In Episode 4 of my five-part series, I’m talking about something that hits all of us in midlife: the rage.

That low-key, high-voltage, "I swear to God if the dishwasher beeps one more time..." kind of rage.

Here’s the thing:
You’re not broken. You’re not crazy.
You’re just awake — and your nervous system is officially done putting up with the bullshit.

• Why the rage isn’t random — and why it’s not a flaw

• What’s really going on in your body (hello perimenopause, my old frenemy)

• Why your nervous system is basically a cornered raccoon right now

• How chronic stress + no emotional processing = midlife meltdown

• The two sides of unregulated rage: numbing out vs. exploding

• What NOT to do with all your rage (trust me, I’ve screamed at a microwave)

• What to actually do to heal, regulate, and stop losing your shit

✨ Key Takeaway:

Rage isn’t the problem.
It’s the flashing neon sign pointing to what needs healing.

You don’t have to stay stuck in rage mode — and you definitely don’t have to figure it out alone.

👯‍♀️ Want to stop white-knuckling through life and finally learn how to regulate, reset, and rebuild your energy (and your life)?

Thrive Midlife is my six-month program where we untangle all this shit with tools from neuroscience, positive psychology, and a lot of laughter.

🛠 Check out Thrive Midlife here
📅 Or book a free, no-pressure call with me

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EPISODE 3: Why We Don't Like Ourselves Very Much (Gen X Women Edition)

💥 In Episode 3 of my five-part series, I’m getting real about the deep, invisible ways women—especially Gen X women—were taught from day fucking one not to actually like ourselves.

🧠 I’m breaking down why so many of us struggle with self-worth, how it’s completely different from self-esteem or confidence, and why no amount of gold stars, trophies, or people-pleasing will fill the damn gap.

• Over-giving until you’re fucking exhausted (and resent everyone)

• Confusing being busy with being important

• Struggling to take a goddamn compliment without deflecting it

• Feeling like you have to earn love, worth, or even rest

• Saying “yes” to shit you already know you’ll resent

• Building walls around yourself and silently daring people to break them down (hint: they won’t)

…If that sounds familiar, this one’s gonna hit deep. And you might laugh-snort a few times too.

• The real difference between self-esteem, confidence, and self-worth (nope, not the same thing)

• Why Gen X women were conditioned to tie our value to our goddamn usefulness & perfection

• How early praise and punishment set us up for a lifetime of people-pleasing

• The sneaky ways self-abandonment shows up in midlife

• Why midlife is the perfect time to burn that shit down and build something better

• How Thrive Midlife helps women rebuild self-worth from the inside fucking out

Thrive Midlife is my six-month program rooted in neuroscience, positive psychology, and deep, radically honest coaching.
It’s where you stop hustling for validation and finally start building the kind of self-worth that changes everything.

🛠 Check out Thrive Midlife here
📅 Or schedule a free call with me

🔔 Next Up coming back on Monday!
🎙️ Episode 4: Where to Put All the Fucking Rage — because spoiler: it’s not just hormones.

Self-Worth, Self-Compassion, Gen X Women, Midlife Growth, Emotional Healing, Positive Psychology, Coaching for Women, Thrive Midlife

I think one of the roughest parts of being in midlife is realizing that most of the things you were taught about being a girl/woman growing were complete and total BS.

I feel like I have been spending YEARS gut-checking my beliefs and realizing a bunch of the ideas I was sold were based in old school misogyny and were keeping me in a fear/scarcity place.

Today I go through 10 Beliefs I was raised with that were complete BS!

Maybe you learned them too.

If you are ready to examine your beliefs and let go of them, join me in THRIVE!  

Want to work with me?  Or go on a retreat?  Check it out here.

Join me in Reinventing Dating with an early bird price through tonight!

Reinventing Dating is back!  Get the early bird discount through the weekend here!

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I have thoughts.

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Do we?  I have LOTS of thoughts.

To watch all the videos, and join me on the Joy Journey, visit me on the Joy Journey Substack 

Welcome to my Joy Journey. A 30 day journey to find more mini moments on joy in my life and encourage others to do the same.

After a break for the flu, I'm on day 10 of my Joy Journey and I talk about something that I have noticed coming up...the curse of overthinking.

Today I breakdown:

• a great quote on overthinking that inspired this episode
• what overthinking is and why we do it
• the three types of overthinking and how to spot them in yourself.
• spotting overthinking in a baking show
• where to go from here.

Article I reference today.

And just a reminder,  this is the work I do in THRIVE, my 9 month happiness program for women in midlife, and it’s why I have had thousands of clients who have learned how to stop overthinking, build more self-worth, create unshakeable relationships, and walk through this world lighter and happier.

Spots available at ThrivewithKira.com

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Happy St. Patty's Day! 🍀

LAST DAY TO GET IN LOVE RESET! 

Ready to work on your self-worth?  Join me in Tulum!  4 spots left!

Also don't forget about Love Reset!

WHEN YOU JOIN ME AT LOVE RESET YOU ARE GOING TO WALK AWAY:

✔️Understanding what love really looks like and feels like in a healthy relationship (and it's different than most things you have been taught).

✔️Knowing the real reason you are single and what to do about it.

✔️Learning how to what to look for and what to walk away from when in a new relationship.

✔️Learning the difference of a want vs need in a relationship & how to ask for it.

✔️Understanding what the 5 stages of relationships look like and why most of us aren’t getting past stage 1 or 2.

✔️Learning how to spot people who are ready for a real relationship and make sure you are.

✔️Knowing how to ask for what you need when you are dating and in new relationships without coming off as needy.

✔️Feeling less nervous and more excited & hopeful about dating and love! Because otherwise what’s the point?

March 18 & 19th! Everything is Recorded! All for $39!

Ready to work on your self-worth?  Join me in Tulum!  4 spots left!

Also don't forget about Love Reset!

WHEN YOU JOIN ME AT LOVE RESET YOU ARE GOING TO WALK AWAY:

✔️Understanding what love really looks like and feels like in a healthy relationship (and it's different than most things you have been taught).

✔️Knowing the real reason you are single and what to do about it.

✔️Learning how to what to look for and what to walk away from when in a new relationship.

✔️Learning the difference of a want vs need in a relationship & how to ask for it.

✔️Understanding what the 5 stages of relationships look like and why most of us aren’t getting past stage 1 or 2.

✔️Learning how to spot people who are ready for a real relationship and make sure you are.

✔️Knowing how to ask for what you need when you are dating and in new relationships without coming off as needy.

✔️Feeling less nervous and more excited & hopeful about dating and love! Because otherwise what’s the point?

March 18 & 19th! Everything is Recorded! All for $39!

Ready to work on your self-worth?  Join me in Tulum!  4 spots left!

Also don't forget about Love Reset!

WHEN YOU JOIN ME AT LOVE RESET YOU ARE GOING TO WALK AWAY:

✔️Understanding what love really looks like and feels like in a healthy relationship (and it's different than most things you have been taught).

✔️Knowing the real reason you are single and what to do about it.

✔️Learning how to what to look for and what to walk away from when in a new relationship.

✔️Learning the difference of a want vs need in a relationship & how to ask for it.

✔️Understanding what the 5 stages of relationships look like and why most of us aren’t getting past stage 1 or 2.

✔️Learning how to spot people who are ready for a real relationship and make sure you are.

✔️Knowing how to ask for what you need when you are dating and in new relationships without coming off as needy.

✔️Feeling less nervous and more excited & hopeful about dating and love! Because otherwise what’s the point?

March 18 & 19th! Everything is Recorded! All for $39!

Ready to work on your self-worth?  Join me in Tulum!  5 spots left!

Also don't forget about Love Reset!

WHEN YOU JOIN ME AT LOVE RESET YOU ARE GOING TO WALK AWAY:

✔️Understanding what love really looks like and feels like in a healthy relationship (and it's different than most things you have been taught).

✔️Knowing the real reason you are single and what to do about it.

✔️Learning how to what to look for and what to walk away from when in a new relationship.

✔️Learning the difference of a want vs need in a relationship & how to ask for it.

✔️Understanding what the 5 stages of relationships look like and why most of us aren’t getting past stage 1 or 2.

✔️Learning how to spot people who are ready for a real relationship and make sure you are.

✔️Knowing how to ask for what you need when you are dating and in new relationships without coming off as needy.

✔️Feeling less nervous and more excited & hopeful about dating and love! Because otherwise what’s the point?

March 18 & 19th! Everything is Recorded! All for $39!

Listen up!

Join me at Love Reset!

Check out the Self-Worth Retreat in Tulum!

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What myths have you believed?

Have you signed up for Love Reset yet?

I'm tired, it's a bit rambly but good.

To watch all the videos, and join me on the Joy Journey, visit me on the Joy Journey Substack 

Welcome to my Joy Journey. A 30 day journey to find more mini moments on joy in my life and encourage others to do the same.

I'm on day 8 of my Joy Journey. I check in on how it's going and some of the surprises so far.

But more importantly, today I breakdown the difference between the fixed vs growth mindset and why it matters.  I share:

• what a mindset is
• how you got your mindset
• the difference between the growth and fixed mindset
• how the fixed mindset stole joy from my life
• small ways you can start change your mindset

And just a reminder,  this is the work I do in THRIVE, my 9 month happiness program for women in midlife, and it’s why I have had thousands of clients who have learned how to stop overthinking, build more self-worth, create unshakeable relationships, and walk through this world lighter and happier.

Spots available at ThrivewithKira.com

Ever hear the awesome book The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz?  I'm a fan and recommend this book to everyone.

I also decided to take the Four Agreements from the book and apply them to dating.  And it's pretty good if I do say so myself.

Listen up and sign-up for Love Reset here!

Listen up!  

And join me at LoveResetEvent.com for $39!

Listen up!

Have you signed up for Love Reset yet?  Check it out here!

Pretty, pretty please?  Because it's trash.

Have you signed-up for Love Reset yet? 

The two day online event for singles to learn the foundational skills & knowledge for unshakeable love.

March 18 & 19, 2023

It's going to be fetch.  Sign-up here.

I have thoughts...you know I do.

Have you signed up for Love Reset yet?

The two day online event for singles to learn the foundational skills & knowledge for unshakeable love. For single women & men? For only $39?

Well you can do it right here.

I have lots and lots of thoughts.  Or what you can fit in 20 minutes. 😂

Love Reset is LIVE and first 20 people get an additional Q and A call with me to answer any questions you have.

Grab your spot now at loveresetevent.com

Yes.

Yes we are.  Want to stop?

LoveResetEvent.com is here!  Grab a spot early for a free EXTRA Q & A session with Kira!

Yup. I said it and I can back it up. 

This holiday is INSANE!  

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Sharing my mistakes so you can learn from them.  

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Yeah, I said it.

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Join me on the Joy Journey at my Joy Journey Substack.

Watch the video version here.

Here is the truth. Things have gotten really rough for me.

Between midlife/aging perimenopause, and just THE 🌎 in general, I feel like I am just pushing through and getting by…and it’s not working anymore. I’m not sure that has ever worked. But man that’s what I was taught. Suck it up buttercup and deal.

Nope. I know better, so I’m doing something about it.

Welcome to my Joy Journey. A 30 day journey to find more mini moments on joy in my life and encourage others to do the same.

It starts this week (Wed the 21st), and I will be doing one positive psychology activity every day to raise my happiness set point and hopefully inspire others in the process.

Today the podcast is telling you all about the Joy Journey and what this is, why I'm doing it, and how you can be a part of it.

I am.  And it's a thing.

Listen today as I talk about what destination addiction is, signs you might have it, and what to do about it.

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Article referenced

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I'm wrapping up my last podcast on online dating (for a bit at least) and putting together whether or not it's working for us.

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Want to build your blueprint with me?

I'm back with part 2 of Is Online Dating Emotionally Safe? and today I am talking about Mental Health & Burnout when it comes to online dating.  

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I share a short personal story and reminder....about life, hope, dreams, and death.

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Today I'm talking about how online dating has changed some of our expectations & the way we see people.

Build your dating blue print with me! Find out more here.

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I'm back and we are still on the topic of -Is Online dating Working for Us?

Today, I talk about the Paradox of Choice in online dating and how it might not be helping us as much as we think it is.

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I'm back!  It's Day 2 of talking about "Is Online Dating Really Working for Us?"

Today I'm going to breakdown everything you need to know about romance scams.  A romance scam is "when a con artist fakes romantic interest in someone, crafting a too-good-to-be-true persona to weasel their way into the victim’s heart and steal their money, they’re conducting a romance scam. And pretty much everyone is fair game for this long con."

Today I'm breaking down:

1) Common Romance Scams to look out for

2) Signs you are being scammed

3) What to do IF you get scammed

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Articles referenced:

Reader's Digest 

Well here we gooooooooo!

The next 5-7 days I am talking about online dating & the goods, not-so-goods, and the downright uglies.  

I start today with a list of shady stuff that I think all online daters should know.

Here is the article I reference

Other stats & resources mentioned

It's part two of talks on gender roles, checklists, and some insight and guidelines on if you are ready or not to date.

Download the checklist here

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I'm talking about one of my favorite topics today that personally kicked off my self-help journey.  Love vs Fear.

Today is a bit fancy because I break the episode down to 3 parts.

1. The basics behind the concept and the quote that changed my life.
2. A personal story of how I have made decisions out of fear but thought it was love.
3. Four places to spot fear in your life showing up.

And a boatload more of sweary genius.

Grab sessions for 50% off through 8/7/24.  $99 for 30 minutes and $199 for 60 minutes.  Grab one (or a few) here.

Reference Articles

Four types of Fear article

I'm back! With some more swearbear truth.  And part one of a two-parter. 

I talk about film strips narrated by Morgan Freeman and how gender roles are changing (and also not changing) and why it matters.

Interested in grabbing one of the spots working with Kira one-on-one? Email her right away at rqkira@gmail.com 

Hope everyone had a great weekend!

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And we are back with another reason that dating is broken right now...Relationship Role Models!

Most of us had some, most of them weren't great and it's definitely making an impact in how we date.

Listen up!

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