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You know the picture. A cold glass of wine at the end of the day. That first sip. Shoulders dropping. Ahhh.
Funny how your brain doesn’t show you the whole evening quite so readily. In this episode, I’m talking about The Highlight Reel — why your brain can zoom in on the lovely bit of drinking while cropping out the rest.
The head noise beforehand. The second and third glass. The rubbish sleep. The way you feel the next morning when you promise yourself, not tonight.

We’ll look at why this happens, why morning-you and 6pm-you can seem to be looking at drinking completely differently, and one simple question that can help you widen the frame: What has my brain cropped out?

You don’t need to convince yourself that drinking is awful. You might just need to widen the frame and see what your brain has cropped out.

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

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Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

If drinking has been part of fun, freedom and feeling like you for years, what happens when you start questioning it?
In this conversation, I’m joined by Rachel Teeling to talk about the “party girl” we can be reluctant to let go of, why alcohol can become a comfort during heartbreak and loneliness, and Rachel’s idea of the “beer coat” — that borrowed confidence alcohol can give us.

We also explore a bigger question: if alcohol stops being the thing that makes life feel fun, where do you find that part of yourself instead?

Meet Rachel:

Rachel Teeling is a certified Life and Relationship Coach and NLP Master Practitioner, also known as the Love Life Fixer. She helps women heal after painful relationships, rebuild their self-worth and create happier, healthier relationships with themselves and others. Through her coaching and Healing with Teeling podcast, Rachel combines professional tools with honest insight from her own experience of heartbreak, starting again and rebuilding her life.

Find out more:

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The free What Now? Workshop: Replay available.


If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

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Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

“I drink because I’m bored.”
It sounds like a perfectly reasonable explanation.
But have you ever stopped to ask what having a drink actually changes?

In this episode, I’m looking at what might really be going on in those evenings when you can’t settle, nothing seems to hold your attention and having a drink suddenly feels like the obvious answer. There’s one question I want you to ask yourself. You might be surprised by the answer.

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

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In this episode, I’m looking at what might really be happening at wine o’clock — and why the reason you reach for that first glass might not be quite what you think.

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

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Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

In this episode, I’m joined by Polly Lovell, who shares her personal journey with alcohol and the health scare that became her tipping point.

We talk about what her relationship with alcohol looked like before that moment, what finally made her realise something needed to change, and what happened when she did.

Polly also shares what life feels like on the other side now, and what she has gained from making a change she once might not have imagined making.

An honest conversation about reaching your own tipping point, listening when something no longer feels right, and discovering what might be waiting on the other side.


More about Polly:
Polly Lovell is a former Director of Inclusion for an Educational Trust in the South West, with an international career spanning the UK and US.

She spent many years in senior education roles, working in high pressure environments where responsibility was constant and expectations were high. Like many successful women, Polly’s drinking gradually escalated as a socially accepted way to manage stress, switch off and keep going, particularly through midlife and menopause.

Despite her outward success, alcohol had quietly become a crutch. In 2021, aged 57, Polly decided to stop drinking, a turning point inspired by her daughter. She has never looked back. Her health, confidence, energy and sense of purpose have been transformed. After retiring from education, Polly retrained as a sober coach and is also a qualified NLP practitioner and menopause coach. 

She now runs Sober Coach Polly, supporting midlife women navigating menopause, chronic stress, identity shifts and a complicated relationship with alcohol.

Her message is simple: it is never too late to change your relationship with alcohol, reclaim your health and rewrite your next chapter.

Visit her website here:

Find Polly on Instagram here:


If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

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Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

What’s it actually like to get support to change your relationship with alcohol?

My client Vic O’Farrell joins me to share where she was when she first reached out, what helped her make lasting changes and where she is now.
We talk about accountability, the powerful experience of meeting her future self, and what it was like to work together.


About Vic:
Known as The Queen of Behaviours, Vic O’Farrell is a coach and behavioural specialist who helps people better understand themselves and others. After leaving the corporate world in 2013, she retrained as a coach and discovered DISC behavioural profiling, which became a central part of her work.

Find out more about Vic:

Find out more about Vic on her website:

Listen to her podcast- It starts with you:


If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

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Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

Divorce can leave you grieving far more than a relationship.
It can shake your identity, your confidence and the future you thought you were going to have.
In this conversation, I’m joined by Sara Stansberry to talk about what happens when life changes completely, why we reach for things to numb the pain, and how you begin finding yourself and building a life that genuinely feels like yours again.

Meet Sara:
Sara Stansberry is a writer, storyteller, and podcast host behind How to Blow Up Your Life, a brand where she shares essays and episodes about creative destruction, the joy of self-reclamation, the resilience of the human spirit, and the power of living authentically.

Her writing is for anyone who understands the slow burn of becoming disconnected from their dreams, their voice, and their desires—and the messy, but transformative path back to wholeness and self-love.

Now, as a certified life coach, she guides others toward finding their true selves, blending personal stories with professional expertise. Sara lives in New York City with her new husband, Walter. They have a combined six(!) kids, and their seventh child, Shasta the Goldendoodle. Walter and Sara’s story of cultivating healthy love the second time around was included in the inaugural cast of  LoveNotes!, an Off-Broadway production at The Center At West Park Theater.

Sara was chosen for multiple casts of Generation Women’s show, representing Team 50s and the Best of Show, all held at the iconic Joe’s Pub in New York City. Sara’s first book, How to Blow Up Your Life in Three Simple Steps, is in production and will be released in Q1 2027.

Connect with Sara:
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If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

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Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

Shame has a horrible way of convincing us that our drinking says something about who we are.
In this conversation, I’m joined by Sunena Balu to look at shame from a very different perspective.
Why so many women carry it, how it can become tangled up with drinking, and why beating ourselves up rarely helps us change.

This is a warm, refreshingly honest conversation about an emotion that can feel incredibly heavy  and why it might finally be time to say, fuck shame.


About Sunehna:

Sunehna Balu – Founder of The Girlhood Collective
The Girlhood Collective is a bold, vibrant space inspired by the power and magic of a girls’ bathroom on a night out — the energy, the support, the instant sisterhood.
We’re building a levelled-up community for womxn: a space to grow, learn, connect, and just be, knowing you have your very own cheerleaders behind you the entire way!

Find out more:

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If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

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Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

What happens when the children leave home, work begins to slow down, and life suddenly becomes quieter?
In this thought-provoking conversation, I'm joined by retirement and life transition coach Tami Goulet to explore why so many women reach midlife feeling disconnected from themselves.

Together we discuss identity, purpose, empty nest, retirement, and why wine can quietly become the thing we look forward to most.
If you've ever wondered Who am I now? or felt like you've spent years taking care of everyone except yourself, this episode will leave you feeling seen, and hopeful about what's possible next.

More about Tami:

Tami Goulet is the founder of Speak Your Soul Magicks™, a shop and coaching practice in Ottawa, Ontario, where she guides women through The Second Half of Leaving™. She works with women who already did the brave thing. They left. Nobody warned them there was a second half, the part where they get to remember the woman underneath the roles, responsibilities, and survival strategies that carried them this far.
Her work helps them stop saying yes when they mean no, hear what they actually want again, and stop going quiet at their own dinner tables. Part best friend, part cheerleader, part mirror, part tough love, Tami brings the practical and the magical together. She is the author of Whole All Along and serves as G100 Regional Chair for Ontario, Canada.

How to get in contact with Tami:
Visit her website

Get your FREE First chapter of her book to "The Second Half of Leaving™: A Field Guide To The Part Nobody Warned You About

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

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Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

Have you ever caught yourself thinking...
"My drinking isn't bad enough to ask for help."
You're not alone.
In this episode, I'm talking about one of the biggest reasons women stay stuck for years—the belief that you have to hit rock bottom before you're "allowed" to change.

We'll explore why alcohol isn't the real problem, why willpower keeps letting you down, and why understanding your relationship with alcohol is the first step towards lasting change.
If you're tired of the mental battle, constantly negotiating with yourself, and wondering if life could feel different, this episode is for you.

The Homecoming group programme begins on 1st September. If you're ready to stop fighting yourself, book a conversation with me. We'll explore where you are now, what's been keeping you stuck, and whether Homecoming is right for you. 
You'll find all the booking details in the show notes.

The goal isn't simply to drink less.
The goal is to need alcohol less.

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

"I'm a logical person. I know alcohol isn't helping me... but it's like I'm sabotaging myself."
It's something I hear from women all the time.

But what if self-sabotage doesn't start with pouring the first glass of wine?
In this episode, I explore where the cycle really begins, why so many women stay stuck in silence, and the belief that keeps them carrying it all on their own.

If you've ever found yourself asking, "Why do I keep doing this?" this episode might help you ask a much better question.


If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

Retirement is something most of us plan for financially, but very few of us prepare for emotionally.

In this conversation, Jo Hands and I explore what happens when the career you've worked so hard to build comes to an end, and why so many women find themselves asking, "What now?"

We talk about identity, purpose and ambition in the next chapter of life, and why retirement doesn't have to mean slowing down.
In many ways, it can be the beginning of something entirely new.

Jo also shares her own story of stopping drinking, the surprising health changes she experienced, and why so many of the symptoms she thought were menopause disappeared once alcohol was no longer part of her life.

This is a conversation about possibility. If retirement is on the horizon, or you're already there and wondering what comes next, I hope it leaves you feeling excited about the years ahead.

More about Jo:

Jo Hands is a life transitions coach and founder of RE:Life Rewire. She helps people navigate the identity shifts that often come with midlife, particularly when a defining professional role is ending, changing or being questioned. Her work focuses on helping people design what comes next with purpose, clarity and confidence.


🎁 Get Jo's FREE Odyssey Planner – a simple 20-minute guide to help you think about what you want from the next chapter of your life.

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If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

If you've stopped drinking before... only to find yourself back where you started a few days or weeks later, this episode is for you.
Most women think going back means they've failed.
I don't.
The truth is, if you take alcohol away without understanding why it became important in the first place, you'll almost always end up back there.

The pressure still builds.
The stress is still there.
The habit still has a job to do.

Until you replace what alcohol has been doing for you, your brain will keep offering it as the answer.
In this episode, I'll explain why going back to drinking isn't a sign that you lack willpower.

It's a sign that you've been trying to change the behaviour without understanding what's driving it.
Once you understand that, everything starts to make a lot more sense.


If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

You promise yourself you'll only have one... but somehow the second (and sometimes third) follows without you really deciding.
In this episode, I explain why this happens, why it isn't about willpower, and what's really going on in your brain after that first drink.
If you've ever wondered why you can't seem to stop at one, this episode will help you understand the cycle—and how to start breaking it.

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

What happens when you finally stop negotiating with yourself?
In this episode, Gilly Baker shares the moment she knew she had to stop drinking, what finally helped her make lasting change, and how her life has transformed since.

We talk about the anxiety, the constant mental battle around alcohol, and the unexpected benefits of living alcohol-free, including rebuilding her marriage, rediscovering herself, and even sober sex.

If you've ever wondered whether life without alcohol could really be better, this conversation will leave you feeling hopeful.

About Gilly Baker:
Gilly Baker is an Alcohol Free and Positive Psychology Coach who helps women transform their relationship with alcohol make meaningful changes and create a life they love waking up to.

After choosing an alcohol free life over two years ago, she now blends mindset work, compassionate accountability and real life tools to support women who want to step into a life women who want to step into a life that feels aligned, energising and fully their own.

Drawing on her own lived experience and her work within AF communities, she creates safe, shame free spaces where women can explore what they truly want for themselves and step into lasting change.

When she’s not coaching, Gilly can usually be found at a line dancing class, travelling for fun or enjoying family life with her husband and adult kids.

Connect with Gilly:

Find Gilly on Instagram

Visit Gilly's website



If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

If you've ever told yourself you drink because you like the taste, this episode is for you.
Let's talk about why one glass so often turns into two or three, what we're really chasing when we pour that first drink, and the question that changed how I thought about my own drinking.


If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

A gentle 7-minute guided relaxation to help you release tension, quiet a busy mind, and leave the day behind.
The perfect pause before your evening begins.


If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

Does alcohol really make you more confident—or does it simply stop you from learning how confident you can be without it?
In this episode, I'm joined by Annette Williams to explore the idea of "borrowed confidence" and why relying on alcohol in social situations can keep us stuck in a cycle of self-doubt.

We discuss the hidden ways alcohol can undermine genuine confidence, why confidence is more like a muscle than a personality trait, and how small acts of courage help build lasting self-belief.
If you've ever felt nervous about socialising without alcohol, worried about what others might think, or wondered how to feel more comfortable being yourself, this conversation is packed with practical insights and encouragement.

You'll discover:
• Why alcohol creates the illusion of confidence
• How "borrowed confidence" can hold you back
• The link between confidence, practice and self-belief
• Simple ways to strengthen your confidence muscle
• How to feel more at ease in social situations without relying on a drink
A thoughtful and engaging conversation that might just change the way you think about confidenceand alcohol.


About Annette:
Annette Williams is a Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapist, confidence specialist and former multi-award-winning BBC TV Executive Producer with nearly four decades of experience helping people perform under pressure.
After a 38-year career in television, working with presenters, contributors, and live broadcasts where nerves and high stakes were part of daily life, Annette retrained in Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy and now helps people build genuine confidence from the inside out.

Through her practice, Silverbrook Hypnotherapy, she supports clients with confidence, fears and phobias including public speaking, social anxiety and breaking unhelpful coping patterns to feel more confident socially or professionally.

Annette is also the author of "Step Into Your Spotlight: the TV insider's guide to feeling confident when all eyes are on you!", which combines self-hypnosis, practical tools and techniques and behind-the-scenes insights from the world of television to help people feel calmer, more confident, and more comfortable being themselves.

Connect with Annette:

Instagram; @silverbrook_hypnotherapy
Annette's website
Find Annette on LinkedIn Here:

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

Why can you be absolutely certain you won't drink tonight...
...and then find yourself pouring a glass a few hours later?

In this episode, I explore what happens between those two moments, why so many women feel they've lost trust in themselves around alcohol, and why the thing you're fighting may not be the thing that's actually causing the problem.


If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

We spend a lot of time talking about the harms of alcohol—but what about the benefits?

Because if alcohol didn't give us something, none of us would drink it.

In this episode, we're taking an honest look at the role alcohol plays in our lives.

Whether it's helping you relax, switch off, cope with stress, quiet a busy mind, or feel more confident, alcohol often becomes a solution to needs that aren't being met elsewhere.

The problem isn't that alcohol has benefits.
The problem is when those benefits keep us stuck.

Join me as we explore what alcohol is really doing for you, what it might be costing you, and why understanding the appeal of alcohol is often the first step towards lasting change.

Before you can change your drinking, you need to understand why you drink in the first place.


If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

The stories we repeat become the lives we live.

What’s the current story you’re telling yourself, about your drinking, your relationships, your worth, or who you are?

In this episode, I explore the powerful question inspired by Brené Brown that can expose the hidden narratives shaping your choices, behaviours, and patterns without you even realising it.

Once you become aware of the story, you can finally start changing it.


If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


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In this episode, I’m joined by Jody Ruston for an honest conversation about the realities of parenting children with additional needs.

We explore the emotional and mental load many mothers carry,  and why so many women quietly end up at the bottom of their own priority list.

We also talk about coping mechanisms, overwhelm, identity, and the importance of support, self-care, and recognising your own needs alongside caring for everyone else.

A compassionate and validating conversation for any parent who has ever felt exhausted, stretched thin, or emotionally overwhelmed behind the scenes.

About Jody:
Jody Ruston is an empowerment coach to mums of pre-teens.
They work with her when they’re DONE with exhausting themselves over arbitrary BS and are ready to actually ENJOY the life they’ve created.

By working with Jody, they learn how to rebuild self-trust after years of putting themselves last, set boundaries without spiralling into guilt, reconnect with who they are beyond the roles, create a life that includes them — not just everyone else, stop abandoning themselves, trust their desires without guilt, and feel steady instead of stretched, allowing them to finally reclaim their time, energy and identity.

Connect with Jody here:
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To find out about her community- No Explanation needed:

To join her Facebook group- The Reclaimed Collective

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


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So many women don’t hit rock bottom.

They just slowly disappear from themselves while keeping everything else going.

In this episode, we talk about the quiet patterns that become normal over time — emotional exhaustion, over-functioning, resentment, nightly drinking, people-pleasing, chronic stress, and the moment you finally ask yourself:

“Do I actually want this to still be my life in ten years?”

This is about the turning point that happens long before collapse.


If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


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If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

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There’s a side of drinking women rarely talk about openly: the constant mental noise around it.
The negotiating.
The rules.
The promises to stop.

The guilt when those promises get broken again.

In this episode, I’m talking about what really changes when alcohol stops running constantly in the background, and why the real transformation is often far deeper than just drinking less.

For many women, it’s not just about alcohol.
It’s about finally feeling like themselves again.

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


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If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

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Burnout rarely happens overnight.
In this guest conversation, grief and bereavement specialist Sharon Buckley joins me to talk about the early signs of burnout so many women ignore, normalise, or push through.

We discuss emotional exhaustion, overwhelm, nervous system overload, people-pleasing, grief, and the hidden pressure of always holding everything together.

If you’ve been feeling constantly drained, irritable, flat, disconnected, or like you can never truly switch off, this episode is for you.

About Sharon:

Sharon is a grief and bereavement specialist supporting women navigating life after loss, gently guiding them from emotional pain to inner peace and renewed purpose.

To connect with Sharon:

Visit her website here:

Book your virtual-coffee here:

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


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If you’ve ever had a day where everything went well… and still found yourself pouring a drink that evening… this episode will explain why.

It’s not random, and it’s not a lack of discipline.
There’s a pattern underneath it.

A day of being “on it” has a cost—mentally, emotionally, and physically.
By the time the evening arrives, something in you is looking for relief.

In this episode, we look at what’s actually driving that pull, why it often feels stronger after a “good” day, and what to pay attention to instead.

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


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There’s a phase in sobriety we don't talk about enough.
The chaos has gone… but nothing feels particularly better either.
Just flat.
In this episode, we unpack why that happens, and why it doesn’t mean you’ve made the wrong decision.
We explore the gap between expectation and reality, the loss of the “reward” alcohol once gave, and why what feels like underwhelm is often your system finally regulating.

You’ll hear why this stage matters more than most, where people tend to drift, and how to start using the space sobriety creates instead of questioning it.

If you’ve ever thought “Is this it?” — this episode will help you understand what’s really going on, and what to do next.

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


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If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

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Grief isn’t always about death.
Sometimes it’s the life you thought you’d have.
The version of you that’s changed.
A relationship that doesn’t feel the same anymore.
In this conversation with Dipti Tait, we explore the quieter forms of loss many women don’t recognise—and why alcohol often becomes the way to cope with what hasn’t been named.
Because when something feels off, heavy, or unresolved…
it’s easier to pour a drink than sit with it.
Not weakness.
Just no language for what’s really going on.
This episode is about changing that.
Naming it.
Understanding it.
Moving through it—without needing to numb it.

About Dipti Tait
Dipti Tait is a psychotherapist, solution focused hypnotherapist, retreat host, and author who helps people understand the grief they don’t even realise they’re carrying.
With over 15 years of clinical experience, she specialises in ‘life grief’—the emotional impact of loss, change, identity shifts, and unmet expectations. She is the author of Good Grief and Planet Grief, and is known for blending neuroscience with simple, human insight that makes complex emotions feel manageable.

Connect with Dipti:

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If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


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Why does something that’s clearly good for you…
suddenly feel selfish the moment other people are involved?

In this episode, we unpack the real reason taking a break from alcohol can feel uncomfortable, why it has very little to do with willpower. 

For some women drinking is a part of how they connect, unwind, maintain ease in their relationships.
So when that changes, even quietly, it can feel like you’ve disrupted something unspoken.
Not an argument.
A shared rhythm of “this is what we do.”

Stepping outside of that is where the tension shows up.

This episode explores: Why “this feels selfish” is rarely about selfishness

Why the real challenge isn’t the habit, it’s changing the dynamic
What happens in relationships when you stop keeping things easy

How these moments can lead to more honest, intentional connection.
The discomfort isn’t a sign you’re doing it wrong.
It’s a sign the dynamic is changing.

The real question becomes: Are you willing to let it?

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


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If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

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Some drinking habits don’t come from stress or chaos.
They come from evenings that feel empty, repetitive and hard to sit in.

Nothing’s wrong.
But nothing feels good either.

So the drink, whether it’s wine or something else, becomes the marker that the day is over.
Something to look forward to.
Something that stops you having to sit in the space.

And that’s the part no one talks about. I see this pattern all the time. It shows up in different ways, but the dynamic is the same.
The evening feels flat, so something fills it.

If your nights feel restless, predictable or harder to switch off from than they should, this isn’t about the drink.
It’s about what the drink is doing for you.

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

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There’s a stage of life no one really prepares you for. The kids leave. Everything changes. It’s quieter, and something feels off. This is often where drinking starts to creep in. Not dramatically. Just more often than you’d like.

In this conversation with Anita McKenna, we talk about the empty nest and what’s really going on underneath it. The identity shift. The loss of role. Why so many women find themselves drinking more at this point, even when life looks fine from the outside. If this is you, it’ll likely feel very familiar.

Anita McKenna works mainly with women who are brilliant at doing life, but no longer want to just get through it.
Through one-to-one work, group spaces and honest conversations, she blends therapeutic depth with practical support to help women/people notice where they’ve been living from duty and expectation, and begin choosing how they actually want to live, work and relate.
Her work centres on one simple idea - less duty, more choice.

To connect with Anita:

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If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


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You don’t have a binge drinking problem you have a decision you haven’t made.
Until that’s clear, the cycle will keep repeating no matter how many times you promise yourself it’ll be different.
In this episode, I break down what’s really driving the pattern and why willpower isn’t the issue.


If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

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Choosing sobriety when everyone around you still drinks isn’t easy.
Elizabeth shares her personal journey of choosing sobriety and the emotional and social challenges that came with it. We explore wine o’clock culture, the pressure to fit in, and why stepping away from alcohol can feel uncomfortable even when it’s the right decision for you.

If you’ve ever questioned your relationship with alcohol or wondered how to stay sober around friends and family who still drink, this conversation will give you clarity and a new perspective.

Elizabeth Davies, known as The Fulfilled Mother Coach, is a life coach supporting mothers who feel overwhelmed, out of control, and lost in motherhood. She helps them reconnect with themselves, regain a sense of control, and step into a calmer, more confident version of who they truly are.

Through personalised one-to-one support, Elizabeth meets each mother exactly where she is, creating space for real and lasting change.

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If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


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Daytime you holds it all together
Evening you can finally breathe
Somewhere along the line, alcohol became the bridge between the two.
For a lot of women, it is what helps you move from one version of yourself to the next
without even realising it.
This episode explores what's going on in the switch from daytime you to evening you. 


If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


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In this episode, Jayne shares her story of grief, loss, and how alcohol became part of how she coped, until it started to take more than it gave. What starts as coping can quietly become a pattern that’s hard to break. We talk about why it’s so easy to fall into, and what life looks like on the other side.

Jayne Clayton is the founder of Menopause Well, supporting women and organisations through menopause and midlife transitions.
After becoming a mother at 17 and later experiencing burnout and severe menopause symptoms, she made the decision to completely rethink her life. In her mid-fifties, she retrained as a life coach and now works to create emotionally safe, dignified conversations around midlife wellbeing.
Her work has been recognised by two Royal Palaces, and she is a member of the Complementary Medical Association.

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If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


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If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

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By the time you’re standing in the kitchen with a glass in your hand, it’s already been decided.
It just feels like you’re making the decision.
Most women think the problem is that moment.
But it started earlier.
The first thought.
“I could have a drink later.”
The back and forth.
“I won’t.”
“Maybe I will.”
The point where it quietly becomes a yes.
The real exhaustion isn’t the drink.
It’s how much of your day is taken up thinking about it.
And what happens when that stops…

If you want to look at this properly, I run a workshop where we go through this in more detail.
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If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


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Have you ever noticed that after being praised or recognised for something you’ve done well, you suddenly feel the urge to pour a glass of wine?

In this episode, I explore a rarely discussed alcohol trigger: success itself. For many capable women, compliments, praise, or recognition can feel surprisingly uncomfortable in the nervous system and alcohol can become a quick way to regulate that feeling.

I share a personal story from my teaching career, explore how this pattern can begin in childhood, and offer practical ways to respond differently when someone praises you.

In this episode we explore:
• Why praise and recognition can trigger the urge to drink
• The nervous system response behind the “success trigger”
• How childhood experiences shape our response to praise
• Simple phrases that help you receive compliments with ease If success or praise has ever felt strangely uncomfortable, this episode will help you understand why, and how to change the pattern.

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


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In this episode of The Wine O’Clock Woman, I’m joined by Tracy Turtle for a deeply honest conversation about alcohol and neurodiversity.

Tracy shares her personal journey and opens up about how her neurodivergent experience shaped her relationship with drinking.
Together, we explore the challenges, misunderstandings, when alcohol becomes intertwined with coping, identity, and everyday life.

This conversation sheds light on an area that is often overlooked: how neurodiversity can influence the way we experience alcohol, social expectations, and wellbeing.

Tracy Turtle is the founder of Mandala Jade, where she helps people simplify their homes and work lives to create space for what truly matters.
Through practical workshops and one-to-one support, she guides individuals to reduce overwhelm, create calm, functional spaces, and embrace more intentional, sustainable ways of living.

Before founding Mandala Jade, Tracy spent 25 years in financial services. A Chartered Accountant by training, she worked in London, Bermuda, and Singapore before joining NatWest, where her role expanded into culture, wellbeing, and inclusion, shaping the compassionate, people-centred approach she brings to her work today.


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If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


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Many capable women wake up fully intending not to drink… yet somehow find themselves pouring a glass by evening.

In this episode we explore the hidden Wine O’Clock pattern that often begins hours before the first drink. You’ll hear why the decision to drink rarely starts at six o’clock, how the afternoon negotiation quietly begins, and why this cycle can leave women feeling frustrated and confused.

If you’ve ever wondered why the “not tonight” promise keeps collapsing, this episode will help you start recognising the pattern behind it.

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There’s a Reason You Drink When You Say You Wouldn’t — It’s Not What You Think.
Understand the pattern behind the evening drink and start seeing where your own cycle begins.

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If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


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Some people think drinking is just a habit.
It isn’t.
In this episode, I explain the relief loop, the mechanism underneath the wine o’clock cycle.

Why willpower fades.
Why the negotiation returns. 
And why the drink can start to feel like the only way to switch off.
When you understand the loop, the pattern makes sense.

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


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If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

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Many neurodivergent women often don't drink because they love alcohol.
They drink because it helps them cope with a world that does not fit their brain.

In this guest conversation, I’m joined by Helen Davies, a neuro-inclusion and productivity expert with decades of experience supporting individuals and organisations to understand and work with neurodiversity.

Helen is the founder of Practical Wisdom, a not-for-profit, and the creator of the Neuro-Inclusion Quality Mark with ND Accreditation. She is also an NHS Clinical Director, mentor, coach, and public speaker, bringing both professional expertise and lived experience of neurodivergence.

We explore why so many neurodivergent women end up using alcohol to cope with overwhelm, emotional load, sensory stress, masking, and the constant pressure to function in systems that are not designed for their brains.

Helen unpacks how alcohol can become part of masking, and the mental health tax of sustaining that over time.


Helen also talks about her work in supporting workplaces and services to raise the standard of neuro-inclusion through meaningful, evidence-based approaches, rather than surface-level awareness. 

This is a grounded conversation about moving beyond labels and willpower, and towards support that fits real brains and real lives.

Connect with Helen on LinkedIn 

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If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


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Early sobriety can feel heavier than you expected.

In this episode, I talk about the grief that can surface when you stop drinking — not cravings, but the loss of ritual, identity and emotional cushioning.

I also share a simple way to notice the small but significant gains most women overlook.
The ones that actually anchor change.


If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

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Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

If wine is how you relax, listen to this.
Many women use alcohol to come down from the day. Over time, the body loses touch with what real calm feels like.

In this short episode of The Wine O’Clock Woman, you’ll experience a 10-minute guided relaxation so you can feel what settling your nervous system actually feels like.

Notice how you feel before you press play.
Notice what’s different afterwards.
That contrast is the work.

This episode is for women who:
• use alcohol to unwind
• feel wired or exhausted
• struggle to truly settle
• want another way to come down from the day
• are curious about changing their evening drinking without labels

Find a quiet place to sit or lie down and give yourself ten minutes to experience real relaxation.

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

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Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

You say, “Not tonight.”
And then Wednesday quietly starts counting as the weekend.

In this episode, I explore how drinking shifts earlier in the week through exhaustion, stress, and emotional overload.

Not in dramatic ways, but through small, familiar decisions that slowly erode self-trust.
This isn’t about willpower or moderation.

It’s about recognising the habit loop, understanding why it keeps repeating, and what changes once the pattern becomes visible.

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

Kelly Harman believed life without alcohol would be flat, dull, and joyless. The opposite happened. In this conversation, we talk about the moment she realised drinking was keeping her in survival mode, how nervous system regulation changed everything, and why waking up hangover-free has given her a life she now experiences in full colour.

Kelly is the founder of Fire & Soul and works with women in midlife and high-pressure roles to support nervous system regulation, resilience, and recovery from stress and burnout. A trauma-informed breathwork facilitator and positive psychology coach, Kelly brings lived experience to her work after stepping away from drinking and rebuilding her life with clearer boundaries, steadier energy, and a more intentional way of living.

Follow Kelly’s work and explore her breathwork, retreats, and wellbeing programmes here:

www.fireandsoul.co.uk

Follow her on IG here

Find Kelly on LinkedIn here

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

You’ve probably written it in your head a hundred times.
The letter that says what alcohol’s really been doing in your life, and what you’re ready to see now.

In this episode, I share some of my own ‘Dear Alcohol’ letters, the ones that needed writing over the years.
I hope that you take a few moments to pause and notice the role that drinking is playing in your life.
Because from there… everything can change.


I invite you to write yours.
If you want to share it, vent it, or let it out.
Send it to: thewineoclockwoman@gmail.com.

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

Ever found yourself snapping at the kids, then reaching for a glass of wine to take the edge off?
In this episode, I speak with Natalie Pereira—coach, mum of three, and founder of The Essence of You- about what’s really going on in our nervous systems when motherhood feels overwhelming. 

We talk about the pressure to hold everything together, the patterns that lead us to drink, and what genuinely helps in the moment.

If you're juggling a lot, craving a bit of calm, and wondering if there's another way to cope.
This one's for you.

More About Natalie Pereira

Natalie supports mums who feel overwhelmed, stretched thin, or stuck in old patterns and helps them reconnect with their bodies, their values, and the kind of parent they truly want to be. Through body-based work, nervous system support, and deep identity coaching, she helps women create real, lasting, and embodied change — for themselves and their families — from the inside out. Natalie is passionate about helping mums become the kind of person they want their kids to model — not by pushing harder or doing more, but by rewiring old patterns, reclaiming their sense of self, and building the capacity to live, parent, and lead from a calm, grounded, and connected place.

Follow her work here:

Click here to find Natalie on FB

Click here to find Natalie on IG

Click here to join her free Facebook Group.

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

You say it all the time—“I’m fine.”
But if you’re honest… you’re not. Not really.
You’re getting through the day. On paper, things look okay.
But something feels off. Like you’re watching life happen from a few steps back.

This episode is about that numbness.

Why it’s sneaky.
Why it sticks. 
And why it’s actually more dangerous than rock bottom.

I talk about:
How self-trust quietly erodes
How simply stopping and noticing can be the first step to rebuilding trust in yourself

If you can feel that “I’ve had enough” moment creeping closer, and it scares the shit out of you.
You definitely need to hear this. 

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

How the inner critic is often the hidden engine behind drinking patterns.
And how it’s not just the drinking that does the damage.
It’s the self-attack that follows.
In this episode, we name the voice that keeps you stuck, the one that says “You’ve done it again,” and makes you believe change isn’t possible.
I talk about:

• Why self-judgement fuels the cycle
• How to interrupt the critic in real time
• One powerful question to help you stop believing everything you think.

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.

It’s not the mistake.
It’s the fallout afterwards. 

That disappointment in ourselves… the rumination… the inner critic on loop.
For many, it’s this mental spiral that drives the next drink, not the moment itself. 

In this episode, I explore what really happens when we feel we've let ourselves down, and why we often reach for a drink just to get some peace.
You’ll learn how to disrupt the shame-rumination-drink cycle by meeting your emotions differently, without needing to numb them.

A practical guide for anyone tired of drinking over the same old feelings.

If this episode resonated with you, it may be a sign that you’ve been carrying more than you realise.

Each month I run a FREE live Zoom workshop for women who are beginning to recognise the emotional patterns, people-pleasing, overthinking, exhaustion and self-abandonment that may be keeping them stuck.

Inside the workshop, I talk about the “cycle” many women unknowingly live in, and how to start recognising the patterns that keep you emotionally exhausted, disconnected and running on autopilot.


Save your place for the next workshop here:

If you’d like to explore your own patterns more deeply, you can also book a free 30-minute conversation with me. 

Book your complimentary conversation here:


Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological or therapeutic advice.