal trauma refers to the deep psychological harm that occurs when someone experiences a significant betrayal within a primary relationship such as a romantic partnership and it impacts the victim's sense of trust, safety, and security. Codependency doesn't come close to touching on the trauma experienced by spouses and partners of alcoholics, addicts, or people that have been affected by infidelity, but betrayal trauma does. In this episode we discuss betrayal trauma and its roots, as well as examples and the reasons the effects from betrayal fallout aren't as simple as picking up and moving on. Betrayal trauma has psychological, behavioral, and emotional effects that last long after the events that caused betrayal have passed. You have been through significant trauma whether you realize it or not and your healing journey begins with understanding concepts such as this. We hope you glean some validation and assistance for what's next for you as you navigate your challenges. We're here for you every step of the way. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #104 - Paige's Perspective: Emerging From the Cocoon - Empowerment | 28 Jun 2024 | 00:14:31 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this week's episode of Paige's Perspective, Paige dives deep into how she moved out of the cocoon phase and discusses timeframe, how she got started, and how fitness and self care really got the ball rolling. In working through the cocoon phase, you will discover that you can do hard things, push harder than you ever have before, and become the beautiful butterfly inside using tools learned within the cocoon phase. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #103 - The Cocoon Phase of Healing | 26 Jun 2024 | 01:09:40 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this episode we discuss the cocoon phase of healing; a familiar place for many spouses and partners of alcoholics as they process the truth of their lives and relationships and begin to transition. The cocoon phase is important in the healing process or even through crisis as we reshape our identities, rediscover ourselves, grieve, regulate our emotions, learn, and establish boundaries. It feels scary and lonely, but there's massive benefit to this process for the resilience gained and the empowered person you will become on the other side. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #102 - Paige's Perspective: How to Balance the F**ks You Give | 21 Jun 2024 | 00:19:02 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! In this week's episode of Paige's Perspective, let's talk about how to budget the f**ks you give just like a bank account. For a spouse or partner affected by addiction, life is overwhelming and things that once garnered a lot of your attention need to be let go - and things you never thought twice about, MUST be given focus and attention. Everyone only has so much emotional bandwidth on any given day, so let's discuss how to best budget your attention and emotions so that you can care for yourself and the things that matter most. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #101 - Can Compassion Go Too Far? | 19 Jun 2024 | 01:11:02 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Compassion is a beautiful characteristic and necessary to some degree in relationships, but there can be too much of a good thing. While compassion is an important and valuable quality, excessive or misplaced compassion in such situations can lead to enabling harmful behaviors, compromising one's own well-being, and perpetuating the cycle of abuse or addiction. In this episode we discuss the importance of compassion, the ways in which it can be harmful to the spouse or partner of someone suffering from alcoholism or addiction, and how to balance compassion with boundaries and self-care. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #100 - Paige's Perspective: We Are Not Broken | 14 Jun 2024 | 00:13:38 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Today marks the start of a new solo segment with Paige to supplement our regular weekly show to get you more help, more inspiration, and more lessons. It's called Paige's Perspective, and it's going to be a weekly message to our audience to provide more insight as to what a spouse's journey is like. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #099 - What Are Spouses of Substance Abusers Recovering From? | 12 Jun 2024 | 01:11:28 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! Many times spouses and partners are lost in a maze of issues that leave confusion and trouble answering a simple question, "What am I recovering from? What defines my recovery?" A marriage or relationship with an alcoholic or addict or a narcissistic or abusive person leaves the victim with issues ranging from PTSD, depression, anxiety disorder, "codependency" as Alanon calls it, or a range damage and it's complex. Much like someone with addiction is simply not recovering from substance abuse, recovery requires a journey involving therapy, support communities, self-work, and plenty of realizations along the way. In this episode we spend time discussing Paige's recovery and specifically, moving from naive and innocent to angry and cynical, ultimately to wisdom and knowing when to trust the right people and when to exclude harmful people from your world. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||
| #098 - Separate the Behaviors from the Addiction | 05 Jun 2024 | 01:13:57 | |
Have an episode suggestion? Text us! How much should you focus on the substance? To what degree is the substance responsible for someone's behavior? Is it easier to forgive someone's bad behavior because they're addicted? Should compassion for a struggling addict or alcoholic overshadow your needs for an equal partner, or for honesty in a relationship? With all of the information on addiction that ranges from choice to disease, it's incredibly hard to know what you should have tolerance for and what you shouldn't. We propose something that worked for us - focus on the behaviors and how they affect you and cast aside the substance. It has been our experience that the substance only made existing behaviors more severe, but it was not the cause of all of them. Long after the substance was removed, many of the harmful behaviors within our relationship remained. We discuss the benefits of focusing on behaviors rather than the substance to bring clarity to a relationship or marriage where addiction is present. We also discuss some of the common ways alcoholics and addicts use the addiction as an excuse for their behaviors and how this keeps spouses "trapped." We touch on the dangers of long-term lying and emotional abuse from an addicted person and how these things affect a spouse, and why many of the harmful behaviors you identify hang around long after the substance is gone. Our goal for the episode was to highlight the fact that it's not the substance that causes harm, it's the behaviors that come along with addiction and how they affect you, your children, and your environment. Find video clips and full length video from this episode on YouTube and our other social media pages! | |||