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| Are You Actually Ready for What You’re Asking For? | Thinking It Through | 09 Apr 2026 | 00:10:05 | |
I’m thinking through… wanting more… and wanting it now God’s timing vs. my impatience what it really means to be ready for what you’re asking for and the quiet realization that maybe… I’m still being prepared for it Join my private community: Our Inner Thoughts is a space to keep the conversation going with: • Monthly Group Thoughts (live virtual discussions) • Inside My Mind Q&A sessions (ask me anything — creativity, strategy, life, love, becoming) Let’s stay connected Socials: @KalaRiggins Website: https://kalariggins.com/ Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com About Me: I’m Kala — host, content creator, and storyteller. I create content and conversations that inspire women to stop hiding, stop diluting, and start telling the truth about who they are and what they actually want. Over here, it’s about returning to yourself — your voice, your clarity, and your calling… and having the courage to act on it. | |||
| You’re Not Getting What You Want Because You’re Not Being Honest About What You Want | 02 Apr 2026 | 00:39:50 | |
This one is for the woman who keeps saying she wants more… but hasn’t been fully honest about what “more” actually is. In this episode, we get into:
Resources + Links Download the episode companion resource: https://spring-basil-85806.myflodesk.... Join my private community: https://kalariggins.substack.com/subs... Our Inner Thoughts is a space to keep the conversation going with: Monthly Group Thoughts (live virtual discussions) Inside My Mind Q&A sessions (ask me anything — creativity, strategy, life, love, becoming) Question for you: What’s one thing you’ve been saying you want… but haven’t been fully honest about? Drop it in the comments — let’s tell the truth out loud. Let’s stay connected Socials: @KalaRiggins Website: https://kalariggins.com/ Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com About Me: I’m Kala — host, content creator, and storyteller. I create content and conversations that inspire women to stop hiding, stop diluting, and start telling the truth about who they are and what they actually want. Over here, it’s about returning to yourself — your voice, your clarity, and your calling… and having the courage to act on it. | |||
| I Turned 35 and Here’s What I’m Proud Of | A Birthday Brag Session | 05 Mar 2026 | 00:40:14 | |
Turning 35 made me realize something: you don’t need the traditional milestones to be proud of your life. In this birthday episode, I’m bragging on myself — petty and popping. If you’ve ever felt behind, in-between, or unsure if you’re doing life “right”… this one is for you. This one is for the girl who needs to brag on herself a little more. The thirty-something who’s tired of milestones being used as a measuring stick. The millennial who’s learning: two things can be true… and I’m still that girl. In this birthday episode, I’m not doing the usual deep dive. I’m doing a brag session. In this episode, we get into:• Why I’m proud I’m prompt (and why being late every time isn’t cute) • Being okay in silence + not needing constant stimulation • The freedom of not having the “traditional” milestones (house, marriage, kids) and not feeling less fulfilled • Starting over, starting from scratch, starting in the middle of chaos… and still showing up • My hygiene routine (yes, it’s petty… and yes, I smell good 😭) • My relationship with God: deepened discernment + no longer trying to live without Him • Having refined taste in people, places, and experiences • Being a good friend: safe, nonjudgmental, and built for real conversation • “No longer negotiating with my calling” + why hearing isn’t enough… it’s time to move A few thoughts from my thirties… Timestamp Breakdown00:00 — Brag session rules + “She’s 35. She has arrived.” 02:10 — Golden birthday energy + why we’re not doing the deep reflective thing today 04:40 — Petty flex: I’m prompt, and I’m proud 07:10 — Silence, nervous systems, and not needing constant stimulation 10:30 — Not married, not a homeowner, no kids… and not feeling less than 14:10 — Starting over without reverting back to the “mundane” plan 16:30 — Petty but important: hygiene routine + “you’ll never say I was stink” 19:20 — My relationship with God + the 33-year-old resurrection year 23:40 — Community break: Our Inner Thoughts (keep the convo going) 26:10 — Taste, “outside,” and not living life in isolation 29:30 — I’m a really good friend (and what safe friendship actually looks like) 33:10 — “No longer negotiating with my calling” + James 1:22 36:10 — Face card, skills, and thanking the 2016 YouTube girlies 38:40 — Saying the quiet part out loud: loneliness + still being that girl 44:00 — The duality: low days don’t cancel your identity 47:20 — Closing: brag on yourself + peace in the process of figuring it out Resources + LinksDownload the episode companion resource: I started a resource library for y’all. After each episode, I drop a Kala-coded companion guide so the conversation doesn’t end when the episode ends. Download here: https://spring-basil-85806.myflodesk.com/e85zoionw0 Join my private communityhttps://kalariggins.substack.com/subscribe Our Inner Thoughts is a space to keep the conversation going with: • Monthly Group Thoughts (live virtual discussions) • Inside My Mind Q&A sessions (ask me anything — creativity, strategy, life, love, becoming) Question for you…What’s one petty thing and one popping thing you’re proud of in this season? Drop yours in the comments — and if you’re my friend, go ahead and “amen” me too. 😭 Let’s stay connectedSocials: @KalaRiggins Website: https://kalariggins.com/ Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com About MeI’m Kala — host, content creator, and storyteller. I create content and conversations that inspire women to stop hiding, stop apologizing, and show up as their full selves. Over here, it’s about thoughts and conversations that help you return to yourself — your voice, your clarity, and what actually matters. | |||
| Believing in Yourself Is a Full-Time Job (Here’s How to Clock Back In) | 12 Feb 2026 | 00:34:42 | |
Believing in Yourself Is a Full-Time Job If you’ve been trying to “stay positive” but doubt keeps sliding into the room this episode is for you. This is for the girl who clocked out for a minute. The thirty-something who got tired. The millennial who needs to clock back in. In this episode, we get into: -Doubt creeping in and why it made me question my faith -Why I’m rejecting the idea that doubt and faith can’t coexist -“Detours are not delays” — and how I’m rewiring my mind around timing -Creativity without capitalism: your art doesn’t need entrepreneurship to matter -The “hard body” energy I may be giving off (and how it doesn’t match my real desire: love) -Believing in love when singleness makes you comfortable (and guarded) -The real fear underneath love: “Will it cost me myself?” -Abundance as birthright (not burnout) + letting peace be profitable -Believing God is easy… believing His timing is the real work -Grieving the life you thought you’d have by now (and still trusting you’re not behind) -“Clocking back in” as a mindset: treating belief like a daily practice, not a mood Resources + Links Download the guide: CLOCK BACK IN: This guide is your gentle (but firm) guide to believing in you again. LINK - https://spring-basil-85806.myflodesk.com/e85zoionw0 Join my private community: Our Inner Thoughts: A space to keep the conversation going with: -Monthly Group Thoughts (live virtual discussions) -Inside My Mind Q&A sessions (ask me anything — creativity, strategy, life, love, becoming) Question for you: What area are you clocking back into right now — love, abundance, creativity, faith, or timing? Let's stay connected! About Me: I’m Kala! Host, content creator, and storyteller. I create content and conversations that inspire women to stop hiding, stop apologizing, and show up as their full selves. Over here, it’s about thoughts and conversations that help you return to yourself — your voice, your clarity, and what actually matters. Socials: @KalaRiggins My Website: Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| Your Job is Making You Boring | How to have deeper conversations with anyone. | 30 Jan 2026 | 00:34:28 | |
When Did We All Become So Boring? If you can hold a convo, have a personality, and you have range… but lately every interaction feels like a bore... this episode is for you. In this episode, we get into: - Having a job is making us an absolute snooze fest - How we were trained to build identity around work - How job titles became the first identity we were ever handed - Why we lead with work even though most of us don’t even like our jobs - The dating angle: how men can be wrapped in work identity (and how women feed the beast too) - A short-lived romance that proved how refreshing it is to get to know someone without work talk - How being curious + authentic makes you more confident and more yourself - And the fun part: my Kala-coded conversation starters resource to spice up your next interaction Resources + Links Download the guide: Kala-Coded Conversation Starters https://spring-basil-85806.myflodesk.com/e85zoionw0 ... A fun, personality-forward set of prompts to help you stop leading with work and start having better conversations. Join my private community: ... Our Inner Thoughts: A space to keep the conversation going with: Monthly Group Thoughts (live virtual discussions) Inside My Mind Q&A sessions (ask me anything — creativity, strategy, life, love, becoming) Question for you: What’s your go-to conversation starter when you’re tired of talking about work? Let's stay connected! About Me: I’m Kala! Host, content creator, and storyteller. I create content and conversations that inspire women to stop hiding, stop apologizing, and show up as their full selves. Over here, it’s about thoughts and conversations that help you return to yourself — your voice, your clarity, and what actually matters. Socials: @KalaRiggins My Website: https://kalariggins.com/ Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| Everything I’m Not Changing About Myself This Year | 15 Jan 2026 | 00:38:29 | |
Everything I’m Not Changing About Myself This Year. If you’re the kind of millennial who did everything “right” — followed the rules, hit the milestones, played the game by the book — and you’re now looking around in your 30s like… wait a minute, this was a scam? This episode is for you.This is your permission slip to stop “fixing” yourself into someone else… and start honoring who you already are. In this episode, we get into:
Resources + Links Download the worksheet: Everything I’m Not Changing About Myself This Year — A guided reflection for returning to the parts of you that don’t need fixing. Join my private community: Our Inner ThoughtsA space to keep the conversation going with:
What’s one part of you you’re not changing this year — no matter what? About Me: I’m Kala! Host, content creator, and storyteller.I create content and conversations that inspire women to stop hiding, stop apologizing, and show up as their full selves.Over here, it’s about thoughts and conversations that help you return to yourself — your voice, your clarity, and what actually matters. Socials: @KalaRiggins My Website: https://kalariggins.com/ Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| 5 Scriptures That Have Been Guiding My Creative Journey | Beneath It All 🤐 | 19 Oct 2025 | 00:12:20 | |
This is Beneath It All, a mini version of my podcast (Beneath The Seams) — where I share real-time, real-life reflections in between episodes. In today’s episode, we get into: ✨ How faith redefines the creative process ✨ Partnering with God instead of performing for the internet ✨ The difference between divine timing and delayed obedience ✨ Why fear disguised as preparation keeps you stuck ✨ Scriptures that ground your creativity when you doubt your gifts If you’ve ever felt like your creativity is inconsistent, blocked, or losing meaning — this one’s for you. 00:00 – Let’s take it back to the beginning: God as the first Creator 01:35 – Why I started praying through my creativity, not just about it 03:10 – James 4:17 → Disobedience isn’t always doing the wrong thing — it’s delaying the right one 05:02 – Ephesians 3:20 → God’s pace isn’t punishment, it’s protection 07:48 – Ecclesiastes 11:4 → Stop checking the weather; plant anyway 10:26 – Colossians 3:23 → Creating with excellence as worship 12:14 – Nehemiah 6:3 → Protecting your peace, pace, and purpose — “I can’t come down.” 14:08 – John 10:27 → Discernment over data: hearing God’s voice in your creative process Join My Private Community ✨ on Substack → https://kalariggins.substack.com/ 📱 Instagram + TikTok: @kalariggins 💌 Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| What Compatibility Really Means in a Relationship: Dating in Your 30s | 09 Oct 2025 | 01:00:10 | |
What does it really mean to be compatible with someone? I’ve been thinking a lot about this — and honestly, I think intellectual compatibility might be my biggest struggle. Not chemistry, not vibes, not attraction… but finding someone who can actually meet me where my mind is. In this episode, I’m talking about: -Why being “chosen” doesn’t make you more special — God already did that -Why I can’t date someone who isn’t spiritually grounded -The 5 layers of compatibility (and why intellect ranks high for me) -The Baby Mama story — and the moment I realized we weren’t equally yoked -Why visionary women struggle to “fit” into a man’s plan -My recent dating app voice notes (yes, you’re gonna scream 😩) If you’ve ever felt too deep, too complex, or too much to be understood — this one’s for you. Let’s go Beneath The Seams! 🤐 -- 00:00 Coming Up — “I’ve never been asked for my hand in marriage, and I don’t wanna be a baby mama.” 02:10 Defining compatibility 09:12 Why intellectual connection matters more than just a vibe 15:40 The Baby Mama story — and the laughter that told me everything 20:02 Spiritual alignment as a non-negotiable 26:45 Lifestyle preferences: hiking vs. brunch & finding middle ground 32:04 Power couples & merging visions 38:20 Storytime: “You’ll miss your blessing” 😭 42:11 Storytime: The 1:30 AM “you up?” text (sir, please) 44:26 Listener prompt — which type of compatibility do you crave most? 🎧 Listen to Beneath The Seams wherever you stream podcasts 💬 Join the conversation in the comments — rank your top 3 types of compatibility 🖤 Subscribe for new episodes every week Connect with me: Website → https://beneaththeseams.com Instagram + TikTok → @kalariggins Email → Kala@KalaRiggins.com Let's stay connected! --- I’m Kala! Host, content creator, and storyteller. I create content and conversations that inspire women to stop hiding, stop apologizing, and show up as their full selves. Here, we talk about the messy middle of life and creativity — the doubt, the breakthroughs, the moments that make you want to quit, and the ones that keep you going. (all while looking GOODt!) --- Work With Me: https://kalariggins.com/monetize-me https://cal.com/kalariggins My Website: https://kalariggins.com/ Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| Low-Maintenance Friendships Are Making Us Lonely | 02 Oct 2025 | 00:39:13 | |
If you’ve ever called yourself a “low-maintenance friend” but secretly crave deeper connection… this conversation is for you. We talk about… -Why the “low-maintenance” trend quietly excuses neglect. -Loneliness as an epidemic—and how we’re drifting from community. -Medium-maintenance friendships: presence, checking in, reciprocity. -Healthy effort vs. toxic draining (discernment matters). -Behavior checks: stop flaking, raise emotional awareness, be curious. -Life stages & growing apart: naming why connection feels harder now. -Faith lens: God gave us each other—community is sacred stewardship. Let’s go Beneath The Seams! -- 00:00 Coming Up! 00:24 Beneath The Seams manifesto (why we go below the surface) 01:40 Welcome back — what this space is & why this topic now 03:02 The trend: why “I don’t require much” is quietly isolating us 05:05 Maintenance analogies: nails, car, faith → relationships 06:42 Personal truth: feeling detached despite having “friends” 09:18 Growing apart as life changes (distance, kids, routines) 11:06 The danger of “low” settings → from monthly to yearly to… strangers 12:55 Naming what you need: depth as a love language 15:08 Loneliness online & IRL; post-pandemic isolation habits 17:10 Healthy effort vs. toxic draining (use discernment) 18:36 The medium-maintenance baseline: 20:28 Presence IRL & putting the phone down 21:44 Reciprocity confession: “Do I have friends because I maintain them?” 23:12 Follow the nudge: when someone crosses your mind, call/text 24:35 The “365-day rule”: are we still friends if we haven’t spoken in a year? 26:04 “Maturity” as a mask for neglect 27:22 Faith lens: Genesis 2:18, Proverbs 27:17, disciples lived *together* 29:05 Behavior checks: stop flaking; the cost of community is inconvenience 31:02 Emotional awareness & curiosity: be in your friends’ business (lovingly) 32:28 Personal commitment: leave the house more; invite community in 34:00 Open invite: are you isolated or thriving in friendship? 35:12 Reviews/help the show grow + share with a friend 36:05 Closing blessing — and see you next week — Resources & Scriptures Mentioned Genesis 2:18 — “It is not good that man should be alone.” Proverbs 27:17 — “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” --- Let's stay connected... / kalariggins I’m Kala! Host, content creator, and storyteller. I create content and conversations that inspire women to stop hiding, stop apologizing, and show up as their full selves. Here, we talk about the messy middle of life and creativity — the doubt, the breakthroughs, the moments that make you want to quit, and the ones that keep you going. (all while looking GOODt!) --- Connect with me: Podcast Website: [https://beneaththeseams.com/](https://beneaththeseams.com/) Instagram + TikTok @kalariggins Contact:Kala@KalaRiggins.com] | |||
| Everything I’m Overthinking About My Creator Journey (And Why I’m Still Showing Up) | 19 Sep 2025 | 00:36:27 | |
If you’ve ever started, stopped, felt sure, then doubted again… this conversation is for you. We talk about…
Let’s go Beneath The Seams! -- 00:00 Coming Up! — “I think God is preparing me for an unusual testimony” 01:38 Welcome back + what this space is (safe, unfiltered, inclusive) 02:32 Why I’ve been gone & why I’m choosing honesty over glossing it over 03:35 Today’s frame: everything I’m overthinking about the pod & my creative journey 04:22 Saying the same thing “again” (and giving myself permission to revisit themes) 06:02 Life is cycles: new levels, same core lessons → freeing myself from “it must be new” 07:14 Conflict talk: why “we resolved it, never speak again” doesn’t work for me 08:33 Art imitating life: taking off the producer hat → more raw, still polished 09:46 Killing momentum: the creative shame loop of “if it isn’t great, don’t post” 11:18 My minimum bar to publish: 3 simple checks to hit “upload” anyway 12:20 Vulnerability as a superpower (and why the heaviness still scares me) 13:58 Outfit moment — joggers, styled dress-as-top, sneakers, ASOS bag 14:46 Knowing yourself to be vulnerable; ministry beyond the pulpit 16:06 The “exposure” thing: playing it too safe online vs. how I am in real life 17:24 The viral video & the sneaky fear of being misunderstood 18:52 Prayer insight: “Conflict is part of the calling.” Making peace with visibility 20:31 My pre-record prayer & releasing control of how the message lands 21:28 Root-cause overthinking: why I analyze before I act (and when that helps) 22:30 Unlearning the expected success arc; “unusual testimony” over the “great lock-in” 24:18 Start–stop stories matter: success for those who struggled to stay consistent 25:42 Closing the “misunderstood” loop & choosing impact over approval 26:48 Do we ever fully “overcome” overthinking? Choosing better tools, not self-shame 28:22 Faith lens: weapons may form; faith changes how I weather them 29:20 Refusal to quit + permission to tell the truth about the challenge 30:26 Community check-in: tell me what you’re overthinking 31:02 Promise to grow in consistency 31:48 Final blessing: finding peace in the process → see you next time — Today's Look (Outfit Linked Here) Resources & scriptures
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--- Let's stay connected... / kalariggins I’m Kala! Host, content creator, and storyteller. I create content and conversations that inspire women to stop hiding, stop apologizing, and show up as their full selves. Here, we talk about the messy middle of life and creativity — the doubt, the breakthroughs, the moments that make you want to quit, and the ones that keep you going. ( all while looking GOODt!) --- Connect with me: Podcast Website: https://beneaththeseams.com/ Book a call https://cal.com/kalariggins Instagram + TikTok @kalariggins Contact:Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| Faith Without the Fluff: Building a Routine That Actually Works | 11 Jul 2025 | 00:31:57 | |
This one is for the millennial who wants to use the rest of 2025 to grow spiritually and strategically. In this episode, I’m talking about how I’ve been using both scripture and structure (with a little help from AI) to rebuild my faith, strengthen my routines, and reimagine what a spirit-led soft life really looks like. We talk about… -Why I believe in "this AND that" spirituality (I love God and I love a cocktail) -How I’m using ChatGPT to create a personalized spiritual plan -What it means to stop overlooking the overflow in your life -The difference between praying for a result vs. becoming the person who can steward it -Why consistency feels boring for creatives—and how I’m fighting back with discipline and devotion -How I’m using tools like Notion, AI, and storytelling to make faith practices feel personal and powerful -Simple morning and evening prompts that keep my spirit aligned -Why “God, get in my head before I do” is my favorite new prayer Let’s go Beneath The Seams! -- 0:00 — Teaser + The Podcast Won Award Win 6:30 — What Getting Serious Looks Like 12:40 — ChatGPT + My 6-Month Spiritual Plan 17:10 — Building a Faith Practice That Matches My Life 23:55 — Morning Prompts + "God Get in My Head Before I Do" 27:35 — The Overflow is Already Here 33:15 — Using Notion to Track Devotionals 38:00 — Creating a 12-Week Spiritual Strategy 44:20 — Bible Stories for the Deep Thinkers 50:00 — Why Creativity Makes Discipline Hard 55:45 — Faith Without the Fluff 59:15 — Final Thoughts + Community Check-In — If something in this episode hit home, leave a review, drop a comment, and tell a friend to tune in. Let’s keep the conversation going—because beneath the seams, we’re all just figuring it out. --- Let's stay connected... / kalariggins I'm Kala... host, content creator, and personal branding strategist! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here it's all about content and convos that grow your creativity, confidence, and coin. --- Connect with me: Podcast Website: https://beneaththeseams.com/ Book a call https://cal.com/kalariggins Instagram + TikTok @kalariggins Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| Your Lack of a Social Life Is Holding You Back | 06 Jun 2025 | 00:43:54 | |
🎙️ Join my private pod community "Seamless" over on Substack. https://kalariggins.substack.com/ -- This one is for the millennial who misses outside! Social media told us to isolate, grind in silence, and only reappear when we’re fully healed. But what if hiding out is holding us back? In this episode, I’m peeling back the layers on... -What we lose when we stop socializing -How community might be the key to your next creative breakthrough. spiritual awakening, and even financial glow-up. -The glamorization of isolation and why “I like to be in the house” culture is overrated -How socializing fuels your spiritual and creative energy (even if you're in a funk) -Why your friends see you in ways you don’t see yourself—and how that reflection is essential -How creativity finds you in joy, not just strategy Let’s go Beneath The Seams! -- 00:00 – Coming Up on the Episode 02:30 – Where I’ve Been + Why I Took a Creative Pause 08:15 – The Mini-Series You Might’ve Missed: Beneath It All 11:50 – Why I’m Reclaiming My Social Life 15:40 – That TikTok That Perfectly Captures the Outside Girl Era 21:25 – Isolation ≠ Healing: We Need Each Other 26:45 – How Being Social Fuels Your Creativity and Your Confidence 33:10 – You’re Not Lazy. You’re Just Lacking Joy. 36:55 – Physical + Mental Health Benefits of Being Outside 42:30 – From Tired to Rested: The Spiritual Reset That Happens in Community 49:40 – How People Help You See Your Gifts (and Call You Out With Love) 55:55 – A Word on Receiving Compliments + Celebrating Yourself 59:45 – My Helen Keller Award Nomination (!!) 1:02:00 – Final Thoughts: Community is Not Optional — If something in this episode hit home, leave a review, drop a comment, and tell a friend to tune in. Let’s keep the conversation going—because beneath the seams, we’re all just figuring it out. --- Let's stay connected https://www.instagram.com/kalariggins I'm Kala... host, content creator, and personal branding strategist! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here it's all about content and convos that grow your creativity, confidence, and coin. --- Connect with me: Podcast Website: https://beneaththeseams.com/ Book a call https://cal.com/kalariggins Instagram + TikTok @kalariggins Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| You started...but now it's time to get serious. | Beneath It All 🤐 | 28 Apr 2025 | 00:26:01 | |
This is Beneath It All, a mini version of my podcast (Beneath The Seams) where I share real-time, real-life reflections in between episodes. In today’s episode, we get into:
Join my private pod community "Seamless" over on Substack. https://kalariggins.substack.com/ Timestamps: 00:45 – Why "I Wish I'd Kept Going" Is My Constant Thought 02:15 – Starting Over: Why It Feels Like a Fresh Start for Everyone 04:00 – Why Trying to Be “Normal” Is Holding Me Back 05:30 – The Moment I Tried to Be Normal & Gave Up My Dream 07:00 – The Real Meaning of "Getting Serious" in Your Purpose 08:30 – Embracing What Makes You Different—Even When It Feels Like a Struggle 09:45 – The Launch of "Seamless" and What’s Coming Next 10:30 – How I’m Finally Staying True to Myself Let’s stay connected: / @kalariggins I'm Kala… host, content creator, and personal branding strategist! I love creating content that inspires women to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here, it's all about creative ideas, bold style, and deep conversations. | |||
| The Family Drama We Don’t Discuss & How It Shapes Us | ft. Shawntrise Williams | 17 Apr 2025 | 00:48:32 | |
This one is for the millennial who was raised with a bit of family drama... In this episode, I sit with Life Coach Shawntrise Williams who is also my first cousin as we have a deeply personal conversation about... -The family drama we never talked about—and how it’s still affecting us. -That feeling of being disconnected and wishing we were closer. -How the emotional and physical distance in our family made us question where we truly belong. -The stories we never heard, leaving us with more questions than answers about our family. -Why we’re finally speaking up and healing through honest, raw conversations. Let's go Beneath The Seams! Join my private pod community "Seamless" over on Substack. https://kalariggins.substack.com/ --- 00:00 – Coming Up Teaser 02:10 – Family Dynamics We Never Discuss How unspoken tensions in our families affect us in adulthood. 06:25 – What It Was Like Growing Up in a Divided Family: Separations and the impact it had on us. 10:50 – The Secrets We Didn’t Know About Our Family 15:20 – Generational Trauma: The Weight of Family Drama 20:30 – The Family Bonds We Missed Out On and the things we wished we had experienced. 25:40 – Navigating healing from the wounds created by our family dynamics. 30:45 – The Role of Grandparents in Shaping Our Experiences 35:50 – Overcoming Family Disconnection as Adults 40:10 – The importance of opening up these conversations and healing together. 45:30 – Moving Forward: What we are doing differently in the future. --- Connect with the guest: Shawntrise Williams of LBH Life Coaching https://lbhlifecoaching.com/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAacASY64nAutgKGx1OgwLzr-QWHlF1nGU5YlQaezzGUeYTFqbzfLiWMOfDvKCQ_aem_133vk92T6U24NEzVl8glpQ https://www.instagram.com/lbhlifecoaching/ --- Let's stay connected / kalariggins I'm Kala... host, content creator, and personal branding strategist! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here it's all about creative ideas...bold style...and deep conversations. | |||
| I wish I'd Kept Going when I first started. | Beneath It All 🤐 | 10 Apr 2025 | 00:11:33 | |
Join my private pod community "Seamless" over on Substack. https://kalariggins.substack.com/ Welcome to Beneath It All, a mini version of my Podcast (Beneath The Seams) where I share real time, real life reflections in between episodes. Enjoy this vlog as, we discuss: - An exciting announcement! - The Struggle with Uncertainty and Regret - The Power of Starting Over - The Importance of Self-Forgiveness - Aligning with Your Creative Calling because... Beneath It All, I wish I'd Kept Going when I first started. Join my private pod community "Seamless" over on Substack. https://kalariggins.substack.com/ --- 00:45 – Thoughts That Keep Me Up at Night 02:15 – The Power of Starting Over 04:00 – Aligning with My Creative Calling 05:30 – Prioritizing Attempts Over Exemptions 07:00 – Navigating Uncertainty & Finding Light 08:30 – Leaning into Forgiveness 09:45 – The Launch of My Private Community on Substack 10:30 – Staying True to You --- Let's stay connected / kalariggins I'm Kala... host, content creator, and personal branding strategist! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here it's all about creative ideas...bold style...and deep conversations. | |||
| Jess Hilarious' Crash Out Re-triggerd My Corporate Trauma | 25 Mar 2025 | 01:01:37 | |
This one is for the millennial who is fed up with corporate culture... Jess Hilarious went viral after her Breakfast Club drama, but for me? It triggered some deep, deep wounds from my own corporate trauma. In this episode, I’m peeling back the layers on... -The performative nature of corporate jobs & why so many of us have to shrink ourselves to survive. -The emotional and psychological toll of workplace politics. -Why black spaces in corporate settings can be just as toxic—if not worse. -The realities of layoffs, gaslighting, and why HR is never on your side. -The ongoing battle between financial security and creative freedom. Let's go Beneath The Seams! Join the waitlist for my private pod community. https://kalariggins.myflodesk.com/t1i... --- 00:00 – Coming Up on the Episode 02:14 – Why This Topic Hits So Close to Home 06:38 – Jess Hilarious & The Breakfast Club Drama Breakdown 10:50 – Corporate America is a Modern-Day Plantation! 15:22 – The Performative Nature of Work & How It Breaks You Down 20:15 – Black Corporate Spaces: Just as Toxic? 25:48 – Gaslighting, HR Games & Why They Don’t Care About You 30:30 – The Struggle Between Financial Stability & Creative Freedom 35:42 – How Corporate Jobs Destroy Confidence & Authenticity 40:10 – Leaving Corporate: The Best & Hardest Decision You’ll Make 45:55 – Finding Your Power in a Broken System --- Let's stay connected / kalariggins I'm Kala... host, content creator, and personal branding strategist! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here it's all about creative ideas...bold style...and deep conversations. | |||
| You can start from scratch and still win! Ft. Jocelyn Perry | 21 Mar 2025 | 00:52:29 | |
This one is for the millennial who is learning to embrace their multifaceted identity, step into their power, and stop living for everyone else. In this episode I chat with my line sister, friend, and client Jocelyn Perry as we discuss… -The struggle of self-discovery after years of prioritizing others -How entrepreneurship challenges personal growth & self-worth -The power of saying NO and setting boundaries -The mindset shifts needed to keep starting over and betting on yourself -Why personal branding matters—even when your business is successful without it Let’s go Beneath The Seams! Connect with the guest! https://www.instagram.com/iamjocelynperry/?hl=en Join the waitlist for my private pod community. https://kalariggins.myflodesk.com/t1i... --- 00:00 – Coming Up 02:15 – Introducing Jocelyn: Entrepreneurship, Reinvention & Identity 06:42 – The Hardest Part of Entrepreneurship: Never Giving Up 10:31 – Playing the Background vs. Stepping Into the Spotlight 15:28 – The Grocery Store Moment: Realizing She Didn’t Know Herself 20:45 – Learning to Prioritize Yourself & Set Boundaries 25:50 – From Building Million-Dollar Companies to Betting on Herself 30:12 – The Power of Saying No & Breaking Free from Stability 35:18 – The Role of Relationships in Self-Discovery 40:27 – Entrepreneurship & Personal Branding: Why It’s Time to Be Seen 45:55 – Overcoming Overthinking & Just Putting Yourself Out There 50:10 – Defining Legacy: Business, Family & Impact --- Let's stay connected / kalariggins I'm Kala... host, content creator, and personal branding strategist! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here it's all about creative ideas...bold style...and deep conversations. | |||
| The "rules" of dating that I am no longer following. | 27 Feb 2025 | 00:47:24 | |
This one is for the millennial who is done with the silly "rules" of dating and wants to experience things on their own terms. In this episode we discuss...
Let's go Beneath The Seams! Join the waitlist for my private pod community. https://kalariggins.myflodesk.com/t1i77rqlj6 -------------------------- Let's stay connected! -------------------------- https://www.instagram.com/kalariggins/ Shop My Links ------------------------ https://shopmy.us/kalariggins About Me... ------------------------- I'm Kala... host, content creator. I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here it's all about creative ideas...bold style...and deep conversations. -------------------------- Work With Me: https://cal.com/kalariggins/borrow-my... https://cal.com/kalariggins My Website: https://kalariggins.com/ Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| In my 30s and still figuring out who I want to be when I grow up. | 20 Feb 2025 | 00:49:35 | |
This one is for the millennial who doesn't know who they want to be when they grow up. In this episode we discuss...
Let's go Beneath The Seams! Join the waitlist for my private pod community. https://kalariggins.myflodesk.com/t1i77rqlj6 -------------------------- Let's stay connected! -------------------------- https://www.instagram.com/kalariggins/ Shop My Links ------------------------ https://shopmy.us/kalariggins About Me... ------------------------- I'm Kala... host, content creator, and personal branding strategist! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here it's all about content and convos that grow your creativity, confidence, and coin. -------------------------- Work With Me: https://cal.com/kalariggins/borrow-my... https://cal.com/kalariggins My Website: https://kalariggins.com/ Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| The People, Places, & Perspectives I'm leaving in 2024. | 19 Dec 2024 | 00:49:19 | |
This one is for the millennial who has learned what People, Places, and Perspectives need to be left behind in 2024. In this episode we discuss...
Let's go Beneath The Seams! Join the waitlist for my private pod community. https://kalariggins.myflodesk.com/t1i77rqlj6 -------------------------- Let's stay connected! -------------------------- https://www.instagram.com/kalariggins/ Shop My Links ------------------------ https://shopmy.us/kalariggins About Me... ------------------------- I'm Kala... host, content creator, and personal branding strategist! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here it's all about content and convos that grow your creativity, confidence, and coin. -------------------------- Work With Me: https://cal.com/kalariggins/borrow-my... https://cal.com/kalariggins My Website: https://kalariggins.com/ Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| Maybe you are putting too much pressure on yourself. | Ft. Imani Williams | 12 Dec 2024 | 00:36:51 | |
This one is for the millennial who needs to apply less pressure and more patience on the journey to becoming successful. Joined by my friend and soror Imani Williams we discuss...
Let's go Beneath The Seams! -------------------------- Let's stay connected! -------------------------- https://www.instagram.com/kalariggins/ Shop My Links ------------------------ https://shopmy.us/kalariggins About Me... ------------------------- I'm Kala... host, content creator, and personal branding strategist! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here it's all about content and convos that grow your creativity, confidence, and coin. -------------------------- Work With Me: https://cal.com/kalariggins/borrow-my... https://cal.com/kalariggins My Website: https://kalariggins.com/ Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| Can we date or be friends if you don’t vote? | 31 Oct 2024 | 00:38:17 | |
This one is for the millennial who is navigating what compatibility truly looks like in a partner and if social responsibility matters. In this episode we discuss...
Let's go Beneath The Seams! -------------------------- Let's stay connected! -------------------------- Join My People! : Private Patreon community. https://shorturl.at/NzxMt https://www.instagram.com/kalariggins/ Shop My Links ------------------------ https://shopmy.us/kalariggins About Me... ------------------------- I'm Kala... host, content creator, and personal branding strategist! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here it's all about content and convos that grow your creativity, confidence, and coin. -------------------------- Work With Me: https://cal.com/kalariggins/borrow-my... https://cal.com/kalariggins My Website: https://kalariggins.com/ Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| Are you and your friends are giving each other bad advice? | Dating, friendship & spiritual advice. | 10 Oct 2024 | 00:43:50 | |
This one is for the millennial who needs to learn to give better advice and understand what advice to take... In this episode...
Let's go Beneath The Seams! -------------------------- 00:00 Advice should be personalized, not generic. 05:03 Better advice for relationships and life. 07:55 Advise based on them, not yourself, empathetically. 15:15 Give personalized advice, considering friend's experiences. 18:59 Conversations free us from rigid societal rules. 19:51 Friends hold me accountable; see flaws honestly. 23:03 Love and listening create a safe space. 27:38 Skeptical of divine messages through others. 30:01 Life experiences aren't right or wrong; they just are. 34:16 Share faith boldly; connect spiritually, avoid division. -------------------------- Let's stay connected! -------------------------- Join My People! : Private Patreon community. https://shorturl.at/NzxMt https://www.instagram.com/kalariggins/ Shop My Links ------------------------ https://shopmy.us/kalariggins About Me... ------------------------- I'm Kala... host, content creator, and personal branding strategist! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here it's all about content and convos that grow your creativity, confidence, and coin. -------------------------- Work With Me: https://cal.com/kalariggins/borrow-my... https://cal.com/kalariggins My Website: https://kalariggins.com/ Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| I'm back on dating apps...here's what I'm learning about me and men. | 03 Oct 2024 | 00:46:41 | |
This one is for the millennial who is navigating meeting people on dating apps. In this episode I share...
Let's go Beneath The Seams! -------------------------- Let's stay connected! https://www.instagram.com/kalariggins I'm Kala... host, content creator, and personal branding strategist! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here it's all about content and convos that grow your creativity, confidence, and coin. --- Shop My Looks & Links https://shopmy.us/kalariggins --- Download Your Digital Guide: V.O.I.C.E : how to create with confidence by using your voice. --- https://kalariggins.myflodesk.com/voice-------------------------- Work With Me: https://cal.com/kalariggins/borrow-my-brain-90-minute-strategy-call My Website: Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| You need to learn to take your own advice. | 12 Sep 2024 | 00:56:13 | |
This one is for the millennial who needs to learn to take their own advice. In this episode I revisit previous episodes and open up about...
Let's go Beneath The Seams! -------------------------- Let's stay connected! https://www.instagram.com/kalariggins I'm Kala... host, content creator, and personal branding strategist! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here it's all about content and convos that grow your creativity, confidence, and coin. -------------------------- Work With Me: https://kalariggins.com/monetize-me My Website: Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| The hardest parts of chasing your dreams after 30 with Char Bogle. | 05 Sep 2024 | 00:50:03 | |
This one is for the millennial who is in pursuit of their passions on the other side of 30... Joined by my friend of 10 years Char Bogle, we discuss...
Let's go Beneath The Seams! -------------------------- Let's stay connected! Join My People! : Private Patreon community. https://www.instagram.com/kalariggins I'm Kala... host, content creator, and personal branding strategist! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here it's all about content and convos that grow your creativity, confidence, and coin. -------------------------- Work With Me: https://kalariggins.com/monetize-me My Website: Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| Get those ideas out of your head and into the world. | 22 Aug 2024 | 00:44:16 | |
Join My People! : Private Patreon community. https://shorturl.at/NzxMt This one is for the millennial who has ideas that they need to get out into the world... In this episode we discuss...
Let's go Beneath The Seams! -------------------------- Let's stay connected! Join My People! : Private Patreon community. https://www.instagram.com/kalariggins I'm Kala... host, content creator, and personal branding strategist! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here it's all about content and convos that grow your creativity, confidence, and coin. -------------------------- Work With Me: https://kalariggins.com/monetize-me My Website: Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| Every season is YOUR season. | How to embrace life in the midst of it all. | 15 Aug 2024 | 00:40:35 | |
Join My People! : Private Patreon community. https://shorturl.at/NzxMt This one is for the millennial who is learning to enjoy every season in their life...
Let's go Beneath The Seams! -------------------------- Let's stay connected! Join My People! : Private Patreon community. https://www.instagram.com/kalariggins I'm Kala... host, content creator, and personal branding strategist! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here it's all about content and convos that grow your creativity, confidence, and coin. -------------------------- Work With Me: https://kalariggins.com/monetize-me My Website: Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| Everything I LOVE about being in my Thirties | Dating, Confidence, Career Changes | 08 Aug 2024 | 00:55:58 | |
This one is for the millennial who is enjoying exactly where they are in life right now! In this episode I open up about...
Let's go Beneath The Seams! -------------------------- Let's stay connected! Join My People! : Private Patreon community. https://www.instagram.com/kalariggins I'm Kala... host, content creator, and personal branding strategist! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here it's all about content and convos that grow your creativity, confidence, and coin. -------------------------- Work With Me: https://kalariggins.com/monetize-me My Website: Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| Overthinking is ruining your relationships. | with God, Friends, Men & Yourself | 01 Aug 2024 | 00:52:54 | |
This one is for the millennial who overthinks EVERYTHING. In this episode I open up about...
Let's go Beneath The Seams! -------------------------- Let's stay connected! Join My People! : Private Patreon community. https://www.instagram.com/kalariggins I'm Kala... host, content creator, and personal branding strategist! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here it's all about content and convos that grow your creativity, confidence, and coin. -------------------------- Work With Me: https://kalariggins.com/monetize-me My Website: Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| If you feel like you aren't doing enough in life... consider this. | 18 Jul 2024 | 00:27:20 | |
This one is for the millennial who feels like you aren't doing enough in life. In this episode I open up about...
Let's go Beneath The Seams! -------------------------- Let's stay connected! Join My People! : Private Patreon community. https://www.instagram.com/kalariggins I'm Kala... host, content creator, and personal branding strategist! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here it's all about content and convos that grow your creativity, confidence, and coin. -------------------------- Work With Me: https://kalariggins.com/monetize-me My Website: Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| Tough times don't make you stronger...they make you softer. | 04 Jul 2024 | 00:33:10 | |
This one is for the millennial who is going through a tough time. In this episode I open up about...
Let's go Beneath The Seams! -------------------------- Let's stay connected! Join My People! : Private Patreon community. https://www.instagram.com/kalariggins I'm Kala... host, content creator, and personal branding strategist! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. Over here it's all about content and convos that grow your creativity, confidence, and coin. -------------------------- Work With Me: https://kalariggins.com/monetize-me My Website: Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| Are you in denial about who you really want to be? | 20 Jun 2024 | 00:33:43 | |
This one is for the millennial who is doing the work to become the person you truly desire to be. In this episode I open up about...
Let's go Beneath The Seams! -------------------------- Let's stay connected https://www.instagram.com/kalariggins I'm Kala... creative thinker, speaker, host and all lover of all things personal branding. I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. As a Content & Brand Strategist, I spend my days curating content & convos that grow your creativity, confidence, & coin. -------------------------- Work With Me: https://kalariggins.com/monetize-me My Website: Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| I'm 33 and I'm okay with never being somebody's wife or mother. | 06 Jun 2024 | 00:44:34 | |
This one is for the millennial who is unsure if you desire marriage and motherhood. In this episode I open up about...
Let's go Beneath The Seams! -------------------------- Let's stay connected https://www.instagram.com/kalariggins I'm Kala... creative thinker, speaker, host and all lover of all things personal branding. I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. As a Content & Brand Strategist, I spend my days curating content & convos that grow your creativity, confidence, & coin. -------------------------- Work With Me: https://kalariggins.com/monetize-me My Website: Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| Growth is scary, but we have to get over it! | 23 May 2024 | 00:52:51 | |
This one is for the millennial who is going through extreme growing pains. In this episode I open up about...
Let's go Beneath The Seams! -------------------------- Let's stay connected https://www.instagram.com/kalariggins I'm Kala... creative thinker, speaker, host and all lover of all things personal branding. I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. As a Content & Brand Strategist, I spend my days curating content & convos that grow your creativity, confidence, & coin. -------------------------- Work With Me: https://kalariggins.com/services My Website: Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| Small talk is ruining our lives. | Why you should say what you're really thinking. | 16 May 2024 | 00:48:14 | |
This one is for the millennial who is over small talk and is craving a deeper connection with God, self and everybody else. In this episode I open up about...
Let's go Beneath The Seams! -------------------------- Let's stay connected https://www.instagram.com/kalariggins I'm Kala... creative thinker, speaker, host and all lover of all things personal branding. I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. As a Content & Brand Strategist, I spend my days curating content & convos that grow your creativity, confidence, & coin. -------------------------- Work With Me: https://kalariggins.com/services My Website: Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| Your confidence offends them. | How to find your confidence again at every phase of life. | 02 May 2024 | 00:46:29 | |
This one is for the millennial who is redefining what it means to have, lose, and rediscover their confidence In this episode I open up about...
Let's go Beneath The Seams! -------------------------- Let's stay connected https://www.instagram.com/kalariggins I'm Kala... creative thinker, speaker, host and all lover of all things personal branding. I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. As a Content & Brand Strategist, I spend my days curating content & convos that grow your creativity, confidence, & coin. -------------------------- Work With Me: https://kalariggins.com/services My Website: Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| Confessions of a strong friend. | How to navigate adult friendships. | 25 Apr 2024 | 00:50:41 | |
This one is for the millennial who is wondering, when it finally be my turn? In this episode I open up about...
Let's go Beneath The Seams! -------------------------- Let's stay connected https://www.instagram.com/kalariggins I'm Kala... creative thinker, speaker, host and all around creative gal! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. As a Content & Brand Strategist, I spend my days curating content & convos that grow your creativity, confidence, & coin. -------------------------- Work With Me: https://kalariggins.com/services My Website: Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| God, when is it going to be my turn? | Why comparison isn't always negative. | 18 Apr 2024 | 00:42:51 | |
This one is for the millennial who is wondering, when it finally be my turn? In this episode I go Beneath The Seams about...
Let's go Beneath The Seams! -------------------------- Let's stay connected https://www.instagram.com/kalariggins I'm Kala... creative thinker, speaker, host and all around creative gal! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. As a Content & Brand Strategist, I spend my days curating content & convos that grow your creativity, confidence, & coin. -------------------------- Work With Me: https://kalariggins.com/services My Website: Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| Everything they told us about the 30s is a lie. | Oprah was 32. | 14 Mar 2024 | 00:24:29 | |
This one is for the millennial who didn't turn out exactly how you thought things would be. I open up about...
Let's go Beneath The Seams! -------------------------- Let's stay connected https://www.instagram.com/kalariggins I'm Kala... creative thinker, speaker, host and all around creative gal! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. As a Content & Brand Strategist, I spend my days curating content & convos that grow your creativity, confidence, & coin. -------------------------- Work With Me: https://kalariggins.com/services My Website: Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| Refocusing after abandoning your dreams. | Bleeding From The Outside In | 07 Mar 2024 | 00:32:40 | |
This one is for the millennial who is trying to re-focus after abandoning their dreams. I open up about...
Let's go Beneath The Seams! -------------------------- Let's stay connected https://www.instagram.com/kalariggins I'm Kala... creative thinker, speaker, host and all around creative gal! I love creating content that inspires woman to unapologetically be their true selves. As a Content & Brand Strategist, I spend my days curating content & convos that grow your creativity, confidence, & coin. -------------------------- Work With Me: https://kalariggins.com/services My Website: Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com | |||
| Welcome To Beneath The Seams! | 22 Feb 2024 | 00:01:47 | |
Life can be so complex, and we spend so much time trying to figure it out, all while hiding who we truly are. Millennials are at the point in adulthood where we are starting to understand more about what life is, but still we avoid vulnerability and tough conversations. Never going Beneath The Seams limits us from experiencing an unfiltered life filled with genuine connections. We owe it to ourselves to change that. I'm your host Kala Riggins and I share a mixture of confessions, candid conversations, and cackles that help us go beneath the surface and feel comfortable with exposing our true selves. This is my love letter to millennial who are just tying to figure it out. Let's go Beneath The Seams! Connect with me @KalaRiggins | |||